Power of Positivity: Positive Thinking & Attitude http://powerofpositivity.com Power of Positivity celebrates the lifestyle of positive thinking and attitude. Improve your life and others with the power of positivity! Fri, 24 Oct 2014 01:57:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 11 Powerful Beliefs to Free You from Negativity http://powerofpositivity.com/11-powerful-beliefs-free-negativity/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=11-powerful-beliefs-free-negativity http://powerofpositivity.com/11-powerful-beliefs-free-negativity/#comments Thu, 23 Oct 2014 16:09:53 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10828 “That’s my gift: I let negativity roll off me like water off a duck’s back. If it’s not positive, I didn’t hear it. It you can overcome that, fights are easy.” – George Foreman This is a wonderful quote by George Foreman and how he deals with negativity in his life. Much like George’s boxing ...

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“That’s my gift: I let negativity roll off me like water off a duck’s back. If it’s not positive, I didn’t hear it. It you can overcome that, fights are easy.” – George Foreman

This is a wonderful quote by George Foreman and how he deals with negativity in his life. Much like George’s boxing matches, one must train in order to be free from negativity.  In this case, it’s consciously training your mind to form positive, supportive, and uplifting beliefs. Once you take control and build a positive belief system, your life ultimately follows suit, creating more positive results and diminishing the negative.

Here are 11 powerful thoughts to remember to free yourself from negativity.

 1. I am free to be myself.

Trying to become someone else when around other people is both unnatural and unnecessary. Not only that, it causes a lot of undue stress that you don’t need. Anyways, why would you need to pretend to be someone else for people to like you? Who cares if they think badly about you anyways?

Bottom line: if someone can’t love and appreciate you for who you are, they aren’t worth having around in your life.

 2. My past is not my future.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

This is Emerson’s beautiful way of saying that your character is what matters – not what you’ve done before and not even what you’ll do in the future. While people may know about your past and even judge you on it, your strength of character will ultimately win out. If you have this inner strength, it doesn’t matter what situation comes your way.

 3. Each experience is a lesson learned.

When something bad happens to you, consider it a lesson learned, as that is exactly what it is. When faced with an adverse situation, there are only two outcomes: you win or you don’t win.

Now, while you may technically “lose”, there is still something to be gained from the experience – strength of character. Throughout each and every difficulty that you’ve faced in your lifetime, you’ve become a stronger individual as a result.

Think back some years to a time where you felt “defeated”. Try to remember what it felt like and what your thought process was. Unless it was a sincerely traumatic event, it’s probably very difficult to recreate these thoughts and feelings. That’s because we move on…and become stronger people.

4. Appreciation and gratitude are keys to happiness.

There is nothing quite as powerful as “an attitude of gratitude” in determining how happy your life is (or isn’t). Not being appreciative and grateful is often the result of comparing yourself to others, not considering your blessings in life, or having a sense of entitlement.

Instead, consider what you already have. Take some time to write five things that you are grateful for, and repeat this list to yourself when the situation arises. You’ll find that your perspective begins to change for the better!

 5. “Roll with the punches – tomorrow is another day.”

Does anyone out there remember this quote? It’s from a character named Dicky Fox in the movie “Jerry Maguire,” and it stuck with me ever since…I know, kind of an odd way to remember a quote.

Just as you should not let our past dictate our future, you shouldn’t let your today influence your tomorrow. Take the punches as they come, keep building that inner strength and just drive on.

6. What people say or think about me is not my problem.

The negative things that people say or think about you are often a reflection of themselves. Allowing this negativity to affect you is a tremendous waste of your energy, time and attention.

You must remember that our brain’s resources are finite – where you set your attention matters. Don’t waste your mental resources on some ignorant person’s negativity towards you. If possible, spend some time with a friend or just take yourself out of the situation.

 7. My happiness comes from what I choose to think.

As with most other realizations in our lifetime, happiness is in your mind. I love this quote from Buddha: “The mind is everything. What you think, you become.” Happiness and most other emotions are a product of your thoughts.

You can choose to focus on what you’re grateful and appreciative for or you can choose to focus on the negativity presently in your life. The choice is yours and yours alone. Make the attempt to produce positive thoughts and disregard the negative ones.

8. How I spend my time matters.

Your time is valuable for a couple of reasons: there is not enough of it (for anyone), and the way in which you spend it has an impact on your frame of mind.

Focus on spending your time being productive, having fun, relaxing and enjoying life as opposed to putting yourself in negative situations. Remember the fact that your time on this Earth is limited, and that you’ll never get a day of your life back…so make every day count.

9. I work joyfully.

“If you want to have the perks, you have to put in the work.” we disagree with that quote – the perks should be the work.

If you desire work that makes you truly happy, whether it’s being your own boss, managing a store, becoming CEO, becoming an author or anything else…you need to find a way to make the work joyful.

It’s become almost universally accepted that work is a tedious, but necessary, requirement to live. This misguided, unfortunate mindset has been accepted by most people as a reality. Don’t buy into it. Find something you can work towards that will bring you happiness.  Even if it’s unpaid right now, it will pay off to live out your passion.

10. I make a difference each day.

Yes, you can make a difference each day. Someone somewhere can be positively impacted by how you choose to conduct yourself. Whether it’s at the workplace, at home or somewhere else, you can have a positive influence on someone.

Surround yourself with positive people, be mindful and deliberate in your words and actions, and make a conscious effort to be genuine, thoughtful, and caring towards other people. If you do these things, you’ll find that making a difference each day was easier than previously thought.

11. I release drama from my life.

Americans have become addicted to the dramatic…and much of it isn’t their own fault. Flip on the T.V. and attempt to stomach one of the latest “reality” shows…that’s drama at its worst.

Sadly, this infatuation with the dramatic has trickled into our own personal lives. People have misconstrued drama as excitement…in the movies, maybe. In reality, dramatic people are draining, obsessive, and often irrational. Don’t allow these types of individuals or situations into your life.

 

Add to the discussion below.  What beliefs have you allowed into your life to free yourself from negativity? 

 

 


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5 Ways to Feel More Secure in your Relationships http://powerofpositivity.com/5-ways-feel-secure-relationships/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-ways-feel-secure-relationships http://powerofpositivity.com/5-ways-feel-secure-relationships/#comments Thu, 23 Oct 2014 01:04:48 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10791 When you are in a relationship – intimate or friendly – you are taking a chance on someone else. The better you get to know someone and the more chemistry you have, the better the chances are that the relationship will be a positive one. However, despite the longevity and chemistry factors, there is always ...

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When you are in a relationship – intimate or friendly – you are taking a chance on someone else. The better you get to know someone and the more chemistry you have, the better the chances are that the relationship will be a positive one. However, despite the longevity and chemistry factors, there is always going to be a chance that the relationship doesn’t work out. As such, there will be an element of unknown in most relationships.

Regardless of the unknown, there are ways you can feel more secure in your relationships, notwithstanding the vulnerability that you may or may not feel.

Here are 5 ways that you can feel more secure in your relationships.

 1. Release insecurity

Ask yourself this question: how often do you feel worried, lonely or jealous when in a relationship? If you are honest, chances are that you’ve felt one or more of these feelings at one time or another. As human beings, we fear rejection and isolation from other people because we value acceptance.

That being as it may, being infatuated with insecure thoughts and feelings can irreparably harm a relationship. Your imagination is not your reality and nothing is certain in any relationship. Therefore, you should just ‘let it be’ and let the chips fall where they may.

 2. Give the person a chance

When you’ve been emotionally hurt in a relationship, it can be very difficult to start anew with someone else. Emotional hurt can manifest itself in judging a person simply because they ‘remind’ you of someone else.

Perception is not reality – however, your perception can become your reality if you let it. Carrying excess emotional baggage and handing it off to someone else because of what you perceive to be true is not fair – plain and simple. If you ever find yourself doing this, gently remind yourself that no two people are the same. Everyone at least deserves a chance until they show otherwise.

 

3. Remind yourself that imperfection is OK

Everyone is perfectly imperfect. Have you ever met someone who is perfect in every way, inside and out? Of course not, that is because perfection in a human being doesn’t exist.

Having impossibly high standards for people that you meet in life, hoping that they will meet these standards will almost assuredly result in emptiness and disappointment. There are no perfect people or relationships – only imperfect ones that happen to work for you.

4. Trust until there’s a reason not to

Trust is the foundation to any meaningful relationship. For someone to share their life with you or depend on you in any way demands a sense of trust.

Trust is not easy to give because it makes you vulnerable. However, despite any initial difficulty that you may have giving trust, it helps knowing that the majority of people are well-intentioned. You’ll find that people value the trust you place in them and your relationship will be strengthened.

5. Take care of yourself first

Having good, long-lasting relationships is a great thing. Knowing your fellow human beings in an intimate way is one of the many blessings of your time on this planet. That being said, you should care for yourself first before directing your care towards someone else.

If you lovingly and gently care for yourself, not only will your relationships with others flourish, so will the relationship that takes place within your own heart and mind. Be at peace with yourself and watch your relationships blossom into something truly special.

 

 

 

 


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11 Habits that Create Positive Relationships http://powerofpositivity.com/11-habits-create-positive-relationships/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=11-habits-create-positive-relationships http://powerofpositivity.com/11-habits-create-positive-relationships/#comments Sun, 19 Oct 2014 14:33:06 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10585 The definition of a habit is: “a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.” Once formed and ingrained into your being, habits are very difficult to break. This includes habits that are practiced in your relationships – positive or negative. Upon closer examination, it becomes evident that positive ...

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The definition of a habit is: “a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.” Once formed and ingrained into your being, habits are very difficult to break. This includes habits that are practiced in your relationships – positive or negative.

Upon closer examination, it becomes evident that positive habits are a foundation of positive relationships. When bad habits are present, the relationship is challenged. On the flipside, good habits create and maintain strong, healthy relationships.

Here are 11 habits that help create positive relationships…

 1. Being respectful to each other

Respect is one of the most important habits of positive relationships because it builds trust and shows acceptance. Showing disrespect towards your partner slowly weakens trust and creates barriers in your connection with each other.

Disagreements often lead to arguments, and arguments often lead to insults. Make sure to watch your tongue and think before allowing something to come out that could lead to negative consequences.

 2. Eliminating distractions when with your partner

Between work and other obligations, we don’t have enough time with each other as it is. Continuing to allow distractions to interrupt your time alone is damaging to your relationship and affects intimacy with your partner. Preoccupation with work is one of the biggest distractions, often arising when couples are trying to get closer.

There are some simple things you can do: turn off the T.V. when having dinner, leave your phones off when spending time alone, and make sure that your work is completed before heading home.

 3. Responding to each other

Are you ready for an eye-opening statistic? 86 percent of happily married couples respond to their partners bid for attention, while only 30 percent of unhappy couples do the same.

You can show your attention by doing very simple things: responding to your partner when they ask a question, or bringing something on your way home when asked. It’s really as simple as showing your attentiveness and responsiveness when something arises.

4. Recognizing and appreciating qualities

Create the habit of conveying positive qualities towards your partner. This really deepens the emotional connection between couples and makes the other person feel genuinely good about being them.

Showing admiration and appreciation of your partner’s positive attributes will strengthen the bond that already exists between you, while continuously bringing up the person’s shortcomings ultimately damages the relationship…sometimes irreparably.

5. Staying connected through the day

Nearly all of our lives are busy from the moment we wake up. You are probably no different. However, part of having a long, happy relationship is to show your love and affection when apart from each other.

When you make a commitment to another person, you essentially make that person the number one priority in your life. There should be nothing that allows that commitment to wane, even a hectic work schedule.

Connect with each other through the day by sending a text on your break or giving your partner a call on the way home.

6. Taking some time apart

You may be thinking: “Wait…so how am I supposed to stay connected to my partner while being told to take time apart?” Good question. When frustrations occur in a relationship (and they will), time apart can be both healthy and productive.

The truth is that healthy couples recognize the importance of taking time apart. They recognize that this time deepens the appreciation and love for each other, while giving them some much-needed quiet time. This can be in the form of going to a movie alone, having some dinner with friends, or simply reading a book or watching some television by yourself.

7. Forgiving shortcomings

Personal flaws are part of being human. It’s not about finding someone that is perfect, but about finding someone who is perfect for you.

You will continually realize that the person you fell in love with has some quirks that push your buttons. To be in a healthy relationship means accepting these shortcomings, forgiving them, and loving the person anyways.

8.Frequent affection

Research shows that people in healthy relationships are abundantly affectionate toward each other.

Affection and being close to each other are important because it fosters connection and trust. A healthy frequency of affection allows for your bond to strengthen, ultimately creating a stronger connection with each other.

9. Surprising your partner

When you reach a certain time-frame in your relationship, the feelings of infatuation and intrigue with the other can start to weaken – this is natural. The thing that you are trying to avoid is complacency and feelings of routineness.

Spontaneity in a relationship is healthy, fun, and creates feelings of appreciation and love. These spontaneous gestures can be small or large, but should always show that you made the effort to do something special.

If you are not the most creative type (and that’s okay!) there are plenty of great ideas circulating around in cyberspace.

10. Working together on goals

Healthy relationships focus on having both short and long term goals. Complacency and a lack of progress in your relationship and lives together can lead to unhappiness and regret.

Instead, sit down and figure out where you want to be in the next 5, 10 or 20 years…what do you want your lives together to look like?

One important thing to remember: don’t base your goals on what others think your relationship should look like. Forget about “success” as society defines it…instead, focus on what will make you and your partner truly happy and fulfilled.

11. Finding humor in each other’s mistakes

Relationships are a serious thing, but that doesn’t mean it has to be serious all the time…even when mistakes are made. You went into a relationship with someone knowing that they will probably do something dumb once in a while…so find some ways to laugh about it together.

Just anticipate that when you do something dumb, they will probably laugh in return…hey, it will eventually be funny.


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A Tribute: Dr. Masaru Emoto http://powerofpositivity.com/tribute-dr-masaru-emoto/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=tribute-dr-masaru-emoto http://powerofpositivity.com/tribute-dr-masaru-emoto/#comments Sun, 19 Oct 2014 00:11:45 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10555 “Life is love which is a gift from God and parents, and death is gratitude for going to a new dimension.” – Dr. Masaru Emoto Dr. Masaru Emoto – the scientist famously known for showing how human consciousness affects the molecular structure of water – passed away Friday in Japan. He was 71. As a ...

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“Life is love which is a gift from God and parents, and death is gratitude for going to a new dimension.” – Dr. Masaru Emoto

Dr. Masaru Emoto – the scientist famously known for showing how human consciousness affects the molecular structure of water – passed away Friday in Japan. He was 71. As a man who dedicated his entire life teaching and serving others in his work, he never forgot who he was doing it for – even in death. According to those close to him, his last work was “Arigato” – “Thank You” in Japanese. His close friends believe he was thanking his entire community of supporters whose lives have been changed by his teachings.

Born in Yokohama, Japan on July 22, 1943, Dr. Emoto wore many different caps – businessman, scientist, philanthropist, author, and entrepreneur. His accomplishments, especially his studies in alternative medicine, are impressive. He founded his company in Tokyo at the age of 43 and began to rigorously study the structure and foundations of water in the mid-1990s.

It was from these studies that resulted in Emoto eventually becoming the renowned, alternative scientist who used his advanced photographic techniques to demonstrate the molecular changes in water that resulted from human interaction. In doing so, Dr. Emoto impacted many people’s views on the power and effects of consciousness on our environment.

Dr. Emoto once stated: “Water is the mirror that has the ability to show us what we cannot see. It is a blueprint for our reality, one which can change with a single, positive thought. All it takes is faith, if you’re open to it.” Emoto expanded on the traditional view of energy to include the energy that is created through our thoughts – specifically how these thoughts can alter the physical reality of the universe.

Emoto called this phenomenon ‘Hado’ – meaning “wave” and “move”. Hado is defined as “the intrinsic vibrational pattern at the atomic level in all matter. The smallest unit of energy.” Emoto further postulated that this energy is based off of human thought and consciousness.

Hado goes further, stating that all phenomena are based off of resonating energy. By changing the vibrations – which we create through our thoughts – we can change the substance. Emoto then set out to substantiate his theories on Hado and to teach the theories to others.

Through the 1990’s, Dr. Emoto performed a number of experiments focusing on the effects of human interaction, such as the environment, music, prayers, and words on the crystalline structure of water. For his experiments, Emoto hired photographers to snap pictures of the structure both before and after being exposed to the interaction.

power-of-positivityHis experiments included the difference in crystalline structure of water before and after prayer, from a polluted and clean lake, and from negative (i.e. “You make me sick” and “Adolf Hitler” and positive phrases (i.e. “Thank you” and “Love and appreciation”). When viewing the images, the differences in aesthetics and symmetry of the water’s structure is clear – the “before” images portray dark and almost bacterial-like constituency, while the “after” pictures show a beautiful, snowflake-like image – nearly perfect and without blemish of any kind.

In another experiment on July 25, 1999, Dr. Emoto held a gathering of around 350 Japanese citizens who had all offered their prayers for Lake Biwa – the largest freshwater lake in Japan. At the time of the gathering, Lake Biwa was a polluted and putrid-smelling mass of water. Citizens often complained of the horrendous smell – the by-product of a genus of algae called ‘kokanada’ which also covered the once-beautiful lake.

The Japanese believed that this water needed to be purified, and the people gathered on the shores of Lake Biwa with the full intention to use the power of Hado and Kotodama (the spirit of words) to do so. The words offered on that day included the “Great Declaration,” which “(utilizes) the limitless energy filling the universe…a powerful statement to actualize world peace.” In Japanese culture, these words are thought to spread to penetrate the surrounding elements with fulfillment and happiness.

About a month after the prayers were offered, a major newspaper in Japan – The Kyoto Shinbun – declared that complaints about the lake had drastically decreased, with notable improvement in the water’s condition and the disappearing of the foul odor.

Dr. Emoto was the first one to realize that the conventional scientific community would likely not accept the results of neither his theories nor his experiments. Emoto fully expected this, and was prepared when accused of manipulating his water images to coincide with his theories. When asked about these accusations, Emoto stated:

            “This is one of the more difficult areas to clarify. However, from continuing these             experiments we have come to the conclusion that the water is reacting the actual words. For example, for our trip to Europe we tried using the words “thank you” and “you fool” in         German. The people on our team who took the actual photographs of the water crystals  did not understand the German for “you fool”, and yet we were able to obtain exactly the       same kind of results in the different crystal formations based on the words used.”

When asked to further elaborate on what kinds of words created clear, large clusters in the water’s structure, Emoto replied:

“Slang words like “you fool” destroy clusters. You would not see any crystals in these cases. Negative phrases and words create large clusters or will not form clusters, and positive, beautiful words and phrases create small, tight clusters.”

Despite the opposition, Dr. Emoto persevered and created many more experiments, including the infamous “rice experiment,” in which two jars containing cooked grains of rice were submerged in water and then subjected to both positive and negative phases.

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In one of these experiments, schoolchildren, not associated with Dr. Emoto in any way, were asked to repeat positive and negative phrases to the jars every time they passed by. After 30 days, the jar with the positive phrases showed little physical change while the jar with negative comments contained mold and was clearly rotting. One person, curious if they could achieve the results independently, conducted their own experiment with similar results.

Throughout his life, Dr. Emoto gave as much (if not more) credence to the power of positive thinking and faith in our relationship to the physical universe than anyone else before him. He never sought acclaim or recognition for his studies, humbly continuing his work while graciously accepting and responding to any criticism.

Dr. Emoto was as insightful as he was prominent, and as humble as he was successful. He produced a body of work that changed many people’s thinking on the power of our consciousness and the importance of thinking positively, despite any difficulties that we may face. His friends and colleagues attest to his honest and kind-hearted nature while fervently defending his integrity and good intentions.

This tribute to Dr. Emoto is well-deserved. Our world has lost a truly great man, and it seems fitting to end the tribute with more insightful words from Dr. Emoto himself. Arigato, Dr. Emoto.

“What you really know is possible in your hearts is possible. We make it possibly by our will. What we imagine in our minds becomes our world. That’s just one of the many things I’ve learned about water.”


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Is Anxiety Actually Good for You? http://powerofpositivity.com/anxiety-actually-good/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=anxiety-actually-good http://powerofpositivity.com/anxiety-actually-good/#comments Sat, 18 Oct 2014 03:42:33 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10496 Having been diagnosed with a very severe form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) at the age of 12, I had grown up thinking that anxiety was only present in my life to hurt me. But once fully recovering from OCD, anxiety, and clinical depression I started to study the mind, brain, and the real role ...

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Having been diagnosed with a very severe form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) at the age of 12, I had grown up thinking that anxiety was only present in my life to hurt me. But once fully recovering from OCD, anxiety, and clinical depression I started to study the mind, brain, and the real role of anxiety. In studying what anxiety was I quickly realized that there are three main myths associated with it.

Here are the 3 top myths associated with anxiety:

Myth #1 – Anxiety is bad

Anxiety is actually not bad at all. I am not suggesting that when you are going through an anxiety attack that it feels good. It does not. But anxiety is actually a defence mechanism created by the brain to tell you that you have to take action in some way. Anxiety is like physical pain. No one enjoys experiencing physical pain but it is created as a defence mechanism to protect us.

Imagine if you broke your leg but did not have the ability to feel the pain associated with the broken leg. You would continue to walk on your leg until you permanently damaged it. Pain is a warning signal sent at lighting fast speed from your brain to the troubled area as an alert to tell you that something is wrong and that you have to take action. Anxiety is identical. Anxiety is the brain’s way of sending your body a signal that you have to take action. Anxiety will not make your leg hurt because it’s not broken. So it has to find other ways to tell you that something is wrong. It makes your heart beat faster, makes your hands sweat, makes you tremble, etc. In other words, it gives you the “fight” or “flight” response.

What is actually happening is that the hypothalamus (a part of your brain) is triggering the release of the “stress hormone” cortisol from your adrenal glands in your kidneys. Cortisol is then distributed throughout your body via the bloodstream and causes you to experience the above effects.

Imagine that you were going for a walk and a huge alligator starts to slowly creep towards you but you did not have the ability to feel anxiety. You would just stay there until you became alligator food. Anxiety gives you that “fight” or “flight” response by giving you an extra burst of energy (adrenaline rush), elevates your heart beat, provides you with extra strength, and an overall urgency that you have to take action (get the heck out of the way!). It’s a good thing. It’s a defence mechanism that was created to keep us alive. But you may be saying, “but Jeremy, I take anxiety attacks when I am completely safe”. Yes, and that’s the second kind of anxiety. Many people believe that the anxiety attack that occurs when they are completely safe is “needless” and that it’s only there to hurt them and that they are cursed with anxiety.
But this is simply not the case.
It is still present as a warning sign to tell you that you are doing things day by day, month by month, year by year that is actually abusing your mind and body. This is the way that it tells you that you have to take action which leads me into Myth #2.

Myth #2 – Situations cause anxiety

Situations cannot cause anxiety. You may be surprised to hear me say that your kids, job, spouse, or finances cannot stress you out. But it’s true. It’s never the situation. It’s actually your psychological reaction to the situation. What is your psychological reaction? I am referring to your thoughts.
Researchers are telling us that we have on average approximately 60 000 thoughts a day. And not only are the vast majority the same thoughts we had yesterday but they are thoughts either dwelling on something negative in the past or fearing something that could happen in the future.  And because the brain cannot tell the difference between something that is actually happening and when you think of something, the brain reacts as if it is happening by triggering the “stress hormone” (cortisol) to give you that “fight” or “flight” (anxiety) response.
If situations caused anxiety, everyone would react to the same situation in the same way. But we know that’s not the case. How can one person love to ride roller coasters and one person fear it? Thoughts about situations cause anxiety, not the situations themselves.
Until we take full responsibility for what we cause ourselves we cannot equip ourselves to overcome it.

Myth #3 – The one, big traumatic experience in our past is causing your anxiety today

 
It’s actually not the one big, traumatic experience in your past that is causing you to experience anxiety today. It’s the dozens and dozens of little things you are doing every single day that is actually causing you to experience stress and anxiety. I am not suggesting that nothing traumatic happened in your past.  I am saying that it is not what happened in your past that is causing your stress and anxiety. It’s your thoughts about what happened that is causing you to experience stress and anxiety.
There are so many things that we do on a regular basis that actually contributes to anxiety. Every time that you complain, gossip, judge, ridicule, or hold vengeful thoughts you hold negative thoughts in your mind and your brain interprets those thoughts as a reality happening right now and triggers the release of cortisol (the stress hormone) from the adrenal gland in your kidneys. This elevates your heart beat, makes your hands sweat, increases blood pressure, and makes you experience stress and anxiety. These are only a few things that we do that contributes to stress and anxiety.
We need to realize that we are the creators of what we feel, attract, and experience. Because we create the stress and anxiety that we experience we can also take it away. We have the amazing ability to create exactly the life that we want to live. We have the ability to experience bliss, happiness, and a life full of joy. We have the ability to attract the people, situations, and experiences that we only thought was possible in our dreams. But first we have to realize that we are the creators of our everything because of the thoughts we hold in our minds.
You are exactly what you attract. Choose your thoughts wisely.

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7 Tiny Habits That Can Steal Your Happiness http://powerofpositivity.com/7-tiny-habits-that-can-steal-your-happiness/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=7-tiny-habits-that-can-steal-your-happiness http://powerofpositivity.com/7-tiny-habits-that-can-steal-your-happiness/#comments Fri, 17 Oct 2014 13:27:23 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10463 “Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.” ­–Norman Vincent Peale The founder of positive psychology, Martin Seligman, proposes that around 60 percent of your happiness is determined by your genetics and ...

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“Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.” ­–Norman Vincent Peale

The founder of positive psychology, Martin Seligman, proposes that around 60 percent of your happiness is determined by your genetics and environment while the remaining 40 percent is up to you. Considering that you also have some control over your environment, you have a big say in the whether or not you lead a happy life.

Your habits are something within your control, and play a large part in determining whether or not you experience happiness. An important aspect of controlling your habits is being mindful as to which ones are taking happiness away and replacing it with something less pleasant.

Here are 7 habits that can steal your happiness away from you (if you let them)…

 

1. Comparing yourself to others

President Theodore Roosevelt once said “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Oh, how true, and yet unfortunate this is. Whether it’s someone else’s physical appearance, job title, income level, house size or something else, comparing yourself to someone else is a bad habit that brings a heavy dose of unhappiness.

As with many other human emotions, our tendency to compare ourselves to others is as natural as it is damaging. It’s also something that you can learn to be mindful of and defend against. One great way of doing this is to become mindfully aware of your own successes and remind yourself of them often throughout the day.

2. Working a joyless job

As Americans, we are some of the most overworked people in the world. We also have the dubious honor of being the unhappiest with our jobs. Gallup conducted a study in which 70% of 150,000 polled were either “disengaged” or “actively disengaged” at work.

Chances are, you have been taught that work is not supposed to be fun. Well, shouldn’t it at least be engaging? It should be… if you are trying to live a happy life anyways. Working a joyless job for no other reason than a paycheck will almost certainly result in discontent and unhappiness.

If you are in this situation (and many are), don’t consider it acceptable. Find work that is personally fulfilling.

3. Allowing worry to control you

“Worry is like a rocking chair; it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.” This is a great quote that we all should commit to memory. Going one step further, worry not only gets you nowhere, it can also extinguish the flame of your ambitions.

Worry is often a by-product of holding onto something that has caused you hurt and disappointment in the past. Do yourself a favor and let it go. There is nothing that can be done about it now. You have a present to be experienced, not a past to be relived.

Strip away all of the worry, anxiety, and uncertainty about your life. It’s pointless and often harmful. Instead, focus on your dreams and allow life to unfold as it may…this is where you’ll discover true happiness.

4. Thinking that pursing pleasures brings happiness

The pursuit of pleasure cannot provide you with enduring fulfillment – this includes material possessions.

In a TED talk conducted by Dr. Martin Seligman, he discusses three different kinds of happy lives: a pleasant life, in which you pursue as many pleasures as you can; a life of engagement, in which your find a life in your work, love, parenting and leisure and a meaningful life, which “consists of knowing what your highest strengths are, and using them in the service of something larger than your are.”

Throughout his research, Dr. Seligman has concluded that pursuing pleasure alone will not provide any sort of lasting fulfillment. Instead, a person must also pursue a life of engagement and meaning. Short-lived pleasures, if constantly pursued, will often lead to emotional letdowns and feelings of emptiness.

5. Taking your unwelcome thoughts too seriously

Possessing more brainpower than the world’s most advanced supercomputer is both a blessing and a curse. Your advanced thought processes are great for productivity, complex problem solving and meeting the demands of life. On the other hand, human beings have the innate tendency to overthink things, which can lead to negative thoughts that constantly replay themselves.

Remember this: you are not the sum of all your thoughts. Negative thoughts are tabloid material for your mind – unreliable and misleading. This includes thinking you are not good enough, smart enough, successful enough…you are exactly the person you were meant to be and you can do great things. Don’t read the tabloids.

 6. Neglecting your passions

When you neglect your passions, you neglect one of life’s greatest gifts: doing what you love. Neglecting the things you love doing can be attributed to the constant stressors placed on your life: work, money, bills, and other things that come with living in an “always on” society.

If you can’t for some reason do what you love for a living, try to at least make it a part of your life. Follow your heart, your intuition, and your purpose. You don’t need to make money to pursue your passions in life; you just need to make the effort. Your happiness and passion is something that money can never replace.

7. Putting things off

Having to do something that you aren’t fond of instead of doing something enjoyable can be mentally taxing. Ironically, tacking these boring tasks can actually boost your happiness (please, keep reading).

Don’t just take our word for it – in a survey done by the Procrastination Research Group (there is such a group, by the way) 94 percent of the 10,000 respondents reported that procrastination has negative effects on their happiness, with 19 percent saying that the effect is extremely negative. The reason for this is mostly due to regret. In the long-term, you regret what you don’t do or have put off.

To kick the procrastination habit while boosting your happiness, practice temptation control. For example, if losing weight is a major area of procrastination, go to the grocery store with a detailed list of what to get. If you find yourself checking your e-mail instead of writing your paper, disable the notifications for incoming mail.

If you’re a chronic procrastinator, check out this site created by Piers Steel, author of “The Procrastination Equation”: www.procratinus.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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7 Effective Ways to Manage Anxiety http://powerofpositivity.com/7-effective-ways-manage-anxiety/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=7-effective-ways-manage-anxiety http://powerofpositivity.com/7-effective-ways-manage-anxiety/#comments Thu, 16 Oct 2014 15:09:45 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10411 “People tend to dwell more on negative things than on good things. So the mind becomes obsessed with negative things, with judgments, guilt and anxiety produced by thoughts about the future and so on.” – Eckhart Tolle, author of “The Power of Now” The American Psychological Association (APA) defines anxiety as “an emotion characterized by ...

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“People tend to dwell more on negative things than on good things. So the mind becomes obsessed with negative things, with judgments, guilt and anxiety produced by thoughts about the future and so on.” – Eckhart Tolle, author of “The Power of Now

The American Psychological Association (APA) defines anxiety as “an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure.”

Pretty much all of us can resonate with having had a bout of anxiety… maybe even within the last 24 hours.

Anxiety is incredibly common; especially in this crazy, tuned-in (but not really), smartphone carrying, ultra-competitive society that we find ourselves in. To be perfectly clear, having occasional anxiety is completely normal. All of us get overwhelmed from time to time, with the demands and stressors of life an almost daily occurrence.

Here are 7 effective, practical ways to deal with anxiety in your life:

1. Remember… anxiety is impulsive.

Sometimes our brain works in mysterious ways. Actually, make that most of the time. Impulsivity is something that we are all subject to from time to time…and it’s automatic.

Our brains have a “fight or flight” mechanism, attributed to evolutionary changes in the brain responsible for controlling how the body functions in an emergency. Here is a brilliant analogy that was found when scouring the web…

While drinking your second cup of coffee at work, you hear your boss say “Could I see you in my office?” Upon hearing these words, the hypothalamus of your brain messages your adrenal glands and within seconds your body is summoning all of the same powers that your cavemen ancestors needed when encountering a wild animal.

As you enter the bosses’ office, you are now experiencing a full-fledged fight or flight response. You know that you can’t flee, so instead all that energy is just builds up inside until you feel like you’re ready to explode. Then, your boss looks your straight in the eye…”We’re considering you for a promotion.”

2. Remind yourself that anxious feelings are temporary.

As with nearly everything else, anxiety comes and goes. The reason for this is simple: our body, mind, and life experiences are constantly changing. As such, our brains must constantly change and adapt.

Uncertainty is without a doubt the most powerful and common precursor of anxiety. When we feel out of control in any way, we are almost always going to experience an anxious response.  When you’re feeling overwhelmed or out of control, remember that these feelings are temporary.  “This too shall pass…”

And then? Well, it begins to go away…

 3. Get active.

Exercise is probably the best antidote to anxiety. It doesn’t matter what kind of exercise– bike, hike, swim, run, shoot hoops – do whatever as long as the heart is pumping as a good rate. Simply put: exercise boosts our mood. Interestingly, exercise of any form has been shown to be as effective (if not more so) than antidepressants.  Not only does exercise boost your mood, the exposure to fresh clean air and sunshine can quickly brighten your mood.

In a book called “The Depression Cure”, clinical psychologist states: “Exercise changes the brain. It increases the activity level of important brain chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin…(it) also increases the brain’s production of a key growth hormone that normally plummets in depression…some parts of the brain start to shrink over time, and learning and memory are impaired…exercise reduces this trend, protecting the brain in a way nothing else can.”

4. Treat yourself well.

When we are not feeling well, our innate response is to rest; maybe even make ourselves a hot cup of tea and try to get some sleep. This response is almost automatic…we’ve been “trained” to do this when we don’t feel well.

When we feel anxious, we don’t feel well. The only difference is that we need to be more proactive about how we treat ourselves because we have more control over how we respond, unlike most physical illness.

So, be proactive by meditating, reading something inspiring, getting some rest, getting outdoors…whatever brings feelings of joy and peace, do it.

 5. Focus on your breath.

Depending on where and when our anxious feelings occur, we may be limited in how they’re dealt with. If in a cubicle at work or in a crowded public area, bringing attention to your breath is a great way to help ease anxiety.

Bring focus to the breath for a few moments – put one hand on the abdominal area and another on the chest while trying to make the abdominal area move more. The reason: when we are anxious we have a tendency to breathe in a more shallow fashion (with more chest movement).

Make a conscious effort to fill up the abdominal/diaphragm/belly area with deep, mindful inhalations. Then slowly exhale while feeling the anxiety fleeing.  Take a deep breath in for 4 seconds, and slowly exhale over an 8 second count.  Or focus only on your breath for 60 seconds while attempting to think of nothing else.

Proper oxygen sent to the brain can immediately bring a sense of reason back into your mind, allowing your anxiety to diminish.

6. Understand the human brain.

This is another way of reminding us that we are not our brains. This fact cannot be reiterated enough; yet it is often overlooked, or unknown by many.

Neuroscientists, psychologists and psychiatrists all say the same thing… we have the emotional, primitive parts of our brain (the ‘amygdala’) that is responsible for the generation and processing of primal emotions (fear, worry), and the logical parts – the frontal lobes and cortex which are educated, sophisticated, and reasoning.

In layman’s terms – we have both the drama queen from the local community theatre and the distinguished, intellectual Harvard professor telling us what to do.

7. Distract yourself.

We may have the most complex, advanced brains in the animal kingdom but that doesn’t mean that we aren’t susceptible to a nice, juicy distraction every now and then.

When anxiety is rampant, we want to get out of our own heads as much as possible. It really doesn’t matter how it’s done – a movie, game, book, magazine, puzzle, etc. – as long as it gets the mind to focus onto something else.

 

How have you overcome anxiety?  Add your valuable resources into the discussion below…


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7 Ways to Fit Fun Into a Busy Day http://powerofpositivity.com/7-ways-fit-fun-into-busy-day/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=7-ways-fit-fun-into-busy-day http://powerofpositivity.com/7-ways-fit-fun-into-busy-day/#comments Wed, 15 Oct 2014 17:39:23 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10364 “I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun.” – Thomas Edison The greatest inventor of all time certainly knew how to keep things in perspective, didn’t he? While you may not have the inventive capability of Mr. Edison, you can certainly make a conscious effort to have fun and enjoy ...

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“I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun.” – Thomas Edison

The greatest inventor of all time certainly knew how to keep things in perspective, didn’t he? While you may not have the inventive capability of Mr. Edison, you can certainly make a conscious effort to have fun and enjoy your life.

Most of us live a busy life and you are probably no different. Between family, work and sleep, you may have a maximum eight hours of “free time,” the majority of which is probably used up in general, everyday tasks.

Relaxation and having some fun is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Your mind and body need rejuvenation for you to be both healthy and productive.

Here are 7 ways to help create some fun in your busy life.

 1. Leave work at work

This is a big one because when you take your work home your time is no longer your time. The stressors of the day continue when you should be enjoying something else– having dinner with family, catching up with your kids, having some quiet time, or whatever else you enjoy.

In the article “4 Ways to Leave Work at Work,” Psychology Today’s Margarita Tartakovsky provides some recommendations for those having trouble with leaving work at work. Among them, she recommends consciously releasing your nagging thoughts through a short, meditative practice.

To release any thoughts left over from work, close your eyes for one minute and breathe mindfully. Notice any negative thoughts as they arise and let them go with each exhale. Continue to focus on your breath and conclude the practice by slowly opening your eyes and gradually moving your body.

2. Be in the present moment.

Being present is applicable to nearly every area of our life and this includes your fun time.

It is not necessary to multitask and “keep busy” all of the time. Doing so simply adds to your stress and makes enjoying yourself more difficult. Forget catching up on emails, sending text messages, or checking the news when you’re doing something on your own time.

Instead, take the time to be present and enjoy whatever it is that you are doing. You’ll realize two things: whatever it is you’re doing is more enjoyable and there is significantly less stress in your mind and body.

3. Schedule time for R&R.

Just as your schedule conference calls and deadlines, schedule some time for fun.

A new movie come out that want to see? Schedule it. Need some fun time alone with one of your kids? Schedule it. Just as importantly, stick with your fun schedule and treat it as you would a meeting with your boss. If it’s important to you, it’s important enough.

4. Give yourself some time each morning.

It’s true that how you approach the morning sets the tone for the entire day. Set aside 15 to 30 minutes for something that helps you transition into your day – just make sure that whatever you do is not work-related.

For this morning routine, do something enjoyable that would really provide a boost. This could be: reading something inspirational, meditation, exercise, a cup of coffee or tea with the morning paper… just do something that brings you joy. You’ll find your mood is more pleasant and productive as you start tackling the items on your “to-do” list.

5. Make fun time non-negotiable while realizing its importance.

As you schedule time for some fun, certain things may come up that demand your attention. The simple rule that you should stick with is: if whatever comes up is not urgent, it can wait. Remember, this time is a necessity to your overall wellbeing. Your mental and physical health is not something that you should take lightly or allow someone else to either.

According to Scientific American, an overwhelming number of studies have shown that downtime increases concentration, expands attention, encourages creativity, and strengthens memory. Within the study, performing a relaxing, fun activity for just 10 minutes can increase your brain capacity and reduce physical stress.

Pretty convincing…and all the more reason to stick with this scheduled time.

6. Enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

“It’s the simple things in life.” How many times have you heard this? It is and will forever remain a true statement.

The problem is that we are overstimulated and inundated with information from everywhere… our brains are on overdrive for much of the workday… in short – our busy lives can make it difficult to realize and enjoy the simple things in life.

However, taking even a minute to mindfully appreciate simple pleasures in your life can make an amazing difference. More exciting, these simple pleasures can be found everywhere and at nearly anytime.

Here are some ideas – your morning cup of coffee, breakfast with your kids, listening to music, a good meal, the sunset, a quiet place in the park, a brief chat with someone new…many, many things can be considered a simple pleasure and enjoyed.

7. Put one or more ideas on this list into practice right now.

Enjoying your life is so important, yet we have a tendency to treat it like enjoyment is a luxury - it’s not.

Your time is a precious thing that once gone can never be taken back. Take this time when you’d normally be reading the 7th item on some list to really contemplate how important it is to enjoy yourself, while making a commitment to put one or more of these suggestions into practice.

 

Your turn: Do you have a suggestion for how to fit fun into your busy life? Please share with us!


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7 Simple Truths People Easily Forget http://powerofpositivity.com/7-simple-truths-people-easily-forget/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=7-simple-truths-people-easily-forget http://powerofpositivity.com/7-simple-truths-people-easily-forget/#comments Mon, 13 Oct 2014 17:39:12 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10245 “There is nothing so strong or safe in an emergency of life as the simple truth.” – Charles Dickens The often hectic nature of your life can frequently result in forgetfulness. From the moment you wake, you’re already thinking about what you need to do, where you need to be, and how to go about ...

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“There is nothing so strong or safe in an emergency of life as the simple truth.” – Charles Dickens

The often hectic nature of your life can frequently result in forgetfulness. From the moment you wake, you’re already thinking about what you need to do, where you need to be, and how to go about accomplishing the things that demand your attention. Often forgotten in this daily routine are simple realities and truths of life that we all need to remember.

Some truths of your existence can indeed be complex – your purpose, relationships, psychology… but there are also simple, universal truths that your can and should recognize. The recognition and application of these simple truths will make your life flow more easily

Here are 7 easily forgotten simple truths that can help you in your daily life.

#1 – Accepting your flaws is much easier than fighting them.

Everyone has things about themselves that they wish they could change – intellect, looks, health, and a myriad of other attributes. This is especially true when it comes to how we appear, physically and otherwise, to other people.

The important thing to remember here is that the people who truly love you do so with full acceptance, if not knowledge of, your flaws. Of course, in recognizing your “flaws” you take one step closer to loving yourself – the most important kind of love.

#2 – Attempting to fight things beyond your control can be fruitless (and even harmful).

Things “beyond your control” include any and all situations and events that happen without your influence. There can be countless other scenarios that are without a doubt tough situations, but ones in which your impact is limited or even null.  The importance of recognizing and accepting things beyond your control is paramount. Many people go their entire lives attempting to control the uncontrollable. The result is excessive worry, stress, and impairment in the quality of life. Sometimes, this undue stress can manifest itself into physical symptoms if not controlled.

When a tough situation happens in your life, think of it as an opportunity to build upon your character and strength. Remember, “This too shall pass,” and you’ll be a better, stronger individual because of it.

#3 – Emotional decisions are often bad ones.

Allowing temporary emotions, however strong they may be, to displace your logic and intellect is never a good practice. When you make an emotional decision, you are reactive and not proactive. These reactions occur with a very small amount of conscious thought and the presence of too many momentary feelings that will flee once you take yourself out of the situation.

A good rule of thumb is to allow yourself to feel whatever the emotion may be, take a few deep breaths, isolate yourself from the situation if possible, and give yourself a moment to think. Remember this quick practice whenever an impulse arises that may result in regret later.

#4 – Every mistake is a teachable moment.

No matter how diligent, mindful, responsible, or disciplined you are you will make mistakes. Human beings are fallible, and although you are probably a good person, mistakes happen. It’s a part of life.

The beautiful thing is that every mistake that you make teaches you something new and takes you one step closer to your destination. Every time you make a mistake, it builds on that inner strength that already resides in your being.

Results of your mistakes always end up in one of two ways – you either succeed or you learn something valuable. Not a bad deal at all. Repeating the same mistake over and over without eventually learning from it is the only true error.

#5 – Life is too short not to appreciate it.

You are truly a fortunate creature – given an authentically unique existence that nobody else will ever experience. Regardless of the circumstances facing you, there are small things in your life to be grateful for. Life always has its beautiful moments, even if they go unrecognized some of the time.

The best advice here is to try and be mindful and present in every situation. For example, if you are eating dinner with your family, only eat dinner with your family. Turn the TV off, put away the smartphone, and just appreciate your loved ones while enjoying a meal. Whatever the situation is, just be present.

#6 – You have gifts that no one else does.

Our society is a hyper-competitive one. It’s all about the next deal, money, promotions, a bigger house, a nicer car, more education, more overtime… it may feel you are chasing a train on a never ending track. The result of this mentality being ingrained into your being is that you end up feeling inadequate or shortchanged in some way.

But remember – you are different. You have different strengths and intricate abilities that truly no one else has. So when you find yourself playing a circus game with Life as the evil carnie, take a few moments to remember (even write down) your truly unique abilities and be grateful for them.

#7 – Love is the most precious part of our existence.

The most important, simple truth of them all and one that can be easily taken for granted. At the end of your journey, what is going to matter the most to you? The response is simple for the vast majority of us – the time we spent with the ones we love.  All of the possessions in the world won’t hold a stick to the moments you spent (being present!) with the people who love you unconditionally. In the end, truly nothing else matters.

Do something your future self will thank you for and take some time each day to remember #7. Then, be with your loved ones as if nothing else in the world exists …for as long as you can.

YOUR TURN:  What simple truths have you held with you in life that make it flow more easily?  Share in the discussion below!


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7 Things Happy People Rarely Do http://powerofpositivity.com/7-things-happy-people-rarely/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=7-things-happy-people-rarely http://powerofpositivity.com/7-things-happy-people-rarely/#comments Mon, 13 Oct 2014 01:11:39 +0000 http://powerofpositivity.com/?p=10209 “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” - Gandhi Without question, happy people stand out among us. Regardless of what they are doing at the moment, happy people always seem to be positive, energetic, and joyful. Happy people live, act, and speak much differently than their ...

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“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” - Gandhi

Without question, happy people stand out among us. Regardless of what they are doing at the moment, happy people always seem to be positive, energetic, and joyful. Happy people live, act, and speak much differently than their less positive counterparts.

But it’s not just what the happy people do that sets them apart. It’s what they rarely do that truly makes them unique (we say “rarely” here because we can’t be perfect but we CAN strive toward excellence daily).  Simply put – the self-control and self-awareness that positive and happy people display is truly something to behold…they make it look so easy.  So what do happy people avoid?

Here are 7 things happy people rarely do:

1. Happy people rarely… seek approval or validation from others.

Happy people are content to be themselves… in fact, they love themselves unashamedly and unabashedly. This self-love manifests itself in approval and validation – making it unnecessary to seek either from externalities – namely, people.

Truth be told, many of us place way too much emphasis on what others think about us; so much emphasis, that seeking approval or validation from others becomes an addiction. But here’s the bottom line: we can only be the best people we can be, not everyone is going to view us in a positive light, and being you, while showing true character, is the fastest way to earning respect.

2. Happy people rarely…depend on other people, places, or things for happiness.

Speaking of externalities… happy people don’t depend on people or material possessions for their own happiness. In making a conscious decision to remove possessions, money, people, and circumstances out of the equation, happiness is derived and experienced from simply being and loving yourself.

Concisely stated – happiness is a mindset. A mindset is something that is learned, acquired, and put into practice. Our mindset has absolutely nothing to do with external influences…it can only be influenced if we let it.

3. Happy people rarely… play the victim. Rather, they play the victor.

Happy people and the victim mentality do not jive. The reason is because the happy among us have a mindset of victory and fortitude. In other words, happy people depend on the power they know they have to come out victorious. This is not to say that they won’t experience bumps and bruises, disappointments and failures along the way… they just don’t let it get the best of them.

Here’s a nice, easy formula to remember: inner happiness = inner strength. Happy people are strong mentally; winning the battle against whatever internal or external opposition that happens to confront them.

4. Happy people rarely… live in the past, nor worry about the future.

Right now, there are people all around us with innately unique gifts to offer the world and make it a better place… truly gifted people that have so much to give. But they won’t. They won’t because of mistakes made in their past and can’t let them go for whatever reason. This is a tragic reality of the world we live in: some people will never realize their rightful future because they can’t see anything beyond their past.

To be truly happy and realize our potential, we must not live in the past nor worry much about the future. The past is just that…an old event – an event that has no real significance to the true character inside.

5. Happy people rarely…hold onto grudges.

In holding onto the “past,” grudges are another unfortunate result of doing so. These grudges can be within us or with others. The disappointment that results by making a decision that you regret, or disappointment from someone having wronged you is normal. The problem is when we hold onto these grudges for too long.

The answer lies in forgiveness – of ourselves and of others. We cannot turn back the clock to make different decisions, nor can we alter the motives of people who have wronged us. The most powerful thing that we can do recognize the error or affront, accept it, grow and learn from it, and let it go by forgiving yourself or someone else.

6. Happy people rarely… live dishonestly.

To live an honest life takes an incredible amount of courage, fortitude, and character. Why? Because our world has become embraced an altered reality – one in which lying is simply something that “everyone does.”

Regardless of what others may think, dishonesty is toxic because it completely skews our understanding of what is real, good, and normal. When we live in a society that accepts lying as the norm, we are susceptible to its influence. As happy people, we must remember that truth is natural, truth is real (by definition, too!), and truth is good in all situations.

 

 7. Happy people rarely…accept negative environments.

Our environment has a significant effect on our mindset. We must not allow our environments to disturb our right to inner happiness and peace.

Toxic people and toxic environments just exude negativity. Try walking into a place where everyone there hates their job – the bad aura and atmosphere quickly resonates. The same thing goes for people and places that continuously embrace a negative mindset.

By remaining positive and respectful with all people, you may indeed be helping change their outlook on life and bring some hope. Remain mindful that everyone has a story, and some people may be experiencing some hardship that you are unaware of. Also remain mindful that you have a right to be positive and happy…when someone or somewhere begins to negatively impact this, you have the right to walk away if you so choose.

 

What do you try not to do to remain happy in your own life?


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