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Does Keto Diet Work For Treating Depression And Anxiety?

The ketogenic diet has taken the health and fitness world by storm over the past few years. Personal trainers, doctors, and devoted followers testify to all sorts of health successes resulting from the diet. It’s touted to aid neurological conditions, weight loss, and even mental illness like depression and anxiety.

What is the ketogenic diet?

Devised by Doctor Russell Wilder in the early 1920s, the diet was meant to treat epilepsy in children. Before the keto diet, the only thing that could alleviate drug-resistant seizures was water fasting or literal starvation. As it turns out, the ketogenic diet creates the same hormonal changes as fasting, minus the starvation. (1)

Keto Guidelines

The guidelines for the ketogenic diet are simple: eat a high fat content, as much as 80-90% of your daily calories, limit your carbohydrates to 25-50 grams, depending on your gender, height, and weight. Protein intake should be moderate, with the recommended 1 gram for every kilogram you weigh.

Generally, your food inventory on the ketogenic diet will be made up of eggs, cheese, nuts, seeds, non-processed oils, animal fat, meats, butter, avocado – all the fat the diet industry demonized is yours for the taking. Vegetables are a significant part of the diet, with minimal fruit and ideally no starches or grains.

Benefits of Keto

The keto diet benefits seem to be endless with the wide spectrum of conditions it has helped in treating. Weight loss is one of the main reasons people jump on the ketogenic train. Neurological disorders like epilepsy, Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s, autism, and even brain cancer have seen successful results. The keto diet manages blood sugar levels, so it is prescribed to diabetic patients as well as those struggling with obesity, heart disease, high cholesterol, and inflammation.

Some claim keto may even improve depression and anxiety, that it could even be more effective than prescription antidepressants. That’s a lot to take in, and we have a few questions, like: How does keto actually do all of these things? What makes it so helpful for brain-related illnesses?

How does keto work?

The keto diet gets its name from ketones. When you eat little to no carbohydrates, which are the body’s main source of fuel, it now must use another form of energy. It gets into the fat storage, breaking it down into ketone bodies. This doesn’t happen when you eat carbs. Your fat stores are usually heavily-guarded by insulin. Every time you eat carbs, your increased blood sugar triggers the pancreas to produce insulin, which blocks the body from using fat. No carbs mean no insulin, which means the fat is free to go.

After a couple of days limiting your carb intake, you enter ketosis, in which the body has fully switched to burning fat for energy. This is the main reason why the keto diet benefits people who struggle with their weight. When the body has no choice but to burn only the stored fat, the pounds drop like flies.

That sounds fantastic – but what does the keto diet, or ketones for that matter, have anything to do with the brain or mental disorders like depression and anxiety?

Keto Diet and the Brain

To understand how the keto diet benefits disorders like depression and anxiety, it’s important to first see how it affects brain-related conditions like epilepsy, stroke, and Alzheimer’s.

The brain is made up of mostly fat. Although, it does run primarily on carbohydrates, the body always has a plan B (and C). Ketones can power up to 70% of the brain when there is no glucose in the liver due to a ketogenic, low-carb diet. This process is called ketogenesis.

The rest of the brain that can’t utilize ketones needs glucose. To create a type of glucose, the liver uses protein amino acids and glycerol from stored fat. All this is to say that the brain performs just as well on ketogenic diet. In fact, for many people, thinking ability, clarity, and concentration feel stronger on keto than ever before. Benefits include improved memory, better cognitive abilities, reduced migraines, and even healing the effects of brain injury.(2)

Many of keto’s benefits on the brain are because ketones act like antioxidants, protecting the brain from dangerous reactive oxygen. The ketogenic diet makes cell production faster while using less energy, making fat more efficient to utilize than carbs. Finally, it increases GABA, a neurotransmitter that is key in how epileptic seizures are prevented. If GABA is under-produced or not functioning well, it can lead to depression and anxiety. (3)

Keto Diet and Inflammation

A key factor in studying how the keto works in the body is inflammation. This is a word we see, hear, read about everywhere. What is it really, and what does it have to do with depression and anxiety?

When there is a dangerous infection or substance in the body, the immune system responds by causing inflammation. It might feel bad at first, but it’s a part of the process of healing and fighting infection. Certain things can cause too much inflammation, such as eating too much sugar and experiencing extensive, chronic stress. The insulin spikes from sugar and the stress hormone, cortisol, both suppress the immune system, leaving the gut microbiome vulnerable.

All of these things are important because together, over a long period of time, they increase fat cells, which further increase inflammation. Depression and anxiety are both closely tied to inflammation.

In a study comparing PET scans of depressed patients versus healthy people, Canadian Researchers at the Center of Addiction and Mental Illness (CAMH) found that severe depression was associated with a 30% increase of inflammatory markers in the brain. According to Dr. Jeffrey Meyer, expert in depression neurochemistry at CAMH, these findings have “important implications for developing new treatments for a significant group of people who suffer from depression,” speaking of treatments that could potentially target inflammation in the brain. The ketogenic diet could be one such treatment. (4)(5)

Depression

Depressive episodes impacted at least 17 million adults in the United States. It is one of the most common psychiatric disorders, characterized by feelings of hopelessness, sadness, low energy, little interest in socializing and previous hobbies, as well as a slew of physical symptoms like sleeping too much or too little, muscles aches, over- or under-eating, the works.

About 30-35% of people with epilepsy also have depression, the two conditions closely connected. This association shows that there may be similarities in the way keto affects epilepsy and depression.

Anxiety

Anxiety, or Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) affects about 19% of adults in the United States. It tends to occur simultaneously with depression, working together to make you feel twice as bad. Symptoms of anxiety include extreme, persistent fear about situations deemed normal by others, preventing sufferers from performing daily activities at school, work, or in relationships. It comes with unpleasant physical symptoms like nausea, heart palpitations, sweating, tenseness, hyperventilation, difficultly sleeping and avoidance of whatever triggers the anxiety.

Most research about anxiety and the ketogenic diet have been done on mice. In one study, mice exhibited reduced anxious behavior when ketosis was induced through supplementation.

Another study looking at pregnant mice given a ketogenic diet found that their offspring tended to have less depression and anxiety related behaviors than the average.

While depression and anxiety are more psychological than neurological, the ketogenic diet can be beneficial for them as well.

How Keto Diet Benefits Depression & Anxiety

The most notable advantage of going keto is the food. While it limits fruit and some vegetables, it consists of healthy, nutritiously dense foods high in fat and protein, as well as many micro-nutrients from leafy greens. Healthy polyunsaturated fats like omega-3s, found in salmon and other fatty fish, are related to a decreased risk of depression, as well as a healthier microbiome.

Speaking of the microbiome, keto includes many probiotics like kimchi, sauerkraut, yogurt with active cultures, and some cheeses. By improving gut health, probiotics reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety.

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Low blood sugar causes anxiety, weakness, and irritability, while high blood sugar causes headaches, fatigue, and vision issues. Cycling up and down is exhausting. Due to keto’s limited carb intake, stable blood sugar levels can greatly improve your mood. Balanced blood sugar also allows for consistently high energy levels. This physical energy can overpower the lethargy induced by depression and anxiety.

Final Thoughts on Keto Diet

Overall, the keto diet seems to have a plethora of benefits, both physical and mental. For depression and anxiety, keto can be a helpful alternative, especially if you’re resistant to antidepressants. It can be effective for health, energy, cognitive abilities, and well-being.

It never hurts to try something that could vastly improve your life. But if you feel it isn’t for you, the ketogenic diet is not your last resort. For many, keto can be restrictive and difficult to maintain. It can be even harder if you already struggle with everyday activities as a result of depression or anxiety.

The important takeaways from this are that you can’t go wrong with clean-eating, or a diet rich in nourishing whole foods, it doesn’t hurt to eat more healthy fats, and going easy on carbs from time to time can make a difference in your life.

 

Exhaustion: Are You Feeling It Too?

Are you exhausted? Do you find it hard to concentrate? Does it seem you are forever struggling onward through the fog, and the very thought of the challenges each day brings makes you want to crawl back under the bed covers and pretend the sun never rose?

You’re not alone. Exhaustion is not a new phenomenon, and in the world today millions suffer in varying degrees from mental, emotional, and physical exhaustion. Physicians have been studying, diagnosing, and treating this malady for millennia[1]. Acute fatigue is an undeniable part of human history. However, the stresses of today’s lifestyle don’t help. Increased job demands, social media, and concerns for the state of the earth in general only add to recurring energy depletion for many.

Exhaustion in the Workplace

Suffering symptoms of exhaustion have become a reason for workplace safety concerns. Some companies have added awareness programs to try to stop fatigue-related injuries and illness. Not only physically challenging careers, but mentally and emotionally stressful jobs can result in decreased efficiency and loss of manpower.

Causes of Fatigue on the Job

Being aware of your own limitations is one way to stop exhaustion from progressing out of control. Extended or rotating shifts can disrupt normal sleep patterns, resulting in increased stress levels and lower levels of concentration. Simply stated, not getting enough sleep can make you too tired to function at the top of your game. Even knowing this, many professionals will push themselves to the breaking point to meet the demands of their chosen career.

For some, prolonged working hours may also mean overexposure to unsafe levels of noise, chemicals, or other hazardous conditions. The government often requires businesses to monitor and limit exposure for the safety of employees. Working under the influence of extreme fatigue can be especially hazardous for healthcare providers, first responders, or those who work with heavy equipment or in the food industry.

These are only a few of the workplaces which must endeavor to recognize and stop exhaustion from compromising the safety of both workers and those they serve. Fatigue can greatly increase the chances of injuries on the job a well as the chances of accidents on the road to and from work.[2]

How to Stop Exhaustion on the Job

For many, changing or improving work schedules can go a long way to restoring the body’s natural rhythms for sleep and lessening stress. Reasonable shifts help make work more enjoyable and production demands easier to meet. Eating habits may also improve when adequate time is given for meals, increasing the body’s ability to maintain concentration and energy levels.

Other ways to help combat workplace fatigue is to provide proper lighting, control noise levels, and keep indoor work environments at a comfortable temperature and humidity. Programs to help deal with interpersonal relationships in the workplace may also be helpful in combating work-related emotional fatigue.[3]

Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Do you feel continually overwhelmed, drained both physically and mentally? Does it seem like you will never be able to rise above the demands of your current responsibilities or problems? You may be suffering from acute mental fatigue, and once again you are not alone.

Mental fatigue can be accompanied by a sense of detachment or apathy both at work and in your personal life. Some call this type of exhaustion ‘burn out.’ While the term is not an official one, it can certainly describe that feeling of having used up every personal capacity to creatively and patiently cope with life’s incessant demands.

Reading the Signs

There can be a variety of symptoms of mental fatigue. Different people handle stress in different ways, and everyone has their own way of showing the cracks in their mental composure. There can be mental, emotional, and physical signs. Your friends may notice the signs before you do. Some possible signs may be:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Anger
  • Feelings of dread
  • Headaches
  • Upset stomach
  • Lack of motivation
  • Change of appetite
  • Social withdrawal

There are many other symptoms[4], but if you are experiencing several of the above, it may be time to act on your own or seek counseling.[5] The daily stresses of raising children, being a full-time caregiver, or experiencing a major breakdown in an important relationship can all trigger mental exhaustion. There is help on a number of levels, so you don’t have to endure alone.

Give Yourself a Break

There are as many sources of relief as there are sources of stress. To stop exhaustion from dictating your success or failure in life, it’s important to identify your main source or sources of ongoing fatigue. Do you need to consider a new job? Is there anyone who can relieve you of some of your responsibilities so that you can take a break, even for a few hours a week? Removing the stressor is the number one way to begin recovering from chronic fatigue.

There’s Rest for the Weary

Besides removing yourself from as many overly stressful environments as possible, or at least providing yourself with some downtime to rest and recover, there are other lifestyle changes you can make to regain mental acuity and recharge energy levels. You can’t escape all the pressures of life, but you can take steps to enable your body and mind to handle whatever may come.

Eat Well

One important way to control daily feelings of tiredness is by eating a balanced diet. Cut out sweet snacks and soda, excess alcohol, or skipping too many meals. Eat healthy or stress-relieving snacks when needed, and plan a diet rich in all the nutrients your body needs to function at its best.

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Exercise

Exercise is important to overall health. If possible, spend at least 30 minutes per day exercising, even if it’s just a walk in the sunshine. In fact, studies have shown that moderate exercise can significantly increase energy levels, especially for those whose jobs and lifestyle are otherwise sedentary.

Nap

Taking a nap may be helpful, but make sure it does not interfere with your regular bedtime. It’s best not to indulge in more than a 20-30 minute nap early in the day. A nap may be especially useful if you find yourself faced with a long work shift or other obligations. Coupling your nap with healthy, protein-rich snacks can also boost your energy for an extra few hours when needed.

Check stress at your front door

Does the thought of going home make you more relaxed or more anxious? Make your home a more stress-free environment. Studies have shown that a person’s living space can either add to or take away the stress. Research ways to make your home more calming, restful place. Look for ways to bring in more natural light. Add live plants. If necessary, create a private space that is off limits to others.

Sleep hygiene

Setting a consistent sleep schedule can help increase the amount and quality of rest during your downtime. This is especially important if you work a night shift. Purposely set aside 7.5-8 hours of sleep each day. Darken the room as much as possible and remove the artificial light of TV or electronic devices. You can train your body to know when it’s time to shut down for sleep. Your body and brain depend on this rest to stay alert and active when needed.

Spend some “me time”

Take time to relax with a book, music, or a calming herbal tea, especially near bedtime. Breathing exercises can help prepare your body and mind for rest. Essential oils may be helpful as either an inhalant or for massage. A little research can help you find the most popular oils for soothing your frazzled nerves and relieving stress.

A little help from your friends

Socializing with friends and family can also help relieve stress and restore peace of mind. Try small get-togethers without excessive noise or entertaining demands. You may be able to find a support group in your area. Isolation is a major contributor to mental fatigue.

Get a Professional Opinion

It’s important to rule out any possible health reasons for ongoing chronic fatigue. Some possible issues could be:

  • High blood pressure
  • Anemia
  • Ulcers
  • Cancer or cancer treatments
  • Vitamin or mineral deficiency
  • Medication side-effects

Your primary care physician may be able to recommend different allergy medications or changes to your daily regimen to get you back on track. A regular physical will help you and your doctor monitor for warning signs of potential health issues.

Final Thoughts

Millions of people across the world experience near-debilitating fatigue on a daily basis. Exhaustion in soul and body is a world epidemic. Are you feeling it too? If so, you should know that you are not alone in your struggles. Physicians and scientists the world over continue to research ways to help humanity overcome and stay energized and alert.

Natural remedies are always the best first choice. Simple lifestyle changes, including diet and exercise, can help stop exhaustion from seriously impacting your lifestyle. Many times, the results are up to you. Take time for yourself. Building a strong support group and taking control of your life can be the first steps to being yourself again.

 

10 Truths About Pregnancy After 35

Pregnancy after a woman is above 35 years old can present various risks and challenges. These can include stalled labor, dramatic emotional changes, chromosomal abnormalities, and more. Some of these risks can put both the mother and the infant in danger.

However, with the doctor’s advice, women aged 35 years or more can get pregnant and give birth successfully. They will often need to put forth more effort in terms of diet, exercise, and lifestyle than their younger counterparts.

Here are ten truths about pregnancy after 35

1. Higher Chance of Bearing Twins

Older females normally get lucky enough to have twins. It is a fact that twin births are more prevalent in pregnant females who are aged 35 years or more.

Scientists are not certain of the reasons behind this occurrence, but recent research has shown that the answer to this question could lie in the increased use of particular medications and hormonal changes. The study looked into incidences of fraternal twins, which are more typical than identical twins.

First, older females have higher levels of a certain hormone called Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH). This hormone has been associated with a higher prevalence of twin births.

Second, there is a new theory that explains that fertility drugs could increase the likelihood of a female to have twins. Because females aged 35 years and above are more likely to require taking fertility drugs than younger females, this shows why older women are more likely to give birth to two or more children from a single gestation.

2. Higher Risk of Miscarriage

One of the many truths about pregnancy after 35 is that these women face a higher risk of stillbirths and miscarriages than younger women. This risk of having a miscarriage increases with age.

For example, while females who are 35 years old face a 20 percent risk of miscarrying, women 45 years old face a 35 percent risk. These high rates of loss of pregnancy are believed to be a consequence of underlying health issues that affect older females, and the presence of abnormalities of the chromosome in the fetus.

Unluckily, pregnancies can end spontaneously, even during the late stages. It is essential to keep a continuous dialogue with your healthcare team as you get into the final stage of your pregnancy. You should also be very keen to optimize your meals, lifestyle choices, and activity levels in an effort to safeguard the health of your baby.

3. Risk of Chromosomal Abnormalities

If you are 35 years or older and are pregnant, your physician will provide you with various genetic tests to check for particular chromosomal abnormalities that get heightened with more mature pregnancies. For example, chorionic villus sampling is a test carried out when a pregnancy is between 9 and 11 weeks.

This test is critical in the detection of Turner’s Syndrome and Down syndrome. During the procedure, a physician will take a slight sample of placental tissue that can be obtained via entry points in your cervix and abdomen. The tissue is then analyzed in a lab.

Scientists have not discovered the reason behind the higher rates of genetic disorders in infants born to females aged 35 years and above. However, the relationship between these genetic conditions and the age of the mothers is very robust.

While it is optional to undertake tests such as chorionic villus sampling, the majority of prenatal caregivers and physicians will highly recommend them to older pregnant females. It is an excellent idea to undertake these tests. It is better to know in advance in case your baby will have a genetic condition so that you can prepare yourself properly.

4. Healthy Diet is Critical

Another one of the truths about pregnancy after 35 is that a healthy and balanced diet is critical to all pregnant females, despite the age. Frequently, an older female is more susceptible to gaining weight when they are pregnant, which can result in energy drains and more complications during the pregnancy period.

However, prenatal vitamins and a properly-balanced diet that emphasize quality proteins and whole, natural foods should be essential in the prevention of too much weight gain. This will also ensure proper nourishment of the infant and the mother.

Specifically, pregnancy nutrition experts and physicians recommend an increase in the intake of calcium; it is also better to use natural sources than supplements. Have a goal to consume at least four servings of dairy rich in calcium daily. Also, include plenty of fresh vegetables and fruits, particularly citrus fruits and leafy greens.

Lean meat, whole foods, and beans must round out your meals. In case you crave salty and sweet treats, be sure to eat them in moderation.

5. Higher Likelihood of Pregnancy Complications

Females who get pregnant at 35 years or more have a higher likelihood of getting particular complications during this period, including high blood pressure and gestational diabetes.

Gestational diabetes is a disease whereby a pregnant lady suffers from insulin imbalances, resulting in a diabetic condition that may or may not remain after the birth of the baby. In particular cases, this condition leads to early labor as well as premature birth.

Older pregnant women have a greater risk of getting high blood pressure due to the strain on their bodies that they experience during gestation. To prevent yourself from suffering from this condition, be sure to make better lifestyle and dietary choices.

You will need to be conscientious regarding your efforts. But the soundest decision is to visit your physician regularly so that they can be active in your prenatal care. Your healthcare team can intervene and aid you in case you reveal symptoms of these complications.

6. Every Woman is Different

Regarding gestation and age, 35 is only a number; and every lady’s actual chronological age is different from their biological age. While some females have a family history of a conception that is difficult, others will conceive easily in their late 30s and even 40s.

A successful gestation is determined by your health and how well you have cared for your body throughout your life. At the age of 35, you are still young and can implement critical improvements to your general health that can increase your likelihood of getting pregnant. Doing exercise regularly, losing weight, and boosting your diet can assist in giving you a normal gestation.

Hence, if you have been overlooking these vital health aspects, invest in your health and yourself. You will discover that being pregnant in your 30s and 40s is not as hard as you had originally thought.

7. It Could Take A Long Time to Conceive

In addition to facing the issue of lowered fertility, you will experience hardships with timing conception after you reach 35. For example, where a couple in their 20s can take just a few weeks to conceive, couples who are 35 and older usually take years to get pregnant.

Scientists and physicians have discovered some essential factors that impact the successful conceptions, and age is one of them. This is one of the truths about pregnancy after 35 that you need to accept; you can take years to get pregnant.

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Other key factors include the timing of sexual intercourse, which should be carried out during your ovulation’s peak. Your doctor can assist you in keeping track of this so that you can have sex when you are at the height of your cycle,

Weight, lifestyle, and nutrition can also affect your likelihood of conceiving. Hence, you should keep in mind that optimizing these factors can take a while as you lose weight, improve your meals, and make adjustments in your choices and habits.

8. The Decline in Egg Quality

As females age, they face a natural deterioration in general fertility. This means that older women will ovulate with declining regularity and predictability, and they could occasionally miss releasing an egg.

The quality of the egg also starts to diminish from the age of 30 to 40. This is what causes genetic egg imperfections and less likelihood of conceptions.

As a result, older females often undertake fertility treatments when they are attempting to get pregnant. These treatments work to improve the quality of the egg and stimulate the production of eggs.

9. Dramatic Emotional Changes

No mother is usually prepared for the emotional changes that take place during the first gestation. These emotional changes are attributed to hormonal fluctuations. Older females usually face more intense hormonal change during gestation. Thus, they have a higher risk of facing critical fluctuations in their emotions and moods.

Research has shown some truth in these emotional changes. These changes in emotions and moods present themselves as dramatic and sudden mood swings.

10. More Cesarean Sections

In case you are pregnant at the age of 35 years or more, there is a higher likelihood of getting a cesarean section as you deliver. This is due to the greater risk of complications during gestation and delivery. These complications may include excessive bleeding, prolonged labor, and stalled labor, which takes place when labor processes cease before the delivery of the infant.

When it comes to older women, cesarean sections are deemed safer than vaginal births. Another common complication that can indicate the benefit of cesarean section is the presence of the placenta previa condition. This occurs when the placenta blocks the cervix during birth.

The Bottom Line on Pregnancy After Age 35

It is common for women aged over 35 to give birth to healthy newborns, but it is also common for them to face these challenges and risks.

Hence, they need to put these truths about pregnancy after 35 in mind. Carrying out the necessary changes will help ensure they have a successful pregnancy and birth.

Social Anxiety Disorder : 12 Easy Ways To Cope

If you suffer from social anxiety, you aren’t alone. Many people with this disorder are often called “shy” or “introverted,” but being reserved around strangers or liking alone time isn’t the same as a social anxiety disorder.

Social anxiety disorder is also called social phobia, and it’s not just about feeling nervous around people. People with social anxiety have an overwhelming fear of being judged, mocked or rejected in social situations. This anxiety can range from big meets to small, everyday interactions like ordering a meal at a restaurant.

People with social anxiety are so worried about looking stupid or being perceived as boring and undesirable by others that they’ll avoid performance-based situations at all costs. This coping mechanism is what leaves many outsiders to assume that people with social phobia are just introverts or recluses.

In reality, people with social anxiety deeply long for meaningful friendships and relationships. As much as they want to be able to talk with others and have fun without feeling out-of-place, they struggle to overcome the incessant and often overwhelming fear that they won’t be liked.

Understanding Social Anxiety Disorder – Do You Have It?

While no one but a psychologist or counselor can make a definitive diagnosis, there are some online screening tests for social anxiety disorder that can help you determine whether or not you might have the condition.

Some of the most common signs and symptoms of social anxiety are:

  • A strong and continued fear of any social situation where people might judge you
  • Fear that you will embarrass yourself by doing or saying something stupid
  • Fear that others will notice how anxious you are
  • Knowing your fear is unreasonable but not being able to stop it
  • Feelings of anxiety including racing heart, sweaty palms, “shakiness’ and difficulty breathing

12 Ways to Manage Social Anxiety

Therapy is always the best way to overcome an anxiety disorder, but it isn’t an option or everyone. You may not be able to afford to counsel, or the thought of actually going to a therapists’ office may give you social anxiety. That’s okay. What matters is that you are taking the steps now to help yourself.

These 12 steps will help you understand your anxiety more and manage your symptoms so you can begin to tackle your social fears one conversation at a time.

12. Learn All You Can About the Disorder

As the saying goes, “knowledge is power.” The more you understand your condition, the less intimidating it feels. Rather than your anxiety being in control, you can learn to view it as a medical problem. You’ll also realize that you aren’t alone, and millions of other people understand and empathize with your feelings.

The National Social Anxiety Center is a fantastic place to start. On the website, you can learn about the symptoms of social anxiety disorder, take a screening test, read personal stories, find a local clinic and learn about possible therapy treatments you can even try on your own.

11. Find an Online Support Group

Sites like The Mighty offer social anxiety support communities that help people get in touch with others going through the same thing. You can read dozens of accounts of people who struggle with the same problem. Reading their stories and connecting online, you can finally feel understood, no matter how much your own disorder has left you isolated in the real world.

10. Learn to Talk About Your Disorder

You don’t have to be ashamed of your condition. As scary as it may be, telling someone, “I have anxiety,” can be extremely liberating. Because you fear judgment, make sure the first people you talk to are ones you can trust. Perhaps you’ve tried to tell others about your symptoms in the past and they just told you it was all in your head, that it’s stupid and you should “just get over it.”

These reactions are not personal. Many people simply don’t understand anxiety disorders and lack the education required to respond better. Some may even think they’re being helpful by telling you there’s nothing to worry about and to “just not think about it.”

You are allowed to have an anxiety disorder. Social anxiety does not make you a freak, unloveable or boring.

To start opening up more to people you care about, write down your thoughts and feelings beforehand so you feel more in control during the conversation. Focus on using “I” statements. Many people with social anxiety often feel that their thoughts and feelings don’t matter or that they’re dumb and will be mocked.

Your feelings and opinions are just as valid as anyone else’s. Using “I” statements, like “I feel hurt when you tell me to get over my anxiety,” will give you ownership of your feels and allow you to assert yourself in conversation.

9. Practice Deep Breathing

Breathing exercises for anxiety help calm your body and reduce physical symptoms. During an anxiety attack, the body’s peripheral nervous system kicks into overdrive. The fight-or-flight response that’s meant to keep us safe in dangerous situations winds up making even simple exchanges feel like a threat.

To practice deep breathing, you should focus on using your diaphragm, the dome-shaped muscle that rests beneath your lungs. Rather than shallow breaths that rise and fall in your chest, diaphragmatic breathing allows you to draw deep breaths that expand your stomach.

8. Start Tackling Negative Thoughts

Grab a notebook, pen or pencil and a nice cup of tea or coffee before you sit down to address your negative thoughts. While it may make you feel anxious to even think about how you feel around others, it’s important to address your anxiety and learn to diffuse it rather than struggle against it.

When you’re comfortable, write down some of the thoughts that go through your mind before and during a social situation. Some examples might be, “Everyone is going to think I’m stupid and laugh at me behind my back,” or “People will only talk to me because they feel like they have to.”

Leave a few lines between each thought. Once you’ve compiled a list, use that extra space between your thoughts to counter the negativity. If you wrote, “People will hear me stutter and think I’m dumb,” you could write something like, “Everyone slips up sometimes, they probably won’t even notice. They’re more interested in what I have to say than how I say it, anyway.”

7. Roleplay

Preparing for social situations can make you feel more confident when you’re in them. Rehearsals will make it easier for you to know what to say and not feel like you’re frozen on the spot. Consider a phone call. Write down a script of phrases and questions you can use to speak before you dial the number.

When it comes to presentations at work or school, stand in front of the mirror and deliver your points to yourself several times until you can clearly touch upon each major point without long pauses or lots of “ums” and “uhs.”

6. Accept Your Anxiety

One of the biggest mistakes people with anxiety disorders make is viewing their condition as something bad. Your condition might be undesirable to have, but it doesn’t make you an undesirable person. The more fear, hatred and disgust you have about your anxiety, the more you’re likely to avoid dealing with it.

Accept that anxiety disorders happen, and they’re nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, it’s estimated that 12.1-percent of adults in the U.S. will have a social anxiety disorder at some point in their lives. That number might seem small, but consider the fact the U.S. population is over 328 million people. Now, 12-percent doesn’t seem so insignificant.

5. Explore Cognitive Therapy

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is one of the most popular treatment methods for social anxiety disorder. This therapy teaches people to identify and change negative thinking patterns and beliefs called “cognitive distortions.”

CBT is skill-based therapy, which means it can be learned and practiced throughout your life. CBT for social anxiety rewires the brain’s neural pathways and teaches you how to react calmly to situations that normally trigger anxiety.

4. Confront Your Insecurities

Many people with a social anxiety disorder also suffer from low self-esteem. As they avoid situations or experience awkward interactions, they only become more insecure and believe that they’re boring and only make a fool of themselves when they talk to others.

A therapist can help you get to the bottom of your anxiety and insecurity. You can also work on this yourself by considering your past and acknowledging events in your past that may have led you to think little of yourself. Perhaps you had bad friendships, romantic relationships or grew up in a dysfunctional family.

Once you begin to understand why you feel this way, it becomes easier to explain them and heal.

3. Ask Friends for Help

Opening up about your social anxiety to your friends can make it a lot easier to manage. If you’re an introvert, your more sociable friends can help you identify where you can improve your communication and how to connect better with others.

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Being an introvert isn’t a bad thing. Accepting yourself as you are, social anxiety or not, is a major milestone in personal growth and makes it much easier to confront any problems you might have.

2. Start Small

You don’t need to throw yourself into uncomfortable situations if you want to get over your social anxiety. While total immersion and confrontation is used as a form of exposure therapy, doing it by yourself can often be traumatizing. Don’t feel like you have to eliminate your anxiety overnight. Chances are, you’ve struggled with these feelings for months or even years, so it will take some time to change them.

Begin treating your social anxiety by committing to at least one social interaction that scares you every day. If you usually have your friend or family member order for you at the coffee shop, do it yourself. Ask a sales associate where an item is in a store. Raise your hand in class and ask a question, or, if you’re working, greet a colleague and try to have a small conversation.Integrating yourself into familiar situations will make it easier to begin working through your anxiety. Repeat these encounters over and over again, day by day, so that they build confidence and help you overcome your fear. It might be horrible the first time, but keep track of your symptoms and their intensity.

It may help to use a rating scale of zero to 10; Zero can mean absolutely no anxiety and extremely relaxed, while 10 would be the worst possible symptoms. Over time, you will find that symptoms may not entirely vanish, but they are significantly less severe. An experience that might have once caused you to feel like a nine will only feel like a two or three.

1. Get Help When You Need It

Support from family and friends is wonderful, but some people will need the benefit of psychotherapy to overcome their social anxiety disorder for good. A big part of the fear associated with counseling comes from the same anxiety that keeps people from socializing. The fear of being judged or considered damaged may make you hesitant to see a therapist, but this is not the case.

A counselor or psychologist doesn’t judge someone’s entire worth based on their mental health. In fact, mental health professionals value people so much that they want to help them see value in themselves, too, so they can overcome their struggles and realize their true potential.

Psychotherapy for social anxiety is mostly “talk therapy.” During sessions, you will speak with your counselor about your feelings, get in touch with your thoughts and learn new coping strategies that help you conquer your anxiety at your own pace.

50 Best Body Positivity Quotes To Make You Feel Empowered

Starting your day reading a few body positivity quotes can empower you more than you think. In our society, whether your a woman or a man, the pressure to have the perfect body can seem overwhelming. Being bombarded with images implying that there is something wrong with your body can be damaging to your self-esteem and can kill your motivation even if you are in the process of a fitness journey.

Positivity quotes, or affirmations, have long been recognized as an effective way to combat the negative self-esteem destroying messages we receive throughout the day. Body positivity quotes focus on bringing your attention to the positive instead of the negative things you may think about your body. Reading a few body positivity quotes daily can drastically alter how you view your body.

We are what we think after all, and if you can effectively change your mind, you can change your life. Sometimes it helps to hear positivity quotes from those who are leaders in their fields but wisdom can come in the form of body positivity quotes from unknown sources as well. Let’s take a look at fifty of the best body positivity quotes that can help you reshape the way you see your body.

Body Positivity Quotes to Reshape Your Thoughts

1 “Whatever is deeply, essentially female–the life in a woman’s expression, the feel of her flesh, the shape of her breasts, the transformations after childbirth of her skin–is being reclassified as ugly, and ugliness as disease. These qualities are about an intensification of female power, which explains why they are being recast as a diminution of power. At least a third of a woman’s life is marked with aging; about a third of her body is made of fat. Both symbols are being transformed into operable condition–so that women will only feel healthy if we are two-thirds of the women we could be. How can an “ideal” be about women if it is defined as how much of a female sexual characteristic does not exist on the woman’s body, and how much of a female life does not show on her face?”

–Naomi Wolf

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2 “Beauty shouldn’t be about changing yourself to achieve an ideal or be more socially acceptable. Real beauty, the interesting, truly pleasing kind, is about honoring the beauty within you and without you. It’s about knowing that someone else’s definition of pretty has no hold over you.”?

–Golda Poretsky

3 “Aim high and don’t sell yourself short. Know that you’re capable. Understand that a lot of people battle with a lot of things – depression, body image or whatever else – so know that it’s not just you. You’re not alone.”

— Holly Holm

4 “Value yourself for what the media doesn’t – your intelligence, your street smarts, your ability to play a kick-ass game of pool, whatever. So long as it’s not just valuing yourself for your ability to look hot in a bikini and be available to men, it’s an improvement.”

–Jessica Valenti

5 “Body acceptance means, as much as possible, approving of and loving your body, despite its “imperfections”, real or perceived. That means accepting that your body is fatter than some others, or thinner than some others, that your eyes are a little crooked, that you have a disability that makes walking difficult, that you have health concerns that you have to deal with — but that all of that doesn’t mean that you need to be ashamed of your body or try to change it. Body acceptance allows for the fact that there is a diversity of bodies in the world, and that there’s no wrong way to have one.”

–Golda Poretsky

6 “I have a body, but I am not my body. I have a face, but I am not my face.”

–Iyanla Vanzant

7 “Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither and otherwise.”

–Hanne Blank

8 “Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”

–Deborah Day

9 “To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.”

–Sven Goran Eriksson

10 “If anything is sacred the human body is sacred.”

–Walt Whitman

11 “Your worth is not measured by the size of your waist”

–- Unknown

12 “It’s also helpful to realize that this very body that we have, that’s sitting right here right now…with its aches and its pleasures…is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.”

–Pema Chodron

13“Is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than vindictive, jealous, shallow, vain, boring or cruel? Not to me.”

– J.K. Rowling

14 “Even I don’t wake up looking like Cindy Crawford.”

– Cindy Crawford

15 “You don’t have to like everything about yourself to love yourself.”

– Tres Adames

16 “Another person’s beauty is not the absence of your own”

– Unknown

17“You are imperfect; permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.”

– Amy Bloom

18 “If you can’t say anything nice about yourself…practice.”

– Unknown

19 “I am imperfect and yet my imperfections, like any great work of art, are what make me a masterpiece”

– Kelsey Silver

20 “Even if you’re in the process of trying to change your body, you need to be content with what it is, right here, right now. Because if you can’t be happy with yourself now, you won’t be happy with yourself ever.”

– Anastasia Amour

21“In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act. Loving yourself is anything but naive. If you don’t become your best friend, who else will? If you don’t convey confidence in what you do, don’t expect others to trust you. We are what we believe we are. When you embrace your true identity, there’s no room for self-doubt. The shadow of self-doubt might show up unexpected. It’s up to you to move from darkness to light.”

– Unknown

22 “You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”

– Louise Hay

23 “Don’t let your mind bully your body.”

– June Tomaso Wood

24 “The one thing you can control is how you treat yourself. And that one thing can change everything.”

– Leeana Tankersley

25 “Your insecurities have too much of an imagination. Be careful with that.”

– Andra Knox

26 “Self-care is how you take your power back.”

– Lalah Delia

27“There is no wrong way to have a body.”

– Glenn Marla

28“Healthy emotions come in all sizes. Healthy minds come in all sizes. And healthy bodies come in all sizes.”

– Cheri K. Erdman

29 “If you left it up to everyone else in the world to decide, your body will NEVER be good enough,”

–Michelle Elman

30 “I refuse to let something as insignificant as a size or number on a scale determine how I feel about myself. I am grateful for my body, my health and the life that I have, and no arbitrary number should have any impact on that,”

– Iskra Lawrence

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31 “There’s only one of you, so why would you want to look like everyone else?”

– Adele

32 “When you accept yourself you are freed from the burden of needing others to accept you.”

– Unknown

33 “True beauty is not related to what color your hair is or what color your eyes are. True beauty is about who you are as a human being, your principles, your moral compass.”

– Ellen DeGeneres

34 “I keep telling myself that I’m a human being, an imperfect human who’s not made to look like a doll, and that who I am as a person is more important than whether at that moment I have a nice figure,”

– Emma Watson

35 “One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body.”

– Gabourey Sidibe

36 “You can’t eat beauty; it doesn’t sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion, for yourself and those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul.”

– Lupita Nyong’o

37 “Workout because you love your body not because you hate it”

– Unknown

38 “You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself.”

– Unknown

39 “Life is too short to spend another at war with yourself.”

–Ritu Ghatourey

40 “The next time you think of beautiful things don’t forget to count yourself in.”

–Unknown

41“Your self-esteem won’t come from body parts. You need to step away from the mirror every once in a while, and look for another reflection, like the one in the eyes of the people who love you and admire you.”

– Stacy London

42 “Kindness makes you the most beautiful person in the world no matter what you look like.”

–Unknown

43 “It’s also helpful to realize that this very body that we have, that’s sitting right here right now… with its aches and its pleasures… is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.”

– Pema Chödrön

44 “Treat yourself as if you already are enough. Walk as if you are enough. Eat as if you are enough. See, look, listen as if you are enough. Because it’s true.”

– Geneen Roth

45 “You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously.”

– Sophia Bush

46 “This is it: This body is home. This is where I live and hang my hat. This is where I settle into my hips and sit easily in myself, slung together with strong muscles and bones, made gentle and forging with flesh. This body is durable, has lasted for years, hunkered down through fierce storms and allows for the peaceful erosions of age. It is like a cottage on the shore: weathered and well made, a place where a person could comfortably live. I like it here. It is my own.”

–Marya Hornbacher

47 “Be proud of your scars. They have everything to do with your strength, and what you’ve endured. They’re a treasure map to the deep self.”

– Clarissa Pinkola Estés, PhD

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48 “The body is a multilingual being. It speaks through its color and its temperature, the flush of recognition, the glow of love, the ash of pain, the heat of arousal, the coldness of non-conviction…It speaks through the leaping of the heart, the falling of the spirits, the pit at the center, and rising hope.”

– Clarissa Pinkola Estés, PhD

49 “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

50 “Think of your body like a magical garden – always growing and changing, full of color and life.”

– Christiane Northrup, MD

Final Thoughts About Body Positivity Quotes

These fifty positivity quotes are just the tip of the iceberg of good food you can feed your self-esteem in order to inspire and empower. Coming from the voices of doctors, actors, authors, and many others these positivity quotes are an awesome way to remind yourself not to focus so much on the opinions of others or where their journey is taking them.

Whether you’re on a fitness journey, are recovering from an injury, just had a baby, or simply have encountered too negative words or images that have warped how you see your body, positivity quotes can be taken just like medicine to remedy the problem.

First Date? Keep These 7 Hints In Mind

Dating for the first time can be a little intimidating, regardless of who you are. There is nothing wrong with preparing yourself before an important date. On the contrary, it is perfectly normal.

The internet is not short on dating advice, and this probably isn’t the first article you have read. As such, we will try to condense it all down to seven key dating tips. It is quite easy to memorize this list and to internalize its lessons.

Dating Tips For The First Time: Tips For You

1. Use Humor To Mask Your Nervousness

You don’t have to be super cool and confident every minute in order to be successful in the world of dating.

A dating study published by the American Sociological Society measured the various factors that made a person more likable. Among these traits, humor was consistently cited as a helpful factor. After all, everyone likes a person who can make them laugh.

Humor and laughter are your two best weapons against the crippling anxiety that often destroys a person’s first attempt at courtship. Just don’t go too far and start acting like an idiot just because it makes your date laugh! Remember, you want them to laugh, but you also want them to respect you.

Anxiety about relationships is a major factor in attraction or the lack thereof. Some research estimates that as much as 50% of the human population has serious trouble attracting a date or functioning in an intimate relationship (2).

2. Communicate Well And Regularly

The following dating study might be enlightening. It came from the University of California and was intended to measure trends among couples regarding communication.

The study shows that quick response time was a key factor in determining a person’s overall likability. From the results, we see that even a slight delay in answering a person’s text message (for instance) can be devastating to your chances of success, simply because your significant other might think that you are ignoring them. Remember, nothing is worse than ignoring them!

Even if you have some flaws that your significant other doesn’t entirely like, it is safe to assume that you must have some qualities that they do like. Otherwise, they probably wouldn’t be meeting you in the first place.

You can make up for your natural flaws (which we all have) by being completely open and honest and sharing yourself with your significant other. It is a lot harder to forgive someone for their flaws, however, if they prove to be dishonest.

3. Don’t Overdo it When Trying To Impress

We all have a natural inclination to impress members of the opposite sex. This could take the form of a man washing and waxing his car before a big date, or a woman who puts on her nicest clothing and grooms herself meticulously.

While it is a good idea to put your best foot forward, there is a point at which the average person will look at you and think “this person is trying way too hard to impress me.”

Either way, don’t overdo it. There are many examples we could give, but let’s just consider this imaginary scenario for a moment. You are meeting someone at a restaurant, and it’s not a particularly fancy one.

Your date arrives wearing a gold-trimmed tuxedo and wielding a diamond-studded cane. Wouldn’t you feel a little silly? Sure that kind of thing might be impressive, but it makes them look:

  • Arrogant
  • Desperate
  • As if they might be overcompensating for something

4. Don’t Seem Like You’re Hiding Anything

It’s a good idea to stick with the “70:30” rule (1). This means that your online profile should include 70% information about you, with the other 30% focusing on what you want from a partner. There are several good reasons to adhere to this rule.

First, it shows people that you are not bossy or controlling. A person with a lot of complex requirements will often be seen as too picky and thus not worth the effort. People like that are easy to push away over the smallest of disagreements.

Research also indicates that people with strict requirements are far less likely to succeed in attracting the kind of mate that they really want. This is kind of obvious when you think about it. Higher standards will normally fewer suitable partners.

Does this mean that you should just lower your standards to a really low level? Certainly not. That is a good way to attract “weirdos”, freaks, and other people that you probably don’t want or need in your life. You need that filter, so don’t discard it entirely.

Second, this method makes it clear that you are not hiding anything about yourself. Especially for a woman, a date can be a scary experience that feels risky. Meeting people online, in particular, can be risky.

Think about it from the perspective of a small and attractive female

Serial killers and other predators will sometimes use these apps to lure victims.
Being completely open and honest will help to convince her that you aren’t the next Charles Manson. Just remember, this person doesn’t know you, so don’t expect total trust at first.

5. Make The Other Person The Focus Of Your Attention

Attention is key when you are trying to form a strong bond with another person. You have to make sure that your attention remains more or less fixed upon them. This is one of those dating tips that can save you many embarrassing arguments.

A partner who appears to be distracted and doesn’t pay a lot of attention to their date is likely to find themselves on the “rejected” list. Any way you slice it, being boring will be a death sentence. You need to be somewhere in between boring and insane, which really shouldn’t be hard for most people.

You should make the other person feel special. They should feel that they are the most important person in the world to you, at least at that moment. Even if your world doesn’t revolve around them, make them feel as if it does.

For instance, if you are chatting with your date and an old friend comes over to say hello, you should not ignore them. However, you should make sure to keep the majority of your attention on your date. Balancing your attention can be hard, but it is necessary.

Remember, this is a time that you have set aside to be together. Therefore, anything that interferes with that bonding time will inhibit the bonding process. Anything that puts the brakes on that natural bonding process is a date-killer for sure.

6. Find A Middle Ground On Confidence

While everyone knows that confidence is essential, not everyone understands the importance of moderation. You should be confident, but over-confidence usually just comes off as insecurity and overcompensation.

In addition, an over-confident approach to dating tends to intimidate people. Although that might cause some people to show respect to you, it tends to push people away over the long haul.

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A lot of this just comes down to being secure with yourself as a person. Some research indicated that self-assuredness is a bigger factor in mate selection than most would have guessed (3). Remember, real confidence requires no advertisement.

That being said, this same study also says that insecure individuals can sometimes be successful by using a variety of tactics to compensate for the macho qualities that they don’t have.

7. Find Your Common Interests

This is a very important step indeed. When you are dating, you need things to talk about. You need things to discuss and consider and ridicule.

In most cases, the bonding of two creatures to one another will happen as a result of a shared experience. In the absence of this, it is important to find something that you have in common. It could be anything, no matter how minor. This is one of the best dating tips we can offer.

Research shows that people tend to gravitate towards people that they feel are more like themselves. These common interests can be a great way to avoid the dead silence that marks a bad date.

This might seem a little difficult since men and women usually tend to have different interests that do not always converge. That being said, there are also many interests, hobbies, and subjects that tend to interest both genders equally.

You might start with something like music or movies. Find out what they like, and start a conversation about it. Politics and religion are hot-button issues, but if you find that you agree on these things, it can be a great source of bonding.

Final Thoughts:

While there is no way to guarantee success in the complicated process of courtship, these seven lessons will serve you well if you learn them well. If you need a general principle to tie everything together, just remember that it’s all about bridging the gap that is created by anxiety.

When we use this metaphor, we are not just speaking of your anxiety, but that of the other person as well. Only by bridging this divide can you move your relationship forward, so don’t hesitate to be outgoing, likable, and honest.

With the right attitude, and a determination to find the right person, virtually anyone can achieve their goals. As a final thought, just remember that all this courtship stuff isn’t that hard. If you look at it as an easy thing, it is more likely that it will be an easy thing. We wish you all the best of luck.

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