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15 Habits That Drain Your Energy

June 3, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Energy is the currency of productivity and well-being in today’s world. Yet, amid our daily tasks, commitments, and aspirations, many unknowingly indulge in habits that deplete this vital resource. Like silent energy vampires, these routines and patterns suck away our vitality, leaving us wondering why, by day’s end, we feel more drained than fulfilled.

If there was ever a time when we needed to bring our maximum energy to everyday life, it’s present-day. After all, when the World Health Organization – pretty much the de facto international body on anything global health – calls stress a “worldwide epidemic,” it’s time to pay attention.

Stress management is a skill that requires us to be cognizant of our bodies. Unfortunately, not nearly enough of us play an active role in managing our stress levels. This is a critical error; we all know what stress can do to our energy levels.

In this article, we’re going to talk about fifteen habits that drain your energy, as well as share some cutting-edge stress management tips. Try implementing one or more of these tips into your daily life and see your life change!

15 Habits That Deplete Your Energy Reserves

Know these fifteen habits that will quickly drain your personal energy levels.

1 – Bad diet can zap your energy

Aside from water, food is undoubtedly the most important source of energy. Every part of our body, from the brain and heart, the liver and stomach, to our muscles and nerves, needs nutrients to survive. Our stomach digests the food that is eventually broken down into glucose and pumped through our bloodstream. This glucose comprises a critical component of mental and physical energy.

Energy management tip: First, make sure that you eat enough. You should be getting a minimum of 2,000 calories daily under normal circumstances. Second, prioritize healthy and nutritious (read: energy-producing) foods. Examples: lean meats, nuts, seeds, dark leafy green vegetables, citrus fruits, soybeans, whole grains, and low-fat dairy.

2 – Multitasking

Multitasking is officially a stupid and ineffective way to get work done. First, multitasking – for all intents and purposes – doesn’t exist (unless you count walking while chewing gum or some other monotonous task). Second, multitasking depletes your brain’s energy reserves by forcing it into “task switching.” This is far from the living, breathing task-juggling machine that “multitaskers” try and make themselves out to be.

Energy management tip: This one is straightforward. Do one thing at a time. When the bottom-up circuitry of our brain tries to interfere, redirect your attention back onto the task at hand.

3 – Complaining

Is it easy to go off on a complaint-infused tangent in today’s world? You bet it is – and it can even feel good for a little while. But, according to a study published in the Journal of Applied Psychology, complaining even once can send you down a steep, slippery slope of negative thinking. Moreover, this emotional hijack comes at a high energy cost.

Energy management tip: Learn to express legitimate discontentment healthily by getting to the root of the problem and working towards a solution. You’ll find that redirecting your attention towards something positive is both rewarding and far less taxing on energy levels.

4 – Dehydration

While you probably don’t need some study to tell you that dehydration can torpedo energy levels, here we go anyway. According to researchers at the University of Connecticut’s Human Performance Laboratory, a seemingly insignificant “1.5 percent water loss in normal (body) water volume” – or mild dehydration – can handicap a person’s ability to think clearly. Interestingly, the study notes “it (doesn’t) matter if a person … walked for forty minutes on a treadmill or was sitting at rest” – the damaging effects of dehydration on energy levels and cognitive performance were the same.

Energy management tip: Most experts agree that eight, 8-ounce glasses of water per day is optimal (more if you are physically active.) An easy way to check your hydration levels is to check the color of your urine. If it’s anything other than clear, you are probably not drinking enough.

5 – Iron deficiency

Per the World Health Organization, iron deficiency is the most prevalent nutrient disorder in the world. An iron shortage in the body means insufficient hemoglobin can be produced, depriving your muscles, tissues, and organs of oxygen. As a result, your body and mind can feel sluggish and run down.

Energy management tip: Vegans and vegetarians are especially prone to iron deficiency, as the mineral is the most abundant in fish, meat, and poultry. Therefore, it is necessary to acquire iron supplementation or a food substitute (e.g., iron-fortified cereal.) The RDA for iron between the ages of 18 and 50 is 8 mg for men and 18 for women. Over the age of 50, it is 8 mg across the board. Women who are pregnant should get a minimum of 27 mg daily.

6 – Not enough exercise could drain your energy reserves

Check this: researchers say regular, low-intensity exercise may increase energy by up to 20 percent while decreasing fatigue by 65 percent! Is any other explanation needed here?!

Energy management tip: Again, low-intensity exercise is far better than no exercise. Get out for a 45-minute walk, ride the bike, or take up a hobby that requires energy expenditure.

7 – Staring at your screen

The blue light emitted from cell phone screens messes with your body’s circadian rhythm (sleep/wake cycle), making falling and staying asleep more difficult. Of course, anything less than a full night’s sleep is counterproductive to energy levels.

Energy management tip: If you have a legitimate need to use your phone late into the night, consider installing a “night light” for your cell. Some Android phones are even coming with a built-in blue light blocker installed.

8 – Poor posture may drain your energy

More people may be guilty of bad posture than anything else on this list. Poor posture drains your energy levels by making you counterbalance uneven weight across your upper and lower body. In other words, your body must constantly adjust to compensate for your lousy form. Moreover, slouching puts disproportionate pressure on your back and spine, which can sap your energy.

Energy management tip: Learn to sit up straight. When you walk, try to imagine a parallel line running from the tip of your head and neck down through your spine and lower legs. You’ll never go back when you feel that extra energy jolt you get.

9 – Perfectionism

People who are perfectionists are often inflexible, fear failure, and have an unhealthy need for control. They attempt to overcome these feelings of inadequacy by trying to make everything just right. Unfortunately, such an approach to life is both unrealistic and exhausting. Research shows that perfectionist tendencies are linked to both chronic stress and burnout.

Energy management tip: The first step is to recognize procrastination in yourself. Contrary to popular belief, perfectionists aren’t always “squared away.” For example, many adults coping with perfectionism due to their deeply-rooted fears of failure are chronic procrastinators. Poor grades and work performance may continue if one doesn’t take a proactive approach – usually entailing things like meditation, deep-breathing techniques, visualization, and positive self-talk.

10 – Afternoon caffeine

That cup of joe to get through the afternoon slump is so lovely. Unfortunately, according to a research team from Michigan, caffeine intake within six hours of bedtime affects both sleep time and quality.

Energy management tip: Instead of indulging in a cup (or three) of java, try taking a short nap of 20 to 30 minutes. Hey, Google does afternoon naps, so there must be something to them!

11 – A messy desk can drain your energy

No messy desk research can pass the Einstein test. Perhaps history’s greatest genius had a famously unorganized workspace (putting it nicely). But, according to Princeton professor Sabine Kastner, clutter within our visual range competes with attention resources, sabotaging our energy and cognitive resources over time.

Energy management tip: What can it hurt to try a tidy desk?

12 – A thyroid condition

A defective thyroid can manifest all sorts of symptoms, including low energy. Hypothyroidism, an underactive thyroid, may also bring dry skin, increased sensitivity to cold, sluggishness, and weight gain. Consider speaking with a healthcare professional if you experience more than one of these symptoms.

Energy management tip: Ensure you get enough iron (see #5). Iron deficiency is one of the leading causes – if not the leading cause – of thyroid problems.

13 – Cabin fever

Staying cooped up indoors isn’t conducive to high energy levels. It turns out that we humans are nature creatures – and by making us work in crappy offices – our energy suffers. (Gee, who’d have thunk?)

Energy management tip: Per a series of studies published in the Journal of Environmental Psychology, spending just 20 minutes in nature boosts feelings of vitality. Richard Ryan, lead author and professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, says, “Nature is fuel for the soul. Often when we feel depleted, we reach for a cup of coffee … a better way to get energized is to connect with nature.”

Well said, good Sir!

14 – Saying “yes” too often

Some people find it difficult to say “No” to people. People wouldn’t take advantage of such noble generosity in a perfect world. In our world, however, per research out of Michigan State University, people with issues with the n-word are more at risk for work-related burnout and decreased productivity.

Energy management tip: The most straightforward way to overcome this problem is to overcome the wrong view that saying no is rude. When said politely, there’s nothing wrong with a polite, “I’m sorry, but no.”

15 – Nightcaps can drain your energy the next day

After work, relaxing with a cold beer or a nice glass of wine can feel heavenly. That is until your body tries to initiate and sustain sleep. Even small amounts of alcohol – a glass of beer or wine, for instance – are enough to impact sleep quality adversely.

Energy management tip: Save imbibing for the weekends when possible. For work-related functions and other celebratory events, try sticking with no more than one to two servings of alcohol.

Final Thoughts of Reversing the Habits That Drain Your Energy

Taking care of oneself is paramount to ensuring we can care for others and our responsibilities. It’s akin to the directive given by flight attendants before takeoff: in the event of an emergency, always secure your oxygen mask before assisting others. By ensuring our well-being and energy reserves are maintained, we’re safeguarding our health and enhancing our capacity to be present, effective, and supportive in all areas of our lives. By recognizing and adjusting the habits that drain us, we can reclaim our energy and approach each day with renewed vigor and purpose.

10 Signs You Have Chronic Fatigue (And How to Fix It)

June 3, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Chronic fatigue syndrome, also known as CSF, is a complex illness that affects approximately 17 to 24 million people each year. It can cause a wide array of symptoms, which can vary from person to person.

CFS is more than just being tired. It involves a feeling of ongoing fatigue, feeling unrefreshed even after sleeping and a variety of symptoms that worsen after physical activity. Myalgic encephalomyelitis, or CSF, cannot be diagnosed with a blood test. Diagnosis is made based on a person’s symptoms, overall presentation and exclusion of other illnesses.

While some people who have CSF rely on medical modalities and treatment to alleviate their oftentimes painful symptoms, others may use a more holistic approach for symptom management.

Causes

Although we don’t know exactly what causes CFS, it’s now believed to be triggered by specific genetic mutations that when combined with exposure to certain viruses or toxins, cause feelings of exhaustion, pain and host of other non-specific symptoms. Women are more likely than men to be diagnosed with CSF/ME.

Viruses like Epstein-Barr, enterovirus and Lyme disease may contribute to or exacerbate symptoms. In addition, disruption of the sympathetic nervous system may also be involved in the development of chronic fatigue. Physicians also speculate that in addition to viruses, there may be other contributing factors, which include:

A weakened immune system
Hormone imbalances
Stress

Symptoms

The symptoms of CSF can impact a variety of internal systems and functions and also vary dramatically. Viruses like Epstein-Barr, enterovirus and Lyme disease may contribute to or exacerbate symptoms. In addition, disruption of the sympathetic nervous system may also be involved in the development of chronic fatigue.

1. Widespread Pain

Almost everyone who suffers from CFS is going to experience pain or discomfort in one form or the other. This can range from cramping and headaches to almost unbearable widespread pain. The pain itself is often described as a soreness or an ache in the muscles. The sensation may start in one area and move on to the next.

Other people have described the pain as a either a sharp, shooting, burning, tingling and throbbing. In rare cases, CFS can cause a person to become extremely sensitive to heat, cold, light and touch, which can also cause pain.

2. Cognitive Impairment

One of the most common symptoms of CFS is having difficulty with thought processes. Cognitive impairment caused by CFS can present itself in many different forms. People who have cognitive impairment can have problems with remembering things such as recent conversations and where they placed certain items.

Trying to think and solve an easy problem can significantly reduce the energy levels of a person with CFS.

3. Sleep Disorders

CFS is also one of those illnesses that can cause sleep disorders. This includes an unrefreshing sleep, which is when a person feels exhausted despite sleeping for hours. Other sleep disorders include sleep apnea, insomnia, hypersomnia, restless leg syndrome, phase shifting, fragmented sleep and night sweats.

4. Overwhelming Fatigue

Fatigue is when a person suffers from a significant lack of energy. It’s been recognized by doctors that fatigue is a reduced ability to perform daily activities that were part of a person’s routine. The fatigue that comes with CFS usually lasts up to six months, however, it can last a lot longer if it’s severe enough.

When used in the context of CFS, fatigue is not used as a way to refer to someone feeling exhausted. People who suffer from chronic fatigue syndrome might not be able to get rid of the fatigue. In severe cases, getting extra rest may end up making the symptoms worse.

5. Exercise Intolerance

Exercise intolerance, also known as post-exertional malaise, is another common symptom of CFS. Basically, PEM is a deterioration of the symptoms that comes from an overexertion of physical and mental energy. If a person exerts too much physical and mental energy, they may feel their symptoms of CFS worsen for a few hours or days.

Many people have described this feeling as being completely drained. If a person pushes past their limits, it can be detrimental to their body’s health. That’s why it’s important to take things slow and pace yourself if you have CFS.

6. Dizziness

Dizziness is one of those symptoms that’s often associated with most cases of chronic fatigue syndrome. It’s basically a spinning sensation that can occur when a person is off-balance. Most people with CFS tend to feel dizzy when they get out of bed after a night of restless sleep.

7. Ongoing Sore Throat

Another common symptom of CFS is a persistent sore throat. It’s worth mentioning that these symptoms will last as long as the illness does. Luckily, easing a sore throat is very simple. You can accomplish this by either gargling salt water or taking medicine.

8. Swollen Lymph Nodes

Another hallmark symptom of CSF is swollen, tender lymph nodes that appear without infection. They usually present in the neck, under the arms and possibly in the groin. Since lymph nodes swell in response to an infectious process, it’s can be downright frightening to have swollen lymph nodes without an infectious source.

9. Allergies and Food Sensitivities

it’s not uncommon for people suffering from CSF tvero develop allergies or food sensitivities. Scents you used to find pleasant may now be off-putting, or you may find yourself coughing and sneezing although even if you never suffered from allergies in the past.

10. Ongoing Flu Symptoms

Many people suffering from chronic fatigue will feel like they have the flu, even when it’s not flu season. They may suffer from low-grade fevers, joint pain, stiff muscles, nausea and an overall feeling of being unwell. However, when given medication for the flu, symptoms usually persist.

Diagnosing CSF

Since many conditions present in the same manner, diagnosing CFS can be challenging. It’s estimated that 84 to 91 percent of all people suffering CSF still do not have a definitive diagnosis. Many people with CSF do not look ill, so some doctors may not take them seriously.

Before being diagnosed with CSF, your doctor will need to rule out other potential causes of your symptoms. They will go over your medical history and then confirm that you are suffering from the core symptoms of chronic fatigue syndrome. They will also want to know how long the symptoms have been going on, what exacerbates or alleviates them and the severity of your fatigue.

Some of the conditions that mimic CSF include:

Fibromyalgia
Hypothyroidism
Multiple Sclerosis
Depression
Lupus
Mononucleosis

Risk Factors

CSF is most commonly diagnosed in women between the ages of 40 and 50 years old. Although men are not immune to developing chronic fatigue, females are more likely to be diagnosed with the disorder. Other factors that may increase the risk of CSF include:

Environmental factors
Predispositon
Ongoing high levels of stress
Mental illnesses such as anxiety and depression
Allergies

Treatment

To date, there is no cure for chronic fatigue syndrome, nor is there one definitive way to diagnose the disorder. Since patients usually present with different symptoms, what works for one patient may not work for another. The best way minimize your symptoms is to work with a team of qualified healthcare providers.

Minimzing Post-Exertional Malaise

PEM occurs randomly, so it’s important to make lifestyle adjustments to minimize the ill effects. Pacing, also known as activity management, can help you balance periods of activity and rest to avoid flare-ups. First, you need to note your individual limits when it comes to physical and mental activities. Then, you need to create a strategy to stay within these limits and rest when needed. Some CSF specialists refer to this period as the “energy envelope.” Keeping a log can help you define your activity limits.

Lifestyle Changes

Lifestyle changes can help you gain better control over some of your symptoms including sleep disruptions, brain fog and post-exertional malaise. Because dealing with CSF can be stressful, it’s important to learn coping strategies and stress reduction techniques. In addition, sometimes eliminating alcohol, caffeine and eating a healthy diet can ease some of your symptoms.

Medication

Usually, there is not one specific medication to address all of your symptoms. Since the symptoms can wax and wane or even change, the medication you take will have to be adjusted. In some cases, CSF can cause or be a symptom of depression. If this is the case, you might need antidepressant therapy and referral to a mental health specialist.

Alternative Medicine

Yoga, meditation and acupuncture may also help to relieve the painful symptoms of CSF. As with any type of treatment, talk to your physician before undertaking alternative treatment.

The Takeaway

CFS can be difficult to live with. However, over time, you can learn different coping strategies that will help you feel like your old self. The key is to know that all hope is not lost. Researchers continue to study the disease in an attempt to eventually be able to diagnose and treat it more effectively. Advocate for yourself and make sure you work with a doctor who is dedicated to helping you feel better.

Psychology Explains 5 Secrets Of A Happy Relationship

June 2, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Let’s first talk about what a happy relationship is not, namely perfection. Even as adults, we have a remarkable tendency to stereotype. Let’s elaborate on stereotyping in the context of the “perfect relationship.” (Uh-huh…)

Consider the last couple you saw who looked visibly happy – like they knew some well-hidden secret that you didn’t.

Sure, you see playfulness, laughter, and affection – and most of it, if not all, is likely genuine. But what don’t you see? The ugliness. The arguing, complaining, and fighting. The screaming, shouting, and separation.

Nobody wants to display the ugly stuff. But it’s there for 99.9 percent of us in long-term relationships. It’s not visible, but it’s present. It may vary by degree but not in ubiquity.

A happy relationship is not anything close to a perfect relationship. Read that again, if you must.

A happy relationship involves two people who are – for the most part – satisfied with themselves and each other. They’re compatible and, yes, enjoy the occasional moment of glee and joy. It is the last feature of a happy relationship that involves certain “secrets.”

We’ll reveal some of those secrets of a happy relationship. First, let’s talk about the revealer of those secrets: Dr. John Gottman.

Dr. John Gottman: The “Marriage Whisperer”

“But in [the] day to day lives [of happy couples], they … hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other … from overwhelming the positive ones. They have [an] emotionally intelligent marriage.” – John M. Gottman (source)

Forget Dr. Phil (do yourself a favor). John Gottman is the preeminent mind in the field of marriage science today, perhaps ever. Especially if the subject revolves around keeping a couple together and happy.

Gottman – along with his research partner, Robert Levenson – began conducting relationship research over 40 years ago. It was one particularly noteworthy study that garnered widespread attention from relationship experts – a 15-minute observation where Gottman and his colleague sat back and watched couples trying to resolve some kind of conflict in their relationship.

In that brief 15-minute period, Gottman was able to predict the occurrence of eventual divorce in an astounding 90 percent of the cases. For emphasis: out of every ten couples who eventually divorced – who, by the way, came to Gottman with “some kind” of relationship conflict (note the ambiguity there) – the man was able to confidently point and say, “Yep, they’ll be divorced,” for nine of them.

What, specifically, did Gottman see that could account for such a remarkable number?

How each couple handled conflict.

The “Magic Ratio” Studies

“If there is one lesson I have learned from my years of research, it is that a lasting marriage results from a couple’s ability to resolve the conflicts that are inevitable in any relationship.” – Dr. John Gottman

There better be some serious (and provable!) knowledge when someone claims a “magic ratio” that all but guarantees relationship happiness. This skepticism is certainly understandable. After all, nearly one in every two marriages in the U.S. ends in divorce.

Fortunately, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues at the Gottman Institute have backed up their claims with exceptional research.

It all started when Gottman teamed up with Levenson at Indiana University in 1980. First, the duo studied the interactions of thirty married couples and was able to prove that relationship satisfaction is tied to a couple’s physiological responses toward each other. The validation of these initial studies led to the “Magic Ratio” studies.

In 1983, Gottman invited 79 couples of different ages into his observation lab. The goal: to predict behaviors or processes that led to divorce. Checking up on these couples four years later, Gottman was able to confirm his initial hypothesis: those who poorly handle relationship conflict are much more likely to get divorced.

These findings ultimately led to the “Magic Ratio.” According to Gottman, successful couples have five positive interactions for every one negative.

The Five Secrets

“When you are wrong, apologize. When you are right, shut up.” – Dr. John Gottman

As is apparent by now, couples whose relationship thrives engage in conflict differently than other, less successful relationships. Gottman calls these folks “Masters of Marriage” – and they have two things in common: (1) they gently approach conflict, and (2) they’re more proactive about reconciling differences.

In other words, it all comes down to how the man and woman handle conflict that makes the difference between a successful relationship and one that ultimately fizzles out. They have more positive interactions than negative. Hence, the 5-1 “magic ratio.”

Here are five of the positive, “secret” interactions that happy couples engage in:

Expressing empathy

Empathy is an intense form of human connection. Empathizing with your spouse during or after a conflict lets them know that you know how they are feeling and thinking. Simple expressions of empathy can go a long way – a simple nod or slight smile, for example. Verbalizing empathy is also important. Saying something like, “I understand how you feel” or, “It’s understandable why you think this way…” can work wonders.

Again, empathy is a profound relationship skill capable of both solving and healing conflict. More importantly, expressions of empathy reinforce to your partner that you’re both on the same team; some conflict, no matter how bad, doesn’t change that.

Lightheartedness

Playful behavior can be a wonderful asset – even during times of conflict – to ease tensions and lower defenses. The telling of inside jokes, says Gottman, can be particularly effective during times of heated conflict.

Of course, cracking jokes and otherwise being silly must be done skillfully and compassionately. Otherwise, one risks offending their partner or complicating an already uncomfortable situation. In other words, play around, but make sure such play is appropriate for the scenario.

Rapt attentiveness

Paying attention to what your partner says is always important (don’t shake your head!), but never more so when things have gotten serious. Too often, we tend to become defensive and emotional when stressed. When we’re not seeing eye to eye with the husband or wife, we should kick this emotionality to the curb and invite in logic and an even head.

Paying attention to what your partner says – whether its something that you agree with or not – is a token of love and respect. Keen attention is crucial during times of conflict to avoid misunderstanding and potential escalation.

Seeking agreement

As mentioned, happy couples are better at taking a proactive approach to resolving conflict than less-happy couples. Seeking agreement accomplishes two things: (1) it expedites the end to an ongoing conflict if there is one, and (2) it encourages intimacy by bringing both heads together to solve a problem.

Seeking agreement is often as simple as one half of the relationship saying, “Enough arguing, let’s figure this out.” Of course, this may require one person to swallow their pride for the good of the relationship. As we all know, this isn’t always easy to do amid a heavy conflict!

Showing affection

Speaking of something not easy to do mid-conflict. How about showing a bit of affection? While this may (okay, does) feel a bit awkward at times, it can bring a brisk end to any conflict; or at least make a resolution more likely.

Giving affection when times are tough is an act of courage and loyalty precisely because it’s hard. This added difficulty also makes such an act all the more special and rewarding. So, next time a conflict arises, try holding your partner’s hand, sneaking up behind them for a kiss, or simply saying, “I love you.”

Final Thoughts: Be Hopeful (and Don’t Fall For Quacks)

It’s always nice to share tips of happy, successful couples, particularly when they come from a brilliant pioneering mind like Dr. John Gottman.

But one of the more important messages by Gottman that isn’t mentioned as much is that many marriages are salvageable even when they seem hopeless. In this respect, Gottman, recommends seeking out relationship advice that is rooted in evidence and has been put into practice.

Therein lies a critical point: relationship advice rooted in evidence and put into practice. Some relationship “experts” – including some therapists – pay no mind to such details.

Evidence-based outcomes are incredibly important in the fields of psychology and therapy. There are plenty of people out there who would love to take your money for some “feel-good” advice that, while it feels good, isn’t worth a damn.

For example, the writer gently jabs at Dr. Phil earlier in the article. There is a good reason. Dr. Phil, while moderately entertaining and seemingly affable, is an entertainer whose therapeutic advice is often criticized by his colleagues in the mental health community. Dr. Phil’s (allegedly) misguided advice is especially troublesome when one considers that his show is seen by millions of people all over the world.

While you (thankfully) won’t check Dr. Phil’s availability any time soon if you choose to seek out help for your marriage, do yourself and your relationship a favor by ensuring that the individual holds the proper credentials. Marriage and family therapists (MFTs) are licensed mental health professionals in the United States.

Among the licensure requirements for MFTs are:

A Masters-level education in marriage and family therapy.
A period of supervised clinical experience (preceptorship, or “clinicals”)
Passing of credential evaluation or a state-administered examination.

10 Signs You Should Fight For A Broken Relationship

June 2, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Broken relationships are painful, awkward, and often very difficult to fix. Sometimes, it can be easy to feel like it’s time to give up, especially when you both know it’s broken. When all signs seem to suggest it should be over, how do you know it’s still worth trying to stay together?

The truth is that a relationship stops working when any one party decides to throw in the towel. If you both still have your hats in the ring of your battle against your problems, it might be a relationship worth saving.

Here Are 10 Signs You Should Fight For A Broken Relationship

1. Your Problems Are Fixable

Take a step back and think about the difficulties you face in your relationship. If you realize that, once you put down your ego and focus on what’s important, every issue you both face is fixable and solvable, it’s a sign that it’s a relationship worth saving. Now, there are some issues that can mean a broken relationship might not be worth fixing. These may include:

Abuse
Betrayal
Cheating
Lying
Manipulation
Incompatible goals
Going overboard during fights
A lack of willingness to fix things

If the problems you and your partner face are not these huge deal-breakers, that usually means they can be fixed – and you can fix them if you both put aside your pride and make a real effort to grow together.

Your gut feeling may also scream at you that you can still make it work. Listen to yourself, and listen to what you logically know. If you and your partner both express a desire to make it work, and neither of you has caused problems that cannot be solved at all, there is still hope.

2. You Are Physically Attracted To Each Other

In many cases, partners in a relationship may stop feeling physical attraction to each other as they grow apart. Many people overlook desire as a crucial part of an allosexual relationship, but it can really have a positive effect on your bond as a whole.

If you and your partner still feel attracted to one another and want to be intimate with each other, there’s likely hope for your relationship. If you’ve both grown bored of each other and no longer turn each other on, there’s little point sticking around.

Another similar sign is that you both still try to look good for each other. If you’re making an effort to appear attractive, it’s difficult for you not to enjoy each other’s appearance!

3. You Fight Healthily

Yes, at this exact moment in time, as you’ve both frustratedly yelled at each other and walked away seething in an attempt to cool off, you probably “hate” each other. But even in your most intense fights, you continue to maintain respect for each other. This means you and your partner don’t:

Insult each other
Get personal
Threaten to leave if the other person doesn’t listen to you
Turn an argument into a blame game
Manipulate each other
Show signs of verbal or physical violence
Threaten self-harm or suicide
Shout over each other
Belittle or invalidate the other person’s opinions or feelings
Bring up old baggage

Instead, when you fight, you:

Fight together against the problem
Listen to what the other person has to say
Are clear about what the problem is
Stay on track and are determined to solve the issue
Try to communicate effectively
Take a break if you need to
Look for compromises

4. You Don’t Care About The Other Fish In The Sea

Think about what would happen if you and your partner did break up or end things with each other. You’d suddenly be out in a big dating pool full of eligible singles, all who will be completely different from your partner. You’ll be free to have one-night stands, flirt around, and hook up with a crush.

Does none of that excite you? In fact, does it just turn you off completely? Do you refuse to think about being with anyone else? That’s a sign that you should fight for a broken relationship. It shows that, despite all your problems, your partner is still your number one, and you want to be with them. You can’t imagine anyone else by your side.

Do note that this shouldn’t stem from a fear of being single in general. It shouldn’t be about the anxiety that comes with being out of a safe relationship. Instead, it should be about your lack of interest in general in other people, even if they have qualities your partner lacks.

5. You Have Helped One Another Grow

You always should surround yourself with friends, family, and people who lift you up. If you and your partner have lifted each other up consistently and haven’t ever tried to drag the other down, there’s hope yet for the broken relationship.

Partners who bring out the best of each other are worth fighting for. You can rest assured and practice positive thinking knowing that your relationship can survive just about anything.

6. You Make Each Other Smile

It’s hard to smile when you’re fighting – but there are still many, many times that both of you laugh, chuckle, and grin together. Your inside jokes never get old. They know just how to cheer you up, and you do the same for them easily.

Someone who makes you smile is someone you can be happy with. If there’s just something about your partner that puts a smile on your face, it’s totally valid to fight to keep that amazing gift in your life.

7. You Are Best Friends

Temporary attraction, or superficial romance, can cause two people to stay together for a long, long time. You can love someone without liking them or who they are. You can enjoy the romance without really wanting to just hang out with a person casually.

Due to uncalled-for “friend-zone” jokes, many people scoff at the idea of being best friends with their partners – but it’s a very positive dynamic to have, and an important one if you want to keep fighting to stay together. Some signs your partner is your best friend include:

You go to each other about good news, bad news, problems, stories, and everything else.
They always make you smile or laugh.
You can do nothing together and feel comfortable and happy.
You share many things in common or try to get into the things the other person likes.
You can truly relax and be yourself around them.
Conversations about nothing, in particular, can last hours and be entertaining.
You really have a lot of honest fun with your partner, without doing anything overly romantic.
You go to your partner for advice.

When you’re best friends with your partner, you have a strong foundation of trust, togetherness, and understanding. That, alone, can be enough to make you want to fight for a broken relationship.

8. You Always Respect Each Other

You and your partner value each other as individuals. You think the world of each other, even when you’re mad. So even at times when you’re completely at odds, you always make sure not to cross certain lines, and you never think poorly of your partner, even when they infuriate you. Respect in a broken relationship also means that both of you:

Refuse to badmouth each other to friends and family
Never insult each other, even in your thoughts
Care about the other person’s side of the argument
Listen to and attempt to understand each other’s differing opinions
Are careful not to hit below the belt during heated arguments (and don’t say things you’ll regret later)
Appreciate and validate the other person’s opinions, even if you don’t agree with them, and even if that’s why you’re arguing
Communicate clearly, never expecting “subtle hints” to be understood and never giving the cold shoulder
Don’t ever aim to hurt the other person
Support each other wholeheartedly

If you and your partner still respect each other and want to be together, you can – and should – try to save the relationship.

9. Time Never Feels Wasted

Sometimes, partners in a broken relationship lament over the time they’ve wasted with that person. They think about all that they’ve invested into their partner and wish they’d never done it. If you can’t relate at all to these statements, you can still fight for your relationship.

When you think about the months or years you’ve been together, you don’t feel any sense of regret. You smile and feel proud that all that time was dedicated to this one special, incredible person – even if some of that time involved fighting, disagreements, or rough patches.

And, on top of that, even when you look back at the bad times, you still wouldn’t change much. You embrace your ups and downs wholeheartedly. You could never regret choosing to be with your partner – and therefore, there’s a good chance you won’t regret giving yourselves another shot.

10. You Can’t See A Future Without Them

At the end of the day, when you’re in a committed relationship, it’s because you want to be with that person for the rest of your life, or at least for the foreseeable future. If that has changed, and you can no longer envision a life with them, it’s time to call it quits.

But what if you try so hard to imagine your world without your partner in it, but just can’t? What if every single time you think about your future, they’re always a part of it? What if you feel heartache when you try to think about a life without them? If that’s the case, start getting your positive thinking going, because you should be fighting for the relationship.

Sure, sometimes you get mad at each other. But even then, when you think about it, you can’t help still envisioning that future together – and your partner does, too. It’s not because it’s safe, and it’s not because it’s easy – it’s because you want that future. So make it happen!

Final Thoughts On Some Signs You Should Fight For A Broken Relationship

There’s no one-size-fits-all sign that suggests your relationship should be fought for. Do note that any one of these signs doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is worth saving, but ticking off multiple signs certainly suggests it. If you and your partner are willing to put in the hard work to recover and grow stronger together, there’s nothing you can’t do.

5 Traits Men Look For In a Wife

June 2, 2019 by Power of Positivity

The main focus of this article is what traits men look for in a wife and, to a lesser extent, what women look for in a husband. But we will also discuss a few other things, including the extraneous factors that influence marriage success and failure.

Are there common traits that men look for in a wife? Well, if you look at the male species from a scientific, evolutionary viewpoint, there have always been “roles” that both men and women “play.” Both sexes depend – to varying degrees – on one another. So, from a pure genetics point of view, there must be shared characteristics that males seek in a mate.

All things considered, we humans are complicated creatures. Nowhere is this inherent complexity more evident than in relationships, particularly long-term relationships like marriage or partnership.

The writer argues that individual traits aren’t the only reason for this complexity. We must also consider both the environment and the exaggerated propagation of gender-based differences. We’ll discuss both of these factors here.

First, let’s get the skinny on marriage and divorce trends – including how traits, genetics, and individual quirks don’t tell the whole story.

The State of Marriage (and Divorce): It’s Complicated

Infidelity. Lack of communication. Financial difficulty. Increasingly infrequent intimacy. Unrealistic expectations. Weight gain. Lack of equality. Non-commitment.

If the research is any indication, divorce is a situation that occurs – to varying degrees – worldwide. Research shows that divorce rates vary widely across countries – from 7 percent in Vietnam to 71 percent (!) in Portugal (the latter having a predominantly Catholic population). The worldwide average is around 32 percent; in the United States, it’s approximately 43 percent.

A closer look at the available data shows that the marriage rate is also a widely fluctuating statistic. Islamic nations such as Algeria, Egypt, Iran, Jordan, Libya, and Tajikistan tend to marry considerably more often than others. For example, Tajikistan’s “crude marriage rate,” which indicates the number of marriages per 1,000 citizens, is 13.5.

Compare this number with Columbia, a country where just over two citizens (2.3) per thousand get hitched! Marriage is extremely rare in certain parts of Europe, as well. Just over three Italians (3.2) out of 1,000 tie the knot.

Why go through the trouble of mentioning these marriage and divorce statistics?

Because there is absolutely no denying the influence of one’s environment in the decision to pursue and sustain an intimate relationship or marriage. We see disproportionate marriage and divorce numbers all over the map, including in democratic countries, and in places where one’s “personality” does not rank high in importance.

In short, personality traits may matter less than we think! (Or is it that well over 90 percent of Italian women have such reprehensible character?)

What’s another thing that could drastically influence how we view marriage? The rarely-mentioned similarities (that’s right) between men and women. Read on, friend!

“Men are From Mars and Women are From…Mars?”

“… research consistently demonstrates that men and women are more alike than different …” – Jill P. Weber, Ph.D. (source)

Do you remember the bestselling book “Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus”? The 1992 title, which has sold over 15 million copies, claims that most relationship difficulties result from men and women having fundamentally different psychological makeup.

However, more recent research, including a meta-analysis of 42 studies conducted by the American Psychological Association (APA) titled “Men and Women: No Big Difference,” finds that men and women are “basically more alike than different on most psychological variables” including cognitive ability, leadership qualities, and personality traits.

Exceptions: men are more physically aggressive, naturally stronger, masturbate more, and tend to view intercourse while in uncommitted relationships more favorably.

Findings such as those cited by the APA could significantly impact the dynamics of all relationship types, especially marriage.

Janet Shibley-Hyde, Ph.D., psychologist at the University of Wisconsin at Madison, states that the misgiven sentiments between the genders particularly hurts communication, often to the point where “…men and women stop talking prematurely because they have been led to believe that they can’t change supposedly ‘innate’ sex-based traits.”

Sadly, given both the perpetuation and widespread acceptance of non-scientific gender-based differences permeating society, it could be some time before we begin seeing the opposite sex in a different light.

The Five Traits Men Look For in a Wife

Of the above factors notwithstanding, the traits or characteristics of a person are a significant part of the relationship equation, especially when the relationship evolves into something long-term like a marriage. As you perhaps already know from your dating ventures, compatibility – not necessarily similarity – is necessary for any successful relationship.

We’ve discussed at length two under-looked variables in determining marriage happiness and success (or lack thereof): environment and misinformation. With that solid base of background information firmly in place, here are five traits that men look for in a wife:

Mutual Attraction

“No way, really?!” asked no one. Joking aside, we are genetically programmed to procreate – and attraction is a key determinant.

Mutual physical attraction also plays a role in marriage satisfaction for both sexes. Males tend to place more emphasis on physical attraction in marriage than their wives. In a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, psychologists found that mutual attraction correlates highly with relationship satisfaction.

The authors do note the degree of separation between man and wife, stating this: “The significant effect of wives’ attractiveness on (relationship) satisfaction (was higher) than the … effect of husbands’ attractiveness on wive’s satisfaction.”

Intelligence

Smarts are highly desirable in a spouse. While the evidence does not find any link between intelligence and happiness, people looking for a long-term romantic relationship may prefer internal qualities, like intelligence, to anything external (e.g., looks or wealth).

In a fascinating 2018 study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, researchers from Aalto University in Finland and Temple University found a strong link between intelligence levels and marriage success. One specific type of intelligence – verbal – had the strongest corollary.

Honesty

At the risk of sounding cliché, all successful relationships – particularly marriage – hinge on both persons’ willingness to be truthful. Honesty encourages the growth of each person in a relationship while adding depth an intimacy not replicable by another personality trait.

In a 561-person male-majority study published in the Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality, 87 percent of participants cite honesty and trustworthiness as an important trait in a long-term partner; it fact, it stood as the highest of any attribute. How vital were external traits like wealth and material possessions? Not very. They ranked next to last and last, respectively.

Kindness and generosity

Most men are kind and expect the same from a wife. Warmness and kindness, measured in the study, stand among the most sought-after traits. These two attributes are surpassed only by honesty and truthfulness.

Not only is kindness highly coveted, but it also serves as a sort of “glue” that keeps people together. Studies show that the kindness of one’s spouse is the most accurate predictor of marital satisfaction and stability. This, along with emotional stability. A component of kindness crucial to relationship success and satisfaction is generosity with their spouse and others.

Similarity

While there may be something to the adage “Opposites attract,” it’s superseded by a trait that can be called “similarity.” In a 291-couple study conducted by researchers at the University of Iowa, scientists found that the couples that “were similarly matched in terms of attitudes and beliefs” are happier in their marriages than those with disparate personalities.

The researchers focused on traits such as attachment, introversion extroversion, and conscientiousness.

Final Thoughts: Happiness Is The One Measure

So, we have covered marriage and divorce rates, personality and character, and extraneous factors influencing the decision to marry. But don’t forget perhaps the most essential thing: individual happiness. To leave such a regrettable impression would be unfortunate.

Something more unfortunate would be to think someone knows what they want when, in fact, most people don’t. This is a big reason why people choose the wrong college major (guilty!), get divorced (guilty again!), and always seem to be swimming against the currents (darn!).

Perhaps the appropriate sentiment with which to end the article is this: no one can make you happy but you. If you’re a man and you’ve somehow managed to meet some angel with all five of the above qualities, it means precisely squat if you aren’t at least content with your life.

So, these are five traits men look for in a wife. The research says it’s accurate. Psychology says it’s legit.

Is it? Perhaps not. After all, we’re complicated folks.

Researchers Reveal People Who Like to Be Alone Are Smarter

June 2, 2019 by Power of Positivity

For the most part, psychologists seem to know what makes people happy. The majority of us, for example, love being out in nature, listening to music, hanging out with friends, and so on.

If you’re “highly intelligent” (we define this in the section “How is Intelligence Measured?”), you may have mentally okayed the nature and music bit. But the “hanging out with friends” thing? That one may have given you a bit more pause. So, if you like being alone, you may be smarter than others. Two psychologists believe that they have the reason why.

According to a paper published in the British Journal of Psychology, highly intelligent people score higher on self-reported measures of happiness with fewer people in their social circle.

Satoshi Kanazawa (read disclosure below) and Norman Li – both researchers in the narrow field of social evolutionary psychology – also show that the very intelligent also adjust better to population-dense environments, a relatively new evolutionary novelty.

In this article, we’re going to discuss Kanazawa and Li’s theory in the context of evolutionary biology (and, really, just try to make sense of the whole thing).

(Full disclosure: The paper, which is colorfully titled “Country roads, take me home … to my friends: How intelligence, population density, and friendship affect modern happiness,” is co-authored by evolutionary biologist Satoshi Kanazawa. Kanazawa has gained the reputation of being an offbeat, controversial character among his colleagues. )

How is Intelligence Measured?

We could carry on with this hotly-debated topic all day – and for good reason. Many scientists have been exceptionally bad at defining, identifying, and quantifying the abstract idea that is intellect.

But, for the purposes of this study, Kanazawa and Li used the Peabody Picture Vocabulary Test, a proper measure of verbal intelligence. Per the research paper, “verbal intelligence is known to be highly correlated” with general intelligence (g factor); hence, its use in the study.

For the study, the term “less intelligent” applies to individuals with an IQ of 81.39 and “more intelligent” applying to those with an IQ of 115.57. The former measures those at one standard deviation (SD) below the mean (average); the latter at one SD above the mean.

The data used in the study are derived from the larger National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health (‘Add Health.’) The Add Health study is one of the largest studies of adolescent and young adult demographics in the U.S. (if not the largest). The objectives of Add Health include quantifying the behaviors and experiences from adolescence to young adulthood.

A Crash Course in Evolutionary Psychology

The best definition of evolutionary psychology that the writer can find is “a theoretical approach to psychology that attempts to explain useful mental and psychological traits,” such as language, memory, and perception, in the framework of natural selection. Does that help? Not really? Agreed.

Okay, evolutionary psychology is how evolution has shaped our cognitive faculties, (i.e. our smarts) and the rest of our mind, as well as how our behaviors have changed over long periods. How’s that, better?

Sorry. Needed to introduce a bit of humor in the attempt to convince you that we’re not trying to make your (and the writer’s) brain implode.

Anywho, these two evolutionary psychologists think they’ve figured out that really smart people prefer flying solo more so than the rest of us.

Let’s see what they’ve got to say.

The Savanna Theory of Happiness

Kanazawa and Li argue, and their research seems to show, that a small part of the population seem to defy two well-known behavioral observations among the general population:

That people are generally happier when around fewer people
That people are generally happier when they socialize with friends more often

This small part of the population being the very intelligent. The theory proposes that people of average and high intelligence interact with a largely ancestral environment differently. More specifically, the highly intelligent are more likely to crave solitude and less human interaction than those of inferior intellect.

Why the “savanna theory of happiness”? Well, the word “savanna” refers to a prehistoric, rugged, grassy, open and sparsely-populated area; where “the buffalo roam,” if you will.

The images that may come to mind are the African savannahs, which have been filmed and photographed countless times. The African savannahs are among the most popular destinations for travelers visiting Africa, particularly those who seek a genuine safari experience.

Speaking of prehistoric, this time on the savannah brings us to the focal point of the duo’s theory. The geologic time period that the team uses as a reference is the Pleistocene Epoch, otherwise known as the “Ice Age.”

Evolutionary theory tells us it is during the Pleistocene period when the evolution of our modern anatomy occurred. Many evolutionary theorists believe our early human ancestors appeared during the “Middle Pleistocene” era – about 200,000 years ago.

The two independent factors measured in the study are population density and frequency of social interaction. Let’s get into what the research says about these two variables as they relate to the highly intelligent.

Population Density

Consistent with Kanazawa and Li’s hypothesis, population density negatively correlates with happiness. In other words, the more highly concentrated the population (‘x’ number of people per ‘y’ square miles/kilometers), the less satisfied people report being.

As the research team predicts, there is a stronger association between population density and life satisfaction in the less intelligent than the more intelligent. People who test on the lower end of intelligence tests have a more difficult time adjusting to high population density areas than those with higher intelligence test scores.

Population density is a novel theme in the story of evolution. For numerous hundreds of years, our ancestors lived on wide-open plains with small bands of people. Therein lies the key point of the savannah theory of happiness.

Here’s Kanazawa: “In general, urbanites have higher average intelligence than ruralites do, possibly because more intelligent individuals are better able to live in ‘unnatural’ settings of high-population density.”

Frequency of Social Interaction

“Alone is what I have. Alone protects me.” – Sherlock Holmes

Okay, so loners (the writer included) are going to love this one. As mentioned, Kanazawa and Li posit that smarter people genuinely “enjoy” people’s company much less often.

In “caveman” times, our ancestors traveled in – and sheltered near – closely knit groups of people (some call them ‘tribes’). Due to their dependence on one another for survival, these individuals probably needed to interact constantly.

Interestingly, this trend, for the most part, continues to present day. The continuation of this social phenomenon may be because the human brain hasn’t evolved much – at least structurally – since that early period.

The paper notes the hunter-gatherers of yesteryear when our ancestors lived in small bands of roughly 150 people. As mentioned, such settings required frequent contact with close friends, family members, and allies.

Fast-forward to today, and it’s clear that we have much more autonomy. Here’s Kanazawa on this (relatively) newfound autonomy and how intelligence plays a role:

“In general, more intelligent individuals are more likely to have ‘unnatural’ preferences and values that our ancestors did not have. It is extremely natural for species like humans to seek and desire friendships and, as a result, more intelligent individuals are likely to seek them less.”

In the quote above, Kanazawa argues that this lesser need for social stimulus is an evolutionary anomaly. When an evolutionary scientist mentions intelligence in terms of natural selection, they are usually talking about a person’s ability to adapt to environment, whatever that happens to be.

Since the human brain hasn’t structurally evolved much since that time period, the theory seems to make sense from a biological perspective. It would stand to reason that a fresh human brain would still observe and interpret the environment from a heavily ancestral perspective.

Final Thoughts: It Makes Sense, but…

Do smart people like being alone more? Perhaps they do. Is one’s measured intellect an indication for or against this preference? That one’s more difficult to ascertain one way or another.

There’s a famous saying that scientists love: “Correlation does not mean causation.” Meaning that just because two things seems related doesn’t mean that one causes the other – in this case, intelligence causing the desire to be alone.

While the study’s data seems solid, there exist reasons for skepticism.

First (and this has already been mentioned), is the problem of quantifying intelligence. I.Q. scores may have their value in certain applications, but most standard I.Q. tests do not account for (a) multiple intelligences (see Gartner’s Theory of Multiple Intelligences), or (b) cultural and environmental influences.

Second, evolutionary psychology has been hammered by scientists as being a heavily abstract science (note the paradox in those two words.) While we can hypothesize what our distant ancestors may have looked like and how their organs (including the brain) functioned, we will always have to rely on multiple assumptions – and assumptions of assumptions.

Tying intelligence to one’s social habits is a pretty big stretch. Fun to talk about, though.

Causes

Symptoms

1. Widespread Pain

2. Cognitive Impairment

3. Sleep Disorders

4. Overwhelming Fatigue

5. Exercise Intolerance

6. Dizziness

7. Ongoing Sore Throat

8. Swollen Lymph Nodes

9. Allergies and Food Sensitivities

10. Ongoing Flu Symptoms

Diagnosing CSF

Risk Factors

Treatment

Minimzing Post-Exertional Malaise

Lifestyle Changes

Medication

Alternative Medicine

The Takeaway

Expressing empathy

Lightheartedness

Rapt attentiveness

Seeking agreement

Showing affection

Mutual Attraction

Intelligence

Honesty

Kindness and generosity

Similarity

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15 Habits That Deplete Your Energy Reserves

1 – Bad diet can zap your energy

2 – Multitasking

3 – Complaining

4 – Dehydration

5 – Iron deficiency

6 – Not enough exercise could drain your energy reserves

7 – Staring at your screen

8 – Poor posture may drain your energy

9 – Perfectionism

10 – Afternoon caffeine

11 – A messy desk can drain your energy

12 – A thyroid condition

13 – Cabin fever

14 – Saying “yes” too often

15 – Nightcaps can drain your energy the next day

Final Thoughts of Reversing the Habits That Drain Your Energy

Causes

Symptoms

1. Widespread Pain

2. Cognitive Impairment

3. Sleep Disorders

4. Overwhelming Fatigue

5. Exercise Intolerance

6. Dizziness

7. Ongoing Sore Throat

8. Swollen Lymph Nodes

9. Allergies and Food Sensitivities

10. Ongoing Flu Symptoms

Diagnosing CSF

Risk Factors

Treatment

Minimzing Post-Exertional Malaise

Lifestyle Changes

Medication

Alternative Medicine

The Takeaway

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The “Magic Ratio” Studies

The Five Secrets

Expressing empathy

Lightheartedness

Rapt attentiveness

Seeking agreement

Showing affection

Final Thoughts: Be Hopeful (and Don’t Fall For Quacks)

Here Are 10 Signs You Should Fight For A Broken Relationship

1. Your Problems Are Fixable

2. You Are Physically Attracted To Each Other

3. You Fight Healthily

4. You Don’t Care About The Other Fish In The Sea

5. You Have Helped One Another Grow

6. You Make Each Other Smile

7. You Are Best Friends

8. You Always Respect Each Other

9. Time Never Feels Wasted

10. You Can’t See A Future Without Them

Final Thoughts On Some Signs You Should Fight For A Broken Relationship

The State of Marriage (and Divorce): It’s Complicated

Why go through the trouble of mentioning these marriage and divorce statistics?

“Men are From Mars and Women are From…Mars?”

The Five Traits Men Look For in a Wife

Mutual Attraction

Intelligence

Honesty

Kindness and generosity

Similarity

Final Thoughts: Happiness Is The One Measure

How is Intelligence Measured?

A Crash Course in Evolutionary Psychology

The Savanna Theory of Happiness

Population Density

Frequency of Social Interaction

Final Thoughts: It Makes Sense, but…

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