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Bolivian Man Finds A Way to Save Every Stray Dog From Hunger for Free

Unfortunately, many countries around the world have a huge stray dog problem. Some people abandon their dogs, breed too many, or can’t sell or care for them. Sometime dogs just run away from their owners. In any case, the rate of stray dogs is on the rise, especially in developing countries.

In Bolivia, for example, there are nearly 2 million dogs living on the streets, 42% of which people abandon because they can’t care for them.

Some Bolivians are taking action and doing what they can to help these dogs in need. Fernando Kushner, from La Paz, has committed his time to helping all the dogs he can. Because of his efforts, many stray dogs live happier lives. Read on to see how he’s positively impacted the lives of so many homeless dogs in his city.

Bolivian man reveals a way to save every stray dog from hunger for free:

Fernando got started helping stray dogs when he met this fluffy friend 4 years ago. After bonding with him, he was determined to help other dogs just like him who needed love and care.

A Bolivian Man Found a Way to Save Stray Dogs From Hunger, and We Can Do This in Every City for Free
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Fernando had a successful career as a brand marketer, but one stray dog changed the course of his life forever. One day, he was coming out of his yoga class when he spotted a stray nearby and offered him a piece of his sandwich.

When the dog licked Fernando’s hands and nuzzled his neck, he immediately felt a soft spot for the dog and connected with him. He came back the very next day to feed the dog. After feeding the dog a couple times, he knew he had found his true life purpose and gave up his career as a marketing executive to help feed stray dogs in his city.

Today, he spends all his time feeding hundreds of stray dogs in his city.

A Bolivian Man Found a Way to Save Stray Dogs From Hunger, and We Can Do This in Every City for Free
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Each day, he visits the same districts and leaves food for the dogs twice a day. He makes sure to leave the food in the same spots each day so the dogs can easily find it. You might be asking, “Where does he get all this food from?”

A Bolivian Man Found a Way to Save Stray Dogs From Hunger, and We Can Do This in Every City for Free
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Fernando goes to cafes, restaurants, and fast-food chains to collect excess food. Every day he fills up about 15 11-gallon containers, which hold chicken, bones, and other leftovers. The cherry on top is dog biscuits that he buys with his own money to top off each container. This amounts to every stray dog getting a meal of about 2 lbs of restaurant food and 0.5 lb of dog biscuits.

In the future, Fernando hopes to find others committed to the same missions so they can split up the work. But for now, he enjoys doing it solo. He posts photos of him and the stray dogs on Facebook to raise awareness and also show how people can help dogs in their city.

A Bolivian Man Found a Way to Save Stray Dogs From Hunger, and We Can Do This in Every City for Free
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Fernando says, “I have had 1,300 interviews with TV channels and newspapers both inside and outside of Bolivia. I am not a politician or a star that needs to be followed. I just do what I do transparently.” He encourages people to adopt and not buy so that stray dogs can have a home.

Just imagine: if everyone did this in their city, we could help the dogs who really need it and possibly give them a warm, safe place to call home.

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7 Hidden Ways Childhood Trauma Affects You As An Adult

The fact that childhood trauma – and the events that cause it – so prolifically exists is a tragedy. The fact that childhood trauma is so misunderstood, even by those responsible for the oversight of our social institutions is also a tragedy; this includes our law enforcement and criminal justice system.

Most people remain ignorant to the fact that childhood trauma, if not addressed, extends beyond childhood. This is also heartbreaking. Hence, the reason for this article. Besides the seven hidden ways that childhood trauma affects you as an adult, we’ll go over other critical issues, including:

  • The state of affairs as it pertains to childhood trauma
  • What’s being done about the increasing numbers of traumatized children and what needs to change.

Finally, we’ll wrap things up by discussing how you can help prevent childhood trauma.

What is Childhood Trauma?

“The experience of an event by a child that is emotionally painful or distressful, which often results in lasting mental and physical effects.” – The National Institute of Mental Health: definition of childhood trauma (source)

Childhood trauma occurs when a child experiences or observes negative events during childhood. Due to the impression (e.g. shock) of the event, the child develops psychological trauma.

Interpersonal trauma is that which originates in the child’s relationships. Examples of interpersonal trauma include emotional, physical, or sexual abuse; experiencing or witnessing violence within the family or at home, and experiencing or witnessing violence in a community (e.g. civil disturbances, armed conflict, asylum seeker trauma.)  A child who is emotionally and/or physically neglected may develop trauma.

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Trauma may also stem from a caregiver or parent trauma. Examples of this include:

  • A parent who is incarcerated
  • A parent who abuses alcohol or drugs
  • Parental ill-health
  • Parental separation (e.g. divorce)

Trauma may also be caused by natural disasters such as earthquakes, floods, or hurricanes; an act of violence (e.g. mass shooting or terrorist attack), and in other life-threatening conditions like a motor vehicle accident.

The ‘ACE’ Study

“We found a strong … relationship between … exposure to abuse or household dysfunction during childhood and multiple risk factors for … the leading causes of death in adults.” – Felitti, V.J., Et. Al (source)

According to the ‘ACE’ study, there are ten different types of childhood trauma across two categories: personal and environmental. Trauma of the personal type includes emotional neglect, physical abuse, physical neglect, sexual abuse, and verbal abuse. Environmental trauma relates to family members and includes having an alcoholic parent, living with a mentally ill family member, having a mother that is the victim of domestic abuse, or the absence of a parent following abandonment, death, or divorce.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) finds that children who experience Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ‘ACEs,’ are more likely to become future victims or perpetrators of violence. Researchers also found a strong correlation between ACEs and:

  • Disrupted neurodevelopment
  • Social, emotional, and cognitive impairment
  • Adoption of health-risk behaviors
  • Disease, disability, and social problems
  • Early death

How Trauma Manifests Into Adulthood

“Our study (suggests) that childhood trauma casts a long and wide-ranging shadow … (including) important domains of functioning.” – Copeland, W.E., Et. al (source)

As the ACE study demonstrates, psychological trauma experienced during childhood continues to affect the victim. Here are seven of the many “hidden” ways that trauma affects you as an adult:

1. Anxiety and Depression

Studies show that the brain of an adult who experiences trauma during childhood differs from that of an adult who does not. Per a study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, the brain images of adults with a history of childhood trauma show “scar of prior trauma … in functional dysconnectivity.” These abnormalities appear to correlate with wide-ranging symptoms of major depressive disorder or MDD.

Other networks of the brain impacted include multiple areas of the resting-state network (RSN), attention and sensory systems, and the default mode network.

2. Substance Abuse

A probable link exists between the stress levels experienced during childhood and those experienced in adulthood. Maltreatment of a child heightens their reactivity to adverse stimuli. Over time, these responses may cause long-term changes in the brain’s neural networks. A stress response that is easily triggered makes one susceptible to alcohol and drug dependency, as is seen in adult victims of childhood trauma.

3. Social Difficulties

It stands to reason that victims of childhood trauma. That’s because those whose trauma stress from maltreatment like bullying, neglect, or physical abuse, have trouble in their relationships. We see these difficulties in common adult behaviors such as fear of commitment, separation anxiety, and social anxiety. Per a study published in the Journal of Trauma and Dissociation, “… a significant relationship [exists] between [childhood] trauma history [and] all aspects of social functioning.”

4. Health Problems

As explained in the ACE study – and repeated again here – adult victims of childhood trauma are probably at a higher risk for multiple health problems. These ailments include cancer, heart disease, obesity, stroke, and others. Additionally, mental health problems include anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and suicide.

5. Lost Opportunities

A link exists between victims of childhood trauma and career satisfaction, median income, and education levels. It appears that such adults have trouble with achieving or setting life goals long after their childhood has ended. Possible reasons for this include lack of adult guidance, cognitive underdevelopment, and poor socioeconomic conditions during childhood.

6. Low Self-Esteem

Emotionally neglected children will not receive the self-esteem that they require of their caregivers or parents. As a result of this neglect, the child will grow up with a poor self-image and a skewed sense of self-esteem. If not corrected via psychological intervention, self-care, or some other means, it is probable that the individual will live their entire life with a false sense of self. Tragic, indeed.

7. Lack of Direction

A child who isn’t given direction by anyone will probably develop into an aimless adult. In fact, many smart and talented people who “waste” these traits never had a good role model or even a basic knowledge of their world. So how can we expect such poor souls to live to their potential?

Preventing Childhood Trauma and Seeking Help

As adults, we should take it upon ourselves to help children who may be suffering. In this regard, recognizing potential signs of trauma in children and adolescents is a critical part of prevention. Common childhood responses to trauma are classified according to three age groups: five and younger, six to 11, and 12 to 17.

Children at or below five years may:

  • Be excessively tearful or have crying fits
  • Cling to caregivers or parents
  • Complain often of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical symptoms
  • Display extreme irritability
  • Return to bed-wetting or thumb-sucking
  • Throw temper tantrums
  • Reenact the traumatic event during play

Between six to 11, children may:

  • Be unable to concentrate
  • Complain often of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical symptoms
  • Develop irrational fears (e.g. dying)
  • Distance themselves from family and friends
  • Experience sleep problems (e.g. inability to sleep, refusing to go to bed)
  • Have trouble with school and schoolwork
  • Lose interest in once-enjoyable activities
  • Spend a disproportionate amount of time alone

At the ages of 12 to 17, kids may:

  • Become angry or resentful
  • Complain often of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical symptoms
  • Lose empathy for others
  • Experience sleep problems
  • Lose interest in activities
  • Refuse any type of help for any personal problems
  • Use or misuse of alcohol, drugs, or tobacco

You can take the ACEs assessment for free here. Indeed, this is an outstanding resource for adult victims is the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies or ISTSS. On the organization’s homepage, you can find the following:

  • Trauma assessment tools
  • Options for treatment
  • Education and research
  • Meetups and events

18 Photos That Perfectly Capture The Bond Between Parents and Children

Parents and children have an unbreakable bond that stands the test of time. No matter what they might go through together, they remain strong and overcome anything that might threaten their relationship. No one’s relationship with their parents or children is perfect, of course, but in the end, they see the big picture and act from a place of love and compassion.

We hope you enjoy these photos of parents and children bonding, because there is really nothing more beautiful in the world than that.

18 Photos that Perfectly Capture the Bond Between Parents and Children

1. This dad went the extra mile at his son’s graduation. Bet he had the best tie out there!

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2. We’ve all been there, trying to beat a hard level in a video game. However, not every mom is as awesome as this one! (We’re definitely jealous.)

My Mom helping me through a hard level in Super Mario Land on the day Nintendo Gameboy was released.

3. Parents and children who play games together have more chances of bonding. Plus, this is just adorable.

My father teaching my sister Go, 1992
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4. This is definitely a bittersweet photo, but this mom is trying to do her best for her daughter and that’s what counts.

Homeless Mother Dressing Her Daughter For School
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5. Parents and children who work together have a bond unlike any other. And in this job, you need all the support you can get.

Mother and daughter crime-fighting duo in New Zealand
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6. A chain of smiles. Grandpa smiling at his son, who is passing it right on to his daughter.

A dad loving the sight of his son being a dad
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7. This dad is showing his son what it’s like to be in the driver’s seat at an early age, and he can’t wait for his son to chauffeur him around someday.

Can’t wait for the day when this little fella will drive me around
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8. Another awesome mother-daughter duo working together! They definitely have a fun job.

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9. Look how excited this family is that their favorite team scored! Such a great bonding experience.

10. When parents and children come together, anything is possible. How cute is this little family…

11. This dad is already showing his son the importance of art. Way to go!

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12. You’re never too old to hug your Dad!

My dad and I recreated a tender moment 34 years later
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young mother cherishes her infant baby

13. It looks like the hobby of riding motorcycles has been passed down through this family, and hopefully it will carry on with the little guy on the right.

My dad created my love of motorcycles, I’m hoping to do the same with my kids.
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14. What a unique and silly way to celebrate getting married! Parents and children who laugh and have fun together will always have a special place in each others’ hearts.

Got some of our wedding photos back! This is my favourite one of my mum and I
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15. “Being a dad is the best.” Many dads out there wholeheartedly agree with you!

Being a dad is the best. Glad I found this subreddit.
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16. This daddy is already teaching his daughter how to have good form when doing a plank. I’d say this is a parenting win!

17. So many emotions are captured in this photo. It’s a sad, yet triumphant moment for this young girl but at least her mother got to be there to hold her hand during one of the greatest accomplishments of her daughter’s life.

Girl graduates in front of her terminally ill mother.
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18. This photo of a policewoman and her baby in India is simply beautiful.

Parents and children have such a unique and special bond. Which of these photos was your favorite? Share with us in the comments!

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15 People Who Did Something Small To Change The World In Big Ways

“Never believe that a few caring people can’t change the world. For, indeed, that’s all who ever have.” – Margaret Mead 

If you want to change the world, you can’t always wait on someone else to take action. Sometimes, you have to take charge if you see a problem and offer a solution in your community.

Many people wish the world would change, but few actually take initiative to make those changes. Fortunately, the people below saw a problem and knew that they could jump in to help, or find someone who could assist them. As much as we want to believe the world is evil, there are plenty of good-hearted, selfless people in it that just want the Earth and all its creatures to live in harmony.

If you want inspiration on how you can make a change, read on to find out what these people did to positively impact the world.

15 People Who Did Something Small to Change the World in Big Ways

1. Even though this man needs a walker to get around, he spends time picking up trash in his neighborhood each morning.

For at least 13 years, rain or shine this little old man spends EVERY morning walking around our tiny town picking up trash.
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2. Picking up trash is one of the easiest ways to change the world, and this guy is taking it to the next level!

My good friend picks up several bags of trash every day during his trip from Indiana to the tip of South America. He’s currently halfway through Central America and still cleaning up the world along the way.
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There may not be any trash to pick up after this guy is done!

3. This kind man took this owl under his wing while they waited for animal control to show up. What a sweet guy!

Dude wrapped an injured owl inside his jacket at the park before a right before a soccer game. He hung out with it until animal control showed up!
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4. Rescuing animals and releasing them back into the wild is a simple, yet effective way to change the world.

This owl just wanted a nap, but we’re sure it was thankful to get rescued from a potentially dangerous situation!

5. To shelter the police dogs from the cold in her community, this lady made blankets for all of them!

This lady made blankets for all of the dogs in the Boulder County K9 unit

6. Instead of using her birthday money on herself, this girl spent it on the animals at her local shelter.

This girl turned 10 and used all her birthday money to buy toys for an animal shelter.
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7. This man is a local hero! Imagine what we could do if all of us did this in our communities!

There’s a guy in my town that has been quietly doing the #trashtag cleanup for years, combining it with running events and even printing T-Shirts and medals. This is the hero we don’t deserve!
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8. Even at the risk of losing business, this laundry shop took in a stray dog to save it from potentially being euthanized.

Saving a dog from the dogcatcher
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9. To change the world, simply look beyond yourself and realize that you can change someone’s life for the better. Lots of homeless people were probably grateful for this incredible act of kindness.

Here’s what 325.67lbs. of recovered food waste looks like. Instead of a dumpster, this food will create almost 300 meals for the homeless. #StopHunger r/StopHunger
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10. When a whole community comes together, anything is possible.

Received a note from a volunteer that these folks were in need of help – elderly couple that couldn’t take care of their yard. Reached out to the amazing Reddit community and volunteers took care of it today. Thanks to everyone from r/Denton – you are truly wonderful!!
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11. What an amazing act of kindness. Look out for each other and everyone wins.

The older man was paused at the top of an escalator afraid to hop on. This young man offered the simplest kindness: an out-reached arm and a “can I help you on, sir?”
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12. This guy makes a drive every week to save dogs from being put down and brings them back to no-kill shelters in his area.

Thursday nights I drive from Detroit to Toledo, collecting dogs from their local kill shelters to bring back to MI.
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13. What a cute gosling who got rescued by some amazing people. 🙂

Friends at work found this loose goose in the garden at the office. Another set of wonderful friends are taking it in until at least it grows feathers!
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14. Check out yet another example of what happens when a group comes together to change the world in their own way.

A group cleaning up around one of the statues in DC the other day. Nice work!
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15. Everyone is both a student and a teacher. When we remember this, we can move mountains.

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101 Things to Never Stop Saying in Your Marriage

Sometimes we underestimate the power of words in marriage. Words can bring feelings of joy or misery; pleasure or pain.

Even the simplest words have in them the power to heal or wound.

This list includes 101 simple things to never stop saying in your marriage.

    1. I love you: Start every day with the three magic words.

    2. I’m sorry: You screwed up. It’s okay! Just apologize.
    3. I believe in you: Every one of us needs encouragement, especially your love.
    4. You can do it: We all lack confidence at times. Remember that.
    5. Thank you: Be thankful for everything you spouse does for you.
    6. You’re right: Don’t be stubborn.
    7. I was wrong: Again, don’t stubborn.
    8. Please forgive me: Ask for forgiveness when it’s called for.
    9. I trust you: Trust is critical, but you already know that.
    10. You made the right decision: Reassurance, anyone? Again, we all lack confidence at times.
    11. I want you: Straight to the point. Head to the b-room.
    12. Tell me about it: Nothing says “he loves me” or “she loves me” more than lending an ear.
    13. I want to understand: This is great to say when your partner’s hurting.
    14. Let’s do it your way: Right? Isn’t their way better?
    15. We’re in this together: Because you are.

    16. Let’s start over: To new beginnings!
    17. I took care of it: How magical is it when your spouse does what you need them to do without asking?
    18. Let’s make love: Oh, yeah.
    19. You’re the only one for me: “Gosh, I hope so.” (LOL)
    20. I don’t know where I’d be without you: A wonderful saying of appreciation.
    21. Try it and see what happens: Throw caution to the wind, sweetheart!
    22. You look amazing: The wife loves this one.
    23. I’d like to help: Sometimes you aren’t given much to go on. Offer help anyways!
    24. I couldn’t have done it without you: Remember that you’re a team. In everything.
    25. I’m not going anywhere: Except when they really don’t want to talk to you. Then it’s okay.
    26. I missed you: Another way of saying that you love being in their presence.

    27. It’s your turn: Yes, husband and wife should take turns as well.
    28. You are so selfless: There is no greater compliment to give a person. Sincerely.
    29. I’m thinking about you: Again, the wife loves this one.
    30. Good morning: What better way to start your day than the love of your life saying, “Good morning”?
    31. Good afternoon: Or Good afternoon. Same principle applies.
    32. Good night: Or “Good night.”
    33. Have a great day: A wonderful way to send your man or woman on their way.
    34. How was your day?: Rewind, breathe, recap.
    35. I’m proud of you: No explanation needed. Heartening and lovely words to hear from your spouse.
    36. You make me happy: They probably already know that, but tell ‘em anyways.
    37. You make me want to be a better man: Anyone remember when Jack Nicholson dropped these words on Helen Hunt in the movie “As Good as It Gets”? Wasn’t it sweet?
    38. What do you think?: When you need some feedback.
    39. How does that sound?: When you need some assurance.
    40. You are so beautiful/handsome: No explanation necessary. Enjoy your goodwill.
    41. Do the best you can: As this is all that matters in everything worth doing.
    42. Let’s have a date night: “Okay!”
    43. Please: Be polite.
    44. You’re my best friend: Say it like you mean it.
    45. I’m always here for you: When you feel they need you.
    46. If you need me, I’m there: When you feel they need you.
    47. Do you want to talk about it?: Sometimes it’s necessary to ask for the invite.
    48. When you’re ready to talk, I’m here: Assuring your willingness to lend an ear.

    49. How can I help?: If your spouse needs you, this question should always be asked.
    50. We’ll make it better: Life is no picnic, but it’s much easier to navigate with a confident partner.
    51. How can I make it better?: Sometimes, you can’t. But it doesn’t hurt to ask.
    52. I’ll do what it takes: Say this, but make sure that you mean it before doing so.
    53. Let’s catch up on things: Don’t let the busyness of life come between you and your spouse.
    54. Let’s shake things up: Life can be a bit dull, but marriage doesn’t have to be.
    55. You are my soulmate: How deep are these four words?
    56. Can I give you my opinion?: Not “Here’s what I think…”
    57. I need to be alone: It’s okay; just make it known.
    58. I’ll be home soon: Being away from home can be hard.
    59. I’ll take care of it: Magic to a husband’s or wife’s ears.
    60. I think this will help: It does no good to have the potential solution to a problem and not speak up.
    61. I’m so lucky to have you: Yes, you are. Let them know it.
    62. Get some rest: For when your partner needs a bit of R&R.
    63. Let me give you a massage: ‘Nuff said.
    64. Don’t worry: Said with empathy, these can be the two most comforting words in the English language.
    65. Your family is so great: Your spouse probably knows that you love their family, but they still love hearing it.
    66. You friends are so great: And again here for their friends.
    67. I really appreciate you: Notice their sacrifices and voice your appreciation.
    68. You are awesome!: “Why, thank you!”
    69. You are my protector: A bit cheesy, perhaps, but powerful.
    70. You’re a great mother/father: The ultimate compliment.
    71. You will be a great mother/father: The ultimate compliment for the future mom or dad.
    72. You are so smart: Intelligence is sexy. Your spouse will love this one.
    73. I love being with you: Never gets old.
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    74. You are so kind: It’s not just about how you treat your spouse, but how you treat everyone. Few kudos are better to hear than this one from your spouse.
    75. You’re the strongest man/woman I know: Guaranteed to brighten their day!
    76. Let me hold you: No sex, no problem. Cuddle time!
    77. Give me your cheeks: This one’s for you, honey!
    78. You’re so funny!: If you’re a husband hearing this from your wife, see #18.
    79. It’s an honor to be your husband/wife: They chose you. Remember that.
    80. I love how you think: Again, intelligence is sexy!
    81. I have a surprise for you!: “Oh, goody!”
    82. I can’t wait!: And the anticipation grows…
    83. You are such a hard worker: Who doesn’t take pride in providing for their family?
    84. We are such a great team: Say this and it’s a cause for celebration. Truly.
    85. Thank you for your help: Taking a few seconds to thank your spouse for their help shows your willingness to recognize and honor their selflessness and hard work.
    86. I had so much fun: Okay, so this one might sound “date-ish,” but give it a shot!
    87. I trust your judgement: Marriage is all about trust. Trust in judgement may be the most important.
    88. I know you will do what’s right: Encouraging words when your spouse faces a dilemma, known or unknown.
    89. You’re my rock: True story.
    90. I respect you so much: Continued respect is a must in any healthy marriage.
    91. You inspire me: You may surprise your spouse by uttering these words. It’s an awesome surprise.

    92. We have a great life together: You do!
    93. What can I do?: A heartfelt way of telling your spouse that you’re standing by.
    94. Come and sit with me: Take a few minutes to catch up. How’s life?
    95. Let’s do what you want: When you think ‘pizza and a movie night’ is getting old. (Or is it?)
    96. I’m so grateful for you: Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude!
    97. I love your lips: Say this and go immediately to
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    98. I love your natural smell: This is romantic stuff.
    99. Let’s eat!: “Bon appetit!”
    100. Don’t be afraid: Seriously romantic words when uttered at the right time.
    101. I love you: And, of course, end every day of your marriage with the three magic words!

Final thoughts

With positive thinking, remember that it will take every bit of yourself to accomplish all these things to make your marriage a success.

“People say I love you in different ways. I love you means baking a batch of unexpected cookies. I love you means having coffee ready in the morning. I love you means picking up clothes with a sigh but not a reprimand, I love you means you made me so angry but I’ll button my lip. I love you means you made me so angry and not buttoning lip but knowing it will be worked out in the morning.

I love you means tucking someone’s mistakes in without them knowing they even made them. I love you means omg did you just fart? and not running from the room. I love you is not verbal, it’s a thousand other things.” – Lisa Ross

However, your efforts will be worth it when you’re doing this for the great love of your life.

Scientists Explain 5 Hobbies That Make You Smarter

Any activity that stimulates your brain may improve your intelligence. Yes, you read that right. Even some television shows (think The History Channel or National Geographic) can make you a smarter egg. Of course, you want to find the right hobbies that can make you smarter.

Not all hobbies are created equally, however. Lounging about glued to the tube will do next-to-nothing for your smarts. The same goes for “hobbies” like social media (blah!) or reading up on celebrity gossip in the latest issue of “Trash Magazine.”

We’ll focus our attention on five hobbies that make you smarter according to scientific research. You may be wondering, “How in the heck can a hobby make me smarter?” To dispel some of this disbelief, allow us to explain the concept of neuroplasticity.

Your Brain Is Plastic

“Your brain – every brain – is a work in progress. It is ‘plastic.’ From the day we’re born to the day we die, it continuously revises and remodels, improving or slowly declining, as a function of how we use it.” – Michael Merzenich, Ph.D. (source)

If you take just one thing away from the article, let it be this: your intelligence is not fixed. Around two decades ago, most individuals – even some mainstream scientists – thought that the brain was hard-wired and immutable. However, research continues to prove and demonstrate that the brain does in fact change with experience – a process known as neuroplasticity.

Neuroplasticity is defined as “the ability of the brain to form and reorganize synaptic connections, especially in response to learning or experience or following injury.” Neuroplasticity happens when new thoughts and skills carve out new neural pathways – groups of neurons that connect distant areas of the brain and nervous system. Repetition and practice of these new thoughts and skills strengthen these neural pathways and help to form new habits.

The bottom line: with directed attention, repetition, and effort, we can create new neurons in the brain, effectively rewiring it. David Smith, M.D., co-author of the book Unchain Your Brain breaks this process down into four specific steps:

  1. Set goals:

You don’t need to plan your life 30 years in advance, but having one or two concrete goals will help to sustain your motivation and drive.

  1. Recognize your triggers:

What things tend to send you down the rabbit’s hole of timewasting? Social media? Text messages? Aimless web surfing? Whatever your triggers happen to be, find ways to work around them.

  1. Make conscious decisions:

Most people are on autopilot. That is, they are at the mercy of unhealthy impulses and habits. Autopilot mode sabotages more people’s success – more people’s lives – than any other human tendency. Get into the habit of making conscious decisions. You can start by setting your intentions for the day, every morning.

  1. Seek pleasure and reward from healthy pursuits:

Whenever you achieve something notable, it is a good idea to reward yourself. (The brain has this thing with rewards, cues, and so forth.) You deserve the reward, so give it to yourself! Just don’t go overboard with it. Stay disciplined.

A hobby can serve as number one, three, or four in the list above. That said, let’s delve into some healthy, smart hobbies that’ll make you sharp!

Hobbies That Will Make You Smarter

  1. Practice meditation

It’s well known that long-term meditation often leads to significant cognitive gains. What’s less clear is the cognitive impact, if any, of short-term meditation. That is until a team from Wake Forest University and the University of North Carolina decided to put short-term mindfulness meditation to the test.

In an astounding study published in the journal Consciousness and Cognition, researchers discovered that individuals who meditated for 20 minutes over a period of four days – 80 minutes total – showed drastic improvements in verbal fluency, visual coding, working memory, visuospatial processing, and executive functioning. The participants also reported reduced fatigue and anxiety and increased awareness. Regarding fatigue and anxiety, the research team found that meditation over a short period may prove more beneficial than long-term meditation.

  1. Pick up a book

If you’re a bookworm, you’re probably smarter than average. Exposing yourself to new vocabulary enhances verbal aptitude, and correlates with higher scores on tests of general intelligence.  In an interesting study published in the journal Child Development, researchers found a “developmental process that … causes intelligence differences: learning to read.” Moreover, reading ability is shown to be associated with improved health, education, socioeconomic status, and creativity.

It worth mentioning that the authors point to activities like learning mathematics, doing physical activity, and practicing self-control as potential ways to boost intelligence in kids.

  1. Learn a second (or third!) language

Now that we’ve established the link between reading ability and smarts, let’s talk about verbal skills! Per one particularly viral 2012 New York Times article titled “Why Bilinguals Are Smarter,” the writer notes, “… a number of (studies) suggests that the bilingual experience improves the brains … executive function … (which includes) planning, solving problems and performing various other mentally demanding tasks.”

Particular areas of cognition where bilinguals appear to have an advantage include both focus and divided attention.

Bilingualism may carry other advantages besides making you smarter. For one, learning another language may have neuroprotective properties against dementia-related conditions such as Alzheimer’s disease.

  1. Play (the right) video games

Video games sometimes get a bad rap. Some of the criticism is justified, and some is way overblown. (Provided we’re not among those Americans watching an average 35 hours of television per week, who are we to say anything about entertainment choices?)

Anyways, it turns out that video games can indeed improve cognitive ability. A study by the University of Toronto finds that people who regularly play action titles, like “Assassin’s Creed” or “Call of Duty,” are more adept at learning new sensori-motor skills than those who don’t. Skills that rely on this neural network including typing, riding a bike, or driving a car.

Researchers at York University found that people who play certain strategy games – including within “Multi Online Battle Arenas” (MBOAs) and “First-person Shooter” genres – at a high level correlates with high IQ in certain demographics.

  1. Solve a puzzle

Brain teasers like sudoku, crosswords, and others can test your selective and focused attention, mental flexibility, creativity, and general intelligence. Puzzles that stretch your cognitive limits are considered to be the most beneficial. (Read: No “word searches.” Dang it!)

Some say that for a puzzle to actually make you “smarter,” it must challenge the limits of your cognitive ability. Neuroscience demonstrates that it is when the brain is operating in this mode that real neuronal growth occurs, including in the cognitive areas of processing speed, reasoning, and working memory.

Final Thoughts: Simple Brain-boosters Other Than Hobbies

brain boosters

An enjoyable hobby is a wonderful way to pick up a few I.Q. points, but it’s far from the only way. Here are a few tips:

Stay hydrated. A boring suggestion? Maybe. But water is critical for proper brain function. If you aren’t drinking enough H2O (at least 64 ounces per day), you could feel a bit sharper by increasing your intake.

Take gingko biloba. Gingko is one of the most thoroughly-researched brain supplements. Multiple studies suggest that it improves attention, memory, and other cognitive functions.

Brew some java. Coffee lovers, rejoice! The caffeine in coffee not only improves alertness, but processing speed, attention, and problem-solving skills. If you can’t stick to two cups, you needn’t worry! Some research shows that a few cups is just beautiful! Caveat: make sure to bring your water bottle, as coffee has a diuretic effect.

Get your omega-3s. Docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) is a fatty acid found in fish. DHA supplements may work as a brain booster by speeding up cell communication in various parts of the brain. This finding isn’t too surprising, as the lining of our brain cells is highly concentrated with fatty acids.

Eat dark leafy greens. Foods like spinach, Brussels sprouts, asparagus, and others come packed with brain-boosting vitamins and minerals. Magnesium, calcium, and zinc – as three of the most important ones – are all found in high doses in these foods.

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