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8 Behaviors That Reveal Someone Has High-Functioning Anxiety

People who have high-functioning anxiety are affected to varying degrees. On the lower end of the scale, anxiety produces symptoms so subtle that they hardly register at the conscious level. At the other end, an anxiety condition such as panic disorder can leave one paralyzed, withdrawn, and unable to normally function.

Most individuals fall somewhere along the lower to middle end of the spectrum, experiencing symptoms that are mild to moderate. From an outsider’s perspective, there may be no visible signs of distress from such a person. Such a scenario describes someone with high-functioning anxiety quite well.

“High-functioning anxiety” is not an actual medical diagnosis. Instead, high-functioning anxiety describes a manifestation of the condition. People who fit this description almost never show that something is wrong; on the contrary, this person appears driven, even-keeled, productive, and even happy.

Here are eight behaviors that reveal someone has high-functioning anxiety:

1. They’re High Achievers

People who function, yet have high levels of anxiety, are likely to make up for their racing thoughts and restlessness by staying busy. While this may not sound too bad, continually thinking about the need to do something can quickly render them exhausted. Furthermore, high-functioning anxiety often manifests as a chronic sense of underachievement despite a track record of success.

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2. They’re Control Freaks

 Anxiety often leads to either uncomfortable apathy or the need to control one’s environment. High-functioning anxiety usually leads to the latter. The problem is that when the need to control things extends to that which is uncontrollable, the individual runs the risk of worsening an already unhealthy state.

3. They Don’t Focus on the Present

 Anxious people are more prone to think about the future or the past than the present. We all do this to some respect; it’s just that this tendency is much more pronounced in the highly anxious. Now, combine this trait with a to-do list that never seems to end. The end result is chronic stress and lack of fulfillment.

4. They’re Poor Listeners

Unless the person has exceptional powers of concentration, their anxious nature will make it very difficult to pay attention and keep up with conversation. Although very driven and perfectionistic, those with high-functioning anxiety typically don’t apply their constant need for improvement to their listening abilities. They may appear distant and have trouble making eye contact even during important conversations.

5. They Appear Stoic and Unemotional

Sadly, pronounced anxiety may make the person timid and shy. They may view their anxiety as a weakness, and thus make every effort to conceal what’s going on underneath. To an observer, they may appear aloof and uninterested when this is probably not the case at all. They are making an attempt to compartmentalize their strong emotions in an effort to think and act rationally.

6. They Are Perfectionists

Perfectionism is the hallmark of a highly-functioning anxious person. To the layperson, being labeled a “perfectionist” may sound desirable. On the contrary, perfectionism – in a person with high anxiety – can be debilitating. Highly-intelligent, anxiety-driven perfectionists focus a disproportionate amount of attention on what they’ve done wrong than what they’ve done right – even if the latter occurs much more often than the former.

7. They’re Depressed

As we’ve mentioned in prior articles, a high correlation can be found between anxiety and depression. In fact, the two conditions are frequently discussed together. Part of the reason for this is that the symptoms that accompany depression, such as irritability and nervousness, are also evident in anxiety disorders. However, depression can lead to feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and despair. A person with high-functioning anxiety may be at a greater risk for depression because they are less likely to admit when there’s something wrong.

8. They Have Problems Sleeping

 People who have anxiety disorders are more prone to insomnia, irregular sleeping patterns, and problems falling asleep. Among all anxiety symptoms, difficulty sleeping may pose the biggest threat to mental and physical health. Importantly, during sleep the brain solidified memories, eliminates toxins, and prepares itself for the upcoming day. Erratic sleep patterns also throw a wrench in the endocrine system, which helps maintain hormonal homeostasis in both the brain and body.

Final Thoughts: Don’t Suppress Your Anxiety. Be Mindful.

The odds of developing an anxiety disorder skyrocket when anxious thought patterns aren’t appropriately identified and accounted for. This is not to say that we should ruminate in our anxiety. Instead, we should become observers.

The practice of observing your thoughts is fundamental to mindfulness and some contemplative traditions (e.g. Buddhism). In simplest terms, to observe your thoughts is to allow them to come and go without judgment or emotional attachment. Thoughts are just thoughts. They do not define who or what you are, nor are they something to be scared of. This same concept applies to anxiety in all of its forms.

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Sources:
https://psychcentral.com/blog/seeing-through-the-cloud-of-high-functioning-anxiety/

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/7-signs-someone-high-functioning-anxiety/
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How to Teach Yourself to Stay Positive At Work (Even When People Are Negative)

“In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.” – Dalai Lama

The average person will spend over 90,000 hours of their life at work. That’s a long time to spend somewhere that makes you unhappy or nervous. One of the hardest things to discern when starting a new job is the working atmosphere and the kinds of people you’ll be working it. It’s more or less a coin toss. In other words, you might make friends for life, or you’ll make enemies for life.

If you find yourself working in a place with negative energy, that can take a real toll on your life outside of work as well. Fortunately, there are many ways to keep up the positive thinking when you work somewhere you don’t particularly enjoy. From little changes in your routine to small lifestyle hacks, here are some ways to keep your workplace positive – even if your coworkers are doing everything they can to make your day miserable.

Here Are 7 Ways to Keep Your Workplace Positive

1. Find causes for celebration

Most workplaces these days involve at least some amount of teamwork. Whether you’re working together to a close deadline, or to hit a particular performance point, there will always be something that’s reliant on more than one person. Make sure to celebrate good performances with your coworkers as much as you can. Very few people can stay sour during a celebration and you’ll find that it’ll uplift the general spirits in your office. If you don’t get the chance to do much teamwork, celebrate holidays and random days – International Pet Day, International Book Day, International Women’s Day. Put your heads together and figure out a fun activity to brighten up everyone’s day and you’ll see smiles appear on even the grumpiest faces.

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2. Have lunch outside

One of the reasons you might be feeling down at your workplace is because you spend all your time at your desk – even when you’re supposed to be having a few moments of downtime! We know it can be hard to break away from work for an hour, but consider this: it’s your time to take a break and not stare at the screen you stare at for the other eight hours of the day. Go outside and get some fresh air. Maybe socialize with some co-workers and figure out somewhere to go together. Don’t have lunch at your desk, because that’ll destroy any positive thoughts you have of your workplace.

3. Be a team player

The importance of teamwork isn’t only for the job interview, so make sure to listen to what everyone on your team has to say. Good ideas can come from all sorts of places. When you show a readiness to listen to everyone’s opinion and voice, you will gain respect in your coworkers’ eyes. It can be tempting to be a stickler for the rules but, let’s face it, no one likes a stickler. Do your best to express an open-mind towards new ideas from your team. This will build up your reputation as a trustworthy and reliable co-worker.

4. Random acts of kindness

Did you buy a day ticket for the bus that you won’t need anymore? Leave it by the workplace printer. Did you have some extra brownies leftover from last night? Bring them to work with you. You don’t have to attach your name to every single little thing you do either. Sometimes, people just like knowing there’s a friendly soul among them, someone ready to do selfless acts for others. Things like that uplift the communal spirit and encourage even more kindness to spread (maybe you’ll even get some free baked goods out of it).

5. Find meaning in your days

When you do the same thing over and over again, every day, it’s easy to convince yourself that what you do doesn’t matter. Don’t miss a chance to remind yourself and others of the importance in the work you all do. It’s very easy to forget, especially if you work the same job day in and day out. Whether you bring it up in casual conversation or in chats with your senior manager, point out that you recognize the benefit you bring to your company, or the positive and purposeful aspects of people you work with. Finding meaning and purpose in tasks does wonders to uplift everyone’s spirits.

6. Be constructive in your criticism

No one likes being criticized; however, they look at criticism differently if you give them ways to improve. Don’t think of criticism as an argument. See it more as a chance to give someone feedback. Don’t be confrontational in your workplace, but be supportive and understanding. Explain your point of view and how you think this person could do better in a particular task. You’ll find that more of your coworkers will find they prefer to receive feedback from you after this.

7. Brighten up your office space

You might think that things like framed pictures or motivational quotes or drawings pinned on the boards in the workplace are a bit cheesy, but you realize soon just what a difference they can make. Office buildings have the habit of being monotonous and depressing – especially if you work in a cubicle. Brighten up your space and it won’t only affect your mood but it’ll also showcase your creativity and personality to others around you. Besides, everyone likes having decorations around and a well-decorated space does wonders for mental health. Try it. You might be surprised at the effect it has on you and others!

Final thoughts

Working somewhere full of negativity is a hard task, but the change can always start with you. You might feel despondent and think that there’s no way to change the way someone thinks or reacts. Just try some of the tips in this article, and we’re confident you’ll soon feel positivity flowing back into your workplace. Make the most of those 90,000 hours of your life – it’s too short to waste on negative emotions.

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https://good.co/blog/create-positive-work-environment/
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Therapists Explain 6 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Starting Over

Starting over again in our lives can lead to one of two emotions: excitement or fear. For people who have a tendency to get anxious, the latter is much more likely. Throwing yourself into an avenue where you don’t know what’s coming for you is like putting your hand in a dark hole or walking into a room with the lights off – you don’t know what to expect. It’s a natural defense mechanism to fear the unknown. But it can also prevent you from experiencing some great things in your life.

So how do you get over the fear of starting over, especially if you’ve been burned before and are unsure if this new avenue is for you? A lot of people would tell you that the key is just positive thinking but there’s a lot more to it than that. Take a look at some tips on how you can battle the fear of starting over and approach your new adventure with excitement rather than anxiety.

Here Are 6 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Starting Over

“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.” – William Jennings Bryan

1. Know that you’re afraid

The first step to overcoming a fear is acknowledging its existence. Don’t ignore the fear; embrace it and see what it can tell you about yourself and the new things that you’ll be undertaking. Fear is a gut feeling that normally signals you’re anxious about something else, too. Try to identify the real source of your emotions – is it a new partner who is making you feel this way, or is it the negative possibilities involved in doing whatever it is that you want to do? Once you know what it is, you’ll be much better equipped to fight it.

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2. Set goals for yourself

It’s easy to get sidetracked if you don’t have specific goals in mind of what you want to achieve. When you’re starting again, start small. Don’t be too ambitious at first. Remember, positive results only come after some time, so don’t try to accomplish your goals on the first day of your new adventure. Some goals will take you a few days to complete, while others may take months. That’s okay. Just know where you want to go, because that will make the path towards your success much clearer.

3. Don’t be afraid of failure

One of the biggest mistakes of modern education is that it teaches us mistakes are bad, and we should be scared of them. On the contrary, mistakes are the way we learn best. No one who tries hard to avoid mistakes can allow creativity into their life. In fact, a lot of business experts agree that failure should be encouraged rather than shunned. If you look up the story of any successful business owner, it’s almost 100% certain that they’ve failed at some point in their lives. Failing is never nice, but remember this: it’s all part of the learning experience!

4. Be creative and innovative

When you start a new journey in your life, it’s your chance to do something differently. Don’t be scared to approach problems from a different point of view, or to use methods you haven’t even considered before. If you’re willing to do anything, it will show you’re dedicated to the project and you want to succeed. Besides, if you’re embarking on something new with other people, that’s even more reason to be creative, because it’ll create a sense of community. You’ll all be learning something new together.

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5. Think about the worst-case scenario

This might not sound like very good advice, but think about it – if you’re prepared for the worst-case scenario, then what can really surprise you? The answer is, not much. It’s not about being apocalyptic or knowing that you’re definitely going to fail. It’s more about convincing yourself that even if everything crashes and burns, the world will still keep turning and there will be a way out of it. That kind of positive mindset is crucial when starting over and it will take you a long way.

6. If you do fail, laugh at it

Everyone hates failure because it hurts, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s often embarrassing. However, if you learn to laugh at it from early on, you’ll find failure a lot easier to deal with. Besides, everyone loves a person with a good sense of humor. If you don’t take yourself too seriously, you’ll find that others won’t be quick to judge your mistakes either. Push your ego to the side and don’t be scared to fall, because that only gives you an opportunity to get back up and make light of the fall. Besides, the sooner you get yourself into that positive headspace – that failure can be funny – the sooner you’ll see your fear disappearing.

Final thoughts

Anything new is always scary and anything scary is always something we tend to put off; however, beating that fear is normally the hardest step to success. Once you’re over that bridge, you’ll find things will start happening a lot easier for you. Whether starting over or stepping out with something completely new, don’t give up. Remember – you own the fear; it doesn’t own you!

References:
https://worldhealthedmonton.ca/news/fear-starting-something-new/
https://www.marieforleo.com/2010/06/feel-failure-good/
https://hbr.org/2008/05/overcome-your-fear-of-trying-s
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https://farmgirl.ohhshop.com/reset/starting-over/how-to-overcome-the-fear-of-starting-something-new/

6 Habits That Are Dangerous For Your Brain (That Almost Everyone Does)

It’s a well-known fact in the scientific community that brain cells don’t regenerate. Therefore, we need to be very careful in the ways we treat our brains these days, especially seeing that cases of neurodegenerative diseases – like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s – are at an all-time high. We might not realize it, but those diseases aren’t just reserved for people over 50. Even when we’re in our 20s and 30s, we might engage in bad habits that can damage our cognitive “cogs.” And while we don’t feel it right now, we will grow to regret it later.

The sooner we train ourselves into a discipline that allows for better brain health, the sooner we’ll be able to start decreasing the number of neurodegenerative diseases we deal with. Take a look at some habits that are really bad for our brain, yet everyone does them sometimes. Try to do these things less and less to ensure that your brain remains healthy.

Here Are 6 Habits That Are Dangerous for Your Brain

1. Smoking

We’ve all heard reasons why smoking is bad and you should consider quitting, but did you know that it can cause significant damage to your brain?  Cigarette smoke reduces the oxygen supply to the brain. This means you can’t function at your normal capacity. A link has been proven between Alzheimer’s, dementia, and smoking. Furthermore, cigarette smoke doesn’t only cause lung cancer. Cancerous cells as a result of incorrect DNA reproduction can manifest in the brain, too.

“Smoking is hateful to the nose, harmful to the brain, and dangerous to the lungs.” – King James I

2. Not sleeping enough

A lack of sleep has been associated heavily with early-onset dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. When you sleep, your brain gets a chance to rest and recuperate after a long day’s work. If you deprive your brain of that rest, it will degenerate more quickly. Many people today have a problem going to sleep at a good time and getting the right amount of REM cycles in their nights. If you’re struggling with insomnia, try reducing your caffeine and alcohol intake. Also avoid screens (such as laptops and televisions) right before bed. It won’t just help you feel better in the morning, but you’ll also be taking long-term care of your cognitive powers.

3. Loneliness

This might sound like an odd addition to the list and it’s sometimes not something you can directly fix. However, isolation can lead to cognitive deterioration. Of course, being lonely doesn’t just mean not having people around you. You can be just as lonely in a room full of people. To avoid this, evaluate the relationships with the people around you and think of them in a “quality over quantity” way. If you find yourself struggling to understand why you can’t create lasting relationships, consider seeking professional help.

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4. Forcing yourself to work when you’re ill

We’ve all had those moments when we’ve been sick with the flu and still forced ourselves out of bed to go to work. There are all sorts of reasons we do this. The fact remains is that it’s an extremely unhealthy habit when it comes to brain health. When you’re battling illness, your body is trying to concentrate its resources towards healing you. That goes for your brain, too. When you try to occupy your brain with other things, you’re overworking it immensely. This means it can’t do either of the two things well and you will only grow more ill. Recognize when you need to stay home from work to take care of yourself.

5. Bad hearing

Our ears are exposed to a lot of pressure in the modern world. Think of loud noises of cars and construction sites. Also, remember all those times you raised that favorite song to top volume on your headphones? If you try to measure the noise levels around you, you would be surprised to know how high they actually are. Scientists have proved that hearing loss is inevitably linked to cognitive decline. While it might seem hard, try to take better care of your ears and spend some more time in silence every day.

6. Sedentary lifestyles

We all have those days when we just don’t want to leave the house. However, spending all day on the sofa is detrimental to both your brain health and your overall body health. Sedentary lifestyles have been linked to diseases such as diabetes and heart disease, which in turn have been directly linked to degenerative brain disease. Even if it feels like you shouldn’t, make some time to go out every day, just for some fresh air. Then move along to having more exercise, taking long walks. The more your muscles move, the more your mind will be stimulated as well.

Final thoughts

It might seem like everything you do can be detrimental to your brain. However, try to stay positive. Now that you know how to take care of it, you will be able to do better in maintaining your health. Make sure to follow these tips to prepare for living out your golden years healthy and happy.

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5 Signs Someone Has Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety is very common with infants and normally stops at about three years of age. However, sometimes separation anxiety will continue to develop, and only get stronger with age. Dubbed “adult separation anxiety” (also known as separation anxiety disorder), we don’t know all the causes for adult separation anxiety. However, the initial anxiety often begins to develop in childhood.

Women more common suffer from this disorder than men. What is more, people often confuse its symptoms with those of generalized anxiety disorder. You might find family members, significant others, or friends affected by separation anxiety. Try not to be scared of this difficulty with a loved one. You can help people who suffer from this form of anxiety. They need support from their loved ones to overcome the obstacles their mind has created.

Most people who suffer from separation anxiety are also often scared. They might feel confusion about their intense fears. They frequently choose not to share their pain with anyone else, which only makes their symptoms worse. That’s why it’s important to learn to recognize the signs of separation anxiety. Take a look at some key symptoms to look out for – and what you can do to help.

Here Are 5 Signs Someone Has Separation Anxiety

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1. Fear for the safety of loved ones.

The unfounded fear that a loved one will be abducted, murdered, or hurt in some other way is the most telling sign of separation anxiety. We’re not talking about a general worry of someone coming home safely if they’re out after dark. We’re talking about paralyzing, mind-numbing fear that something will happen to loved ones. They suffer from this fear constantly.

The key to helping someone who’s struggling with that fear is to help them overcome it gradually. Encourage them to do some positive thinking. Reassure them that whoever it is they’re worried about is okay. Call them if you need to. Tangible proof works best in dismantling this symptom of separation anxiety.

2. Refusal to leave the proximity of loved ones

Mostly spurred on from the first symptom, people suffering from separation anxiety often don’t want to let you out of their sight – quite literally. They insist upon knowing where you are and what you’re doing every minute of every day. You can probably recognize this as one of the most telling symptoms of separation anxiety. Many people can easily misunderstand this symptom, however.

People often feel aggravated by anxiety sufferers. You can find a better, healthier way to deal with this than frustration. Try to gradually reduce your distance from the anxiety sufferer. Start by leaving them for half an hour at a time, then increase it to an hour. You can move up to half a day, and then a whole day. Your goal is getting them used to the fact that even if they can’t see you constantly, they’ll be okay. They will come to understand that you’ll be okay, too.

“Try to [pry] a limpet away from its rock and it will cling all the harder.” ? Jeremy Holmes

3. Trouble sleeping alone

An anxious person is not only troubled by paranoid thoughts, but they also feel the adverse effects of insomnia on brain function. They find it hard to go to sleep without the person they’re accustomed to sleeping next to. This can result in late-night phone calls and added tension in their relationship with that person.

The way to overcome this is to practice mindfulness and meditation techniques, both of which are very effective in easing anxiety and reducing insomnia. Additionally, sensory stimulus – such as that person’s perfume, or their shirt – might help the anxious person feel more supported.

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4. Fake physical complaints to avoid separation

The person suffering from separation anxiety will do everything they can to prevent the separation from happening – even lie. It’s often the case that when the separation seems imminent, they will invent some kind of physical ailment to keep the person they need nearby.

It’s the same logic as children pretending to be sick and missing school so they can stay home with their mom. Countering this is very hard; however, the key to preventing it is helping the anxious person create a relationship with someone else during the separation. It will show them that the person they are anxious about isn’t the only one who can help them with their anxiety.

5. Depression related to separation from a loved one

A common symptom relating to everything we described above is depression. When separated from the person they’re dependent on, anxiety sufferers will often fall into a pit of depression. They may refuse to get out of bed, eat, or shower.

Like all other depression, mere positive thinking won’t be able to help with this one. As hard as it seems, try to stay in contact with the anxious person. You can consider setting small daily tasks for them to do. For instance: get out of bed, do some work, shop for groceries, shower. The more routine they have, the easier it will be for them to adapt to life on their own.

Final thoughts

Separation anxiety is one of the most misunderstood mental illnesses in existence. It’s important to monitor those relationships and make sure that the anxious person doesn’t become too dependent on you. Remember, there is no shame in seeking professional help, too. Many forms of therapy can be beneficial for separation anxiety. Time will tell what the best solution is in your situation.

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This is What I Did to Overcome My Fear of Public Speaking in Just 1 Week

Public speaking. The very idea of it was enough to send me hurtling in the other direction. In fact, I often looked at syllabuses in my university courses to ensure that none of the projects involved public speaking, just because I knew I had a fear of public speaking. I’m the sort who tend to break out in nerves. Not just that little cold little jittery feeling in the stomach either. Oh no. I was full on, “I have a fear of public speaking and I am about to vomit,” nerves.

The unfortunate thing about attending university classes–and life, in general–is that public speaking is often required. Whether in your future career or just in social situations, public speaking is something we’re all going to face. So, I decided that I needed to face this speech anxiety head-on and master it.

Here are some methods I utilized to overcome the fear of public speaking:

Know The Topic

In order to conquer any fear, we need to first examine just why it is a fear in the first place and why it is having an effect on us in the way that it is. For myself, I always found the idea of looking stupid in front of others to be one of the main reasons why I had such a terrible public speaking fear. So, I examined the fear further. Why do I think I would look stupid in front of people? Perhaps not knowing what I was talking about? That’s something I can handle. By carefully memorizing the topic I was speaking about and making sure it was as stuck in my memory as Moana’s, “You’re Welcome,” I was sure I could give an informational speech and overcome public speaking fear.

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Prepare For Surprises

Anxiety is essentially a fear of the unknown. Since I have no idea how this speech is going to turn out or any of the other myriad of variables, it causes me a great deal of public speaking fear. A method I used to combat that was to familiarize myself with the location of the speech. It may be surprising, but being able to picture oneself in the room that one is going to be giving the speech–or better yet, practicing in the actual room–in can help reduce the fear of public speaking.

If my audience is expected to ask me questions, I can do my best to place myself in their shoes and try to think of the questions they’re going to ask me. In that way, I can prepare readily and not worry about looking silly. I may not be able to know all of their questions, but I can probably guess a bulk of them, and be ready for them when they come at me.

Face Your Fear

One of the best methods I found to help me overcome my fear of public speaking . . . was to do it–a lot. I know this may seem counter-productive, but hang in with me here. Exposing oneself to one’s fears over and over allows us to slowly become used to the object or situation that we fear. It’s called exposure therapy, and while it is definitely recommended to do it along with a psychiatrist, let’s be honest, not everyone can afford a psychiatrist. So, how can we do this on our own?

First of all, we need to make sure that we understand our limits. Too much exposure can actually make us more fearful of the object or situation later on in our lives. I would suggest starting out with some friends. They’re an excellent support system, but they still provide enough of a jittery sensation to face that fear.

 

From there, we can find places online that offer a place for us to hone our skills. It is a step above our friends, in that we’re trying our speech out on people we don’t know, but it’s not quite as scary as the actual situation, as we can perform the speech in the comfort of our own home and we don’t have to face these people ever again.

Practice Makes Perfect!

In the end, the biggest method we can utilize to overcome our fear of public speaking is practicing. With enough repetition, we will feel prepared to give our speech and be equipped with the information to offer our listeners should they have any questions. Understanding our exact fear surrounding public speaking can be the key to removing the anxiety entirely.

With these methods in hand, you can walk into that room confidently and give an excellent speech. Leave your nerves at the door and wow your audience. With your newfound oratory skills and preparation routine, there won’t be a speech you’re not ready for!

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http://www.speaking.pitt.edu/student/public-speaking/speechanxiety.html
https://www.anxiety.org/what-is-anxiety
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https://www.toastmasters.org/
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