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Doctor Explains 15 Things That Happen To Your Body When You Take A Nap Every Day

February 10, 2018 by Power of Positivity

“More than 85 percent of mammalian species are polyphasic sleepers, meaning that they sleep for short periods throughout the day.” ~ National Sleep Foundation. For the most part, our average day is divided into two periods: wake and sleep. As the quoted statistic shows, 85 percent of all mammals – humans belong to this group – take a nap every day. In other words, we’re the odd ones out.

Besides isolating ourselves from most of our mammal friends, humans are perhaps the only species that doesn’t get enough sleep: about 40 percent of us do not get the recommended 7 hours per night. While napping – brief periods of rest not exceeding 90 minutes – cannot correct our sleep deficit; it can certainly improve our efficiency, health and well-being, and mood.

Healthy Napping

You may not know that they’re actually divided into three categories: emergency, habitual, and preparatory.

Habitual napping, that is, the practice of taking a nap at the same time each day, is the healthiest option. They must be planned before sleepiness sets in (prepatory) are good for someone who knows they will go an extended period without sleep. Emergency napping – or suddenly falling asleep from exhaustion – is in no way healthy, as we’ve seen from work-related disasters.

The National Sleep Foundation (NSF) recommends taking 20-30 minute naps for a boost in alertness and performance. Any period of sleep lasting between 30 to 60 minutes may cause sleep inertia or a groggy feeling post-wakeup. In any case, a nap lasting between 20 to 60 minutes is mostly beneficial.

The Benefits of Napping

1. You’re happier

Science suggests that people who take a mid-day nap of 30 minutes or less enjoy an afternoon “happy boost” more often than those who sleep longer than 30 minutes, or who don’t nap at all.

2. You can beat the slump

Our circadian cycle feels a “slump” around 3 p.m. – an evolutionary hiccup. However, according to Harvard University, napping is an efficient way to bust this slump. (Yes, it’s even better than caffeine!)

3. You make fewer mistakes

According to the NSF, napping improves work performance, reduces mistakes, and avoids accidents.

4. You’ll perform better

In a study conducted by NASA, pilots and astronauts who took a 40-minute nap experienced a sizable improvement in their performance and alertness: 34 percent and 100 percent, respectively.

5. You get a memory boost

College students, pay attention. Researchers at Saarland University in Germany found that taking a nap for 45-60 minutes improved their memory 500 percent. Get to your rack!

6. You’re more creative

Napping is not a mindless activity. In fact, research shows that the right side of the brain – where creativity and “whole picture thinking” takes place – is actively communicating with itself. (Napping has led to numerous creative insights throughout history. See: Henry Ford, Thomas Edison.)

7. You’re more heart healthy

Per a joint research study done by the Harvard School of Public Health and the University of Athens Medical School (Greece), people who nap for 30 minutes or more, at least three times per week, had a 37 percent lower risk of dying from heart disease.

8. You’ll eat less junk food

According to a study by UC Berkeley, a lack of sleep impairs the brain’s prefrontal cortex, or PFC, which is responsible for decision making and withstanding impulse. Clearly, any PFC impairment is no bueno for resisting temptations – including junk food.

9. You feel fuller

When asleep, the body produces less of the “hunger hormone,” ghrelin. Contrastly, a different study demonstrates a link between poor sleep patterns, excess levels of ghrelin, and higher rates of obesity. Researchers suggest that regular napping can increase satiety, or feelings of fullness.

10. You’ll bicker less

Have you ever seen the “You’re not you when you’re hungry” Snicker’s commercials? They’re pretty darned funny – and just happen to be true. People who have poor sleeping patterns tend to argue more than those who sleep and nap regularly.

11. You decrease risk of injury

Per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), people are more likely to suffer a catastrophic industrial, motor vehicle, or medical incident if sleep-deprived. Just a 30-minute snooze can quite possibly save your life.

12. You’re more productive

Cornell University psychologist James Mass coined the term “power nap” –a practice that more businesses are embracing. Why? Because the data show that naps result in enhanced productivity and performance.

13. You defend against burnout

Per the National Institutes of Health (NIH), a quick snooze helps counteract information overload and mental burnout. NIH also discovered a direct link between snoozing and enhanced cognitive performance.

14. You’re helping your workplace

Nike and Deloitte Consulting reward employees for adding a mid-day snooze to their to-do lists. Nike, Deloitte, and others recognize that today’s employees, while working more, are getting less sleep. “Powering through” work by forgoing rest and working longer hours “isn’t good for the individual or the organization,” says UNC behavior professor Michael Christian.

15. You have better judgment

Your frontal lobe is in charge of all things related to decision-making. Lack of sleep negatively affects impulse control, which may lead to worse decisions than if one were fully rested. A 30-minute to 60-minute nap can hand us back the reins.

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8 Habits of People Who Never Get Overstressed

February 10, 2018 by Power of Positivity

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” ~ Marcus Aurelius

Exhibit ‘A’: Stress and the Workplace

Most experts agree: we are working longer, harder, and less effectively. Part of the reason for this ineffectiveness is the prevalent belief that busyness equates to productivity. Here’s a perfect example: most workplaces give their workers two 15-minute breaks to use during the day. Nevermind that most experts are adamant about the brain needing a break every hour – not every 4.

The workplace, though arguably society’s most significant source of stress on a day-to-day basis, isn’t the only factor. Money, relationships, traffic, current events, lousy people, and straight-up bad luck all contribute to the stress epidemic facing the United States and much of the world.

But did you know that some people can weather pretty much any storm and be no worse for the wear?

These people have incredible resilience. The American Psychological Association (APA) defines resilience as:

‘The process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors.’

Resilience, in other words, is “bouncing back” from stressful experiences.

Habits of Resilient People

How are some people able to take a punch and stand right back up? How can they not become overwhelmed with stress or despair?

It’s all mindset. “He is able who thinks he is able.” ~ Buddha

Less-than-resilient people think their inherent personalities are fixed – also known as a ‘fixed mindset.’ The resiliency of stress-busters stems from a mindset of growth. How do you cultivate this frame of mind? Through routine behaviors, or habits.

8 Habits of People Who Never Get Overstressed

1. They Have a Support System

“No person is an island.”

It’s essential to understand that resilience can stem from the internal and the external. In other words, one’s personality (habits, mindset, etc.) isn’t the only factor.

People who prevent being overtaken by stress lean on all tools and all methods available; including family and close friends. Without a solid support system, many resilient individuals would have much more difficulty maintaining equanimity.

2. They Don’t Do Drama

Gossipers and drama queens create a toxic environment (read: tons of stress) everywhere they go. People who avoid being overstressed pay these people no mind – and they’re better off for it.

Have you ever met a resilient drama queen? If so, they’re probably not as buoyant as you think. Gossip and drama drain the energy resilient people need to forge ahead; hence, they avoid them like the plague.

3. They’re Always Improving

People who avoid excessive levels of stress are some of the most successful because they allocate their time and energy to improving themselves. These resilient souls know and accept that they are nowhere near perfect – and use self-improvement as a means of giving them an advantage.

People who roll with the punches don’t necessarily avoid being punched– they simply know how to absorb the blow and continue the fight.

4. They’re Proactive Energy Managers

Buoyant personalities know themselves very well. They understand that energy is a finite resource, and they proactively manage that energy.

They may read a book instead of going out because there’s a tough day ahead; or maybe they’ll sleep an extra hour, eat a smaller meal, and get a quick workout. In short, they know what needs to be done and make sure they have the “get up and go” when the time comes.

5. They Know Their “Why?”

Knowing your “Why” behind everything you do makes stressful situations much easier to deal with. People who bounce back always seem to have a goal – personal, professional, or otherwise – that they’re actively working towards. And when times get tough, as they inevitably will, the resilient person remembers their “Why?”

6. They Strengthen Their Weaknesses

Resilient people are just that – people; people with strengths and weaknesses, just like everyone else. However, people who kick stress in the butt actively work on improving their weaknesses, which is the opposite of today’s “double down on your strengths and forget your weaknesses” attitude in society.

7. They’re Highly Self-Aware

Self-awareness is all about helping us get in touch with our psychological and physiological needs – understanding what we need, what we don’t need, and when it’s time to ask for some help. They’re excellent at listening to and following the subtle stress cues given off by their body and mind – the heart of self-awareness.

8. They Practice Acceptance

Stress and pain are a part of life. As with any event, emotional or otherwise, stress and pain comes and goes. Coming to grips with the stress or pain – as opposed to ignoring or suppressing it (which never works) – is much healthier, emotionally. Temporary stress and pain also provide another obstacle to be overcome on the way to self-mastery.

4 Habits of Conscious Couples

February 10, 2018 by Power of Positivity

“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined… to strengthen each other… to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.” – George Eliot

The above quote is pretty much at the heart of this entire article – conscious couples act together as one, instead of letting their egos take over. In today’s world, setting good habits and practicing them might not always come easily, but if both people work at it and care about their partnership, it can happen.

It takes two to have a good relationship, so doing little things each day to help strengthen your bond will have lasting positive effects on the partnership.

Whether you want to work on your relationship or you think you have it all figured out, we hope you can put some of the suggestions below to good use.

Here are 4 habits of conscious couples:

1. They treat each other with respect

Whether that means putting down the phone or video game when your partner talks to you, saying “thank you” for a kind gesture, or simply valuing your lover, respect is a vital piece of a healthy relationship. Couples who stay together for the long-haul know that respecting one another keeps the bond strong between them, and try to show respect daily. Respect boils down to caring about and loving your partner so deeply that you want to treat them like a king or queen, and not do anything to damage your special bond.

2. They know when to put down technology

Sadly, many relationships today have suffered due to the overuse of technology such as phones, computers, and video games. In one study, 70% of women said that technology interfered with their relationship with their partner, and this is only a small screenshot (no pun intended) of what the rest of the world deals with daily.

Conscious couples strive to only use technology sparingly, either for work or for entertainment. Technology can tear apart relationships, because overuse of it generally makes one or both partners feel disconnected from one another. This can lead to resentment of each other, and can affect listening skills. Technology creates so many distractions in today’s world, but conscious couples know when to shut down, unplug and disconnect, and reconnect with one another in the real world.

3. Conscious couples show affection daily

This doesn’t just mean physical affection, but also acts of kindness such as making coffee in the morning or cooking a nice meal in the evening for your partner. Conscious couples know that in order to make things work they have to act as a team, so while one person stays late at work, the other makes life a little easier on him/her by whipping up a meal. Or, maybe it means sending each other sweet texts throughout the day to let the other know you’re thinking of him/her and can’t wait to spend time together later.

Showing affection and kindness means that you appreciate and value your partner, and would do anything to see a smile on their face.

4. They do chores together

This might not sound like a fun way to spend time with your partner, but conscious couples make an effort to have quality time wherever they can get it. Plus, doing chores together shows that you think of the partnership as a team and want to reach goals as one. This might mean tag-teaming on the dishes or cleaning the bathroom together, because everyone knows that teamwork makes the dream work! Conscious couples usually have shared rituals as well, like brushing their teeth together or climbing in bed after a long day at work to read books side-by-side.

Final thoughts

Conscious couples simply have a greater awareness of what a privilege it is to be in a relationship, and want to nurture that bond as much as possible. While they have trials and tribulations like any other couple, they work together as a team to find a solution, and hear each other out without interrupting. What it really boils down to is having mutual respect, admiration, and love for one another, and not letting silly life matters get in the way of their magic.

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Sources:
http://thespiritscience.net/2016/09/09/12-conscious-habits-people-in-healthy-relationships-do/
https://ifstudies.org/blog/technoference-how-technology-can-hurt-relationships

Scientists Reveal The Direct Link Between Sugar And Alzheimer’s Disease

February 9, 2018 by Power of Positivity

“Alzheimer’s is the most common form of dementia, a general term for memory loss and other cognitive abilities serious enough to interfere with daily life. Alzheimer’s disease accounts for 60 to 80 percent of dementia cases.” – alz.org

Before we get into how large amounts of sugar in one’s diet can contribute to Alzheimer’s disease, here are some basic statistics and facts about Alzheimer’s from alz.org:

– Alzheimer’s disease is the 6th leading cause of death in the U.S.

– Every 66 seconds, someone in the U.S. develops Alzheimer’s
– Since 2000, deaths from the disease have increased 89%
– In 2017, an estimated 5.5 million Americans were living with Alzheimer’s (two-thirds were women)
– Last year, Alzheimer’s cost the nation $259 billion
– By 2050, this number could rise to $1.1 trillionThese are sad and alarming figures, indeed. While Alzheimer’s disease can occur due to a combination of factors, scientists have discovered a direct link between a diet high in sugar and cognitive decline.

Here’s how sugar can contribute to Alzheimer’s disease:

Some scientists have even referred to Alzheimer’s as “type 3 diabetes” because of how insulin resistance seems to play a role in the disease. Type 1 diabetes is an autoimmune disease, and type 2 diabetes can be caused by diet. Scientists have found that Alzheimer’s can be also caused by a sugary diet, but that isn’t always the case.

A longitudinal study, published a few weeks ago in the journal Diabetologia, followed 5,189 people over the course of 10 years and found that people with high blood sugar (though not necessarily diabetic) had a faster rate of cognitive decline than those with normal blood sugar.

Another review of studies performed by Melissa Schilling, a professor at New York University, showed two different trends. First, people who have type 2 diabetes have twice the likelihood of getting Alzheimer’s, and second, people with diabetes who undergo insulin treatment also have an elevated risk of developing the disease. These two trends suggest that high insulin levels are a definite risk factor in developing Alzheimer’s.

However, people with type 1 diabetes, who don’t make any insulin, also are at a high risk of getting Alzheimer’s.Schilling believes this happens because of the lack of an insulin-degrading enzyme, which helps breaks down both insulin and amyloid proteins in the brain. These are the same proteins found in large amounts in people with Alzheimer’s.

People who don’t make enough insulin, such as those with type 1 diabetes, also don’t make enough of the enzyme that helps to break down that insulin. However, on the opposite end of the spectrum, people who have too much insulin don’t have enough of the insulin-degrading enzyme left over to break up amyloid proteins since most of it is used to break down the excess insulin.

According to Schilling, this can happen even to people who are considered prediabetic. This condition affects approximately 86 million Americans.Rosebud Roberts, a professor of epidemiology and neurology at the Mayo Clinic, agreed with Schillings’ analysis.In a 2012 study, Roberts put nearly 1,000 people into four different groups based on their diet. The group whose diet came from mostly carbs had an 80 percent higher chance of developing mild cognitive impairment – which could lead to dementia—than those diet had the least amount of carbs.

Roberts said that people with type 1 diabetes who have hypoglycemic episodes are usually the only ones at risk. However, she cautioned that everyone should watch their sugar, even if they don’t have diabetes.“Just because you don’t have type 2 diabetes doesn’t mean you can eat whatever carbs you want,” she said. “Especially if you’re not active.” Our diet, she added, is “a big factor in maintaining control of our destiny.”

Final thoughts:

With that said, diet is not the only factor that contributes to Alzheimer’s. However, diet is one thing that we have control over, unlike our genetics. That’s why it’s important to eat a healthy, balanced diet starting at a young age, and have a regular exercise regimen, which helps your body process insulin more effectively. Research is ongoing about the role sugar plays in the development of Alzheimer’s, but the above studies should help everyone make an informed decision about how much sugar to include in their diet. Remember that you are responsible for your health, and the decisions you make today have lasting implications for your future well-being.https://youtu.be/7BNGVmwxoHI

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5 Early Warning Signs of A Child With Mental Health Problems

February 9, 2018 by Power of Positivity

Worldwide 10-20% of children and adolescents experience mental disorders. Half of all illnesses in mental health begin by the age of 14 … If untreated, these conditions severely influence children’s development, their educational attainments and their potential to live fulfilling and productive lives. ~ World Health Organization

A mental health disorder can be a terrible thing to live through, no matter what age. Unlike adults, however, children often lack the awareness, coping abilities, and resources to acquire treatment.

The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that two in ten children suffer from a mental disorder. Per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the top five mental disorders for children aged 3 to 17 years are:

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): 6.8%
Behavioral or personality disorder: 3.5%
Anxiety: 3%
Depression: 2.1%
Autism and Autism spectrum disorder: 1.1%

Suicide, according to the CDC, “can result from the interaction of mental disorders and other factors.” Relatedly, suicide is the second-leading cause of death in adolescents.

There tends to be some commonality among young people with mental health problems. As such, there are distinctive signs of mental health disorders in children and adolescents.

Here are five such signs:

1. They’re More Aggravated

Just like adults, children get stressed out and aggravated. Child aggravation is usually triggered by school or peer pressures; however, noticeably intensified aggravation may stem from an underlying mental health disorder.

Children developing a mental disorder often make excuses not to go to school or study. Their nerves may trigger headaches, stomachaches, or other pains. Children who appear aggravated and withdrawn may be experiencing bullying or some other issue with a peer or peers.

In addition, bullying is quite possibly becoming the number one issue facing school-aged children today. As a result, bullying is a severe, modern-day threat to a child’s mental health.

2. They’re Increasingly Anxious

Childhood is supposed to be a relatively carefree time in one’s life; so when a young child begins displaying anxious behaviors, it may be a cause for concern.

Here’s a typical story of a child diagnosed with an anxiety disorder:

“Ella was a worrier. Every morning, she worried that she wouldn’t make the bus on time, even though she hadn’t missed it once all year. And every afternoon, she worried that she wouldn’t get her favorite spot at the lunch table, or that she might have a pop quiz in science class and wouldn’t be prepared…”

3. They Are Depressed or Withdrawn

Per the National Alliance on Mental Illness, one in five teens experiences a bout with depression; moreover, 8 percent suffer from a major depressive disorder (MDD).

Dr. Charles Raison, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Arizona College of Medicine provides his simple and straightforward advice: “I think you should start worrying … anytime there’s enough of a change when you go, ‘Oh, my God, they don’t seem like themselves.’”

Raison recommends that parents intervene should their child display depressive or withdrawn behavior for longer than two to three weeks. It is also common for children suffering from depression to experience dramatic changes in sleeping patterns.

4. They’re Abusing Alcohol or Drugs

Substance abuse research shows a direct, causal relationship between mental health disorders and drug abuse. Researchers estimate that approximately 70 percent of high school kids have tried alcohol; 40 percent have smoked or used tobacco, and 20 percent have an ongoing prescription drug addiction.

All of the abovementioned (and other) substances are especially dangerous when combined with a mental health problem. Abusing drugs or alcohol may become their go-to coping mechanism, drastically increasing the risk of deteriorating health and even death.

5. Their Performance Is Suffering

“Americans are inundated with messages about success – in school, in a profession, in parenting, in relationships – without appreciating that successful performance rests on a foundation of mental health.”

The above statement is courtesy of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS). Per one HHS study, “there may be four or five adolescents” in some classrooms that suffer from severe mental illness.

Mental impairment almost always negatively affects performance. Considering that two-thirds of adolescents do not receive mental health treatment, the negative repercussions are vast on an individual and societal level.

Columbia University cites the following as academic issues resulting from mental illness:

Frequent absenteeism or tardiness
Lack of self-esteem
Difficulty concentrating
Poor performance in reading, writing, and math
Repeating a grade level(s)
Recurring disciplinary problems

Final Thoughts: Getting Help for Childhood Mental Health

Early detection of childhood mental health problems and access to appropriate services is crucial. Studies show that prompt treatment leads to improvements in both mental disorder symptoms and school performance.

Indeed, appropriate treatment can spare the child or adolescent – and their loved ones – unnecessary pain and suffering. For information and resources about childhood mental health, please visit the website: https://kidshealth.org.

Relationship Expert Explains 5 Ways To Deal With A Jealous Ex

February 9, 2018 by Power of Positivity

As humans, we have all experienced the feeling of being jealous and sometimes, that jealousy is over our partner’s ex. Jealousy is a natural emotion, and it is neither good nor bad. There’s no shame in feeling an emotion. The important thing is learning how to deal with it, and how to overcome the feeling itself. People have been feeling jealous over their partner’s exes from the dawn of time, so there’s no need to feel bad.

But why?

“It can begin innocently. You’re human and therefore curious about your partner’s ex. We learn from the stories and anecdotes of others, so you want to figure out what attracted them to each other. And, naturally, you want to know why they broke up,” says intuitive life coach and writer Debra Smouse.

However, you may want to learn to move on and overcome this feeling for your own peace of mind. Relationship experts have detailed how to move on from the jealousy and keep your relationship strong.

“Jealousy is the fear of comparison.” – Max Frisch

Here Are 5 Ways To Deal With A Jealous Ex

1. Recognize that it is jealousy

Maybe you don’t like your partner’s ex for reasons that you can’t quite name. The first step to overcoming the jealousy you feel is to, of course, recognize that what you’re feeling is jealousy. It’s okay to admit this to yourself. After all, having or feeling an emotion is a neutral thing, whether or not the emotion is positive or negative.

“The number one thing to remind yourself of is that your partner’s ex is an ex for a reason and whatever the reason, there’s no need to obsess over her,” adds Smouse.

So, look inside yourself, understand and recognize what you’re feeling and whether its jealousy so that you can name it for what it is and learn to move forward.

RELATED: Signs Someone Jealous Of Your Relationship

2. Ask yourself: Why?

What about your partner’s past relationship has you so transfixed? “The first way to deal with jealousy over a partner’s ex is by looking at your own insecurities,” says relationship counsellor and Gestalt therapist Clinton Power.

Confronting yourself and asking yourself why you’re focused on a relationship that your partner is no longer in can be a good tool in helping yourself overcome the feeling of jealousy in the first place. What emotions come up along with the jealousy? Do you feel like your relationship needs something to be on par with your partner’s past relationship?

“Don’t beat yourself up for having these feelings—everyone does. But if you don’t learn to identify these habitual patterns—which will drain at least half of their emotional intensity—you’ll keep feeling jealous, regardless of what your partner does or does not do,” adds Power.

Finding the cause of the jealousy will be invaluable to helping yourself overcome the feeling in the first place.

3. Talk to someone about your insecurities

Reach out to friends or family members who can help you work through the insecurities that you may feel. Not only will this be good for helping you get over feeling jealous over your partner’s ex, but it will also benefit you in the long run throughout the rest of your life.

It’s good to have a sounding board in order to talk through what you’re feeling, especially if you can’t pinpoint the exact reason for your jealousy in the first place. A therapist or counselor can help you talk through your insecurities.

They can “help you identify the emotional patterns that keep you caught and you’ll learn how to free yourself so you can be the best partner you can be and create the kind of loving relationship you want,” adds Power.

4. Connect with your partner

Perhaps your jealousy stems from feeling like your connection with your partner isn’t as strong as it could be. If this is the case, the best way to move beyond your jealousy is to work on connecting with your partner. Even telling them about your jealousy can be a turning point in the relationship that can create a stronger connection.

Remember, “jealousy isn’t necessarily bad, rather, it signals to you that your emotional needs or feelings may be unmet,” say couples’ counselor and dating coach Samantha Burns.

Of course, don’t make your jealousy the focal point of every session of deep connection that you have with your partner. Address it, be honest, and allow yourself to move on from it. At the end of the day, you’re with your partner and they’re not with their ex – and for a reason! There’s always a reason that they moved on and found you, and focusing on that love and connection is the best way to release your feelings of jealousy.

5. Be honest

Be honest with yourself and with your partner. There’s no need to try and hide your feelings, especially if they’re causing you any significant amount of distress. Being honest will allow you to feel a more positive and uplifting energy from both your own self and from your partner.

“It can feel easier to avoid being honest if we feel that could be hurtful, but it is only with honesty that trust is built, and trust is the essence of a good relationship,” says author Kate Figes.

Also, allow your partner time to move on and grieve the end of their relationship with their ex if they have to, while also allowing yourself to be honest with your own feelings. It may take a little bit of communication and compromise, but moving on from your jealousy will make your relationship stronger, more positive and more connected.

Final thoughts

Jealousy is something that happens to all of us, especially in relationships.

“… you can’t control the random thoughts that pop in and out of your head — whether they’re jealous ones or not — but you can control whether you choose to dwell on these thoughts,” says author Jeff Billings.

The goal isn’t to stop yourself from ever feeling jealous, but rather, learning how to handle that jealousy in a calm, positive and productive manner. These steps will give you all you need to take control of your emotions and overcome your feeling of jealousy towards your partner’s ex. Once you do, you’ll be pleased to find all of the happiness that will come from within.

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https://www.yourtango.com/experts/debra-smouse/why-are-we-obsessed-our-partners-exes
https://clintonpower.com.au/2017/11/jealous-partners-ex/
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Healthy Napping

The Benefits of Napping

1. You’re happier

2. You can beat the slump

3. You make fewer mistakes

4. You’ll perform better

5. You get a memory boost

6. You’re more creative

7. You’re more heart healthy

8. You’ll eat less junk food

9. You feel fuller

10. You’ll bicker less

11. You decrease risk of injury

12. You’re more productive

13. You defend against burnout

14. You’re helping your workplace

15. You have better judgment

Habits of Resilient People

8 Habits of People Who Never Get Overstressed

1. They Have a Support System

2. They Don’t Do Drama

3. They’re Always Improving

4. They’re Proactive Energy Managers

5. They Know Their “Why?”

6. They Strengthen Their Weaknesses

7. They’re Highly Self-Aware

8. They Practice Acceptance

Here are 4 habits of conscious couples:

1. They treat each other with respect

2. They know when to put down technology

3. Conscious couples show affection daily

4. They do chores together

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Sources: http://thespiritscience.net/2016/09/09/12-conscious-habits-people-in-healthy-relationships-do/ https://ifstudies.org/blog/technoference-how-technology-can-hurt-relationships

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1. They’re More Aggravated

2. They’re Increasingly Anxious

3. They Are Depressed or Withdrawn

4. They’re Abusing Alcohol or Drugs

5. Their Performance Is Suffering

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1. Recognize that it is jealousy

2. Ask yourself: Why?

3. Talk to someone about your insecurities

4. Connect with your partner

5. Be honest

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Sources:
http://thespiritscience.net/2016/09/09/12-conscious-habits-people-in-healthy-relationships-do/
https://ifstudies.org/blog/technoference-how-technology-can-hurt-relationships

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