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How Well Do You Deal With Change According To Your Zodiac Sign?

Easier said than done, Socrates, but a great message nonetheless! Humans naturally have an aversion to change (well most of us, anyway.) We get used to doing things a certain way, and have a very hard time coping when things get changed up on us all of a sudden.

Our brains literally become wired to perform in a certain way, think in a certain way, and behave in a certain way. Throw us a curveball, and it could have us knocked right out of the park wondering what just happened.

Think of the saying “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” In a lot of ways, this can apply to human behavior. In fact one study actually showed that humans prefer things that have been around longer.

Simply put, we don’t like the unknown. Our evolution just isn’t set up to favor new things, period.

We survived based on information we gathered from our environment and learning how to use our surroundings to our benefit. If we had to migrate to a new place due to shortage of food or water, many of us couldn’t survive because of such a harsh and sudden change, coupled with not having the basics covered.

We would rather have the “tried and true” way than the untested, unknown, and unreliable way. This probably stems from evolution as well, because we only survived based on what we did know about our environment, not things we didn’t know.

Anyway, back to the point of the article. We all have different ways of dealing with change, and we’re going to break it down by zodiac elements as a way to categorize this management of change. Let’s get going!

How Do You Deal With Change, According to Your Zodiac Sign?

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

Fire Signs (Aries, Sagittarius, Leo)

Fire signs naturally have a “Just do it” approach to life. They see something they want, and they go after it. End of story. Because of their headstrong, outgoing, determined nature, they actually deal with change quite well. They’re pretty flexible, dynamic signs who can deal with life’s unknowns reasonably efficiently.

They don’t get caught up in fearing the change but rather, using the change to their advantage. They ask themselves, “Well, how can I benefit from this situation?” For example, maybe they lose their job and have to seek out new employment. Instead of fearing the unknown and letting that apprehension stop them, they go full steam ahead and fill out as many applications as possible until they have a new place to work.

They have the confidence in their abilities which allows them to handle change without too much headache.

Water Signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)

Then, we have the opposite end of the spectrum. Water signs, in general, have deep emotions which control most of their decisions in life. When something happens, no matter if it’s bad or good, water signs will wallow in their feelings until they’ve exhausted themselves, and still feel confused about how to cope.

Water signs are usually change averse, meaning they don’t like it. Sometimes, they might even deny change until they’re forced to deal with it. For them, it’s all about comfort. If they feel uncomfortable or unsure in any way, this will throw them off balance until they’ve had ample time to adjust.

Where Fire signs can adjust well to almost any situation, water signs just need a little extra time to process it and cope with major changes.

Earth Signs (Capricorn, Virgo, Taurus)

Earth signs don’t fear change, per say, they would just really rather not deal with it. They are generally stubborn and set in their ways, and don’t like change unless they have ample information before the change occurs. However, the source of information matters greatly to them. Oftentimes, people hear about news of change from a third party, and that person might have interpreted the message differently than the speaker had intended. Thus, the message gets lost in translation, and by the time it gets to the final person, it could have an entirely different meaning. So, in conclusion, Earth signs only like change when they can have all the facts from a reliable source.

Air Signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)

Air signs, like Fire signs, usually can adapt well to any changes. Being air signs, they simply float through life without making things too big of a production. They don’t see the point in wasting valuable energy on worrying about things they cannot change, because life is full of changes. They would rather just take things as they come and deal with the consequences of the change later. Air signs don’t like being bogged down with too much emotion – they are thinking signs, after all, and usually allow logic to run the show.

In addition, Air signs like getting affirmation from others going through something similar. Air signs don’t really keep secrets or shy away from sharing how they feel. They figure, the more people who can relate to how they’re feeling and what they’re dealing with, the easier it will be to deal with the changes in their life.

Sources:
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022103110001599
http://www.lamarsh.com/3-common-behaviors-of-people-faced-with-change/

5 Easy Ways to Reduce Arthritis Pain Naturally

$1,000 to $3,000 per month for arthritis treatment?

“But what about insurance?” Per WebMD: “Even with health insurance, your out-of-pocket costs can add up to hundreds or thousands of dollars.”

Senior citizens, who constitute the vast majority of arthritis patients, are put in an extremely vulnerable position. Frankly, it’s unacceptable. But be that as it may, they are not out of options.

In this article, we focus on a few ways to naturally reduce arthritis symptoms! Please pass this information along to someone who you think may need it!

Here are a few natural remedies for arthritis and inflammatory pain:

“Biologic drugs for rheumatoid arthritis work for 2 out of the 3 people who take them … But the drugs are expensive; they cost about $1,000 to $3,000 a month.” ~ WebMD

1. Essential and Neutral Oil Rub

Essential oils demonstrate some excellent health benefits. They can relieve stress, improve blood circulation, boost the immune system, and even help you sleep.

And essential oils may alleviate arthritis pain!

Here are the necessary ingredients/items:

– One jar of chamomile, eucalyptus, lavender, or vanilla essential oil.

– Almond, avocado, coconut, or jojoba oil.

Here are the instructions:

  1. Choose one or more of the following essential oils: chamomile, eucalyptus, lavender, or vanilla.
  2. Add 10-15 drops of your oil of choice to two tablespoons to one of the following “neutral oils”: almond, avocado, coconut, or jojoba.
  3. Massage mix onto the affected area. Try and mix up oil combinations to ward off tolerance.

2. Cabbage Leaves

The application of cabbage leaf wraps is common in many places throughout the world due to the leaf’s anti-inflammatory properties. It is said that Savoy cabbage works best.

Ingredients/Items:

– Head of cabbage (Savoy cabbage is preferred)

– Chopping board and rolling pin

– Gauze bandage (for small areas) or wrap (large areas)

  1. Pull off the compacted leaves from the outer layer.
  2. Cut out the central rib (whitish, hard area of the head.)
  3. Using a chopping board and rolling pin, pound the leaves until the juices flow out.
  4. Wrap the full leaves around the affected area.
  5. Use a gauze bandage or gauze wrap to hold the leaves in place.

3. Homemade Capsaicin Rub

Capsaicin is an active compound of chili peppers – and a potent pain reliever. In fact, the compound is so effective in relieving pain, that drug companies extract and sell it as a cream (at a hefty price, of course.)

Fortunately, you needn’t visit the local pharmacy to make an effective capsaicin rub of your own!

Ingredients:

– Cayenne pepper powder

– Olive oil

– Gauze wrap or pads (if desired)

  1. Combine a few good sprinkles of cayenne pepper to 2-3 tablespoons of olive oil. Stir the pepper into the mix.
  2. Using a gauze pad, apply the rub to the affected area.

It is normal for the mix to cause a bit of a sting at first. This slight burning sensation should pass after a short period.

Note: If you have sensitive skin, or experience substantial skin irritation, discontinue use.

4. Mint Leaf Oil

Besides smelling great, mint leaves pack some fierce pain-relieving properties. For this concoction, you will need some rubbing alcohol and benzoin – an essential oil. Please note that this mixture requires a two week period before use.

Ingredients:

– Two 3.5 ounce jars

– 2 cups of fresh mint leaves

– 1 tablespoon of rubbing alcohol

– 1 tincture of benzoin (an essential oil)

  1. Fill a small jar (~ 3.5 ounces) with 2 cups of fresh mint leaves. Don’t press the leaves.
  2. Pour olive oil into the jar, filling it to the neck.
  3. Add rubbing alcohol to fill.
  4. Place the mixture in an area where it will receive plenty of sunlight. Allow the mix to sit for two weeks.
  5. Strain the mix and transfer the leaves to a clean jar or bottle.
  6. Add the benzoin until it fills the jar.

The benzoin will preserve the mixture. Please store the product in a cool and dark area. Massage onto affected areas as needed.

5. Spiced Oil Mix

This last combination again uses cayenne pepper, but is combined with fresh herbs to really hit back at the inflammation!

Ingredients/Items:

– 3-4 teaspoons of celery seeds

– 1 tablespoon of dried rosemary leaves

– 1 teaspoon of cayenne pepper

– 8 ounces of almond, jojoba, or olive oil

– Coffee or spice grinder

– Coffee filter

– Glass jar

– Sterilized bottle

  1. Using a grinder, whir the seeds, rosemary, and pepper until crushed.
  2. Spoon the remains from the grinder into a jar. Add the oil.
  3. Shake thoroughly, cover the jar, and set for 10 days. Shake the jar on occasion during this period.
  4. Using a coffee filter, strain the jar’s contents into the sterilized glass bottle.
  5. Store in a cool, dark area.

Note: This mixture will last approximately six months. Check for adverse skin reactions; if none, apply the product onto afflicted area twice daily.

Sources:
http://www.webmd.com/rheumatoid-arthritis/features/ra-biologics-cost#1
https://www.rd.com/health/conditions/natural-remedies-arthritis-relief

Researchers Reveal Why It’s OK to Go to Bed Angry

We all know the old saying. Never go to bed angry. This seemed to be helpful advice for new couples just starting out on their adventures together. Going to bed angry was seen as letting an issue fester into something bigger than it needed to be.

However, new research has found that going to bed angry may not be as detrimental to a relationship as it once was.

A new study, which has been published in the Official Journal of International Society of Psychoneuroendocrinology, has revealed several reasons why going to bed angry is not only totally fine, but healthier for both you and your partner in the long run. The study states, “Sleep problems can boost inflammation and may jeopardize interpersonal functioning, risks that may be magnified in couples.

Four Reasons Why It’s Okay To Go To Bed Angry

“Staying awake until the fight is resolved will lead to exhaustion the following day, which can lead to more resentment. Break the cycle. Go to bed.” – Dr. Kurt Smith

Fighting sleep deprivation

The new study published shows that when we fight with our partners on low sleep, our bodies respond with stress-related inflammations, which are heavily linked to one or both partners having a higher risk of things like cardiovascular disease or arthritis. Fighting is stressful, and so is being without sleep. When you put the two together, our bodies can sometimes be over-worked.

Dr. Kurt Smith says, “When we’re tired, our brain doesn’t function at its peak. We can’t have a productive disagreement with a half-functioning brain… Continuing an argument under these conditions will just make the argument worse.

Also, studies have shown that couples who are less likely to go to bed until an argument is resolved are at higher risk for inflammatory-based diseases, while couples who go to bed angry are able to handle their stress better. Instead of trying to hash out the entire argument before bedtime, studies show that tabling the discussion and getting a good night’s sleep can be better for our minds and bodies.

Making sense of things

An argument against going to sleep angry had always been the REM sleep cycle – that’s where you store your memories for the day, and many thought that going to bed angry stored those hostile memories, making it harder to let go. New studies, however, show that this is actually the exact opposite.

Chairman of the board of the National Sleep Foundation and chief of sleep medicine at Brigham and Women’s Hospital, Dr. Charles Czeisler says, “In deep sleep you store memories and in REM sleep you seem to integrate those memories with other memories that you had previously learned. Insight seems to be an important element of what happens during REM sleep.”

When couples go to bed, regardless of whether or not the argument is complete, the new memories are integrated in with all of your other memories. Your brain knows what to do, and it’ll help you make more sense of both the argument and your partner’s points. You’ll be able to wake up with a new understanding.

Clear your mind

Getting a good night’s sleep is the best way to clear your mind and get a new outlook on what’s going on around you. The recent study by the Official Journal of International Society of Psychoneuroendocrinology states, When both partners slept less, couples interacted in a more hostile way than when at least one partner slept more.

Therefore, when someone is sleep deprived, the argument can often never end, because one or both partners are unable to see where the other is coming from. If a couple is determined not to go to bed angry, they may find that they don’t go to bed at all. However, couples who put aside an argument for the sake of a good night’s sleep may find that when they wake up, they’re able to see the argument from a whole new perspective. This can make discussing the argument easier and smoother than before.

Permanent solutions

At 3 in the morning, any solution that a couple comes up with for the end of an argument is most likely to be temporary. After all, they’re both exhausted and want to end the discussion and go to bed. Couples who refuse to table discussions and arguments may find that their solutions fall apart after a few days, or even hours, leading back to the exact same argument. However, couples who decide to go to bed, even if they’re angry, are able to come back to the argument and think of a better, longer lasting solution.

University of Missouri Extension gerontology specialist Jacquelyn Benson states, “Going to sleep and readdressing the problem the next day when our minds are rested is better than staying up until the wee hours of the morning to fight. We’re also less likely to trade escalating provocations back and forth.”

This is because you’re giving your brain time to readjust and also giving yourself time to cool off and come back to the argument with a calmer and clearer head.

Final thoughts…

Couples who often find themselves arguing late into the night should reevaluate if that solution of never going to bed angry is really working. While it may feel nice to fall asleep without an argument looming over their head, studies show that it’s just not worth it. Our bodies and brains need time to put themselves back together and heal, and sleep is the best way that our bodies know how to do that.

When we get angry the reasonable parts of our brains—the prefrontal lobes in the front—shut down and then all the action moves to the back where our reptilian brain takes over. We get the fight or flight response, we get tunnel vision. When you’re back into your prefrontal lobes, your blood pressure is down, and the tunnel vision has expanded, then sincerely try and solve the problem,” says Dr. Robert Taibbi.

If an argument has gone on long past your bedtime, the best thing to do is table the discussion and come back after a good night’s sleep. Studies show that your body – and relationship! – will thank you for it.

References:
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/06/08/why-its-ok-to-go-to-bed-angry/
http://www.psyneuen-journal.com/article/S0306-4530%2816%2930516-9/abstract
https://www.buzzfeed.com/carolynkylstra/goodnight-sleep-tight-dont-fight?utm_term=.qw02eZNMj#.gk2mbzEAB
http://extension.missouri.edu/n/2676
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fixing-families/201202/go-bed-angry

7 Behaviors That Reveal Your Partner Isn’t Attracted To You (And How To Fix It)

Very few things in the world can be worse than feeling left out or unwanted by the person you love most in the whole world. So it can feel like a splash of cold water if your partner is no longer attracted to you.

International dating, relationship, and intimacy expert Giordana Toccaceli mentions, “If your partner doesn’t desire you as much as you want, you need to take a deeper look at the polarity in the relationship.

You can find yourself in that situation very easily and it’s not long before you start taking your frustration with the lack of appreciation out on your partner. You might also be second-guessing yourself all the time – stop doing that and instead focus on the signs to look out for that your partner may be losing interest in you and the ways to fix them.

Here Are 7 Signs Your Partner Isn’t Attracted To You

“Love is about mutual respect, apart from attraction.” – George Best

1. When your partner’s not attracted, the romance is dead

You both get caught in your routine and you begin putting up with each other’s presence rather than appreciating it. Romantic date nights are a thing of the past, they no longer seem to be interested in Netflix and chill sessions with your favorite show, and sex is a long-forgotten fantasy.

The way to fix this is to take initiative and plan date nights, trips, cinema visits or even getting more creative in bed – those are all things you can do to spark up your SO’s interest again and make them feel like you haven’t left the honeymoon phase.

2. They have no time for you

This can manifest in many different ways – the most common one is when they make up ridiculous reasons to bail on your plans. If it rubs you the wrong way, then it’s something to look into. Why don’t they want to spend time with you, and what’s changed?

To mend this, you need to talk to your partner. Let them know what you’re thinking and ask for an explanation for their behavior – if they’ve been cold and unapproachable, you deserve one.

3. They pick fights if they no longer feel attracted to you

Life coach Kali Rogers says, “If you notice a shift in patience that could be a sign your partner isn’t happy with your compatibility.” Any couple can get annoyed with one another, but if things range into a territory that makes you uncomfortable, then they’re probably thinking about leaving.

It’s often the case that if someone’s sensitive to very trivial chores – like not emptying the dishwasher, for example – it’s a sign that they’re actually a lot angrier about something else. The key to fixing this is to stay calm and, the next time it comes up. Instead, ask your significant other what the real issue is. Once you get to the root of the problem, that’s when you can start solving it.

4. The silent phone

Of course, you should not call your SO every minute of every day. Nor should you expect that of them. It’s normal to have lives outside the relationship, however, it takes only a minute to text or two minutes to call and check how the other is. If that’s happening less and less, or if you find yourself always texting first, this may be a sign that your partner simply doesn’t care enough to check on you.

To overcome this, you should be open with them. Let them know that you need more communication day-to-day – and if they’re worth it, they’ll do everything they can to make you comfortable.

5. They don’t have plans for the future

If they like to talk about “my” rather than “our” future plans, that can normally be a big red flag. A truly committed partner will always see you with them in the next two, five, or ten years.

Former Newlyweds Expert for About.com Francesca Di Meglio adds, “If you don’t discuss the future, your spouse is no longer expecting to be with you for the long term or he’s simply not looking forward to it.

If they’re dodging that subject, that signals that they’re probably not in it for the long-term. To help this, it’s a good idea to discuss how you feel about your future. Maybe take them to meet your parents, or go on a long vacation. That will definitely show your SO that you’re serious about the relationship and perhaps will help them consider you as a part of their future, too.

6. You have awkward conversations when the attraction fades

Remember the first few months of your relationship, when you couldn’t stop talking to each other? Well, if this is no longer the case, you need to reexamine why this is. Of course, it’s possible to exist in comfortable silence, however, if you’re walking on eggshells and can never find a topic of discussion with your partner anymore, that may be a problem.

Clinical hypnotherapist, author and educator Rachel Astarte states, “A small indication that your partner is unhappy in your relationship is a trending inability to communicate.” The way to fix this is to spice things up. Go somewhere new, be it another country, another town, or another restaurant for dinner. Discovering new experiences together can bring back excitement in a relationship.

7. You always come second if your partner is not attracted

The takeaway from most of these is that you want to feel like you’re your partner’s priority. Divorce Support Expert Cathy W. Meyer mentions, “If he would rather spend time with his friends than you, then that can bleed over into other aspects of the marriage and relationship.

If you always put their needs above and beyond yours, but don’t get the same in return, that can be a big sign that they’re possibly losing interest in you. Unfortunately, the only way to fix this is to have a frank conversation. However, you must prepare to hear things you might not want to hear. Normally, if a relationship is at that stage, it’s close to the point of no return.

It’s vital to be able to pick your battles when it comes to relationships. If you think your relationship is worth salvaging and you’re willing to put the work in, great. But if you only feel miserable, then it’s probably time to end it and look for something better. That way, it won’t feel like you’re going through a bad time all the time!

Falling out of love is painful, especially if you feel your partner’s no longer attracted. But that will pass. When you meet the right person, you will never have to worry about any of these things – and if you do, it’ll be easy to solve them by knowing how devoted they are to you.



7 Negative Excuses to Stop Using Right Now

Negative behavior is part of the human experience. But when you indulge in it too frequently, that’s a problem

“Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals.” ~ Psychology Today

Everyone is guilty to some degree of self-deception – some more so than others. These come in the form of negative excuses.

Why?

Because we’re human!!

Fortunately for us, it possible to defeat any negative behavior sabotaging our progress. But the first step to solving any problem is admitting there is one.

And one big problem we have is lying to ourselves.

Lying about our behaviors, thoughts, and actions – and accomplishing absolutely nothing in the process.

Can you imagine a life without self-deception? How much more at peace we’d be with ourselves and the world? Not only could we accomplish so much more – we could love ourselves so much more. In turn, we could love one another so much more.

We can, and should, imagine such a life. Even better news: we can have such a life.

It all comes down to our willingness to disengage from self-deception! To get us started on the beautiful path towards liberation, let’s point out some of the more negative and popular fibs we tell ourselves.

Here are seven negative phrases to stop telling ourselves right now! (We can do it!)

1. “I don’t have enough time.” 

In a piece titled “Self-Sabotage: The Enemy Within,” the authors write:

“When it comes to self-sabotage, procrastination is king. Why? Because procrastination is the gap between intention and action, and it is in this gap that the self operates. The undermining behavior lies in not closing the gap.”

Fix: We procrastinate for one reason, and one reason only: we think too far ahead. “Research indicates that establishing a low threshold to task engagement fuels motivation,” writes the authors.

Their advice? Just get started on the task. You’ll quickly realize things aren’t bad at all.

2. “I can’t live without (x).” 

Fill in the ‘x.’

Unless the ‘x’ is love, oxygen, water, or food, the statement is not true. We can live without things. In fact, there’s a term for this type of self-denial; it’s called resilience.

Our brain is a wonderful, magical, and uber-intelligent organ. It’s also a drama queen. The brain will overreact to anything unless we train it otherwise.

We will engage in self-deception without realizing it. We’ll come up with excuses without knowing it. We’ll “need” something without needing it.

Fix: Read about minimalism. Believe us; you can live with far fewer people and things than you think.

3. “It’s too hard!”

Speaking of the brain. Another one of its favorite tricks is trying to get you to believe you’re incapable.

Let’s use the infamous New Year’s Resolution as an example. The ball drops in Times Square, and you’re committed to some goal. You happily celebrate with your friends and maybe down a glass of champagne or six.

A few days, weeks, or months roll by, and we give up. “It’s too hard.”

Fix: Most of us don’t quit something on a whim. In many cases, we punish ourselves over the mistakes we’ve committed along the way until we can no longer accept the situation.

It’s important to realize that mistakes happen (we’re human, remember?!). Your errors in judgment are nothing more than detours. You’ll eventually reach your goal … if you don’t give up!

lies

4. “I’ll look like an idiot.”

One of the biggest fears many of us have is the fear of rejection. How is someone rejected? By what they think, do, and say.

Look at some of the most revered people throughout history. Most of these individuals were heavily criticized and mocked for nothing more than being themselves.

Fix: Realize one simple thing.

Unless you’re a celebrity, most people are too wrapped up in their inner worlds to pay you much attention. The truth is that our mind tricks us into thinking we’re being critiqued when, in fact, nobody cares!

5. “I’m not strong enough.” 

What is inner strength? Inner strength, writes Remez Sasson, is “willpower, self-discipline, persistence, the ability to concentrate, and piece of mind.”

In spite of popular belief, nobody is born with inner strength. Nor is inner strength bravado or “toughing it out.” Quite the contrary. Real inner strength is simply letting go – of anger, anxieties, and stress.

Fix: Buddha once said: “The mind is everything; what we think, we become.” If we think peace, harmony, acceptance, and gentle self-discipline, we will embody those things. Consider studying some form of meditation.

6. “I’ll do it. Just not today.” 

If you’ve ever worked in sales, you heard some variation of this statement multiple times. 99 percent of customers who utter these words are never seen or heard from again – or they buy from someone/somewhere else.

Jim Rohn once said “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

“Not today” is self-defeating. “Not today” is, more often than not, an excuse.”

Fix: Evaluate the reasons why you’re putting something off. Are they legitimate reasons (illness, burn-out, overwhelm, etc.), or impulses masquerading as rational thoughts?

Be honest with yourself. If you know it’s the latter, gently refocus your attention and start small. You’ll be done in no time!

7. “The world is against me.” 

To be fair, we’ve all thought this at one time or another. Life can be hard, after all.

Sometimes there is a person against you; someone who wants to steal your happiness. Make you miserable.

The question we need to ask is: “Will I allow it?”

Fix: Although our circumstances may not, at times, allow us to appreciate or realize this, it nonetheless remains a fact…

Happiness comes from within.

When we make a conscious choice to regularly take in and appreciate life’s abundance – family, friends, health, love, nature, etc. – we will change our mindset. We may experience growing pains along the way, but if we remain mindful of this fact, it will become part of us.

And the truth is that you need negative energy to appreciate all the blessings in your life.

Sources:
http://observer.com/2015/07/the-secret-to-happiness-is-ten-specific-behaviors/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201109/procrastination-oops-where-did-the-day-go
https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/self-sabotage
https://www.successconsciousness.com/inner-strength.htm

5 Habits of Emotionally Stable People

Emotionally stable people are often wrongly perceived to be cold and apathetic. That’s because emotions often seem to be the antithesis of reason and stability. In reality, emotional strength isn’t about eliminating or avoiding feelings altogether; rather, it’s all about how resilient you are to stressful factors and emotions in the long-term. More often than not, stability actually refers to our ability to bounce back from challenges and bad situations.

“So, we have a choice, and sometimes it seems very hard, but the best way to heal physically or emotionally is to keep positive.” – Petra Nemcova

That’s why, when judging emotional strength, the immediate reaction to stress doesn’t really come into play. Maybe, when dealing with a challenge, someone we would perceive as a stoic person would remain calm on the outside but then not attempt the challenge again from fear of failure. On the other hand, someone can have a very visceral emotional reaction to the initial challenging factor and break down in tears – but then they come back and start on that same challenge with new methods a few days later.

In that scenario, we know that they were the more emotionally stable one as they found the resilience to pick themselves up and carry on, rather than wallow in the misery of their failure. Do you think you’re emotionally stable?

Here Are Five Things That People With Resilient Personalities Are Known To Do

emotionally supportive

1. They don’t mind taking risks.

Mentally strong people are never afraid to challenge the status quo and discover new experiences. They logically approach every new opportunity and take calculated risks to be able to reap the benefits alter. They’re also open to the prospect of failure and are ready to counter this, even if it’s unpleasant.

Author Amy Morin says, “Mentally strong people view adversity as an opportunity to grow stronger. With each obstacle they overcome, they gain confidence in their ability to become better.

The way to practice this is by exploring where your comfort zone is and then pushing past its boundaries. Once you discover what it is that makes you uncomfortable or scared and attempt to overcome it, then next time you’ll overcome something bigger and eventually you’ll be more open to taking risks.

2. They are accountable

People who are emotionally and mentally strong know that they have to take full accountability for everything that’s happening in their lives. They never try to shift the blame onto somebody else because it’s easier and they only take feedback as a chance to improve and do better the next time around. They also complain a lot less, as they are aware that the only way to change an unpleasant situation is to do something about it. You can try working towards establishing this pattern of behavior yourself.

3. They’re open about their needs and feelings

Strength isn’t always identified by your ability to internalize different issues. Most emotionally stable people are very open about their feelings and needs. They don’t assume that they’re being a bother because, for them, no human being’s emotions and needs are an inconvenience. They know that other people’s emotions are just as valid as theirs. A good way to practice this is to work on your communication skills, first with people close to you and then with people outside your inner circle. Practice makes perfect on this skill.

emotionally stable

4. They know how and when to set boundaries

In modern society, there’s almost a stigma associated with refusing things, created by things like the obligatory ‘to-do attitude’ or the concept of FOMO (fear of missing out). Emotionally strong people can easily say ‘no’ and can set healthy boundaries so that they can grow into their sense of mental maturity.

Even if it involves disappointing others, they put their own well-being first and can refuse things that they believe will affect them negatively. This is a very difficult habit to get into, however, persistence is key. Start small by saying no to one in every five things you’re invited into, and if you see that it works for you, expand it. It’s all about creating your own comfort zone and knowing what your boundaries are.

5. They look forward to a better future

Emotionally stable people have their eyes set on the horizon ahead and aren’t looking over their shoulder to the past. Sure, they can reflect on what’s happened in the past, looking back at the lessons they’ve learned and how they can help them develop into a stronger person. However, dwelling on past mistakes can hinder progress and make it difficult for you to move on.

Emotionally stable people “forgo immediate gratification by keeping their long-term goals in mind. They view obstacles as challenges, rather than roadblocks to their success,” says Morin.

A good way to go about this is to remove physical objects that might remind you of your past mistakes. Photos of that horrible ex? Your bus card from school, where you went every morning filled with dread? It’s time to stop holding onto these things and make space in your life for new, happier memories.

Author Hara Estroff Marano says, “At the heart of resilience is a belief in oneself—yet also a belief in something larger than oneself. Resilient people do not let adversity define them. They find resilience by moving towards a goal beyond themselves, transcending pain and grief by perceiving bad times as a temporary state of affairs.”

Learning and adapting strategies in emotional stability is never an easy task, however, you can achieve a lot more than you think if you set your mind to it and are determined to improve your own self-confidence and mental strength. Follow these five steps and you will see the difference soon enough!

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