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14 Behaviors Manipulators Will Hide From You

October 6, 2017 by Chris Butler

Manipulators don’t care. At their core, manipulators can be callous liars.

Have you ever seen the Dr. Phil show? When the television psychologist believes someone is trying to get one over on him or someone else, he will – in his southern drawl – proclaim, “This ain’t about you-uu!”

Dr. Phil has seen his fair share of liars and manipulators. For those who like him, to watch Dr. Phil – a mental health expert the size of an NFL linebacker – put someone in their place is beautiful.

It takes some serious gall to lie to Dr. Phil. But, liars being liars, manipulators being manipulators, they try to get one over anyways.

They may show respectability and sincerity, but this is nothing more than window dressing. Manipulators are skilled and experienced schemers who will conceal their real motive: getting what they want – at any cost.

The selfish nature of a manipulator is sometimes complicated to see until you’ve become too involved. Again, manipulators are adept schemers; they understand the importance of gaining your trust.

Once they do, their true character reveals itself.

It benefits us to understand their psychology to avoid being duped (and potentially ruined) by a manipulator.

Manipulators Will Display These Fourteen Revealing Behaviors

Here are fourteen subtle behaviors of manipulative people:

1. Playing Dumb

Manipulators are many things, but dumb isn’t usually one of them.

They will quickly drain people’s energy in their selfish pursuits; for example, asking for help and advice only to do what they want. Give a manipulator an inch, and they’ll take a mile.

When you call them out on their egotistical behavior, they’ll act as if you were speaking some foreign language.

Your eyes and mind do not deceive you. On the other hand, that manipulative “friend” of yours is deceiving you.

2. Catty Gossiping

To be catty in gossip is to be subtly or indirectly insulting. Unsurprisingly, manipulators enjoy engaging in this nonsense.

You see, besides being liars, manipulators are cruel, malicious, and selfish. These personality traits are particularly evident when they feel someone has ‘wronged’ them somehow.

Sadly, many people have been victimized by their devious and nasty cattiness.

Not associating with a manipulator is the best course of action. Once you’ve uncovered their real character, ignore them. Trust that a reasonable person will do the same.

3. Testing Boundaries

Abigail Brenner, M.D., a psychiatrist, and author, writes:

“Crowding into your space – physically, emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually – is of no concern to them. The lack understanding about what personal space and identify mean, or just don’t care.”

Dr. Brenner explains that permitting this behavior will likely result in someone leaving a tired and weakened state. If the manipulator detects this, they probably will. They’ll push your boundaries even further.

Please don’t allow it! Put your foot down! Whether the person is a certifiable manipulator is irrelevant – do not tolerate someone who violates your space.

4. Clever Concealment

Do you happen to know what counterintelligence is?

Counterintelligence is “activities to prevent or thwart spying, intelligence gathering, and sabotage by an enemy or other foreign entity.”

Every country with a military has people specializing in counterintelligence within their ranks. Counterintelligence is critical to a vulnerable country’s defense (see: South Korea.)

To prevent being taken advantage of by a manipulator (or anyone of ill will) requires you to tap into your counterintelligence skills. Manipulators are crafty enemy – and some will conceal their intentions and actions smartly.

But if you’re observant and patient, you will penetrate their “defenses.” And if you do, don’t walk – but run the other way – out of that person’s life.

5. Changing Colors Like a Chameleon

Manipulative people will seek out perceived sensibilities and sensitivities in a true narcissistic fashion. While most others genuinely admire and respect such personality traits, manipulators see them as a weakness, something to exploit.

As such, they will cater to the goodhearted nature of others and even reciprocate some benevolent feelings. Kind people may befriend the chameleon, only to – slowly – see them change colors.

Once you see the chameleon begin to change colors, you are better off backing away. Yes, you are a nice person – but this isn’t a time for niceties.

6. Playing the Victim and Rejecting Responsibility

For someone so “tough,” a manipulator quickly turns into a sheep when their motives are uncovered.

Call a manipulator out on something, and they will either play the victim or blame someone. See, manipulators are deluded and egotistical to think that nobody is smart enough to keep up with them. Believe that someone, probably multiple people, has already burst their deluded bubble.

Anyways, manipulators have no code of ethics to speak of. Playing victim or blaming someone else is just another way for them to avoid responsibility.

6. Quickly Getting too Close

Manipulators aren’t satisfied with taking their time to get to know you. Instead, it’s full steam ahead, and they try to act like your best friends. Manipulators don’t waste time and often divulge personal information too quickly.

They want you to think that they are sensitive and vulnerable. Unfortunately, it’s just a clever ruse to make you comfortable enough to talk about skeletons in your closet. Their goal is to manipulate you into believing that you’re soulmates.

However, it’s like the tempting bit of cheese on the mousetrap. The trap is sprung once you’ve dropped your guard and begun self-disclosing to this stranger. They’ll use everything you’ve revealed to them as leverage to get what they want.

7. Keeping Everything on Their Turf

Manipulative bullies feel the most empowered when they have the “home court” advantage. It’s easier for them to entangle you on their web. They know that you’ll feel uneasy in an atmosphere that’s unfamiliar to you.

For example, they’re more apt to push their opinions on you if you are in their home or office. It’s an imbalance of power that they use to their advantage. Ask yourself why they keep insisting on meeting you on their terms.

8. Using Intellectual Bullying Tactics

Almost everyone knows someone in their personal or professional circle who’s an arrogant know-it-all. They act as your grammar police and fact-checker no matter what you say. They’re the first to correct your pronunciation, conversation, manners, and accuracy.

When a person uses their knowledge and skills as a weapon against you, intellectual bullying. It’s a standard control tactic that manipulators use in relationships. They try to keep you subordinated to them in their quest to make you look dull-witted.

9. Trying to Minimize Your Problems

An article published by Frontiers in Psychology explores the link between types of narcissism and emotional intelligence. According to the report, one of the expected behaviors of grandiose narcissism is exploiting others. In other words, these toxic individuals emotionally manipulate people for their gain.

Most narcissists lack empathy and can’t see beyond their private bubbles. Even when it comes to personal problems and crises, they must be at the top. They will often try to downplay if you are battling an ongoing situation.

Don’t look for any compassion from these psychologically poisonous personalities. They’ll use condescending speech to make you feel guilty for having problems. Then, they’ll turn the spotlight on themselves and whine for everyone else to hear.

10. Disguising Aggression as Humor

One of the most significant tool manipulators uses passive aggression, often disguised as humor. They’re not always a drag at family reunions and office parties. Instead, these control addicts are often so subtle with their insults that it may take a minute to realize.

They may offer what sounds like a sincere compliment, like “You look great in that outfit.” Then, it’s quickly followed by a jab like, “I wonder if they carry it in your size?” After they stop chuckling and you stand there speechless, they exclaim, “Just kidding.”

If you refuse to laugh at their cruel taunts, they’ll accuse you of not having a sense of humor. They specialize in this passive aggression to destroy your self-confidence and self-worth. Then, they figure it will be easier for them to manipulate you.

11. Constant Lying

Emotional manipulation of others usually requires a pattern of lying. The offender lies to you about one thing and covers it up with more lies. They expertly hide their tracks, so you’re less likely to realize their control issues.

According to an article published by the American Academy of Psychology and the Law, lying is a habit of manipulative people. They’ll often twist and exaggerate the facts to confuse you. As always, they do it to their advantage.

12. Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a notorious ploy for taking advantage of others emotionally. The controlling person tries to confuse and frustrate you so much that you doubt your sanity. They carefully execute the plan by lying and playing with your emotions.

They often take it a step further by making you look incompetent in front of family and friends. If you start to doubt your abilities, you’ll need that toxic person more. Gaslighting is a powerful attempt to control your life.

13. Laying on Guilt Trips

A manipulator will gladly add to it if you don’t face enough false guilt on your own. These sly foxes are virtual travel agents for guilt trips. Frequently, they twist your emotions until you submit to them out of guilt.

You went to a friend’s baby shower, and your manipulative mate was home. As soon as you return, they act hurt and rejected. How cruel were you to enjoy something without them being in control?

If their plan succeeds, you’ll hate yourself and feel guilty. Of course, they’ll accept your apologies because it’s their kind nature. They aim to entrap you with false guilt and shame, so you belong to them.

14. Criticizing All You Say and Do

Manipulators work slowly to erode your self-esteem. This malignant personality feels threatened by your accomplishments, and they’ll try to downplay all you do. They may criticize how you talk, walk, dress, and think.

Realize that this isn’t constructive criticism given in kindness and good intentions. Manipulators belittle others to make themselves look better. They assume you have a bad attitude if you object to their cruel observations.

Final Thoughts on Behaviors Manipulators Will Hide from You

Manipulative people use smoke and mirrors to disguise their wicked intentions. Behind the smiles and faux concerns, they’re trying to dominate your life. The more you learn about their behavior, the less power they can have over you.

7 Signs Someone Is Trying to Steal Your Partner (And How to Stop Them)

October 5, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Do you have an incredibly attractive, charismatic, and charming partner? If you are, then lucky you!

But being human, you may be worried that someone would try to take your partner from you. After all, if they’re attractive and funny, other people may want to move in on your relationship and try to usurp you as your current partner. If you’re worried, you may want to assess whether you have any reason to be. Is your partner particularly flaky, or do they show signs of wanting to stray?

“If a woman ever steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him. Real men can’t be stolen.” – Unknown

If the relationship is long-term, do you feel it’s run its course? Do you suspect your partner wants to move on? Or, if the relationship is newer, you may feel like it’s a little rocky and that anyone could come through and ruin it. Learning how to deal with jealousy and ensure no one takes your partner from you can be tricky. But here are some ways to ensure someone doesn’t steal your partner from you.

Here Are Seven Signs That Someone Is Looking To Steal Your Partner

1. Social Media

Do you notice someone constantly liking all his posts on Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat? This might signify that someone is trying to steal him away from you. This may be friendly behavior all on its own. So when someone likes every post your partner makes, it may signify that they hope to make sure your partner pays more attention to them than they are to you.

2. They gossip about you

Everyone likes to gossip. It’s practically human nature! However, someone looking to steal your partner will likely gossip or talk badly about you behind your back. Often they’ll say these things to your partner! They will make sure that they pick on every one of your flaws and repeatedly point them out to your significant other.

3. They’re overly affectionate

Someone who doesn’t respect your relationship will be overly affectionate with your partner in ways that often make you uncomfortable. If this person is touching your partner excessively on the arm or giving them inappropriately long hugs, it’s most likely a sign that they’re seeking to move in and take your partner from you.

4. They’re just like you

There should be nothing stopping your partner from making new friends. In fact, you should encourage it! However, if their new friend seems suspiciously just like you, it may be a sign that they’re trying to move in on your relationship. If they copy your personality traits and endearing mannerisms, it may be a sign that they’re trying to get your partner to start thinking of them the same way they think of you.

5. They laugh at EVERYTHING your partner says

Even if you love your partner and think they’re the funniest person on earth, the only person who should be laughing at everything your partner says is you. If someone is acting like they’re the funniest person in the world, they may be trying to butter them up and flatter them. Indeed, that might show that they’re looking to move in. Author Madison Moore says,

“Laughing leads to touching which is an excuse to create a connection and have some sort of closeness.”

6. Constant texting

Again, your partner should have friends. It’s natural to make them, keep them, and communicate with them. But if someone is constantly texting your partner at all hours of the night, every day, constantly … they’re probably looking at them as more than a friend.

7. They always want to hang out

Someone who is after your partner will want to ensure they see your partner more than you are. If your partner seems always to hang out with one specific person whenever you check in on them, then it’s a definite sign that they’re probably viewing your partner as more than just a friend.

Here are some ways to stop someone from stealing your partner:

Stay calm

If your partner has never shown signs of wanting to leave you, then freaking out can be one way to put a strain on a relationship where there wasn’t any before. Freaking out will only ensure that your significant other will start to feel as if you don’t trust them, which can make them feel resentful.

Communicate with your partner

If you start acting nervous and jealous without letting them know why they can get very confused. If you feel like someone is trying to get in between you and your love, the best thing to do is keep the communication between the two of you open.

Assess the relationship

Relationship expert, psychologist and author Dr. Noelle Nelson says,

“If you want to protect your relationship, look first to the quality of your friendship. Stay involved in your man’s life, so he will want to stay involved — with you.”

The same goes for women too.

If the relationship is fairly new, it may be possible that someone else could come in just at the right time and try to form a stronger connection with your partner. However, if the relationship has been going on for quite some time, it may be less likely that your partner notices someone else is interested in them.

Stand up for yourself

You don’t want to cause unnecessary drama by trying to start a fight, but establishing firm boundaries is the way to go. Talk to the other person and let them know their behavior makes you uncomfortable, and you would prefer if they found their relationship – two is enough for yours!

Call their bluff

If you feel secure in your relationship, telling them to “Go ahead and try!” might be enough to get them back off and bother someone else. If your relationship is strong and secure, you won’t have to worry about whether your partner will give them a second thought.

Give your partner attention and affection

If your relationship is dwindling, you may feel your significant other could find happiness elsewhere. So maybe it’s time to put the spark back in the romance. Increasing the attention and affection, you give your partner can be all they need to feel happy and satisfied in the relationship again.

Let them go

This one is a tough pill to swallow. But in the end, someone can’t steal your partner from you, especially if there’s no partner to speak of. Letting them go if that time comes will be less painful for everyone involved, even if it may be extremely upsetting. But if the relationship is meant to last, your partner will put in the same effort as you.

As dating and relationship coach Marina Margulis says, “The best thing you can do in such a situation is walk away with dignity. I’m not saying it doesn’t sting. But resisting it will only make the situation worse. So, walk away and get ready to meet the guy who’s truly right for you.”

Why Depressed People Get Angry (And How to Handle Them)

October 5, 2017 by Sarah Barkley

If you have depression or know someone who does, you might notice that depressed people get angry. It’s hard to see the correlation between depression and anger, but it’s there if you know why it occurs. Knowing why anger happens can help you learn how to handle a depressed person who gets angry.

Anger is a normal human emotion, and everyone will experience it at some point. However, anger is different when caused by depression, often surprising everyone by its sudden and unexpected onset.

Depressed people often get angry at the world, events from the past, or even themselves. It can be an intense feeling that’s difficult to control, affecting personal and professional relationships.

Depression is a mental health disorder that causes low mood, trouble concentrating, and difficulty sleeping. Anger isn’t a diagnosable condition, but it is a negative symptom of mental health disorders. Depressed people can experience anger in a few forms, so it doesn’t always manifest in the same way.

The Types of Anger That Accompany Depression

Irritability

If you notice that someone snaps at others over trivial things, it could be irritability caused by depression. They might be unable to handle minimal disappointments, causing adverse reactions. Signs of irritability include:

Being impatient with others
Lashing out over minor issues
Slamming doors or tossing objects
Making critical or harsh remarks
Pacing, fidgeting, or remaining in constant motion
Having a pessimistic outlook

Hostility

When someone becomes hostile toward others, it could be that they’re depressed. It can show as becoming outwardly angry for seemingly no reason. Their hostility leads to them attacking those around them, even those who had nothing to do with the situation.

Some signs of hostility include:

Making sarcastic or cruel comments
Blaming others
Responding to perceived threats with aggressive outbursts
Being unfriendly or mean
Doubting the intentions of others

Rapid and Intense Onset

The rapid and intense onset of anger can occur because of depression. This situation is called an anger attack, and it can be in response to trivial issues. Signs of an anger attack include:

Intense anger that isn’t normal for that person
Disproportionate anger for the circumstance
Increased sweating
Pressure or tightening of the chest
Numbness or tingling in your limbs
Having a hard time taking a deep breath
Feeling dizzy or lightheadedness
Experiencing shaking without reason
Feelings of guilt and regret after the outburst
Experiencing an urge to physically or verbally lash out
Destroying objects
Sensing a loss of control

Why Depressed People Become So Angry

Research shows that anger is related to depression because of serotonergic dysfunction. This dysfunction means that the neurochemicals in the brain and imbalanced. Without balance, it causes irritability, depression, and anger.

Sometimes this anger is turned inward, making the person have a negative inner voice. It makes it hard for the person to move past shame, and it causes low self-worth. When anger turns inward, it makes a person even more depressed, worsening all other symptoms.

Other times, the anger turns outward and projects onto others. It causes the depressed person to lash out at those around them for minor things. The person usually feels guilty after the fact but can’t control their reactions at the moment.

When a depressed person can’t deal with stress in the workplace, it could lead to issues with coworkers and managers. It also affects personal relationships as many people don’t know how to handle it.

While it’s hard to pinpoint why some people experience anger and others don’t, experts have narrowed down some ideas. Some of the causes of rage during depression include:

Gender

While men and women can experience this situation, it is more common among men. Experts believe that men try to put up a tough exterior when they feel sad, weak, or helpless—their need to handle things with toughness causes them to lash out in anger.

Age

Anger can occur for anyone with depression, but children and teenagers lash out more. They might be cranky and experience outbursts or a short tempter. However, children aren’t the only ones who experience more anger during the depression. The elderly experience more anger than younger adults.

Experiencing Other Conditions While Depressed

If a person has mental health conditions other than depression, it can trigger anger. This situation occurs when they also have one of the following disorders:

Anxiety
Substance use
Personality
Post-traumatic stress

Past Trauma, Neglect, or Abuse

People with a history of trauma, neglect, or abuse increase their chances of developing angry depression. In many cases, they couldn’t react or express their feelings, causing them to suppress them later in life. It manifests as anger, including irritability or outbursts.

How to Handle a Depressed Person Who Gets Angry

Dealing with an angry person is never a good time, but when you know they’re depressed, it can help you be more understanding. Don’t get flustered or upset because there are better ways to handle the person.

Keep Yourself Safe When You Approach Someone Who Seems Depressed

The first tip for handling this situation is to stay safe. Use your best judgment and leave the room immediately if you feel like you have to. Leaving the area isn’t always necessary, but you must do what is best for you.

Avoid Getting Angry in Return

Responding with anger won’t help the situation, and it’ll only make you feel worse. Stay calm and think before you respond, preventing an escalation. Consider taking a walk to calm your mind before dealing with what happened.

Know That You Didn’t Cause the Anger

Studies show that knowing you didn’t cause the anger won’t upset you as much. If you regularly encounter an angry person, see if you can figure out the cause. When you know the cause, you can remind yourself why they get upset and that you’re not the reason.

Prepare Yourself

If you know if you must encounter an angry person, prepare yourself for their outbursts. Remind yourself ahead of time that it has nothing to do with you.

Preparing yourself will help you keep your confidence throughout the experience. It’ll also help you stay calm when the attacks begin.

Use Distraction

Distracting an angry person can sometimes defuse the situation. Focusing their attention on something else decreases feelings of anger, helping ease the tension. Try to make them laugh because it’ll help prevent another outburst later.

How to Treat Angry Depression in Yourself

If you’re depressed and often get angry, you can treat and overcome the issue. Treating your depression is essential, but there are ways you can address the rage, too.

Depressed for an Extended Time? Go to Therapy

One way to treat angry depression is to visit a therapist. Professional help allows you to find positive ways to overcome your feelings, allowing you to control the rage.

A therapist can help you accept the anger and find ways to fix the issue. They will also help you learn to be kind to yourself rather than turning your anger inward. Therapy is a safe place where you can address the root cause of your issues and find beneficial ways to deal with them.

Learn Anger Management Techniques

Learning to manage your anger can make a difference in your life. Consider attending anger management classes or finding a support group. You can also read self-help books about managing your anger.

Manage the Triggers That Cause You to Feel Depressed

Managing your triggers requires that you stay aware of what sets you off. Think about the people, places, or situations that make you mad.

If you can, try to avoid these triggers. Since avoidance isn’t always an option, prepare yourself for the situation. Find ways to calm yourself before experiencing them, and figure out how to manage the parts that trigger you.

Switch Your Mindset

If you turn your anger inward, learn to stand up to your inner critic. When negative self-talk sets in, make a conscious effort to switch to something positive.

Replace the negativity with a positive statement about yourself. It can ease your depression symptoms, including anger.

When You Get Depressed, Practice Breathing Techniques

Anger worsens if you let it, but you can ease it with breathing techniques. Breathing techniques can help you no matter where you are, so learning a few can make a difference.

They help relax your mind and body as they increase the oxygen flow in your body. Breathing techniques also help control your fight or flight response, easing your anger as you calm down.

Turn to Your Support System

Having a support system is beneficial for everyone, but those with depression need it the most. When you have someone, you can turn to. You’ll feel supported and better able to manage your depression.

Mindfulness Meditation

Meditation is beneficial alone, but using it simultaneously with breathing techniques is also helpful. It helps you reach a state of deep relaxation, allowing you to release your emotions. It helps bring you back to the present and let go of anger and depression.

Yoga When You Feel Depressed

Yoga triggers the release of endorphins in your body, helping reduce symptoms of depression. It reduces stress while improving your mood, helping you fight feelings of anger. Yoga is beneficial because there are many positions you can try, making it fit everyone.

Final Thoughts on Understanding Why Depressed People Get Angry

Struggling with depression is hard enough, but it’s even more complicated when it causes the person to become angry. It can impair daily functioning and interfere with professional and personal life. Finding ways to cope and seeking professional help can make a difference.

By learning to handle a depressed person who gets angry, you can help those around you. You’ll recognize the signs of angry depression and know how to address the person in your life. They likely don’t want to be angry, so be patient and help them work through it.

8 Behaviors To Never Accept In A Relationship

October 5, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Relationships come in all kinds of shapes and sizes.

Larry Shushansky, a speaker, author, and family therapist, says, “Realize that all relationships involve a process and it’s more important to evolve your relationship forward instead of worrying about creating a ‘perfect’ relationship.”

Some things should never be tolerated whether a relationship is romantic, platonic, or familial. A lot of people don’t know what a healthy connection looks like. Consequently, some are prone to finding unhealthy relationships of all kinds.

Some people may mistake the feelings of being in an unhealthy situation with depression and try to treat the wrong things to feel better. Understanding what should never be accepted in a relationship will make it easier to escape a harmful and destructive relationship and start rebuilding your life.

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” – Donald Miller

Eight Behaviors You Should Never Accept In A Relationship

1. A controlling partner

Relationships are built on trust. When there’s a lack of trust, the partnership is going to start to fall apart. Partners who are extremely controlling and demand that they know where their significant other is at all times should never be tolerated.

Author Andrea Bonior, Ph.D. states, “Controlling people use a whole arsenal of tools in order to dominate their partners— whether they or their partners realize what’s happening or not. Whether controlling behavior leads to more severe emotional or physical abuse or not, it is not a healthy situation.”

Therefore, controlling behavior is a red flag. While it may not seem too bad initially, it can escalate quickly. Everyone deserves to have trust, freedom and control over their autonomy in a relationship.

2. Breaching trust

If your partner is going around telling everyone the things you’ve told them in private, or sneaking in your private things like your phone or your computer, then that isn’t okay by any means. Partners should have mutual trust with one another and respect for each other’s belongings and private matters. Someone should be able to trust their partner not to betray them, not worry if they’ve already done so.

3. Neediness

The desire to feel loved and wanted is perfectly normal in most relationships. However, when that desire turns into a controlling neediness, it can overwhelm one partner. Neediness can “destroy romantic relationships, compromise professional opportunities, and contribute to a cycle of frustration, depression, and dissatisfaction,” says relationship development expert AJ Harbinger.

A foundation should be built with two independent partners. If one partner starts acting more like a child than a lover, the relationship is bound to go sour fast. Everyone deserves to feel like an equal, not a caretaker.

4. Negativity

Not everyone can be positive at all times. There are times where people feel low in their lives. But a connection devoid of positivity is something that no one should have to deal with. A consistently negative partner will eventually start to seep into how they treat their significant other, which will be just as negative as the rest of their outlook. Settling for a partner with a negative outlook will only bring you down.

5. Emotionally unavailable

If your partner is emotionally unavailable, then the relationship is just not going to work. People get into relationships because they want to share their lives with another person. Someone emotionally unavailable and getting into a relationship may not have your best interests in mind. They may have little interest in your emotions at all. Instead, they might look only for financial gain or sexual gratification. Being with someone emotionally available is a key part of any connection, and a lack of emotional reciprocation should never be tolerated.

6. Bad listener

Communication is the backbone of any union. Without it, most relationships face a plethora of problems. Psychiatrist Jared Heathman M.D. says, “Maintaining open lines of communication is so important, and a strong relationship allows each individual to express themselves with a partner who listens and promotes further communication.”

Couples who don’t communicate may find that their relationship can sour quickly. One thing that no one should ever have to tolerate in any alliance is a partner who doesn’t listen to them. Someone who doesn’t listen doesn’t value your thoughts, opinions, or feelings. Nobody should have to deal with that in a relationship.

7. Unsupportiveness

A red flag in any partnership is a partner who gets jealous of their significant other’s success or a partner who tries to keep their significant other from achieving their goals. A healthy relationship includes partners who support one another, not partners who try to sabotage one another. Never accept a scenario where your partner doesn’t support your dreams and goals in life.

8. Irresponsibility

A partner who shirks their share of the chores, spends recklessly, and rejects responsibility for their actions is not the partner you want. In fact, that’s a partner that nobody should have to deal with in a relationship.

According to clinical psychologist Russell Grieger, Ph.D., ““being” responsible may very well serve to make relationships work despite other debilitating factors, while “being” irresponsible may seriously undercut an otherwise viable relationship. The purpose of this article, then, is to explore the nature.”

If one person in the relationship isn’t ready to face adulthood and all the responsibilities that come with it, neither are they ready to commit to a relationship.

Final Thoughts on Behaviors That Destroy Relationships

Learning how relationships can go wrong can help people be on the lookout for red flags and unhealthy relationship dynamics. Many people don’t know that there are things that they must refuse to accept in a relationship. That’s because they never learned any better. The more people become aware of the healthy, happy things they deserve in a relationship, the better off they’ll be. As a result, they will seek more fulfilling alliances, and being a positive force on the people around them.

What Does Your Zodiac Sign Reveal About Your Health?

October 5, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Science and astrology don’t always, but many people still look to the stars for guidance. In fact, according to a 2013 Harris poll, almost 30 percent of Americans believe in astrology. Astrology uses the movement and positions of the stars and other celestial objects to draw information about life events, personality, and even human health.

You might relate to what the stars say about your personal health, so keep on reading to find out how your sign checks out!

What Does Your Zodiac Sign Say About Your Health?

Aries (March 21 — April 20)

Association: head, brain, face

Aries love action and excitement, and have a very determined, headstrong attitude. While this can get them far in life, it can also lead to headaches, migraines, and even strokes from chronic overstress. Aries tend to pack their schedules tightly and don’t leave much time for rest, hence the high stress levels. While this sign does need a lot of stimulation, don’t forget to allot yourself a rest day here and there to recharge!

Taurus (April 21 — May 21)

Association: neck, ears, throat

For whatever reason, Taureans seem to have trouble with allergies and colds. This sign rules the throat and associated regions, which leads to a lot of wear and tear on the vocal cords. Some herbal tea before bed would do you well, Taurus.

Gemini (May 22 — June 21)

Association: lungs, shoulders, arms, hands

According to an article posted on rd.com: “Gemini is the zodiac sign that rules the shoulders, arms, and hands, as well as the nervous system,” says professional astrologer Suzanne Gerber. “The high-energy sign thrives on communication but can develop problems in these areas, as well as colds, as a result of the ‘too much of a good thing’ syndrome.

While Geminis are usually lively and outgoing, all of this communication and energy required to socialize can lead to anxiety disorders, insomnia, and other mental health problems. In addition, Geminis can suffer from fatigue and laziness if they don’t learn to balance their energy levels.

Cancer (June 22 — July 22)

Association: breasts, chest, stomach

Cancers, being water signs, are very in tune to their emotions. Unfortunately, this fixation on their feelings can quickly lead to anxiety and depression. Cancers also tend to drown their emotions in food, which often results in weight management and digestive problems. Many Cancers suffer from a “nervous stomach” due to this combination of anxiety and overeating.

Leo (July 23 — August 21)

Association: heart, back, spine, blood

Leo, a fire sign, is always on the go. They don’t know when to slow down, and have a very fast metabolism. Unfortunately, this can lead to heart problems and blocked arteries due to poor eating habits while rushing to the next event. Leo: take some time to ease into your day, prepare some healthy foods, and slow down one in a while!

Virgo (August 22 — September 23)

Association: abdomen, intestines

Virgos are very analytical, logical signs. As such, they overthink everything, and are prone to eating disorders and IBS due to stress and poor self-esteem or body image. Virgo can greatly benefit from yoga or mindfulness meditation to keep any intrusive thoughts at bay.

Libra (September 24 — October 23)

Association: kidneys, adrenal glands, skin

Libras, the keepers of balance, often struggle to keep their scales level. They are prone to either diarrhea or constipation when they don’t stay on top of their diets, so for Libras, mindfulness can also help. In addition, Libras have sensitive skin, so staying hydrated will help both the epidermis and the intestines.

Scorpio (October 24 — November 22)

Association: bladder, rectum, genitals, ovaries, testes

According to Suzanne Gerber, “Scorpio rules the reproductive and elimination organs. As an intense water sign that can dwell on the dark side of life, their moods can bring on or exacerbate conditions that have to do with menstrual cycles, bathroom issues, hormones, and diabetes.”

Scorpios should keep their emotions in check, and also not let their hormones get the best of them with new romantic partners. 😉

Sagittarius (November 23 — December 22)

Association: hips, thighs, sciatic nerves, vision

Sagittarius are fun, outgoing, adventurous signs, but their restlessness can cause them trouble. They tend to have problems with vision, hips and thighs, being that they’re half-human, half-horse Archers, of course. This sign is very accident prone, so make sure to watch your step, fellow Sagittarians!

Capricorn (December 23 — January 20)

Association: bones, knees, teeth, skin, joints

Capricorns love order and discipline, but can suffer from stress and tense muscles. They also can get weak bones and joints if they don’t get enough calcium in their diets. So, advice for all Capricorns: Get enough calcium, and make sure you go for a massage every once in a while to relieve tension.

Aquarius (January 21 — February 19)

Association: lower legs, ankles, circulation

Aquarians often walk their own path in life, but this can be hindered due to weak circulation and issues in the lower legs and ankles. Maybe the stress of flying solo in life can lead to weakness in these areas? Who knows, but nevertheless, be mindful of your health, Aquarius, and don’t walk too far without taking breaks. 🙂

Pisces (February 20 — March 20)

Association: nervous system, feet, thalamus

Pisces, being a water sign, allows their emotions to control them most of the time. This can lead to overtaxed nervous systems and mental problems. Also, this sign rules the feet and might experience problems in this area, as well as with reflexes. Pisces, make sure you take care of yourself and find a healthy outlet for your emotions.

Sources:
https://www.rd.com/health/conditions/what-your-zodiac-says-about-your-health
http://www.theharrispoll.com/

8 Warning Signs of Anemia

October 5, 2017 by Power of Positivity

“One of the dilemmas with anemia is that the symptoms are pretty ubiquitous: tiredness, weakness, some difficulty in thinking clearly. They’re all kind of vague.” – Dr. Allen Nissenson

Not many people know the warning signs of anemia, despite the fact that iron-deficiency anemia is one of the most common forms of the subtle and quiet disease. Your body needs iron, and it is essential to the making of healthy red blood cells. Without iron, your body has trouble making the blood cells – which means that loss of blood from a cut or a woman’s menstrual cycle can cause complications.

Not to mention, being anemic in and of itself, even without blood loss, can cause trouble in one’s day-to-day lives. “Bleeding is one of the most prominent causes of iron deficiency, because when you bleed you lose red blood cells that contain iron,” says professor of medicine Dr. Allen Nissenson.

Therefore, knowing the signs of anemia can put everyone ahead of the curve and make sure that getting the proper diagnosis and treatment early on will prevent any complications.

Here Are Eight Warning Signs Of Anemia

Watch for these red flags and seek a doctor’s help right away.

1. Fatigue

According to the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute, “The most common symptom of all types of anemia is fatigue (tiredness). Fatigue occurs because your body doesn’t have enough red blood cells to carry oxygen to its many parts.”

A lot of people feel fatigue for a number of reasons: stress, sickness, other illnesses. But the fatigue that people who are anemic feel is much different than the fatigue one might feel after a restless night’s sleep. People who are anemic often report feeling exhausted 24/7. If the tired, sluggish feeling is affecting your quality of life, anemia might be the culprit, and a doctor’s visit is in order.

2. Pale membranes

The mucous membranes over your eyes are a great indicator of whether or not someone is suffering from anemia. To locate it, look for the waterline that’s above your lower lash line. This is an area that’s full of veins, and should be pumping healthy blood through them. If the waterline beneath your lower lashes looks extremely pale, this could be a sign you’re not getting enough blood – thus, anemia.

3. Trouble catching your breath

“Most people with anemia are comfortable sitting still. However, they often feel dyspnea during physical activity because the blood cannot deliver the increased oxygen the body requires. Thus, they breathe rapidly and deeply in a reflex effort to try to increase the amount of oxygen in the blood,” says Associate Professor of Medicine and Director Noah Lechtzin, MD, MHS.

Therefore, if a short climb up the stairs winds you, or if you feel like you just can’t catch your breath after a brief exercise, this is a sign that your body isn’t getting the oxygen that it needs through healthy red blood cells. Along with this, dizziness and feeling light-headed are also signs that your body isn’t getting enough oxygen through your blood cells.

4. Anxiety

If you already suffer from an anxiety disorder, it may be hard to pinpoint exactly whether or not this applies to you. However, if you’ve recently developed anxiety symptoms such as a racing heart, anemia may be the culprit. The reason being, is that your blood is pumping harder and faster, trying to get more oxygen. The feeling that results is one of a racing heart – anxious feelings with no anxious thoughts.

5. Going numb

Your body needs to ration where the blood goes, and the organs are the most important parts of your body. So, in a shortage of healthy blood to use, your body may start using the blood that goes to your arms, hands, legs and feet in order to keep a strong supply of blood in other parts of your body. This means that you’re likely to experience some numbness in your extremities.

6. Headaches

Everyone gets headaches every once in a while, so a headache by itself doesn’t often point to anemia. However, if other symptoms on the list are checked off, and you’re also experiencing frequent headaches without any relief from pain relievers, you might want to visit your doctor and get tested for anemia. Headaches, coupled with other symptoms, can be a sign that your body isn’t getting enough oxygen and blood in the places it needs to go.

7. Heavy or irregular periods

In women, anemia can be caused by uterine fibroids, which are located inside of the uterine cavity. These fibroids are often the cause of extremely painful, heavy periods. Women who have noticed an irregularity in their periods, as well as heavier than usual bleeding and painful cramps, should talk to their doctor. The culprit just may be iron-deficient anemia.

8. Trouble concentrating

Some people refer to this as ‘brain fog’, because it may feel like there’s a veil of fog cast over all of your thoughts. Not only this, but people who feel like they have sudden trouble keeping their thoughts straight, concentrating, and remembering things may experience this because “Low iron levels can have an impact on work performance, judgment and the ability to focus,” says registered dietitian and certified diabetes educator, Maria Ricupero.

Final thoughts…

Without knowing the reason, many of these symptoms can be troubling, or simply brushed off as something else. Anemia affects hundreds of thousands of people, and is more common that one might think. Once all the signs are there, the rest is up to you – getting yourself to a doctor if you suspect that you might be suffering from anemia will ensure that you get the proper tests and the right diagnosis, so you can get back on the track of good health.

References:
http://www.nytimes.com/ref/health/healthguide/esn-anemia-expert.html?mcubz=1
https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/topics/ida/signs
http://www.msdmanuals.com/home/lung-and-airway-disorders/symptoms-of-lung-disorders/shortness-of-breath
https://beta.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-and-fitness/health-advisor/tired-headaches-iron-deficiency-could-be-to-blame/article23424063/?ref=http://www.theglobeandmail.com&

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