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Avoid A Heart Attack Or Stroke: 8 Habits to Never Ignore

Knowing the early signs of a heart attack or stroke can change your life. Literally.

“Of the 54 million deaths worldwide in 2015, more than half (54%) were due to the top 10 causes. Heart attack and stroke are the (leading causes), accounting for a combined 15 million deaths in 2015. These diseases have remained the leading causes of death globally in the last 15 years.” – The World Health Organization

Ischemic heart disease is a condition wherein narrowed arteries cause less blood oxygen to be delivered to the heart. Also known as coronary artery disease and coronary heart disease, ischemia (restriction of blood flow) to the heart can lead to a heart attack.

A stroke occurs when blood oxygen is cut off to one or various parts of the brain. Cells are deprived of oxygen and begin to die. This results in the loss of function controlled by the area(s) of the brain affected. Over 6 million people die of stroke every year, and an addition five million are permanently disabled.

Either condition can be caused by genetic predispositions and/or lifestyle choices. The former is an uncontrollable variable; the latter isn’t.

In this article, we discuss eight healthy habits that lower the risk of both heart attack and stroke. Even small changes can disproportionately tilt the odds in your favor.

Let’s get to it!

Here are 8 healthy habits that can prevent a heart attack or stroke:

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1. Get 30 minutes of exercise every day

A half-hour of moderate exercise five days a week lowers the heart attack risk. Going for a brisk walk, jogging, swimming, or calisthenics are healthy choices. On the remaining two days, get in a light strength training session.

The thirty minutes of exercise can be done in one go or split up. Get ten to fifteen minutes for each session to keep your heart rate up if possible.

2. Don’t smoke

Did you predict this would be the next one? Good job, smarty!

On a serious note, smoking increases the risk of heart disease and stroke by 200-400 percent. Of course, that depends on both frequency (of smoking) and genetics. Secondhand smoke isn’t a victimless act, either.

People regularly exposed to secondhand smoke at home or work have a 25-30 percent higher chance of developing heart disease, and a 20-30 percent higher chance of having a stroke. Some states have realized the dangers of secondhand smoke and outlawed smoking in enclosed public areas.

3. Eat healthy to decrease the odds of heart attack or stroke

Every day, make it a point to eat a well-balanced diet. Treat yourself to a healthy mix of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, fish, and lean meats.

Limit your consumption of preservative-laden foods. Or at least, severely restrict them! Processed and prepared foods (often containing many preservatives) are often high in added sugars and sodium. So please limit these, as well.

4. Drink alcohol in moderation

A moderate amount of alcohol consumption can help your heart. Per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), moderate alcohol consumption is one drink per day for women and two for men.

Excessive drinking can lead to several health problems. You also raise the risk of acquiring hypertension, heart disease, and stroke.

5. Trim up a little to avoid heart attack or stroke

Many know they need to lose a little weight – and heart health might be the motivation you need. You needn’t become a marathon runner or triathlete to reduce your risk of health problems. The Obesity Action Coalition explains how even a five to ten percent weight loss can significantly decrease blood pressure, cholesterol, and diabetes.

6. Take any prescribed heart meds

We know. We don’t like the idea of prescription drugs, either. However, if a licensed physician prescribes meds to deal with a heart condition, take them.

If you have an issue taking your medications on time for whatever reason – cost, forgetfulness, or (especially) side effects, get some advice from your physician.

Those that don’t already should consider taking a daily Omega-3 supplement. Consisting of DHA and EHA properties, Omega-3 supplements are very heart-healthy.

7. Eat some dark chocolate

(Finally, something we can all get behind!)

Dark chocolate contains many antioxidants and other nutritional properties that protect your heart. Some advice: purchase chocolate products containing at least seventy percent cacao. Feel free to enjoy up to three squares of dark chocolate per day.

8. Watch for the symptoms of a stroke or heart attack

Three dangerous symptoms to watch out for are shortness of breath, chest pain, and numbness/tingling (usually on one side of the body.) So forget about waiting for these symptoms to go away. Get to the emergency room and get the care you need.

Try to ensure you’re scheduling a comprehensive physical examination at least once per year. As we age, we must each account for different health variables. Males and females have different health needs as well. A good doctor (look online or ask your friends) will know this when you visit for an examination.

Final Thoughts on Avoiding a Stroke or Heart Attack

The importance of maintaining heart and brain health cannot be overstated. Heart attacks and strokes are among the leading causes of death worldwide, yet they are also among the most preventable health issues. Adopting a proactive approach towards our health can significantly reduce the risk of these life-threatening events. It’s never too late to make changes that can profoundly impact our health. Each step taken towards a healthier lifestyle is a step away from the risk of a heart attack or stroke. Let’s embrace these changes as a means to avoid illness and an opportunity to enjoy a fuller, more vibrant life. Together, we can prioritize heart and brain health, ensuring a healthier future for ourselves and our loved ones.

The “Feng Fu” Point: What Happens When You Put Ice On The Back Of Your Neck

“The National Institutes of Health (NIH) Consensus Development Conference (concluded) that acupuncture is emerging as an effective treatment for a broad range of conditions, (adding) that “… acupuncture may be useful as an adjunct treatment or an acceptable alternative…for other conditions, such as myofascial pain, low back pain, tennis elbow, carpal tunnel syndrome, osteoarthritis, headache, menstrual cramps, fibromyalgia, and asthma.” The University of Minnesota

Medicine and … acupuncture?

In a recent article published in Scientific American, four of the five medical practitioners interviewed attest to some benefits of acupuncture. Needless to say, modern science based medicine isn’t fond of giving credibility to “alternative medicine.”

Just one of the five practitioners interviewed expressed an opinion that can only be described as outlandish. “There is a lot of money at stake for those who sell acupuncture – and a certain amount of fascination with New Age thinking,” says David Calhoun, “Almost all experiments show no difference between real and sham acupuncture.”

Calhoun’s profession? A pharmacologist – the field that reaps billions of dollars in profits from the sale of prescription drugs. It’s quite ironic that Dr. Calhoun lashes out at a medical specialty with “a lot of money at stake” when his area of area of expertise is the most profitable in all of healthcare.

Still, many medical practitioners either don’t acknowledge or significantly downplay any alternative therapy. Despite much evidence to the contrary, some within the medical community disavow the simple idea that a link exists between brain/mind and body.

Promisingly, four of the five interviewees gave some credibility to the practice of acupuncture: an anesthesiologist, acupuncturist, professor of complementary medicine, and a family physician/surgeon.

Why is this relevant?

Because the practice we’re going to talk about in this article involves the tenets of Chinese acupuncture. Per traditional Chinese medicine, this therapy rejuvenates the entire body and helps bring it back into its natural physiological state.

We’re going to discuss icing the Feng Fu point of the neck. We’re also going to describe how to perform the practice.

The inner skeptic within many of us believes it’s important to establish some credibility for any medical treatment – traditional or otherwise – that attempts to “sell itself.”

With that in mind, here are the main benefits of ice on your neck:

1. Improves sleep quality

Per Chinese medical texts, the Feng Fu point helps improve the quality of sleep. If you should suffer from problems falling and staying asleep, this method may be worth a shot.

2. Reduces PMS symptoms

Acupuncturists have long claimed an internal connection exists between the base of the skull and various PMS pain symptoms. Such links include abdominal pain, inflammation, and cramps.

As such, whether through acupuncture or an ice cube, the Feng Fu spot of the neck seems to connect with PMS pains.

3. Eases digestion

In addition to relieving abdominal pain, cramps, and inflammation, icing the Feng Fu area also reduces bloating, gas and indigestion.

The result is a smoother digestion process and mitigation of related stomach issues.

4. Reduces headaches

If you were to have an acupuncture chart in-hand, you’d be able to see the numerous connections between the Feng Fu spot and scalp areas. Icing this spot is thought to help reduce the pains associated with headaches.

5. Reduces fatigue and stress

Ancient Chinese medical texts were among the first to discover and expand upon the mind and body connection. Since then, prestigious institutions (Harvard Medical School), health agencies (National Institute of Health), and most modern scientists and medical practitioners have accepted the overwhelming evidence for such connections.

That said, acupuncturists often apply pressure to the Feng Fu spot of the neck to relieve physical and psychological symptoms, including stress and fatigue.

Currently, more research is underway to study the potential effects of acupuncture on depression, anxiety, and other mental health conditions. To date, the results from many studies have shown promise.

Here are a few other conditions symptoms where icing your neck may prove helpful:

– reduce asthma symptoms and episodes

– lower arthritic pains

– mitigate colds

– improve thyroid health

The Practice

First, locate the Feng Fu point:

  1. Lie down or lean your head forward. Using the index and middle fingers of your dominant hand, locate the base of your skull.
  2. Move your fingers until you feel the point where your neck meets the skull. This location feels like an indent – and is found at the center point of the neck and skull base.

Second, apply ice:

  1. Ice cube in hand, lie flat on your stomach. Make sure you feel comfortable and relaxed.
  2. Place an ice cube directly on the Feng Fu point.
  3. Ice the area for 15 to 20 minutes.

5 Signs You Should End Your Relationship (and 5 Signs You Shouldn’t)

More often than not, it’s worth it to keep working on a difficult relationship, but not always. Sometimes, this decision can be a tough one that takes multiple things into account before you decide to stay in a relationship or not. Let these signs help guide you to determine if you should stay or go…

Here are 5 signs that signal your relationship is still worth it…

“A relationship is work, and it changes. And you go with the changes. It’s more good times than bad times, but it’s not always good. You have to overcome those issues and move on.” – David Burtka

1. YOU’RE STILL IN LOVE

Sometimes, love isn’t enough. But a lot of times, love is an important component for whether or not a relationship should either be ended, or worked on. Even if you’re having problems in your relationship, if you are still in love, it’s a sign that these things can be worked on, since you’re both going to be willing to do anything to keep each other in your lives.

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2. YOUR COMPLAINTS TEND TO BE PETTY

Sometimes, there are things going wrong in the relationship that are either relatively easy fixes, or are just things neither partner can help – maybe your partner’s work schedule means you see them less. If your complaints about the relationship sum up to being non-issues, take some time to sit down with your partner and sort them out. You’ll be grateful that you didn’t let it dissolve altogether.

3. YOU HAVE YET TO TRY COUNSELING

Relationship counseling is a good way to have a safe space to air out what’s not working in your relationship, while also having an unbiased outside opinion. Counselors can often get to the bottom of what’s really bothering you, and help you and your partner work it out.

4. YOU HAVE CHILDREN

Staying together for children might not always be the best option for all couples. But often times, putting in the effort to fix the relationship for your children can lead to a strong, more secure marriage or partnership. Having children will give you the motivation you need to sort out the problems in your relationship, and fix them.

5. YOU BOTH WANT THE RELATIONSHIP TO WORK

Wanting to be together is just as important as loving one another. If you both want to work on the relationship, then you’re already headed in the right direction to make it work.

Before you take the leap and call it quits, take a step back and consider all the possible options that you have in front of you. There are tell-tale signs of when a relationship is well and truly over – just as there are signs that you’ve still got enough reason to turn it around. Be honest with yourself and how you’re feeling – be honest with your partner, as well. When you both open communication about your needs, you’ll be able to figure out what your relationship needs. Even if what it needs is to end.

Do you feel the end of your relationship approaching? Is there more tension between the two of you than joy and happiness? Are you no longer feeling as secure as you once did? When relationships start to falter, we are often able to feel the love fading.

Here are 5 signs that show it may be time to think about moving on…

1. YOU’VE LOST INTEREST IN ONE ANOTHER

Your partner should never be a source of annoyance or inconvenience. You got together with them in the first place for a reason, after all. When your conversations start to lag, and you would rather be talking with anyone else than your significant other, it’s time to admit to yourself that the relationship is stagnant. If you’re no longer engaged and present when having a conversation, it’s a sign that a breakup is imminent. After all, there’s no point in staying together if you no longer communicate with one another.

2. YOU’RE BOTH IRRITATED WITH ONE ANOTHER

Sometimes, we can’t always be happy with our partners. They may do things every once in a while that upset us, or that we find careless. A healthy partnership will be able to sort these differences out and work past them. On the other hand, if you find that you and your significant other are constantly at each other’s throats, your relationship is definitely on the rocks. Being always moody and upset with your partner isn’t good for either of you, and will only cause more stress and upset in the end.

3. THERE’S NO COMPROMISE

Building lasting relationships is often about compromise. Couples who want to work through their issues together will always meet in the middle – even if that means there’s some give and take on either end. If you and your partner are unable to ever come to an agreement on anything, you might want to consider that the relationship has run its course. If you no longer find yourself willing to bend and concede in arguments or in things your partner wants, then the relationship is no longer working.

4. YOU DON’T WANT TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER

What is a relationship if you’re no longer enjoying being around one another? If you have lost interest in hanging out with your partner, then it might be time to bring the relationship to an end. You’ll both feel better and might even repair your friendship when you’re no longer feeling forced or obligated to be around one another in the confines of a romantic relationship.

Those are signs that it’s time to go. But what are the signs for when you should tough it out? All relationships have their ups and downs, and it doesn’t always mean that a relationship should be ended. There are also signs that your relationship is worth salvaging.

5. YOUR LIBIDO HAS LEFT THE BUILDING

Being together intimately with your significant other is an important part of staying connected. Sometimes, relationships just go through a dry spell in this regard. One or both partners may go through certain periods of low libidos, and that’s fine. But if you feel like you’re no longer interested in sex with your significant other, this is a sign that your relationship may be well and truly ready to be over.

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Students Steal Starving Classmate’s Empty Lunchbox And Fill It Up With Love And Kindness

Sadly, food insecurity remains a worldwide issue, and one that every country should strive to abolish. In the U.S. alone, for instance, 42 million people, 13 million of those being children, suffer from hunger. This equates to roughly 1 in 6 children in the U.S. going hungry, an issue that frankly shouldn’t exist in ANY first-world country.

Even more startling is the fact that those are 2015 statistics, which means those numbers have likely risen in the U.S. and in other countries around the world.

As you can imagine, poverty and food insecurity go hand-in-hand. However, most parents simply do what they can to make ends meet, and buy whatever food they can afford for their children, even if that means purchasing unhealthy food.

Luckily, federal programs exist to help underprivileged families get their needs met, but not everyone can qualify. Some families make just enough to where they can’t qualify for the program, but they still don’t have the funds to purchase what their family truly needs to thrive.

Making this situation worse is the fact that we throw away or waste approximately one third of the food we produce in any given year worldwide. This equates to about $680 billion in the U.S. alone, which is absolutely appalling no matter how you look at it. So, if we simply grew or produced within our means, composted the waste, and shared with others, the world would likely look very different than it does now.

The video below sheds light on this growing problem, and shows a possible solution for humanity’s food crisis.

Students Steal Starving Classmate’s Empty Lunchbox And Fill It Up With Love And Kindness

In the opening scene of the video, a boy sits in a classroom surrounded by his classmates. Everyone opens their lunchbox to a nourishing meal, while the boy opens his to empty space. He asks the teacher if he can leave the room while the other kids eat, so he doesn’t have to endure the torture.

The young boy wanders aimlessly through the halls before eventually returning to the classroom. He sits back down and opens his lunchbox again, but this time, he’s pleasantly surprised. 

His classmates truly know the meaning of the phrase “sharing is caring.”

More than ever before, it’s become clear that working together is key to humanity’s survival, and we desperately need people who can act as compassionate leaders toward a new way of thinking and living. It’s hard to know exactly what to do in these times, but if you happen to see someone struggling with hunger, consider giving whatever you can to them, whether that be food or financial help. Or, even better, donate to a charity that aims to end hunger worldwide.

Let’s lift one another up and work collectively rather than tear each other down by working against one another and humanity’s greater good.

EVERYONE deserves fresh, nutritious food, regardless of income, job status, or socioeconomic factors.

Check out the video below, and share it if the message resonates with you!

https://www.facebook.com/fosterhjem.no/videos/1906064669407333/

Sources:
https://www.bufdir.no/fosterhjem/
http://www.feedingamerica.org/hunger-in-america/hunger-and-poverty-facts.html
http://www.feedingamerica.org/hunger-in-america/child-hunger-facts.html

10 Signs of Serotonin Syndrome

Serotonin is a chemical found in the human body that’s a natural mood stabilizer. But it’s not just involved in regulating your mood. It also plays a significant role in some bodily functions, such as sleeping, eating, and digestion. Still, most people know it as the chemical that makes you happy. Serotonin is also closely tied to substance abuse. Part of the reason people get addicted is that they need to keep their serotonin levels up. Otherwise, they experience symptoms of depression and withdrawal–serotonin syndrome.

But for most people, serotonin is something they boost naturally. Exposure to light, exercise, healthy diets and meditation can increase serotonin levels. That said, some people suffer from serotonin deficiency. That means they must take medications and supplements. For example, people with anxiety and sleep issues often take medicine that boosts serotonin. Even some migraine medication increases serotonin levels.

10 Signs of Serotonin Syndrome

Serotonin syndrome happens when you take a new drug or mix medicines that increase serotonin levels. Most people aren’t even aware that this can be a side effect of medication. So, when they suffer from this syndrome, they won’t know what’s happening to them. And they probably won’t know what to do to solve the problem and relieve the symptoms. Here are the most common ten signs of serotonin syndrome you need to be aware of.

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1.    Nervousness

One of the mildest signs of experiencing serotonin syndrome is a shift in mood. Because serotonin helps regulate your mood, it can make you jittery and nervous when it gets too high. While it’s true that low levels of serotonin connect to depression, that doesn’t mean that very high levels will always make you feel good. For any hormone in the human body, a level out of the normal range indicates something wrong.

When your serotonin levels get too high, you feel agitated and restless for no apparent reason. If your mood changes just a couple of hours after taking your medication, that’s a clear sign you are experiencing serotonin syndrome. Still, if nervousness is the only symptom you are experiencing, you don’t need to worry. You are probably experiencing a mild case, and your serotonin levels will go back to normal in a day or so.

2.    Insomnia

Many factors influence the sleep/wake cycle. One of these factors is the level of serotonin in the human body. It’s clear that this hormone plays a role, but scientists still argue what precisely this role is. Lately, research proves that serotonin plays a big part during REM (rapid eye movement) sleep. It seems that serotonin plays both facilitatory and inhibitory roles.

While it might seem like too much serotonin might put you straight to sleep, that’s not exactly the case. If the serotonin levels are over the standard limits for a few days or even weeks, then it might be the case that you always feel sleepy. But, in the short term (the first few days), too much serotonin leads to wakefulness. That’s because your mood changes and you become agitated, but also because your sleep/wake cycle gets messed up.

3.    Rapid Heart Rate

It’s still not clear if serotonin syndrome causes an increased heart rate or if it’s a side effect of other symptoms. Still, evidence suggests that most people who suffer from this syndrome experience increased heart rate. This might be because they enter a state of panic or nervousness or are restless. Or it might be because of how serotonin interacts with all areas of the human body. It seems that your heart rate heightens because serotonin syndrome leads to arterial hypertension.

In some cases, the increased heart rate could even lead to arrhythmia, leading to heart failure. Also, the rapid heart rate increases the risk of stroke or heart attack.

4.    Headaches

Medication that boosts serotonin can counteract migraines and headaches. The ironic part is that when your serotonin levels are way too high, you might experience migraines as a symptom. This paradox is the case because serotonin can cause blood vessels to narrow. In that case, not enough oxygen reaches the brain, thus causing a migraine. Additionally, contractions of blood vessels can cause throbbing pains, which can feel like you are getting stabbed in the head.

As a result of migraines, you could also experience dizziness. Fortunately, this symptom is also a mild one. While migraines are uncomfortable, they can’t lead to more severe issues.

5.    Diarrhea

This symptom seems to be the least likely to happen. Since serotonin is most commonly called the “happy hormone,” how does it connect to gut health? Well, that’s because serotonin plays an essential part in digestion, however unlikely that might seem. Serotonin is released into the blood or the lumen of the gut. It inhibits gastric acid secretion and can be an endogenous enterogastrone. It appears to stimulate the production and release of gastric and colonic mucus.

But when serotonin levels are out of ordinary bounds, the gastric system is affected. Over time, too much serotonin increases the amount of fluid in the gut. It also speeds up the function of the stomach, which causes frequent or unpredictable diarrhea.

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6.    Vomiting

Vomiting is a symptom that also happens because serotonin levels are related to gut health. But this symptom can also appear because serotonin syndrome makes people nauseous. Serotonin is tasked to push out noxious or upsetting foods quickly. But the chemical also stimulated the part of the brain tasked with controlling nausea. That can only happen if the hormone levels are in normal bounds.

When you have levels of serotonin that are way too high, the functions to control nausea won’t work as they should. As a result, you will probably vomit or generally feel sick to your stomach.

7.    Dilated Pupils

Dilated pupils are probably the most common and well-known symptom of serotonin syndrome. This is something that most people associate with illicit drug consumption. And while it’s true that illegal drugs lead to dilated pupils, that’s because serotonin levels increase. When dealing with serotonin syndrome, the same thing happens. Your pupils dilate because of how the hormone interacts with your body.

Serotonin plays a part in controlling the muscle groups around your irises. When serotonin levels are outside normal bounds, the hormone can’t correctly control the muscles. Thus, the muscles get looser, and the pupil gets bigger. Again, this is a mild symptom that will go away in days. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t suffering from a dangerous case.

8.    Shivering and Sweating

Shivering and sweating are pretty common symptoms when dealing with serotonin syndrome. They do not result directly in an increase in serotonin levels. Instead, they are secondary effects of the condition. When dealing with serotonin syndrome, you will likely experience random muscle tremors and contractions. This, coupled with the changes in blood pressure, leads to fluctuations in body temperature.

As you probably know, shivering and sweating are ways the body tries to regulate its body temperature. When you are too warm, your body sweats to cool you off. When you are too hot, your muscles contract to warm you up. Thus you start shivering. So, when dealing with serotonin syndrome, you will experience both sweating and shivering because your body temperature will fluctuate.

9.    Muscle Twitching or Rigidity

Serotonin is a neuromodulator. That means it can change the rhythm and behavior of single cells in the nervous system. It can cause neurons to fire more often than they should. For example, a neuron might fire once every second. But, when serotonin is involved, it might fire ten times every second. Serotonin can affect motor neurons that are tasked with muscle contraction. So, when serotonin levels get too high, those motor neurons start firing more than they should. Thus, you can experience muscle twitching.

But serotonin doesn’t always cause twitching. Sometimes, the neurotransmitter confuses the motor neurons, even blocking their activity. Because of that, you can experience muscle pains and rigidity. This can lead to difficulty moving and reduced motion range.

10.  Seizures

Potentially one of the most life-threatening symptoms of serotonin syndrome is seizures. These seizures can be caused either by the combination of drugs you take or by other effects of the syndrome. For example, a high level of serotonin leads to a high fever. If left untreated, that fever can cause seizures. Again, because serotonin is a neurotransmitter, it can affect the nervous system and inhibit normal functions.

As the nervous system is affected, the chances are that random bursts of electromagnetic signals will affect and interrupt standard brain signals. As the standard connections between brain cells are severed, you risk experiencing seizures. Seizures can be lethal. But even when they are not, they still cause some damage. You risk losing consciousness and even passing out.

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Final Thoughts on Some Signs of Serotonin Syndrome

Serotonin syndrome is a condition that doesn’t get the attention it should. It is pretty standard among people who take drugs for depression, anxiety, migraines, etc. Still, not many people know what this condition is and what dangers it poses.

Serotonin syndrome happens when people take a drug (or even mix a few drugs) that boosts serotonin levels. When the hormone levels shoot through the roof, it affects many body functions. Symptoms range from mild to severe, depending on how high your serotonin levels are. In most cases, you will get over the issue in a couple of days after you stop taking the medication that caused it in the first place.

But, in some cases, you might even need to be hospitalized. Some milder symptoms are nervousness, vomiting, diarrhea, dilated pupils, sweating, and shivering. But you could also experience a rapid heart rate, high fever, and even seizures. As soon as you notice that you are experiencing some symptoms, you should contact your doctor and stop taking the medication that caused the problem.

Psychologists Explain How to Stay Calm In An Argument

Emotional intelligence (“E.I.”) is defined as “the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others.” A low E.I. generally leads to an inability to stay calm, resulting in more conflict, while a high E.I. leads to less conflict and an ability to stay calm during an argument or heated exchange.

Conflict is an inevitable part of life. Even the coolest, calmest, and most collected person in the room will experience some degree of interpersonal turmoil at some point. In most cases, people don’t have any control over what happens next.

The only aspect of a conflict we can control is how we react. This isn’t to say that overriding this “automatic and unconscious” process is easy; it’s not.

But we can learn to recognize, acknowledge, and manage our negative emotions. We can override, to some degree, this innate physiological response.

We can learn to stay calm during any conflict, including in the midst of an argument.

Tips to Stay Calm During a Stressful Time

“Conflict wreaks havoc on our brains. We are groomed by evolution to protect ourselves whenever we sense a threat. In our (world), we don’t fight like a badger with a coyote or run away like a rabbit from a fox. But our basic impulse to protect ourselves is automatic and unconscious.” Diane Musho-Hamilton

1. Take Deep Breaths

Why: The ability to remain relaxed and centered during a conflict depends on your ability to de-tense the body. Shallow breathing is the body’s innate response when confronted with stress. Quashing this natural response and practicing deep breathing instead helps the body to remain calm.

How: Deeply inhale through the nose before slowly exhaling through the mouth. Smooth, deep breaths will cease the production of two stress hormones – adrenaline and cortisol.

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2. Concentrate on your body

Why: Concentrating on any physical sensations that arise in a conflict permits you to mindfully change them. When your focus switches to the body, you can feel the tension, shallow breathing, etc. that accompanies stress.

How: When you notice your body beginning to tense, return your posture to a neutral state by relaxing your shoulders and hands. This open position communicates positivity using body language – and often diffuses conflict.

3. Actively Listen

Why: A person will initiate an argument, or some other kind of conflict if they feel they’re not being heard. Furthermore, it’s impossible to diffuse a conflict without attentive and active listening.

How: When someone is talking, focus all of your attention on what the person says. Ignore any thoughts of constructing a response. Once the person finishes speaking, you have the necessary information to respond intelligently.

4. Ask open-ended questions

Why: Open-ended questions are invaluable in conflict resolution. First, open-ended questions demonstrate that you are attentively listening. Second, these types of questions show respect for the person by allowing them to articulate their thoughts.

How: Learning to ask open-ended questions can be a bit tricky for some people. The easiest way to avoid asking “Yes” or “No” questions is not to use the words “Do,” “Don’t,” “Did,” and “Didn’t” when asking a question. Instead, use the words “What,” “Why,” “When,” and “How.” Try it now. Notice the difference?

5. Keep your voice down

Why: The easiest way to escalate conflict is by raising your voice. On the flip side, one of the easiest ways to diffuse conflict is by lowering your voice. Voice level is also linked to blood pressure. When BP reaches a certain point, it becomes more difficult to understand what’s being communicated.

How: The first step is to diffuse the initial anger of the other person. You can’t do this by raising your voice. On the other hand, you can quickly impart a sense of calm by making the conscious decision to lower your voice.

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6. Agree to disagree

Why: Not every conflict will produce amicable or mutually agreeable results. However, you can avoid deepening the conflict by politely disengaging from the conversation.

How: One law of interpersonal conflict is that it takes two participants. Separating yourself from an argument is appropriate under one of two circumstances: (1) the person becomes increasingly hostile, or (2) the conversation, despite your best efforts, is not going anywhere.

Final Thoughts on Learning to Stay Calm When Emotions Run High

In closing, unless you happen to be a self-awareness guru, you will become angry in an argument at some point. Human beings are emotional creatures. Indeed, this ability to feel can be used to either our advantage or our detriment. It’s also important to forgive yourself if you should act in an unbecoming manner. We all do – and anyone who says otherwise is either a fool, a liar, or both.

By following one or more of the six tips given, you will assuredly feel more confident in any conflict. As a result, you’ll use your emotions and self-regulation to your benefit. Doing so, you will gain the trust and confidence of people in your good and even temperament.

To our non-argumentative better selves!

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