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5 Signs Someone Has Abandonment Issues

June 22, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Abandonment issues can crop up in people with both traumatic pasts. In addition, they appear in people who suffer from mental illnesses or personality disorders. They can exist on their own. Or they can be a symptom of something else. Abandonment issues are characterized by the intense fear of being rejected by other people.

The fear can cause people who experience these issues to put up emotional barriers. Indeed, they need a cushion between themselves and society. This can cause problems connecting with the people around them. Besides that, they might push away friends, family and romantic partners. Anyone can experience abandonment issues: men, women, or even children.

The causes of abandonment issues are numerous. These root causes can include emotional trauma, past verbal or emotional abuse, or even divorced parents. The signs of abandonment issues can be obvious as well as subtle, mistaken for quirks in someone’s personality. Can you effectively recognize abandonment issues in someone else? How about in yourself? Indeed, identification is the first step to being able to find the correct path to healing from these issues.

“Being abandoned or given up on is the most devastating emotions we can cause in another human being.” – Gary David Currie

5 SIGNS SOMEONE HAS ABANDONMENT ISSUES

1. UNHEALTHY ATTACHMENT

A sign of abandonment issues can be sudden and intense attachment to another person. Instant attachment can be caused by abandonment issues, due to the fear of being alone and rejected. If you or someone else you know often experiences intense and instant attachment after meeting someone, or very soon after the end of another intense relationship, this could be a sign of abandonment issues.

Recognizing this as a sign of potential issues is one of the first steps to changing your pattern of behavior. In fact, you must name the problem so you can seek out help.

2. FEAR OF UNFAITHFULNESS

Being concerned once or twice that your partner may become unfaithful is a routine concern. In fact, it is nothing to cause worry. However, the fear of your partner cheating on you becomes a problem when it is a constant presence in your thoughts, and you are unable to rationalize the thought process, especially if your partner has never been known to be unfaithful.

If you are in a constant state of paranoia over your partner’s activities, it can be a sign of unhealthy thought processes. Communicating openly with your partner can help alleviate these fears and help you learn to trust them. Being able to recognize this in others will also help you be able to steer them towards the kind of healing help that they need.

3. STAYING IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

If you, or someone you know, refuses to leave their partners even when the relationship is bad, or unhealthy, it could be a huge indicator of abandonment issues. The fear of being rejected and alone will drive someone to stay in a relationship that isn’t making them happy, because they often feel like it is better than being alone.

Staying in a dysfunctional relationship can intensify the abandonment issues. Sometimes, the relationship is just simply not working, rather than being a source of trauma. Either way, staying in a bad relationship can often intensify the feeling of abandonment and the issues once the relationship ends. Recognizing when you, or someone you know, has stayed in a relationship long past its expiration date can help you recognize unhealthy patterns.

4. SABOTAGING RELATIONSHIPS

Despite being desperate to be needed and loved, people with abandonment issues often sabotage their relationships even when nothing is going wrong and relationship stress is low. They will often pick fights. They will also make a big deal out of the few negative things in the relationship.

It is often a way of justifying their own feelings of abandonment. That’s because if the relationship ends, it’s proof to them that people will always leave. That’s true even if they were the driving force of causing that person to leave in the first place.

If you experience this with someone that you have a relationship with, a way to help them can be to have them question whether or not the things they are upset about are rational, and help them understand where their desire to pick fights is really coming from. If you find yourself on the other end, being the one who is picking fights when there is nothing to fight out, you can practice asking yourself whether or not you are self-sabotaging.

5. COMMITMENT ISSUES

Someone who is a serial dater can possibly have commitment issues, which is a sign of a greater abandonment issue. The honeymoon phase of a new relationship is appealing to someone like this. However, they will often leave a relationship or sabotage it before the newness can wear off, or before the other person can, in their mind, get bored of them. People with abandonment issues often invent reasons to end the relationship. But they are only once more justifying their reasons with circular, self-sabotaging thought processes.

Recognizing the kind of behavior that coincides with abandonment issues is the first big step to being able to break out of that unhealthy behavior. If you recognize these in yourself, or in someone you know, then you will be better able to give them the emotional support that they need, as well as help them find help and support towards healing from whatever has caused the abandonment issues in the first place.

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5 Reasons People Panic (And How to Avoid It)

June 22, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Work can sometimes be stressful. This work stress, piled on top of other daily stressors, can sometimes become overwhelming. Even when we think our whole lives are under control, the stress can get too big to handle. That is when panic starts to set in. Panic is the brain’s fight-or-flight response to overwhelming stimuli.

It’s a primal part of the brain, used to help us know when something life-threatening is happening. Unfortunately, panic doesn’t discriminate between real and imagined danger. Work can be one of the worst places to experience a panic response. Often, when you’re in the office, there is an understanding that you’re to leave your outside life at the door. This can’t always happen, which is rarely true for many people.

Panic can happen to both employees and leaders. It can be a physical response to stimuli or an emotional response to a problem that arises. Panic manifests itself in different ways, and it’s essential to understand where it stems from so that it can be best combated. Why do people panic, and what can someone do to prevent it?

“There is no panic you can’t allay, no problem you can’t solve.” – Lauren Weisberger

5 REASONS WHY PEOPLE PANIC AND HOW TO AVOID THEM

1. FEAR OF FAILURE

Nobody likes failure, especially in a work environment. Doing well at work means you get to keep your job. Doing poorly can mean losing it. Losing your job can mean losing your livelihood and your lifestyle. It’s an incredibly valid fear that, once ignited, can cause workers to panic. Instead of focusing on how something can fail or go wrong, focus on the positive outcomes. Be confident in your abilities. You didn’t get to your position by happenstance! Remind yourself of all the things you’re capable of.

2. OVERWHELMING WORK

Sometimes, the workplace hands us more than we can handle. When you have three deadlines to meet, and you’ve just been handed three more, the workload can be more than you can handle. This doesn’t reflect poorly on you. People work at different paces, and sometimes the people delegating the work don’t understand how much things take to get done. When stress becomes overwhelming, it can cause a panic response. An easy way to alleviate the panic of overwhelming work is to communicate with your leadership team, and see if deadlines can be extended or work can be delegated.

3. OUTSIDE STRESS

Bringing your problems with you to the office can’t always be avoided. When stress at home hits hard, leaving that at the door when you go to work can be challenging. If there is overwhelming stress at home, it will carry over into the stressors at work, which can result in panic. Finding someone to talk to can help ensure your outside or internal stress isn’t brought into the workplace to make your job harder. A friend, family member, or therapist can help manage your personal and professional stress.

4. FINANCIAL DECLINE

Leadership can experience panic, too. An unexpected financial decline can cause immediate panic mode. When leadership panics, it can manifest much differently than when someone is not in a leadership position. After all, there’s much more at stake for someone in a leadership role. When a company experiences a financial decline, it can put more stress and expectation on leaders and managers. To prevent panic responses, finding the cause of the issue can make the next steps that should be taken crystal clear.

5. ASSOCIATING CERTAIN ACTIONS WITH BAD OUTCOMES

This can happen in our day-to-day lives, and it can also happen in our work environments as well. If a new process was implemented and caused an unfavorable outcome, it can be easy to associate that process with the bad outcome rather than the actions that led to the wrong outcome in the first place. Perhaps the process wasn’t properly implemented, or there weren’t enough steps taken to make it a success. Figure out the issue, and work to fix it rather than assume what the problem is.

4 WAYS TO PREVENT AND DEAL WITH PANIC RESPONSES

Now that you know what causes panic on the job, let’s review some strategies to manage the response.

1. LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE

Whether in a leadership role or an employee overwhelmed with work, taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture can help minimize a panic response. Whether the reason is a fear of failure or a decline in numbers, taking a moment to pause and consider the whole situation can help make your next course of action logical rather than made in a panicked state.

2. EVERYTHING IS TEMPORARY

If you are experiencing the physical symptoms of a panic attack – tight chest, dizziness, trouble breathing, racing heart – there are things you can do to alleviate the feeling. First, know that it will pass and that you won’t die. Even though it may feel life-threatening, panic attacks last only a few minutes before they end. Find a quiet place where you can focus on breathing and getting yourself to calm down.

3. BE A GOOD LEADER

If you are a leader and one of your employees is experiencing the beginnings of panic symptoms, or you suspect they may be on the verge of a panic response, allow them to go somewhere to calm themselves down. Panic attacks can often be alleviated by simply removing the person from the situation causing the panic. Be understanding and sympathetic. Panic responses are involuntary.

4. FIND THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE ISSUE

When panic rears its ugly head, it can be tempting to deal with the symptoms and move on. The best way to prevent panic is to find and deal with the cause directly. This is true for internal stress and work situations that can cause a company to panic, such as dropping numbers or losing clients. Once you can identify the reason, it will be easier to rectify, so your brain will no longer panic when an unforeseeable circumstance happens.

FINAL THOUGHTS ON AVOIDING A PANIC ATTACK AT WORK

Panic in the workplace can be prevented for both leaders and employees. Recognizing the signs and reasons why panic happens in the first place is a significant step in the right direction to minimizing the panic that all employees feel. Minimizing a panic response helps both the company and the employees by helping the company run more logically and efficiently without rash decisions made in panic and giving workers a more stress-free environment.

3 Behaviors That Attract Someone Who Adores You

June 22, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Connecting with someone on a romantic and intimate level can bring so much joy and wonder into someone’s life. When you are finally able to find that one person whose love for you is unconditional, and who absolutely adores you and everything about you, it can be one of the most affirming experiences in life. At the same time, the thought of how to attract someone to you can be daunting.

Modern society seems to have just as many rules for attracting a partner, for either gender, as it did back when our parents or grandparents were courting one another. Still, even if it seems like an impossible task, there are ways to attract someone who absolutely adores you, and everything that you have to offer the world.

3 PROVEN STEPS TO ATTRACT SOMEONE WHO TRULY ADORES YOU

“Mysteries of attraction could not always be explained through logic. Sometimes the fractures in two separate souls became the very hinges that held them together.” – Lisa Kleypas

1. CONFIDENCE

The most important part of attracting someone into your orbit is to be confident in yourself. Confidence will help you absolutely radiate warmth, happiness, positivity, and respect for yourself, as well as others. Don’t allow people to misread or misinterpret your confidence as arrogance. You will become more attractive when you are self-assured and don’t try to fit yourself into a label or box of something that you are not.

Embrace yourself, including all of your flaws and quirks, and all of the things that make you a unique human being. Trust me, there will be someone out there who finds everything about you attractive, simply because you don’t try to hide pieces of yourself. Confidence defeats self-shame.

The more confident you feel in yourself, the more confidence you will be able to instill in other people. When you make others feel good about themselves, they keep coming around for more positive interactions.

2. HUMILITY CAN ATTRACT YOUR TRUE LOVE

Don’t allow your confidence to shift into arrogance. Practicing humility will make you more approachable, and will genuinely make your interactions with people more positive and enjoyable. Be confident in your abilities, but don’t give in to bragging and putting yourself on a pedestal. If you put yourself on a pedestal, you’re setting both yourself and the people around you up for disappointment.

We are all only human, and humility will allow people to see you as a whole, complete person with both attractive qualities, capabilities and flaws, rather than just the sum of your accomplishments. Not only will humility make you more attractive to other people, but it will also make you feel better about yourself.

Feeling good and positive, along with a healthy outlook on yourself and life, will shine through in all of your interactions and cause people to gravitate towards you.

3. SENSE OF HUMOR

Being able to laugh about things and to connect with people through humor is an attractive quality. Nobody likes to be around people who are too serious all the time. It’s good to be able to be serious when the situation calls for it, but sometimes the best answer is to just laugh it off. Humor will help you navigate all the stress that comes with life, and make you a generally more positive person to be around.

Knowing when to laugh, or being able to look back at a situation later and find the humor in it, will make you both more confident and less stressed out. As well, people naturally gravitate towards others who make them feel good. It feels good to laugh! Being able to make those around you laugh, even when they are feeling down, will make others want to be around you all the more.

Attracting someone who will adore you for all that you are means being able to connect with them on all levels – deep, emotional connections, or sharing the same sense of humor.

There is always someone out there for everyone, and it’s just a matter of putting yourself out there. Knowing the right qualities that will attract people to you will make the process of finding that one special person easier, and will also dissuade negative people from entering your life.

There are a lot of qualities that can be found in all of the best people that we surround ourselves with. Being able to project and connect with these qualities will allow you to attract someone that will adore you, inside and out.

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10 Reasons to Drink Green Tea Daily

June 22, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Tea has been cultivated for centuries, beginning in India and China. Today, tea is the most widely-consumed beverage in the world, second only to water. Hundreds of millions of people drink tea, and studies suggest that green tea (Camellia sinesis) in particular has many health benefits. – University of Maryland Medical Center

Are you a tea drinker? If not, you should perhaps consider the second most popular drink in the world. Tea is a refreshing and delicious drink, yes, but it’s astonishing benefits to human health are perhaps the best reasons to brew.

Black, green, and oolong are the three main variations of tea. Of the three types, it is widely accepted within the medical and scientific communities that green tea is the most beneficial to health. Research seems to prove these claims.

The primary difference between the three tea types – and their respective properties – is a byproduct of processing methods. Green tea’s potent health benefits are attributed to its high concentration of polyphenols – a powerful antioxidant.

All health problems are associated with damage at a cellular level. Cellular bodies are destroyed by a number of things, including free radicals. Free radicals are compounds that harm and kill cellular bodies; resulting in health problems such as cancer and heart disease.

The high concentration of polyphenols within green tea counteracts and neutralizes free radicals and other compounds that cause cellular damage. Thus, it is widely accepted that green tea can prevent or improve acute and chronic health conditions.

In traditional medicine, green tea was used in a number of ways; as a stimulant, a diuretic, an anti-coagulant, and for heart health. Other traditional uses include regulation of blood sugar, improving cognitive functions, treating gastrointestinal problems, normalizing digestive functions, and normalizing body temperature.

Green tea has been studied extensively in both animals and humans, culminating in research that apparently confirms the myriad of health benefits.

Here, we discuss ten amazing health benefits of green tea based on research studies. You may want to get that kettle heated up!

10 Amazing Health Benefits of Drinking Green Tea

1. Diabetes prevention

As mentioned, green tea has been used for years to stabilize blood sugar levels. Many animal studies demonstrate that this inherent property of green tea may be effective in preventing type 1 diabetes. Also, research has shown that the drink may also slow the progression of the disease following acquisition.

2. Digestive health

The high levels of antioxidants in green tea seem to aid digestion. Research demonstrates this digestive function is a byproduct of polyphenol activity – an antioxidant which also has anti-inflammatory and anti-microbial properties. Also, green tea may reduce inflammatory symptoms of the two types of Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD), ulcerative colitis and Crohn disease.

3. Anti-cancer uses

Clinical studies suggest that green tea may be a strong anti-cancer agent. Researchers attribute this to polyphenols, which can neutralize cancer cells and prevent cancerous growths. Green tea’s effects on cancers of the bladder, breast, colon, esophagus, lungs, skin, stomach, pancreas, and prostate have all been researched with promising results.

4. Lowers cholesterol

Green tea’s antioxidants may prevent cholesterol absorption in the intestines and expedite the ridding of bad cholesterol in the body. Interesting, green tea demonstrably raises good cholesterol (HDL) in humans.

5. Lowers risk of heart disease

Heart disease is the leading cause of death in the world. Population-centric studies indicate that green tea’s abundance of antioxidants may impede the mechanisms of atherosclerosis, including coronary heart disease. Additionally, across studies, researchers believe that 3 cups of green tea daily lowers the risk of heart attack by over 10 percent.

6. Improves liver health

The liver is another organ that apparently benefits in a variety of ways from green tea’s properties. First, prolific green tea drinkers are less likely to develop liver problems; reverse the effects of alcohol on the liver, and protect against liver tumors. Scientists attribute these outcomes to plant chemicals called catechins, which are abundant in green tea.

7. Aids in weight loss

Early clinical studies indicate that green tea boosts metabolism and assists in fat burning. Interestingly, green tea combined with caffeine expedited weight loss in moderately obese and overweight demographics. Green tea contains a phytonutrient called EGCG which increases a hormone that promotes satiation, or a feeling of fullness.

8. Reduces inflammation

A number of studies have linked green tea consumption to decreased inflammation in a number of organs of the body. Inflammation of the stomach, bowels, liver, in addition to the reduction of inflammation of body tissue and cartilage, have been cited.

9. Improves cognition

According to a study at the University of Basel in Switzerland, consumption of green tea “enhances memory performance, a finding that researchers suggest may have important implications for the treatment of neuropsychiatric disorders, including cognitive impairment.” Dementia is one such disorder where green tea has been shown to have promising treatment potential.

10. Other possible benefits (many)

In the sake of brevity, we’ll quickly mention some promising research being undertaken. Scientists are currently examining the consumption of green tea and:

– prevention of dental cavities

– treatment of arthritis

– treatment of genital warts

– treatment of various skin conditions

– prevention of cold and flu symptoms

References:
Brooks, M. (2014, April 16). Green Tea’s Impact on Cognitive Function Now Visible. Retrieved from http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/823690
Doctoroz.com. Health Benefits of Tea: Green Tea. Retrieved from http://www.doctoroz.com/slideshow/health-benefits-tea?gallery=true&page=8
University of Maryland Medical Center. Green tea. Retrieved from http://umm.edu/health/medical/altmed/herb/green-tea

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5 Eating Habits That Shorten Your Lifespan

June 22, 2017 by Power of Positivity

“The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don’t want, drink what you don’t like, and do what you’d rather not.” – Mark Twain

Life expectancy is an important indicator to evaluate the social development of a country. Health and longevity can not only improve people’s life quality but also ensure them to have more time to pursue their life goal…Nutrition is one of the most important factors affecting people’s health. Both malnutrition and overnutrition are risk factors for disease and death. – Zheng, X.Y, et al.: Progress in Research of Nutrition and Life Expectancy

To begin, we’d like to present a couple of interesting statistics.

First, the rates of obesity between the United States and our friendly neighbor to the Far East, Japan.

– A Body Mass Index (BMI) over 30 is considered obese. (BMI is considered the international standard for obesity)

– 3.6 percent of Japanese have a BMI over 30.

– 32 percent of Americans have a BMI over 30.

– A BMI over 25 is considered overweight.

– 1 in every 4 of Japanese have a BMI over 25.

– 2 in every 3 Americans have a BMI over 25.

Second, the average life expectancy, in years, in the United States and Japan.

– The average life expectancy in Japan: 85 years (2nd highest in world.)

– The average life expectancy in the U.S.: 79 years (42nd in the world.)

The U.S. is not the only country in the Western world to face an obesity/overweight crisis, but we Americans—a people that many around the world continue to look up to–most certainly do not set a very good example.

Why does the U.S., one of the richest and most powerful countries on the planet, have some of the poorest health outcomes among developed nations?

Because of habit. Because of consumerism. Because we’ve bought into the well-advertised notion that convenience is king. Many of us have fallen for such tactics; many Americans–and many in the Western world–continue to believe that all foods, regardless of how it’s produced, or what it’s composed of, is simply a means of sustenance.

But the food we put into our mouths has a grave impact on our present and future health. Despite the proliferation of well-researched intelligence on the importance of nutrition, millions of Americans don’t consider or understand the essential importance of eating habits.

In this article, we’ll discuss some of the most unwholesome eating habits. Make no mistake, these 5 habits are a severe detriment to our health–and contribute to a reduced lifespan.

Here are 5 eating habits that can shorten your life:

1. Too much sugar

The introduction of sugar has caused the most harm, in terms of health, than any other ingredient in existence. Refined sugars, including processed grains and fructose, contribute to a host of health problems, especially diabetes and heart disease.

Processed foods, including pre-prepared and packaged vegetables and canned fruits–two food categories thought to be “healthy”–are sometimes loaded with sugar. From candy and soda, to microwaved meals and meat products, sugar is added to the majority of “convenience foods” (i.e. boxed, packaged foods).

2. Insulin-resistant ingredients

Yes, this includes sugar-laden foods and drinks. Insulin is the main driver of the aging process, and can also negatively impact numerous physiological functions.

Insulin resistance of the liver manifests into type 2 diabetes; insulin resistance of the brain manifests into dementia (including Alzheimer’s Disease); insulin resistance of the kidney manifests into renal disease–and so on. The point is that insulin resistance can suppress the normal functioning of vital organs; those that sustain life.

Limit sugar, fructose, and artificial sweeteners to prevent this from happening.

3. Trans Fat

In simple terms, trans fat obstructs blood flow and promotes heart disease. Arteries are rendered incapable of producing necessary elements that promote cellular health; in conjunction, these effects can lead to (often sudden) disease, and even death.

Fortunately, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) removed trans fats from a “safe list” that promulgates the “zero health risk” myth of the substance. Deviously, but predictably, food manufacturers continue to substitute other toxic byproducts that harm cellular health (e.g. ‘cyclic aldehydes’) in place of trans fat.

4. Low Vitamin D Levels

Vitamin D is essential in the prevention of diseases and expanding one’s lifespan. Research has conclusively shown that adequate vitamin D levels protect against numerous fatal diseases, including cardiovascular disease, autoimmune diseases, lung disease and cancer.

Vitamin D promotes brain health by promoting nerve growth and is essential to optimal brain function. Research has shown that seniors with low vitamin D levels double their risk of dementia, including Alzheimer’s disease. The vitamin also possesses immune-boosting and anti-inflammatory properties.

Exposure to sunlight is the ideal method of gathering and storing vitamin D. For whatever reason (seasonal climate, location, illness, etc.) sunlight exposure is not feasible, various high-quality vitamin D supplements will do the job. Foods rich in vitamin D, including fatty fish, dairy products, cheese, and egg yolks will significantly increase ‘D’ levels.

5. Alcohol

Alcohol is not a food, obviously; and some variations of alcohol (e.g. red wine) may produce certain health benefits. Excessive consumption of alcohol, however, is detrimental to overall health.

First, alcohol abuse can damage liver and brain function. Cirrhosis (irreversible scarring) of the liver–is the leading cause of death from long-term alcohol abuse.

Excessive scar tissue causes the liver to become hardened; this can lead to shortage of blood flow to the liver and other vital organs. Cirrhosis of the liver contributed to 1.2 million deaths in 2014, up 150 percent from 1990.

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5 Phrases Sociopaths Use To Kill Your Confidence

June 21, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Sociopaths, in a nutshell, make every attempt to control your life. If you’ve been in a relationship with a sociopath, chances are you often feel on-edge. In fact, you might not quite understand this (often subtle) feeling.

“I have never killed anyone, but I have certainly wanted to. I may have a disorder, but I am not crazy. In a world filled with gloomy, mediocre nothings populating a go-nowhere rat race, people are attracted to my exceptionalism like moths to a flame. This is my story.” – M.E. Thomas “Confessions of a Sociopath.”

Maybe you’ve experienced the feeling of being alone, being wrong, or afraid of making your partner angry. Again, these thoughts and feelings come and go; they are frustrating and enigmatic at the same time.

Having any relationship with a sociopath, no matter how “below the surface” any emotions may be, is a dangerous situation. Here’s an excerpt from a book written by the ex-wife of a diagnosed sociopath:

My breath caught. My chest tightened. Fear welled inside me. I swallowed, trying to coax moisture back into my mouth so that I could speak and conceal how scared I was of Paul in that moment and of what might happen in the future.

How are sociopaths able to maintain relationships? Through fear, manipulation, and demoralization.

Self-doubt is often a close cousin of low confidence. Thus, undermining your confidence is one of the ways that sociopaths are able to keep you trapped in their web of deceit.

So are there phrases sociopaths use to “clue you in” on their real intentions?

Yes – and here are five such catchphrases:

1. “You’re the one/We’re meant to be.”

At the beginning of a relationship, it is not uncommon for sociopaths (or narcissists) to “love bomb,” or relentlessly verbalize their “affection” for you. In fact, this is not normal behavior. Even in the best-case scenario, the person is off-balance, e.g., a stalker, or “clinger.” In the worst case, well, they’re manipulative control freaks.

“(People) who go ‘too fast’ (defined as whatever makes you uncomfortable), do not respect boundaries. One definition of ‘abuse’ is ‘that which violates personal boundaries,’ writes Dr. Steven Stosney.

2. “You’re misunderstanding me.”

“Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality,” writes Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, sociopaths that utilize gaslighting because “They know confusion weakens people.”

Essentially, sociopaths use this phrase to (a) cause someone to question themselves, and (b) satisfy their insatiable need to feel right. They will often use gaslighting to recover from a situation that they believe diminishes (or threatens to diminish) their power.

3. “I hate drama/You’re a drama queen.”

Few other phrases cause someone to doubt themselves more than being labeled a “drama queen.” In reality, this is a phrase that sociopaths use to impart a sense of uncertainty.

The truth is that sociopaths love drama/ That’s because without it, they would not achieve their manipulative and self-serving plans. Think about it: drama is the sociopath’s primary source of ammunition.

Drama is the fuel to their fire. Time to put it out.

4. “You need me.”

Sociopaths crave control; sensing or knowing that their victim has surrendered their personal will is their foremost desire.

Obviously, sociopaths don’t say this because they want a healthy relationship. What they want is to, again, create an influx of emotions that override rational thought. Remember the words control through manipulation. As a result, you will arm yourself to detect a possible sociopath.

Don’t give in. The fact is you don’t need them. It is essential to separate emotions from logical thinking when dealing with a sociopath.

5. “You’re ignorant/stupid/uneducated.”

This final phrase is included for a couple of reasons. First, to reinforce the fact that sociopaths are capable of abusive behavior. Again, sociopaths have no inhibitions about hurting people emotionally, physically or psychologically.

However, if you combine this capacity for abuse with a sociopath’s sense of superiority, need for control, and ruthlessness in getting what they want. In the end, it’s a play on your emotions capable of spiraling into a dangerous situation.

By preparing mentally, you protect yourself against these self-serving creatures.

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5 SIGNS SOMEONE HAS ABANDONMENT ISSUES

1. UNHEALTHY ATTACHMENT

2. FEAR OF UNFAITHFULNESS

3. STAYING IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

4. SABOTAGING RELATIONSHIPS

5. COMMITMENT ISSUES

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5 REASONS WHY PEOPLE PANIC AND HOW TO AVOID THEM

1. FEAR OF FAILURE

2. OVERWHELMING WORK

3. OUTSIDE STRESS

4. FINANCIAL DECLINE

5. ASSOCIATING CERTAIN ACTIONS WITH BAD OUTCOMES

4 WAYS TO PREVENT AND DEAL WITH PANIC RESPONSES

1. LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE

2. EVERYTHING IS TEMPORARY

3. BE A GOOD LEADER

4. FIND THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE ISSUE

FINAL THOUGHTS ON AVOIDING A PANIC ATTACK AT WORK

3 PROVEN STEPS TO ATTRACT SOMEONE WHO TRULY ADORES YOU

1. CONFIDENCE

2. HUMILITY CAN ATTRACT YOUR TRUE LOVE

3. SENSE OF HUMOR

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10 Amazing Health Benefits of Drinking Green Tea

1. Diabetes prevention

2. Digestive health

3. Anti-cancer uses

4. Lowers cholesterol

5. Lowers risk of heart disease

6. Improves liver health

7. Aids in weight loss

8. Reduces inflammation

9. Improves cognition

10. Other possible benefits (many)

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Here are 5 eating habits that can shorten your life:

1. Too much sugar

2. Insulin-resistant ingredients

3. Trans Fat

4. Low Vitamin D Levels

5. Alcohol

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1. “You’re the one/We’re meant to be.”

2. “You’re misunderstanding me.”

3. “I hate drama/You’re a drama queen.”

4. “You need me.”

5. “You’re ignorant/stupid/uneducated.”

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