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What Does Your Workout Style Reveal About Your Personality?

What’s your workout style? Did you even know such a concept existed?

– 66% of Americans who make New Year’s resolutions have aimed to get fit. Of those, 73% gave up prior to their goal.

– 4 times: Average number of times people have given up on their fitness resolutions in the past.

– Harris Interactive Poll (on behalf of Bodybuilding.com)

Why is it so difficult for people to stick with their fitness goals? Many within the fitness community attribute these failures to a lack of discipline or commitment. While these reasons are certainly applicable in some cases, it doesn’t explain (or help) much at all. When it comes right down to it, there are a number of reasons why people fail to achieve their fitness goals.

A number of “fad fitness” programs have tried to get people off the couch and moving…with the ultimate goal of making a profit, of course. Some of these programs are legitimate, effective and successful (e.g. CrossFit), but most of them are designed for no other reason than to make a quick buck. Of course, these programs should be avoided.

Personality Plays a Role

One of the reasons people fail to get and stay fit is they choose the wrong method. While there may be a spurt of motivation during the beginning phases, these feelings quickly fade until the person has no desire to work out at all; guilt quickly follows, and the unproductive cycle repeats itself.

This begs the question: what are the implications of choosing a wrong fitness routine?

Dr. James Gavin, professor of applied human sciences at Concordia University says: “Whoever we are, we manifest that in all the realms of our life. Physical activity is just another expression of our personal preferences and style,” Dr. Gavin continues, “When people are similar to the activities they pursue, they tend to be happier, express more satisfaction and stay with it longer.”

Other professors and fitness experts agree with Dr. Gavin: personality types are key to sticking with any tough goal, including those relative to fitness.

So, this article attempts to address a two-part question: what does your personality style say about you, and is there a better way to achieve fitness goals based on our personality?

It is important to understand that there is no “one size fits all” when discussing personality types and individual preferences. This is true for pretty much every human activity, and fitness is no different. The point of this article is merely to educate and entertain (hopefully!) Don’t be offended in the event that you don’t fall into any one particular category.

What workout style is right for you?

Let’s go over five physical fitness methods and their possible personality implications.

1. CrossFit…you’re an overthinker or extrovert

People that sign up for CrossFit know that they’re going to get “HIIT” with a tough workout. HIIT is short for High-intensity interval training, which entails intense anaerobic exercise and short recovery periods.

Those individuals who have a tendency to overthink can seriously benefit from CrossFit or a similar HIIT program. HIIT may provide a necessary “mental break” for those whose brains always seem to be active. Reputable HIIT programs work because they often push people to their physical limits while providing the structure needed by some.

2. You work out alone…you’re an introvert

On the other side of the workout spectrum, we have the “solo sweaters.” Most introverts are not very comfortable in a group fitness setting, and that is totally fine. “Intros” possess a talent for research and rational thinking, so they’re usually pretty good at finding a routine that works well for them (e.g. at-home workouts),  or simply finding time to hit the gym when its empty.

They’re also good at researching and applying effective workout routines.

3. You run long-distance…you’re a ‘Type A’

Type A personalities thrive off setting and achieving set goals; they’re competitive, and love to see positive results. Put all of these things together, and you’ve got the perfect long-distance runner, “Tough Mudder,” or other fitness activities that involve endurance and competition.

Of course, not all Type A’s like competitive running. Some enjoy lifting, biking, etc..

4. You love group workouts…you’re an extrovert

An extravert is a real “people person,” and love doing anything so long as a group is alongside them. Another attribute of extraverts is that they gain energy from being around others – a huge motivator for signing up for that next group class.

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So, to all the extraverts out there who need to “get going” fitness-wise – a group workout session may be all that you need! Zumba and CrossFit are two terrific workout programs that strongly appeal to the outgoing among us.

5. You have, want or need a trainer…you’re analytical

Analytical people “like to get to the bottom of things,” and they’re often extremely detail-oriented. They have a thirst of knowledge, and gain satisfaction from knowing that they’re doing something right.

Related article: Which Exercise Is Best For Your Body Type?

It’s not a real big surprise, then, that analytical people like to have a trainer to show them the science behind exercise. Analytical folks will appreciate a thorough explanation to why they’re lifting dumbbells one day and doing wind sprints the next.

There is one exception: analytical introverts. These folks may or may not want someone around them telling them what to do. They may, predictably, research everything they can about workout methods and do their best to apply them.

References:
Klein, S. (2013, October 21). How To Find The Best Workout For Your Personality. Retrieved December 22, 2016, from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/21/fitness-personality_n_4110442.html
New Study Finds 73% Of People Who Set Fitness Goals As New Year’s Resolutions Give Them Up. (2012, December 28). Retrieved December 22, 2016, from http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/2013-100k-transformation-contest-press-release.html
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How To Treat Your ‘Second Brain’ For Anxiety and Depression

Believe it or not, tiny microbes lining your gut actually play a huge part in your mental and neurological health. A groundbreaking study performed by UCLA researchers shows the strong connection between healthy gut bacteria and brain functioning.

Regarding this study, Dr. Emeran Mayer, a professor of medicine (digestive diseases), physiology and psychiatry at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA and the study’s senior author, stated:

“There are studies showing that what we eat can alter the composition and products of the gut flora — in particular, that people with high-vegetable, fiber-based diets have a different composition of their microbiota, or gut environment, than people who eat the more typical Western diet that is high in fat and carbohydrates,” Mayer said. “Now we know that this has an effect not only on the metabolism but also affects brain function.”

While scientists say they still need to do further research into how exactly this occurs, some believe that the gut microbiome release signaling molecules into our gut, affecting our dietary decisions. Since the gut is linked to the immune system, endocrine system, and nervous system, these signals consequently impact our physiological and behavioral reactions.

However, just as the bacteria can influence our behaviors, we can alter them by changing what we consume, which would then alter the bacteria itself.

Research proposes that gut bacteria might influence what we eat by manipulating signals in the vagus nerve, which connects 100 million nerve cells from the digestive tract to the base of the brain.

“Microbes have the capacity to manipulate behavior and mood through altering the neural signals in the vagus nerve, changing taste receptors, producing toxins to make us feel bad, and releasing chemical rewards to make us feel good,” said Athena Aktipis, co-founder of the Center for Evolution and Cancer.

Because of the gut’s profound influence on mental health in humans, many people call the intestines “The Second Brain,” since the microbes found throughout our bodies actually weigh twice as much as the human brain. While experiments that test the impact of gut bacteria on mental health are in the beginning stages, researchers seem to have found a clear link between having more robust gut bacteria and having a healthier brain.

In fact, another study found that young adults who eat more fermented foods, or those containing probiotics, have fewer symptoms of social anxiety than adults who don’t eat fermented foods. This might be attributed to the fact that the healthy bacteria lowers symptoms of anxiety in general in the gut. Studies into how gut health affects depression are ongoing, but we do know that most medicines for depression contain serotonin, a chemical found naturally in certain foods.

“Time and time again, we hear from patients that they never felt depressed or anxious until they started experiencing problems with their gut,” Dr. Kirsten Tillisch, lead author of the UCLA study, said. “Our study shows that the gut–brain connection is a two-way street.”

Our modern world runs largely on heavily processed, nutritionally-lacking foods, which may explain why we have so many digestive and mental health problems today. These toxic foods may explain why Western societies in particular have such high rates of anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and other common mental disorders.

So, what can you do to promote healthy gut bacteria to reduce anxiety and depression?

How To Treat Your ‘Second Brain’ For Anxiety and Depression

Eliminate, or greatly reduce, highly processed foods.

Consuming whole, fresh foods straight from nature will allow your digestive system to reset, therefore altering the bacteria in your gut. Opt for fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, sweet potatoes, fermented foods, and a small amount of unpasteurized, organic dairy, and lean, organic meats.

Related article: 6 Things People With A Healthy Gut Do Differently

Introduce more fermented, unpasteurized foods into your diet.

Fermented foods contain lactic acid bacteria, a beneficial bacteria that promotes good microbes within the gut. Examples of fermented foods that you can eat include tempeh (made from fermented soybeans), miso, kefir, sauerkraut, kimchi, kombucha, and yogurt.

Eat fiber-rich foods.

A study released by Professor Andrew Smith at Cardiff University in 2002 revealed that eating more fiber results in higher energy levels, more clarity, and a more positive mindset as opposed to eating a low fiber diet. Also, high fiber diets can reduce fatigue and lessen the risk of developing diseases of the bowels, including cancer.

High fiber foods basically include three food groups: fruits, vegetables, and starches such as brown rice, sweet potatoes, and other grains classified as complex carbohydrates.

Sources:
Joe Alcock, Carlo C. Maley, C. Athena Aktipis. Is eating behavior manipulated by the gastrointestinal microbiota? Evolutionary pressures and potential mechanisms. BioEssays, 2014; DOI: 10.1002/bies.201400071
Matthew R. Hilimire, Jordan E. DeVylder, Catherine A. Forestell. Fermented foods, neuroticism, and social anxiety: An interaction model. Psychiatry Research, 2015; DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.1016/j.psychres.2015.04.023

Rachel Champeau. Changing gut bacteria through diet affects brain function, UCLA study shows. May 28, 2013. Retrieved from http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/changing-gut-bacteria-through-245617 March 7, 2017.

20 Fast Weight Loss Tricks (That Actually Work!)

If you’ve ever struggled to lose weight fast – and keep it off – you’re one among millions (perhaps billions) of frustrated individuals. If you are in search of weight loss tricks that actually work, you are in good company.

About 45 million Americans plan to go on a diet every year – and that’s part of the problem. Dieting isn’t the answer. Diets don’t work. Research reveals that 97 percent of dieters who have had fast weight loss regain their weight (and sometimes more) within three years.

If you’ve been part of a structured diet program and have managed your weight, congratulations, you are one of a kind. What you’ve probably done is more than a diet. You allowed your habits to become part of your daily routine.

So once you decide to change your “diet” into a lifestyle, what do you do? There is so much information out there. Who is right? That’s also part of the problem—the weight-loss industry rakes in a profit of more than $64 billion every year.

When money is involved, some companies keep their ethics, while others want to keep up volume and profits. That means some companies have sacrificed their customers’ health and well-being by overlooking mountains of scientifically-proven medical research for the sake of financial gain.

The result: highly processed, sugar-laden, sodium-enriched food. Edible? Sure. Nutritious? Nope.

20 Weight Loss Tricks That Actually Work

weight loss planWe want to help you make the right choices to lose weight fast and feel good every day. Here are twenty natural and healthy ways to lose weight:

#1 Keep a food journal

Various studies show that people who keep a food “diary” eat about 15 percent fewer calories and have faster weight loss. A tangible record of your food intake, which is likely to contain some unsavory items, is often enough to alter your eating habits.

Besides looking back at what is working and where you slip up, this journal makes an excellent planning tool.  If you enter items into the log before you eat, you’ll feel obligated to stick with the plan.

You don’t need to keep your food diary on a pad of paper where someone might read it. In fact, look no further than your smartphone. There, you can check your app store and install a food tracker app that you can use every time you eat.

#2 Find a support group

Whether online or in-person, having a person or group of individuals who support your goals works. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), social support makes it “easier to stick with a weight loss plan…share tips on diet and exercise and (find) an exercise buddy.”

Whether you join a group of walking parents at the park or attend a local Weight Watchers meeting, you’ll find comfort knowing that you’re not the only one trying to make healthier changes. Meeting up with like-minded people who share your struggles helps you make lifelong changes.

#3 Drink more water

It’s fine to drink your coffee, juice, or milk in the morning, but don’t forget water. A clinical study proved that often, those on a diet or weight loss plan lose more weight when they drink enough water.

Drinking water before you eat fills your empty stomach, helping you eat less.

Water helps to flush the body of toxins. As fat cells break down, they eliminate as waste. So drinking water flushes away fat as you begin to achieve successful weight loss.

It’s also essential to stay away from sugary soda drinks. The average American consumes approximately 25 pounds of soft drinks annually. Drinking water instead of sugar might be one of the easiest weight loss tricks you can try.

#4 Opt for healthy snacks

Yes, lifestyle-based weight loss requires self-discipline. That means snacking healthy or skipping snacks. It’s also crucial to regular the amount and timing of your snacks.  Forgoing your “midnight snack” or “guilty pleasure” can prevent a few extra pounds each year.

#5 Less TV

Watch just one less hour of TV, and you’ll be less inclined to go “movie theater” mode. Yes, we all love that tasty treat while watching our favorite show. Instead, go for a light walk or jog.

#6 Clean or Organize

Cleaning occupies your mind. It also is a great way to relax and destress. No kidding. Find something – a bathroom floor, a closet, inside or outside a car, windows, anything – to clean. Cleaning also burns calories!

#7 Deny the “hunger impulse.”

So many of us reach for that fatty treat out of habit. Actual physical hunger stimulates hunger hormones – and you’ll know when you need to eat. Most experts agree that when we think we’re hungry, we are just thirsty. Drink more and give it twenty  minutes. If you’re still hungry, enjoy a healthy snack.

#8 Take the stairs for 10 minutes each day

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, frequent “stair-takers” burn five times more calories than their counterparts who use the elevator. This figures out to 10 pounds per year!

#9 Take a short walk every couple of hours

Use your breaks to your advantage. Take a brisk 5-minute walk every two hours, and you’ll have 20 minutes of aerobic activity in your pocket before even stepping out of the office or home office. Win!

#10 Ease off the additives

If you choose to eat processed foods, commit to buying products without corn syrup, fructose, or (if you can) sugar. Look for sugar-free versions and low sodium options without preservatives. It’s much easier to find products like these today, but you’d be surprised how much is still out there with ingredients you cannot pronounce.

fast weight loss#11 Close the kitchen

A great habit is to clean and close the kitchen after dinner. In fact, set a time it’s close and when it reopens in the AM. Late-evening feasting comes at a price. Late-night snacks lead to even more cravings, which lead to taking in more calories. It’s worth skipping.

Besides the extra calories, nutritionists advise that nighttime snacks cause interruptions to the sleep cycle. The resulting sluggishness causes moodiness and fatigue that might make you more inclined to cheat on your diet the next day.

#12 Take a brisk walk before dinner

Most research reveals walking after dinner helps with digestion and weight loss.  According to a University of Glasgow study, “Walking before a meal reduces the fat levels in the blood and improves the function of the blood vessels, even in the individual has a high fat and carbohydrate meal.”

A walk before dinner also increases the sensation of fullness.

#13 Eat most meals at home

Restaurants and other places serve large portions of food with higher oil and salt levels than you would use at home. Skip the calories and indulge in healthier options for your favorite fast food dish at home.

#14 Use a smaller plate

When it comes to serving up well-portioned meals, size matters!

The size of plates has dramatically increased in size compared to what they were 50 years ago. Using a smaller plate, especially if you like to go for seconds, tricks your mind into thinking you ate more.

#15 Order smaller portions

During the occasions when you treat yourself to fast food, order the smallest portion.  This allows you to enjoy your favorite food without all the fat and calories of your usual amount. Order a house salad instead of fries to experience an even more significant caloric deficit.

Hint: The children’s meals provide the best value and smallest portions. It is enough to satisfy your taste for your favorite drive-thru food without spending all your daily calories.

#16 Load up on veggies

Most vegetables are low in calories, high in nutrition and very filling.  Consuming them raw or preparing them well can be delicious.

Keep it interesting by making a non-fat dip with the following ingredients:

  • 1/2 cup of non-fat Greek yogurt
  • Two teaspoons of garlic-seasoned salt substitute (like Mrs. Dash)
  • Black pepper to taste
  • One teaspoon of onion powder

You’ll get a protein boost from the Greek yogurt, and the veggies will feel decadent when you dip them.

#17 Eat more (healthy) cereal

There’s a plethora of research that reveals that oatmeal or high fiber whole-grain cereal is a great breakfast or snack option. Oat bran, Grape Nuts, Shredded Wheat and Steel Cut Oats are all excellent choices. Eating whole grains helps you feel fuller longer.

#18 Leave white bread alone

According to an article in the European Journal of Clinical Nutrition, “whole grain intake was associated with up to 9% lower mortality and up to 15% lower Cardio Vascular related mortality, the leading cause of death globally.”

Also, the authors noted how obesity dramatically increases the risk of CVD. Opt for whole grains instead.

#19 Change your milk type

If you drink whole milk, change to 2 percent; if you drink 2 percent, change to 1 percent. For some, plant-based milk like oat milk works even better. Once you have the developed an acquired taste of a healthy milk you won’t even be able to tell a difference.

#20 Brush your teeth after every meal

Brushing your teeth after every meal is a psychological method for losing weight – and a very effective one. This habit signals to your body and brain that mealtime is over. Thus, we’re less likely to appease the “hunger impulse” of snacking.

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Final Thoughts on Trying These Weight Loss Tricks

When these habits become part of your everyday lifestyle losing weight and keeping it off will feel easy to you. These weight loss tricks are not about a diet. It’s not about a strict exercise regime.

Honor your body and give it what it needs to thrive and work for you, not against you. If you have a weight loss tip that has worked well for you we would love to hear it in the comments!

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How to Train Your Brain To Stop Overeating

Overeating is a problem for many people, but getting to a place where you can recognize hunger cues can be difficult. Not to mention, many people overeat to try to cope with emotions, deal with stress, distract themselves from boredom, or because of an eating disorder.

We will provide some tips in the article below about how to retrain your brain to stop overeating, but please remember, if you continue to struggle with eating habits, consult the help of a licensed professional.

How to Train Your Brain To Stop Overeating

Train your brain to measure your hunger to stop overeating

Ask yourself this one question: ‘On a scale of one to ten, how hungry am I really?’ Think of this scale as a ten as if you went without food for more than 24 hours and a one on the scale as if you had just eaten a big Thanksgiving meal. If you look at your level of hunger this way, you can see that you probably aren’t literally starving and you are also not stuffed from just eating, but that you are really somewhere in between. Identifying the level of your hunger helps you see that maybe you could use just a small snack now and that will allow your hunger rating to come down a bit.

Train your brain to pay attention to the signs of hunger

Is your stomach rumbling? Do you feel a little light-headed? Your body knows when it needs nourishment and it sends signals like a growling stomach that are so obvious that even other people can hear that you’re hungry. So use that information. If you aren’t getting signals like these, could your brain be making you overeat?

Identify your current emotional state to stop overeating

Awareness of your emotional state will help you to see patterns when your brain sends signals to overeat. The phrase ‘comfort food’ is used because it does exactly that; give us a sense of warm, well-being and happiness that is just what we need when we are upset, frustrated, or a little sad about something.

Our emotions can influence us to seek comfort through food. Avoiding this pitfall by increasing your awareness of your emotions before you go to the kitchen to get a snack is one way to train your brain to stop overeating. Post a reminder on the fridge or wherever you keep the hidden stash of cookies that says ‘Wait. How am I feeling?’ Catching yourself before you choose to eat is key.

Train your brain to notice overeating

We all need food to live. It is one thing that none of us can do without, but how much is too much and how can you tell your brain that you’re done eating?

A study in the journal Health Education Research show that improving your level of self-efficacy can help you avoid overeating. Self-efficacy is your belief in yourself to prevent yourself from overeating. Increase your self-efficacy by remembering times when you have stopped yourself from overeating to reinforce and train your brain to stop overeating.

Train your brain to notice marketing influences on overeating

Brian Wansink, food habit researcher and author of Mindless Eating, says that every time we make a food choice, unless we are looking at only raw whole foods, marketing and advertising are working against us to influence us to consume more of products that companies want us to buy. Wansink says from restaurants to grocery stores, ‘Plate shapes and package sizes, lighting and layout, color and convenience: these are a few of hidden persuaders that can contribute to how much food a person eats.’

Related article: 7 Ways to Put Your Metabolism into Fat-Burning Mode

Wansink says that we make a choice not only about what to eat, but also about how much to eat every time we are hungry. Wansink says we overeat for two reasons. One way we can train our brains to stop overeating is to identify the cues that cause us to keep eating after we aren’t hungry anymore. For example, your brain says to eat until your plate is clean? Use a smaller plate. You can’t stop eating chips if you open the bag? Measure a reasonable portion size into a smaller bag and use that as a serving.

The second reason we overeat is that we aren’t good at figuring out when we are no longer hungry. In a study that illustrates this, Wansink’s team designed a fake restaurant and refillable, trick soup bowls that they asked guests not to touch. The study found ‘those who had been given these ‘bottomless bowls’ ate an average of 73% more than those eating from a regular bowl. When asked if they were full, a common response was, “How can I be full, I still have half a bowl left.”

Sources:
http://www.webmd.com/diet/obesity/features/overcoming-overeating#1
Self-efficacy: a contributor to the explanation of eating behavior
https://academic.oup.com/her/article-abstract/5/4/395/569014/Self-efficacy-a-contributor-to-the-explanation-of
From mindless eating to mindlessly eating better
https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Brian_Wansink/publication/44600055_From_Mindless_Eating_to_Mindlessly_Eating_Better/links/551e75cd0cf29dcabb03cd44.pdf

How To Train Your Brain to Be More Productive

The ability to be productive is necessary for all of us. It doesn’t matter if you’re the President of the United States or the President of a book club. Every job, task, and responsibility requires a productive mindset to achieve a positive outcome.

“Time is not refundable. Use it with intention.” – Unknown

Relying on willpower and self-control will only get you so far. Both of these attributes are quickly depleted, so the ability to remain productive quickly dissipates.

The fact is that our brain is the key to establishing and sustaining productivity. While our brain resources (i.e., “energy”) are finite, efficient use of these resources will allow anyone to remain productive throughout the day.

We will discuss some simple ways to ignite your brain’s “productivity mode.” More importantly, we’ll discuss how to sustain these efforts without experiencing burnout.

As with any skill, knowledge without practice is worthless. While we’ll provide some excellent – and scientifically proven – ways to increase your productivity, you must remain committed. This means accepting inevitable setbacks and moving on.

Here are a few ways to train your brain to be more productive:

1. Single-task

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Concentrating on one thing – and only thing – is the most powerful skill in improving productivity. Again, single-tasking is the most powerful skill in improving productivity.

The ability to efficiently multitask is a complete myth. Research study after research study has confirmed the fact that the human brain is not physiologically capable of processing multiple stimuli.

After assessing the abundance of research on multitasking, The American Psychological Association (APA) reached the following conclusion: “Understanding the hidden costs of multitasking may help people to choose strategies that boost their efficiency – above all, by avoiding multitasking, especially with complex tasks.”

2. Work at a coffee shop

Many of us desire to “power through” our work by cutting ourselves from the world. These types of folks possess incredible focus and determination, but it may not be the most productive mindset.

In a study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, scientists concluded – through several different experiments – that a bit of ambient noise improved creativity and productivity. An environment with low ambient (?70 decibels) noise may replenish your productive tank.

Of course, it all depends on the individual. Creative people will attest that working with ambient noise stokes our creative and productive nerves.

3. Take a power nap – at the right time

Short periods of sleep are associated with a number of benefits. According to two UCLA professors, one such benefit is a boost to productivity. Some caveats to this benefit must be considered.

First, experts note that a 10 to 20-minute nap is the “sweet spot” for boosting alertness and energy. This time window limits the brain to lighter stages of non-rapid eye movement (NREM) sleep, which makes it much easier to get back on your feet and into work mode.

Second, researchers have discovered that power napping between 1:00 and 3:00 p.m. may enhance the abovementioned benefits.

4. Optimize your environment

It’s hardly groundbreaking news that your environment significantly impacts productivity. Here’s the good news: the right amount of temperature and lighting can drastically improve your work performance.

In a study published by professors at Cornell University, “Results suggest that performance improves as conditions approach a predicted thermal comfort zone.” In other words, you’ll want to regulate the temperature in your office.

Grab a small plugin fan if you’re too warm, or wear an extra layer of clothing if you’re cold. The “optimal” temperature, according to the research, is room temperature – 77 degrees Fahrenheit (25 degrees Celsius).

Studies also suggest that adequate lighting can improve productivity. Light emitted from computers, lamps, overhead fixtures, and natural light (i.e., the sunshine) all fall under this category. Practically speaking, adjust the brightness of lighting objects to prevent eyestrain and eye fatigue. Doing so will help ensure that you remain productive.

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5. Look at cute animals

Okay, so this last one is a bit less predictable – and maybe even a little odd to some. In a research article titled “The Power of Kawaii: Viewing Cute Images Promotes A Careful Behavior and Narrows Attentional Focus,” scientists at Hiroshima University in Japan observed a strong correlation between looking at cute images and performance.

(The word “Kawaii” in Japanese means “cute,” just in case you’re curious.)

The authors concluded the study with this:

Kawaii things not only make us happier, but also affect our behavior…viewing cute things improves subsequent performance in tasks that require behavioral carefulness, possibly by narrowing the breadth of attentional focus.”

The next time your boss catches you surfing the web for cute animal pics, just refer him or her to this study. That’ll teach ‘em…or not.

References:
Mehta, R., Zhu, R. (., & Cheema, A. (2012). Is Noise Always Bad? Exploring the Effects of Ambient Noise on Creative Cognition. Journal of Consumer Research, 39(4), 784-799. doi:10.1086/665048
Nittono, H., Fukushima, M., Yano, A., & Moriya, H. (2012). The Power of Kawaii: Viewing Cute Images Promotes a Careful Behavior and Narrows Attentional Focus. PLoS ONE, 7(9). doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0046362

Why You Should Never Tell Someone “Stop Crying” (And What to Say Instead)

How to you console a crying friend or family member? Well, for starters, telling them to stop the tears will only make things worse. We explore why that happens–and what to do instead.

“An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioral or expressive response.” – Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007

Emotions are intricately complex psychological states. Consider the studies of two prominent psychologists, Paul Eckman and Robert Plutchik:

– In 1972, Eckman proposed that there were six universal human emotions: anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, and surprise. 27 years later, Eckman expanded his list to include seven other emotions: amusement, contempt, embarrassment, excitement, pride, satisfaction and shame.

– In the 80’s, Robert Plutchik put forth a model called the “wheel of emotions.” Plutchik proposed that humans “mix and match” emotions, similar to how a painter chooses their paints.

Emotions, almost without exception, cannot be compartmentalized.

Perhaps the best way to define emotions is to “explain” them in simple, human terms: every face has a story. You can only see the cover unless someone decides to read you this story.

Sadness is arguably the most misunderstood, abstract, and criticized emotion in the “wheel.” One only need to look at the stigmatization of depression to comprehend this argument.

Childhood Roots

People raised in a strict environment have probably been told to “Stop crying” – or something similar – during their childhood. Kids brought up this way are instructed to hide their feelings, be quiet, and not to embarrass themselves.

Childhood is a time of immaturity – of discovering and trying to make sense of the world. Are people empathetic and kind? Are people ruthless and authoritarian? Do more people love or hate? Do people try more to understand or be understood?

Children taught to repress their emotions often develop problems. Abuse, intolerance, and misunderstanding are incompatible to a child’s healthy upbringing.

Of course, fits of crying are uncommon during adulthood – but they do happen. Why? Many reasons: anxiety, depression, overwhelm, personal problems, loss, etc.

We shouldn’t tell a child to “stop crying,” we shouldn’t tell an adult, either. If anything, observing an adult crying should ring some internal “alarm” that evokes empathy and seeks to understand.

Some people are natural empaths – and others, not so much. (There is nothing wrong with this latter group – it’s simply part of their personality.) The former group, naturally, is better equipped to interact with and help a saddened individual.

Regardless of where you may fall along the empathy /” indifference” spectrum, there are some ways you can learn how to respond to a hurting individual.

Here are ten such ways:

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1. “Tell me about it.”

Some people are more prone to open up than others. To make sense of what’s going on, it’s important to probe a little. This will give you a better frame of reference as the interaction progresses.

2. “Sadness is okay.”

Whether it’s a 5-year old child or a 50-year old adult, sadness is a natural human emotion. Some societal elements attempt to replace natural sadness with an artificial “I’m tough” attitude. There are a time and place for both – but it’s up to the individual. Regardless, it’s important to emphasize the rationality behind sadness.

3. “I’m here with you.”

Sad people are often lonely people. As such, it is reassuring to know that another person is with them – and wishes to help. These four simple words may change the person’s entire perspective on their situation.

4. “I’m listening.”

People crying or sad don’t need a lecturer; they need a listener.  Active listening in this situation is crucial. In other words, paying complete attention to what the other person is saying while refraining from adding your two-sense.

5. “Let’s work it out, together.”

For someone experiencing sadness/crying/depression/etc., these words are perhaps more comforting than anything else you can say. First, it sends the message that a solution is possible. Second, the person has a “teammate” in helping solve the problem.

6. “That sounds disappointing/hurtful/etc.”

Empathy is a potent emotion, particularly when expressed in reciprocation. When a person is in a depressed state, their thinking is often confined and limited – as if they’re the only ones who possibly understand. This statement helps dissolve this way of thinking.

7. “I want to be here for you. Feel free to contact me when you need to talk.”

Not everyone is ready to “spill the beans” at first. This is common during periods of grief and loss. Eventually, the person may or may not want to speak with someone. In the event of the former, they know there’s someone they can call.

8. “This doesn’t feel/sound fair.”

This statement warrants a bit of caution. In other words, a comprehensive understanding of the scenario helps ensure that you aren’t (unknowingly) enabling someone’s self-defeating behavior. If you can put confidence behind these words, then, by all means, carry on.

9. “I’ve experienced something similar.”

This is real-life empathy – and perhaps the solution to a person’s problem. Similar experiences are not to be hidden in this case. If you trust a person and want to help, this is one of the best ways to do so.

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10. “Don’t be afraid to get more help.”

As much as we’d like to help, we don’t always have all the answers to someone’s problems. If the person is suffering from mental illness or domestic violence, for example, your reach here is limited. Of course, you can (and should) help the person. But you should also encourage them to seek further assistance.

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