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Researchers Explain What Biting Your Nails Says About Your Personality

Are you someone who gnaws on your fingernails throughout the day? If so, you certainly have a lot of company. It’s estimated that about one-third of adults continues to bite their fingernails.

Ever contemplated the psychology behind biting your nails? Most people view the act as a sign of nervousness and anxiety.

On the surface, this viewpoint makes sense…but it may not tell the whole story. According to a study published in the Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry, nail biting may be a sign of…perfectionism.

Psychology Today explains perfectionism as: “…an endless report card on accomplishments or looks. It’s a fast track to unhappiness, and…is often accompanied by depression..”

In this article, we’ll briefly discuss the study and its implications for the nail-biters among us. We’ll also talk nail-biting from a health perspective.

If You Bite Your Nails, Here’s What It Means About You

Body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs) are described as “repetitive, injurious, and non-functional habits that cause significant distress or impairment, including hair-pulling, skin-picking, and nail-biting.”

The research team sought to compare the tendency to engage in BFRB using two models: emotional regulation (ER) and frustrated action (FA).

The ER model implies that BFRBs are triggered by negative emotions and alleviation of unpleasant effect. The FA model posits that BFRBs are triggered by and alleviate impatience, boredom, frustration, and dissatisfaction.

Researchers hypothesized that individuals who engage in BFRBs are more prone to actions under the FA model, as “they demonstrate maladaptive planning styles characterized by high standards and unwillingness to relax,” two inherent traits in perfectionists.

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Results

After observing a ‘BFRB group’ and a control group, consisting of 24 and 23 participants, respectively, researchers concluded the correctness of their hypothesis. The study’s results include three observations:

(1) The BFRB group reported a considerably higher urge to engage in BFRBs than the control group across conditions.

(2) BFRB participants reported a considerably higher urge to engage in the boredom/frustration and stress environment than in the relaxation environment.

(3) Most tellingly, the BFRB group “presented significantly higher scores on maladaptive planning style, and maladaptive planning style was significantly correlated with difficulties in ER.”

The Study and Perfectionism

The lead author of the study, Dr. Kieron O’Connor, stated “We believe that individuals with these repetitive behaviors may be perfectionists, meaning that they are unable to relax and to perform tasks at a normal pace. They are therefore prone to frustration, impatience, and dissatisfaction when they do not reach their goals.”

In other words, nail-biting may have less of a correlation with nerves and anxiety than with frustration. This observation, along with the study’s demonstrated linkage of nail-biting and other perfectionistic traits – impatience, boredom, and dissatisfaction – provides further evidence to the idea that perfectionism may prompt the act of nail-biting.

Nail-Biting and Health

As the study makes clear, nail-biting is considered a body-focused repetitive behavior – a classification reaffirmed by the vast majority of the medical community. Any BFRD-related behavior is harmful to one’s health, and nail-biting is no exception.

Per WebMD, “Nail biting has both physical and emotional consequences.” Among the physical problems associated with nail-biting:

– Soreness and redness of nails and cuticles

– Bleeding and potential infection of skin surrounding nails

– Increased vulnerability to bacteria, infection, and viruses (via passage from finger-to-mouth contact)

– Weakening of teeth enamel

– Maladjusted teeth

– Giving a poor impression (through ragged-looking nails or by biting them in front of others)

Psychologically, WebMD associates fingernail biting with anxiety and stress; though it could potentially indicate a more serious psychological problem such as Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Relatedly, perfectionism is considered a risk factor for OCD.

Fingernail biting is a common but very unhealthy habit – a habit fed by counterproductive emotions and (potential) psychological problems.

Although being “diagnosed” as a perfectionist may understandably stoke feelings of pride in the uninitiated, it is an extremely unhealthy mental state. Studies have linked the personality trait of perfectionism with myriad psychological issues: personality disorders, eating disorders, social anxiety, social phobia, body dysmorphic disorder, self-harm, substance abuse and clinical depression.

Perfectionists may also develop chronic stress disorders, and are at an increased risk of developing heart-related conditions.

The relationship between nail-biting and perfectionism is one that demands further inquiry, and rightfully so. The study consisted of a relatively small sample of individuals, although the reported correlation between perfectionistic traits and nail-biting is sound.

Sources:
Ph.D., M. W., Sandler, L., Ph.D., S. K., & Ph.D., R. E. (n.d.). Perfectionism. Retrieved March 03, 2017, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/perfectionism
Rettner, R. (2010, July 11). The Dark Side of Perfectionism Revealed. Retrieved March 03, 2017, from http://www.livescience.com/6724-dark-side-perfectionism-revealed.html
Roberts, S., O’connor, K., Aardema, F., & Bélanger, C. (2015). The impact of emotions on body-Focused repetitive behaviors: Evidence from a non-treatment-seeking sample. Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry, 46, 189-197. doi:10.1016/j.jbtep.2014.10.007
WebMD Medical Reference. (2015). How to Stop Nail Biting. Retrieved March 03, 2017 from http://www.webmd.com/beauty/stop-nail-biting-tips#1
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What Does Your Favorite Ice Cream Flavor Reveal About Your Personality?

You might not think ice cream flavors and personality traits have anything to do with each other, but think again. Your ice cream of choice says a lot about your personality, according to a study by Dr. Alan Hirsch, a nationally recognized smell and taste expert and founder of the Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation.

Hirsch uses psychiatric test results to make correlations with statistics about ice cream flavors, explaining that a part of the brain – the limbic lobe – controls both food preferences and personality traits. Hirsch goes on to say that your favorite ice cream flavor becomes set during childhood and tends to remain the same throughout your life.

So, no matter whether your favorite flavor is chocolate, vanilla, or something in between, here’s what your go-to sweet treat says about your personality!

What Does Your Favorite Ice Cream Flavor Reveal About Your Personality?

Vanilla

While most people think vanilla is plain and boring, vanilla lovers are actually likely to be idealistic, impulsive, easily persuaded individuals who “rely more on intuition than logic,” according to studies conducted by neurologist Dr. Alan Hirsch. Vanilla lovers also showed a higher likelihood of risk-taking, as well as the tendency to be expressive and successful in close relationships.

Strawberry

In the study by Hirsch for Baskin Robbins, strawberry fans tended to be tolerant, devoted, and introverted; in research done for Dreyer’s/Edy’s, he found strawberry lovers were also logical and thoughtful.

Chocolate

If chocolate is your go-to choice for ice cream, then you’re likely dramatic, lively, charming, flirtatious, seductive, and gullible.

Mint chocolate chip

If you prefer the delicious combo of mint and chocolate, then you’re probably ambitious, frugal, confident. Besides that, you might be a bit argumentative at times, according to Hirsch’s study for Dreyer’s/Edy’s. “[They] aren’t fully satisfied until they find the tarnish on the silver lining,” said Hirsch about mint chocolate chip fans. However, Hirsch found that mint chocolate chip fans are likely compatible with one another.

Rainbow sherbet

You’d think lovers of this flavor would be upbeat, bright, and cheerful to match the vibrancy of this ice cream, but the results are surprisingly opposite. “We found that people who prefer rainbow sherbet are more pessimistic than you would think,” says Hirsch, who found them to also be analytical and decisive.

Rocky road

If Rocky Road is your favorite, then you’re likely to be engaging and a good listener, but also aggressive, according to Hirsch’s Baskin Robbins study. The Dreyer’s/Edy’s panel found the Rocky Road lover to often be successful and goal-oriented, but their tendency toward aggressiveness can “inadvertently hurt the feelings of those that surround him.”

Coffee

If you’re attentive to details, conscientious, and a perfectionist, coffee ice cream is probably your favorite. Coffee lovers also tend to be dramatic and full of life, according to the study. Hirsch’s study for Dreyer’s/Edy’s found that coffee ice cream fans tend to not worry about the future and live in the “passion of the moment,” needing constant stimulation in a romantic relationship. Maybe all the caffeine from the coffee has something to do with that last fact? (Just saying.)

Chocolate chip

If you love chocolate chip ice cream, you’re probably generous, competent, and a go-getter, according to Hirsch’s survey for Baskin Robbins.

Related article: Pick A Color To See What It Reveals About Your Personality

Butter pecan

If this nutty ice cream is your favorite, then you’re likely to be devoted, conscientious, and respectful, according to Hirsch’s study for Dreyer’s/Edy’s. People that like this flavor have high moral standards and strongly dislike hurting others. They also are loving, supportive, and tend to avoid the spotlight.

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Last but certainly not least, fans of this popular flavor tend to be innovative, ambitious, and competitive.

Does your favorite ice cream flavor describe your personality? Let us know in the comments below!

4 Mixtures That Completely Remove Plaque From Your Teeth

Plaque is a sticky film of bacteria that forms on teeth and can lead to many oral health problems if not removed regularly. When plaque builds up, it can cause tooth decay, gum disease, and bad breath. Over time, it can harden into tartar, which is even harder to remove and can only be removed by a dental professional. Removing plaque through daily brushing and flossing can help prevent these issues and maintain good oral health. It’s important to note that even with regular brushing and flossing, some plaque can still accumulate, so regular dental check-ups and cleanings are crucial for maintaining healthy teeth and gums.

Taking proper care of your mouth, i.e., teeth and gums, should be considered a health priority, as good oral hygiene can help prevent bad breath, gum disease and tooth decay. Good oral hygiene also helps to protect your teeth in your later years.

Research studies have linked poor oral health to some serious diseases. Here are three noteworthy discoveries:

  • In 2010, researchers from New York University discovered a link between gum inflammation and Alzheimer’s disease.
  • A Harvard University research team found strong evidence of a link between gum disease and pancreatic cancer.
  • A well-established correlation exists between dental hygiene and heart disease.

How plaque and tartar form in the mouth

Dental plaque is a sticky, colorless film that forms on the teeth and along the gumline. It is primarily composed of bacteria, food particles, and saliva. Plaque constantly forms on the teeth throughout the day and can accumulate within hours of brushing. If plaque is not removed regularly, it can lead to dental problems such as tooth decay and gum disease.

Tartar, or dental calculus, is hardened plaque mineralizing over time. When plaque is not effectively removed through brushing and flossing, it can mix with minerals from saliva and harden into tartar. Tartar is usually yellow or brownish and forms above and below the gumline. Unlike plaque, tartar cannot be removed by brushing and flossing alone. It requires professional dental cleaning by a dentist or dental hygienist to remove.

Tartar provides an ideal surface for plaque to adhere to, making it more challenging to maintain good oral hygiene. The presence of tartar also irritates the gums and can contribute to gum disease. Regular dental check-ups and professional cleanings are essential to remove tartar buildup and maintain oral health.

NOTE: This article acknowledges that you must remove the plaque buildup to prevent tartar. While we may use them interchangeably, it’s worth noting the differences.

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What to do about plaque build-up

The first step is to start properly caring for the teeth and gums. Here are the teeth brushing basics, per the American Dental Association (ADA):

  • Brush your teeth twice daily. Take the time to do a thorough job (don’t rush).
  • Use proper equipment. Use good toothpaste with a soft-bristled toothbrush. Battery-operated and electric toothbrushes may reduce plaque and mild gum disease better than manual brushing.
  • Use proper technique. Hold the toothbrush at a slight angle – toward the area when the tooth meets the gum line. Brush the chewing surfaces, inside and outside of the teeth and the tongue.
  • Maintain your equipment. Properly rinse and store the toothbrush in an upright position until the next use. Don’t cover the brush with anything, as this can encourage the growth of bacteria.
  • Replace your brush. Replace your brush every three to four months, usually when the bristles frayed.
  • Floss your teeth daily.
    • Take about eighteen inches of floss and wrap the ends around your middle fingers, leaving about one to two inches of floss to work with.
    • Use your index fingers to guide the floss between your teeth, gently sliding it up and down against the side of each tooth and under the gumline.
    • Use a clean section of floss for each tooth, and be sure to floss both sides of every tooth, including the back molars.

Natural Ways to Remove Plaque From Your Teeth

Some people prefer using more natural methods for oral hygiene. For example, you can make your own mouthwash and toothpaste at home!

Preparing homemade mouthwash is simple and efficient. Additionally, self-made mouthwash isn’t loaded with alcohol and other chemicals. We’ve included four simple recipes for making your oral care products. As you’ll see, all of these ingredients are widely available, inexpensive, and healthy.

They’re also effective at helping remove tartar and other bacteria from the mouth. So, let’s get going!

teeth whitening stripsTartar removing recipe #1

  • Ingredients: anise, mint oil, lemon, water.
  • Mix a few drops of each ingredient in a glass of water and rinse four to five times daily.

Plaque and tartar Removing Recipe #2  (perfect for built-up plaque)

  • Ingredients: A half-cup of rosemary, one cup of fresh mint, and two cups water.
  • Bring the water to a boil, then add the mint and rosemary. Leave the mix for about fifteen minutes, and then drain. When the mix is cool, rinse your mouth thoroughly.

Tartar removing recipe #3 (natural toothpaste; good for plaque removal)

  • Ingredients: Seven tablespoons (tbsp.)  of coconut oil, seven tbsp. of baking soda, essential oil (tea tree oil and clove essential oil work wonderfully!), 1 ½ tbsp of Stevia.
  • A 2014 study discovered the following about essential oils: they efficiently inhibit plaque, can be used with dental implants, and also inhibit certain problematic bacteria strains.
  • Unrelatedly (but to our benefit!), the scent of lavender oil reduces anxiety and stress!
  • Mix all ingredients until the paste has a consistent texture. Use this natural mixture every day instead of regular toothpaste, if desired.

Tartar removing recipe #4:

  • Ingredient: coconut oil (that’s all!).
  • Dentists and other oral health practitioners have lauded coconut oil for its numerous benefits – fighting bacteria, cleaning the mouth’s orifices, preventing cavities, and whitening teeth.
  • Swish around a couple of tbsp. of coconut oil and allow the substance to melt for fifteen to twenty minutes. Rinse with coconut oil daily to improve and maintain oral health!

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Final Thoughts: Removal of Plaque Is Essential to Lifelong Dental Health

Removing plaque from your teeth is imperative to keep your teeth shiny, white, and, most importantly, healthy. These homemade mixtures can help you have cleaner teeth and fresher breath. To your health!

5 Foods That Create Inflammation In Your Body

Inflammation is becoming one of the most prolifically studied conditions. In fact, doctors want to learn more for a good reason. Scientists and medical experts are linking chronic inflammation with a variety of other ailments. Think of everything from obesity and heart disease to depression and diabetes.

Acute (short-term) inflammation is a vital physiological response; helping protect us from illnesses, infections, and injury. When this reaction is compromised, however, a number of health problems can manifest. Therefore, it is important to understand what triggers chronic (long-term) inflammation – and how to counteract it.

We’re well aware by now that regular consumption of sugar; along with alcohol, dairy, and fried or processed foods, are among the main culprits of chronic inflammation. But there are other, lesser-known agents of chronic inflammation. We discuss five sources that fit this description.

Here are five things that cause chronic inflammation:

Chronic inflammation – this means long-term inflammation, which can last for several months and even years. It (results) from (failure) to eliminate whatever was causing an acute inflammation. (The) immune system attacks healthy tissues, mistaking them for harmful pathogens. Medical News Today

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1. Agave nectar

Agave nectar is (highly) marketed as a “natural” alternative to sugar; one that is “diabetic-friendly” and “helps” to maintain blood sugar levels. Astonishingly, agave is not uncommon on the shelves of natural “health food” stores.

But there’s a problem with these claims: they’re all false. Here’s why:

Agave is a natural plant that grows throughout Mexico and in some parts of the Southwestern United States. Mexicans have used the sap for several purposes, most recently as a sweetener. In the plant’s natural state, it does indeed have some health benefits.

But agave nectar is not a natural product – it usually undergoes rigorous processing. The processing of agave sap (the “sugary” fluid) exposes it to enzymes and heat; this kills most, if not all, of the plant’s health properties. The end product resembles notoriously-unhealthy sweeteners, including High Fructose Corn Syrup.

2. Frozen yogurt

Frozen yogurt contains two inflammatory ingredients: dairy and sugar. First is milk; which may boost hormone levels and is a common allergen. Sugar requires no further explanation relating to inflammation – it’s a potent trigger. Casein protein is another less-known inflammation trigger and is an ingredient in certain yogurt types.

However, some frozen yogurt varieties contain good stuff, such as probiotics and coconut milk. Typically, these will work fine for you. Just make sure to check the label.

3. Seitan

Seitan is a staple for vegetarians who crave a meat substitute. Unfortunately, we come bearing bad news – it’s made up almost entirely of wheat gluten. Melissa Wood, a nutrition expert in New York City, explains, “(Gluten) can trigger the immune system, causing inflammation in the intestinal tract.”

Inflammation in the GI tract can produce bloating, constipation, and even irritable bowel syndrome (IBS).

 

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4. Peanuts

Peanuts are more of a “consume at your own risk” type of food. For most folks, a handful of peanuts here and there is a welcome treat (and they can provide a good amount of protein and nutrients.)

Peanuts, however, are among the most common allergens. Young children are especially susceptible to the allergic properties of nuts, as their immune systems are still developing. The autoimmune response in the young and allergic escalates quickly, which may cause a medical emergency.

Further, peanuts not produced, stored or transported correctly are susceptible to fungus, which can produce inflammatory responses.

5. Aspartame

Proliferating medical research leads companies to reduce or eliminate aspartame from their products.

Why?

First, aspartame is a neurotoxin – it poisons and destroys nerve tissue within the brain. Second, some people are highly sensitive to aspartame’s chemical properties. As a result, their immune system perceives the substance as a foreign threat and attempts to eliminate it. This response, as noted, triggers inflammation.

(Anyone else wondering how the heck this product is still LEGAL?)

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Final Thoughts: Potential solutions to inflammation

Acute bouts of inflammation are usually easily treatable. Perhaps the most beneficial action a person can take is eliminating inflammation-producing foods. (There are many, so make sure to read up.)

Adequate exercise for at least three times weekly; thirty minutes each session. Besides that, maintaining a healthy weight helps keep inflammation at bay. Light exercise is fine – no intense training necessary.

Here is a list of common foods that make up an anti-inflammatory diet:

  • Beans: Heavy concentration of antioxidants and fiber.
  • Fish: Salmon, sardines, and tuna are rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which combats inflammation. Consume at least two servings of healthy fish per week.
  • Fruits and vegetables: Leafy greens, cabbage, and broccoli in the veggie aisle; also look for blackberries, cherries, and raspberries in the fruit aisle.
  • Nuts: Arthritis.org cites Almonds, pistachios, and walnuts as the best nuts to fight inflammation.
  • Whole grains: Ditch the flour and ditch the gluten if they’re causing problems. Instead opt for fiber-rich whole grains such as brown rice, oatmeal, whole-wheat products, or unrefined grains.

5 Reasons Your Body Retains Water (And How to Avoid It)

Water retention, or fluid retention, is the excessive fluid buildup in the body’s tissues, cavities, or circulatory system.

Our bodies mostly consist of water. Water is located in our blood, bones, muscles, and organs. While our bodies certainly need water to function, it can sometimes hold too much of it – this buildup of water in our body is called water retention. Water retention manifests physically. Thus, the body appears abnormally swollen.

In most cases, short-term water retention is not a serious problem, nor does it cause serious health dilemmas. However, water retention over the long term can produce unsafe effects on the body. Underlying health conditions that may produce fluid retention as a side-effect include liver cirrhosis, heart failure, kidney failure, preeclampsia (a dangerous, pregnancy-related condition), and premenstrual syndrome.

5 Reasons Your Body Retains Water (And How to Avoid It)

Water retention may result from several things. Here are the top five reasons we retain water (and suggestions on what to do).

1. Diet

Sodium (i.e. salt or table salt) is an essential nutrient that serves several important functions, but we only require small amounts. Too often, our foods have excessive amounts of salt, inducing fluid retention and weight gain.

Recommendation: First, know the recommended amount of sodium intake: 2,300 milligrams or less per day, according to the Food and Drug Administration (FDA); this may sound like a lot – but it’s only about a teaspoon of salt. Second, limit your salt intake by using alternatives, such as herbs and spices. Cumin, dill, garlic, ginger, oregano, onion, sage, and pepper are all viable choices. Lemon juice, mustard, and vinegar may add flavor without all the salt.

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2. Lifestyle

Sitting or standing for an extended period causes body tissue to hold water. Having a sedentary, inactive lifestyle can also cause water retention. Of course, either scenario produces physical symptoms, including swollen ankles and legs.

Recommendation: It is important to keep blood circulating throughout the body. If your job requires you to sit at a desk all day, use your breaks to get outside and move around a bit. Park further away from the building, so you can enjoy a refreshing walk in before a long day’s work. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Don’t be afraid to get creative! If you’re inactive, it’s important that you first understand the benefits of exercise. You don’t need to train like Jillian Michaels or Gunnar Peterson – try getting 15 to 30 minutes of light to moderate exercise three times per week.

3. Medications

Many prescription medications list water retention as a side effect – and the National Library of Medicine agrees. They explain, “NSAIDs promote sodium and water retention…”

Rx meds that may increase fluid retention include antidepressants, beta-blockers, blood pressure medication, chemotherapy medication, and over-the-counter NSAIDs (non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs).

NSAIDs are worth paying particular attention to, as more than 30 million Americans use the drugs daily to relieve various kinds of pain. The most common NSAIDs are aspirin (Bayer, Bufferin, Excedrin), ibuprofen (Advil, Motrin), and naproxen (Aleve).

Recommendation: Tapering off Rx medication requires consultation with a physician. The reason for medical oversight is the withdrawal symptoms often experienced as the body adapts to lower amounts of the drug. A doctor’s visit may also be wise if you notice excessive swelling from NSAIDs or other pain-relieving medications.

4. Hormones

It’s widespread for women to experience severe bloating during perimenopause (early menopause) and menopause. In fact, Reproductive Sciences states that fluctuations in fluids may be a natural part of aging.

Recommendation: First, take a good look at your diet and eliminate or reduce foods that seem to cause bloating and gas (do some research here.) If this doesn’t solve the problem, it may be necessary to see a dietitian, who will likely test for allergies and food intolerances. In rare cases, hormone replacement therapy or hormonal rebalancing under the guidance of an OB/GYN may be necessary.

5. Heart problems

Fluid retention from a heart condition may be evident in the legs and abdomen swelling. While this is certainly a scary proposition, it is important to refrain from jumping to conclusions. Additional common symptoms of heart failure include lightheadedness, fatigue, rapid heart rate, weakness, and shortness of breath.

Recommendation: See a doctor right away. The risk of heart failure increases the longer medical intervention is delayed. The attending physician may order one or more tests, including blood tests, a chest x-ray, electrocardiogram (ECG), cardiac computerized tomography (CT) scan, and/or cardiac magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scan.

Editorial Note 08/22/2023: Added links to updated research

10 Reasons to Stay With Your Partner (Even If You Want to Leave)

Note: There are relationship problems, and then there are relationship-ending problems. For example, a partner who occasionally forgets something important belongs in the former group. A partner who possesses a destructive habit, or is verbally or physically abusive – the latter group. For obvious reasons, the latter group is excluded from this article.

As an interdependent species, we survive via our predisposition for intimate relationships. Hopefully, in the right scenario, a romantic relationship will – at some point – transition from mere survival mode to one that creates times of exuberant joy.

There’s just one catch: this “surviving to thriving” transformation is hard work.

Linda and Charlie Bloom are both husband and wife of 45 years and experts in the field of relationships. Both are licensed social workers and have presented at multiple venues; from colleges and universities to small conferences and syndicated TV programs.

And they both had this to say about relationships and happiness:

“(Perhaps) it’s less important that you know exactly why relationships are often harder than you think they should be, than it is to know you’re not alone. If this is your experience; in fact, you’re in good company,” “(You’ve) been told that you get what you’re willing to pay for, and there’s no doubt that it’s going to cost something to pay the dues that great relationships require. Whether or not you make that choice is up to you.”

Here are 10 reasons why staying in a relationship may be your best choice:

“To love a human being is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

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1. Having a partner eases the turbulence in life

Life can be an arduous journey – and one that’s often easier to navigate with a partner. While your other half may not always have the solution to your problem, they can play an irreplaceable role in finding the answer.

2. Someone who “knows” you is a rare thing

The fact that your love “connects” with you on an internal/spiritual level is a beautiful thing. How many people can you honestly say, with conviction, “knows” your inner being? If you’re in a healthy and loving relationship, odds are that your partner does.

3. Life brings added enjoy when you share it with someone

Notwithstanding the occasional hermit, most of us are excited to share our life with others to some extent. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted and shy (I fill this description), but there is something wondrous in navigating life’s path with the person you love (which I do, as well).

4. Random acts of love are beautiful

Spontaneous acts of love from family and friends is a time of joy. A random act of love from your partner is beautiful. The “little things” take on a whole new meaning with your mate.

5. Four hands are better than two

As in, you can be more productive with a partner. Obviously, such circumstances require they carry their weight; in such a case, they’ll also help motivate and comfort you through various obstacles.

6. You are a better person

Love has a profound way of making you want to be a better person. In the movie As Good As It Gets, Jack Nicholson plays an obsessive-compulsive who manages to repel everyone with his misanthropy. In one moving scene, Nicholson can’t quite bring himself to compliment his date (actress Helen Hunt). Finally, after a long pause, Nicholson casually states “You make me want to be a better man.” Though a fictional example, it aptly helps explain the power of love.

7. Opportunities abound

A partnership can create more fun, money, and opportunity if a couple is responsible and in tune with each other. It helps to have a partner who willingly “pitches in” and continues toward self-improvement.

8. You’re a healthier person

In a study conducted at University College London, researchers state: “Generally speaking, people who are in stable marriages have better (mental and physical) health compared to those who have never been married.” The conclusion reads: “(It’s) not so much about being legally married as the benefits of being in a stable, long-term relationship.”

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9. Emotions are created that wouldn’t be

“Of course, romantic relationships create new emotions,” you may think. Okay, fair enough. It is worth reiterating, however, the personal emotions experienced when we’re in love. We’re more compassionate, happier, and hopeful people when in a stable relationship.

10. “Reversing the course” may be easier than thought

Okay, “reversing the course” isn’t always possible, after all. But if you have a partner who’s at least somewhat open to self-improvement or seeking help, your relationship at least has a chance. More often than not, resentfulness and stubbornness are the two culprits negatively affecting your relationship – either are solvable if there’s mutuality.

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