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5 Warning Signs Someone Has Dementia

Like most illnesses severely affecting cognitive functioning, dementia is a tragic, gut-wrenching condition. This article will discuss what dementia is (and is not), some warning signs, and treatment methods.

“Can I remember exactly when I ‘lost’ my husband? Was it the moment when I had to start tying his shoelaces for him? Or when we stopped being able to laugh with each other? Looking back, that turning point is impossible to pinpoint. But then, that’s the nature of dementia.” – Judy Parfitt, English Actress.

What is dementia?

Per the Alzheimer’s Organization, dementia is “a general term for a decline in mental ability severe enough to interfere with daily life.” Loss of memory and Alzheimer’s – the most common form of dementia – are two examples. Dementia is, generally, a gradual decline in memory, thinking, and reasoning skills.

Dementia itself is not a specific disease. Instead, the term applies to several symptoms indicating a severe cognitive disorder. Due to the disorder’s complex nature, Dementia can only be diagnosed by a licensed medical doctor (usually a neurologist).

Types of Dementia

This broad term covers several specific diseases, including these.

Alzheimer’s disease

alzheimers disease and dementiaAlzheimer’s is a progressive brain disease that erodes memory and thinking ability. Doctors aren’t sure what causes Alzheimer’s disease, but they think it is related to three things that can happen as you get older.

  • Inflammation of the brain
  • Oxidation stress in the brain
  • Build up of toxic proteins (called beta-amyloid or tau)

Over time, your brain cell connections can degenerate, eventually dying and destroying all or most of your mental functions. Currently, there’s no cure for Alzheimer’s, but there are medications and strategies to help improve the individual’s lifestyle. Alzheimer’s disease is considered the 3rd leading cause of death in the United States for older people.

Symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease

  • Memory problems-One of the first symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease is often a loss of memory. Forgetting where you are, confusion over rooms in your house, or forgetting names and faces.
  • Poor brain function-Trouble doing regular problem-solving activities like paying bills, driving a car, or cooking.
  • Lack of smell-Problems smelling some things can be a symptom of Alzheimer’s disease.

Vascular dementia

The second-leading cause of dementia is called Vascular dementia – a form of dementia resulting from a stroke.

Vascular disease causes brain function problems and dementia. This can be due to a stroke or brain-damaged blood vessels. These conditions can cause memory and thinking problems. There are two kinds of vascular dementia:

  • Vascular dementia
  • Vascular cognitive impairment

Other contributing factors to vascular dementia include

  • Atrial fibrillation
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • High cholesterol

Symptoms of vascular dementia

The symptoms may show up suddenly. If you have symptoms of VCID, talk with your doctor right away. They can do an MRI to see what’s going on in your brain, especially if you’ve suffered a stroke.

Lewy body dementia

Lewy body dementia is a brain disease where a high amount of protein is deposited in your brain. These protein deposits, or Lewy bodies, change the chemicals in your brain, leading to thinking, behavior, and moving problems. Lewy body dementia is a common type of dementia.

Symptoms

Symptoms vary from person to person. Movement problems, insomnia, and behavior are often the first symptoms. Others include

  • Lack of ability to think and do regular life activities
  • Lack of focus
  • Change in mood, poor judgment, confusion, and a hard time with speaking
  • Staring, lethargic, and fatigue
  • Hallucinations-This happens in 80% of the cases of Lewy body patients.
  • Disorganized ideas, hearing noises that aren’t there. May feel frightened easily.

Behavior changes in Lewy body dementia may include

  • Depression
  • Apathy
  • Anxiety
  • Agitation
  • Delusions
  • Paranoia

dancingHow does a doctor diagnose dementia?

Dementia needs to be diagnosed as early as possible. Sometimes this is impossible, and the diagnosis isn’t confirmed until after the person has passed away. But if you or someone close to you has symptoms, speak with a doctor. They can do tests to confirm a diagnosis of dementia. The tests include

  • Your medical history: The doctor will want to know about your personal and family medical history. The physician will also ask if dementia runs in the family. They’ll also ask you about your symptoms, when they started, and how you feel. Finally, they will ask you about any medications you currently take and let you know if they could contribute to your symptoms.
  • Your physical exam: They will measure your cholesterol, your blood pressure, and weight.
  • Your neurological tests will check your balance, reflexes, and sensory responses.

As mentioned, Alzheimer’s disease is the most common form of dementia, accounting for 60 to 80 percent of all cases. Alzheimer’s is a fatal disorder that neutralizes brain cells and cognitive functionality. Sadly, individuals with this disease often notice the changes in themselves; this makes it difficult to articulate what they’re experiencing to friends, family, and others.

What dementia is NOT

As mentioned, dementia is a complex medical condition, yet, ignorance has led people to believe that it is strictly age-related – it is not. Per the Alzheimer’s organization:

Dementia is often incorrectly referred to as “senility” or “senile dementia,” reflecting the formerly widespread but incorrect belief that serious mental decline is a normal part of aging. Changes to memory often (not constantly) occurs as one age.

The primary difference between any “age-related” memory problems and dementia is the degree to which daily life is impacted. Everyone forgets something at some time or another or experiences acute bouts of ‘brain fog.’ Many people have memory issues and trouble with thinking clearly- this does not mean that they have dementia.

Given the intricacy of the topic, we advise anyone who is or knows someone experiencing cognitive problems to seek medical advice.

Who is at risk of getting dementia?

These things increase your chances of getting dementia.

  • Your age: This is the biggest risk of dementia is aging.
  • High blood pressure: An elevated blood pressure is bad for your cognitive function. It can damage your blood vessels and cause atherosclerosis.
  • Stroke: A stroke damages your vascular system. Once you’ve had a stroke, there’s an increased chance that you’ll have another one.
  • Alcohol: Drinking high amounts of alcohol increases your chances of getting dementia.
  • High cholesterol: Too much fat or cholesterol in your arteries causes the thickening of your arteries’ walls so the blood can’t properly flow to your brain and heart. This raises your chances of vascular dementia.
  • Diabetes: People with diabetes are at a higher risk of getting dementia. Diabetes puts you at risk for stroke or heart disease, which can lead to vascular disease.
  • Down’s syndrome: This syndrome with down syndrome is more apt to get Alzheimer’s disease often in middle age.
  • Genes: The chance of getting dementia increases if more than one family member has dementia.
  • Head injury: Getting a traumatic head injury makes you more susceptible to getting dementia.
  • Parkinson’s disease: Parkinson’s disease causes degeneration of nerve cells, leading to dementia and memory loss.
  • Smoking: Smoking narrows your blood vessels, preventing proper blood flow to your brain or heart.

Here are five potential signs of dementia:

According to the Alzheimer’s Association, the following red flags are early indicators of cognitive decline:

1. Difficulty Planning or Solving Problems

Some people with dementia experience sudden changes in their capacity to develop and follow a plan. Once simple tasks, such as keeping track of bank balances or following a recipe, become much more complicated. It’s also common during the onset of dementia to experience increased problems with concentration.

 2. Trouble With Once-familiar Tasks

One of the more visible signs of dementia is a decreased ability to complete routine tasks. Perhaps the person cannot navigate a familiar route or forgets about how to play a favorite game. Executing something habitual is a deeply engrained neuronal activity; one can be completed “without thinking.” Any noticeable changes in someone’s ability to complete a common task require attention.

 3. New Problems When Communicating

People with dementia often have problems following a conversation. They may cease interacting, forget about something they said (perhaps repeat themselves), or have no idea how to proceed. Vocabulary challenges, such as the inability to find the correct word, are also common.

 4. Withdrawal From Social or Work Activities

When a person begins to experience the cognitive challenges that dementia brings, they may start to remove themselves from work or social activities. This withdrawal may be due to personality changes, fearfulness, or denial. Regardless of the rationale, some people living with dementia become progressively distant.

 5. Memory Loss Disruptive to Daily Life

Again, the key phrase is “disruptive to daily life.” Memory lapses happen to all of us, but rarely – if ever – do such lapses significantly handicap our day. During the early stages of dementia, forgetting recently learned information is one of the universal signs of the underlying condition. Other notable signs of severe memory problems:

  • forgetting important dates or events
  • repeatedly asking for the same information already given
  • an increasing reliance on memory aids
  • an increasing reliance on others to remember something

Healthy habits to preserve your memory

Recent studies suggest that these things can help you lower your risk of getting dementia.

  • Diet-Doctors suggest eating a Mediterranean diet.
  • Exercise-choose aerobic exercises that get your blood flowing.
  • Brain exercises
  • Lowering blood pressure
  • Lowering cholesterol

You can’t change the genes you inherited from your parents, but you can choose a lifestyle to help fight off dementia.

improve your memory

Here are some easy tips to help improve your memory.

Healthy lifestyle to prevent dementia

Here are some actionable lifestyle changes to help keep your brain at peak performance.

Eat a Mediterranean diet.

Doctors recommend eating a healthy Mediterranean diet. Here is a list of healthy foods you can eat on this diet.

Eat these foods in abundance:

  • Vegetables
  • Fruits
  • Nuts and seeds
  • Whole grains
  • Seafood and fish
  • Olive oil
  • Herbs and spices

Eat these foods in moderation.

  • Chicken
  • Eggs
  • Yogurt
  • Cheese

Rarely eat

Red meat

Never eat

Sugar, processed meats, refined oils, or processed foods.

Exercise

You can do many exercises to keep your body and brain healthy.

  • Cardio exercises like walking, swimming, jumping jacks, or biking all get your heart pumping.
  • Strength training helps build strength and muscle mass. Lifting weights can also build your confidence and help prevent bone deterioration, which causes osteoporosis.
  • Dance class- Dance till the stars come out for a healthy heart and brain.

Exercise for your brain

Your brain can grow stale and stagnant, especially as your age. Inspire your brain to newer levels with some of these brain-challenging activities. You don’t need to try all of them at once, but find a couple to enjoy.

  • Learn a new language: Try a new language to keep your brain stimulated. Try using an app to learn a new language. Many are free or not too expensive and do an excellent job helping you learn.
  • Learn to play an instrument: Pick up the instrument you played when you were young, or try your hand at a new one. Take a class or find some teaching videos online.
  • Jigsaw puzzles: Your grandma knew what she was doing, always leaving a jigsaw puzzle out. Find an exciting puzzle and challenge your family to finish it.
  • Card games: Cards games are fun and fast. Learn new games or try old faithful ones like “Go Fish, War or Crazy Eights.”
  • Teach someone: Teaching stimulates your brain and helps it stay fresh.
  • Break up your routines: Break out of your routine by trying a new route to work or using your left hand instead of your right to wash dishes. Changing up your routine can stimulate your brain.
  • Tai chi: Martial arts help you gain strength and help you find a sense of peace and calm, which lowers stress that can contribute to dementia.

dementiaFinal Thoughts on the Reality of Dealing with Dementia

There is no known cure for Alzheimer’s or any of the most progressive dementias. Drug treatments may help relieve some symptoms, and there is social support for dementia patients and their families. You might eventually have no alternative but assisted living with memory care for your aging parents or loved ones.

Every year In the United States, nearly 500,000 new cases of Alzheimer’s disease are diagnosed. Because there is currently no cure for any type of dementia, you must make healthy lifestyle choices. Choosing to eat a healthy Mediterranean-style diet, exercising, and finding ways to stimulate your brain are simple but effective lifestyle choices you can make to prevent dementia from entering your future.

8 Ways Your Body Changes When You Fall In Love

During our first childhood “crush,” we all experienced butterflies in the stomach, nervousness, and a racing heartbeat. We were infatuated and couldn’t take our eyes off of the object of our budding love.

Does anyone else remember anxiously awaiting the recess bell so we could see them on the playground? Or hoping that the teacher assigned you a desk right next to theirs? Indeed, chemical reactions were taking place in our young brain and body, giving us our first (albeit immature) taste of love.

Truly, a fascinating chain of chemical reactions occurs when we’re head over heels. From the relationship’s beginning to first climbing under the sheets, and finally saying those “three words,” here’s what goes on as your body falls in love.

What happens to your body when you fall in love

“Nothing is sweeter than love; all other bliss comes second. And compared to it, even honest it too hotter to hold in my mouth.” – Nossis

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#1 You feel “addicted” when you fall in love

Falling in love, and its effects on the body, are strikingly similar to being addicted to drugs. Chemicals that cause a euphoric high – adrenaline, dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin, are all released at some point during intimacy. Dopamine is the brain’s pleasure chemical and is what causes feelings of elation and energy around our loved one.

Helen E. Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University, states “Romantic love is an addiction. It’s a very powerfully wonderful addiction when things are going well.” Functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) scans of the brain in love strongly resemble those experiencing a high.

Lovers are also like drugs, in the sense that the more time you spend with them, the more hooked you become.

#2 Love lowers your inhibitions (“feeling drunk”)

Just as having one too many cocktails lowers anxiety, fear, and inhibition – and makes you more boastful and confident – the “love drug” oxytocin produces the same effect. Researchers at the University of Birmingham observed the effects of alcohol and oxytocin on the brain, and though they impact different parts of the brain, the effects are very similar.

#3 Your pupils dilate when you experience love

When you feel strongly attracted to someone, no matter the time or place, a reaction occurs within the brain’s sympathetic branch, the SNS. This stimulation causes the pupils of the eyes to dilate (become wider).

Try this out on your date, boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse – it’s fun stuff!

#4 You may experience a flushed face, sweaty palms, or a racing heart

Becoming anxious (sometimes, very anxious) before an important event (e.g. a big date, wedding day) is more than a nervous “twitch.” An influx of the brain chemicals adrenaline and norepinephrine can produce physical sensations, such as craving and desire. Also, your brain will focus intently on the person of affection.

#5 Your stomach may act up

When you really begin to like (perhaps love) someone else, the brain may release the stress hormone cortisol. Cortisol can cause the stomach’s blood vessels to constrict, perhaps leading to feelings of nausea and lack of appetite. This physiological response may explain why many couples don’t eat much on their wedding day.

#6 Love can help you experience “withdrawal symptoms”

Corticoliberin is a peptide hormone released during a stress response. Also known as the “corticotrophin-releasing factor,” separation from our loved one can exacerbate any stress response. The “withdrawal symptoms” of anxiety and depression are similar to those of an addict weaning off a drug.

#7 Pheromones are triggered – and sensed

Pheromones are “smell chemicals” that animals, including humans, excrete and sense. Biologically, this changes the behavior of another animal. In more humanistic, simple terms, we have attuned to our partner’s pheromones, which increases sexual desire.

Dr. Fisher states, “Once you fall for someone, their smell can be a powerful thing. Women will wear their boyfriend’s T-shirts, and throughout tales in history, men have held on to their lover’s handkerchief.”

#8 Our brain changes (and “lights up”)

Fisher’s first groundbreaking study was in 2005 when she analyzed the brain images of individuals in love. A total of 2,500 brain scans were taken. Each participant was shown a picture of their “special someone” and then a picture of an acquaintance. The images revealed drastic differences.

fall in love

The first noticeable effect was the flood of “feel-good” dopamine chemicals in certain regions of the brain. Other noticeable differences involved two other areas of the brain: the caudate nucleus and ventral tegmental area. The former is strongly linked with reward detection, and the latter is associated with “pleasure, focused attention, and the motivation to pursue and acquire rewards.”

References:
Deza, D. (2015). How Love Changes Your Body Chemistry. Retrieved from http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20568672,00.html
Tigar, L. (2016, February 12). How your body reacts when you fall in love. Retrieved from http://edition.cnn.com/2016/02/12/health/your-body-on-love/
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11 Proven Ways To Be More Attractive

Attractiveness, beauty, allure . All are things beholden to the subjectivity of the individual. One person may think intelligence is attractive or sexy. Conversely, someone else may not care.

Even others place heavy emphasis on physical features, while some don’t, So the game goes on.

Science, particularly biology, plays a vital role in attraction. Besides that, it determines whether we find someone else attractive. Attraction “cues” may be conscious or subconscious, obvious or obscure. Indeed, psychology is funny that way.

“Beauty is a beautiful trait, which can only be sensed by beautiful people at heart and soul.” – Maria Cluston Cletus

11 methods of attraction, per science and research:

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#1 Forget playing “hard to get”

Men and women may think they’re more attractive by concealing their feelings, motives, etc.; perhaps believing this sleight of hand adds to their mystique. There is some evidence to support this, although a “brain connection” is deemed more important.

In a 2016 study, researchers state:

“Humans interaction with other humans must be able to understand their interaction partner’s affection and motivations, often without words…We found the better a participant thought they could understand another person’s emotion, the more they felt attracted toward that person.”

#2 Red is hot

Science has shown that women who wear red are more attractive to men. Dr. Alec Beall, a psychologist at the University of British Columbia, explains:

“This red-attractiveness link is partially explained by men’s perceptions of implied sexual receptivity among women wearing reddish garb.”

Dr. Beall emphasizes his “red-attractiveness” conclusions by noting the universality of the findings. From tiny villages in the middle of nowhere, to Paris and NYC, red draws the male eye.

#3 Don’t be a stiff

So do you ever wonder why some women love guys like Zach Galifianakis and Will Ferrell? To us guys, they’re both tremendously talented, hilarious characters. To many women, they are also incredibly attractive.

In a study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior, the authors explain the differences between the sexes and interpretation of humor:

“Men emphasized the importance of their partners’ receptivity to their own humor, whereas women valued humor production and receptivity equally…Women preferred those who produced humor for all types of relationships.”

#4 Prioritize self-grooming

Nobody wants to get someone who looks like a slob. Doesn’t mean you need the fashion sense of a Valentino or Versace, but some effort is in order.

Science shows that one’s perception of physical attractiveness keenly focuses on “changeable aspects of our self-representation.” In other words, combing or brushing your hair, fit and clean clothing, and a healthy weight.

#5 Lay off the makeup (a bit)

(For this male writer, a woman whose face resembles a birthday cake is appalling. Sorry.)

Anyways, across studies a few interesting discoveries were made about makeup:

– Faces with “natural” makeup are seen favorably, while those wearing excessive makeup were less desirable.

– Most women wear makeup as a confidence-booster (not just for “pleasing” men.)

– Many women overemphasize the importance and impact of wearing makeup.

Advice for women who adore makeup is similar to that of alcohol consumption: “everything in moderation.”

be yourself

#6 Go lumberjack

No guys, don’t start flaunting flannel, jean suspenders, and mountain boots.

Grow a beard.

Heterosexuals, knowingly or not, look for the most definitive traits of the opposite sex. For men, nothing is more “definitive” than a (well-groomed!) beard.

Fascinatingly, research demonstrates that beards convey not only masculinity, but health and vigor, parental ability and reproductive vitality.

#7 Show your shape

In fact, many mistakenly believe men are attracted to thinner women. However, this is not true. Research shows that men prefer a body shape with fair curves and hips.

In fashion, InStyle recommends “semifitted styles that softly follow your curves and show of your waistline.” Belted shirtdresses, sheaths, and full skirts fit this description. Classy and sexy fashion, in other words.

#8 Be kind!

Exhibiting kindness is something we should be doing, anyways…

That said, having a kind heart may have a positive effect on your attractiveness. Termed the ‘halo effect,’ physically attractive people are more likely to be associated with benevolent qualities. It wasn’t until recently, however, when scientists discovered the opposite (kind people are more attractive) may be rooted in scientific fact.

According to Dr. Beall: “Mounting evidence suggests that the ‘what is good is beautiful’ stereotype may also hold true.

#9 Get a doggy

As if we needed another reason to love dogs.

However, we must look at these survey results compiled by researchers at the University of Nevada, who studied a dog’s effect on attractiveness and dating:

  • About 50 percent of women judged their date from how the man treated his dog.
  • 35 percent of women were more attracted to a man who owned a pet.
  • 22 percent of (smart) men used their “best friend” to attract a date.

#10 “Watch your tone”

This one is pretty commonsensical: tone of voice impacts attraction levels. Men find women with a higher pitch more appealing; whereas women like a deeper-toned voice.

The rationale behind tone and attraction is also straightforward. Both men and women associate a tone of voice with femininity and masculinity; especially when it comes to body type.

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#11 Smile – or not

In a University of British Columbia study, researchers examined the relationship between expressions of happiness, pride, and shame, and sexual attractiveness.

The study, which consisted of 1,041 participants using “different images and samples” discovered: “a large gender difference…in the sexual attractiveness of happy displays.”

Here are the findings:

  • Happiness (i.e. smiling) was the most attractive female expression. On the other hand, it was the least attractive male expression.
  • Pride was the most attractive male expression. Conversely, it was the least attractive female expression.

“Beauty is a beautiful trait, which can only be sensed by beautiful people at heart and soul.” – Maria Cluston Cletus

References:
Bressler, E. R., Martin, R. A., & Balshine, S. (2006). Production and appreciation of humor as sexually selected traits. Evolution and Human Behavior, 27(2), 121-130. doi:10.1016/j.evolhumbehav.2005.09.001

7 Signs of Chronic Fatigue (And How to Reverse It)

Can you imagine a constant, tired feeling that doesn’t seem to go away? A 24/7 condition that causes you to feel drained – and nothing you do seems to help?

That’s what someone diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) experiences on a daily basis. Unlike most medical conditions, no Food and Drug Administration (FDA)-approved medicine is available. However, this doesn’t mean there aren’t other options.

In this article, we’ll discuss some common signs of CFS and what is being done about it.

First, let’s discuss seven of the most common symptoms of CFS:

“People with (encephalomyelitis) or (Chronic fatigue syndrome) experience a range of symptoms that makes it hard to do the daily tasks that most of us do without thinking – like dressing or bathing.” – WomensHealth.com

1. Long-term fatigue

To meet the diagnostic requirements of CFS, a person must experience “long-term” fatigue, defined as a period of 6 months to a year. Beyond this time, the probability of a CFS diagnoses increases. Your doctor will evaluate your past medical history (if available) and identify any other potential explanation.

Individuals that have had a previous infection, no matter the duration or how long ago, may continue to feel tired or exhausted long after recovery; this is just one possibility a doctor must consider.

2. Cognitive problems

It’s no surprise that someone who experiences prolonged periods of fatigue has problems thinking. This sign can be frustrating – and potentially debilitating – for people with a high-stress job.

One common problem individuals with CFS experience is an impaired short-term memory. Short-term memory is defined as “A system for temporarily storing and managing information required to carry out complex cognitive tasks such as learning, reason, and comprehension.” No known correlation exists between CFS and long-term memory, however.

CFS may also affect verbal acuity, or the ability to “find and say” a particular word during normal speech.

3. Depression

CFS itself does not cause depressive symptoms. Rather, depression may manifest from various personal and work-related difficulties. It is possible for a person to have both conditions at the same time, according to scientific research.

Further, depression can exacerbate the symptoms of CFS and vice-versa. Unfortunately, doctors may interpret the symptoms of CFS as clinical depression. As such, it is important to clearly state any prolonged feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, or sadness – and will aid the practitioner in making the correct diagnosis.

4. “Post-exertional” fatigue

Post-exertional fatigue is perhaps one of the more obvious initial signs of CFS. Let’s use a hypothetical example:

Joe is a well-educated, driven, and successful businessman. He’s maintained his drive and passion for what he does for over 15 years when, all of a sudden, he experiences an onset of extreme tiredness. Even his daily lunchtime workout fails to provide any boost; instead, his fatigue worsens. Worst of all, his job duties – something he used to enjoy – depletes his energy.

Routine activities that were once normal (even enjoyable) now contribute to feelings of tiredness.

5. Fatigue after sleep

Generally, a short nap or good night’s rest will feel rejuvenating. Not so for some people with CFS. Many folks with CFS will, understandably, attempt to counteract their underlying symptoms by getting more sleep – only to find out that it doesn’t help.

Forgive the informality, but how much would this suck?

Fatigue following sleep is another strong indication of CFS – and another good reason why someone should schedule a doctor’s appointment.

6. Digestive problems

This one is a bit harder to explain.

The most plausible explanation is that CFS affects cognitive faculties (neurons, synapses, neurotransmitters); functions inextricably linked to the digestive system. The digestive system contains the most neurons – and receives more brain communications – than any other part of the body.

A CFS/digestive pattern is noted in a widely-publicized study: “Patients with CFS manifest symptoms suggestive of disturbed gut function, such as abdominal pain, diarrhea and/or constipation,” according to an article published in the Archives of Internal Medicine.

7. Other unexplainable symptoms

As the symptoms of CFS are broad in scope, it may be helpful to note some other common symptoms of the condition.

According to WebMD, CFS has eight “official signs and symptoms” aside from fatigue (you may notice some overlap to previously mentioned symptoms):

“- Loss of memory or concentration

– Sore throat

Enlarged lymph nodes in your neck or armpits

– Unexplained muscle pain

Pain that moves from one joint to another without swelling or redness

– Headache of a new type, pattern, or severity

Unrefreshing sleep

– Extreme exhaustion lasting more than 24 hours after physical or mental exercise”

“Reversing” CFS

CFS is a complex condition that often requires a specialized treatment regimen. Here are some lifestyle changes and medical therapies that may help, per the National Health Service (NHS) of the United Kingdom:

– Abstain from alcohol, caffeine, and sugar

Avoid any known “sensitive” beverages or foods

– Eat small, regular meals

Get enough relaxation time

– Do not nap excessively

Here are some medical recommendations:

Cognitive behavioral therapy

– A monitored exercise program

Activity management

– Medication

(When we discuss the signs or symptoms of CFS, please understand that is not a comprehensive list. There are about 16 recognized symptoms of this condition. Also note: CFS, as with most other medical conditions, requires the attention of a licensed physician. A licensed practitioner far more likely to ascertain the correct diagnosis and recommend potential treatment options.)

5 Reasons You Should Make Your Bed Every Morning

For reasons that vary from the cultivation of mental discipline to highlighting a bedroom’s aesthetics, there is something to be said about making your bed every morning.

There are also plenty of reasons (or excuses) why someone doesn’t make their bed. First, most people simply don’t care or notice – it’s a bed – what’s the big deal? With all the rushing around and things to do, making the bed is a “time-waster” for many people.

No dispute from this end that making your bed is mundane. It is. But this is one reason to do it. Think about your typical day: how many trivial, “unimportant” things require your attention anyways? You must do these things – at work, at home, or elsewhere – whether you want to or not.

So, why take the time to make your bed?

Here are 5 good reasons:

“If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day. Making your bed will [reinforce] the fact that the little things in life matter. If you can’t do the little things right, you’ll never be able to do the big things right.” U.S. Navy Admiral William H. McCraven

#1 You start the day right

As Admiral McCraven said to the graduating class at the University of Texas, making your bed instills a sense of accomplishment. You walk out of the room knowing that you’ve achieved something. You’ll feel more inclined to complete another task, then another. At the end of the day, you’ll have done more, (perhaps) spearheaded from the simple act of making your bed.

If you approach making your bed with the mindset of “How I do anything is how I do everything,” you’ll gain a growing sense of pride, self-confidence, and motivation. Further, you’ll leave the house feeling a sense of control and personal responsibility – an asset you can take with you throughout the day.

#2 It cultivates mental discipline

Mental discipline, also known as self-discipline, is developed by overcoming mental and physical resistance.

When you roll out of bed on a Monday morning, sometimes the last thing you aspire to do is make your bed. This dreaded feeling is understandable, but it’s also a terrific opportunity to discipline yourself.

We tend to associate any form of “self-discipline” as harsh and restraining, but it needn’t be. Although your brain and body may resist your efforts, you can engage your mind at-will and gently bring its attention back under control. You employ your mind this way by focusing intently on one thing, and one thing only: the task at-hand.

Which segues perfectly into #3:

#3 It can be a great mindfulness exercise

One tenet of mindfulness is witnessing your thoughts without criticism or judgement. This very principle can be applied to all of our efforts. Any mundane task: washing the dishes, cleaning the floor, and yes, making the bed – are all excellent times to practice mindfulness.

As we implement mindfulness into every small or large task, we establish a mental and physical “connection.” This mindset dissipates much of the resistance and angst attempting to creep in as we intently focus on the task at hand. As our mindful “muscle” grows, we’ll find making the bed – and many other duties – less “painful” and more rewarding!

Charles Dickens, one of history’s most profound writers, once wrote:

“He did each single thing, as if he did nothing else.” Perfectly said.

#4 Your sleep may improve

A study by the renowned National Sleep Foundation (NSF) may have discovered a correlation between a comfortable bedroom and better quality sleep. Individuals or couples that made their bed “every day” or “almost every day” reported better sleep than those who rarely or never make their bed.

It’s difficult to explain this study’s results. But it may be the byproduct of the several other benefits listed in this article.

Certainly, it is not out of the realm of possibility to attribute higher quality sleep to a sense of accomplishment, mental discipline, task-orientation, and, perhaps most importantly, mindfulness.

#5 You’ll appreciate the neatness

For those with an eye for design aesthetics, making your bed will most likely prove pleasing to the eyes.

Rachel Hoffman, a housekeeping and organizational guru, states: “Taking a moment to straighten up your bedding creates an orderly and neat focal point in what might otherwise be a messy disaster.”

Hoffman also says that making your bed can serve as a source of inspiration and reassurance. More specifically, that you can control your surroundings; this “can be pretty empowering as an indication of what you’re capable of accomplishing with just a small amount of effort.”

10 Behaviors People Display That End Relationships

“Old habits die hard,” as the old axiom goes; this is particularly the case when old (read: bad) habits carry over into – or manifest during –  intimate relationships.

Dr. Robert Firestone is credited for theorizing the now-renowned “fantasy bond” wherein a couple forms the illusion of connection and closeness with their partner despite emotional disconnect.

Dr. Firestone explains the rationale of his theory:

“Most people have fears of intimacy and are self-protective and at the same time are terrified of being alone. Their solution to their emotional dilemma is to form a fantasy bond.”

That’s because couples that form such a bond “go through the motions” of an intimate relationship out of a deep-rooted fear of being alone.

Predictably, the psychological patterns and behavior(s) of one partner can increase the risk of emotionally alienating the other. In turn, the chances of a once-healthy relationship becoming a “fantasy bond” increases as well.

Does everyone experiencing relationship turmoil create a fantasy bond? No. In fact, some decide to file divorce papers on a whim. In addition, some become physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive.

A relationship can deteriorate in a variety of ways, whether through living out a “fantasy bond,” being served with divorce papers, or something worse.

What all of these unfortunate outcomes have in common is this: one or both partner’s behavior(s) likely led to the relationship’s decline.

“What I’ve learned, through my own work and through a 30-year longitudinal study of couples and individuals, is that we can contrast the patterns of behavior between couples that result in long-term romantic love with those that signify that the couple has formed a ‘fantasy bond.’” Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, and author

Here are 10 common psychological traits or behaviors capable of wrecking a relationship:

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1. Complaining and Nagging

A partner that invariably complains or nags creates division and tension in a relationship. If the complaint is legitimate, it is advisable to wait until a good time to have the conversation (ex: when both are alone and comfortable.)

It is also important to refrain from carrying on impulsively (i.e. nagging). This behavior accomplishes nothing and only serves to drive the other person away.

2. Poor Communication

It’s been said over and over that communication is the most important element of any relationship. Open and honest communication creates chemistry, understanding, appreciation, and acceptance.

Poor and infrequent communication can lead to resentment, misunderstanding, and isolation. Because of this, couples need to engage in open communication on a daily basis, if possible.

3. Fighting over text message

So you are both adults; thus, the act of initiating or participating in a text message argument should be considered juvenile. If you’re doing it, stop. Arrange a time or place to talk or meet up.

Nearly all relationship experts are in agreement that text-fighting considerably increases the chance of a relationship going downhill.

4. Overstepping boundaries

Being in a relationship, in the most technical sense, is a mutual agreement. It is important to understand the individuality of your partner, and vice-versa. In fact, each other’s individualism should be a catalyst for spontaneous, romantic excitement.

A co-dependent partner may (knowingly or unknowingly) diminish their partner’s individuality by “fusing” their identities. Regardless of the relationship’s progression, this is almost always unwelcome, as the other party feels controlled and limited.

5. Being “over distracted”

In a culture where we’re always engaged on social media or fiddling with our cell phones, distraction has become the new norm. Technology, as with alcohol and drugs, can become an addiction. Thus, it’s abuse that can have serious consequences.

When an overzealous tech lover is compulsively checking their cell phone, their significant other perceives this as a sign of disrespect. Worse, they feel their presence comes second to a cell phone. Not good.

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6. Jealousy

Dr. Michele Kerulis at Northwestern University states “Jealousy can stem from insecurity, lack of trust, fear of betrayal, low confidence, and can linger from past relationships and life experiences.”

Indeed, the idea of discussing jealousy issues may be cringe-worthy. But Dr. Kerulis believes such dialogue to be vital. In fact, people who have a history of jealous behavior across relationship types (friendships, family, romance, etc.) may find some consolation in talking with a counselor or therapist.

7. Ungratefulness

It’s quite easy to get excited over the big things. For example, you feel delighted to receive a thoughtful little gift. During a relationship, however, the “small things” matter a whole lot.

Did they give you a back rub after a long day? Thank them. Did they stop on the way home and get you some food from your favorite joint? Thank them. Also, make sure to return the favor.

8. Being clingy

Yes, you are in a committed relationship now. But, following along the same lines of respecting your partner’s individualism, it is important to give them some space to be themselves.

Also, research demonstrates that doing the things bring you fulfillment – and not always depending on your partner to approve – makes you more attractive.

9. Addictive behaviors

Yes, this one is quite evident. Addictions can quickly spell a relationship’s end. Joan Bibelhausen, J.D. and family lawyer states: “In family law, addiction to alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors such as gambling are present in a significant amount of cases.”

The sad fact remains that the number of untreated addicts far exceeds the rehabilitated. Tragically, addiction has a devious way of isolating everyone the user cares about including their partner.

10. Financial incompatibility

Money is the leading cause of stress in relationships. Thus, it’s no surprise, that causes breakups, separations, and divorce.

Relationship experts state that it’s not the lack of money that’s the most-cited problem, it’s the ambivalence surrounding one or both partner’s spending habits which are often less than desirable.

Dr. Seth Meyers, Psy.D. writes: “Without a doubt, differences in money management styles between two partners can ruin a marriage. In fact, you don’t even need to be married to fall victim to the powerful influence money problems can have on a relationship.”

Meyers adds for good measure: “If you know that money management is a true problem, you must confront the issue head on immediately.”

References:
Firestone, T. (2016). How Do I Know if I Have a Fantasy Bond? Retrieved from https://www.psychalive.org/how-do-i-know-if-im-in-a-fantasy-bond/
Lamberg, E. (2017). 9 Common Behaviors That Are Subtly Sabotaging Your Relationship. Retrieved from http://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/bad-relationship-habits/
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