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Research Reveals: The First Child Is More Intelligent Than Their Siblings

April 7, 2017 by Power of Positivity

First things first: don’t kill the messenger. Many believe that the first child in any family will reap the benefits of parental adoration and unwavering attention.

Researchers at the University of Edinburgh wanted to examine the age-old debate (no pun intended) about the firstborn being the most intelligent. Some scientists believe that first-borns receive “privileges,” such as extra parental attention, behaviors, and habits.

Following a 5,000 person study, the research team did conclude that firstborns tend to be “smarter” than latter-born children. This is not by any means a failsafe predictor of intelligence; rather, the study serves to prove the importance of parental attention and the advancement of knowledge.

In this article, we discuss the study; including the rationale, methodology, outcomes, and impact of the study. Also importantly, what the research does and does not implicate.

Rationale

A highly controversial theory, appropriately named the “Birth Order Effect,” served as the primary catalyst for the research. Per the theory, firstborn children are privy to advantages not given to siblings in terms of mental stimulation. (Children born after the first child also have some advantages, which are briefly discussed.)

According to Psychology Today:

“Birth order has a powerful impact on children’s emotions, behavior and personality development. By a twist of fate a child is born into a particular spot in the family, and from this position, he will have unique emotional experiences. Each spot in the order has its advantages and challenges.”

One of the apparent benefits of the firstborn child according is more intelligence, better earnings, and a higher level of education.

Research Reveals: The First Child Is More Intelligent Than Their Siblings

The extensive study, which measures intelligence and economic outcomes, was conducted in collaboration by three organizations: The University of Edinburg School of Economics, the University of Sydney, and the Analysis group.

Economists from all three organizations examined survey data from the US Bureau of Labor Statistics and found some interesting trends. The level of education, income and intelligence (IQ) appears to correlate with the order of birth, with the firstborn as the benefactor.

Researchers observed nearly 5,000 children from pre-birth until age 14. Each child was given an assessment even two years which tested general intelligence, including “reading, matching letters, names, reading simple words aloud and picture vocabulary tests.”

An assessment tool called the Home Observation Measurement of the Environment measured parental behaviors throughout the pre-birth, pregnancy, and post-birth stages. Parental behaviors included emotional involvement with their children, smoking habits, and others.

Additional factors taken into consideration when compiling and analyzing the results included economic conditions and family background.

Outcomes

Due to “more mental stimulation,” firstborn children scored higher on IQ tests as early as toddlerhood. Furthermore, after analyzing data compiled from the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, the oldest child often earns more income and achieves a higher level of education.

Why?

Unsurprisingly, parental involvement diminished as they had more children; including less time devoted to reading, crafts, and other educational activities. In other words, less mental stimulation was given to children following the firstborn.

Researchers found that each child did receive the same amount of emotional support (love, affection, attention, etc.) Interestingly, parents remained more attentive to thinking-related tasks of the firstborn than the others.

Dr. Ana Nuevo-Chiquero, one of the study’s researchers, states: “Our results suggest that broad shifts in parental behavior are a plausible explanation for the observed birth order differences in education and labor market outcomes.”

Dr. Kevin Leman, a psychologist and the author of The Birth Order Book and The First-Born Advantage states: “Firstborns are held to a higher standard. As kids come into the birth order, parents loosen up.”

Lehman characterizes the oldest child as more achievement-oriented; a characteristic often translating into good school and job performance. The firstborn is also likelier to seek out and thrive in leadership roles. (Most U.S. Presidents have been firstborn children or only children).

As for the middle and youngest children?

Dr. Lehman states that middle children often serve the role of “peacekeeper,” and are sociable and loyal in their relationships. They also exhibit the characteristics of a peacekeeper by being excellent compromisers and negotiators.

“Middle children are tougher to pin down, but they tend to be very loyal and to highly value their friendships,” says Lehman.

Youngest children, in study after study, exhibited markedly different personalities than their siblings. More specifically, the youngest tend to be more social, outgoing, and persuasive. The youngsters have also shown to be more creative than their older siblings.

But it’s perhaps their interpersonal habits that are the most interesting.

“…They got away with murder as kids and know how to get around people,” adds Lehman.

In closing…

Birth order and any relating theory are both extensively researched and highly controversial. Most of the utmost ardent supporters of the theories admit some degree of inconclusiveness.

Still, there is no denying the implications of such research. Psychologists and counselors may utilize the theory for treatment purposes, and educational systems may take birth order into account, for example.

Anyways, please conveniently “forget” this research at your next family reunion…especially if there’s alcohol.

Let the debate begin!

7 Behaviors Hypocrites Show To Reveal Themselves

April 7, 2017 by Power of Positivity

“Hypocrite: The man who murdered both his parents, and then pleaded on the grounds that he was an orphan.” – Abraham Lincoln

When searching for an introductory quote, this one by Abraham Lincoln was simply too good to pass up. It’s quite clear that ‘Honest Abe’ – a man known for his tendency to always tell the truth – possessed little sympathy for those who didn’t.

(Tennessee William’s quote “The only thing worse than a liar is a liar that also a hypocrite” was also considered.)

What is a hypocrite?

Quotations aside, hypocrites are among the worst type of dishonest people. Dictionary.com defines a hypocrite as:

a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.
a person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, especially one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements.

Anyone else think “politicians” or “celebrities” when reading the definition?

Fortunately, with the proliferation of news outlets and social media, being a hypocrite is tougher business than it used to be. (An eye-opening activity: search ‘hypocrite’ on Google, narrow results to ‘past week’ or ‘past 24 hours,’ and click on ‘News.’)

According to a research team the University of Southern California (USC), hypocrisy comprises one of three behaviors:

(1) Moral double standards occurs when a person is vindictive about a perceived offensive act of someone else; yet, shows little hesitance or guilt in doing the same thing. (Example: cutting someone off in traffic.)

(2) Moral duplicity is generally the one we use to define the act. Moral duplicity is when someone claims to be honorable in their motives, but this is known to be a complete falsehood. (Example: a politician citing neutral views on an issue despite indisputable evidence to the contrary.)

(3) Moral weakness is type of cognitive disconnect wherein a person’s beliefs or morals are trumped by their lack of self-control; thereby, they engage in the act knowing it to be wrong. (Example: a clergy member taking a vow of celibacy and then engaging in sexual acts.)

The difference between ‘hypocrite’ and ‘hypocritical’

If we’re honest with ourselves, most of us have been hypocritical at one time or another. Does this make us a Bona Fide hypocrite? No, it does not. At least, to a reasonable person it should not.

Someone labeling another as a hypocrite – as with a being labeled a “liar,” “degenerate,” “manipulator,” etc. – is a serious accusation, and one that brings potentially life-changing consequences.

It’s all a matter of proclivity and frequency. In other words, does the person truly live as a hypocrite, liar, degenerate or manipulator? Can they be defined as such?

That’s the benchmark.

How is the relevant to the title of the article? Well, “catching” someone doing something perceived to be hypocritical may not warrant tagging them with the title of “Hypocrite.”

Perhaps the best course of action is to use our best judgment (including understanding the situation); and when possible, appropriate, and ethical, remain discreet. Don’t be the source of office gossip, for one.

Here are 7 behaviors, beliefs and tendencies of hypocrites that may reveal their true identity:

1. Attempting to punish someone for “pointing out” any wrongdoings

If their hypocrisy has crossed the line, you – acting in good conscious – bring knowledge of such to their attention. Instead of the person admitting fault and apologizing, you are berated and belittled. Perhaps the hypocrite will go a step further and try to humiliate you publicly.

2. Aura of condescension and superiority

A hypocrite’s level of arrogance and superiority is borderline narcissistic. Attempt to engage them as equals, as you’ll likely walk away feeling like a student who has just been reprimanded by the teacher. They’ll (directly or indirectly) mock your intellect, maturity (oh, the irony!), or stability.

3. Rules don’t apply to them…

But those rules are very much applicable to others. Like the notorious gangster Al Capone, hypocrites are “above the law.” That’s because their innate sense of entitlement excuses them to act how they please. As others are inferior, rules must be used to keep them controlled.

4. Excuses, lies, and more of the same

Predictably, hypocrites are prolific (often pathologic) excuse makers and liars. The truth, no matter how convincing the evidence, is of no concern to them. If you watch any courtroom proceedings on TV, you’ll assuredly witness a hypocrite/narcissist blurt some bold-faced lie – and in front of a judge; in front of someone who can throw them in jail. Enough said?

5. “Do as I say, not as I do.”

High expectations of others and little to no expectations of themselves. So perhaps this is all that needs to be said. The hypocrite may be articulate and charming in their manipulative efforts, but they’ll never (ever) emulate any standard they set forth for others.

6. Always playing the victim

Many hypocrites will make excuses for their bad behavior. Often, these stories are crafted to dramatic effect; to gain the sympathy of others. They’ll insist they hate drama, and yet are probably the most dramatic person you’ve ever come met.

7. It’s not (and never is) their fault

It doesn’t matter how egregious the behavior, how boldfaced the lie, how impulsive the act – it is never the hypocrite’s fault. In retort, the phony may even rehash some of your (real or perceived) mistakes, in an effort to justify your accusations (which they really don’t care about, anyways.)

5 Things To Remember If You’re In A Relationship With A Sociopath

April 7, 2017 by Power of Positivity

‘The sociopath will: Belittle you…then humiliate you…then slander you…then provoke you. Why? To cause confusion, sadness, sorrow, embarrassment and pain.’ – Alison Zehe, writer, and survivor

When a person steps out into the dating world, perhaps their most distant possible thought is “I’m going to find a sociopath to settle down with.” While this absurd idea may generate a chuckle or two from our readers, many good people right at this very moment are being abused by a sociopathic partner.

Before we go any further, perhaps it’d be beneficial first to describe what a sociopath is. In the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), a sociopath falls under the category of an “Antisocial Personality Disorder,” a condition characterized by many the following attributes:

– Superficial charm and good intellect

– Untruthfulness and insincerity

– Lack of remorse and shame

– Failure to conform to social norms

– Poor judgment and failure to learn by experience

– Pathologic egocentricity and incapacity for love

– General poverty in major affective reactions

– Failure to follow a life plan

– Unresponsiveness in general interpersonal relations

A self-described sociopath succinctly describes her condition:

“Remorse is alien to me. I have a penchant for deceit. I am generally free of entangling and irrational emotions. I am strategic and cunning, intelligent and confident, but I also struggle to react appropriately to other people’s confusion and emotion-driven social cues.”

Not exactly the type of person one would like to envision themselves in a relationship with. Yet, sociopaths do find courtship, get married, have children, hold down jobs, and so on. The woman that described her condition is an accomplished attorney, a devoted churchgoer – and a diagnosed sociopath. She “functions” as a “good person,” but warns of the “lot of stupid, uninhibited, or dangerous sociopaths out there.”

Here are 5 important things to remember when in a relationship with a sociopath:

1. They are prone to emotional and irrational outbursts

Cognitive intelligence is a common trait among the sociopathic; however, emotional intelligence is not. The DSM explains such in the diagnostic criteria of sociopathy: “…a history of crime, legal problems, or impulsive and aggressive behavior.” If you’ve been in a relationship with a sociopath for any significant period of time, it’s likely you’ve witnessed such impulsiveness on more than one occasion.

While sociopaths are not prone to physical violence as psychopaths are, it is not out of the realm of possibility. Therefore, it is paramount for you to remain aware, and to have an exit strategy, if necessary.

2. They can’t be trusted with money or any other resources

Sociopaths handle money in the way that they handle everything else – with recklessness. It’s important to understand that sociopaths see recklessness and danger as a potential “high,” similar to how a cocaine addict sees a dealer loitering around the corner.

What makes sociopaths particularly dangerous is that their desires invariably change. They may seek a short-term thrill (see: gambling), a luxury object, a new place to live, etc. Thus, as nearly all “desires” in life have a monetary cost, handing cash or a credit card to a sociopath isn’t going to end well.

3. The manipulative behavior will never stop

Sociopaths see people as a toddler sees a rattle; as something to be toyed with. People are simply a “means to an end,” no matter how convincing their display of “love,” “affection,” or “empathy.”

It’s not uncommon for a sociopath to use false promises or some other type of manipulative tactic to get their way. “If you do _____, I’ll do _____,” and, of course, they never follow through on their commitment. If this doesn’t work, they’ll try and “psych you out,” – usually by making you feel terrible – to get what they want.

4. The words “boundaries” and “compromise” mean nothing to them

Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

Establishing boundaries and understanding compromise requires mutual respect and empathy; two characteristics that a sociopath does not possess. If you attempt to create some type of boundary or compromise, one or more of the following will happen:

– they’ll pretend to listen or completely ignore you

– they’ll throw a tantrum and vanish

– they’ll agree to said terms with no intention of following through

Again: a sociopath does not care about your desires, only their own.

5. They do not love you how you love them

This is not to say that sociopaths are incapable of love, some are; but it is generally limited to close family (brothers, sisters, parents) if anyone. The emotional abnormalities of a sociopath translate to “shallow” and “fleeting” feelings towards others (compared to the typical human) – if they experience them at all.

Debate persists on whether or not sociopaths are capable of loving relationships. The preponderance of psychological research seems to answer with an emphatic “no.”

References:
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5 Silent Killers of a Relationship

April 1, 2017 by Power of Positivity

“Sometimes we maintain silence to protect one Beautiful relationship, But too much silence creates a Distance in every Beautiful relationship.” – Unknown

In a relationship, it is common for one or both partners to give the ‘silent treatment’ when they experience anger, disappointment, frustration, or any other kind of negative emotion directed towards the other.

Short periods of silence, before (sometimes, slowly) transitioning back to regular dialogue can be a positive thing; at times, we require some space to “clear our heads” – and silence can do just that.

When these periods of silence become longer – and more frequent –it is a potential catalyst for a deteriorating relationship. The reason being that effective communication is arguably the most essential component of any successful relationship.

Anjhula Mya Singh Bias, Ph.D. psychologist states: “Often we stop communicating because one or both partners feels ‘it’s not worth it. They’ve been down that path, and they think they know what it holds – more anger, bitterness, and frustration.”

We’ll discuss five ‘silent killers’ of a relationship – and actions that can be taken to counteract them:

1. Inattentiveness and invalidation

A typical scenario: one partner tells the other that they’re hurt over something the other did, and their reply either lacks substance or invalidates any perceived concerns by saying they’re overreacting or just plain wrong. Should these types of interactions become more frequent, one or both partners are prone to silence – a descendent of futility.

Relationship experts recommend a few behaviors that may prevent such communication difficulties from surfacing. The first recommendation is to refrain from text messaging. The reason is simple: text messaging cannot portray body language or intonation – two essential parts of effective communication. Second, choose a place to talk without distractions. Being with one another without potential distractions increases the effectiveness of what’s being said, and also encourages eye contact. Third, practice empathy and reflective listening. Bear in mind that this doesn’t, or shouldn’t necessarily signify agreement with the other’s point of view; instead, it displays understanding and willingness to engage in conversations, no matter how difficult.

2. Animosity

Animosity in a relationship is a definite intimacy killer. This feeling often surfaces due to one partner’s (real or perceived) lack of responsibility or inaction. When this behavior continues despite the issue(s) having been discussed, one or both partners is/are liable to harbor silent resentment. Once again, this silence results from feelings of futility.

According to Dr. Alicia H. Clark, the solution “is to channel the shock at your spouse’s behavior into empathy, to try and understand them, and to come at the situation trying to see their perspective.”

In time, a mutual agreement of some sort will be reached, which may require a bit of compromise from both.

3. Sexual repression

When one or both partners feels that their sexual needs are not being met, the topic is often placed on the back-burner. Reasons for such feeling vary but commonly involve the frequency (or lack thereof) of intercourse.

The rationale for such feelings aside, bringing up one’s sexual displeasure can feel uncomfortable for any number of reasons. For example, the person feeling repressed may consider the topic of sex to be “taboo” or unnecessary; they could be wary of the real possibility of hurting the other’s feelings, and so forth.

Despite this understandable hesitation, it is indeed an issue that requires a resolution. Sexual intimacy is an important part of a relationship, and intimacy can disintegrate without a healthy sex life.

Dr. Pamela Stephenson-Connolly, a sexual therapist and psychoanalyst, says: “Start by praising your partner for what is working, and reaffirm your positive feelings for him or her. They say something like: “But I’ve noticed that we’re struggling with…(mention the problem)…and I’m wondering, what’s your take on it?” This makes it clear that you are willing to share the problem, rather than allocate blame.”

4. Tacit Disappointment

Admitting disappointment to someone you love is a hard thing to do. In fact, some relationships end because of unexpressed disappointment in the other. To complicate the matter, one or both partners can become numb to even perceiving disappointment in the other; something that can make it agonizingly difficult to both comprehend and articulate any disappointments to another.

Dr. Mark Goulston, considered among the best crisis psychiatrists in the U.S., says:

“…admit the disappointment to yourself, then feel the full extent of it and next, tell the other person…it actually frees you from the pain of holding it in after which it dissipates, goes away (enabling) you to feel warm and good feelings that have been laying sadly unreachable, unfeelable and underneath the disappointment all the time.”

5. Lack of Trust

A deficiency in trust for one’s partner can stem from having unsuccessfully navigated the “trust gap” with another, usually by having been the victim of betrayal or neglect in the past. While this lack of trust is more common in new relationships, it can surface later on in the form of suspicion.

Regardless of the reason, harboring feelings of untrustworthiness will always manifest into feelings of tension. In most cases, the relationship will deteriorate for one of any number of related reasons.

Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D., offers the following advice to those with self-trust issues: “If you are suppressing important parts of yourself to accommodate your partner, it is important to acknowledge your unmet needs and work…to find a solution that allows them in. Therapy is often necessary to help repair injuries due to affairs, addictions, or other forms of unavailability, instability, and control.”

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9 Habits That Change Your Mental Health

April 1, 2017 by Power of Positivity

Whether you’re the one struggling with mental health or trying to help someone you care about who does; the confusion, fear, and anxiety can feel overwhelming.

Mental illness is perplexing. Between trying to understand an enigmatic condition, evaluating treatment options, and contemplating the future of your loved one, it’s easy to experience a sense of hopelessness.

But there is hope.

While mental illness may or may not be treatable by lifestyle changes alone, such changes often mitigate a number of symptoms associated with the illness. In conjunction with a physician-supervised treatment plan, changing one’s life habits can quicken the recovery process.

At the very least, the afflicted person will feel much, much better.

14 Signs of Mental Health Disorders

Because of the past stigma of mental illness, many people may avoid a proper diagnosis. Also, some signs and symptoms may overlap with physical conditions. Here are fourteen primary signs of mental health disorders that you should notice.

1. Lingering Feelings of Sadness and Hopelessness

It’s only human to feel melancholy on occasion. If someone tells you that they are always happy, they aren’t being truthful. Even when things are on the upswing, your moods may be blue.

However, deep despair that lasts for two weeks or more can be a red flag for mental illness. It’s the hallmark of anxiety and depression disorders. These bleak feelings usually accompany chronic negative thoughts.

2. Extreme Fear and Anxiety

There are common fears like speaking in public or encountering creepy spiders. However, fears of mental health issues go beyond normal worries. You may spend most of your time fretting about things that aren’t likely to happen.

Do you feel anxious and tense and don’t know why? Maybe your usual fears have turned into debilitating phobias. Your anxious emotions hinder you from living in the present.

3. Confusion and Lack of Concentration

Mental disorders often interfere with your thought processes and memory. You’ve always had mental clarity and good problem-solving skills in the past. It’s concerning when you begin to have issues focusing and completing tasks.

You may have done a routine job countless times, but now you have moments of confusion. Your memory may slip, and you start to forget important things. These issues may point to a mental health problem.

4. Isolation from Family and Friends

Like most people, you need occasional solitude to rest your brain. According to an article published by Frontiers in Psychology, spending time alone may benefit your entire well-being. It’s your opportunity to reflect and understand yourself better.

There’s a difference between healthy solitude and isolation. It may be a warning sign when you start to isolate yourself from your circle of family and friends. Chronic isolation is a symptom of several mental disorders, including depression.

5. Extreme Mood Changes

Are you usually an even-tempered person from day today? While anyone can have a bad day, your moods are generally predictable. If you have mental issues, you may not have the usual stability.

You may be on Cloud Nine, and the next minute, you’re down in the dumps. It may become difficult for others to deal with your ever-changing moods. You may have problems coping with it yourself.

6. Chronic Exhaustion

When you’re having mental issues, it can affect your whole body. Your brain is so overworked that it drains every ounce of energy you have. It may be all you can do to get out of bed in the mornings.

7. Changes in Your Sleeping Habits

One would think that there would be no problems sleeping at night if you have chronic exhaustion. Instead, you may experience many nights staring at the ceiling and counting sheep. It’s a vicious cycle that creates more fatigue more insomnia.

Perhaps you’re at the opposite end of the spectrum and sleep too much, which is called hypersomnia. No matter how many hours of rest you get, you feel like you haven’t slept a wink. If you notice either of these changes in your normal sleep patterns, it could be a mental health issue.

8. Lack of Coping Ability

From childhood through adulthood, you’ve learned to create coping skills for stressors. Whether it’s a simple problem or you’ve experienced a loss, you can usually cope.

If you’re having an issue with your mental health, you may feel chronically stressed. Your ability to cope diminishes and your anxiety may be in high gear. In this mindset, you may feel like you’re losing control.

9. Changes in Eating Habits

Are you an emotional eater, or do you lose your appetite when you’re upset? For many people, food may be a comfort for easing anxiety. A mental issue can make the most attractive dishes look distasteful to others.

Take notice if your eating habits drastically change over a short period. You may be overeating as a coping tool, resulting in weight gain. Or you may lose your appetite and lose more weight than you should.

10. Substance Abuse and Addiction

Not all coping tools are beneficial. In fact, some of them can be severe health risks. If you’ve developed an addiction that you’ve not had in the past, it could be related to your mental health. Whether it’s alcohol, drugs, tobacco, gambling, or the Internet, an addiction negatively affects your life and relationships.

11. Detachment from Reality

Some mental illnesses can make people lose their sense of reality. If you experience delusions, you believe things that aren’t factual. For example, you could have delusions of grandeur and believe you have superhuman powers.

These issues can also make you have visual and auditory hallucinations. You start to see and hear things that that aren’t real. Such detachment can be a symptom of schizophrenia or major depressive disorder.

12. Excessive Anger and Aggression

A study published by the World Journal of Psychiatry defines aggression as a purposeful action to hurt a person, animal, or property. According to the survey, aggression and hostility are also symptoms of several psychological disorders. It’s even more concerning when aggression results in violence.

Not everyone who has aggression issues becomes violent. Maybe you’re more impatient than usual, and a minor thing can make your temper explode. You may be more susceptible to bursts of anger that include verbal abuse.

Do you notice that people walk on eggshells when they’re around you? Have you lost some close relationships because of your anger issues? Could there be some mental problems behind the aggression that haven’t been addressed?

13. Unexplained Physical Issues

Since your mental and physical health is intrinsically related, something that affects one will affect the other. It’s not unusual for mental issues to manifest as unexplained aches and pains you’ve not had in the past.

You could be experiencing headaches and digestive issues that can be nearly debilitating. Perhaps medical tests have ruled out any physical reasons for your pain. It could be a symptom of an underlying mental condition.

14. Suicidal Thoughts

One of the most dangerous symptoms of mental illness is contemplating suicide. It’s even more severe when it includes rumination on ways to end your life. Unfortunately, some people who battle mental conditions will attempt suicide, and some will succeed.

Nine Habits to Change Your Mental Health

So let’s go over some ways that we can improve mental health, naturally!

1. A stable home life

Living in any emotionally damaging environment; whether it’s abuse, constant arguing, financial difficulties, or something else, makes treating any mental illness much more challenging – if not impossible.

Abuse of any kind – emotional, mental or physical – is a common catalyst for the development of mental problems. Children, our most cherished yet vulnerable people, are particularly susceptible to the severe aftereffects of abuse. In the United States, a child abuse case is reported every ten seconds.

If you’re among the abused, it is important to find a means of escape. Furthermore, if you know of a child victim of abuse, do the right thing and get the authorities involved. Treatment is available for everyone.

2. Diet and nutrition

Diet and nutrition aren’t the first things that come to mind when many think about mental illness; however, diet and mental health are – at the very least indirectly linked.

Diet systematically affects mental health by first causing physical health to deteriorate. Processed foods, along with foods with little to no nutritional value all contribute to this systematic effect.

Foods rich in Omega-3 and Omega-6 (e.g. avocado and fish) can aid mental health and improve cognitive functions.

3. Exercise

Adequate levels of exercise not only help your physical health, but can also serve a preemptive role in warding off symptoms of mental illness. Some research has shown physical activity to be more effective than antidepressants in many patients.

Again, exercise needn’t be arduous or time-consuming. A brisk walk, bike ride, or stair-climbing are all viable alternatives to “traditional” exercise routines.

4. Sleeping well

Important as it is to get the recommended seven to nine hours of sleep per night; a regular sleep schedule may be as much, if not more of, a benefit to a healthy mental state. Maintaining a regular sleep schedule normalizes the body’s circadian rhythm (i.e. “sleep/wake” cycle).

Getting adequate sleep and sticking to a regular sleeping routine may lead to faster results when treating mental illness, as well.

5. Meditation or relaxation practice

More and more medical professionals are “on board” with the interconnection between meditation and relaxation techniques and mental health. Research from institutions such as Harvard and Stanford University have consistently established the mental and physical health benefits of meditative and relaxation practices.

One needn’t commit to any particular program, either. A focus on developing mindfulness for 20 to 30 minutes per day can induce significant health benefits. Popular practices are mindful deep breathing, meditating, or concentration-based mindfulness.

6. Smoking

We already know that smoking may cause severe physical damage, but it can also exacerbate any mental health problems. In fact, the introduction of various toxins into the body through smoking may manifest into mood disorders.

The body/mind connection, established above in the “Diet and Nutrition” section, works against the smoker here. Quitting or drastically reducing the intake of nicotine – in any form – may be one of the best things you can do for your mental health.

7. Physical health

Relating to the mind/body connection (which is gaining further acceptance in the medical community) is overall physical health and its impact on mental illness.

Common conditions such as an infection, chronic headaches, or hypertension adversely impact the ability to cope with stress. Of course, chronic stress can lead to several mental illnesses: anxiety, depression, and insomnia, among them.

Preventing or promptly treating any physical illness can both help with and avoid potential mental illnesses. Scheduling an annual or bi-annual physical exam can assist in this regard.

8. Community and social involvement

It’s been repeatedly said that “human beings are social creatures,” and related research has established this fact.

Friendship is one of the best antidotes to mental distress. Even a day or two away with a friend or loved one may be enough to improve our outlook for days; this notion also applies to any community involvement.

9. Relationships

When it comes to mental health and relationships, there are two popular opinions: (1) the individual should work on their mental health before committing to a relationship, or (2) a healthy intimate relationship can drastically improve a person’s mental state.

As it turns out, new research sides with the second viewpoint.

In a study at the University of Jena in Germany, individuals aged eighteen to thirty years were accompanied by researchers and individually interviewed every three months. Those that scored high on a questionnaire measuring neuroticism (a long-term tendency to experience multiple negative mind states) showed improvement.

“The positive experiences and emotions gained by having a partner change the personality – not directly but indirectly…the perception of presumably negative situations change,” says lead author Christine Finn.

Final Thoughts on Habits to Change Your Mental Health

When you incorporate these habits into your lifestyle, you can benefit your mental health. It’s just as important as caring for your body and spirit. Remember the only shame is living with a treatable condition and not getting the help you need.

5 Ways To Create Positive Energy In Your Home

April 1, 2017 by Power of Positivity

After a long day of work, we all just want to go home, relax, and spend time with our loved ones. Home should offer solace in a world of chaos and constant movement; it should truly feel like our sanctuary. The place we return to after dealing with the stresses of every day life should bring us comfort, peace, and relaxation, and nothing less than a positive vibe. We spend a lot of time in our homes, so we all deserve to feel great while being in them.

If you struggle to make your house feel like a home, and just feel like you can’t really unwind while being there, then read on for some tips on bringing positive energy into your living space.

Here are 5 ways to add positive feelings to your home:

1. Bring nature inside your home.

House plants will not only help you relax and feel more positive, but they provide other amazing health benefits as well. A multitude of studies have shown that they can fight pollution, ward off allergies and colds, and even help your concentration and cognitive function. Not to mention, plants add a nice touch of color to your living space, bringing it to life (literally).

It’s no secret that being in nature is better for our well-being than living in concrete jungles, but most of us have to choose the latter to survive. So, if we can’t bring ourselves to nature, then why not bring the nature to us?

2. Keep your space clutter-free.

We can’t have a positive home with piles of clutter around every corner, so as daunting as it might seem to clean it all, try to keep up household chores on a regular basis. Not only will this help you have more space inside your home, but it will help alleviate clutter inside your mind, too. After all, the state of our homes says a lot about the state of ourselves. If we feel frazzled and cluttered inside, it will likely reflect on the outside, too.

Try to devote at least one day a week for cleaning up, and get the kids and significant other involved, too! Some of us might not look forward to cleaning (and may not have picked up a broom in years), but you can always put on some fun music while you do the dirty work, or even set a small reward for yourself afterwards so it doesn’t feel like such a chore.

3. Unplug often to stay positive.

We live in a constantly plugged-in world, but many studies have proven how this can impact our mental, physical, and emotional health. Other studies have shown how using electronic devices before bed can affect our sleep as well, so make sure you take time every day and night to turn off the virtual world and connect with the real one around you.

Ironically, cell phones were invented so we could stay in touch more with those we love, but nowadays, many of us feel very out of touch with ourselves and others due to technology. Our homes should be a space where we can all come back from a busy, hectic day and spend time talking, laughing, playing, and loving each other, not droning out spending hours on our mobile devices.

If you have trouble disconnecting from the world on your screen (as most of us do), try to allot time each day after work to use your cell phone, tablet, or computer, and stick to the schedule. Your home will feel much more positive, and you’ll even feel more energized by taking a break from technology every once in a while.

4. Make your home smell good!

Candles, incense, and diffusers have become popular for a reason: everyone likes things that smell good! Think about it: do you feel happier walking past a dumpster or walking past a store in the mall selling fresh-baked cookies? I think we all can agree on that one, which proves that smells have quite an impact on our mood. Aromatherapy can provide relief from a variety of conditions, from anxiety to insomnia to joint pain, and everything in between. You can put candles, incense, or even tart burners throughout your home to fill it with pleasant aromas that will hopefully help you to relax as well.

5. Remember to say thanks for the positive in life.

Remaining grateful for everything we’ve been blessed with can help us to keep a positive mindset, which will make our homes feel more positive, too. If you have children, make sure to remind them to say “thank you” often, and to say their blessings every night before bed. In our world full of temptation, it can be quite easy to think we don’t have enough, but if you have a roof over your head, fresh food and water, some clothes on your back, and people who love you, you’re richer than most people in the world.

As a family, take turns saying what you’re thankful for each day, and what makes you happy. This will increase the whole family’s energy levels, and do wonders for everyone’s mindset as well. Staying thankful for the little things, even when life feels like a trainwreck, is perhaps one of the most powerful things you can do to stay positive in a seemingly negative world.

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What is a hypocrite?

Here are 7 behaviors, beliefs and tendencies of hypocrites that may reveal their true identity:

1. Attempting to punish someone for “pointing out” any wrongdoings

2. Aura of condescension and superiority

3. Rules don’t apply to them…

4. Excuses, lies, and more of the same

5. “Do as I say, not as I do.”

6. Always playing the victim

7. It’s not (and never is) their fault

Here are 5 important things to remember when in a relationship with a sociopath:

1. They are prone to emotional and irrational outbursts

2. They can’t be trusted with money or any other resources

3. The manipulative behavior will never stop

4. The words “boundaries” and “compromise” mean nothing to them

5. They do not love you how you love them

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We’ll discuss five ‘silent killers’ of a relationship – and actions that can be taken to counteract them:

1. Inattentiveness and invalidation

2. Animosity

3. Sexual repression

4. Tacit Disappointment

5. Lack of Trust

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14 Signs of Mental Health Disorders

1. Lingering Feelings of Sadness and Hopelessness

2. Extreme Fear and Anxiety

3. Confusion and Lack of Concentration

4. Isolation from Family and Friends

5. Extreme Mood Changes

6. Chronic Exhaustion

7. Changes in Your Sleeping Habits

8. Lack of Coping Ability

9. Changes in Eating Habits

10. Substance Abuse and Addiction

11. Detachment from Reality

12. Excessive Anger and Aggression

13. Unexplained Physical Issues

14. Suicidal Thoughts

Nine Habits to Change Your Mental Health

1. A stable home life

2. Diet and nutrition

3. Exercise

4. Sleeping well

5. Meditation or relaxation practice

6. Smoking

7. Physical health

8. Community and social involvement

9. Relationships

Final Thoughts on Habits to Change Your Mental Health

Here are 5 ways to add positive feelings to your home:

1. Bring nature inside your home.

2. Keep your space clutter-free.

3. Unplug often to stay positive.

4. Make your home smell good!

5. Remember to say thanks for the positive in life.

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