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9 Reasons People Fall In Love

October 10, 2016 by Sarah Barkley

Love is tough to understand and even harder to explain, leaving everyone with different ideas. People fall in love for many reasons, with each situation being different.

Researchers have heavily studied love and what it means scientifically and psychologically. They found biological aspects of the emotional response, but there are also scientific reasons why people fall in love.

People talking about falling in love describe it as intense, overwhelming, and fast. They also explain that it feels like fate, but that’s another concept that’s hard to explain. As time passes and a couple becomes more comfortable together, those initial feelings fade into something more comfortable.

Whether you’re looking for a relationship, are in a new partnership, or have been with your significant other for a while, you might want to know why people fall in love. Since the reasons vary, it’s essential to address many of them to help understand.

Nine Key Reasons Why People Fall in Love

1. Release Hormones

Many hormones are involved in falling in love for different reasons. When hormones increase, it causes feelings of infatuation or obsession. These feelings are why the beginning of a relationship is so intense and romantic.

When your body releases dopamine early in the relationship, it brings excitement and happiness. It makes you feel good as it stimulates the brain and triggers heightened senses.

Testosterone encourages a person to go after the person they want. It gives people the courage to approach someone they’re interested in. This hormone occurs early in the relationship, as well, and increases sexual desire.

Your brain also produces more serotonin when you’re around someone you’re interested in. It makes you feel good as it encourages a positive sense of well-being. This hormone makes people fall for someone because it leaves them wanting more.

Oxytocin is called the cuddle hormone, and its increase makes you feel close to the other person. It’ll encourage you to make long-term plans with a partner, too. Additionally, being near your crush triggers the release of phenylethylamine, giving you the feeling of butterflies in your tummy.

2. They Feel Lovable

People who don’t feel lovable won’t find romance as easily. Those that feel lovable seem to find love a little easier. When they feel this way, they’re better able to give love in return. Feeling lovable allows them to project that feeling to others, opening themselves to a romantic experience.

Not feeling lovable exudes a lack of confidence, potentially repelling love interests. Those who love themselves and feel lovable are more likely to find a healthy, loving relationship.

3. Scent

Your body releases pheromones that affect your behavior and how people feel about you. When people smell your pheromones, they feel closer to you. Pheromones are a person’s unique scent that lingers in sweat and bodily fluids.

Research indicates that the scent of someone’s pheromones can play a role in falling in love. It is one of the first subconscious factors in initial attraction to another person.

Some studies even show that women are attracted to the pheromones of a man with whom they can have healthy babies. Women prefer the scent of a man with disease-resistant genes, indicating that it’s human nature to mate for reproduction.

4. The Body’s Reward System

When your brain uses chemicals as a reward for stimulation, it can make you fall for someone. It produces happiness and satisfaction, encouraging positive feedback on the situation. Once you experience the reward a time or two, you’ll start receiving it while anticipating an encounter.

5. Their Upbringing

Your early life teaches you quite a bit about relationships, including what to expect from them and how to maintain them. It also shows you your role in relationships as you watch the adults in your life handle their partnerships.

People often fall for someone similar to their parents because it’s all they know. They know how to handle that type of relationship and situation, so they are drawn to it as an adult.

Another aspect of your upbringing that can contribute to your love life is your parent’s age when you were born. People respond best to someone close to that age range because they sense more of a bond. So, if you were born to older parents, you might fall for someone of the same age range.

6. Unusualness

People are more likely to fall in love in an unusual or unfamiliar environment. The unusualness arouses them and can spark a passion for another person they’re with. This reason is also valid for dangerous or scary situations.

7. Fulfilling Needs

Many people find love as a way to fill needs in their life. They might need companionship, love, sex, or other things. When they meet someone who can fulfill their needs, they could quickly fall for that person.

Some people need a relationship, and their options are more diverse, for good or bad. No matter the need, there’s a good chance of love when they find someone who can fulfill it.

8. Attentiveness

Attentiveness plays a role in falling in love because people need attention from their partners. The more you pay attention to someone, the more likely they will fall for you. Likewise, you’re more likely to fall in love with them when you keep your attention on that person.

When someone is attentive toward you, it has the same effect. Satisfying each other’s need for attentiveness will likely lead to deeper feelings between you.

Attentiveness shows that you’re interested in the other person, what they do, and the things they say. When people feel heard and seen, they’ll be more open to a deeper connection, and things will escalate naturally. They’ll know they can turn to you, giving them a sense of security.

9. Appearance and Attractiveness

Studies show that people are often attracted to those who are equally attractive. Desirable characteristics vary for everyone, but they play a role in each situation. Being attracted to someone releases hormones in the brain, making love feel like an addiction.

The people you’re attracted to can also result from your life experiences, which is why your taste differs from others. The faces you were exposed to as a child and the relationships you had to play a role in who you love as an adult. When you have a positive relationship with someone, you’ll subconsciously be attracted to some of their facial characteristics.

People are drawn to and develop deeper feelings for those similar to other people in their lives. This is also why people judge faces that are different from everyone else.

10. Non-Physical Similarity

Sometimes people fall in love because of things they have in common, including beliefs, personality traits, and ways of thinking. Couples that love each other tend to have more in common, although they will have a few differences.

Having similar life views is essential because it shows a possible future together. If you didn’t have the same outlooks on life, you likely wouldn’t fall in love. Lasting relationships rely on similar perspectives on life, and you’ll subconsciously look for someone similar.

11. Familiarity

While people sometimes fall because of unusual environments, they still strive for familiarity. When people fall for each other, it’s often because they’re familiar. They might have become familiar by spending time together or living close to one another.

However, with online dating becoming more common, there are other ways to develop familiarity. People can now become familiar with one another by simply thinking about the other person. The more often they communicate, the more likely they find love.

12. Societal Influences

Some people believe that no one would find love without societal influences. They would still develop close bonds with others, but things like love stories increase the expectation. It makes people look for passion, companionship, and commitment in another person.

Additionally, people often find romance because the people around them encourage it. They deal with friends and family telling them to go after or become serious with someone. Putting this idea in their mind can work, making people fall for one another.

Final Thoughts on Reasons People Fall in Love

Falling in love is a crazy experience and different for everyone. It’s hard to pinpoint why someone falls for another person, but these reasons here are common. Whether your hormones make you fall in love or it’s something else, the experience is exciting and joyful.

The initial feelings of love change, but it doesn’t change the reason for the deep connection in the first place. While these reasons aren’t accurate for everyone, you’re likely to relate to a few of them.

If you’re looking for a partner, remember these reasons and stay open to love in relatable situations. However, if you’re already in a relationship, see if you can pinpoint why you and your partner fell for one another. There’s still a long way to fully understanding love, so don’t stop here.

7 Ways to Put Your Metabolism into Fat-Burning Mode

October 10, 2016 by Power of Positivity

According to WebMD, metabolism is “the process by which your body converts what you eat and drink into energy.” You consume a food or drink, metabolic processes mix the calories derived from the food/beverage with oxygen, and the byproduct is deliverable energy to your body’s cells. That burst of energy can help kick your fat-burning mode.

One’s basal metabolic rate – or the number of calories needed to sustain energy functions – accounts for approximately 70 percent of all the calories we burn every day. 70 percent! Therefore, it is important to ensure that our metabolism is in working order.

We’ll see that nutrition and metabolism are inextricably linked; often feeding off one another, and playing key roles in our overall health. Today, we’re going to discuss metabolism a bit further. More specifically, things that we can do to transform our metabolism into a fat-burning machine.

Let’s get started!

Here are 7 ways to get your metabolism firing:

“The excitement of vitamins, nutrition and metabolism permeated the environment.” – Paul D. Boyer

Many of us may not share the exuberant enthusiasm that Mr. Boyer does about health and metabolism. Or maybe you do! Regardless, both are essential to a healthy and happy life.

Get more shut-eye to kick up your metabolism

The amount and quality of our sleep has a big effect on metabolism. People who are deprived of sleep unknowingly alter their appetite/hunger hormones, increasing the likelihood of either overeating or eating unhealthy foods.

In a study undertaken by Stanford University and the University of Wisconsin, adults who slept for five hours or less per night tested for higher amounts of ghrelin – a hormone that stimulates feelings of hunger. Additionally, these individuals tested for lower levels of the appetite-suppressing hormone leptin.

Sleep professionals recommend adults get a minimum of 7-8 hours of sleep every night. Younger demographics (i.e. young adults, teenagers, school-age children, preschoolers, toddlers, infants and newborns) require anywhere from 8 to 17 hours per night, according to the National Sleep Foundation.

Get moving

Physical activity plays a direct role in how well your metabolism functions. This is mind, you should make it a priority to get daily exercise.

We’ve said this many times, but it bears repeating: exercise need not be a chore. There are plenty of things one can do to get the recommended amount of physical activity: aerobics, jogging, running, swimming, tennis, walking…the list goes on. All of these activities get your heart rate and metabolism going.

Also, it is completely fine to break exercise up into two (or more!) sessions. Ideally, you should aim for 60 minutes of physical activity every day, but any amount of exercise is better than zero.

Wake earlier for a healthier metabolism

You know that you’re waking up too late when there’s just enough time to perform all the essentials before heading out the door. Here’s a big question: are you making time for breakfast?

It may sound redundant, but breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and this includes for your metabolism. Even a quick, nutritious breakfast is okay. Grab some oatmeal or a cereal bar if you have to.

Of course, get some exercise if possible!

Eat, eat, eat!

We really should get away from the “three square’s a day” line of thinking. The reason? Because its healthier for your overall health, including for your metabolism, to eat 5-6 small meals.

Eating healthy foods five or more times per day boosts metabolism by providing a steady influx of energy. Compare this method to three large meals, where we often feel stagnant and fatigued afterwards.

Of course, eat mainly healthy and nutritious foods (e.g. fruit, nuts, vegetables, etc.) when following this eating schedule.

A bonus: eating more often throughout the day boosts your brainpower, too!

Drink more water

Water really is a magic elixir; it contains no calories, yet it is invaluable to health.

The effects of dehydration are potentially detrimental to our health goals, including the goal of healthy eating. Physiologically, our brains have a way of interpreting thirst for hunger, and we’re more likely to crave unhealthy foods.

Here’s an idea. The next time that you are experiencing untimely hunger pangs, drink an 8- to 12-ounce glass of water and wait 20-30 minutes. If you’re still hungry, by all means eat something, but try and make it something healthy.

Reach for some calcium

Research shows that calcium can boost that all-important basal metabolic rate we discussed earlier. Of course, this can manifest into weight loss as well.

One researcher, Hang Shi at the University of Tennessee, says of the findings: “High-fat dietary calcium can establish obesity, but it’s surprising that low-fat calcium may help reduce body fat. The effect is very significant, much more than we imagined it would be.”

Eat some spicy food to fuel your metabolism

For those of us who love a spicy dish, this is some welcome news. Spicy foods and ingredients may boost your metabolism.

It works like this: when we eat spicy foods, our internal body temperature rises. When our body temperature rises, heat is released. Consequently, our metabolic rate rises and burns stored fat as energy.

Also, spicy food has been known to increase feeling of satiety, or fullness.

5 Secrets to A Lasting Relationship

October 10, 2016 by Power of Positivity

It is a cliche to say that relationships are hard and need to be worked on daily. It doesn’t mean that the sentiment is untrue, but a fundamental law of our nature. Individual people are as unique as anything can be in the vast and diverse Universe. For two individual people with their own goals and priorities to hitch their destinies together and pull in the same direction for decades is no small feat of endurance.

It requires a few things in abundance to complete that journey to its inevitable end. Much of our society views relationships as either disposable or possessing an expiration date. Couples who stay together to the end view their relationships as forever and irreplaceable. But, how do you build a relationship that lasts forever?

Here are five ‘secrets’ to a great and lasting relationship:

1. Trust Is Key to a Forever Relationship

If you have ever watched a child build an elaborate building out of wooden blocks or some contraption out of Legos, only to smash it apart in a second of gleeful destruction, then you understand the fundamentals of trust. It takes a long time to build and an instant to destroy. You and your partner have to trust each other. With your secrets, with your money, with your heart and with your very life. You build trust one brick at a time and you refuse to give in to that base desire to destroy it completely. You earn trust every day like interest on an investment. The longer you let it build, the more it is worth in the end.

2. Openness And Acceptance

It is easy to withdraw into the fortress of your heart and protect yourself. But, it is cold and lonely in that castle surrounded by high walls and a deep moat, yet you feel protected and safe. High walls and safety could also describe a prison, and that is what that fortress is. Freedom comes with risk. When you open your deepest feelings and hurts to your partner, you open yourself to risk, but also to liberation and acceptance. We are not perfect and we have all done things we are not proud of. Acknowledging our partners’ faults and accepting them for who they are without attempting to change them to fit our definition of perfection is to let ourselves be accepted in return. We grow to know each other and our imperfections and accept them and ourselves for who we are and what we are together.

3. Unconditional Affection

Once we have established trust, opened our hearts to our partners and accepted them and ourselves for who we are, then we can love them without conditions. We love them even when they fail. We love them even when we are angry with them and when they don’t deserve it. It is easy to love someone who is perfect. Loving imperfect people is all we have. Love is like water, eternal and nourishing. Water will wear down the mountain eventually. Love will seep into the cracks and break that hard shell apart. Some people walk a desert, stumbling around looking for an oasis to get a drink of water. Be that oasis for your partner. Be that cool drink on a hot and dry day.

4. Sacrifice Occurs in a Healthy Relationship

Sacrifice is the ultimate expression of love. You give up your deep personal desires in order to satisfy someone else. In great relationship,s the two people in that relationship sacrifice for one another in order to bring happiness, fulfillment and security to each other. It may be small daily sacrifices, like doing chores when you really want to lay down and read that new book. It might be passing on that promotion or new job so your kids can finish out the school year with their friends. Perhaps it might be going to your in-laws for the holidays when you would rather be anywhere else. When you love someone without conditions, you give up some of your personal desires in order to build or maintain your relationship. Yes, sometimes we need to be a little selfish so we can recharge or heal, but when you are both feeding each other, than nobody starves.

5. Till Death Do Us Part

The biggest secret is that both of you are in it to the end, come hell or high water. There is no quitting on each other. If your partner is having a hard time moving forward, then you carry them until they can. You do not leave people behind. Some people, though, see relationships as too hard or requiring to much sacrifice, or they think the grass is always greener on the other side. It is just being selfish. People are going to change over time and things will be tough. But, if we are open in our desires and wants, if we are honest and trust our partner, if we love them no matter what and are willing to sacrifice our desires to bring them happiness, then we can overcome any hardship life throws at us.

Our partners are going to piss us off or hurt our feelings on occasion. Any two people who know each other for a long time are going to disagree or say something hurtful. What makes a great relationship is seeing past the small hurts and annoyances towards the longer journey. Being there to pick someone up when they fall means that they will likely be there when we eventually stumble and face-plant into the road. Some days you carry your partner and other days they carry you. The key is being committed to the whole journey and not just the fun parts.

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10 Habits That Keep Your Relationship Strong

October 8, 2016 by Power of Positivity

No one’s relationship is 100% perfect, just like no single individual is 100% perfect.

There is always room for improvement. People often don’t realize just how much they neglected their relationship or how little they prioritized it until they lose it. After the breakup mourning period, people tend to get themselves together and put in the effort to make themselves as appealing as possible.

But, when we get into a relationship, we tend to slack off and settle into a routine. We take our partner for granted and accept as a given that they will always be there.

So, how can we step up and secure our relationship into the break-up/divorce proof box?

Here are 10 ways to step up and protect your relationship:

1. Be Thoughtful

Be kind and considerate of the other person’s needs, desires and feelings. Be thoughtful in remembering things like anniversaries and birthdays. Be aware of your partner’s mood and whether or not they had a bad day. Then, do something to cheer them up or take their mind off of stressful things.

2. Be A Cheerleader

Rather than criticize and tear down your partner, build them up and encourage them to take risks. Be their number one cheerleader. No one likes to have an idea shot down or be told they can’t do something. Tell them they can accomplish their goals and encourage them to pursue their goals in the first place.

3. Get A Sense Of Humor

Stop taking yourself so seriously. If you do or say something stupid, then instead of getting upset and embarrassed, laugh it off and make a joke about it. If you or your partner are having a bad day, then go do something fun and goofy. Make each other laugh. Laughter is, after all, the best medicine.

4. Take Care Of Your Body

If you were single, you would want to look and feel your best. So, why is it people feel they can slack off when they land a mate? If you want to keep your partner interested and feel good about yourself, then hit the gym, go walk around the park or get involved in a sport. Eating good food, exercising and get a getting a good night’s sleep can do wonders for your attitude and your relationship.

5. Do Something Spontaneous

We all have routines, and routine can be the death of fun. Break out of your rut from time to time and do something different. Shake things up. Put that excitement back in your life of occasionally not knowing what you will be doing from night to night.

6. Listen To Your Partner

Pay attention to your partner when they are speaking. Get off of Facebook, quit texting your buddy, pause the show you were watching and listen when your partner speaks. No one wants to feel ignored. If you zone out or check out while they are speaking to you, then they are going to get hurt and eventually they are going to stop trying to speak to you at all.

Unplug from the internet and plug into your partner form time to time.

7. Make Your Partner A Priority

If you neglect your relationship, it is going to decay, and before you know it, it will be gone. Make your relationship a priority. Your partner has dibs on your time, so if your partner wants to spend time with you and you want to go do something else, then your partner should win out.

We all need our alone time or time with friends, but if you are prioritizing time alone or with someone besides your partner, then they will start looking for someone who will set them as a priority.

8. Embrace Flexibility

Don’t get attached to a routine or schedule. Be ready to do something spontaneous or change your plans. Improvise, adapt and overcome. Being flexible reduces stress as you are ready to change directions at a moment’s notice. Less stress for you means less stress for your relationship.

9. Take Responsibility

Take responsibility, not only for your actions, but also for your own baggage. We all have it and we all drag it around with us. Take action to address it with your partner and hopefully they will address and take responsibility for their own. Once that is out of the way, then take responsibility for the health of your relationship.

If it fails, it is at least half your fault. If it is to succeed, then it is also half of your responsibility to get it there.

10. Put The Work In

You know what you have to do, but that isn’t enough. You have to put in the work in order to make your relationship better. You have to get up off your butt and make it happen. Life doesn’t happen to you. You are responsible for making things happen in your life. If you don’t put in the work, then you won’t get the rewarding life you want.

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10 Things To Tell Your Partner When Your Relationship Is Difficult

October 8, 2016 by Chris Butler

If things are tough on the home right now (and have been for some time), do you press the eject button or do you press on in your relationship?

Before throwing your partner’s things in a bin liner and calling a divorce lawyer, let us take a trip to the beautiful islands of Hawaii. Whether you are in Wooloongabba, Wyoming, or Warwickshire, envision the warmth of the sand on Waikiki Beach between your toes.

Feel the refreshing Trade Winds gently blowing. Let your imagination comfort you for a moment and let us be one with the indigenous Hawaiian people, because part of our journey today involves teachings from Ho’oponopono. As we go through the following list, the parts of Ho’oponopono will become apparent and will be explained about how to remedy the difficulty in relationships.

10 Things To Tell Your Partner When Your Relationship Is Difficult

1. “What do you need from me right now?”

Here is the typical scenario in Wyoming, Woolloongabba, or Warwickshire: A disagreement or argument brewing. The wife wants to fight. The husband wants to withdraw. She gives chase, hoping for a reaction, and he usually tries to stay silent. Naturally, these roles can be reversed.

Asking your partner the above question subtly tells them that you want to connect, not withdraw or avoid. This will, in turn, calm them down, which gives way to civilized discussion and possible problem-solving.

2. “How can I help to relieve some of your burden today?”

The response could be as simple as a “please listen to me” after a long, hard day or as intimate as giving a nice back rub. This allows your partner to let off steam in whichever way they choose. This shows you are as cool as a cucumber under pressure and not going wild!

Asking your partner the above question tells them that you care for them despite what has gone on between you. You are in a relationship, and both of you have the right to benefits of this relatinoship.

3. “I’m sorry.”

Be specific as to why and how.

Grab your sunscreen and your beach towel, folks. It is time to make our first stop in Hawaii. This is Ho’oponopono Rule #1. Being sorry, or minamina in Hawaiian. You know that you have done wrong and want to right that wrong, which breathes life into the lungs of a relationship, much like the aforementioned Trade Winds in the Hawaiian archipelago. Being specific about why you are sorry is important because it disarms anger more powerfully.

Next, talking about improving whatever foible had been involved can start to melt the Ice King/Queen. Example: “I apologise for not taking out the trash last night, Babe. I understand that the kitchen stinks because of my forgetful actions and I will be more aware next time.”

4. “Thank you.”

Be specific as to why.

Staying in Hawaii for this one. This is Ho’oponopono Rule #3. Being grateful is such an appealing trait and, as such, makes you a more attractive person. It works in Wyoming, Warwickshire, Wooloongabba, or Waikiki Beach. It makes your significant other want to do more things with you and for you because you let them know that you appreciate them. Especially so if you are thanking them for mundane tasks; people do not generally expect thanks for those. This following example is like having your feet caressed by the warm Pacific Ocean waters on a Hawaiian beach. Mahalo!

Example: “Thank you so much for taking out the trash last night, Honey. I really appreciate it when you take the time to do it, even though you had that important phone conference.”

5. “I’m proud of you.”

Give specifics.

Feeling valued by your loved ones will boost an ego, making the smallest of us feel like the tallest. Knowing that your good work is appreciated at home is deeply rewarding. Your source of pride does not have to be big news, like a promotion at work. You can express your pride in them coaching a grassroots sports team, or showing that you noticed when your partner was brave in fear.

Example: “I am so proud of you for sticking up for that elderly lady. Many people would have avoided it, but not my sweetheart. You are my hero.”

6. “Our kids are lucky to have a mom/dad like you.”

Being told that you are a great role model for Trixie and Trevor is the stand-out compliment one parent can give to another, knowing how hard a task parenting is. If it comes from their other half, expect them to do somersaults in the living room. This complement will surely bring a spring to their step!

Example: Thanks for taking the time to help Trixie or Trevor with that homework assignment. They definitely wouldn’t have gotten it done in time without your input. Our kids are lucky to have you”

7. “Please forgive me.”

Tell them why you are asking for forgiveness.

Asking for forgiveness and giving it is one of the hardest aspects of a couple’s relationship. To take the edge off, we are back in Hawaii with Ho’oponopono Rule #2. This is the continuation of Number 3, mending the damage already done, but Operation Kala is well underway. It is like climbing the Diamond Head volcano on O’ahu; it is an arduous, sometimes scary journey, but the view from the top is spectacular.

Example: “Please forgive me for eyeing that Hawaiian lady in the grass skirt. I was insensitive and made you uncomfortable.”

8. “I love you.”

This can never be said too much, but tell them exactly what you love about them.

Unfortunately, this is our last visit to the Hawaiian archipelago with Ho’oponopono Rule #4. This is the sunset on a beautiful day of learning and discovery. To say “I love you” (or in Hawaiian, “Aloha no au ia ‘oe”) is sacred within a family. Saying it often adds up in the brownie points chart. Do not forget to be specific about why you love your darling.

Example: “I love you because you are such a gentleman with my sister.”

Time to board the plane in Honolulu and get back to reality, unless Hawaii is your reality in which you are one lucky son/daughter of a gun!

9. “I’m going to make more of an effort to …”

This is important because your beau/belle deserves a partner who is always changing and growing as a person. They will, in turn, become a better partner. How much of a difference would it make to your relationship if you say you will change for the better and then back those words up with action?

Example: “I will make more of an effort with the kids’ homework. I know I should have practiced Trixie’s twelve times tables with her yesterday. I will come home early today and help her with spelling.”

10. “Thank you for being someone I can respect.”

What are the odds on a relationship staying alive with someone you do not respect and admire? “Without respect, there is no love,” says the old adage. Knowing that you are respected at home breeds self-esteem, which can be transmitted into other areas of your life. A respected person is a happy person, after all.

Aloha!

5 Ways Successful People Learn Differently

October 8, 2016 by Power of Positivity

We all want to be successful in what we do. But what makes successful people different from the masses? What do they do differently than the rest of us? The biggest thing is that they practice and train constantly in their chosen field. They also practice and train in a very mindful and purposeful way. They analyze their performance soon after and find places in that performance where they can improve. Many use the training cycle to improve. After you perform, you analyze that performance and look for mistakes or things you could have done better or more efficiently, then you go back and you train with a purpose in order to rectify those mistakes. While that basic training cycle is the foundation for success, successful people go even further.

Here are five ways successful people learn and train differently than the rest of us:

1. They Extend

At a certain point, the amount of effort to improve the things you are already great at exponentially increases. You see diminishing returns. The key is to practice the things you are bad at. Take your worst techniques and train to make them better. Take something you cannot do and train to do it. Successful people extend their reach beyond the point they currently can. They try to accomplish things they have never done before. They constantly push themselves into unknown territory, and they do it slowly and incrementally until they have pushed their boundaries past what they could do previously.

2. They Train Step By Step

The key to training is to train in small but attainable steps. Once you have analyzed your mistakes, look at them and try to break the task down into the smallest possible chunk. Focus intensely on these small chunks and then try to bring these chunks together until you can perform the task better than before. Push your abilities incrementally. The goal is to slowly increase your skill until you can do the task faster, more efficiently and more accurately. Any progress is progress, no matter how small.

3. They Train With Purpose

When you train, focus your attention and training only on the small aspect you wish to improve. You may want to be faster and more accurate in your task, but it is hard to train for both speed and accuracy at the same time. First, train for accuracy until you are as accurate as you want to be. Once you have achieved that, then start increasing the speed of the task while trying to maintain your established level of accuracy. Train one thing you want to improve, and only that one thing until you can achieve it with consistency.

4. They Analyze Performance Immediately

Immediately after you perform your task, whether it is giving a speech or installing a new radiator, write down in a notebook all of the things you could have done better or more efficiently. When you train that skill or attempt that task in the future, then look at your notes and try to eliminate those deficiencies. If you wait a day or more, then you will forget the little things that will be fresh in your mind immediately after you perform that task. A good idea is to keep a notebook where you not only log your mistakes while performing the task, but also log your improvements when you do that task again. Every time you perform that task, you will identify things you can do better next time.

Successful people are ones who actively look at the bright side, work to make things better, and believe in the power of unconventional thinking.

An important note to make is that analyzing your mistakes is important to improvement and to success, but do not become obsessed with them. Do not let your mistakes beat you down into negativity. Mistakes can be fixed and failure is not fatal. It is easy to let mistakes or failures drag you down. Don’t let them. They can be improved with practice, and you will improve if you train with purpose and aim for small achievable goals.

5. They Change Up Their Practice Sessions

While still focusing on the task you want to improve, sometimes it helps to change up the way you practice that task. Try performing the task as slowly as you can so you can analyze each individual motion or segment of the task in detail. Try performing the task as swiftly as you can while just trying to achieve raw speed. Discard speed and practice maximum accuracy. Try to accomplish the task perfectly with no mistakes. Try to accomplish the task without making any mistakes without any regard to speed. Use video or audio feedback as a means to improve your performance of the task. You will see things in a video of yourself that you didn’t even realize you were doing. You may feel like you are doing it correctly, but then watch yourself on video and you will immediately notice mistakes that you can then train to eliminate.

Keep practicing. Change it up occasionally. Think about how you can do the task better. Break it down into smaller tasks if possible. Push yourself beyond what you think you can do, but the biggest thing is to keep trying. Training is winning and losing is learning.

Get more shut-eye to kick up your metabolism

Get moving

Wake earlier for a healthier metabolism

Eat, eat, eat!

Drink more water

Reach for some calcium

Eat some spicy food to fuel your metabolism

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Nine Key Reasons Why People Fall in Love

1. Release Hormones

2. They Feel Lovable

3. Scent

4. The Body’s Reward System

5. Their Upbringing

6. Unusualness

7. Fulfilling Needs

8. Attentiveness

9. Appearance and Attractiveness

10. Non-Physical Similarity

11. Familiarity

12. Societal Influences

Final Thoughts on Reasons People Fall in Love

Here are 7 ways to get your metabolism firing:

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Get moving

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Here are five ‘secrets’ to a great and lasting relationship:

1. Trust Is Key to a Forever Relationship

2. Openness And Acceptance

3. Unconditional Affection

4. Sacrifice Occurs in a Healthy Relationship

5. Till Death Do Us Part

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Here are 10 ways to step up and protect your relationship:

1. Be Thoughtful

2. Be A Cheerleader

3. Get A Sense Of Humor

4. Take Care Of Your Body

5. Do Something Spontaneous

6. Listen To Your Partner

7. Make Your Partner A Priority

8. Embrace Flexibility

9. Take Responsibility

10. Put The Work In

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10 Things To Tell Your Partner When Your Relationship Is Difficult

1. “What do you need from me right now?”

2. “How can I help to relieve some of your burden today?”

3. “I’m sorry.”

4. “Thank you.”

5. “I’m proud of you.”

6. “Our kids are lucky to have a mom/dad like you.”

7. “Please forgive me.”

8. “I love you.”

9. “I’m going to make more of an effort to …”

10. “Thank you for being someone I can respect.”

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Here are five ways successful people learn and train differently than the rest of us:

1. They Extend

2. They Train Step By Step

3. They Train With Purpose

4. They Analyze Performance Immediately

5. They Change Up Their Practice Sessions

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