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15 Habits of Irresistible People

You know that person who seems to have a flair of good luck? The one who, even though isn’t drop-dead gorgeous, is always able to get whatever she wants? There is more to the outer beauty of these people. They light up a room when they walk into it. This type of person is able to accomplish much in life because of attitude, charisma, or something as simple as kindness. Their smile exudes confidence, compassion and joy. You may wonder what separates them from others.

Dr. Travis Bradberry, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, has researched and studied the emotional connection of people. He has recognized that there are basic characteristics that make some people more friendly and charismatic to others.

“When influential people speak, conversations spread like ripples in a pond. And those ripples are multidirectional; influencers inspire everyone around them to explore new ideas and think differently about their work.” Likeable people are conscious of how they treat others. They believe that “Few things kill likeability as quickly as arrogance.” Irresistible people don’t act as if they are better than you. They actually believe that you have the ability to succeed, and create the life that you want. But, what’s the secret to truly being this type of person?

Here are 15 things irresistible people do differently:

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1. They treat everyone with dignity and respect.

Irresistible people don’t put others down. What makes them so likable is the ability to treat a homeless person in the same manner that he would treat the CEO to a huge company. To this person, there is no class or status that separates anyone. We are all part of the human race.

2. They don’t gossip.

The charismatic person has no need to utilize gossip as their motive to partake in a conversation. They are always bringing in the best of themselves, and allowing others to shine. This is what makes them so generous in uplifting others. Gossip is a negative trait, and they have little tolerance for it.

3. They treat others as they expect to be treated.

Dr. Bradberry believes that these type of folks follow a healthy life rule that says you should treat others the way you wish to be treated. “But that rule is flawed because it assumes that everyone wants to be treated the same way. In reality, people have different desires and goals.”

The irresistible person understands this and follows not the golden rule, but the platinum one: treat others the way THEY want to be treated.

4. They have healthy boundaries.

Irresistible people don’t try to please everyone all the time. They know that there is a time and place for everything. They don’t give more of themselves. Moreover, they have healthy ways of assisting and giving to others. But, they never run themselves ragged. These people take care of themselves. And, in that ability to sustain boundaries, they show a beautiful example of self-love to others.

5. They are genuine.

These type of people do not pretend to be someone they are not. What you see is what you get. They exude self-confidence. The irresistible person doesn’t have to have super-model looks, but she or he will walk into a room with such confidence that they shine. They know their worth, and never allow others to dictate how they should see themselves.

6. They have integrity.

Albert Einstein said, “Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.” The person with integrity stands in their authenticity. They know what matters and this is passed on to others. They make you question your honesty, principles, and goodness. Integrity is one of the best characteristics that they teach others.

7. They smile at everyone.

The most powerful and attractive quality that an irresistible person has is their ability to always smile, in spite of whatever is going on in their lives. They bring forth laughter with their energy. These likeable people know that a smile is sexier than any outfit, stronger than any pill, and has the ability to break down negativity.

8. They are compassionate.

The irresistible person is empathetic to others. They show compassion to animals, nature, and people. They know that one minute you might be on top of the world, and in an instant, you can find yourself struggling. Being compassionate is not just about showing kindness to those you like. But so does leaving the zone of comfort and stepping into places after the heart breaks into pieces. They take chances in loving others and they know it’s worth it. They help everyone and wear their hearts on their sleeves.

9. They love life.

Successful and charming individuals love life. They are not exempt from heartache, misfortunes, or challenges, but they know that life is priceless and it’s the only thing that is real. This life is for taking chances, loving, and helping others. They cherish every moment, and when they meet someone new, they make that person feel as if they are the most incredible thing in their day.

10. They bring people together.

These people are huge human connectors. They bring like-minded people together. They want to help others succeed. If you are among these types of enchanting individuals, you will notice that they immediately display a sense of connection. They may become your own fairy godmother, helping you reach the next level. They will immediately draw you a map to get to someone who can help you on your journey.

11. They truly love people.

This is a given. These happy people love people. The irresistible person is the one who coined the term “people person.” They love to be around others. They get inspired by energy and stories. The likeable individual has an ability to attract those who are ready to fly and conquer their own dreams.

12. They know you must work hard to get ahead.

The irresistible person may always wear a smile, but they know that nothing comes without hard work and some struggling. They work hard and succeed with an undeniable thirst for accomplishing their desires. They succeed because they don’t give up. And, when you are among this type of person, you also feel that ability to overcome anything ahead.

13. They listen.

Dr. Bradberry says, “People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows not only that you are listening but that you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking good questions.”

The irresistible person has this innate ability to stare into your spirit and truly make you feel as if you are understood, acknowledged and loved.

14. They have positive attitudes.

In spite of all the challenges in life, these folks continue to have positive attitudes. They don’t feed into negativity or entertain the woe-is-me attitude from anyone. They avoid confrontations and always search for an optimistic answer to the heavy questions in life.

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15. They always say “please” and “thank you.”

The ability to show gratitude is a magic wand for the irresistible person. They know that compliments go a long way in the journey of life, but what truly makes others like you are the simple manners: saying “please” and “thank you.” These magic words are never misused, and they know exactly how powerful they are in making others feel understood, acknowledged, and accepted.

Irresistible people are those individuals who have been through emotional roller coasters and major transitional obstacles, and have learned that they aren’t alone in this world. You might just be one of these amazing people. You might be so humble that you don’t recognize how you are changing the world around you. These people know that we have a connection to each other. They make you feel as if you matter. And, that is one of the most profound effects they leave as their legacy: they truly see you, feel you, and care about you.

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6 Behaviors That End Relationships

We are in a new era of relationships. Technology makes it easy for us to be in a constant state of communication. But, even though times have advanced, relationships are still old-school. It’s difficult to know what is acceptable and what is not. The golden rule is to follow your gut. You know when something is not right, when something just doesn’t sit well, and when you feel that you might be taken for a ride on an emotional roller coaster. True relationships, the ones that last, don’t play games. They are comfortable. If you are feeling like something is “off,” perhaps you need to address it and be honest with you and your partner.

Here are 6 behaviors that show it’s time to end a relationship:

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1. Broken promises.

When we start new relationships, we give the best of ourselves. Favors are done automatically. We go above and beyond what is expected. In loving another, we make promises to always be available for each other. We make vows of respect, commitment, compromises, and integrity. But, what happens when those foundation blocks that once held us up, start to fall apart? What happens when we get comfortable with each other and we no longer work as hard to keep the relationship afloat? These are the broken promises we take for granted.

It’s not just in marriages. It happens in a new relationship. We begin to feel as if we give more than what we receive. Relationships aren’t about keeping a tally of what is given and what is received. However, when that person starts to act differently, no longer doing the same things as before, things need to be addressed. It’s not just about breaking promises of love and fidelity. It’s about being available through the good and bad times.

2. Communication withers.

In the beginning, you blew up each others’ phone with text messages. You would be on social media declaring your love to each other, but as time passes, those messages started disappearing. You are lucky to get one text during the day. And, it’s not because you are too busy, because let’s face it, when you are attracted to someone, you make time for them. As per WebMD “All relationship problems stem from poor communication, according to Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families. ‘You can’t communicate while you’re checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section,’ she says.”

Communication requires work. It’s the willingness to make time to feel the awareness of each other.

3. Intimacy is non-existent.

What happened to the sex? The stress of finances, jobs, and family can hit the libido in a big way. However, intimacy doesn’t fade completely when two people are attracted to each other. It might decrease, but not become non-existent. In 1979, American psychologist Dorothy Tennov came up with a new word, limerence. It is defined as the period in relationships known as the falling in love and the lust stage. This is driven by the neurotransmitter phenylethylamine (PEA), combined with dopamine and norepinephrine.

These hormones are responsible for the positive and desirable feelings we get when we are attracted to someone. They are the chemicals that create euphoria and increased energy and dictate our sexual desires. Limerence feels amazing but, as per this psychologist and her research, unfortunately it has a shelf life lasting from about six months to three years. And, after that, it’s a slow decline. So, when the expiration life of sex is over, it’s time to figure out how to bring it back. Intimacy may decrease, but it should not be allowed to disappear completely. It’s up to you to decide if it’s worth saving. Is there more to the lack of sex than just being tired?

4. Neither of you are the same people as before.

We evolve as humans. We grow in all aspects of our lives, especially in relationships. You might have been one way when you began your relationship due to having been hurt in the past, or just life changes. The relationship might have begun as a rebound one, or you happened to meet when you first moved to a new place. You might have met at work. As time would have it, you have grown in different directions.

You might have been in college when you met and, now graduating; you don’t know what may happen. Experiences push us to find those partners that compliment our journey at one specific moment. When things change, we change, so the relationship starts to suffer. You’ve outgrown one another. And, the best thing to do is be fair with each other by acting mature enough to call it quits.

5. Hearing is one thing, but listening has disappeared.

Remember when you began your relationship and the two of you could talk for hours? You shared your stories and your dreams, and you believed no one could ever take away that amazing feeling of being heard. Now, you’ve hit a plateau that, to be heard, you have to fight for it. If you must get into an argument to state a point, or be understood, you must look hard at your relationship status. If talking has become a matter of setting up a scheduled time, perhaps you realize it isn’t that important to be in that type of commitment. We have to make appointments for medical issues, car problems, and other matters, but to be acknowledged in a relationship shouldn’t be one of them. How much time and energy do you need to put into being heard?

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6. You both make time for other things.

If you spend more time away from your relationship, or your significant other has more time for others than you, recognize there is a problem. If you can’t remember why you ever wanted to be with him or her, perhaps it’s time to step back and be honest. You might be wasting each others’ time by pretending to be in a relationship. Healthy relationships are free to come and go, spend time with friends, have separate hobbies, etc. But, if you constantly make excuses to be away from each other, it’s time to end that relationship. Your mate should be one of the most important people in your life. No compromising there!

Ending a relationship isn’t always a catastrophic event. Sometimes, it’s about allowing the right time and person to come into your story.

“Ends are not bad things, they just mean that something else is about to begin. And there are many things that don’t really end, anyway, they just begin again in a new way. Ends are not bad and many ends aren’t really an ending; some things are never-ending.” ~ C.JoyBell C.

11 Things Highly Intuitive People Do Differently

Even if you don’t realize it, we all have been gifted with intuition, which some people know as that “gut feeling” they sometimes get.

Our intuition basically serves to keep us safe and help us to make informed, heart-based decisions. It informs us of impending dangers, and guides us through life so that we can grow into our highest selves.

Even Steve Jobs, considered one of the most prosperous businessmen in history, said that, “intuition is a very powerful thing, more powerful than intellect, in my opinion. That’s had a big impact on my work.”

We all have this innate ability to make decisions based on our intuition, but some of us have a better connection to that inner voice than others. If you tend to listen to your heart when faced with a difficult decision, then you probably do these things differently.

11 THINGS HIGHLY INTUITIVE PEOPLE DO DIFFERENTLY

1. They listen to their highest self.

Highly intuitive people simply don’t ignore their instincts; rather, they listen to them fervently, and make decisions almost exclusively from this source of wisdom. Many people still feel skeptical about intuition, but some swear by it.

If you don’t want to jump on the “intuitive” bandwagon yet, consider this story: While cleaning her house, one woman got a sudden gut feeling to call her mom. This inner voice told her that her mother had taken pills and that she needed assistance immediately. Sure enough, the woman hailed the nearest cab and went to her mom’s house, only to find that she had overdosed on a box of pills. She called an ambulance and saved her mother’s life, having her intuition to thank.

So, highly intuitive people don’t care if others think their “inner voices” sound crazy; they listen anyway, and in some cases, this could make the difference between life and death.

2. Highly intuitive people need plenty of alone time.

According to Sophy Burnham, bestselling author of the book “The Art of Intuition,” the majority of intuitive people are introverts.

This makes sense, because introverts cultivate energy from within, and they can’t hear their intuition without getting some quiet time alone. We live in a noisy world, so both introverts and intuitive people find their escape within. Also, highly intuitive people never feel lonely in their own company; they actually look forward to spending time alone and catching up with the latest insight in the universal realm.

3. They love to get creative.

Musicians, artists, fire-breathers, dancers, writers, and all creators have one thing in common: they allow their creativity to guide them effortlessly through life, and never question if it makes sense or not.

Actually, following their passions makes perfect sense to creative folk, because they know that their creativity makes them feel alive, and we came here to feel nothing less. Nurturing that inner creativity will allow life force to flow through you, something that intuitive people have already figured out.

4. Intuitive people practice mindfulness.

Intuitive people have a high level of self-awareness, meaning they have become acutely in tune with their inner feelings and outlook on themselves. They have mastered this through some sort of peaceful spiritual practice, which allows them to shut off the outside world for a bit and only pay attention to that blissful inner knowing.

Highly intuitive people tend to have less “mental fog,” because they’ve learned to sit silently with their own company, therefore feeling comfortable with themselves in the simplest form. Their thoughts no longer cloud them, because they’ve learned to rise above them.

5. They pay attention to their surroundings.

Just like they pay close attention to their inner world, the intuitive person looks at the outside world with the same open eyes and heart. They can connect deeply with others, because they’ve learned how to do so within themselves.

6. Intuitive people always tune into their gut feelings.

This doesn’t mean that every ache and pain calls for drastic measures, but intuitive people know they must pay attention to how they feel in order to care for themselves. They don’t call intuition a “gut feeling” for no reason; in fact, scientists have discovered that our gut is essentially a second brain because of the sheer number of neurons lining the intestinal walls.

Furthermore, some experts believe that our gut instincts are more effective and efficient than logical analysis in our decision-making process, according to a study performed by researchers from Boston College, Rice University, and George Mason University.

So, intuitive people don’t care how fast the world moves or how many demands people have of them; they will always take time to listen to that inner guidance.

7. They empathize with others.

Highly intuitive people have a knack for understanding how others feel, and can offer advice and guidance when necessary. People often come up to them to share intimate details from their lives, because they instantly feel comfortable in the intuitive person’s company.

Intuitive people can also read others without them having to say a word, which helps them further understand each individual.

8. They pay attention to universal messages.

The universe speaks to us in a variety of ways, and intuitive people know this. They don’t view anything as a coincidence, such as seeing the same numbers on a clock frequently, or seeing the same person at the mall each time. Everything contains meaning for the intuitive person.

9. Intuitive people put themselves first.

Even though they relate well with others, intuitive people naturally put themselves as a priority so they can better serve others. They take time off work when needed, and create space each day for inner wisdom to flow through. They believe in working smarter, not harder, and have a difficult time understanding our work-obsessed society. Intuitive people make sure they get their needs taken care of first before attending to anything or anyone else.

10. They don’t dwell on the negative.

Intuitive people know that their inner voice can’t flow with negative energy blocking the waves of knowledge and healing. So, the highly intuitive regularly balance their energies and release negative emotions in order to fully connect to their highest self.

Related article: 5 Ways To Tune Into Your Intuition

11. Intuitive people love deeply.

These types of people don’t hold back their emotions, instead letting them flow and creating space for others to do the same. Intuitive people feel totally comfortable in their own skin, and don’t apologize for having human emotions. They celebrate them, and encourage others to join in the party!

New Study Reveals: We’ve only ‘scratched the surface’ when it comes to discovering life on other planets

If you wanted to meet aliens in this lifetime, you might be disappointed with this news. However, a new study has found that Earth was one of the first habitable planets to form in the universe. It also shows that most haven’t even been born yet. If we peaked a bit later, we might’ve gotten the chance to meet future alien civilizations. Nonetheless, if you believe in the afterlife and reincarnation, you might get to meet one of these futuristic lifeforms.

The universe has been around for a long time now, roughly 13.8 billion years. But only 8% of the habitable planets in our solar system have formed thus far. That means 92% of the habitable planets haven’t even been born yet. If fact, most won’t appear until after the sun burns out in 6 billion years.

If this seems a bit mind-boggling, don’t worry; many others probably feel the same way.

The research analyzed data from the Hubble and Kepler space telescopes. It predicted that most habitable planets haven’t formed yet. It also suggests that we’ve only scratched the surface when discovering planets that can support life.

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At least we can say that, due to our knowledge and technological advancement, we can look back on the birth of the universe and solar systems, and have theories and evidence in place as to how they came into existence. Other future civilizations may not have this knowledge.

“Any far-future civilisations that might arise will be largely clueless as to how or if the Universe began and evolved,” explains the Space Telescope Science Institute in the US, which pioneered the research.

This might make you feel better about the dilemma of peaking too soon for aliens.

“Our main motivation was understanding the Earth’s place in the context of the rest of the universe,” said lead researcher Peter Behroozi. “Compared to all the planets that will ever form in the Universe, the Earth is actually quite early.”

The researchers used the Hubble and Kepler space telescopes to look as far back in time and space as possible, to understand how many stars and planets have already formed, and make a prediction about how many will form later.

The researchers discovered that, although stars came into formation much faster and at a greater volume 10 billion years ago, the Universe only used a small amount of its hydrogen and helium. What does this mean? Well, in short, the universe can keep producing stars for a very long time, despite star production slowing down.

“There is enough remaining material [after the big bang] to produce even more planets in the future, in the Milky Way and beyond,” said one of the researchers, Molly Peeples.

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Scientists predict the last star in the universe will burn out 100 trillion years from now. In our galaxy alone, researchers estimate that around 1 billion habitable planets exist right now. So it only follows logic that future stars and planets will have the ability to hold life.

In addition, the researchers used this same data to predict that future Earth-like planets will likely appear inside galaxy clusters and dwarf galaxies, which have a great amount of gasses left for stars and planetary systems to form. Unfortunately, the Milky Way Galaxy doesn’t really have more resources to grow.

So, who knows what will happen in the next 100 trillion years in the universe. All we know is, Earth is among the 8% of habitable planets to form thus far.

As the Space Telescope Science Institute puts it: “That’s plenty of time for literally anything to happen on the planet landscape.”

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5 Things To Remember When A Loved One Passes

When a loved one passes, it can feel like someone stabbed a knife through your heart. No matter your beliefs about the afterlife, losing a loved one always hurts on a deep level. We have to adjust ourselves to a life without this person, and the longer they’ve been with us, the more time it will take to heal. When a loved one passes, we have memories to console us, but the image of them so vibrant and alive in our minds can also hurt if we dwell on these memories too much. So, how do we properly heal from losing a loved one? How can we deal with something so permanent and final?

We all have lost a loved one in life, and while time does tend to heal wounds, it doesn’t help when our emotions are so raw, and the loss just doesn’t seem real. So, when you are faced with indescribable grief and pain, remember these 5 things when a loved one passes.

5 Things To Remember When A Loved One Passes

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1. You made an unforgettable impact on their life.

No matter how long you knew this person, you made an impact on their life. The interactions you had with your loved one will forever be etched into their consciousness, and your very presence and spirit will never be forgotten. You have to realize that everything here is temporary, and loss is part of life. While this doesn’t make it any easier to deal with in the weeks or even months after you lose someone, it can help in the long-term.

No one likes losing a loved one, but as long as you let them into your heart even for a short amount of time, you made an impact on them and brightened their world. You should feel grateful for the opportunity of getting to know them, and share space on this planet while you could.

2. You got to experience life with them, even if it seemed short in hindsight.

Going off of the last point, remember that when you lose a loved one, you got to experience things with them while they were here. None of us are even guaranteed a spot on this planet, and life is truly a miracle. So, even being here with them for that short amount of time is a blessing, because you got to connect, share, laugh, love, and cherish those moments with a beautiful human being. The very fact that the next day isn’t guaranteed to us should make us live life to the fullest, and tell everyone we love how much we care for them.

If the person you lost knew how you felt about them, or how much they meant to you at all, then you should have no regrets when you look back on how you spent your time together.

3. No pain lasts forever.

Also, keep in mind that all pain is temporary. It may seem excruciating, and you might not even want to get out of bed some days, but this too shall pass. You WILL find hope, light, love, and happiness again. To know happiness, we must know sadness, anyway. So, in order for you to find that spark again, you must deal with the darkness.

Let yourself feel the pain, as deeply as you must. Remember to take care of yourself, count on your support system, and take as much time as you need to heal. Your loved one would’ve wanted that for you.

4. You have other loved ones to cherish in life.

Although you lost someone special, you shouldn’t let that take away from experiencing all you can right now in this life. You have other friends and family who love you dearly and need your attention. Of course, we don’t want to discount the pain you feel from losing a loved one, but while you deal with the grief, remember to show love to the other special people in your life. After all, we never know how much time we have with someone, so we have to make every second count.

On that note, remember to keep an open mind after a loved one dies. Many people have had experiences with talking to someone from “beyond,” so you might want to talk to a licensed professional, or medium, who can help you contact your loved one. A review of 20 after-death communications found that people who had an encounter with the deceased felt more able to cope with the grief. This may have happened because people felt reassured by the experience, as it supported their spiritual beliefs.

Related article: 11 Signs A Deceased Loved One Is Nearby

5. Keep following your dreams.

This one might not seem obvious, but the death of a loved one should remind all of us how very short life truly is. We have to live the hell out of this life. However, we must do as we see fit for us as individuals. We must get out there and follow our dreams, no matter how scary they seem. We have to stop spending so much time living vicariously through others. And we must do what makes our hearts soar. We have to do all of this, for our own good. We all deserve to feel our souls on fire from the sheer bliss of living, and this is what your loved one would’ve wanted.

So, don’t ever let fear stop you.

You’re powerful beyond measure. Let the loss of your loved one inspire you to live every second as if you’re about to take your last breath, because none of us truly knows when that will be.

Here’s Why People Close Their Eyes When They Kiss

Have you ever wondered why you kiss with your eyes closed? Many people dismiss it as just one of those weird things that happen, and don’t really question it beyond that. However, today we will share with you the science as to why we automatically close our eyes when we kiss that special someone.

When you kiss someone, you probably don’t think too much about closing your eyes; it just happens, right? You both feel the sparks flying. So you lean in for the kiss with your eyes open. But somewhere between locking eyes and locking lips, you shut your eyes. This happens involuntarily, whether you want it to or not.

It seems strange, but there’s actually a perfectly good explanation for it.

Here’s Why You Kiss With Your Eyes Closed

Psychologists have finally found answers as to why we kiss with our eyes closed. In short, the brain can’t deal with multiple stimuli at once, so in order to focus on kissing, we simply close our eyes while locking lips.

Royal Holloway University of London did a study on vision and tactile sensory experience, and found that our brain struggles to process what goes on during a kiss beyond the visual stimuli.

In other words, we can’t possibly keep our eyes open during a kiss, because our brains can’t process BOTH visual and sensory stimuli.

Polly Dalton and Sandra Murphy, both cognitive psychologists, discovered that “tactile [sense of touch] awareness depends on the level of perceptual load in a concurrent visual task”.

Published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance, the study actually came to conclusions without any couples having to kiss. Instead, participants had to undergo visual tasks while scientists observed their tactile sense.

The visual portion of the study included participants completing letter-searching tasks of varying difficulty, while scientists measured their tactile response by equipping them with a device that emitted small vibrations on their hands.

The Study Results

The results came in, and showed that participants responded less to tactile stimuli the more that their eyes had to do work.

In other words, the participants found that during the letter-searching tasks, they barely felt the vibration, but when they shut their eyes, they felt it much more strongly. For the record, the scientists set the vibrations to the same frequency the entire time.

We can apply this same logic to other highly stimulating activities, such as physical intimacy, where the people involved would rather close their eyes in order to avoid become overwhelmed, sensory wise.

During intimacy, people tend to close their eyes in order to process the experience without the visual portions of it distracting them. Thus, the same logic goes for kissing as well.

“These results could explain why we close our eyes when we want to focus attention on another sense,” Ms Dalton told The Independent.

“Shutting out the visual input leaves more mental resources to focus on other aspects of our experience.”

The results of the study suggest that closing our eyes during a kiss will magnify the intimacy of the encounter, making it more pleasurable to us.

Evolution may have played a part in this, as less distractions mean better focus during intercourse, which may bring higher chances of pregnancy.

Related article: There Are 5 Levels Of Love. Which One Are You On?

Of course, some people choose to kiss with their eyes open, although remembering to open them may take some effort. However you enjoy kissing, at least now you know the reason behind why we normally kiss with our eyes closed, and that nature just wants us to have a better experience with our special someone.

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