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What Kind of Element Are You, According To Your Zodiac Sign?

As you might already know, all 12 zodiac signs have been categorized based on 4 elements: earth, air, fire, and water. Every zodiac sign possesses unique traits and characteristics, depending on which element it falls under. However, signs of the same element, such as fire, for example, usually have a lot of traits in common. Fire signs tend to have a passion and zest about them that others find invigorating and attractive, for example. All four elements need to exist for the world to have balance, because without one, the Earth’s alignment and energy would become weakened.

If you look at these elements as vital to our existence, you can relate much more deeply with your sign’s element. No matter which element you represent, you make up a very necessary part of the universe. We need water for emotional comfort and stability, as well as to carry us gently through life’s currents. We also need it for survival, as water makes up a great portion of our cells. We need fire to stay warm, and to give us sight in the dead of night. We need air to breathe, and to carry us to our next destination. We need the Earth, of course, to live on, to connect with, and to nurture us.

With all of this in mind, the element that represents your zodiac sign likely portrays key parts of your personality.

Today, we’ll go over the four elements, how each sign represents them, and what this means for you.

What Kind of Element Are You, According To Your Zodiac Sign?

The Fire Signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius

Fire signs have a passionate, feisty, bold attitude. They don’t hold back, and don’t let anything stand in their way. They can become defiant at times, but they just want to follow their heart. This go-getter attitude takes them far in life, as long as they can hone in their emotions so they don’t trample on others.

Aries (March 21 – April 20)

Aries love making new friends of all walks of life. They have a good soul, despite how they might seem on the surface. If you don’t get to know them, you might think of them as self-centered, obnoxious, and attention-seeking. However, once you talk to them, you’ll see their true, charming, friendly nature. They have an enthusiasm for life that just attracts others to them. They do pack quite a punch, so if you make friends with an Aries, get prepared for lots of laughs and plenty of fun adventures. Oh, and maybe a heated argument or two.

Leo (July 23 -August 21)

The Lion loves to take the spotlight whenever he or she can, and have a great deal of confidence. They might seem a little egotistical, but their fierce, bold nature simply requires them to speak their truth and not hold back. You can count on a Leo for anything, and they will step up into the leadership role if no one else does. They will also make you laugh with their goofy, charming personality.

Sagittarius (November 23 – December 22)

Sagittarius can get angry pretty easily, and tend to go off on their own after a heated argument. Other than that, however, they have plenty of great qualities. They love adventures, so get ready to travel far and wide with a Sagittarius. They also love deep conversations and questioning things in life. Sagittarius have a creative, contemplative personality once you get to know them, despite being outgoing and seemingly simple on the outside. They have an interest in all the questions that don’t have answers, and never stop exploring.

The Water Signs: Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio

Water gives us life, but plenty of mysteries lie beneath its murky depths. Like water, people born under this element have a lot going on beneath the surface. It might look calm at first glance, but jump into the unknown, and you’ll see just how much water signs go through. Sensitive, caring, and empathetic by nature, water signs usually identify as empaths. They simply feel so much energy from everywhere that they often can’t handle it.

They like their alone time to recharge and heal, and might seem a bit mysterious and stand-offish from a first impression. They carry their emotions deep within their bones, and only their closest friends and loved ones get to see the “real” them. They use their intuition to guide them through life.

Pisces (February 20- March 20)

Pisces have a multi-faceted personality. They seem goofy and a bit shy on the surface, but anger them, and you will never hear the end of it. On one hand, they love socializing, but they need plenty of solitude to recharge. They resonate with arts, video games, and anything creative and imaginative.

They adapt easily to their environment, and make wonderful friends that will never leave your side. Mysterious by nature, they open up to you if they feel comfortable in your company.

Cancer (June 22 – July 22)

Cancers definitely know how to be there for their friends and family. They put their loved ones first, and will literally go to the ends of the Earth for them. Arguably the most caring, nurturing sign in the zodiac, Cancers are deeply intuitive and emotional. They are so complicated that sometimes, they don’t even understand themselves. Sadly, they often feel lost and overwhelmed as they try to find their place in the world.

They have very intense emotions that, just like water, ebb and flow with the moon’s cycle. They are very in tune with nature, and spend most of their time here in solitude. They have a volatile temper, but don’t show it unless they feel comfortable with you. They are inspirational, motivated people, however, and follow their own path in life despite any obstacles. They resonate with creative endeavors, exploring, and anything dealing with natural living.

They can be crabby, but it won’t last long. They are one of the most complicated signs of the zodiac, so try to figure them out if you dare.

Scorpio (October 24 – November 22)

Scorpios are also kind of confusing, but loving and passionate nonetheless. They appear mysterious and aloof at first, but will open up in time. Cross a Scorpio, though, and you can expect them to plot revenge.

Scorpios can be indulgent and out of control at times, but they like to live life on the wild side. They also don’t show emotions easily, and tend to bottle them up inside. Scorpios hold their friends and family close, and will go to great lengths to protect them.

The Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn

Earth signs are easily the most stable, reliable, and (you guessed it) down-to-earth people you will come across. You need an answer, they’ve got one. You have a problem, they’ll solve it. You can count on them for anything, and they won’t let you down. They are quick-minded, witty, and a tad sarcastic, but lovable all the same. They do come across as cold and unfeeling, but that’s just because they use logic much more than emotions to connect with people.

Taurus (April 21 – May 21)

While the bull is stubborn, it’s also strong, reliable, and brave. Taurus have a strong work ethic, and will not stop until they reach their goal. They have great aspirations in life, and will work very hard to get where they want to be. They don’t show emotions easily, but make great listeners for those who need help. They are great friends, and love to go on adventures. However, don’t try to change their mind. This bull doesn’t budge easily.

Virgo (August 22 – September 23)

Virgos also have a logical, practical approach to life. They have a methodical way of doing things, and greatly dislike disorder. Virgos also tend to overthink everything, however, and take a long time to make a decision. However, their observant, pragmatic nature allows them to take time in making choices, and not to rush anything. They enjoy quiet activities, and while sweet and charming, they don’t always make friends easily. If you want to befriend a Virgo, you might just have to make the first move.

Capricorn (December 23 – January 20)

Capricorns, like Taurus, are workaholics. They identify greatly with their occupation, and work extremely hard to maintain their status at the job. They care a lot about self-image and don’t want anyone to see them in a less-than-perfect state. They are conservative, independent, and stubborn, but make loyal friends and partners. They love to inspire and help those around them, and will solve any problem quickly. They make wonderful leaders, even if they seem a bit harsh at times.

The Air Signs: Aquarius, Gemini, Libra

Air signs tend to be flighty and fickle, like their element would suggest. One moment, they feel directed to the north, and the next second, something calls them the other way. Air signs literally let the wind carry them where it feels they should go, and have a laid-back attitude about life. Air signs may seem a bit shallow and empty-headed on the surface, but once you get to know them, you’ll uncover more of their hidden layers. However, they don’t like to dwell on emotions and sentimental aspects of life too much. They live in the moment, soaking up as much fun and adventure as they can.

Aquarius (January 21 – February 19)

Aquarius love an intelligent conversation with someone who can teach them something, above all else. They love travel, exquisite dinners, and the finer things in life. However, they don’t like to show off, either. They like to live within their means, and will do whatever it takes to follow their dreams. Aquarius have a simple, positive, nonchalant attitude about life, and take the opportunities that come their way. They don’t spend too much time tangled in their own thoughts; they’d rather remain present in the moment and look at all the beauty around them. They are humanitarians by nature, and wish to make a positive impact on the world.

They are a bit unpredictable, but this makes them fun to be around.

Related article: How Does the Moon Affect Your Zodiac Sign?

Gemini (May 22 – June 21)

Geminis can seem complicated, and some believe that only another Gemini can truly get them. Known as The Twins, they literally have a split personality that even they can’t decode at times. One minute, they seem friendly and loving, and the next, independent and reckless. They have a hard time knowing what they want in life, and can easily become overwhelmed by their ever-changing nature. They think of life positively, and don’t like to hang around those who bring them down. They can talk your head off, but they also like alone time to express their creativity.

They are open-minded, curious, and ultimately, fun people to hang around. However, they can be a bit hard to get to know, so it may take a while with them.

Libra (September 24 – October 23)

Libras, above all else, need balance and justice. They are constantly walking a tightrope, trying to keep their emotional, mental, and physical health in line. They also can’t stand to see all the injustice in the world, and feel a personal responsibility to fix all the issues we have. Libras need peace, understanding, and deep conversations in both friendships and romantic relationships.

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India Sets A New World Record For Planting The Most Trees In A Single Day

Last month, 800,000 volunteers gathered in an attempt to plant 50 million trees in the northern Indian state of Uttar Pradesh, and they succeeded. While this environmentally friendly endeavor has yet to be assessed by the Guinness World Records, Indian officials have reported that the volunteers planted a staggering 49.3 million saplings in under 24 hours.

This greatly surpasses the previous record of 847,275 trees set by Pakistan in 2013.

India Plants 50 MILLION Trees In One Day, Sets New World Record

800,000 volunteers from Uttar Pradesh toiled for 24 hours to plant 80 different tree species along roads, railways, and on public land. The saplings came from local nurseries.

Aiming to battle increasing deforestation, the Indian government allotted $6.2 billion for tree-planting, which goes along with previous agreements made at the Paris climate change summit in 2015.

Uttar Pradesh’s Chief Minister Akhilesh Yadav told volunteers a difficult but necessary truth: “The world has realised that serious efforts are needed to reduce carbon emissions to mitigate the effects of global climate change. Uttar Pradesh has made a beginning in this regard.”

India made a commitment to plant more trees at the Paris Climate Conference in December 2015. It formally signed this agreement on Earth Day 2016, agreeing to spend $6 billion to increase forestation on 12% of its land, which would total 235 million acres by 2030, or 29% of the country’s land.

Trees have many benefits to us, namely, providing us with oxygen so that we can breathe. However, trees also absorb carbon dioxide from the air, which decreases the greenhouse gasses present in the atmosphere. Sadly, India continues to see deforestation as corporations and farmers tear down the trees for development and pasturing. They’ve taken heed from the environment, however, and decided to do something now about the ever-increasing deforestation throughout the country.

Other countries around the globe seem to be following suit. In December, for example, African nations pledged to reforest 100 million hectares. Even more promising and uplifting, many stakeholders from different companies around the globe signed the New York Declaration of Forests that month, which aims to cut deforestation in half by 2020 and eliminate it altogether by 2030. Furthermore, the declaration calls for reforesting at least 350 million hectares with healthy forests.

As far as the trees in India go, however, they will need a lot of water and upkeep in order to survive. Saplings have mortality rates as high as 40 percent after such a massive undertaking in tree planting. The officials say they been made aware of the concerns and will monitor the trees using aerial photography so that they can pinpoint which areas need the most care.

The officials hope the air quality in India will improve due to the massive planting of trees, but it should, seeing as trees absorb greenhouse gasses. India suffers from some of the worst air quality in the world, with 6 of the top 10 most polluted cities lying in the country’s borders.

1.25 billion people live in the state of Uttar Pradesh, making it the most populated state in the nation. With this massive tree planting project finished, the residents hope to breathe easier and rest under the shade of the many trees.

“The biggest contribution of this tree planting project is, apart from the tokenism, that it focuses on the major issues,” Anit Mukherjee, policy fellow with the Centre for Global Development told the Telegraph. “It addresses many of the big issues for India: pollution, deforestation, and land use.”

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There Are 5 Levels of Love. Which One Are You On?

Even if you’ve been happily in love for ages, it can still feel like a battlefield at times. Once the newness of the relationship wears off, you might find yourself wishing for the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship to come back in full force. However, love doesn’t come without challenges and uphill battles, of course, and it tends to fluctuate between falling in love with the person all over again, and wanting to pull their hair out at times.

Love normally works in stages, and this guide will help you get clarity on which stage of love your relationship may be currently in…

Which of the 5 levels of love are you on? (Comment below and let us know!)

Stage 1: Falling Head Over Heels

In this stage, you’ll feel like a love-struck teenager who just can’t get enough of his/her love interest. You talk to this person every chance you get. Even then, it still doesn’t feel like enough. You spend all night talking on the phone, and text throughout each day. You plan fun adventures to go on, have deep conversations, laugh about silly things, and realize that you feel totally comfortable around this person. They awaken something within you that makes you feel alive, free, and happy. You decide to go on a date, and that first date easily turns into a second one. You’ve fallen for this person, and hard. You wouldn’t have it any other way, though.

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Stage 2: Growing Closer

During this second stage, you will have an even deeper bond with your partner. While you might’ve moved past the “honeymoon” phase, you still totally adore your partner, and enjoy learning new things about him/her. You might even talk of marriage or moving in together, to solidify your bond even further. Your world revolves around them, and vice versa. This stage represents moving from falling in love to being in love, where you can rest your bones and know that you have someone special waiting at home for you. In the beginning, you didn’t know which way things would lead, but now you’ve gotten your answer, and life never felt so good until now.

Stage 3: Uncertainty

After years or even just a few months together, you might lose sight of what made you fall in love in the first place. The newness wore off long ago, but will your love endure the harsh grip of reality? During this stage, most couples decide to either make it or break it, as they likely fight more often than in the beginning of the relationship. Life begins to take over, and the daily stresses can quickly wear down any relationship. Passing this stage allows you to grow stronger together as a couple, but of course, breaking it off can mean a whole new chapter for both of you. Fate lies in your hands, but no matter the choice you make here, one made from the heart can never lead you astray.

Stage 4: Repair and Renew

During this stage, you figure out what went wrong in your relationship in stage 3, and work on mending the issues. You don’t want these same problems creeping up again later. So you’ve decided to work on them now. You realize that both of you have imperfections, and learning to use these as tools for growth will do wonders for your relationship down the road. You once saw your mate as perfect, so what happened between then and now? Of course, we sometimes let our expectations get in the way of reality, so once you can accept each other’s flaws and work together as a team again, you can move on to the next stage.

Related article: 6 Things You Should Stop Doing To Your Partner To Make Them Feel Ugly

Stage 5: Peace and Acceptance

In this final stage, you’ve been to hell and back with your mate, and you know that through the thick and thin, they will stay by your side. You don’t have to pretend with them, or hold back any part of your personality. You can enjoy the world with him or her, and know that at the end of the day, they will have their hearts and arms open for you to rest your soul in.

Which Psychic Ability Do You Have?

Whether you’ve tapped into your psychic abilities or not, we all have unique talents that allow us to simply ‘know’ things without anyone actually saying them to us. Psychics have been known to predict things that will happen in the future, know a deceased relative’s name without you even saying it, and other seemingly unexplainable phenomena.

While the most common forms of psychic ability fall under the categories of mind-reading, or knowing, and seeing, other types exist as well. Today, we’ll go over the six types of psychic abilities so that you can decide which one you have, or which one(s) you feel interested in learning.

With practice, we can all become more intuitive and perfect our extrasensory abilities to communicate in a more subtle way.

These intuitive skills can help you to receive information in different ways than we do in our current 3D reality. They come from the five senses, so you may find that your dominant sense will also reflect your most powerful psychic ability. If you have uncanny hearing, then you might hear messages from the beyond, for example.

Which Psychic Ability Do You Have?

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Clairvoyance

One of the most well-known psychic abilities, refers to one’s ability to essentially predict the future. It might not happen often, but when it does, you’ll feel an incredible ‘knowing’ about something to come, and will have to share it with others because it will feel so overwhelming and real.

Or, it might happen in less obvious ways. Perhaps you’ll get visions in your head but not be able to piece together what they mean just yet. Have patience, as messages from the beyond don’t always make sense right away. Maybe you’ll see a particular person or place in your head, but not recognize them right away. In time, it might all unfold as a story that will make sense later on, so a good way to keep track is to write down everything in a journal that you can refer back to later.

Clairaudience

Another common psychic ability is hearing, which means getting audible messages from beyond. Other people won’t have the ability to hear the voices, music, or other noises, however. You can also take this as the ability to listen to your intuition, and trust it completely. Perhaps it will tell you to move to a certain place, go find a certain person, or look for a specific object.

Psychic mediums can actually receive messages from the deceased and communicate with you through them in order to give you information about their whereabouts, state of mind, or feelings.

Clairempathy

You might refer to this type of person as an ’empath,’ or highly sensitive person. These people have an innate ability to feel what others feel without them having to say a word at all. They have the ability to feel deeply and understand someone’s body language, tone of voice, or even their silence in order to decode their thoughts and feelings.

These people tend to spend a lot of time alone, as they hear so many voices and signals from everyone around them, and this drains them greatly. They recharge by spending time in solitude. Walking into a room full of people instantly makes them drained, as they get hit with the “charge” of everyone’s emotions and thoughts in that particular room. They might even sometimes feel things from people hundreds of miles away without even having met them previously.

We feed off the energy of others, but empaths do so more intensely. This often leaves them exhausted, as they tend to attract those that drain their energy. Empaths love to help others, and some use that to their advantage. When you perfect your abilities, you might sense when someone feels depressed, when they tell a lie, or even when they have lost a loved one recently.

Clairsentience

You might call this mind-reading, or something similar. In essence, this involves knowing something intuitively without anyone having told you before. It mirrors the seeing ability, with the exception of using your psychic ability to ‘know’ someone’s thoughts. Knowing differs from seeing in that with seeing, you might just get images in your head without being able to piece them together, but knowing gets to the next step in the process.

This allows you to know what someone thinks about you, or even what they think about themselves. It can help you discern who to make friends with, and who to walk away from.

In a study of mind-reading skills, researchers found that oxytocin can amplify abilities. You receive oxytocin from intimate contact with others, doing something exciting, or working out. Oxytocin can help you read other people’s eyes better in order to infer their mental state, according to the research. So, if you’d like to perfect this ability, getting more oxytocin can help.

Clairgustance

This one might seem a bit strange, but imagine being able to taste the food before you actually put it in your mouth. Or, if you communicate with someone from beyond, you might have the ability to figure out their favorite type of food just based on your interaction with them.

For example, maybe you intuitively taste ice cream one day before work and then find that your workplace is having an ice cream party for employees that day.

This might also help you with reaching your weight loss goals if you have them because then you can taste foods without actually eating them!

 

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Clairscent

This ability allows you to smell something without it actually being in your presence. For instance, maybe your grandmother passed away years ago, but you still smell her favorite perfume from time to time. Or, perhaps you smell the rain, but it isn’t actually raining outside at the moment. However, later it starts to pour.

A lot of times, smell relates to memory, so by strengthening this sense, you can start to smell scents based on how you remember them.

Here’s How Seeing Hawks Often May Give Insight Into Your Life

Hawks scan their environment from high above the ground, looking for potential threats and sources of food. If you see hawks frequently, it may be a call to see things from a higher perspective. Consider it a call to focus on your observation skills.

The hawk symbolizes the ability to use intuition and higher vision to complete tasks or make important decisions. Animal guides can deliver important messages to us from beyond, and hawks definitely serve as animals that can heighten our spiritual awareness and help us along our paths.

Hawks represent the messengers of the spirit world, so seeing them definitely means the universe wants you to learn powerful lessons or expand your knowledge and wisdom. Hawks also encourage you to use laser focus and precision to get things done, and to take the lead in life. So, if you often spot hawks in your life, the universe could be trying to send you these important messages.

If you see Hawks often, this is what it means…

  • Hawks can reach incredible heights and seem to touch the higher realms with ease. Therefore, they have a deep connection with the spirit world. Thus, they provide us with important messages from beyond. Seeing hawks often could prompt you to study divination and use these tools to heighten your spiritual awareness.
  • Also, hawks soar high in the sky and can view all of life from this perspective. Therefore, they represent the ability to look at the big picture. Hawks do not get too wrapped up in the petty details of things. If you see hawks often, this might mean that you need to deepen your focus on the tasks at hand. Do not allow yourself to get distracted by the more minor details of life.
  • Furthermore, hawks represent an ability to lead others and take initiative. If you seek hawks often appearing in your life, the universe wants you to focus on what area of your life you can take the reigns in and truly shine. Hawks don’t wait around for others to show them the way. So use this animal whenever you feel uncertain about your ability to become an influential leader for others.
  • Hawks always observe their area before taking action. The hawk invites you to study the situation thoroughly before making any rash decisions. That’s because every action bears a consequence. Hawks approach life with skilled precision, so seeing them often means that you should look at areas of your life where you could stand to study your choices more before acting.
  • Hawks also represent people with solid visions who see things clearly. If you’ve seen hawks often in your life, you might have noticed heightened intuition and a greater sense of knowing about the direction you want your life to go in. Seeing hawks means that you are on the right path in life, and your spirit animal is there to ensure you keep on this path.
  • Use the hawk spirit animal when you need laser-like focus and have to take on the role of a leader. The hawk will help you to gain confidence and realize that you have great potential to take the initiative and see your goals and dreams through to the end.

Final Thoughts on Seeing Hawks

Related article: 8 Signs Your Spirit Guide Is Trying To Contact You 

As with any other animal totem, hawks will show up when you need guidance from the universe and support from something beyond yourself. The hawk represents focus, strength, and poise. Indeed, they can show you your hidden abilities to lead yourself and others to a more positive outcome. Hawks can also help you to see the bigger picture. They’ll help you avoid bogging down in the small details. So look to this powerful spirit animal the next time you need perspective on a particular situation.

9 Ways to Respond to A Manipulative Sociopath

Sociopaths don’t care about your feelings. They are physically incapable of feeling any empathy towards you or anyone else. They don’t feel any remorse for their actions, no matter how much they hurt people. They are incapable of it, and they are incapable of love or any other human emotion.

Sociopathic manipulators can mimic feelings and emotional responses to manipulate and coerce, but, like everything else in their lives, it is a lie. They can be very charming because they have learned how to push people’s emotional buttons to elicit the emotional responses they need. They will mine your conversations for any emotional handle they can grasp to manipulate you or your feelings.

The easiest path to dealing with them is to avoid dealing with them. Eliminate them from your circle of friends, avoid conversations (especially private ones), and cut them out of your life as much as you can.

10 Behaviors That Reveal a Sociopath

If you can’t cut them out because they are a close relative or a co-worker, you must learn to deal with them. Handling the situation well allows you to do so without causing more problems at work or with the family. There are things you say to keep a manipulator at arm’s length and prevent them from manipulating you, but first, you must recognize them.

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1. Difficulty Regulating Their Emotions

Sociopaths don’t handle emotions well, and it leads to impulsive behavior. They have temper tantrums and intense expressions of irritability. You might notice that they are easily irritable, annoyed, impatient, threatening, and aggressive.

When things don’t go their way, manipulators allow their emotions to get the best of them, quickly resorting to verbal abuse. Their behavior is often unplanned and the result of momentary urges. The unpredictable behavior makes it even scarier because you never know when to expect it.

2. No Feelings of Shame, Guilt, or Remorse

Manipulators view the people around them as objects or targets, not individuals. Because of this, they don’t feel shame, guilt, or remorse. They don’t care about the pain or suffering of others, and they are often disrespectful to victims.

3. They Feel Entitled

A manipulative person will exhibit behaviors that show they feel everything is owed to them. They will have an overinflated sense of self-worth that shows as being cocky and rudely opinionated. Sociopaths tend to feel superior to others and assume people should do things for them.

4. They Don’t Have a Realistic Life Plan

Manipulators don’t usually have or execute long-term plans, and they lack direction in life. They often develop financial dependence on someone else and lack the motivation to be self-sufficient.

Manipulative people might move around more than others and live aimlessly. They live this way because they lack self-discipline and struggle to carry out responsibilities.

5. They Need Constant Stimulation

Manipulative people need constant stimulation, so they frequently participate in thrill-seeking behaviors. They live on the edge and test people’s beliefs. When they take risks, they don’t think about the danger involved.

Sociopaths also don’t complete tasks very often. Their need for stimulation causes them to get bored and give up on what they’re already working on. They might also switch jobs frequently.

6. They Reveal Shallow Emotions

Manipulators don’t feel emotions, so they rarely show them. When they do express their feelings, it’ll seem superficial or fabricated. They won’t show feelings when they have an ulterior motive, and they often come across as cold even when pretending to be social and inviting.

7. Promiscuity and Infidelity

Sociopaths frequently exhibit promiscuous behavior, and they are rarely faithful. If you know someone who has multiple relationships at once and has had numerous affairs, it’s a sign of a manipulator. They also enjoy openly discussing their sexual encounters, no matter the repercussions.

8. They Con Others

Manipulators don’t care about the rights of others, so they con people for self-serving purposes. They use deceit and deception for personal gain, and they have no concern for the victim.

9. They are Pathological Liars

Manipulative people don’t have a problem lying, even when it’s clear they aren’t telling the truth. Confronting them on their lies can provoke intense rage or a simple smile, and you’ll never know what to expect. They might even continue lying when you present them with evidence of the truth, and they never seem to get uncomfortable.

10. They are Superficially Charming

A manipulator always knows what to say, and they’re great at putting on a front. They appear smooth, engaging, and charming, and they never get shy. The manipulator will also seem to be a good listener, but only because they want to know your vulnerabilities.

Their charming behavior allows them to gain information to use against you later. They’ll use your vulnerabilities to hurt you and get what they want.

Things to Say to a Manipulative Sociopath

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1. “I am sorry, but I can’t talk right now.”

Manipulators need verbal interaction to work their dark magic. Deny them the chance, and they are powerless. Never hesitate to find an excuse to walk away.

2. “I am sorry, but I have to take this.”

Pretend your phone went off and walk away from the conversation. Use the time to get away from the conversation. Sometimes the easiest way to win a battle with a manipulator is to deny them the chance to begin.

3. “Okay, let’s talk to them right now.”

If a co-worker approaches you alone and tells you that the boss has a real issue with your latest work efforts, don’t take their word for it. Call them on their claim by inviting them to go with you to speak with the boss right then. The manipulator is just trying to frustrate you or make you angry to make it easier for them to manipulate you.

If you call them on their lie, they will be less likely to try in the future. Don’t trust anything they say until you verify it with the individual or group they claim to speak for. You shouldn’t simply go along with what they say and pretend to believe it, either, because they’ll continue trying to cause problems.

4. “Hey, did you see the game last night?”

Never talk about personal things with a known sociopath. If they try to ask questions or get you speaking, quickly change the subject and move on.

Talk about neutral topics, including sports, politics, or the weather. Any other subject of conversation is better than what is going on with you or how you feel.

5. “I appreciate the thought, but no, thank you.”

If a manipulator offers you something, especially if it looks like a gift, politely decline it. They could use the “gift” as a hook to guilt you into doing things for them at a later date. Politely but firmly decline and move on.

6. “No.”

No is the most powerful word in any language. Say no when a sociopath tries to coerce you into doing something or giving them something. They’ll likely keep pushing, using guilt and other tactics to convince you to give in.

Stay firm, and remove yourself from the situation as soon as possible. It’s okay to say no, but it’s not okay for someone to push your boundaries.

7. “Let’s talk about you.”

They don’t want to talk about themselves and their emotions because it doesn’t get them any traction with you. Plus, they’re only acting when they show emotion, so it takes much more effort to talk about themselves.

Essentially, they want you to share so they can find an emotional handle to use against you. Make the conversation about the sociopath, even if they resist. Making it about them ensures that it’s not about you.

8. “I am having a great day; how about you?”

Sociopaths will ask you how you are doing to get at any issues you are having so they can use those emotions or difficulties against you. Please don’t give them anything they can use because it won’t turn out well for you.

Telling them your problems gives them the power they desperately want and leaves you feeling like a victim. Even if you are having a hard day, smile and turn the question back to their life.

9. “That is very hard to believe.”

Let them know you think they are full of it. A sociopath will tell outlandish stories to elicit an emotional response from you. They often try to trigger guilt, pity, or compassion. They want you to help them, give them something, or do something for them.

Manipulators are great at spinning convincing tales of woe. Don’t believe them, and make sure they know you don’t trust them. When you let them know, they will be less likely to try that method in the future.

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Final Thoughts on Dealing with a Sociopath

Manipulative people are sometimes hard to identify, so make sure you know what to look for. When you recognize a sociopath, you can do things to protect yourself and say the right things to get them off your back.

It’s not easy dealing with a manipulator, so use these tips to help you out. It’s best to avoid them, but it’s not always possible. Speak up for yourself so that they know you won’t fall for their tricks.

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