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11 Signs You’ve Met a Love From a Past Life

Have you ever felt overwhelming familiarity and joy upon meeting someone? You may have just connected with the spirit of a partner from a past life.

Meeting someone from a past life can feel overwhelming but in a good way. More times than not, meeting someone from a past life, especially a soulmate, means you have an essential mission to complete with them during your time here on Earth.

11 Signs You’ve Met a Partner From A Past Life

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1. They feel like home to you.

You finally feel understood fully and completely. You feel like you can be your goofball self around them, and they won’t judge you. In fact, they’ll embrace and accept you unconditionally. You feel totally comforted and completely looking into their eyes. You feel the same with them like you have connected with someone who knows your soul to the core.

2. Your emotions run wild when you meet them.

The person you meet draws up a wellspring of emotions within you. You can’t place it precisely, but something about the encounter felt incredibly powerful and life-changing. You feel you haven’t seen them in ages, and have suddenly crossed paths in such a surprising way. You know that you never want to let this person go when you see them again.

3. You have past life memories together.

You don’t know how or why, but you both share memories of past lives together. You might recall living in the same place, having the same occupation, or crossing paths along travels in a foreign country. You just intuitively know and remember these things, and the memories have carried over into all the lives you have shared with this person.

4. You share everything with them.

You feel that you can spill everything from your soul, unabashedly and fully, and they won’t judge you. You’ve never felt so heard and understood by someone before; they hang onto your every word, and you feel important and listened to. They make you feel comfortable baring your soul, so you do, and have never felt so alive.

5. You lose track of time with them.

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You forget about the reality around them – time doesn’t mean anything when you have them at your side. Upon meeting them again, you two might spontaneously decide to catch up, and before you know it, five hours have passed. You feel so in tune and engaged with them that you easily lose track of time, space, and all of reality.

6. You feel connected, even in different places.

Even during your time apart, you feel like you have a strong connection with this person. You may have thought about them before, or seen them in a dream. You knew exactly what they looked like without ever meeting them before in this lifetime, and knew you would cross paths with them someday. Destiny decided that you two would come together again, and you heard the call long before you and your soulmate actually met.

7. You have an instant connection.

You may have felt misunderstood and alone for most of your life, but meeting them erases all those painful memories. You have an unbreakable bond with them that feels more powerful than anything you’ve felt before, and you can talk and be with them effortlessly.

Psychic Michele Knight says about past life connections: “We’ve all been in the situation where we’ve met someone new but have this immediate and deep connection – sometimes to the point of being able to anticipate what they are going to say next – or feeling as if they’ve been in our life forever. Often this can mean they have been in a spiritual sense as this kind of ‘instant karma’ we feel with certain people is exactly that. A karmic, past life connection and the level of comfort and feeling we already ‘know’ someone is merely our shared history catching up with us and playing out in this lifetime.”

8. You can communicate with them telepathically.

You may recall messages they sent you before you reconnected; this will explain why you have such a strong connection with them. Your hearts and souls have become intertwined due to your cosmic relationship. You have traveled to many places together, some in this galaxy and some very far away. No matter where you go, you can hear each other and know exactly what one another is thinking.

You may notice things like them saying something as you were thinking about it, or finishing each other’s sentences often.

9. You have a deep spiritual connection.

Your connection with them goes much deeper than just the surface; while you two have a solid physical connection, you also share the same views spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. You two balance each other out, and feel comfortable expressing yourself in all aspects and realms. You connect on a very deep level, and “get” one another. You can talk for hours, or not talk at all but still understand each other. Just sitting beside them, you feel this unbreakable bond.

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10. You have never had a connection so powerful before.

You can’t recall anything that ever felt like this before. You feel in awe of their presence, so moved by their existence. It shakes you to the core, and you never want to stay the same after meeting them. Your soulmate makes you a better person, and not everyone possesses the power to bring about such a change.

11. They make you feel more like yourself.

Your soulmate should lift you up, not drag you down. Upon meeting them, you realize you feel more alive, vibrant, and full. All the empty spaces fill with light, and you notice yourself becoming lighter in spirit, too. You somehow understand yourself better once you meet them, and feel like you’ve awoken after a long, deep slumber.

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A Simple 12 Word Text That Is Guaranteed To Improve Someone’s Day

You send text messages daily, and telling the important people in your life that you care about them is as easy as a simple 12-word text that is actually designed to help improve their day. 

A great conversation by text message can be a challenge to accomplish seeing as we rarely have time to write out our full thoughts and feelings. Instead, we abbreviate, shorten, and delete any unnecessary information when we type a text message response.

A Simple 12 Word Text That Is Guaranteed To Improve Someone’s Day

You stare at your phone screen waiting for a response from the person who you just texted, but nothing is coming through. You think to yourself ‘They must be busy’ but the lack of a reply leaves you wondering if something is wrong or how you can help. Without knowing, you’re at a loss to improve their day, or even to know if they need or want your help. In this article we will look at a simple 12-word text that will help you get a reply next time.

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The frustration of waiting for a text reply

Ever ask someone how they are doing by text message and just get a single word response like ‘fine’ or ‘OK?’ You aren’t alone; texting how we truly feel is difficult, just like it’s sometimes difficult to express ourselves verbally as well. You might tell anyone the same response, rather than taking the time to explaining your frustration at the bank today or whatever is on your mind.

Researchers working jointly from the Palo Alto Research Center in Palo Alto, California and St John’s Innovation Centre in Cambridge, United Kingdom looked at daily text message communication among teenagers. They say ‘Most of the single messages that were sent asked, either explicitly or implicitly, for a response. Some were conversational openers such as ‘Hi what are you doing?’ or ‘What’s up?’ Others took the form of explicit enquiries to the recipients such as ‘Did you have a good evening/weekend?’ Other messages that described events or activities also appeared to be implicit requests for responses.’

Unfortunately, many text messages went unanswered, which was frustrating for the sender of the message. The researchers say ‘One extreme example of a single (person) requesting a response was an SMS that (a participant) received which he summarized as ‘I’ve had a big fight and I don’t know what to do.” In this case, there was no answer, even though the person sending the text message was clearly having a moment of crisis. So how do we get people to respond to our text messages’

The simple 12 word text message guaranteed to improve someone’s day

The key to using an effectively worded text message that prompts people to respond is to make it like a game. In her book Reality is Broken, author and game researcher Jane McGonigal says that the way we word a simple text message can elicit a response from the people we care about and that will enable us to act to help them.

Getting people to pay attention is as simple as making a kind of game out of your text message. The 12 word text that McGonigal suggests we use is ‘How is your day going on a scale of one to ten?’ She says that this lets the person quickly respond with a single number. But it’s as though they are playing a game with us, which most people enjoy. It’s like they are seeing this 12-word text message as a game and they hope to get the answer right to the trivia question that you asked.

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After the person responds to you with a number, say ‘5’ for example, McGonigal says you then would ask ‘Is there anything I can do to help you to go from a 5 to a 6?’ or whatever the next highest number would be. In this way, you have a sense of how they are feeling, and you have also offered to help improve their day.

The person you are texting may not know how to communicate their needs and describe a way for you to help, but once you have a sense for how they feel, you can make suggestions that you are willing to give that will improve their mood, state of mind, spiritual or physical well-being.

Related article: What Do The Emojis You Use Reveal About Your Personality?

If you are offering help to someone you care about, remember to first make sure that your own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs are met. Giving to someone else without filling your own bucket first leaves you drained of energy and unable to give anymore.

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5 Signs of Poor Heart Health to Never Ignore

According to Dr. David Majdalani of the Cleveland Health Clinic, there are five symptoms of poor heart health that you should know. So seek immediate medical attention if you experience them.

Five Signs of Poor Heart Health Everyone Should Know

Watch for these red flags and seek advice from your doctor immediately.

1. Abnormal heart beat.

Also known in medical circles as an “arrhythmia”, and it does not necessarily mean your heart is beating too fast or too slow.

This could seem like a skipped beat, an additional beat, some kind of “fluttering”, “tachycardia” – beating too quickly, or “bradycardia” – beating too slowly. Or it may show no symptoms at all, being a “silent” arrhythmia. These could be serious or harmless, so it is best to err on the side of caution and visit your local doctor.

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Symptoms of an abnormal heartbeat, according to WebMD:

N.B. There could be no symptoms if it is a “silent” arrhythmia.

– Palpitations – skipping or additional beats, fluttering, or “flip-flops”.
– Pounding in the chest.
– Dizziness.
– Fainting.
– Shortness of breath.
– Chest pain or tightening.
– Feeling very tired – weakness or fatigue.

If you have an abnormal heart beat, stop:

– Doing certain activities that bring on the complaint more often.
– Smoking, if you do.
– Excessive drinking of alcohol. One drink per day for women, two per day for men.
– Excessive intake of caffeine.
– Taking cold and cough medicines containing stimulants. Always seek the advice of your physician to see which medications are optimal for you.

2. Chest pain.

In the words of the NHS in the United Kingdom, “chest pain can be caused by anything from muscle pain to a heart attack and should never be ignored.” However, it might not be the heart that is causing this discomfort. As well as the heart, the pain could be caused by the muscles in the affected area, lungs, gullet, nerves, or ribs, including the sternum. Types of chest pain, as stated on WebMD, include: sharp, dull, burning, aching, stabbing, or a tight crushing sensation.

Symptoms to watch out for in addition to chest pain:

– Dizziness, nausea, fast heart rate or breathing, confusion, grey complexion, or excessive sweating.
– Pain spreading to the jaw, left arm, or back.
– Sudden feeling of pressure or crushing under the breast bone.
– Extremely low blood pressure or heart rate.
– Shortness of breath.

Causes for heart-related chest pain:

– Coronary Artery Disease.
– Angina.
– Heart attack.
– Myocarditis, the same symptoms of a heart attack but without the blockage.
– Pericarditis.
– Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy.
– Mitral Valve Prolapse.
– Coronary Artery Dissection.

3. Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT).

This is caused by a blood clot in one or more deep veins. This has received media attention over the last decade or two thanks to the deaths of various people from DVT due to inactivity inside aircraft.

It is usually caused when you suffer from “certain medical conditions that affect how your blood clots”, according to Mayo Clinic. It adds that DVT “can also happen if you don’t move for a long time, such as after surgery, following an accident, or when you are confined to a hospital or nursing home bed.” It is known that DVT can also cause a pulmonary embolism, thanks to a free-running blood clot which goes straight to the lungs. A DVT and pulmonary embolism combo is known as venous thromboembolism (VTE).

As noted in the NHS in the UK, symptoms of DVT and pulmonary embolism are:

DVT:

– pain, swelling and tenderness in one of your legs (usually your calf)
– a heavy ache in the affected area
– warm skin in the area of the clot
– red skin, particularly at the back of your leg below the knee.
– DVT usually (although not always) affects one leg. The pain may be worse when you bend your foot upward towards your knee.

Pulmonary embolism:

If left untreated, about one in 10 people with a DVT will develop a pulmonary embolism. A pulmonary embolism is a very serious condition which causes:

– breathlessness, which may come on gradually or suddenly
– chest pain, which may become worse when you breathe in
– sudden collapse
– Both DVT and pulmonary embolism require urgent investigation and treatment.

Risk Factors:

Anyone can develop DVT, but it becomes more common over the age of 40. As well as age, there are also a number of other risk factors, including:

– having a history of DVT or pulmonary embolism
– having a family history of blood clots
– being inactive for long periods – such as after an operation or during a long journey
– blood vessel damage – a damaged blood vessel wall can result in the formation of a blood clot
– having certain conditions or treatments that cause your blood to clot more easily than normal – such as cancer (including chemotherapy and radiotherapy treatment), heart and lung disease, thrombophilia and Hughes syndrome
– being pregnant; your blood also clots more easily during pregnancy
– being overweight or obese
– The combined contraceptive pill and hormone replacement therapy (HRT) both contain the female hormone oestrogen, which causes the blood to clot more easily. If you’re taking either of these, your risk of developing DVT is slightly increased.

4. Heart attack.

It goes without saying, you must act immediately with this one. A “heart attack (also known as Myocardial infarction or MI), occurs when blood flow stops to a part of the heart causing damage to the heart muscle. The most common symptom is chest pain or discomfort which may travel into the shoulder, arm, back, neck, or jaw. Often it is in the center or left side of the chest and lasts for more than a few minutes. The discomfort may occasionally feel like heartburn. Other symptoms may include shortness of breath, nausea, feeling faint, a cold sweat, or feeling tired,” states Wikipedia.

However, the build-up of a heart attack “is normally gradual, over several minutes, and rarely instantaneous,” continues Wikipedia. The quicker you react to the onset of MI, the higher the chances of survival. Call emergency services immediately if you experience any of the mentioned symptoms.

5. Coronary heart disease, CHD.

Here are the causes of CHD, as described by NHS in the UK:

“Coronary heart disease is the term that describes what happens when your heart’s blood supply is blocked or interrupted by a build-up of fatty substances in the coronary arteries. Over time, the walls of your arteries can become furred up with fatty deposits. This process is known as atherosclerosis and the fatty deposits are called atheroma.

Atherosclerosis can be caused by lifestyle factors and other conditions, such as:

– smoking
– high cholesterol
– high blood pressure (hypertension)
– diabetes

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Five Actions to Avoid Poor Heart Health and Live a Healthier Lifestyle

Avoiding poor heart health is something you can start doing today. Your lifestyle choices today benefit your heart healthy in the future. Here are five practical ways to keep your heart healthy.

1 – Eat a healthy heart diet

Eating healthy means you don’t eat from just one food group, but your diet includes a full range of natural foods from all the food groups, such as

  • Whole grains-High in vitamins B and E.
  • Fruits and vegetables- High in fiber, vitamins, and minerals
  • Heathy fats-Olive oil and natural plant oils. This includes eating nuts and seeds.
  • Eat low salt- High sodium diet isn’t good for your heart. Too much salt increases your risk of high blood pressure.
  • Eat herbs and spices-Use these to flavor your food instead of salt or sugar

2 – Stay active

Regular exercise reduces your risk for a heart attack or heart disease. Exercise strengthens your heart, muscles, and bones. Staying active with exercise makes you feel happier and, depending upon the intensity of your exercise, it creates more neurons in your brain. It’s recommended that you do moderate exercise for at least 150 minutes a week. Some exercises you can do include

  • Running
  • Brisk walking
  • Cycling
  • Swimming
  • Jumping rope
  • Tennis
  • Dancing

Doing something is better than nothing. Don’t feel overwhelmed at first. Set realistic goals for yourself. Start small and build up the time and intensity you’re exercising.

3 – Manage stress

Stress is a normal part of life, but if your stress is over the top, you need to manage it to keep your heart healthy. Add these things to your life to help reduce your stress.

  • Exercise-Walk your dog, walk to your friend’s house instead of driving, take your kids on a hike.
  • Take breaks-Take a personal day once a month to destress and get recharged.
  • Slow down-Don’t allow busyness to rule your life.
  • Find a hobby-Find a hobby. Do you love painting? Knitting? Dancing?
  • Talk about your problems-Find a trusted friend to talk with about your problems.

4 – Know your cholesterol levels

Cholesterol is a fatty substance your body produces naturally. It’s also in foods. There are two types of cholesterol: good cholesterol (HDL) and bad cholesterol (LDL). Bad cholesterol builds up in your arteries, causing blockages that affect the blood flow to your heart. This puts you at risk for a heart attack or stroke. Eating too many “bad” fats found in fatty meats, pizza, pastries, or fried foods raises your cholesterol levels. Read labels on food packages and find healthy alternatives to avoid poor heart health.

5 – Regular Heart Health Check

Schedule a yearly check-up. Your health care provider will run tests to check your heart health. These include

  • Blood pressure check
  • Blood work to check your cholesterol levels
  • Medical history information

Be sure to tell your doctor if you have symptoms that could show heart problems such as chest pains, dizziness, or fatigue.

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Final Thoughts on Identifying the Signs of Poor Heart Health

Never ignore these five signs of poor heart health. Being aware of them could save your life. Taking care of your heart is something you can start doing right away. Healthy lifestyle choices such as regular exercise, eating natural, healthy foods, managing your stress, and regular check-ups will benefit your heart both today and in the future.

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Science Explains 5 Things That Happen To Your Body When You Try Cupping

When you learn about the benefits of cupping for improving your health, you will change your mind about it being an outdated and barbaric medical practice. Conversely, you may even decide to try it for yourself. When you think of medieval medical practices, you may think of leeches or depictions of cupping in historical movies. The doctor holds a flame briefly under a glass jar or cup before placing it on the back of a sick patient. Thus, they create a vacuum that then sucks the skin up into the glass jar.

The practice of cupping seems so contrary to our understanding of how modern medicine works that we find it hard to believe it can benefit our health. But modern medicine has proved just that; this ancient practice really can help heal the sick.

There are different types of cupping. However, the entire practice comes from the Traditional Chinese Medicinal practice of acupressure, which has proven therapeutic effects. This article examines the benefits of cupping based on scientific evidence. We will also explain the types of therapies that are available.

5 Ways Cupping Works To Improve Your Health

Cupping is not something you should ever try at home because of the potential risk of injury, infection, or doing more harm than good. The International Cupping Therapy Association (ICTA) has an international list of trained therapists who use extensive knowledge of anatomy and physiology to improve your health. You can find a practitioner worldwide through the link on their website.

Wet cupping therapy involves minor surface cuts to the skin, and the suction is only created by dry cupping. Both types of cupping work to improve your health, but most of the research has been on wet cupping’s effects. Wet cupping is used in traditional Asian and Arabic medicine and dates back thousands of years.

Cupping is simply applying suction to the skin surface to create negative pressure. The International Cupping Therapy Association says that cupping can improve your health if you suffer from several physical and mental health problems, including the common cold or flu, depression, arthritis, anxiety, sciatica, intestinal problems, muscle pain, and even cellulite and stretch marks.

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The ICTA lists these health benefits of cupping:

Here are some benefits of this ancient Eastern therapy.

  • Deep tissue stimulation
  • Relieves inflammation
  • Promotes the flow of lymphatic fluid to stimulate the immune system
  • Pulls blood supply to the skin
  • Stretches muscle and connective tissue
  • Encourages circulation
  • Loosens scar tissue adhesions
  • Stimulates the flow of Qi energy

Five Proven Benefits of Cupping Therapy:

1. Increases immune system function

In a review of an ancient cupping therapy technique called Al-hijamah, which is a wet cupping technique, Egyptian and Saudi Arabian researchers say that the therapy ‘may be a promising treatment for increasing immunity of human body, potentiating pharmacological effects of modern drugs and clearing blood from pathological substances causing and related to pathogenesis of many diseases.’ The research showed that cupping therapy helped increase immune system function by 156% when it was added to conventional pharmacological treatment. Without the drug therapy, cupping increased the immune system natural killer cell response by 133%.

2. Reduces chronic pain

The joint Egyptian and Saudi Arabian studies also found that chronic pain intensity reported by patients decreased after therapy. The amount of pain reported by patients seeking help decreased by almost 34% after one month of treatment with cupping, 40% after two months, and 59% after three months of therapy. This was true for people who have rheumatoid arthritis. Moreover, the benefits may also extend to other types of chronic pain.

3. Viral and bacterial illnesses defenses improve

Herpes, influenza, viral hepatitis, acne, dermatitis, and cellulitis are all health problems that can be improved by cupping therapy. The ways that the therapy improves health are complex because the treatment works on multiple bodily systems simultaneously. In the neurological system, neurotransmitters such as serotonin, dopamine, and endorphins are all released during therapy. In the immune system, temporary skin irritation activates the immune function. As a result, it increases interferons, tumor necrotizing factor, and lymphatic fluid flow.

4. Reduced rates of cardiovascular disease

Systolic hypertension, heart failure, vascular leg blood clots, myocardial ischemia and arrhythmia, and even myocardial infarction or heart attack instances were reduced by using cupping therapy as reported by the Egyptian-Arabian study.

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5. Decreased headaches

Headache and migraine pain can be so debilitating that people can miss work and have a financial impact due to the pain that they experience. People may also miss out on fun social activities and hobbies that they used to enjoy (pre-headache!). The good news is that the therapy improves the health of those dealing with headaches.

A joint research study between the Kermanshah University of Medical Sciences in Iran and the University of Alabama at Birmingham, USA studied wet cupping therapy as a remedy for headaches. They say that for patients who tried the therapy 3 times over a 28 day period, ‘headache severity decreased by 66% following wet-cupping treatment. Treated patients also experienced the equivalent of 12.6 fewer days of headache per month. We conclude that wet-cupping leads to clinical relevant benefits for primary care patients with headache.’

The Law of Dharma That Will Change Your Life

We are all aware of what karma is. It has been used quite a lot in the Western world in the 21st Century. However, karma only tells part of the story. Dharma is the other!

We must differentiate between dharma and karma in order to understand dharma better and how it works. Here are the definitions of dharma and karma, as explained by Difference Between:

Karma: refers to the actions that one does in relation to one’s dharma. In a sense, dharma could be seen as one’s lifelong task, and karma, the steps that one has to take to complete the task.

Dharma: refers to one’s duty in this life. Your dharma varies according to your class, your family, and the time of your life.

So, dharma is purpose – what you set out to do in life. It is the end goal, whereas karma is what you do to get to the end goal (or what you do not do).

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The Law of Dharma is the 7th and last law in Deepak Chopra’s Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. In the Law of Dharma, Deepak Chopra asks us to: “Seek your higher Self. Discover your unique talents. Ask yourself how you are best suited to serve humanity. Using your unique talents and serving others brings unlimited bliss and abundance.”

This law is the granddaddy of them all, for when we have understood fully and perfected it, all other laws are put in motion by the Universe and it feels like everything is falling into place. Chopra continues in Amber-Allen: “Every person is a never-ending project of the Universe.” The project belongs to the Universe but the path is yours. You decide the path to abundance and the Universe will make it happen.

The Law of Dharma That Will Change Your Life

Dharma and work

The easiest example of seeing dharma in action is through work and how people serve their clients and others that help to put money in your pocket. In the world of work, there is no such thing as a “bad job”, even for the most hated of professions, for example taxman, banker, lawyer, accountant, or dentist. These people serve in their job to put food on the table and keep the roof over their heads. They do not become bad people just because the job requires them to do unpopular things. Naturally, if one such person decides to do these unpopular things for their own gain (i.e. steal), this affects their karma in a negative way, which in turn affects how they reach their end goal – their dharma.

On the opposite side of the coin, if you have good motivation and good heart despite making many mistakes, you are practicing dharma, and automatically, you are engaging in virtuous activities. For the record, this is not a free pass for anyone who does not know how to do a job without the correct competency levels. In terms of difficulty within the professional realm, desiring work with no challenges is completely redundant. It is like asking for lemonade without water. The late Jim Rohn says it best when he suggests: “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”

Related article: 12 Laws of Karma That Will Change Your Life

Here is the million dollar question: “Do you know what your dharma is?”

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11 Behaviors In A Relationship That Reveal Untrue Love

You met that great person a few months ago, and everything on the surface seems swell. However, something in the back of your mind tells you that the oasis of love seems like a mirage, yet you cannot quite put your finger on it. Have you really found the sweet water of love amongst hundreds of square miles of dating desert? These red flags tell you what to look for in the grander scheme of things

11 Signs You Haven’t Found True Love Yet (Even If You Think You Have)

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1. They do not read your mind.

No, not like Mel Gibson in “What Women Want.” But how can anyone possibly enjoy a special relationship with a person who do not have those “you read my mind” moments every once in a while? Having these moments shows how strong a connection you both have, and the feeling when it happens is the ultimate in soulmates. It almost makes the intangible tangible. One look is all fireworks take to go off in your mind. Of course, it is not the be all and end all but not having this happen is not a good start.

2. There is zero chemistry.

We need physics to get to chemistry. Therefore, if your magnet of attraction is not functioning correctly, how can a chemical reaction occur in their brain? This applies even more so when you are in a relationship. No chemistry makes a relationship go stale and be lifeless. We only get a maximum of two years’ worth of chemistry from Mother Nature to start relationship between soulmates, after that we must put in the effort. However, people go on autopilot romantically because “we have them”. Unless you are a necrophiliac, this becomes a soulless relationship.

3. They never compliment you.

Mother Teresa once said, “there is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.” We want the people that we care about to feel great, do we not? The best way to do that is to compliment them. An example for the ladies: “You look beautiful in that pink dress.” And the fellas: “You are so amazing taking me to the theme park on your day off.” It is a little reminder that they are essential people in our lives. If that rarely happens, let alone wanting to bring you down a peg or two, you must ask yourself why.

4. You feel judgment instead of love on a consistent level.

“That cheese you are eating stinks more than your awful smelly feet. Put it away and take a shower.” Being judgemental is like cyanide for relationships, except the poison is gradual and it gnaws away at what you have with your beau/belle. Carolyn Hidalgo of Tiny Buddha agrees: “Many believe love is putting up with, sacrificing, tolerating, or suffering in silence thinking their commitment is proof of their love. This is not love.” Do you think that this constitutes a special relationship? Hidalgo adds: “Understanding, seeing, hearing, and accepting someone for who they are is love.” In other words, talking to your sweetheart and calmly conveying your dislikes can promote individuality within the two-person union. Mel Gibson is shouting, “Freedom!”

5. Your love seems to forget your existence.

Out of sight, out of mind? You should not be. They say relationships should be fifty-fifty, but does your squeeze put a hundred percent into their fifty? That text in the morning tells you you are in their thoughts. Bringing soup or going to the pharmacy for you when you are unwell implies that they are also there in the bad times. Remembering the great time you both had at the beach and laughing about how they beat you at the game you both made up (you let them win, of course!). These are just three examples of how much you mean to them. It is all about how high you are in their list of priorities.

6. You feel the need to retype text messages.

Does it feel like you are writing a Pulitzer Prize novel texting your honey bunny something that usually takes five seconds? Type, delete, and start over. Rinse, wash, repeat. Worrying about what to say in a text should worry you and set off alarm bells in your head. Soulmates text each other, and if the correct message is not conveyed, they explain themselves.

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7. You are finding yourself forever explaining their actions.

Friends and family mention something to you about their behavior and you explain why, making you feel like you are caught in the middle. Kim Quindlen of the Thought Catalog writes: “You make excuses for why they treat you the way they do. You have to reassure your loved ones that you’re with the right person, instead of them being able to see it themselves from the way you two behave around each other and the way your partner treats you.” It does not matter whether their behavior caused tension, anger, confusion, perplexity, or just plain old curiosity, soulmates do not need to do this on behalf of their other half.

8. No work on the relationship on their part.

Relationships are a one-man tango, said no-one ever. There is no hundred percent in their fifty shares of the relationship, not even in the smaller stuff. “You invite them to come out to trivia with your friends, or to go to your family’s house for dinner. Sometimes they come and sometimes they don’t, but they never seem too excited about it,” says Quindlen.

Soulmates jump at the chance to spend quality time with you and the people you hold dear. If that is not the case, you will no doubt also experience the following, as Quindlen informs: “And they never make much of an effort to incorporate you into their life either. You know very little about their friends and family, even though you’d like to.” You are not invited to the family home where Trevor or Trixie grew up or hang out with the crazy crew on a Saturday night, keeping you at arm’s length. Thus leading to Quindlen’s conclusion: “And sometimes, it feels as though you’re leading two separate lives that barely even overlap one another.”

9. They are not happy to see you.

This one is self-explanatory, but seeing as though we love our readers… You are in a relationship because the other person makes you feel good in each other’s company. No one really believes the rom-com movie hype of beaming with happiness unless you return from touring Iraq. No matter the differences or physical distances, they should always be happy to see you, and vice versa. If not, distances will not just be physical. You will feel miles away from your love dove even though they are right next to you. Is that a soulmate to you? Hint: Check the Cambridge Dictionary definition above.

10. No apparent interest in the future as a couple.

Why are you in a committed relationship if there is no long-term future? It is like having no mozzarella cheese on a pizza or no Jolly Roger flag on a pirate ship. We are not discussing marriage, at least not yet, but having and pursuing the same life goals together. Of course, a soulmate will talk about the future at length, what they want and how they intend to get it – whatever “it” is. If this is not happening, there is no way that they can be your soul-matey. Arrrrrrrr, me hearties!

11. There is an uneasy sense of insecurity within the relationship.

The first two words that spring to mind are: “on” and “edge”. That is what insecurity feels like in a relationship. You do not want to set them off, do you? You are afraid of what Trevor or Trixie might think if you say they are wrong or contradict them. With a soulmate, everything seems plain sailing. You talk with candour, respecting each other’s points to of view. Naturally, one can get upset or angry with opinions, but understanding soon follows.

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Final Thoughts on Finding a Genuine Love Relationship

As True Love Dates’ Debra Fileta points out, “Remember, you have the power to teach people how they can and can’t treat you.” If you do not like something, you either change it or compromise by interacting with the other relationship faction. Only you will know what to do if you find these signs, but if you are stuck, look no further than the Cambridge Dictionary’s definition of a soulmate. Good luck, mate!

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