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9 Behaviors Self-Respecting People Never Tolerate

Many of us have realized that we must alter our lives drastically during these times of grand transformation. Self-respecting people cannot accept complacency. These times call for bravery, honesty, and transparency to transform into our highest selves. We must drop anything that no longer feels good in our souls and honor our true selves. If you genuinely respect and love yourself, you will not tolerate any of the following toxic behaviors.

9 Behaviors No Self-Respecting Person Should Ever Tolerate

Do you engage in any of these behaviors?

1. People Pleasing

You must do what makes you happy and go with your gut feeling. Forget trying to convince others; they will only try to tear you down most of the time, and give you 1,000 reasons why you shouldn’t follow your heart. You have to rise above the opinions of others, and instead do what feels right to you. Any self-respecting person values their own opinion over others.

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2. A Negative View of Themselves

“Be mindful of your self-talk; it’s a conversation with the universe.” – David James Lees

If you want your reality to look more positive and vibrant, your thoughts must align with what you want your world to look like. The world will look gray and depressing if you have a negative view of yourself. However, if you have a positive relationship with yourself, you will see endless opportunities and bliss wherever you look. Self-respecting people love and nourish themselves with positive thoughts, relationships, careers, and goals.

3. Remaining Stagnant

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.” – Unknown

If you look around, the world seems pretty scary, and so many people decide to remain in their safety net as long as possible to avoid anything uncomfortable. However, you can’t grow if you don’t try new things. Self-respecting people love to push the boundaries and see how much they can stretch their limits to keep evolving as a person.

4. Trying to Fit In

Again, you can’t grow and learn if you only care about following the herd. To thrive in this world, you must carve your path and learn to trust your instincts, not the tired, worn-out opinions of others. Learn to feel comfortable in your skin and trust your intuition; you will see a new world open up for you.

5. Working at A Soul-Sucking Job

Unfortunately, most people work at jobs that hate to pay the bills. However, you don’t have to become a statistic; you can leave that job that drains you and look for something else that will truly fulfill your soul. Self-respecting people dig deep to uncover what their soul wants, then follow that calling unabashedly. Of course, sometimes you have to tough it out until you find something better, but our point remains that anyone who loves and respects themselves will ultimately leave a job that doesn’t support their mental and emotional well-being.

6. Neglecting Your Health

Feeling good starts and ends with you; no one else can take charge of your health. If you don’t feel mentally, physically, or emotionally, examine your life to see where you can change.

Change doesn’t happen overnight, but it does happen gradually with actionable steps. Any self-respecting person puts their health first because they know that without this, they can’t enjoy life to the fullest and bring their best selves to the table.

7. Overly Controlling Relationships

If you have friends or a partner who tries to dictate every aspect of your life, then this should definitely signal the alarm bells in your head. You should never tolerate someone who wants to manipulate and control your relationship. According to an article on toxic relationships, “Toxic relationships can exist in any kind of relationship, and they are bad for your health..”

You deserve friendships and relationships that will enhance your well-being and challenge you to grow and learn. Simply put, if anyone in your life brings you down more than they raise you up, then you need to let them go. Self-respecting people don’t allow anyone but themselves to control their lives, period. Even experts agree–being a doormat can be harmful to a person’s mental health.

8. Being Lazy

In the age of technology, many of us have allowed our smartphones, tablets and computers to entertain us the majority of the time. We’ve lost our motivation because it seems easier to sit in front of a screen than actually go out in the real world to accomplish things. However, any self-respecting person will not allow themselves to become complacent; they continue to work hard toward their goals, and know how to use self-control and discipline to their advantage.

self respect9. Not Choosing Happiness

Too many people settle for less than what they deserve in the world today, simply because they don’t value themselves highly enough, or they feel too comfortable in their current situation to make changes. However, any self-respecting person always chooses what makes them the happiest, regardless of what they have to do to get there. They don’t place any limits on their lives, because they know that magic indeed does exist in this world, despite what we’ve been led to believe.

If you don’t do what makes you happy, you won’t have much of a soul left at the end of your life. To rise above and set your soul on fire, you must leave behind anything that doesn’t enrich your life, and choose things that enhance it. This goes for people, jobs, relationships, where you live, diet, workout routines, and everything in between. We came here to thrive, not just survive, so remember this the next time you feel unhappy.

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Get Ready For A Major Shift, New Moon in Leo August 2nd

The new phase of the moon brings many exciting things for us as it rises in the sign of Leo on August 2nd, 2016 and this article will tell you what you need to know about this time in your life. Leo is one of the most energetic signs in the zodiac, so this is the type of energy that you can expect to come your way as we finish out the last scorching month of summer.

Astrology and the science of astronomy used to be linked as one philosophy, but modern scientific discoveries separated the two. The movements of the planets are observable, measurable scientific phenomena, but the influences we feel on our lives are less measurable. However, science has found that the moon can affect us in significant ways.

Researchers at the University of Michigan studying the effects of the new moon on the stock market found that consistently across 48 countries, stock returns are lower on days of the full moon and higher on days around the new moon on the level of 3 to 5% per annum. This effect is true even when controlling for stock market volatility and trading volumes.

A Polish research study found that the moon affects human behavior in many other ways. They say ‘Admittance to hospitals and emergency units because of various causes (cardiovascular and acute coronary events, variceal hemorrhage, diarrhea, urinary retention) correlated with moon phases. In addition, other events associated with human behavior, such as traffic accidents, crimes, and suicides, appeared to be influenced by the lunar cycle.’ The researchers also mention that more women tend to ovulate during the dark phase of the moon than at other times.

What You Need To Know About The New Moon In Leo on August 2nd 2016

You don’t have to be a Leo to appreciate the changes that are coming. Leo will experience a special surge, more so than the other astrological signs. Every zodiac sign will need to know about monthly energy shifts and what the moon rising in the sign of Leo means for them.

What you need to know about the energy of the new moon

As a new moon rises in any zodiac sign, the astrological energies that you encounter will a type of rebirth where new things are beginning for you. The moon is starting new and is practically undetectable in the sky as it is coming out of it’s dark phase where the Earth’s shadow passes across its face.

The light of the sun cannot reach the surface of the moon in it’s current position, but as it begins to shift in the next day or two, you will begin to see the crescent moon with its points to the left as the sun sets in the west. The crescent will grow until the moon reaches first quarter on August 10th when it will look about half full.

Forward movement and progress is going to be made this month as a time of renewed energy comes to you. Think of the new moon as a time of fresh starts for everyone. We all get a clean slate to start over with each month, and the new moon in Leo is your chance to clear away any worries about the past or the future and focus on the moment that you are in and what you can act on now.

What you need to know about the moon in Leo

Creativity is at an all time high now. Even if you have not summoned your artistic talents in the past, you may feel the urge to doodle, to write creatively or to play music on an instrument. Maybe dancing is a creative outlet for you.

Any action that you take to make something that wasn’t there before is an act of creativity. Use the energy of the new moon in Leo to push yourself forward and see the accomplishment of something that you didn’t know was possible before.

With the new moon in Leo on August 2nd, 2016, your health should also be improving at this time. This might be an improvement in your physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual health that is affected. Emotionally, you are moving into a more positive time.

Leo is fun to be around and this beginning phase of the new moon is the start of something fun for you. You need to know that having a Leo for a friend right now will make this an even more entertaining time for you.

What Leo needs to know about the new moon in Leo on August 2nd

Leo, this could be the moment you have been waiting for. When the moon is in your sign, you feel the influences of all of the above exciting changes times ten. You are usually powerful and a force to be reckoned with, but there’s almost literally no stopping you now. Leo has always has a motto of ‘Lead, follow, or get out of the way’ but this month it may be a warning to others to get out of your way.

Related article: 9 Things You Need To Do If You Love A Leo

Obstacles are no match for Leo at this time of the year, and you obliterate anything that might hold you back. In fact, you’re likely to break down so many barriers that you clear a path for people who can follow in your mighty paw prints as you lead the pack.

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What Do Your Fingernails Reveal About Your Personality?

Some of our most minor personal habits, like how we keep our fingernails trimmed, our finger length, or even the natural shape of our fingernails, can reveal more than you might guess. Indeed, these trait reveal much about our unique, individual personality traits. In this article, we will look at some of the reasons our fingernails can reveal our inner personality and what our fingernails say about us.

What Do Your Fingernails Reveal About Your Personality?

In grade school, it used to be a joke that you would ask someone to look at their fingernails. If they turned their hand with their fingernails pointing toward themselves with their hand curled, it meant they were feminine. But if they looked at their hand with their nails pointing toward the other person, it meant they were masculine. Boys tried to catch girls doing this the ‘wrong’ way for their gender and vice versa and then used that as another reason to tease. Unacceptable bullying and nonsense aside, it turns out that fingers may have more in common with our masculinity or femininity than you might think.

Let’s research finger length, fingernail shape, and what it means for our personalities.

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Finger length and masculine or feminine personality traits

Research by the Department of Psychology at the University of Alberta, Canada, studied finger length in men and its correlation to mood. The researchers say that there is an apparent reason for finger length being studied because ‘Finger length ratio (index to ring finger) is a sexually dimorphic trait found in various species ranging from humans and mice to zebra finches.’

The research shows that, on average, males have a relatively shorter index finger compared to their ring than females do. The theory is that the finger length ratios of the index finger and ring fingers are related to the amount of estrogen or testosterone that a baby receives in the womb during development.

The Canadian study also revealed a connection between depression in men and the length of their fingers. They found that a more ‘feminine’ ratio of finger length was related to depression in men. Other studies have found a connection between a shorter index finger in men and ADHD symptoms, alcohol dependency, autism, aggressiveness, leadership, a tendency to be a psychopath, and other traits.

For women, a shorter index finger indicates an increased risk of anorexia and assertiveness. A more extended ring finger than an index finger for women indicates elevated bulimia risk, neurotic behavior, psychopathic behavior, visual memory, and verbal skills.
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What your fingernail shape reveals about your personality

A study from the Dermatology Division of the Department of Medicine at the University College Hospital in Ibadan, Nigeria, says the following about fingernail shapes and personality traits:

  • Fan-shaped or Triangle shaped with the point down (wider at the tip). Fan-shaped nails with a narrow base that widens towards the top of the finger (like a fan) may reveal an anxious or high-strung personality.
  • Almond or Triangle point up (wider at base). Fingernails that are wide at the base and narrower at the tip might indicate a gentle, creative, more refined, and emotionally sensitive personality.
  • Broad rectangle. A fingernail that is wider than it is long is associated with a short temper. These broad and square fingernails reveal an ‘easy going, calm, honest, patient, upright, balanced and broad-minded person.’
  • Tall rectangle. Long fingernails could mean the character will be prone to selfishness and narrow-mindedness.
  • Square. Square fingernails are relatively equal in length and width. People with square fingernails reveal a person who can be ‘tight-fisted, mean, and stingy.’ This shape of fingernails also reveals a tendency towards impatience and quick thinking, and the shorter the fingernails, the more critical the personality.
  • Oval or round. This shape tends to be the most positive, open-minded, and happy. A rounded fingernail shape is creative, independent, and a quick learner.
  • C-shaped curving down. This fingernail shape indicates a personality that is hard working and has had to overcome an obstacle in the past. This fingernail shape reveals a person who is perseverant and courageous.

Anatomy of our nails

What we call our fingernail is anatomically the nail plate. The nail plate is made of the protein keratin produced by the nail matrix near the cuticle of the fingernail.

The part of the fingernail attached to the nail bed is pink because we can see the blood vessels of the nail bed. The free edge of the fingernail is white in color as the fingernail grows beyond the nail plate.

According to Bianca Maria Piraccini, author of Nail Disorders: A Practical Guide to Diagnosis and Management, on average, fingernails grow about three millimeters per month. Nail growth slows as we age and is fastest in early adulthood.

Fingernails and personality disorders

Excessive filing, biting, or picking at your fingernails can cause hand health problems. Often, these behaviors may be an outlet for extreme stress for a person. Nail-biting is a habit that children often outgrow by their early adulthood. So continuing to chew your nails may be a sign that anxiety or stress is becoming overwhelming to you.  In extreme cases, nail-biting can become an obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. In fact, thoughts of nail-biting and needing to chew them interfere with daily activities or result in a negative mood.

How Do You Show Anger According To Your Zodiac Sign?

Everyone gets angry from time to time; we as humans can’t help but lose our temper or patience every once in a while. Maybe certain things get under your skin, like when someone mentions a touchy subject or teases you about something that you feel embarrassed or hurt about. Anger can get the best of you if you don’t know how to reign it in, however, and each zodiac sign will show anger a bit differently.

Below, we’ll go into more detail about how every sign in the zodiac deals with anger, and hopefully this can help you to manage any anger issues you might have and learn to deal with the situation in a more calm manner. We will also talk about which aspects of anger each sign needs to work on in order to become their best selves.

How Each Zodiac Sign Expresses Anger

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Aries

As one of the three fire signs, Aries can burn you if you don’t know how to deal with them. They have a short fuse and anger quite quickly depending on the situation. They are passionate about life and get frustrated when someone or something stands in their way. While Aries possesses many great qualities, their dark side can come into play when things don’t go their way.

While they don’t usually provoke people, others can easily get under their skin or rub them the wrong way. They are stubborn, and when they get the short end of the stick in life, they tend not to take things very well. Others may feel like they have to walk on eggshells around them to keep them from erupting into a fiery volcano, as an Aries will definitely let you have it if you hurt or anger them.

However, even if they get angry quickly, they will soon forget what made them mad in the first place. They are the type to forgive and forget, so don’t worry too much if you get on their wrong side. They’ll come back around soon enough.

Taurus Zodiac Sign

While Taurus doesn’t anger easily, you’d better watch out if you do happen to make them mad – they can become a bit passive-aggressive and shut you out if you hurt them badly enough. They don’t like to admit it when someone hurts them, so you might find it difficult even to tell if you’ve hurt them in the first place. However, if they give you the silent treatment, you will know that you upset them. They especially get angry when someone lies, cheats, or betrays them in some way. Most of the time, Taureans keep an even keel and don’t let much bother them.

When they get angry, let them have their alone time, as they need space to sort out the issues in their head. This zodiac sign is fiercely stubborn and independent, so they like to go off alone when life serves them a bad hand.

They will talk things out with you when they feel ready, but let them thoroughly get out what they need to, as they usually don’t talk much. So, when angered, they will have much to say and need your full attention.

Don’t expect everything to be peachy keen, however, as a Taurus usually holds grudges and finds it hard to get close to someone on the same level after they’ve betrayed them in the past.

Gemini

Gemini, or The Twins, can make your head spin if you don’t know how to deal with them or what to expect. They will say one thing and then do another, or change their mind in a heartbeat about specific issues. To say the least, Geminis can be almost impossible to understand or keep up with sometimes.

As far as their anger, though, most Gemini zodiac signs do not have a hot temper. If something makes them mad, they’ll express themselves. But they won’t dwell on it for too long. Geminis have a zest for life, and don’t want to spend too much time letting things get under their skin.

Geminis can talk your ear off. So if something makes them REALLY mad, rest assured you will hear about it for a while.

Geminis don’t like people telling them what to do or trying to control them, so you’ll probably stay on their good side if you don’t do these things.

Cancer Zodiac Sign

Cancers have a charming, compassionate, gentle nature. However, some people like to take advantage of this, which makes them feel unappreciated and taken for granted. If you get on their wrong side, don’t expect a response; you’ll have to go to them if you want to remain in contact.

They are highly passive-aggressive, so if you make them mad, don’t expect them to tell you. If you don’t have a high level of intuition and can’t read body language well, then dealing with Cancer will not be a cakewalk for you.

Cancers might get hurt easily, but they don’t usually go into recluse mode over every little thing. If you make them mad, they might try to hide their feelings until they eventually blow up. So, if you know a Cancer, check up on them occasionally and ask if they need anything to get off their chest. This will help to avoid any future arguments or misunderstandings.

If you care about them, go after them. They don’t want to make all the effort when you’ve made them upset in the first place, so if you want to continue your relationship, make sure you show them how much you really care.

Cancers have high standards for others since they show so much love and loyalty to their loved ones and expect the same things from those they love. If you hurt them, they’ll forgive you eventually, but it won’t happen overnight.

Leo

Leos have a hot temper, and as a fire sign, what else would you expect? However, they won’t play any mind games with you – if you anger them, they will certainly let you know.

They have the temper of a child. So don’t expect them to hash things out in a mature manner. They might throw things, yell, roll around on the floor, or do anything else that will cause a scene to get your attention. They might even call you names or say things they don’t mean. But don’t take it to heart; they must express their feelings.

Like a true fire sign, they will burn themselves out quite quickly, and will get over the issue just as fast as it happened. So, don’t worry too much if you anger them – they will not hold a grudge for very long.

Virgo Zodiac Sign

Virgos definitely win the award for “Most Patient Sign.” They probably have the least anger out of all the signs, and take a very long time to show their feelings. Virgos don’t do well with emotions, even their own, so don’t expect them to tell you if you made them angry. They’ll probably keep it to themselves and get over it eventually. However, if you hurt them badly enough, you may have lost a good friend, as they don’t forgive easily.

Virgos, like Cancers, become passive-aggressive when angry. They sulk, go into hiding, and ignore you as best as possible. They don’t like confrontation and avoid it like the plague. They’d rather walk away to deal with their anger than let it all out on you, as they know what a burden that can feel like.

Because of their calm disposition, people come to them to vent and get angry all the time, so they would rather not let anyone else deal with their heavy emotions.

A Virgo might forgive you if you hurt them, but they won’t forget. If you break their trust, don’t expect to gain it back easily.

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Libra

Libras, as peacekeepers, try to avoid anger at all costs. They enjoy keeping balance in their lives and relationships, and anger doesn’t fit well into their overall goals in life. They’d rather keep everything inside to avoid conflict, even if something really upsets them. They also believe in justice and fairness, so they will likely give you a second chance if you really screw up.

They don’t like people to know it, but they’re sensitive. Because of this, many things can get under their skin, they choose to keep it to themselves most of the time.

Libras would instead run away from confrontation than face it, so if you’ve made them mad, don’t expect them to make the first move. It can be tough to know if you’ve angered a Libra, but if you don’t hear from them for a few days, that might be the only hint you really need.

They do hold grudges, though, and will use past mistakes against you in future arguments.

Scorpio Zodiac Sign

If you anger a Scorpio, watch for their body language before anything else. Of course, they won’t tell you they’re upset because what self-respecting Scorpio would ever admit something that would make them so vulnerable? However, their eyes, facial expressions, and other subtle signs will pretty easily give it away.

However, you do not want to get on their bad side, as Scorpios love to get revenge. They will plot against you if you do something to hurt them, and will not ever let you live it down. If they seem quiet, this should worry you, because they likely have a grand scheme in their heads of how they will get back at you.

However, if they do get angry, give them their space, because they don’t want you suffocating them as they try to cool down. They might try to come to talk to you if they feel like it. It is a toss-up with them, as sometimes they can be passive-aggressive and expect you to make the first move.

They will come to you in their own time if this is the path they choose. Don’t try to push them, as this will only anger this zodiac sign more.

Sagittarius

As you might have expected, this fire sign will let you have it if you make them angry. They don’t tolerate disloyalty or betrayal very well, and you won’t hear the end of it if you happen to make them mad. You will probably want to walk away quickly to give them some space, as their behavior will resemble a bomb detonating.

Sagittarius’ loves to get sarcastic if you’ve made them mad, so look for this as one of the surefire signs of anger. However, most Sagittarians feel embarrassed of their hot temper, and try to hold it in as much as possible so no one will see them lose their cool.

Also, it can take quite a while for them to calm down, so they’d rather skip the whole fiasco altogether. On the other hand, them sometimes don’t even know if they’ve created drama out of nothing, as they love to analyze situations and solve problems. Sometimes, you might find them creating problems out of boredom, so watch out for this behavior.

Capricorn

Capricorns, as another Earth sign on the zodiac, usually don’t get angry too much. They would rather keep the peace and stay calm than waste their energy on getting angry. However, when they do get mad, you’d better run for the hills.

You will know when they feel angry because since they don’t get this way often, they’ve probably stored up months of tension and stress that they haven’t let out yet. So, when they finally do break, run for cover. You don’t want to be the one that makes them mad, as they don’t forgive easily. They will yell and make a big scene when they express their emotions, but they won’t want the spotlight for long.

Capricorns have high standards for others, so they are disappointed and angry when you don’t meet them. You’ll stay on their good side as long as you meet their rigid moral code.

Aquarius Zodiac Sign

Aquarians love a good debate and thought-provoking conversation but can’t stand arguments. If you’ve angered them, don’t expect them to stick around. Instead, They’d go into nature or go for a long drive rather than sit there and stew in their emotions.

However, if they must deal with the situation right then, they’ll do so with finesse and class. They don’t like showing people their emotions, so you’ll likely get a smooth-talking, even-keeled, composed Aquarius in any situation. You might hear about it later once they’ve had the space to deal with their genuine emotions, but they most certainly will keep to themselves during a stressful situation.

Sometimes, they might write you off without ever giving you notice, however. They will try to repair a long-term relationship, but they probably won’t waste their time if it doesn’t mean much to them.

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Pisces

As a water sign, Pisces’ emotions run deep. As such, they tend to get angry over nothing sometimes, but they likely won’t let you know. They don’t like arguing and will avoid it at all costs. So, like some of the other signs, this zodiac sign will bottle up their emotions until the end of time, for both yours and their sake.

Pisces will likely go off on their own to calm down, then stick around and hash things out. They might throw things, cry, and scream to feel better, or blast some angry metal music to help release their emotions.

Pisces can hold a grudge, but it all depends on the situation. If you mean a lot to them, they will likely come around and sit down with you to talk things through.

15 Habits That Create A Grateful Person

Most of us have known grateful people and people who are less than grateful for the things in their lives.

Meeting those polar personalities can make you wonder what daily habits make you grateful in the first place? It also might make you think, “How can I avoid a lack of gratitude?” No one wants to be bitter, angry, resentful, or lonely, but a pattern of harmful habits is what creates that type of personality.

The good news is that we can unlearn bad habits and replace them with good ones to be more grateful for the things we have each day. Let’s look at some of the positive behaviors you can incorporate to avoid an “attitude of ingratitude.”

These Habits, Practiced Often Can Make You A More Grateful Person

A habit is something that you repeatedly spend time doing, and breaking them can be tricky. It is easier to add another new practice than to eliminate a bad one, so start building habits of gratitude right away. Eventually, old negative habits will disappear as they are replaced by the good feelings that grateful practices give you.

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1 – Grateful People Accept Responsibility for Their Happiness

You are only a victim if you let yourself be victimized. If you are in a situation that makes you unhappy, recognize that you have the power to move, act, and stand up for yourself. Say to yourself, ‘If I am unhappy, I can choose to go away from this person or situation.’

If you choose to stay with someone who makes you unhappy or in a place that makes you sad, you have decided that this is what is best for you right now. Deciding that not acting is what is best for you is like saying that you are grateful for the experience of knowing what you dislike so that you know better what you do like and can choose to find more of that in the future.

2 – Grateful People Turn Vulnerability Into Strength

We all have strengths and weaknesses about our personalities. Of course, we want to build on our strengths and learn from our shortcomings but realize what a gift your vulnerabilities are.

Brene Brown writes in her book:

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”

Admit your faults to others and ask for help to improve on them. Let them see that you are not perfect but that you know how to use your imperfections to become a better person. You would never blame someone else for your flaws because you wouldn’t be the complete person you are today without them.

3 – Make Meaningful Connections With Other People

Gratitude is an attitude of being thankful for the life experiences that you have received and the lessons learned from them. Sharing these experiences with others helps us solidify the lessons we have received and hear the life lessons that others have received.

Researchers studying gratitude found that it was associated with positive mood, good social connections, well-being, and spiritual connectedness. Brene Brown says ‘I define connection as the energy between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.’

4 – Grateful People Serve the Community

A hospital, a homeless shelter, a community food bank; there are opportunities for you to experience what it is like to live with far less than you now have and everything that should make you grateful. Seeing the disparity between what you have and what others live without is one way to avoid the habits that make people ungrateful.

5 – Keep a Log of Whey They Are Grateful

Researchers looked at the effect of a grateful outlook on psychological and physical well-being. They found that a conscious focus on blessings by writing them down may have emotional and interpersonal benefits. Participants were told, ‘There are many things in our lives, both large and small, that we might be grateful about. Think back over the past week and write down on the lines below up to five things in your life that you are grateful or thankful for.

Participants in the study gave the following examples of gratitude-inducing experiences:

  • waking up this morning
  • the generosity of friends
  • to God for giving me determination
  • for wonderful parents
  • to the Lord for just another day
  • to the Rolling Stones

As another example of how you might do this at home, the author’s successful sister keeps a gratitude jar on her counter and makes a habit of writing several things she is grateful for each day on slips of paper. The jar is opened the next New Year’s Day and she spends time celebrating the previous year’s blessings.

6 – Realize Good Things Don’t Always Happen to Good People

In a perfect world, those who do good would have good things happen to them. However, life isn’t always fair. It would help if you learned to stop thinking that you’re owed anything, as it can help to change your attitude.

Consider the people suffering from cancer or other major illness and those who have been through hurricanes, tornadoes, and other acts of God. These unsuspecting people were victims of circumstance. The Bible states in Matthew 5:45 that it rains on the just and the unjust, which means time and chance happen to everyone.

Learn to be grateful for your blessings, that you were spared from some heartache, and don’t think the Universe owes you a thing. When you develop this mindset, your gratitude will increase.

7 – Don’t Set Preconditions to Your Happiness

It’s a trap to think that you will be happy and content if you get this new job or an excellent new partner. Why do so many people put conditions on their happiness? You must understand that true bliss comes from within, not from external successes.

A gracious person doesn’t try to control every aspect of their lives, as they realize that it’s just not possible.

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8 – Grateful People Realize There’s No Rainbow Without the Rain

Have you ever looked outside when it’s raining to see if you see a rainbow? For this natural phenomenon to occur, there must be some sun shining through the dark clouds. Without the rain, there couldn’t be a rainbow, and without the storms in your life, there would be no growth.

Realize that the storms are as much a part of life as the sunshine. Learn to admire and savor everything that happens in life, as there’s always some good with the bad.

9 – No Matter What Happens, Know That Hope Is Not Lost

Grateful people keep their hope no matter what comes their way. They know that everyone’s future is uncertain, and some things are just beyond their sphere of influence.

Realize and have faith that there’s more to life than your circumstances. Even in a stormy season, you can learn to dance and be joyful.

10 – Grateful People pardon Others for Not Being What You Hoped

Why is forgiveness so hard? You know you need to forgive so that you can be forgiven when things happen to you. Consequently, have you ever considered forgiving folks for not being what you expect from them?

This is a hard concept to grasp, but it’s not uncommon to set high expectations of one another. When someone doesn’t act how you think they should, it’s easy for bitterness to creep into your heart. Carrying resentment is like grabbing a lump of hot coal from the fire to toss it at someone, but the problem is you’re the individual who gets burned. Gratitude teaches you that you’re not perfect, so you can’t expect it of others.

11 – Positive Self-Esteem Sets the Foundation for Gratefulness

When your mindset is grateful, your self-esteem is good, and you don’t have time to beat yourself up over the past. And when you’re stuck in the happenings of yesterday, then you can’t live for today. When you’re positive, your good esteem helps ground you in gratitude. Many folks need a mental health tune-up where they stop putting themselves down and start being a cheerleader.

12 – Developing Healthy Thinking Habits

Did you know that if you think good thoughts, you will feel good too? Your brain is a powerful organ that you must utilize. Someone full of gratitude doesn’t complain about the lack of money in their bank account, but they’re grateful the bills are paid, and there’s food on the table.

When you stop dwelling on the negativity, your thought processes become more positive. So many people focus on the bad stuff rather than what they want to happen. You can manifest things in your life by simply developing a mantra that says something like:

  • “I can do it.”
  • “I’ll succeed no matter what.”
  • “I can accomplish anything I set my mind to do.”

Watch your attitude change and become more grateful when you use positive affirmations.

13 – Focus More on the Lessons Rather Than the Disappointments

Sure, life is full of disappointments, and there’s no way to get around them. How many times does a baby stumble before learning to get up and walk? However, each time they fall, there’s a lesson to be discovered.

The infant must hold their feet a certain way, balance themselves, and avoid previous mistakes to stay upright. The same analogy can be used for your life. Each time you fail, there’s a lesson to learn. It would help if you saw what you could do to prohibit a tumble a second time and grow and become better from this knowledge.

Someone full of gratitude knows that life will teach them lessons, and they embrace them rather than blaming everyone around them for their stumbling.

14 – Be Flexible in Your Thinking

Have you ever met someone who knows it all? It doesn’t matter how hard you try; you can’t change their mind. Rigid thinking is not favorable, as it shows someone stubborn and set in their ways.

Being closed off and narrow-minded will shut many doors to you, but you will suddenly see many doors open when you open your perspectives. Someone with gratitude embraces others and is flexible enough to realize that their point of view isn’t the only one to consider.

15 – Know That a Grateful Attitude Takes Work

Finally, you must understand that gratefulness isn’t always going to come naturally. The more challenging the season of your life, the less gratitude you feel. However, keep striving and trying to gain a good perspective, and it can change your life for the better.

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Final Thoughts on Adopting the Habits of Grateful People

If you want to change your mindset, there’s a simple exercise you can try. Get a pen and paper and write down ten things that you’re most grateful for in your life. Now, what things in your life need work? Why not change the way you look at those troubling things and see the silver lining in those dark clouds?

11 Touching Stories That Prove Love Can Last Forever

We all hope for a love that lasts forever. Can that really happen? Can love transcend time and space? Think of how many stories we have from literature and history. There are thousands of love stories that have inspired humanity.  These stories have survived wars, famine, fires and natural disasters. Why were these stories so important in risking everything for love? There must be something to these stories, and many of them weren’t always about romantic love affairs. They were about love, regardless of sex, ethnicity or backgrounds.

Here are 11 couples who prove love can last forever:

Helen and Paris

The Trojan war began when Paris, the Prince of Troy, fell in love with Helen, the young queen of Sparta, and they ran off together after falling madly in love and kicking off a ten year war between the Greeks and the Trojans. Their love burned so bright that their story was passed down from generation to generation for thousands of years.

Antony and Cleopatra

Antony, a Roman senator, and Cleopatra, the last Pharaoh of Egypt, fell in love as soon as they saw each other. Their love also started a war between Rome and Egypt that ended in tragedy. When Antony heard that Cleopatra had died in the fighting, he fell on his sword, heartbroken. When Cleopatra heard of Antony’s death, she also committed suicide. Much like the story of Romeo and Juliet, they have become an apex of the powerful, but tragic eternal love story.

Castor and Pollux

Pollux and Castor were ancient Greek heroes and twin brothers. Castor was the mortal son of the king of Sparta, while Pollux was the immortal son of Zeus. When Castor dies, his brother Pollux is so grief stricken that he gives up half of his own immortality to his brother. They spend half of their time in the underworld and half of their time on Olympus with the rest of the immortal gods.

Would you give up half of eternity for your brother?

Shah Jehan Emperor of India and Mumtaz Mahal

Shah Jehan was the ruler of all of India and married a woman named Arjumand Banu Begum, who would later go by the title Mumtaz Mahal. They were married and ruled together for many years, and she bore him 14 children. When she died giving birth, he was so heartbroken that he had a mausoleum built for her remains. We know it as the Taj Mahal, which is one of the wonders of the modern world.

King David and Bathsheba

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King David saw her bathing while taking a walk on the roof of his palace and instantly fell in love. They had an affair, which resulted in a pregnancy. In order to hide his crime, David tried to get her husband to reconsecrate his marriage so that Uriah would think the baby was his. When this failed, he placed Uriah on the front lines of battle, where he was killed by the enemy. David married the now widowed Bathsheba. After a confrontation with a prophet who confronted David with his sin, David repented but the child died soon after, which David accepted as punishment. David and Bathsheba would later produce another son, Solomon. Solomon would go on to become the greatest Jewish King in history.

Henry VIII and Anne Boleyn

Henry, King of England, who was already married at the time, fell in love with a handmaiden named Anne. He wanted a divorce so badly so that he could marry Anne that he broke faith with the Catholic Church (who many at the time believed controlled the fate of our immortal soul). Though their marriage would end in tragedy, their love shook the foundations of heaven.

Bonnie Parker and Clyde Barrow

The ultimate bad boy/bad girl couple, they went on a love fueled crime spree that included murder, theft, kidnapping and robbery. They were together in the end when they were gunned down in a shootout with police who were trying to arrest them. Their insane love has become an Icon in American mythology.

Gilgamesh and Enkidu

The Epic of Gilgamesh is the oldest written story we have uncovered so far. It is the story of a King who has adventures in the wide world. During these adventures, he meets a hairy wild man in the forest, who he struggles with initially. They become the best of friends and have many adventures together. When Enkidu dies, Gilgamesh is so heartbroken he goes on an epic quest to find the secret to immortality.

Orpheus and Eurydice

Orpheus was a legendary musician who could charm stones and the gods themselves. He is best known for the love for his wife. When she died from a snake bite, he traveled into the underworld and charmed the god of the dead, Hades, himself. He was told he could take his wife with him when he left, provided he did not look back but on the threshold of the underworld. Unfortunately, he looked over his shoulder to see that his wife was still with him. She immediately disappeared back into the darkness.

John and Abigail Adams

John Adams was the second President of the United States, and his wife would carry on passionate and fiery correspondence through a long courtship and separation during the Revolutionary War. She was one of his closest advisers and advocates for women’s rights.

Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman

The famous acting pair made a marriage work in an occupation, and in a town, that discourages long lasting marriages. They were together for fifty years until Paul’s death in 2008. He famously said, “Why fool around with hamburger when you have steak at home.”

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Love is eternal. It doesn’t matter what type of love it is because true love transcends through time, space and history. The stories above are only a few of so many stories out there.

Perhaps you have a love story that transcends all others. If you do, share it in the comment section on our Facebook page!

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