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6 Behaviors That Create Spoiled People (And How to Avoid Having Them)

July 12, 2016 by Power of Positivity

A spoiled child normally grows to become a spoiled adult. This will affect them in maintaining a steady job, keeping friendships, having a spouse, and experiencing a healthy life. Spoiled people are selfish and self-centered. But, how do you know if they are spoiled? How can you help them see how destructive their behaviors are to others?

Here are 6 behaviors that create spoiled people (and how to avoid them):

“Spoiling doesn’t prepare your children for anything but heartache later in life.” – Laying Down the Law

1. Giving into everything.

Spoiled people have never known boundaries. Parents and friends cater to their every whim. These are the children who, with every tantrum, get exactly what they want. As adults, they have louder and more volatile tempers that implement the same behavior. “I want what I want when I want it.” Because they are used to getting what they want, they will torment anyone who doesn’t give into their demands. They border on mental illness because they can’t see reality from the delusional state of desires.

You can’t return to their childhood. You can, however, establish boundaries of what you will tolerate. The word “No” can anger these individuals. But, being consistent in your pursuit to help them recognize their behavior is important (and vital for their mental health). They might not stick around. If they do, know you have accomplished a beautiful task!

2. Reinforcing negative behavior.

Spoiled people trampled on anyone who gets in their way. They take what they want. They have zero concept that the world doesn’t revolve around them. They’ll make their way into an office and step on anything that prevents them from moving up the ladder of success. They will also use people and relationships quickly and then dump them without a single ounce of regret.

In order to disarm their behavior, you must use positive forces. For every negative action, you will need to establish several positive ones. So if you have witnessed the selfish behavior of someone who has been nasty to another to get what they want, you may want to let them know that the behavior can (and will be) returned in the same manner. Nothing upsets the spoiled person more than believing they will get punished. They don’t know what it is like to set limitations.

3. Picking fights.

A spoiled person will create drama to get attention. They will pick fights to deviate from what they want and then stab you from behind. It’s manipulation at its finest. They’ll devalue your opinion and turn around and utilize it for themselves. They truly don’t care how they get what they are after. They are determined to get it to all cost.

Pick your fights wisely. Not every argument needs to become a battle of wits to feed the ego. You stand your ground. Keep your boundaries. The spoiled person will soon forget what you were trying to accomplish. They are off on their next tantrum.

4. Destroying your image through manipulation.

People who are spoiled are narcissistic. They will manipulate through abuse, degrading, and control. They’ll make you feel horrible for not participating in the things that they want. They feed off your weaknesses or insecurities to get you to do things for them. These people don’t care how they hurt you as long as they get what they are after.

A spoiled person doesn’t accept that they have any weaknesses. It’s not about pinpointing those insecurities to them, but about turning the tables so they can see that things hurt when you are vicious. They have their weaknesses. Stay humble and use humility as your armor when dealing with these master manipulators. Stand your ground. Show them forgiveness but also discipline. Do not let them abuse you with their anger.

5. Rewarding poor actions.

Spoiled people brag about how they got that new job or the new girlfriend. They will create these stories with Oscar-winning talent. They want the attention even though it’s toxic. Rewarding poor actions and behavior encourages the self-centered and spoiled person to continue doing these things. It’s permitting them to get what they want regardless of the consequences.

Create incentives for good behavior. As a parent does with a child, you must reward positive actions. Become a positive role model in this person’s life. You don’t need to brag about your actions, but allow them to witness compassion, goodwill, and empathy through your examples. Let them know that receiving is just as beautiful as giving.

6. Lack of consideration.

Spoiled people have no consideration for the feelings of others. They are aggressive in behavior. They will bulldoze over anything to get attention. Their actions are sneaky and premeditated. These folks plot and scheme to con anyone into doing anything. The famous Cuban poet Jose Marti said, “A selfish man is a thief.” He will steal your heart, your money and your livelihood if you let them.

We have been taught to satisfy our needs however we can. The spoiled person takes it on a completely different level. You do not have to satisfy their needs. You don’t have to participate in everything they want. Once again, boundaries are important. Show this person love. Most spoiled people are missing structure in their lives. They didn’t have set rules growing up. Everything was supplied to them. Now as adults, they don’t understand why the world has to be so structured.

Spoiled, selfish people are everywhere. You can deal with them in a healthy manner that won’t suck you into their drama. You don’t have to entertain them and give into everything. Instead, you can use your awareness and knowledge to teach them little by little what it is to be a functional adult with healthy behaviors.

11 Lemon Water Benefits You Didn’t Know About

July 11, 2016 by Power of Positivity

How we begin our day usually sets the stage for how the rest of it will unfold. Many of us rush through our mornings and entire days, not giving a lot of thought to how we treat our bodies or what we put in them. Starting each day hydrated can make a huge difference in how your day goes, however, as eliminating toxins can allow your body to become rejuvenated and feel lighter. Better yet, adding lemon to your water will only increase the benefits you feel from nourishing and hydrating your body properly.

Lemon contains a lot of antioxidants and can repair the immune system naturally with vitamin C, bioflavonoids, citric acid, calcium, magnesium, pectin, and limonene.

Warm lemon water hydrates and oxygenates the body while also balancing our pH levels.

Adding lemon will also improve digestion, which will further help to eliminate toxins. Experts recommend drinking half your weight in ounces of water each day, but unfortunately, most people don’t drink near enough water for their age or weight.

Drinking lemon water may improve your relationship with water, since it will make each glass refreshing and add flavor to an otherwise tasteless beverage. Just make sure to add half of a freshly squeezed lemon to your water each morning, and continue this habit each time you have a new glass of water.

Adding lemon to your water will also provide nutrients like vitamin C, iron, calcium, potassium, and fiber.

On another note, have you been trying to give up coffee? Warm lemon water might just serve as a suitable replacement, as many people who have tried to give up coffee have done so successfully by replacing it with lemon water. So, as if that isn’t enough to make you want to drink lemon water, we have some more benefits listed for you below!

11 Lemon Water Benefits You Didn’t Know About

1. Lemon water can lower your risk of having a stroke, according to the American Heart Association

2. It will give you clear skin and reduce signs of aging, including wrinkles

3. Detoxes and cleanses the system according to a study on lemon water’s ability to improve the liver’s functions

4. Lemon water can boost your mood due to the plentiful antioxidants and nutrients present

5. Brings your body’s pH levels back into alignment

6. Relieves pain in the joints

7. Alleviates hangovers

8. Keeps you satiated longer

9. Improves digestive health

10. Lemon water freshens the breath

11. Improves respiratory health

Here are a few more benefits, if you still need more convincing:

can prevent UTIs.
improves adrenal health
regulates metabolism
enhances brain power
strengthens immune system
cleans the sinus cavities
improves intestinal health
eliminates high fevers
prevents kidney stones
improves breathing
alleviates headaches and migraines
can help with weight loss

Here are a few more interesting facts about lemon:

Lemon is among nature’s top seven potassium sources. The mineral potassium promotes mental clarity and healthy blood pressure. If you pair lemon with something salty, it can help to regulate the body’s water balance.
You can use lemon as an insect repellent.
It can be used as a mouthwash; just add hot water.
A tablespoon of lemon juice only contains four calories

During this time period on Earth, many people have started waking up to nature’s amazing healing powers, and have substituted old habits for much healthier, wholesome ones that actually improve their vitality. Drinking lemon water is just one of many ways to improve your health, and you can use lemon in a variety of other ways as well, such as in a salad dressing, sprinkled on a fruit salad, or even frozen to make healthy popsicles!

Many people want to improve their health, and luckily, they don’t have to look much further than their own kitchen to do so. What you eat can either promote sickness or health, so why not do your mind, body, and soul some good and opt for health instead of the disease?

The smallest habits we form can inspire the greatest change, and adding a little lemon to your water in the mornings doesn’t take much time or effort. The hydration from the water plus the nutrients and antioxidants from the lemon makes this drink a powerhouse when it comes to improving your health. Let us know how you like it!

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8 Ways to Tell If Someone Is Not Listening

July 11, 2016 by Power of Positivity

“Can you hear me now?” we wonder to ourselves as we talk with people daily, because the fact that they don’t always do what you asked them to leaves you wondering if they’re really listening or not. Can you get them to pay attention to you for just a minute??

Researchers studying how crucial listening is as a social skill looked at how listening is taught in classrooms. We don’t really learn how to listen in school or at home in the sense that there are no taught skills for listening. You may remember taking listening comprehension tests to see if you understood the meaning of what the teacher said.

The researchers believe that we should learn skills like pre-listening or extensive listening that they have identified as stages of listening that could be taught as classroom lessons.

Let’s look at some of the ways that you can tell if someone is really listening to you or not, and how to capture their full attention when you speak so that you can get what you need.

8 Ways to Tell If Someone’s Really Listening Or Not

1. They decide what you’re going to talk about

When it comes to being able to tell if someone’s really listening or not, someone with their own agenda will direct the flow of your conversation to make sure that they get to talk about what they want to talk about.

Michael Nichols, author of The Lost Art of Listening: How Learning To Listen Can Improve Relationships, says that people with an agenda not only don’t hear us but they selfishly listen with the intent to make themselves right and you wrong. We need to let go of what is on our mind and fully listen to the other person.

2. They interrupt your flow of speaking

If someone is really listening, they should be able to hold their peace for a minute or two before they jump in to speak. If the person you are having a conversation with can’t stop interrupting you, it’s a sign that they are not really hearing what you are saying.

3. Ask them a question about what you just said

When someone is really listening, you should be able to give them a mini quiz about what you just said. Ask ‘What do you think about what I said?’ to get some insight as to their level of focus. If they weren’t listening, they are likely to give you a vague answer like ‘Sounds good.’

At this point you can explain that you were asking about their opinion on apartheid policies in South Africa or something equally unethical.

You really are trying to catch them in this inconsiderate behavior so that you can tell them how it makes you feel. You can tell them how you feel by saying that their lack of listening feels uncaring to you and ask them to please focus on you.

4. You don’t feel positive after talking to them

In a related sense, when someone isn’t listening to us fully, we feel unloved and uncared for. If you walk away from a conversation feeling like the other person gave you all their burdens but took none of yours off your shoulders, you may have a bad listener on your hands.

5. They overreact with defensive emotions

Michael Nichols, author of The Lost Art of Listening: How Learning To Listen Can Improve Relationships says that not only do we sometimes hear only what we want to hear, but sometimes the opposite is true. In antagonistic relationships where partners have a pattern of arguing, each one is guilty of hearing only the negative words their partner says.

If your partner is overly upset based on what you just said, you can tell that they are not listening. Your partner may have already been upset when you started talking about your day, so their negative emotion worked as a filter to hear only the bad news from you and keep themselves in that negative emotion.

6. They seem bored

If you can pick up on the emotion of the person you are talking to, you can tell if they are bored or not. The chin resting in the palm of their hand and the tired eyes that they are drifting off into their own mental world, completely bored by you.

7. Distractions are all over the place

The discussion keeps getting interrupted for them to send a quick email or make a quick call, which is one way to tell if someone’s really listening or not. If the person you are talking to can’t put away the distractions for you, ask them to please give you five uninterrupted minutes of their time.

8. They don’t ask you any questions about what you just said

If you just told me that you read a wonderful book and described it but never told me the title of it, and I don’t ask a follow up question about the name of the book, you can be pretty sure that I wasn’t really listening.

5 Things Passionate People Do Differently

July 11, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Passion is a life force that pushes us to accomplish those things that bring us joy. With vitality and gusto, passionate people are fueled by much more than just the love of something. They believe in themselves. Furthermore, they are moved by the ideas and feelings that sustain them in creating and allowing moments. They follow their awareness and believe that success comes in many forms.

Psychologist Robert Vallerand at the University of Quebec, Montreal, has researched passion and what makes us passionate. He writes about his findings: “Harmonious passion originates from an autonomous internalization of the activity into one’s identity while obsessive passion emanates from a controlled internalization and comes to control the person.”

Here are 5 things passionate people do differently than most:

1. Passionate people get easily excited.

They don’t wonder if the glass is half full or half empty. They are seeing the possibilities of what they can do with the liquid inside. Passionate folks get excited about the challenge, adventure, and journey they travel. Passion is a spark of hope and grace. They know there’s something larger than what they can see and feel. They follow that joy and excitement, oftentimes, without really knowing what the final destination will be.

2. Passionate people are brave.

Bravery arrives through vulnerability. Passionate people aren’t afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Their courage moves them to continue in spite of any failures or set backs. The difference between a person who lives in victim mode and that of a passionate person is the courage they carry in their hearts. They are survivors. They have no hang-ups about what has happened in the past. Passionate people know that those scars heal and they utilize them to learn and grow. They become great mentors because of their courageous hearts.

3. Passionate people are self-motivated.

They are their own cheerleaders. They believe that failure is when you fall and just stay down. Passionate people get back up and try a different way of accomplishing what they aim to do. They know that success requires doing things differently to achieve the final result.

Thomas A. Edison said about failure: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Passion ignites certainty even at the moments that are filled with tremendous doubts and obstacles. When you follow your heart, there is no failing.

4. Passionate people are blissful.

They live in a state of joy because they are following their bliss. They are content with how they choose to live. That’s because they have created the life that suits them. They enjoy life. Most of them have chosen to live outside of the box of what society tells them to be. They are the entrepreneurs, philanthropists, inventors, artists, musicians, salespeople, and professionals who have taken chances and believe that it isn’t the value of things that make happiness but rather the joy that comes from the journey. They cherish their times alone and with others. Passion is contagious, and these folks bring out the joy in others who magnetically connect with them. They don’t take life too seriously.

5. Passionate people believe that love creates the world.

You cannot speak of passion without returning to the source of love. Passionate people love themselves and others. They move through love and share it with the world. They are those who believe in humanitarian causes and fight till the end. Because of this, they make this earth a better place. They come into this life ready to make changes, and nothing stops them. Love is the ultimate motivator for the passionate soul. They know that without the innate desire to change and evolve, there is no doing. Love is the match that lights passion.

Passionate people don’t sit around feeling stuck. They are the trailblazers, doers and movers, the leaders, the mothers and fathers, the brothers and sisters, that all unite to make this place a better haven for the rest of us. These people don’t wait to be told what to do. They are moving a mountain one teaspoon of dirt at a time. They are patient, determined, and generous. The best habit that a passionate person owns is knowing that this life is here for us to make the most out of it. They know that in order to be happy, successful and loving, there must be desire and the will to see past anything in the future. This is what separates the passionate person from those who do not follow their hearts.

“Passion. It lies in all of us. Sleeping… waiting… and though unwanted, unbidden, it will stir… open its jaws and howl. It speaks to us… guides us. Passion rules us all. And we obey. What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of our finest moments. The joy of love… the clarity of hatred… the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion, maybe we’d know some kind of peace. But we would be hollow. Empty rooms, shuttered and dank. Without passion, we’d be truly dead.”~ Joss Whedon

This Simple Mind-Body Exercise Reduces Negative Thoughts And Improves Health

July 11, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Knowing how to control your mind, which can lead to positive health changes in your body can improve your health, and the training to be able to do this is fairly simple. In this article, we will explain how the mind-body connection and training yourself to control it is a way for you to take charge of your health.

This Simple Mind-Body Training Can Improve Your Health

Training yourself to control your mind-body connection is a process of relaxation and self-hypnosis where you make suggestions to yourself about lowering your heart rate, blood pressure, reducing pain sensations or anything that is beneficial to your body to heal itself.

In a study of early stage breast cancer patients who were experiencing stress over their diagnosis, researchers found that autogenic training helped the women to show an improvement in their measures of anxiety and depression. The study also showed that women who could achieve a meditative state as opposed to a relaxed state were found to have an increase in their immune responses.

A meditative state helped with T and B cell markers, which give an indication of changes in immune system responses. These results are pretty remarkable, and they demonstrate the power of the mind-body connection.

Health Problems That This Simple Mind-Body Training Can Improve

Researchers who looked at multiple studies of the autogenic mind-body training found several health problems that can be positively impacted when people practice and learn these skills.

Physical problems helped by mind-body training:

Tension headache
Migraine
Mild to moderate hypertension
Coronary heart disease
Asthma
Pain
Cancer
Raynaud’s disease

Psychological problems helped by mind-body training:

Anxiety disorder
Depression
Insomnia

Other problems helped by mind-body training:

Negative mood
Negative thoughts
Poor quality of life

Relaxation Is Not Meditation

Relaxing is a great way to reduce stress in your body, but it is not the same as meditation. For example, when meditating, your brain achieves similar brain wave patterns to those seen in stages of sleep. You are in a type of trance state.

To achieve this meditative state and be able to make the mind-body connection, the best method is to listen to a recording of a person’s voice guiding you to meditate and do the exercises for the training.

How You Can Learn This Simple Mind-Body Training On Your Own

As you try autogenic training, distracting thoughts will come into your mind. Try to acknowledge the distracting thoughts and let them slip away as you focus on the mind-body training.

As you talk to yourself through this training, you will be practicing teaching yourself how to create sensations in your The sensations that you can learn to feel in your body are:

Heaviness
Warmth
Heartbeat changes
Breathing changes
Coolness
Calmness

You may want to ask someone to read this aloud to you as you relax and pay attention to the words and sensations that your body is experiencing. Alternatively, try an autogenic mind-body training video to help you as you learn to control your physical body and your health.

The Mind Body Training Script

An autogenic mind-body training script from Karen Urbanek follows. For each body part that you focus your attention on, Karen recommends that you repeat each body part relaxation phrase four to six times.

My right arm is heavy
My left arm is heavy
My arms feel completely calm
The right leg is heavy
My left leg is heavy
My legs feel completely calm
The right arm is warm
My left arm is warm
My right leg is warm
The left leg is warm
My legs and arms feel completely calm
My arms are heavy and warm
The legs are heavy and warm
My heartbeat is slow and relaxed
My heart feels calm
Breathing is slow and relaxed
Breathing is calm
My stomach is warm
It is relaxed
My stomach feels completely calm
My forehead is cool
The scalp is relaxed
My whole body is calm
My whole body is relaxed
I am calm and relaxed

The repetition, relaxation, and words that focus your attention on feeling sensations in your body all combine to help train you to make changes in your body. The words that are used are focused on creating feelings of peace and calm in your body.

This can also be used as a relaxation technique or meditation, not just for mind-body training purposes. You can further add positive affirmation statements for anything that you are personally working on, for example, if you want to control feelings of anxiety you can add, ‘I release my worries and I trust my inner voice.’

6 Signs Your Child Is An Old Soul

July 10, 2016 by Power of Positivity

An old soul travels through many dimensions and places in time, taking lessons with them as they go from place to place, and passing down this wisdom to those willing to listen. Many people have identified as an old soul, and children can certainly fit into this category as well. Parents get to experience one of the greatest joys in life, that of raising a little human being and getting to watch him or her grow, play, laugh, and learn.

Children normally have a playful, carefree nature, but what if your child displays unusual characteristics for someone his or her age? How should you react or deal with the situation? Truthfully, no two children have the same personality traits anyway, so don’t let this alarm you. Maybe your child would rather spend time alone than with others, and maybe they find it hard to fit in with people of their age group. Maybe they just seem more ‘mature’ for their age, and have a complex, intuitive, and contemplative personality.

Your child is complicated, difficult, a bit distant, and hard to read. They seem to have skipped childhood altogether, and have mentally entered adulthood long before they even arrived here in their human form.

If this sounds like your child, you definitely have an old soul on your hands. Maybe you felt like an old soul as a kid as well, which would give your child a higher likelihood of being an old soul as well. If you would like more about old souls and figure out how to understand your child better, read on for more information.

6 Signs Your Child Is An Old Soul

1. They live in their own world.

You try to get their attention, but their mind is elsewhere. You try to get them to focus on an activity, but they flit from one thing to another. They do things on their own terms, and would rather be left alone in their own quiet world. If your child prefers to spend time by themselves and create from their imagination, they are probably an old soul.

2. They have an intense personality.

Other kids their age might enjoy doing lighthearted activities, like hopscotch or playing sports, but your child prefers to sit on the sidelines and just observe. Other children have a loud, outgoing personality, but your child is more introverted, quiet, and pensive.

Your child seems to take things more seriously than other kids, always delving deeply into their emotions to try and figure out the world in a way that works for them.

3. They don’t fit in with other kids.

They might try to follow the crowd, but they stand out like a sore thumb. The other kids might bully or pick on your child, as they don’t understand his or her personality and perspective. Your child just seems more mature, and can’t be concerned with petty gossip, small-talk, and useless conversation. They’d much rather avoid the other children than pretend to be someone else just for the sake of fitting in.

4. They make and follow their own rules.

Old souls don’t just blindly follow authority; they question everything and go over the logic in their own minds before they comply. In school, they likely cause “trouble” just because they speak up more than the other kids, and would rather follow their own path if something doesn’t make sense to them. Old souls have a great wisdom about life, so they don’t understand all the complex rules and laws we have created here. They see things as having simple solutions but struggle to comprehend a world so unjust and cruel.

Basically, they follow rules if they make sense to them, and might be given the label of a “troublemaker” at home or in school because of their demeanor.

5. They like spending time alone.

Old souls have heightened sensitivity to their inner world and the world around them, so they would rather spend time alone to avoid the uncomfortable feelings they get from too much noise. Old souls have an amazing connection to the natural world, and would much rather spend their time immersed in nature than in the ‘modern world.’

6. They are extremely curious.

An old soul will ask tons of questions until they get the necessary answers. They don’t just accept things where and what, and all the other questions and answers in between. They have tons of interests and live to gain understanding and wisdom.

“Sometimes, out of the blue, a witty interjection, or incisive question will arise from your child if they are an Old Soul. The best way to describe your child’s wisdom beyond years is that they sound like a “little old man or woman” unexpectedly giving advice and counsel.” – Aletheia Luna

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Here are 6 behaviors that create spoiled people (and how to avoid them):

1. Giving into everything.

2. Reinforcing negative behavior.

3. Picking fights.

4. Destroying your image through manipulation.

5. Rewarding poor actions.

6. Lack of consideration.

11 Lemon Water Benefits You Didn’t Know About

Here are a few more interesting facts about lemon:

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8 Ways to Tell If Someone’s Really Listening Or Not

1. They decide what you’re going to talk about

2. They interrupt your flow of speaking

3. Ask them a question about what you just said

4. You don’t feel positive after talking to them

5. They overreact with defensive emotions

6. They seem bored

7. Distractions are all over the place

8. They don’t ask you any questions about what you just said

Here are 5 things passionate people do differently than most:

1. Passionate people get easily excited.

2. Passionate people are brave.

3. Passionate people are self-motivated.

4. Passionate people are blissful.

5. Passionate people believe that love creates the world.

This Simple Mind-Body Training Can Improve Your Health

Health Problems That This Simple Mind-Body Training Can Improve

Relaxation Is Not Meditation

How You Can Learn This Simple Mind-Body Training On Your Own

The Mind Body Training Script

6 Signs Your Child Is An Old Soul

1. They live in their own world.

2. They have an intense personality.

3. They don’t fit in with other kids.

4. They make and follow their own rules.

5. They like spending time alone.

6. They are extremely curious.

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