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5 Ways to Spot A Psychopath

June 19, 2016 by Power of Positivity

In the early 1800s, doctors who worked with mental patients began to notice that some of their patients who appeared outwardly normal had what they termed a “moral depravity” or “moral insanity” in that they seemed to possess no sense of ethics or of the rights of other people. The term psychopath was first applied to these people around 1900. The term was changed to “sociopath” in the 1930s to emphasize the damage they do to society. – Psychology Today

Psychopathy has quite an interesting history, as this passage above demonstrates. The truth is that psychopathy, or sociopathy, is a real condition encompassing real people. Furthermore, sociopaths that act upon their disturbing impulses are a real threat to society.

We need to look no further than the horrific incident that occurred in Orlando. What would motivate someone to commit such wide-scale carnage? While all the details may not yet be clear, there is one inference: the shooter was almost assuredly a psychopath. Where others saw a place of dancing, laughter, and love, the shooter saw a place where he could (1) demonstrate his allegiance to a terrorist organization and (2) cold-bloodedly murder good people who happened to live differently.

Are all people with sociopathic tendencies violent? Of course not. Just as not all alcoholics consume alcohol. The propensity – the chance upon which one will act a certain way – makes sociopaths potentially dangerous.

Are there signs that someone may be a psychopath? Most definitely.

Here are 5 signs you’re dealing with a psychopath:

1. A condescending, disingenuous attitude

This is kind of interesting: a psychopath usually won’t yell or scream when they’re in an argument or upset. Instead, they’ll attempt to summon your anger through their facial expressions and arrogant tone. But this is for certain: they want to see an emotional outburst from you. Why? Because they get a twisted satisfaction from it; a sense of conquest and superiority…even if they may physically or verbally indicate the opposite.

2. They seek undeserved pity and sympathy

Psychopaths love playing on other people’s emotions. As mentioned, they get strange enjoyment out of it. In the world of a psychopath, playing on someone’s emotions is an effective way to manipulate them for personal gain (e.g., money, attention). They’ll often tell, at best, severely distorted tales that tug on our heartstrings. Maybe they’ll drone on about an abusive ex, stories of impoverishment, etc. It goes without saying that these attempts continue until they get what they want. They also have a voracious need for attention.

And although psychopaths innately dislike people, they have a voracious need for attention. Of course, once they’ve received the attention they yearned for, they’ll put their manipulative and self-serving plan into action. While those who love to start drama do so for the emotional high, a psychopath does it for (surprise, surprise) personal gain.

3. A history of lying and excuse-making

A psychopath is almost always a liar with a tendency to make excuses. If you criticize how they’re acting, they’ll come up with some reason – generally criticism of your purported behavior. They’ll always rationalize their self-serving, manipulative behavior while never working to improve it. Why improve something that is already perfect?

4. They will purposely ignore you

This is especially true for those who are in a relationship with a psychopath. Again, they are experts at manipulating behavior – and it only makes sense that they’ll actively find ways to damage your self-esteem. One way they do this is by ignoring the very people who care for them, particularly their significant others. This gives psychopaths a sense of superiority and, of course, garners unmerited attention…which leads us to number 5…

5. You are (or feel like) a different person emotionally and mentally

Interacting with a psychopath over a duration of time can lead to feelings of confusion and discombobulation of your own mental and emotional state. Just ask someone that’s been in a relationship with one. In all seriousness, psychopaths only care about one person, and we all know who it is. They don’t care about the cumulative damage that they leave in their wake…as long as they satisfy their own morbid impulses.

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5 Signs You Have Toxins Trapped In Your Body

June 18, 2016 by Power of Positivity

We accumulate toxins in our bodies simply by being alive; did you know that? Well, it’s true. Of course, some people’s “extracurricular activities” cause toxins to build up much quicker in their bodies than others; consumption of alcohol, nicotine, and heavily-processed foods are the source of the many toxins we build up in our bodies.

Toxins effectively inhibit our body’s normal functionality. This is because toxins are stressors; they can even cause disease. More commonly, though, toxins result in us feeling sluggish and dull.

We’re going to discuss five signs of a heavy concentration of toxins in the body. In addition, we’ll provide a couple of effective methods in eradicating these harmful chemicals. Ready to be toxin-free? Then read on!

5 Signs You Might Have Toxins Trapped in Your Body

When I say “toxins,” I’m not just referring to pesticides or hazardous waste. A toxin is anything that damages the body. Toxins can be from food (wheat, legumes, etc.), the air, water, mold, clothing, or for some even your cell phone. – Dave Asprey, founder of Bulletproof Coffee

1. Digestive problems

When toxins build up in our system, it’s very difficult for the digestive system to function normally. The digestive tract is less efficient, which results in the ineffective removal of waste. It’s worth mentioning that digestive problems have a systemic effect, leading to fatigue and impairment of the immune system.

2. Skin issues

Acne, rashes, and skin inflammation can outward indicate toxic overload. This is particularly true with acne, a dermatologic condition that often reflects a heavy concentration of toxins. Other skin conditions that may indicate the presence of toxins: swollen eyes, psoriasis, and eczema.

3. Bad breath

While brushing and flossing are essential for eliminating bad breath, reducing toxin buildup is just as important. Interestingly, digestive problems (see #1) can cause bad breath, as can abnormal functioning of the liver – specifically, the liver’s inability to rid toxins from the body. As such, bad breath can indicate a problem in other body areas.

4. Unanticipated weight gain

It is possible to gain unexpected weight when there is a heavy presence of toxins. A hormonal imbalance may be the culprit if you’re exercising regularly and eating healthy but still struggling with inexplicable weight gain (or weight fluctuation). As it turns out, proper functioning of the hormonal system can be adversely impacted by buildup of toxins, especially in foods and personal care products. A diet that stimulates the body to cleanse toxic buildup may be in order (see below).

5. Lethargic episodes

If you’re getting seven-plus hours of sleep and still finding it difficult to get through the day, toxins are a potential source. For example, ever worked a full day after an unanticipated evening of drinking? Hey, most of us have been there. How energetic were you the following day? Exactly. This is because the body is in overdrive, attempting to rid the toxins from the night before. The same thing applies here on a lesser scale. Our toxin levels must remain low for us to maintain energy equilibrium.

How to Cleanse Toxins From Your Body

Now that we’ve discussed five different indicators of toxin buildup let’s discuss ways to detox them.

#1 Ensure proper digestion: A healthy digestive system is paramount to a healthy body. Digestive problems make the elimination of harmful toxins extremely difficult, even impossible. To help ensure the proper functioning of this vital system, supplement your diet with ghee. Many cultures use this type of healthy butter in their cuisines, medical treatments, and even religious ceremonies. Several ghee products are available for purchase online or in natural health stores. Ghee is also a terrific product for optimizing metabolic function, cleansing the digestive tract, and strengthening the immune system.
#2 Cleanse the liver: Of all organs, the liver is arguably the most important in eliminating toxins from the body; this includes alcohol and other chemicals. The liver is also essential for properly metabolizing over-the-counter (OTC) and prescription drugs. Additionally, a healthy liver helps prevent blood clots and other adverse internal reactions. There are several foods that one can incorporate to cleanse this organ. Here are ten foods: apples, avocados, beets, carrots, grapefruit, green tea, leafy green vegetables, cruciferous vegetables, olive oil, and walnuts.
#3 Get (and remain) active: This one may not be as obvious, but it is important for us to stay active. This can be accomplished in several ways, including through weight training, speed walking, yoga, jogging, mountain biking, etc. Find an enjoyable activity and stick with it! Physical activity is important for properly functioning the lymphatic system, an essential mechanism in eliminating toxins.
#4 Drink water: It is also important to hydrate appropriately. Adequate hydration helps to ensure a healthy digestive and urinary tract while helping the liver to function normally.

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How To Tell If A Cheater Has Changed

June 18, 2016 by Power of Positivity

The betrayal of a partner who is a cheater can devastate a relationship. However, it is possible for a person to change their cheating behavior. These six signs can tell you if they have changed.

Romantic relationships are built mainly on trust. So cheating and going outside of the relationship bond violates the faith that the two partners had for each other. Rebuilding trust is difficult. But it takes time, effort, and forgiveness of the betrayed partner.

For those not currently in a relationship, deciding whether or not to date a cheater who has a reputation can be tricky. Can a cheater change their roaming ways and become your one-and-only? Or by dating a cheater, are you likely to find out how it feels to be cheated on?

6 Signs A Cheater Has Changed

1. The flirtations are gone

Instead of trying to catch the eye of every available person who might notice them, you see them stop vying for others’ attention. Conversely, they seek your approval. You might notice something as simple as fewer selfies without you and more shots of the two of you. This behavior is one of the slightest nuances that can create the most significant differences.

If a cheating partner has changed, the behavior difference should be clear. You no longer feel threatened by their behavior toward other potential romantic partners.

2. They make you feel secure

You’ve noticed them actively seek physical touch in public. For example, they like holding your hand to show everyone that you (and they) are off the market. If a cheater has changed, they take responsibility for you as their soul mate. Additionally, they show their care by physically, financially, and emotionally taking care of your needs.

3. You are open about the cheating behavior and what triggered it

Talking about the betrayal may be hurtful, but getting out all of the details might be best, especially if you uncover triggers that may cause your cheating partner to be likely to feel the need for attention from another person again.

When one partner feels unappreciated, unheard, or mistreated, they may seek another person who can give them the tenderness they crave. Ask your cheater how they felt before they cheated so you can identify the emotional triggers for cheating.

For example, if your partner says they felt neglected, tell them several specific things you will do to ensure they don’t feel neglected. Also, ask your partner to commit to telling you if they feel that way again or if they have thought about cheating.

4. They make plans for you as a couple

Plans don’t have to mean marriage. But even planning a trip for the both of you for six months from now gives you some sense of hopefulness for your future as a couple who conquered cheating.

When your partner focuses on creating a happy future, you feel more secure in your relationship, knowing that you are being planned for. When you have a close, committed relationship, you and your partner have future-focused items like a living will, life insurance, and other legal and financial aids that protect your domestic partner and yourself.

5. They have asked for forgiveness

The act of asking for forgiveness opens the door to healing in a relationship after cheating. Whether it was an emotional attachment or a sexual one, when the partner who did the affair asks for your forgiveness, they admit that they know their behavior was wrong.

North American Journal of Psychology researchers who studied forgiveness and cheating say, ‘People are more likely to forgive their partners when they are committed to and satisfied with their relationships.’ They also say ‘forgiveness was most likely when cheating was an isolated incident and when the partner offered an apology.’ If you haven’t gotten an apology, ask your partner for one.

6. There is a new level of emotional openness

A cheating partner who can now be vulnerable around you is a cheater who has changed. Emotional cheating happens when a partner leaves the relationship to burden another person they feel will listen. Feel secure about your partner if they have opened themselves up to you and told you intimate things that they couldn’t tell anyone else.

Ask your partner about their opinion of infidelity in a relationship and whether monogamy is something they feel comfortable with now. The reason for the question is that your partner’s attitude toward cheating can predict how likely they are to cheat again. Researchers studying why cheating happens in a Marquette University study say ‘individuals who hold more permissive attitudes toward adultery and uncommitted sexual relationships are more likely to engage in adulterous acts.’

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7 Things You Don’t Need To Stress About (Even If You Think You Do)

June 18, 2016 by Power of Positivity

In life, it already seems like we have enough to stress about, so why add to it? Unfortunately, many people simply care about things that don’t matter as much, and turn their cheek toward things they actually SHOULD focus on. We tend to overthink things so much that it becomes an obsession, such as worrying about what others think of us, how our hair looks, or how much money we have in the bank. Then, life becomes a constant wave of stress instead of the fun-filled playground that it could be. So, at what point to we decide to stop stressing about things that don’t matter, and start caring about the things that do? When will we let go of worry and fear, and embrace love and happiness?

Our hope here is that this will help clear things up and encourage you to rid your mind of a few of these potential stressors. In turn, you will make life easier for yourself.

7 Things You Don’t Need To Stress About (Even If You Think You Do)

1. What others think of you.

We often live in a prison of what others think of us. The next time you worry about someone else’s opinion of you, remember that only yours truly matters. No one can take away self-confidence, self-love, and self-care, so make sure to work on these things continually. Love happens within, and once you have cultivated this, then you won’t feel so hurt or disappointed when someone else doesn’t like you. You have to live with you for the rest of your life, so wouldn’t it make sense that you should only care about your opinion of yourself?

If others don’t like you, then they can exit your life whenever they please, but you can’t. Stop stressing about what other people think, and start caring about what YOU think of yourself.

2. How much money you have.

Contrary to what many people think, more money will not equate to more happiness. Studies have shown that money makes a difference when it means living in a home versus having to live on the streets, but beyond our basic needs, having more money won’t make us happier. So, stop stressing about how much money you have in your bank account, and start caring more about living for today, and feeling grateful for what you already have.

3. Your mistakes.

At some point, we have to just forgive ourselves for the past and move on. Dwelling on past experiences will not alter them or make you feel any better about the situations you put yourself in. You have to remember that every mistake allowed you to grow and learn, so look at your mistakes as blessings in disguise. Stop beating yourself up for your mistakes, and start embracing them as vital life experiences that helped you get to where you are now.

4. Fitting in.

Keeping up with the Joneses,’ meeting the status quo, and finding our place in this world have been drilled into us for so long now, we’ve almost started to believe in the importance of fitting in. However, going along with the crowd almost never results in true happiness. Following your heart, your true bliss, and what you came here to do, however, will surely lead you down a better road.

Fitting in means nothing if you don’t feel happy doing so, so remember to not get caught up in trying to look a certain way to society, or belong to a group. All that matters is that you feel fulfilled by whatever path you choose in life.

5. Looking “perfect.”

The perfect body doesn’t exist, so stop trying to mold yours into what society tells you it must look like. We all have unique physical appearances, and while you can always try to improve your physical fitness, this should have more to do with your health rather than your looks. Give up the mass media image of what it means to have a perfect body, and start embracing yourself as you are now.

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6. Pleasing others.

People-pleasing might make you some friends, but it won’t make you any good ones. When you bend over backwards to please others, you will inevitably attract the wrong kinds of people who just want to take advantage of you. Learn how to love yourself and listen to your own needs, and keep friends who don’t try to walk all over you.

7. Letting go of those who hurt you.

Finally, you shouldn’t stress about letting those go who no longer fit into picture of you becoming your best self. Maybe you both have taken different paths in life, and just need a break from one another. People come and go from our lives all the time, but never feel sorry for letting someone go who no longer helped you grow.

What Does Your “Birth Day” Reveal About Your Personality?

June 18, 2016 by Power of Positivity

The day of the week that you were born on can tell you a lot more about your personality style than you knew before. With seven days of the week, there are seven unique different personality types out there in the world. What does the day that you were born on say about you?

According to scholars, the origin for the common names for the days of the week and their association with planets is around the first century B.C.E. The days of the week are named for ancient Norse and Roman gods, who are associated with planets and certain personality traits as well.

According to the director of the observatory at Hartwick college in New York, starting with Sunday, the days of the week are named after planets as follows: ‘Sun’s day, Moon’s day, Mercury’s day, Mars’s day, Jupiter’s day, Venus’s day and Saturn’s day.’ Sunday, Monday and Saturday all seem easy to understand the naming scheme. The other days of the week are less obvious, but the observatory says that the Norse gods they are named after are ‘Tuesday or Tiw’s day, Wednesday or Woden’s day, Thursday or Thor’s day, Friday or Frie’s day.’

These Norse gods that the weekdays are named for also relate to Roman gods ‘Tiw is the Norse god which corresponds to the Roman god Mars, Woden is the Norse god of war corresponding to the Roman Mercury, and Frie is the Norse god of love, similar to the Roman god Venus.’

Not sure what day of the week you were born on? All you need is your birth date and this link to calculate what day of the week you were born on. Use this link to an easy day of the week calculator.