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12 Super Powers You Actually Have (And How to Use Them)

June 21, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Our bodies are filled with mysteries that scientists are still unlocking, and they have found ways for you to actually use your natural superhuman powers.

You may have seen these superhuman abilities in previous articles and we’ve talked about some of the amazing things that your body can do with minimal effort on your part.

Let’s look at twelve ways to discover our superhuman potential.

12 Super Powers You Actually Have (And How to Use Them)

1. Prevent pain

The next time you get a bump or bruise, try coughing. This act of forceful pressure activates your body’s vagus nerve. Coughing or bearing down while holding your breath is a way to activate your vagus nerve. This will help reduce stress, slow your heart rate, and lessen the impact of pain.

2. Night vision

The supposed reason for a pirate’s trademark eye patch is to unleash the superhuman ability of night vision. By keeping one eye closed, you avoid exposing your closed eye to bright lights (like torches) that cause your pupil to dilate, which is great for daylight vision, but not for night vision.

3. Prevent brain freeze

Eating your ice cream a bit slower would help, really, but the painful sensation of a brain freeze headache can be prevented even if you gulp your chilled treat.

Use your tongue to press against the roof of your mouth after each mouthful is swallowed. You are using your tongue to warm the roof of your mouth and the nerve that is there connecting to your brain.

4. Cure a headache and hold your breath underwater longer

Hyperventilation leads to vasoconstriction in the brain, which reduces the amount of blood pressure present in the blood vessels and helps with the pain of a headache.

Rapid, shallow breathing also forces more carbon dioxide out of the blood, which means there is more room for oxygen. Hyperventilating before a long dive under water will allow you to hold your breath longer.

This superhuman ability is due to the reduced carbon dioxide in your blood, which is usually the signal to your body to take a new breath. By reducing the trigger, you postpone the body’s need for a breath.

5. Superhuman memory abilities

Put the information in your brain before going to bed to unleash your superhuman ability to remember things. At night, our brains process information that came in during the day and creates memories from it. Review what you need to remember right before dreaming and you’re more likely to recall it.

6. Build your superhuman skeleton

Repeated stress activities, like running, can build stronger bones in the limbs that receive the impact. This is also true for the forearms and hand bones of martial artists who break boards and stacks of bricks.

7. Super hearing power

Use your right ear to hear a faint conversation in a crowded party better. Turn your head so that your right ear is closer to the person speaking. Your left ear is better for picking up musical notes.

8. Heal yourself with your superhuman placebo abilities

In a study of patients with irritable bowel syndrome who were offered, and told, that a placebo could help them, actually had fewer IBS symptoms, even when they KNEW they were getting a pill that had no medicine in it. If you have to fool yourself into making a fake label for a bottle of vitamin supplements that says ‘Superhuman Healing,’ try it the next time you have an illness or pain.

9. Breathe through a stuffed nose

Clear your clogged sinuses by pressing against the roof of your mouth with your tongue and then pressing the spot between your eyebrows. Do this back and forth for a while pressing your forehead, then the roof of your mouth until the blockage is cleared.

By pressing this area, you are forcing your sinus bone to rock, which unleashes your superhuman ability to breathe, even when your nose is stuffed. The tongue and finger pressure moves the Volmer bone, which divides the sinus cavity, and this should release the pressure, drain the sinus and allow you to breathe normally.

10. Stop bleeding

Most people know that you pinch your nose and tilt your head back to stop a nosebleed, and contain the mess with a tissue, but this method is not ideal. When you tilt your head backwards during a nosebleed, you end up just allowing the flow of blood to continue down the back of your throat.

Instead, press a finger below your nose in the center of your upper lip and apply pressure. The pressure above your upper gums and below your nose helps stop most nosebleeds.

11. Stop the Earth from spinning

Anytime you feel dizzy, be it one too many drinks or an illness, you can regain your sense of control by holding on to a flat surface. Put your hand flat on a table or counter to give your body a reference point for something that is level and stable.

12. Avoid using the bathroom

If you are holding it and need to find a bathroom soon, the pressure on your bladder can become painful. Instead of suffering, relieve some pain by turning your thoughts to sex for a minute or two. The diversion helps your brain to pay attention to something else while you track down the nearest facility.

5 Behaviors That Attract Toxic Partners (And How to Avoid Having Them)

June 21, 2016 by Chris Butler

We can all conclude that at some point in our lives, we’ve acted in some emotionally toxic manner, pushing people away. After all, we are mirrors of each other. Sometimes the things we don’t like in others are those we suppress in ourselves. But when it comes to relationships, what are we doing that attracts these emotional vampires and toxic partners?

Here are five behaviors that attract toxic partners (and how to avoid them):

1. Toxic partners take things too personally.

You are only responsible for your behavior. Unfortunately, we live in constant concern about what others think of us. When we take things personally, we attract drama in our lives. We stop being authentic to our spirits. If you constantly internalize things, you will attract those negative characteristics to your relationships.

In a relationship, there are two people. You cannot possibly know every situation in your partner’s life. Therefore, don’t take it personally when he/she is having a bad day. It could be work-related. It could be something completely unrelated to your union. If you don’t want over-sensitivity to be part of your partnership, it’s time to recognize what is yours and your partner’s. It’s also essential to have the freedom to have your own set of friends. Each person needs their space.

2. Jealousy.

The green-eyed monster is birthed through insecurities. Nothing is more toxic in a relationship than jealousy. The ego will create these elaborate scenarios that play on childhood traumas, past relationships, and old beliefs. When someone is insecure, it will conjure up drama that’s not there. You will also attract cheaters, liars, and manipulators into your life. Dr. Ayala M. Pines, the author of Romantic Jealousy: Understanding and Conquering the Shadow of Love, says, “Jealousy is a reaction to a perceived threat–real or imagined–to a valued relationship or to its quality. A nationwide survey of marriage counselors indicates that jealousy is a problem in one-third of all couples coming for marital therapy. This helps explain our fascination with stories about the wild things some people are driven to do.”

If you have a reason to feel insecure, it’s time to take accountability for your partnership. Are there infidelity issues involved? What is the root of the insecurities? Relationships based on these doubts, uncertainties, and distrust are not worth living. Jealousy is maddening and can show off as pure insanity when it’s at its highest level of emotional turmoil. If things keep coming up, then it’s best to look hard at reality. Reality is based on your perception. So, check it out and see what is causing this imbalance.

3. Toxic partners might be carrying past pain.

Past traumas, events, and hurt carry on into all facets of our lives. When you piggyback these emotions, you are not living in the moment. You are connecting, attracting, and revamping those issues over and over. We are all wounded. We have all been hurt to some degree. How we process that heartache determines how fast we heal and to what level of forgiveness. You cannot blame your new partner for what the last one did.

There will always be pain until you face the past, process it, and let it go. Get help through counseling, spiritual guidance, or support groups. These types of issues manifest in addiction which we attract in others. It’s essential to accept your past. Your experiences have made you stronger. Dr. Mark Banschick once wrote,

“We learn from our need to forgive. Even if you were hurt terribly, like with a rape or a financial scandal, there may be a place for forgiveness, if not to the one who hurt you, than to a God that may have watched while it happened, or to a situation in which there was nobody there to protect you. There’s always a place for healing and forgiveness can help you heal. Make a difference in the present and the future. If you had been abused, you may wish to protect the world and others from such a fate. This is the next step in forgiving a terrible wrong.”

4. Negative thought patterns.

A negative person will attract a pessimistic partner. Often, we take on the victimization role while our partner takes on the martyr one. We are so miserable in other parts of our lives that we carry these negative patterns into our love life. Unfortunately, a negative person will dispose of your dreams, self-worth, and abilities and disarm you with their judgment and opinions.

How do you break the negative pattern? You begin to reward with positive reinforcements. You start to find joy by being honest. You’ll start to look at the real issues in your relationship. You also begin to realize that you have control of your life and your future. You are not in a cage. When you wake to these realizations, you can no longer return to unhappiness, where your spirit is degraded.

5. Judgment and criticism.

In a perfect world, love is unconditional. Unfortunately, in reality, love is conditional. It is based on our reality and expectations. Therefore, our perception shifts and changes as relationships go on. Judgment and criticism become the meter on which conditional love sustains itself. We are taught to analyze others to get what we need.

To some extent, judgment can be constructive if done healthily, helping each other grow. But, constant criticism, nagging, and negative input are hurtful and destructive. A relationship that is driven by demoralizing another, by putting a person down, is abusive. Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. The person in the relationship has their self-esteem and worth manipulated by another.

Abuse of any kind is unacceptable. No one has power over you, including a mate. This is a form of control to get you to stay in the relationship. You have the ability and tenacity to do anything in your life. You don’t owe anyone the right to ownership. It takes years to heal from severe judgment and criticism. It carries over to other parts of our lives: parenthood, careers, and other relationships. Get help by getting support for your emotional body. That person will most likely be gone whenever you stop the bull-dozing behavior and set boundaries. They need to be in charge.

Final Thoughts on Toxic Partners

There is a healthy balance in a good relationship. When two people get together, challenges will always be, but you don’t have to participate in toxic energy. You are not there to fix anyone. A healthy and loving relationship enhances your best characteristics. It consists of love, trust, respect, equality, and acceptance.

10 Things Only Introverts Will Understand

June 21, 2016 by Power of Positivity

According to a 1998 National Representative Sample by the Myers-Briggs organization, 50% of the population identifies as an introvert.

This means that at least half of the people reading this can relate to the following things that only “us introverts” will understand.

10 Things Only Introverts Will Understand

1. Feeling like you could spend forever in your own company and not get bored.

Introverts can spend long periods of time alone and not get tired of it; after all, we derive our energy from solitude. Other people might need constant entertainment and socializing in order to stay happy, but we don’t require that. In fact, we run from it. Solitude, peace, and quiet help us to stay grounded, centered, and balanced.

Give an introvert some space and relaxation, and he or she will deeply appreciate and adore you.

2. Wanting to spend your weekends at home rather than go out and socialize.

Weekends mean something different to an introvert than they do to an extrovert. Introverts see them as two days of pure bliss where they can just chill out and relax without having to answer to anyone or meet obligations, whereas extroverts see them as two days to pack as much fun stuff in as possible. However, introverts just need food, Netflix, nature, animals, and some cuddle time to stay fulfilled on their off time.

3. Getting annoyed with people who talk too loudly or quickly.

Introverts process things differently than extroverts, and usually, they get annoyed with those who talk to hastily or loudly. Introverts need time to go over what you said, and prefer conversations that don’t feel rushed or strained. Loud voices and fast talking can make introverts nervous, and they get frustrated when people either talk over them or don’t match their pace of conversing.

4. Getting nervous when you have to talk to someone new.

Not all introverts identify as shy, but some of them get incredibly flustered when talking to someone they don’t know. If you want to talk to an introvert, make he or she feel welcome and comfortable first – it will help them open up much faster.

5. Blushing a lot when you get embarrassed.

Introverts also don’t enjoy the spotlight, so putting pressure on them or making them talk in front of a lot of people can cause anxiety. However, some people blush at anything they perceive as embarrassing, which can sometimes just mean going out in public or talking to the barista at the coffee shop. Don’t call someone out for blushing; trust me, they know what’s happening. Just keep talking to them and don’t draw too much attention to the matter.

6. Wanting to talk, but then getting tired of it after a few minutes.

Introverts love talking, but in small doses. They can easily get worn out after a long conversation, even if it’s meaningful and thought-provoking. Respect the introvert’s need to recharge before engaging in more conversation.

7. The joy of finally getting away into nature after spending too long in suburbia.

Introverts love solitary activities, and that includes spending time in nature. City life can easily wear them out, leaving them feeling frazzled and disconnected from themselves. They go into the wilderness to reconnect with their souls, so if you identify as an introvert, then you know exactly how great it feels to drive out of the city even for a day or two.

8. The feeling you get when you help someone with their problems.

Introverts make wonderful listeners and advice-givers, because they can empathize with how someone else feels. Even if they just sit there while the other person pours their heart out, it can make that person feel understood and heard. Listening can heal, and introverts would much rather hear you out than talk anyway.

9. Getting annoyed with people who interrupt your alone time.

We already feel annoyed if we get too little alone time, but interrupting our precious solitude will make our blood boil pretty quickly. Respect our need for space and relaxation, and we will return the favor.

10. Craving close relationships and fierce independence simultaneously.

Introverts are a complicated group – they need both meaningful relationships and plenty of time alone, which can leave them feeling conflicted pretty often. While the relationships in their lives mean so much to them, they also have this unshakable urge to just run away sometimes and enjoy life alone. Striking the right balance between the two isn’t always easy, as any introvert will understand.

15 Signs You’ve Made A True Connection

June 20, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Creating a genuine emotional connection to your partner is one of the great joys of being in a relationship. You may also be looking for signs that your partner feels the same deep love and connection to you, which means they are more likely to stay long-term.

15 Signs You’ve Made A Deep Emotional Connection With Your Partner

We all want the moments of joy and happiness to outweigh our worries and sorrows. Creating an emotional connection with your partner is about the full range of human emotions; sadness, anger, fear, and joy.

We cannot have only positive emotions in our relationships, but we find good, healthy, positive ways to talk about and deal with the negative emotions. Doing the emotional work for your relationship will be worth it to create the loving emotional connection that you want with your partner.

1. You know how to eliminate distractions

Some things in your environment are preventing you from bonding with your partner. One of them could be your social media habit. Researchers found that a high level of Facebook usage is associated with breakups and divorce, especially for those who have been in relatively newer relationships of 3 years or less. These are adverse relationship outcomes that no one wants when working to make an emotional connection.

Distractions like TV and social media are ways to disconnect emotionally. When you focus on something else, you can’t focus on the person next to you. Rather than disconnecting, turn toward your partner and ask an open-ended question like ‘What is on your mind?’ or ‘How can I show you more love?’

Communication is one of the most critical parts of a relationship with your partner. Sometimes, we get it wrong, and miscommunication creates conflict. Eliminating distractions helps avoid miscommunication and allows you two to listen more to each other’s needs. If you know what your partner needs, and they know yours, you can better provide it and keep them happy in the relationship.

2. You respond to them rather than react

Our initial gut reaction to what we see, hear or feel is not how we should talk to our partner unless our gut reaction is love. Initially, what your partner says may upset you. If that is the case, recognize that you are reacting and say, ‘I’m reacting right now. Give me a moment to respond to you.’

Wait to say the words that properly communicate how you feel rather than how you first felt. Defensiveness is a response to a threat, which may be how we feel when our partner raises their voice, for example. Own your defensiveness and recognize when you put up a barrier. Again say what’s happening ‘I’m being defensive. Let me take a few breaths and prepare to listen to you.’

3. Build greater intimacy through intimate moments

Intimacy is about much more than sex. Intimacy can be built from a touch on the hand, a shared joke, a quiet moment of eye contact, or many different ways that aren’t sexual. Time sleeping in bed together is an intimate moment that most couples take for granted.

Touch is vital to human companionship. Part of an intimate relationship or even a friendship involves touch of some kind. Touch releases happy hormones for our brains, which creates an emotional connection to your partner and makes them want more of the happy hormone. Getting addicted to intimate touch is not bad when you build emotional bonds with your partner.

4. Create a safe place for expressing emotions

Emotions are insufficient words to some people. Men, primarily, are traditionally taught to be tough and to stuff emotions down and hide them. Men can be as gentle and loving as women can, but they have a more challenging time showing it because they have less experience with it after practicing emotional stuffing for so long.

Being sensitive to your partner’s sensitivity to emotions is essential. Researchers at the University of Melbourne found that responding to your partner with gentleness and care was the most accurate predictor of marital strength, even more than sexual attraction.

5. Picture your future together

Imagine you and your partner growing old and building a lasting companionship. The emotions come to your eyes quickly when you think about long-term love. We can avoid many minor aggravations by looking at our relationship’s big picture as a journey. Each partner will grow and evolve, change, and make a new start every time a significant life event happens.

6. You’ve Become More Patient

When you have a deep bond with someone, you’ll be more patient with them. You’ll notice that you’re more understanding than you used to be, and you don’t get irritated as easily.

Having a deep connection means that you understand their heart and can forgive them easily. You might even notice that things that irritate you about others don’t both you when your partner does it.

7. You Can Be Yourself and Are Similarly Weird

Everyone is weird in different ways, and you’ll be okay with that in your relationship. If you feel like you can be yourself, it’s clear that there’s a deep bond. You won’t have to stress about what you say or how you behave when you know they accept you for who you are.

Additionally, having similar weird qualities signifies a close couple. You’ll still have differences, but your quirks will be in the same category. These similarities help you develop a bond, and then they help solidify it and keep it strong.

8. You’re Confident in Your Feelings

When couples fight and disagree, they sometimes wonder if the relationship is right for them. This situation doesn’t occur when two people have a bond. Instead, you’ll argue with your partner and then work on moving forward together.

It’ll never cross your mind that you might be better without them. Your inability to stay angry or consider severe consequences stems from deeply understanding one another. You might get annoyed or frustrated, but your feelings will never waver.

9. They Make You Want to Be Better

A loving connection inspires you to become a better person and try new things. The inspiration boosts your confidence and self-esteem, making it possible to achieve all of your goals. You’ll do the things you only dreamed of and improve every aspect of your life possible.

The feelings that come with a bond make everything seem achievable. You’ll start tackling the things you’ve put on the back burner, and you’ll experience fulfillment and meaning.

10. They Help You Face Your Darkness

Everyone goes through hard times, but some of us never face the darkness. When you’re in a healthy relationship, you’ll feel ready to address unresolved issues from the past. Your person will help you overcome the darkness and begin moving on, seeing yourself for who you are right now.

11. You’ve Overcome Hardship in Your Relationship

All relationships experience hardship, and it’s all about how you work together to overcome it. If you and your partner have been through undesirable situations together, it creates a deeper bond. Deciding to continue the relationship after hardship shows that you think the relationship is well worth it.

12. There’s Never an Awkward Silence, and Deep Conversations Aren’t Uncomfortable

When you bond with someone, things won’t be awkward or uncomfortable. You’ll have deep conversations involving personal topics without it feeling strained.

Additionally, the silence won’t be awkward when you’re together but not speaking. You might even find that the silence is peaceful because your partner’s presence is enough.

13. You Want to Spend Time Together

Some couples only spend time together when it’s convenient or expected. On the other hand, couples with a close bond want to be together even when they don’t have to be. They don’t get together only when there’s nothing else going on because they enjoy spending time with one another.

It’s easy to put people on the back burner when life gets busy, but a couple with a connection doesn’t do that. They don’t only want to spend time in a group, either. Close couples love having alone time to talk and bond.

14. You Know Each Other’s Closest Family and Friend

As a relationship gets deeper, you’ll want your partner to know your friends and family. It’s a good sign if you and your partner have reached this stage and you know their loved ones well.

15. You Like Traveling Together

If you can travel with your partner without getting stressed, it’s a sign of a deep connection. Traveling with someone else means you must compromise on what you see and do together. If you agree on things or enjoy the compromise, you’ll find that you and your partner share a deep bond.

Final Thoughts on the Beauty of a True Love Connection

A love connection is a beautiful experience, and it’ll bring you incredible amounts of joy. If you’re in a relationship, you likely identify with many of the signs on this list. However, if you didn’t relate, it gives you something to think about and address within your relationship.

Embrace your love connection and recognize your partner for the blessing that they are. Plus, remember your worth within the relationship, too, because you’re part of the reason for the close bond.

5 Ways To Stop Overtalking

June 20, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Does someone you know excitedly interrupt others to tell them about things often? Interrupting people is just one prime example of overtalking others.

Conversations have to involve both listening and speaking or people cannot communicate their needs. There are 5 ways to stop doing this to the people who you want to actually hear you.

5 Ways to Stop Overtalking

We have to use communication to get what we need to not only survive, but to be happy, fulfilled people. Talking too much can make other people avoid you, which will definitely not help you get what you need. Overtalking is a bad habit that might take some effort on your part to break.

Here are a few reasons to stop the habit of overtalking:

Interrupting others is rude
You can’t actually listen when you are overtalking
You’ll appear closed off to others’ opinions
You can seem uncaring
You can’t read minds so you don’t know what they are going to say
It seems selfish because overtalking implies that your words are more important than the other person’s

As far as who talks more when it comes to gender, women get a bad reputation for overtalking, gossip and talking more than men do. But researchers find that although this is a cultural stereotype, it does not appear to be true.

PBS.org says ‘Two Canadian researchers, Deborah James and Janice Drakich, reviewed sixty-three studies which examined the amount of talk used by American women and men in different contexts. Women talked more than men in only two studies.’

The amount that we talk versus listen is different in different cultures. For example, American professors often think that Asian students are not taking an active role in learning because they speak up less often than students who were raised in a Western culture.

Here are some ways to reduce the amount of talking that you do in a conversation, improve your relationships, and be a better listener in service to others.

1. Ask for help

Other people are probably better at catching you overtalking them than you are, so enlist their help. Say ‘I am working on listening better and I would appreciate it if you point out if I interrupt you so I can learn not to overtalk.’

You might think that you can just be aware of yourself speaking and stop, but it is harder than it sounds to stop overtalking. Use your phone to try videotaping your next conversation and then review it to see how you did. This is a great tool for self-evaluation and to help stop overtalking.

2. Remember your point

There was a reason that you opened your mouth in the first place, so stick to the concise, shortened version of that as much as possible. If you get lost and catch yourself overtalking, stop and summarize your main point and then be silent.

3. Relieve tension first

It can feel good to ‘get something off your chest’ but to unload on someone else just to make yourself feel good is a bad habit of overtalking, and it needs to stop. Researchers call talking about problems with a friend ‘co-ruminating,’ and although it helps to talk things though, talking repeatedly about negative things has also been linked to feelings of anxiety and depression.

Find a healthy way, like talking a walk, to relieve the stress that you are feeling when you are just bursting with something to say. Once the emotional stress is worked out of your body, you can calmly talk to someone about your feelings and stop overtalking.

4. Ask a question

When you notice that you are overtalking, ask your partner in conversation a question. By doing this, you put the ball back in their court to speak. Now stay quiet while they respond.

5. Time yourself

A perfect conversation is a mix of give and take in an equal ratio of you and the other person taking turns. This rarely happens second for second, but you may get a sense for how much of the conversation time you take up versus your partner in conversation.

On your smart phone, set a timer to vibrate after three minutes. If, after three minutes, you haven’t stopped talking for the other person to contribute, do it when the timer goes off. Now set it again for three more minutes and during this time, ask questions or be silent and listen.

5 Signs Your Partner Has Hidden Anxiety

June 19, 2016 by Chris Butler

When you live with someone, you learn everything about them. Everything from their favorite toothpaste to how they like their morning coffee becomes first-hand knowledge. You also know about their struggles. Sometimes your partner may not be as forthcoming about everything that’s going on inside their heart and mind. Perhaps you’re noticing things that make you wonder if they’re struggling with hidden anxiety.

Here are five signs your partner has hidden anxiety if this is the case. Being aware of these signs can equip you to help them better.

Today, anxiety disorders are one of the most common mental health conditions. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America estimates that approximately 18.1% of the adult population struggle with anxiety disorders every year. An anxiety disorder is characterized by intense feelings of worry or fear. These feelings can be so strong they affect the individual’s daily life. Sometimes people don’t realize they’re struggling with an anxiety disorder because, mostly, they’re high functioning. This type of hidden anxiety may be difficult to see.

5 Signs Your Partner Has Hidden Anxiety

Watch for these telltale signs of hidden anxiety.

1. Recurring Sickness stems from hidden anxiety

If your partner gets sick a lot, it could signify they’re struggling with hidden anxiety. They’re often ill because their body is responding to stress. This leads to high cortisol levels, which causes them to be susceptible to a weakened immune system. Other physical signs of hidden anxiety include

Dizziness
Rapid heart rate
Lots of sweating
Shortness of breath

2 – Restlessness

Another typically hidden anxiety symptom is restlessness. If your partner is anxious, they may be unable to sit for extended periods. They might sit for a while, then suddenly jump up and walk around. It’s easy to assume they’re just high-energy people, but if you observe them, you may notice a pattern. Their restlessness is a stress reaction. When people who struggle with anxiety get in stressful situations, stress hormones get released, which causes a “fight or flight” response. This response should be reserved for life and death situations, but some people feel this regularly, which makes them restless. Along with restlessness, they may also have nervous habits like

Constantly tapping their foot
Wiggling
Curling their arms around themselves
Pacing
Fidgeting with their hands or fingers

3 – Hidden anxiety causes poor sleep habits

If you notice your partner has poor sleep habits, it could signify hidden anxiety. Lack of sleep affects your ability to function at work, at home, and with your family. It’s often a sign of mental health problems. Individuals who have hidden anxiety may have

Trouble falling asleep
Difficulty staying asleep
Nightmares
Feeling tired all the time

4 – Lifestyle Signs

If your partner is drinking a lot of alcohol or eating poorly, it could signify they’re struggling with anxiety. Sadly, anxiety and alcoholism go hand in hand. It’s widespread for someone who struggles with anxiety to turn to alcohol to cope.

To help your partner, you should know the signs of alcoholism. The physical symptoms include the following behaviors:

Sleep problems
Moodiness
Irritability
Headaches
Falling
Nausea
Vomiting

5 – Someone with hidden anxiety will worry about everything

It’s normal to worry once in a while, but if your partner has excessive worries, it could signify they have hidden anxiety. You may notice their fear includes these:

Worrying about daily life and activities
They can’t control their nervousness
Realize they worry too much but can’t overcome it
Something easily startles them
Trouble sleeping
May twitch or tremble
Edgy
Frequent bathroom visits

Observe and keep track when you notice these habits. Knowing your partner’s anxiety symptoms will help you when you talk to them about your concerns. Having these observations will show them that their anxiety isn’t as hidden as they may have thought.

Other symptoms of hidden anxiety

Hidden anxiety looks different for different people. That’s why it’s difficult to notice these symptoms in your partner. Some other hidden anxiety symptoms to watch for include:

Getting easily frustrated
Irritability
Perfectionism
Overachiever
Fear of judgment
Need to be busy all the time
Overthinking

How to help someone who struggles with hidden anxiety?

One of the best ways to help your partner who struggles with hidden anxiety is to learn everything you can about anxiety. Understanding anxiety helps you better understand what anxiety looks like and what triggers it. Hidden anxiety is difficult to diagnose. There are several types of this disorder. The most common types of anxiousness include

Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD): This disorder occurs daily for at least six months. Individuals with GAD worry a lot about daily things, such as school and work.
Panic disorder: Panic attacks are intense anxiety and fear episodes. People who suffer from panic attacks have them repeatedly.
Social anxiety disorder: Social anxieties cause individuals to worry about being judged or rejected by those in their social circles.

Someone with anxiety can have one or a combination of these disorders. Knowing about these disorders will help you spot symptoms.

Listen to your partner

Once you understand anxiety and notice the symptoms listed above, you can talk to your partner. Ask questions and show compassion when you speak to them about your concerns. If they feel judged by you, they won’t feel comfortable opening up about what’s going on. You may need to have several conversations before they feel comfortable sharing their struggles. The main thing you can do is to let them know you love them and are concerned about their welfare. Let them know you’re there for them.

Know what is helpful

Sometimes just talking about their anxiety can help them feel less anxious. It can be the beginning to help them worry less. Please encourage them to have better self-care, which will help their mind and body so they can better handle their anxiety. Their self-care will help them overcome the stress. Suggestions for self-care to manage their nervousness could be:

Regular exercise
Mindfulness exercises
Getting adequate sleep
Less alcohol and caffeinated drinks
Healthy eating
B complex vitamins
Vitamin C supplements
Fighting worrisome thoughts

Join your partner to exercise or practice mindfulness, so they don’t feel like they’re alone. Doing this will strengthen your relationship and provide opportunities for you to ask your partner how they’re doing with anxiety.

Help them get counseling

If your partner continues to struggle with anxiety, it may be good to suggest they seek counseling. Professional counselors will help them get to the root of their stress and suggest strategies to deal with the anxiety.

What shouldn’t you do?

Of course, certain things won’t be helpful when your partner is struggling with hidden anxiety. Avoid things such as

Arranging your environment or life to change your behavior-This may seem helpful, but you’re enabling the person. As you help them avoid scary situations or difficulties, they don’t overcome their fears by themselves. They become too dependent upon you.

Don’t confront someone with anxiety harshly

Forcing them or pushing them into scary situations will be overwhelming. Assuming they’ll be okay if they do things isn’t a way to encourage healing or wholeness. If you push someone who isn’t ready to do something, it can harm them more.

Be careful what you say to them

What you say to your partner will make a difference in being able to help them. Here are some things not to say to them and what you should say to better help them.

What are you worried about?

This question is an unhelpful one because your partner may not be able to identify the source of their anxiety. Don’t tell them what you think is the cause of their stress. The best thing you can do is not to ask these questions. Tell your partner that you’re there for them, and that’s enough.

Try to calm down

When you tell your partner to calm down, it doesn’t help. It puts pressure on them. It sounds patronizing and controlling. Instead, be calm and say, “I’m here with you” or ” I’m here to listen.”

I know how you feel

If you’ve struggled with anxiety, you can say this. Otherwise, it’s best not to assume you know how your partner feels. Trying to tell them what your fear is like while they’re struggling with a panic attack won’t be helpful. It may feel like you’re trying to compete with them. Say something like, “I’m here for you.”

Final thoughts on Detecting Hidden Anxiety in Your Partner

You may feel you know everything about your partner but notice certain things that make you wonder if they’re struggling with hidden anxiety. Anxiety is a common problem for adults in the United States. Your concerns could be ligament. If your partner isn’t forthcoming about what’s happening inside their heart or mind, arrange a time to talk to them to bring up your concerns. Find ways to support them, but avoid doing or saying certain things that won’t help but could hurt them.

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1. Prevent pain

2. Night vision

3. Prevent brain freeze

4. Cure a headache and hold your breath underwater longer

5. Superhuman memory abilities

6. Build your superhuman skeleton

7. Super hearing power

8. Heal yourself with your superhuman placebo abilities

9. Breathe through a stuffed nose

10. Stop bleeding

11. Stop the Earth from spinning

12. Avoid using the bathroom

Here are five behaviors that attract toxic partners (and how to avoid them):

1. Toxic partners take things too personally.

2. Jealousy.

3. Toxic partners might be carrying past pain.

4. Negative thought patterns.

5. Judgment and criticism.

Final Thoughts on Toxic Partners

10 Things Only Introverts Will Understand

1. Feeling like you could spend forever in your own company and not get bored.

2. Wanting to spend your weekends at home rather than go out and socialize.

3. Getting annoyed with people who talk too loudly or quickly.

4. Getting nervous when you have to talk to someone new.

5. Blushing a lot when you get embarrassed.

6. Wanting to talk, but then getting tired of it after a few minutes.

7. The joy of finally getting away into nature after spending too long in suburbia.

8. The feeling you get when you help someone with their problems.

9. Getting annoyed with people who interrupt your alone time.

10. Craving close relationships and fierce independence simultaneously.

15 Signs You’ve Made A Deep Emotional Connection With Your Partner

1. You know how to eliminate distractions

2. You respond to them rather than react

3. Build greater intimacy through intimate moments

4. Create a safe place for expressing emotions

5. Picture your future together

6. You’ve Become More Patient

7. You Can Be Yourself and Are Similarly Weird

8. You’re Confident in Your Feelings

9. They Make You Want to Be Better

10. They Help You Face Your Darkness

11. You’ve Overcome Hardship in Your Relationship

12. There’s Never an Awkward Silence, and Deep Conversations Aren’t Uncomfortable

13. You Want to Spend Time Together

14. You Know Each Other’s Closest Family and Friend

15. You Like Traveling Together

Final Thoughts on the Beauty of a True Love Connection

5 Ways to Stop Overtalking

Here are a few reasons to stop the habit of overtalking:

1. Ask for help

2. Remember your point

3. Relieve tension first

4. Ask a question

5. Time yourself

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5 Signs Your Partner Has Hidden Anxiety

1. Recurring Sickness stems from hidden anxiety

2 – Restlessness

3 – Hidden anxiety causes poor sleep habits

4 – Lifestyle Signs

5 – Someone with hidden anxiety will worry about everything

Other symptoms of hidden anxiety

How to help someone who struggles with hidden anxiety?

Listen to your partner

Know what is helpful

Help them get counseling

What shouldn’t you do?

Don’t confront someone with anxiety harshly

Be careful what you say to them

What are you worried about?

Try to calm down

I know how you feel

Final thoughts on Detecting Hidden Anxiety in Your Partner

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