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Here’s What Happens To Your Brain When You Break Your Smartphone Addiction

If you look around at any given public place today, most people sadly spend more time in their smartphone screens than they do connecting with those around them. Smartphones originally made a wonderful way to check something on the Internet while out and about, or check an email or two. Nowadays with the thousands of apps available and the obsession with social media platforms, people use their smartphones basically to stay entertained. We’ve become addicted to technology, and less connected to ourselves and the world around us.

Ask yourself this question: How many times a day do you check your smartphone? Do you check it for important information and notifications, or check it every chance you get even if you don’t have notifications? Most people use their phones not out of necessity, but out of habit. We’ve become so accustomed to using our phones as a crutch, while we wait for a table at a restaurant, to avoid an awkward conversation, or just to escape reality.

However, all of this cell phone usage can really take a toll on your health, and make you feel like a zombie. Most of us have no idea how to live without our smartphones, but we’d like to share with you what incredible benefits come with giving up your smartphone, or at least using it significantly less.

Here’s what happens to your brain when you break your smartphone addiction:

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For starters, let’s talk about how addicted we’ve become to our precious smartphones.

In a 2015 Pew Research Centre study, 24% of teens said they go on the Internet “almost constantly.” Surveys in the United States and Europe from 2012 prove that  between 1.5% to 8.2% of people suffer from what’s known as Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD). Other reports have found even higher rates between 6% and 18.5%. The governments of China and South Korea have classified IAD as a major public health threat. Of course, Millennials use their smartphones more than any other group, which means even more people will suffer in the future if we don’t do something about it now.

In fact, artists and photographers have tried to point out how sick we’ve become as a society, and how smartphone addiction is slowly destroying our connection to ourselves and others. For example, Erik Pickersgill’s photo series Removed features people looking at their phones in various situations, except he edits out the phones in all the pictures. This way, you can see how disengaged and isolated everyone seems. 

In addition to the isolation that cell phones cause, using a smartphone too frequently can contribute to major health problems. For example, if you use your cell phone too close to bedtime, your body will trick your mind into thinking that it’s daytime and you should stay awake. Many people who use a smartphone before bed have reported sleeping problems, as the artificial lights from phones inhibit your body’s natural ability to produce melatonin.

Also, studies have found elevated stress levels in people who use smartphones frequently, and other reports indicate that cell phone users can experience back and neck problems associated with bending down constantly to look at their screens.

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Finally, other studies have linked smartphone usage with decreased long-term memory storage as well as a reliance on looking information up on search engines instead of thinking critically.

So, by giving up your smartphone addiction, your brain can literally transform since you will start relying on it more than your phone for information and new knowledge.

An article written by Jenna Woginrich on The Guardian confirms all of the points we’ve listed above, as she explains her experience of giving up her smartphone:

“I’m a freelance writer and graphic designer with many reasons to have a little computer in my holster, but I don’t miss it. There are a dozen ways to contact me between email and social media. When I check in, it’s on my terms. No one can interrupt my bad singing of Hooked on a Feeling with a text message. It’s as freeing as the first night of a vacation.

“My phone” has become “the phone”. It’s no longer my personal assistant; it has reverted back to being a piece of furniture – like “the fridge” or “the couch”, two other items you also wouldn’t carry around on your butt.

I didn’t get rid of it for some hipster-inspired luddite ideal or because I couldn’t afford it. I cut myself off because my life is better without a cellphone. I’m less distracted and less accessible, two things I didn’t realize were far more important than instantly knowing how many movies Kevin Kline’s been in since 2010 at a moment’s notice. I can’t be bothered unless I choose to be. It makes a woman feel rich.”

Would you ever give up your smartphone? Have you before? Share your thoughts and comments with us below!

10 Yoga Poses That Melt Belly Fat

While most people wouldn’t associate yoga with weight and fat loss, even the most gentle yoga exercises can help you shed those unwanted pounds.

Yoga still requires movement, and even though it might not require the same rigor and endurance as sports, yoga works better, in some cases, since it involves quieting the mind and working on your breathing. In fact, multiple studies find links between yoga and weight loss, which actually baffles most scientists since many yoga practices don’t even involve breaking a sweat.

However, the studies suggest that by changing and moving the body through yoga, changes the brain, which then changes behavior. The driving force behind the weight loss that people see from doing yoga, then, has more to do with one’s mental state than their physical one. Most of us live with an incredible amount of stress, and doing yoga can help you to manage this stress better so that you don’t give in to bad habits, such as emotional eating, bingeing, drinking too much alcohol on the weekends, etc.

10 Yoga Poses That Melt Belly Fat

Since we’ve shown you that yoga does indeed help with weight loss, we wanted to share a few poses with you that target the most stubborn area for most people – the belly.

1. Tadasana (Mountain Pose)

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This pose works well for a warm-up to get your body loose for the rest of your practice. To do this pose, stand up straight with your feet flat, heels spread out a bit, and the your big toes touching. Keep your palms facing your body. Now, bring your hands to the front and put your palms close to each other. Inhale now, stretch out your spine, and then raise your hands above your head. Stretch your body out as much as possible.

If you’d like more of a challenge, try to lift your ankles a bit and stand on your toes, with your eyes facing upwards. If you don’t want to do this step, keep your feet flat. Breathe deeply and try to hold the pose for twenty to sixty seconds. On your last exhale, bring your feet slowly back to the floor. Repeat this pose ten times, with a 10 second rest in between each pose.

2. Surya Namaskar (Sun Salutation)

Sun salutations are wonderful to start your day with. They consist of twelve different yoga positions, helping detox the body while aiding in deep breathing simultaneously. Going through the twelve positions, start by standing with both feet together. Take a deep breath and feel your chest fuller while relaxing the shoulders. Upon inhaling, lift both your arms away from your sides, and on an exhale, bring both arms to the front of your chest. Put your arms into a prayer position.

Then, take a deep breath, raise your arms above your head, and stretch backward. After this, exhale, bend forward, and attempt to touch your knees to your forehead. Then, with your left knee bent, stretch your right leg out behind you with your palms touching the floor. Hold this breath and stretch out your left leg, getting into plank. Now, bring your body to the floor. However, only your knees, chest, and chin should be touching the floor.

Now, inhale again, stretch the body forward, and bend backward. Keep your hands on the floor, exhale, and then lean forward. Bring your right leg forward in between your hands upon an inhale, and stretch up. Bring your left leg forward, breathe in deeply, and stretch back from your waist.

3. Padahastasana (Standing Forward Bend)

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To perform this pose, place your hands on each side of the body while your feet touch, including the heels. Stand up straight, inhale, and lift your hands above your head. Upon exhaling, bend forward, so your body parallels the floor. Inhale, then exhale, and bend forward until your head is touching your knees (if possible). Try to touch the floor if you can, with your palms all the way on the floor and without bending your knees. If you’re a beginner, try to touch your toes or ankles.

Hold your breath, suck in the belly, and hold for sixty to ninety seconds. Exhale and lift your body to the starting position. Repeat 10 times, taking ten-second rests between every two reps.

4. Paschimottanasana (Seated Forward Bend)

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This pose is perfect for stimulating your core and burning belly fat. To start, sit up straight on the floor with your legs stretched out. Keep your feet pointed toward the ceiling. Inhale deeply, raise your hands above your head while your eyes follow your hands upwards, and keep your spine stretched. Now, exhale and bend forward all the way to your legs. Beginners can keep their hands on their ankles or thighs, but more advanced yogis should aim for the toes.

If you do touch your toes, pull them back to feel the stretch in your hamstrings. Breathe in, suck in the tummy and try to hold for sixty to ninety seconds. Exhale and bring your body back up. Repeat this pose ten times.

5. Pavanamuktasana (Wind Relieving Pose)

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As you might’ve guessed by the name, this pose involves lying on your back with your knees touching your chest. This helps to alleviate gastric issues and aids in burning tummy fat. Lie down with your arms and feet outstretched and the heels touching each other. Now, bend the knees, inhale, and upon exhale, bring the knees to your chest. Hold them in place by putting your hands under the thighs. Then, exhale again, lift your head, bringing the chin to the knees.

Hold for 60 to 90 seconds. Then, exhale slowly, release the knees, and rest your head on the floor. Relax into Shavasana, and then repeat the asana 7 to 10 times.

6. Naukasana (Boat Pose)

This is one of the best yoga moves for burning belly fat, as it directly targets this region. To do this, lay down on the yoga mat with your arms and legs outstretched and your toes facing up. Inhale, exhale, and lift your head, chest, and legs off the ground. Stretch out your arms to parallel your legs, and then look toward your toes.

Feel your ab muscles contract, and hold for thirty to sixty seconds. Inhale, exhale, and then come back to starting position. Repeat five times, to begin with, with a 15-second rest after each pose.

7. Ushtrasana (Camel Pose)

This pose works well after the Boat Pose, as it will help stretch out the ab muscles from their previous contractions. Start in Vajrasana. Then, lift your body upwards from your knees so that the knees support your whole body. Exhale deeply, arch the back; reach your hands backward and try to hold each ankle. Tilt your head back until you feel the stretch in your abs.

Hold for twenty to thirty seconds, working up to sixty seconds. Exhale, release, and come back to the starting position. Repeat this exercise five times, resting for fifteen seconds between each.

8. Uttanpadasana (Raised Foot Pose)

For this pose, start in the supine position. Then inhale and exhale, and bring your head back so it touches the floor. Keep your hands at their original position on either side of your body. Stretch as far as you can, without hurting yourself. Now, inhale and raise your legs, making a 45-degree angle. Hold for fifteen or thirty seconds, paying attention to the breath. Inhale deeply and bring your legs back to their starting position.

Repeat 10 times, with a 15-second break between each rep.

9. Marjariasana (Cow Cat Pose or Cat Pose)

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Start in Vajrasana. Breathe normally and raise your body to rest on your knees and palms. The knees should be directly under the hips, and the palms under the shoulders. Keep your head up straight, and place the knees slightly apart so that your weight is evenly distributed. Inhale deeply, then push your back down. Expand your abs as much as possible by taking a big breath.

Hold this pose for about twenty seconds. Exhale, lower the head, and now arch your back upwards this time. Breathe deeply and hold for fifteen to thirty seconds. Exhale, return to the starting pose, and relax the muscles for fifteen seconds. Repeat this move ten times.

10. Bhujangasana (Cobra Pose)

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This pose strengthens back muscles and stretches out the abs. Lie down on the mat with your chest down, legs spaced out a bit, and your toes touching the floor. Keep your hands on either side of your body with your palms touching the floor. Bring the palms underneath the shoulders, inhale deeply, and then slowly lift the chest and head off the floor. Your eyes should be on the ceiling, and your buttocks should be tightened. Take a deep breath and try to lift the body up as much as you can, bending backward from the waist as much as possible.

Hold for thirty to sixty seconds. Exhale and bring your body back to the starting position. Stretch your arms out to the front. Repeat this pose ten times, with a 15-second rest between each rep.

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This ONE Ingredient Can Reduce Pain and Inflammation

Ginger has a long history of use for relieving digestive problems such as nausea, loss of appetite, motion sickness and pain. – WebMD

“Research shows that ginger affects certain inflammatory processes at a cellular level.”

A positive development in the world of medicine is the willingness of medical professionals to experiment with natural remedies. Despite technological advancements and cutting-edge pharmaceuticals, some of the most effective medicines can be found right in our local grocery store.

This ONE Ingredient Can Reduce Pain and Inflammation

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The typical American diet disproportionally includes sugar, sodium and other additives that wreak havoc on our body. This is partially due to the fact that, through advances in food science, we’ve accepted convenience at the expense of what our body really needs: a natural, healthy diet.

Fortunately, enough research now exists that proves the effectiveness of everyday foods. One of those foods is ginger. This is a sweet and spicy ingredient that also happens to benefit our health in a number of ways. In addition to the great taste, ginger is a nutritious and exceptionally versatile ingredient.

Arthritis is one of the most prevalent ailments in society today. A painful and degenerative condition, arthritis is caused by inflammation in the joints. This inflammation adversely affects mobility and causes often debilitating physical pain. The most common form of arthritis, osteoarthritis, has a tendency to get worse with age as natural wear and tear of the body takes its toll.

It’s this inflammatory response where ginger truly demonstrates its medicinal properties. One of the leading arthritis organizations, the Arthritis Foundation, promotes ginger as a natural anti-inflammatory ingredient. The organization’s website cites a study by the University of Miami that suggests ginger supplementation as a natural substitute for nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS). In the study of 247 patients with osteoarthritis of the knee, those given a highly concentrated dose of ginger extract “reduced pain and stiffness in knee joints by 40 percent over the placebo.”

One of the study’s lead researchers states that “Ginger has anti-inflammatory, anti-ulcer and antioxidant activities, as well as a small amount of analgesic (pain reduction) property.” In other words, it is ginger’s ability to counteract inflammation and pain that makes the spice a particularly potent medicinal alternative. This is certainly positive and welcome news for the millions of people who suffer from pain and inflammation from arthritis and other ailments.

As mentioned, ginger is an incredibly versatile ingredient that can be consumed in a number of different forms. The Arthritis Foundation notes that choosing an effective form of ginger is essential to experiencing the most powerful effects from its medicinal properties. Specifically, the organization recommends choosing supplements that use “super-critical extraction,” a process that results in the purest ginger. This process also provides the greatest medicinal effects of any ginger delivery method.

That said, there are a number of ways to incorporate ginger into your diet. Many people add ginger to fresh juices and everyday food. Favorite foods and beverages to include ginger as an ingredient are: carrot ginger lentil soup, stir fry, ginger berry smoothies, salad, split pea soup, kale juice, homemade ginger ale, ginger cookies and candy ginger.

Aside from ginger’s anti-inflammatory properties, the spice also serves other medicinal purposes. Research has shown that ginger can relieve the pain caused by headaches, menstrual cramps, and other injuries. Some research has even documented that the potency of ginger’s anti-inflammatory and pain reduction benefits exceeds that of painkillers and other drugs.

Ginger also helps:

– Fight cancer. Studies show that ginger may help to kill cancer cells. Promising research exists that specifically shows ginger’s powerful counteractive effects in breast cancer patients.

– Aid digestive processes and reduce bloating. Ginger tea and ginger ale drinkers have known this for quite some time. The ingredient contains certain compounds that counteract digestive discomfort while improving digestive processes. Both of these ward off and reduce bloating.

– Prevent and aid motion sickness. A plethora of research exists that notes ginger’s counteractive effects on nausea and vomiting. For this reason, ginger ale and other ginger beverages are a favorite for those that suffer from motion sickness.

– Prevent sickness. As an anti-viral, ginger is effective in reducing the likelihood of illness. At a minimum, consuming ginger during cold and flu months should be considered as a viable alternative.

If You Always Have Relationship Problems, This May Be Why…

Do you ever feel that you have unhealthy relationships with others? That you just can’t seem to let go of codependent tendencies, or the opposite – feeling totally numb to your emotions and distant from others. You also feel like your creativity can’t blossom as it should, and that you feel stuck in one particular feeling or emotion.

You don’t feel that you relate to yourself well, and therefore, you can’t possibly relate to the world around you. If this sounds like you, you might have a blocked sacral chakra. The sacral chakra, or the second chakra, is located three inches below the navel, right in the center of your lower abdomen. This chakra governs the emotional body, creativity, sensuality, and pleasure.

Below, let’s talk a bit more about the sacral chakra, and what you can do to get it unblocked.

IF YOU ALWAYS HAVE RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, THIS MAY BE WHY…

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The Sanskrit name for the Sacral chakra is “Svadhisthana”, meaning “your own place”. We can infer from this that by balancing your Sacral chakra, you will feel more at home, and know your place in the world. This chakra is represented by the color orange most commonly.

Characteristics of the Sacral chakra:

  • Emotions and feelings
  • Relationships with yourself, others, and the world around you
  • How you express your sexuality and sensual pleasures
  • Meshing the outer and inner worlds
  • Creativity
  • The fantasy world

Ultimately, the sacral chakra represents our ability to relate to ourselves and the world around us. It helps us to express and understand our emotions, when properly balanced. It’s the chakra of pleasure, allowing us to enjoy life through our senses, and encourages us to remain flexible in our feelings and emotions.

A second function of the throat chakra deals with expanding our creativity, and really diving into our innermost worlds to understand what brings us passion in life. The sacral chakra also helps us to express our sexuality, and not feel ashamed or embarrassed by it. A balanced sacral chakra will allow you to feel comfortable with your emotions, sexuality, and creativity. Opening the sacral chakra means letting go of negativity surrounding your feelings, expression of sexuality, and the way you spread your creative gifts with the world.

SIGNS OF A BLOCKED SACRAL CHAKRA:

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A blocked sacral chakra can make you feel out of touch with yourself and those around you. It can also make you feel trapped in your emotions, and unable to express them clearly. You also will likely feel insecure about your sexuality. However, an overactive sacral chakra can lead to sexual addiction, overreacting, emotional attachment and neediness in relationships, as well as stomach pains and muscle aches.

The following are symptoms of an imbalanced sacral chakra:

  • Codependency and emotional attachment
  • Feeling trapped in your emotions
  • The opposite: Feeling apathetic toward your emotions
  • Sexual addiction and obsession
  • Or the opposite: Low sex drive, feeling distant from others
  • Overreacting
  • Fear of true happiness
  • Low levels of creativity

A blocked sacral chakra can affect your relationships with others, as well as your zest for life. A sacral chakra blockage can also make it difficult to express your emotions clearly, and can make you prone to either overreacting or stifling your feelings. Upon opening this chakra, you will find it easy to express yourself sexually and creatively, and will feel close and connected to others.

Some common physical symptoms of blockage include:

  • premenstrual syndrome
  • anemia
  • hypoglycemia (low blood sugar)
  • lower back pain
  • joint problems
  • spleen and kidney issues
  • low energy
  • low libido
  • muscle aches
  • stomach cramps

EMOTIONAL SIGNS OF SACRAL CHAKRA BLOCKAGE

  • depression
  • lack of boundaries
  • overly sensitive, standoffish, or indulgent
  • fear and/or anxiety
  • detachment
  • co-dependency
  • manipulation
  • panic attacks

An imbalanced sacral chakra can lead to two extremes; either total detachment from others, or total dependency on others. You might feel as though your emotions have a mind of their own, and you cannot control them. If you feel that you have a blocked sacral chakra, read on to find out how to clear this blockage so you can live authentically and freely.

WHAT TO DO ABOUT A BLOCKED SACRAL CHAKRA

Clearing the sacral chakra involves a lot of tuning into your higher self, and giving your mind and body what they need to thrive.

A few beginner steps to clear the sacral chakra include:

  • Letting go of past emotional pain. One reason why you might feel either unable to open up, or trapped by your emotions, is that you carry so much of your past around with you. This can greatly dampen our emotional spirit, so make sure you talk with someone regularly about your emotions, journal, or even sing songs that reflect your feelings.
  • Practice hip opening yoga poses. This chakra deals with experiencing pleasure, both sexually and non-sexually. Opening your hips can help you to experience more of the good things in life. Some ideas of yoga poses to try include:
    • Open angle pose ( Upavistha Konasana)
    • Cow face pose (Gomukhasana)
    • One-legged king pigeon pose (Eka Pada Rajakapotasana)
    • Reclining bound angle pose (Supta Baddha Konasana)
    • Half frog pose (Ardha Bhekasana)
    • Fire log pose (Agnistambhasana)
  • Incorporate orange colors into your life to help boost this chakra’s energy. Wear orange clothing, eat more orange foods, such as oranges, orange bell peppers, carrots, cantaloupe, and even cinnamon, and place orange items around your home.
  • Meditate on this chakra. Imagine the orange lotus flower near your belly button, and hold this image in your mind. Remember to breathe deeply, and practice positive affirmations as well.
  • Use essential oils, such as the following:
    • Patchouli
    • Ylang-Ylang
    • Bergamot
    • Sandalwood
    • Clary Sage
    • Jasmine
    • Orange
    • Rose
  • Finally, practice energy healing with stones and crystals that correspond to the sacral chakra, such as these:
    • Citrine
    • Carnelian
    • Orange calcite
    • Moonstone

NASA Has Just Discovered Over 1,000 New Planets

On May 10, 2016, NASA confirmed the presence of more than 1,200 new planets in our galaxy, discovered by the Kepler mission. This makes the largest collection of planets ever discovered at one time.

“This announcement more than doubles the number of confirmed planets from Kepler,” said Ellen Stofan, chief scientist at NASA Headquarters in Washington. “This gives us hope that somewhere out there, around a star much like ours, we can eventually discover another Earth.”

Analysis performed on the Kepler space telescope’s July 2015 planet candidate catalog identified 4,302 potential planets, of which 1,284 have greater than 99% probability of being a planet. This is the minimum percentage required in order to receive the status of a planet. Kepler searches in particular for planets in the “habitable zone,” or the planets in close enough proximity to a star for water to pool on the surface.

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“Before the Kepler space telescope launched, we did not know whether exoplanets were rare or common in the galaxy. Thanks to Kepler and the research community, we now know there could be more planets than stars,” said Paul Hertz, Astrophysics Division director at NASA Headquarters. “This knowledge informs the future missions that are needed to take us ever-closer to finding out whether we are alone in the universe.”

Kepler captures planets by detecting the slight decreases in brightness that occur when planets pass in front of their stars, comparable to the May 9 Mercury transit of the sun. Since space missions first discovered planets outside our solar system two decades ago, scientists have committed to the tedious process of verifying new planets one at a time.

“Planet candidates can be thought of like bread crumbs,” said Morton. “If you drop a few large crumbs on the floor, you can pick them up one by one. But, if you spill a whole bag of tiny crumbs, you’re going to need a broom. This statistical analysis is our broom.”

Among the newly confirmed planets, almost 550 could resemble rocky planets like Earth, according to their size. In addition, nine of these orbit in their sun’s habitable zone, meaning they have the perfect temperature for water to pool on the surface of the planet. With the addition of these nine, that makes a total of 21 exoplanets that have the same size and orbit as the Earth to the sun.

“They say not to count our chickens before they’re hatched, but that’s exactly what these results allow us to do based on probabilities that each egg (candidate) will hatch into a chick (bona fide planet),” said Natalie Batalha, co-author of the paper and the Kepler mission scientist at NASA’s Ames Research Center in Moffett Field, California. “This work will help Kepler reach its full potential by yielding a deeper understanding of the number of stars that harbor potentially habitable, Earth-size planets — a number that’s needed to design future missions to search for habitable environments and living worlds.”

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Out of the nearly 5,000 possible planets found out there, more than 3,200 have been confirmed, and Kepler discovered 2,325 of these. Launched in March 2009, Kepler is the first NASA space mission to discover Earth-sized, habitable planets. Kepler found the new planets in a small portion of the night sky, between the constellations of Lyra and Cygnus.

For four years, Kepler monitored 150,000 stars in this single patch of sky, measuring the slight decreases in brightness when the planets transit their stars. In 2018, NASA’s Transiting Exoplanet Survey Satellite will use the same method to monitor 200,000 bright stars close by, focusing on Earth-sized and Super Earth-sized planets.

“Everything is looking good for the spacecraft,” said Charlie Sobeck, Kepler’s mission manager, who speculates that the spacecraft has “something over two more years of fuel” left to keep searching for new planets.

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6 Behaviors of Socially Awkward People (And How To Avoid Them)

Tripping over your words, feeling anxious, and struggling to find the right words to say are common behaviors of socially awkward people. Lacking social skills can be overcome with some courage and practice, as well as some positive thoughts about your ability to be a conversational genius.

Humans are social beings. Much of what we need to survive we get by relying on others. Our ability to communicate well with others in social settings is important to our total well-being.

There are some traits of social awkwardness which, when taken to more severe levels, are the traits of adults with low-support autism or Asperger’s syndrome. Researchers created an Awkward Moments Test, which is a series of video clips of characters experiencing socially uncomfortable moments. The researchers then ask people to watch the videos and describe the emotional state of the person in the video.

Human communication includes many subtle styles that can be hard to detect. Pretending, being ironic, joking, telling a white lie, using a figure of speech, or persuading someone are all situations where we might misunderstand what is being said and have a socially awkward situation.

Let’s look at 6 behaviors of socially awkward people and how to avoid them so you can stop avoiding social situations.

6 Behaviors of Socially Awkward People (and how to avoid them)

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1. Getting anxious around other people

Fear of judgment, fear of crowds, fear of saying the wrong thing. As a matter of fact, fear is one thing that can keep people away from situations where they have to interact with others. Fear is a feeling in your body that something isn’t right. The good news is that you can talk yourself out of it.

Feeling a moment of fear is a way for your social awkwardness to help you recognize that you need to take action. Associate professor of psychology, Joshua Clegg says that social awkwardness is like an early warning system. For example, you feel the moment of awkwardness when someone tells an insulting joke. Use the feeling to act by excusing yourself to go refresh a drink.

2. Missing non-verbal social cues

Missing the cues that tell us when someone is no longer interested in talking can be one thing that makes your social encounters awkward. Look for the following signs that your conversation is over.

Non-verbal cues that someone is finished speaking or ready to move on to a new topic:

  • Feet pointed away from you
  • Torso or head pointed away from you
  • Starts doing another activity
  • No longer making eye contact
  • Fidgeting
  • Moving further away

Look for the non-verbal cues that someone is ready to end a conversation and let them exit gracefully. Say ‘Did you need to get going?’ or ‘Well (name) it was great to see you again’ to start wrapping up the conversation in a pleasant way.

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Verbal cues that someone is finished speaking or ready to move on to a new topic:

  • Changing the topic
  • No longer asking questions
  • Speaking only in short phrases like ‘Um hmm’ or ‘Yes/No’

When you catch on to these verbal cues, wrap up your own speaking and ask the other person a question.

3. Talking too much or too little

A good conversation has a flow of giving and take, talking and listening. Socially awkward people can tend to talk so much that they monopolize the conversation. If this is your awkward conversational style, try to slow your rate of speaking and limit yourself to 4 sentences, then pause to let your partner speak.

Sometimes though, they aren’t sure what to say, so they stand there quietly, wondering if, or when, they should speak. When you aren’t sure what to say, try small talk. Small talk is the art of talking about nothing much really.

Small talk topics can include the weather, your outfit, TV shows, good restaurants to try, etc. Basically these are everyday things that we can discuss that do not usually arouse negative emotions in people.

4. Talking about awkward or touchy subjects

Most people know that talking about politics, sex, or religion are very sensitive subjects. Socially awkward people may have missed the lesson on this because they tend to be the ones to make you cringe when they bring up controversial topics in conversation.

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Topics that people feel passionately about should be avoided rather than bringing up feelings of anger when one person’s view is different than another person’s.

Avoid talking about touchy subjects, but take your cue from the person you are speaking with. If they bring up a sensitive topic, try saying ‘Well we might be getting into a sensitive area here but if you’d like to know my opinion I will tell you.’

5. Being too honest

Mastering the social graces usually requires some small form of lying, or at least withholding what you really feel about someone. We call these white lies. In other words, you should not tell a person that you really hate the clothes they are wearing.

Social norms are the rules that most people agree define what is acceptable behavior for people in groups. Generally speaking, interrupting and insulting others are two behaviors that we know are frowned upon, so avoiding these behaviors will help you be less socially awkward.

6. Being unable to detect or express emotions

Your friends may think you are socially awkward when you are unable to express empathy after they describe a significant loss that affected them. The same is true if you are unable to express joy for them when they are happy about a promotion or some other joyful event.

Similarly, not being able to detect emotional signals from the body language or facial expressions of another person is connected to more frequent incidents of social awkwardness.

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