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6 Ways To Become A Stronger Woman

“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful, you don’t point fingers. You stand and you deal. You face the world with a head held high and you carry the universe in your heart.” – C. JoyBell C.

Strong women just have a certain vibe about them, and emanate confidence and assertiveness wherever they go. Most women could probably agree that they enjoy being independent, self-assured, and mentally and physically strong, but getting to that point can seem challenging. Despite gender roles and social conventions, women have risen above the expectations of others and have made great progress in showing the world the beauty and strength of femininity.

It doesn’t matter how you see yourself now – you can easily become a strong, independent woman using these tips below.

Here are 6 ways to become a strong woman:

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1. Seek the right kind of attention

In today’s world, we have dozens of apps, such as Tinder, that can give us instant gratification without having to form real connections. It’s no secret that women are objectified and oversexualized everyday for marketing campaigns, advertisements, and other forms of media, so using your body to get what you want only further perpetuates the idea that women have nothing more to offer than sex. If you want to form long-lasting, deep connections and attract the right attention, share your intellect and feelings with others.

If you carry yourself with dignity and know your self-worth beyond your appearance and sex appeal, you will start to attract others who also want something more than just a shallow connection to fulfill base-level desires.

2. Follow other strong women

If you turn on almost any reality TV show today, you won’t find much more than materialism, self-absorption, and sexualization of both men and women. Reality TV and other types of media, despite the name, don’t actually portray reality at all. Watching these superficial shows only makes people become blind followers of icons that don’t necessarily have the best values. Instead of binge-watching Keeping Up With the Kardashians, why not start following other strong women who actually promote causes that help the planet and its inhabitants, and don’t use their bodies or money to gain attention? To name just a couple wonderful women to look up to, Oprah and Ellen DeGeneres certainly fit the bill.

3. Don’t wait around for someone to save you

Probably one of the most important tenets of becoming a strong woman is not relying on someone else to come along and rescue you. A strong, independent woman knows she possesses all the power within herself to make positive changes in her life. She doesn’t wait around for someone else to pick her up when she’s down or show her the right way to live her life. While emotional independence may not happen overnight, you can easily work at it each day if you’d like to become a stronger woman. Of course, having relationships with others who we can share our concerns with is important, but we shouldn’t ever look to others to lick our wounds or save us from ourselves.

4. Free yourself from the victim mentality

While women have undeniably been oppressed in the past, and still may not be seen as equals to men in some parts of the world today, you don’t have to perpetuate this belief. Shatter the idea that you somehow have less value than men, because this simply doesn’t have any truth to it. Men and women both play important roles in society, and one gender does not have greater worth than the other. However, playing into the victim mentality and believing that you get treated differently than men will only keep the idea alive that we live in a man’s world.

The best way to overcome this belief is by simply having confidence in yourself, asserting yourself, and sharing your thoughts and ideas with others. If you don’t allow other people to control you, and you stand up for yourself if you believe you have been taken advantage or treated unfairly, then you have mastered one of the best ways to become a strong woman.

5. Keep challenging yourself

Don’t just allow yourself to fall into stagnancy and complacency – keep doing things each day that challenge you both mentally and physically. Life just gets dull if we don’t regularly push ourselves out of our comfort zones and try something new, so don’t hold yourself back just because of self-imposed limitations. Strong women don’t let their minds dictate what they can and can’t do, and push past their barriers even if it feels uncomfortable.

6. Don’t depend on others to make you happy

Most importantly, don’t rely on other people for happiness – this will only make you believe that you need someone at all times to feel content. You have everything you need to feel absolutely wonderful about life, so don’t believe any differently. Relationships can definitely provide a source of happiness, but they shouldn’t serve as our ONLY method of finding fulfillment and joy in life.

If you’d like to read more about the traits of a strong woman, please read our related article here.

5 Gut Instincts You Should Never Ignore

When people say they’re “listening to their gut,” they really mean that their intuition is guiding them in making a decision. We all have this innate ability to listen to that inner voice telling us not to go through with something, or that the person asking us for help might have ulterior motives, or that our childhood dream could actually become a fulfilling career choice in our adult life.

We can essentially decode this often indescribable gut feeling we get in certain situations, because that pang in your stomach, sudden bout of fatigue, or strong urge to help the person next to you can reveal more than you think.

Here are 5 instincts you don’t want to ignore:

1. “I don’t feel good.”

If something in your body doesn’t feel right, you should listen to this feeling before it gets any worse. A lot of people ignore subtle signs from their bodies and end up dealing with a much larger problem than they originally planned for. Your body instinctively knows when something is off balance, and those initial warning signs warrant your acknowledgment and further investigating to find out what your intuition is trying to tell you. Don’t ever hesitate to go to your wellness advocate if your inner voice starts to scream at you to take action – the human body communicates to us surprisingly often through the power of intuition.

On another note, pay attention to how you feel every time you interact with someone. Do you feel drained, anxious, or depressed? These feelings have come to the surface for a reason – by listening to yourself intuitively, you can determine which people in your life suck your energy dry, and who actually makes you feel alive.

Your intuition speaks to you in many ways, so never ignore any “off” feelings you get, no matter how subtle.

2. “This situation seems dangerous.”

Have you ever seen the Final Destination movies, where one person out of a group of friends gets intense visions before something bad happens? These movies, whether intentionally or not, portray the uncanny role that intuition can play in perilous situations.

For instance, maybe on your weekly trip to the grocery store, someone meets your gaze and you instantly get an uneasy feeling about them. Let’s say they start to follow you discreetly around the store, and then you watch them go outside without buying anything. However, they don’t leave; instead, they wait outside the store, and you intuitively feel that by going to your car, you will put yourself in a potentially life-threatening situation. While this person may not have directly endangered you, your intuition commands you to not leave the store without telling the manager or calling the police first.

The fight-or-flight response in humans was designed to warn us of immediate danger, and move us to act on that feeling. While our gut instincts can have flaws, you should listen to them regardless – they might just save your life.

3. “I should help that person.”

Gut instincts don’t always indicate something negative. Since we all originate from the same source, we have direct ties to each other and can sense when someone needs help. We have the powerful ability to read other people’s energy by evaluating their facial expressions, body language, or just how we feel around that person. Have you ever noticed how everyone scrambles to offer whatever help they can after a natural or man-made disaster? This strong desire to assist our fellow humans comes prewired in our evolution as a species; after all, when humans lived off the land, they depended on one another for survival. Some of them gathered wood for shelter and fire, while others wanted to help find food for themselves and others. They helped one another not just out of necessity, but because of a deep understanding that humans need to feel cared for and protected.

Offer help even if the person in question doesn’t ask for it – nonverbal cues can offer much more insight than words in these types of situations.

4. “This comes naturally to me.”

Overthinking can often cause problems that didn’t even exist in the first place, especially in regard to your natural talents. Maybe you have spent weeks practicing your lines for a play, and have all the hand motions, inflections in your tone, and the whole thing down pat. Then, when you get on stage for your final practice, you suddenly forget everything you worked so hard practicing. Or, maybe you have become the star player on your baseball team, but your mind runs on overdrive and puts you under pressure, making you miss every ball pitched to you at home base.

People with extraordinary talents commonly choke when it’s time for them to perform, and all of it stems from letting their minds run haywire. They pay too much attention to their thoughts, rather than letting their instincts take over. If something comes naturally to you, distract your mind with something other than the task at hand, such as a song or memory that makes you happy, and allow your instincts to take over instead.

5. “This just feels right.”gut-instincts-quote

Whether it applies to changing careers, picking your next boyfriend or girlfriend, or deciding where to live, your intuition actually plays a bigger role than rational thinking in these decisions. When you make these life-altering choices, it mostly boils down to how you feel about them. Think about it: we all just want to feel good, so we add and subtract things from our life to align with that feeling. If your career earns you $100,000 a year but makes you miserable, would you stick with it rather than take your dream job that pays $40,000? Your gut would probably tell you to do what makes you happy and take the lower paying job rather than keep one that makes you feel dead inside.

When something feels right, a lightbulb goes off inside you and it doesn’t really require much cognitive ability – it comes easily to you. Listen to your intuition next time you make an important decision – it will help you choose the right path.

5 Reasons You Don’t Want To “Be Like Bill”

You are perfect, just as you are, so there’s really no reason to want to “Be Like Bill”, or anyone else for that matter. That desire to want to please others or to belong is not part of what makes you, you.

You are special, unique, and different. You are unlike anyone you have ever met. Moreover, you have your own style, your own preferences, your own beliefs, attitudes, emotions, thoughts, wisdom, skills and so much more. And no one else has exactly the same experiences in what makes you. So why would you want to Be Like Bill or anyone else?

Why Would You Want to Be Like Bill?

Be Like Bill is the most recent wave of meme generators; this one from Blobla features a stick figure who acts superior to others. Blobla asks you to put in your name and gender and generates a meme telling people in what ways you are superior to others. These popular memes have plastered the pages of social media and the over-abundance of them is more than just annoying; it can be hurtful.

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Wanting to be part of the Be Like Bill meme comes from multiple places in your psychology. There is the desire to be liked, the desire to be socially accepted, the desire to be part of the in-crowd, the desire to be on the cutting edge of new trends, the desire to display your superiority, or the desire to change others’ behavior based on your choices.

All of this is a psychological mashup of reasons for you to be other-focused, not self-focused. Have you ever heard the expression “You can’t pour from an empty cup?” You are the cup and what is in it. When you focus on others rather than on yourself, you are pouring from your own cup into theirs. If you empty your own cup, you have nothing left for yourself.

Self-love is one of the most authentic things that we can give ourselves and it has nothing to do with other people’s approval. Comparing ourselves with others is not healthy to our well-being. “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.” – Max Ehrmann, Desiderata

People have called the Be Like Bill meme passive-aggressive, insensitive, smug, annoying, click-bait, and clutter that adds no value.

5 Reasons You Don’t Want to Be Like Bill (Or Anyone Else)

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1. Being Like Bill means being judgmental

Stick figure Bill is not only better than you are, he thinks he is able to pass judgment on you because you are not like him. He passes judgment on you without even knowing you. The Be Like Bill meme will never praise you for your behavior, he is always negative in his assessment of you.

The psychological theory behind this tendency to compare others to us is called The Theory of Downward Comparison. Researchers speculate that people who feel negative emotions can enhance their sense of well-being through comparison with a less-fortunate other. You can always find someone worse off than you are, right? So why not let ‘Be Like Bill’ help you find your less-than-you friends who their complaints on your Facebook page can identify? This sounds like very passive-aggressive behavior.

2. Being Like Bill means over-generalizing

Bill’s judgments are either black or white, there is no room for grey. Bill says “this is good” and “this is not good” rather than “sometimes this is good, but not always” or “I, personally prefer this over that.”

3. Being Like Bill means feeling superior over others

Stick figure Bill in the meme thinks he is better than you somehow. He does many things better than you, and he is not afraid to tell other people how much better he is than they are.

When someone tells you that they are better than you are in some way, it can prompt a variety of emotions; jealousy, anger, bitterness, resentment, frustration, sadness or depression. None of these things is a positive emotion that builds up your self-worth.

Your intrinsic value is greater than Bill’s because you embrace your differences rather than saying why your differences make you better than others.

4. Being Like Bill means being a separatist

The Be Like Bill meme brings up separatist issues for some people. He is assigning a value to others he perceives as less than himself. Therefore, if you are not like Bill, you are somehow less than. No one wants to be treated as less than someone else.

To treat others with less value than oneself is to be in the company of Hitler, misogynists, homophobes and apartheid supporters. Bill’s narrow worldview is perpetuating a culture of separatism. “Be like me or else be excluded” is what Bill seems to imply.

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5. Being Like Bill means limiting yourself

Bill, the stick figure meme, is only interested in people like him. You could choose to be like Bill, but then you limit your possibilities. Your own freedom to express yourself is unlimited. Why let Bill influence your actions? Why is Bill trying to control or limit you?

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11 Life Changing Lessons To Learn From Jim Carrey

You might just think of Jim Carrey as a highly energetic, animated actor and comedian, but he can also teach us valuable life lessons through his own personal experiences. While he had many struggles early on in his life and career, he pushed through and rose to fame and success by never letting go of his dream.

We see Carrey on TV or in movies and easily laugh at his slapstick comedic routines and humor, but beyond that, he possesses a lot of wisdom about how to live the best life possible.

Here are 11 life-changing lessons to learn from Jim Carrey:

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1. Appreciate the little things.

“I wake up some mornings and sit and have my coffee and look out at my beautiful garden, and I go, ‘Remember how good this is. Because you can lose it.'”

2. Jim Carrey does not take life too seriously.

“My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it. And laugh.”

3. Never doubt your potential.

“Maybe other people will try to limit me but I don’t limit myself.”

“If you’ve got a talent, protect it.”

4. Take responsibility for your life.

“I really believe in the philosophy that you create your own universe. I’m just trying to create a good one for myself.”

5. Stay humble.

“I’m the first to admit this whole salary thing is getting out of control. In the final analysis, it’s still about the work.”

“I feel like I want to take care of everyone and I also feel this terrible guilt if I am unable to. And I have felt this way ever since all this success started.”

“Life is an ordeal, albeit an exciting one, but I wouldn’t trade it for the good old days of poverty and obscurity.”

6. Don’t forget about what really matters.

“I got a lot of support from my parents. That’s the one thing I always appreciated. They didn’t tell me I was being stupid; they told me I was being funny.”

“If you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back to pain and regret.”

“Creative people don’t behave very well generally. If you’re looking for examples of good relationships in show business, you’re gonna be depressed real fast. I don’t have time for anything else right now but work and my daughter. She’s my first priority.”

7. Have a sense of humor.

“Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes.”

“Ya know what I do almost every day? I wash. Personal hygiene is part of the package with me.”

“Maybe there is no actual place called hell. Maybe hell is just having to listen to our grandparents breathe through their noses when they’re eating sandwiches.”

8. Jim Carrey lives life by his own rules.

“I practiced making faces in the mirror and it would drive my mother crazy. She used to scare me by saying that I was going to see the devil if I kept looking in the mirror. That fascinated me even more, of course.”

“You know, I live a monastic lifestyle. No, I do. I do live in extremes, basically. I go back and forth. Once every six months, I’ll have a day where I eat more chocolate than has ever been consumed by a human being.”

“I’m very serious about no alcohol, no drugs. Life is too beautiful.”

9. Jim Carrey knows that things aren’t always as they seem.

“I tend to stay up late, not because I’m partying but because it’s the only time of the day when I’m alone and don’t have to be performing.”

“That’s the trouble with being me. At this point, nobody gives a damn what my problem is. I could literally have a tumor on the side of my head and they’d be like, ‘Yeah, big deal. I’d eat a tumor every morning for the kinda money you’re pulling down.'”

“I think I could go away tomorrow. I’ve already accomplished something. It’s such a selfish business that sometimes I get sick of myself.”

“I’m so wrapped up in my work that it’s often impossible to consider other things in my life. My marriage ended in divorce because of this, my relationship with Holly has suffered by this.”

10. Jim Carrey is not afraid to change.

“I’ve arrived at the place if I’m not taking a career risk, I’m not happy. If I’m scared, then I know I’m being challenged.”

“I know this sounds strange, but as a kid, I was really shy. Painfully shy. The turning point was freshman year, when I was the biggest geek alive. No one, I mean no one, even talked to me.”

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11. Take risks, no matter how scary they seem.

“I don’t think human beings learn anything without desperation. Desperation is a necessary ingredient to learning anything or creating anything. Period. If you ain’t desperate at some point, you ain’t interesting.”

“It is better to risk starving to death than surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what’s left?”

“Life opens up opportunities to you, and you either take them or you stay afraid of taking them.”

5 Things To Remember When You Feel Broken

No doubt about it – this life will chew you up and spit you out from time to time. However, just because you go through struggles, does not mean you have to give up on life entirely. In fact, pushing through the pain will teach you valuable lessons, and show you that light always exists even in the darkest places. Feeling broken can make you feel like you have nowhere to turn, like you’ve hit rock bottom and you have no way out.

We’ve all been there, but don’t allow these feelings to take over your whole life. The pain won’t last forever, and on the other side of it, you’ll find more bliss than you could’ve ever imagined. We live in a world of duality, so of course we can’t feel whole and complete without knowing the despair and hopelessness of being broken.

Here are 5 things to remember when you feel broken:

“Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.” – Susan Gale

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1. Remember not to give up.

We all go through struggles in life – it’s inevitable. Think of how unsatisfying life would be without challenges, though. We would never grow and learn without going through hard times; we would simply walk around feeling stagnant and bored. Obstacles keep us on our toes, encourage us to change and continue to break through barriers, and not fall into a trap of comfort and complacency. Just because times seem tough now, does not mean they will remain this way for long. Just keep your eyes toward the sun, and you’ll eventually find that the shadows disappear behind you.

2. Remember to open your heart to change.

A lot of times, we complicate life by resisting change. However, change keeps us afloat, helps us grow, and ensures that we continue evolving and learning important lessons. No one said change feels comfortable, but if it did, would it really be worth it? If you haven’t noticed, the best things happen in life when we reach a crossroads, when life seems so dark and depressing that we can’t imagine it getting any better. Usually, when you’ve reached your limit and can’t imagine going on any longer, this exasperation and desperation actually shows you the right path to take. Nothing good in life comes easily, but it wouldn’t feel nearly as satisfying if it just fell into your lap.

3. Remember that you have a choice.

At any point in time, you have the power to control your life – no outside force decides what job you will take, where you will live, or what attitude you will have. Everything lies in your hands, so instead of fearing or denying this responsibility, embrace it. You don’t have to work at a job you hate, or live somewhere that doesn’t make your heart happy, or stay in a relationship just because it feels safe. The moment you notice yourself falling out of love with life, you need to step back and reevaluate what decisions you’ve made thus far.

Remember, feeling broken just means that we need to make better choices for ourselves, so give yourself the opportunity to do so. You deserve to feel happy, but sometimes, it takes some elbow grease and a total upheaval in life to get there.

4. Remember that pain doesn’t last forever.

Pain never goes on forever; if it did, we wouldn’t even know what happiness feels like. Just as we said before, life works in a realm of duality – we must feel sadness and despair to know joy, as frustrating as that might seem. Remember also that it’s okay to feel uncomfortable – instead of fighting these feelings, allow them to just pass through you. What you resist persists, so the longer you go to war with your innermost feelings, the longer they will linger. Embrace the pain, learn and grow from it, and thank it for teaching you valuable lessons. Pain can serve as a very valuable teacher if we accept it instead of condemning it and wishing it would leave us alone.

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5. Remember to focus on all the good in your life.

Oftentimes when we feel broken, we tend to just fixate on everything wrong in our lives instead of everything going right. Even if you can only feel thankful for getting out of bed this morning, extending gratitude toward life helps more goodness flow your way. If you focus your attention on everything going badly, guess what? You will only attract more of the same. Countless studies have linked gratitude with better relationships, improved health, a more optimistic attitude about life, and much more.

If you’d like to read more about things to keep in mind when you feel broken, read our related article here.

What Does Your Blood Type Reveal About Your Personality?

It pumps through your veins and arteries keeping every cell in your body alive, yet you rarely think about your blood. How often have you consider how it relates to your personality? Your blood type and personality may have more in common than you might think.

Much of our personality is determined by genetics. It makes sense that personality and blood type could be connected. Your blood type is also determined by your genetic heritage. In a cross-cultural study of blood antigens and personality traits, researchers found correlations between type and personality.

In another study of teenage boys and personality styles, blood type A was typically seen as more “tender-minded.” Meanwhile, types O, B, and AB came across as more “tough-minded.”

You may recall the book Eat Right for Your Type by James D’Adamo, which spoke to matching diet with your blood type. Donna Gates worked with the research of James D’Adamo for her book, The Body Ecology Diet. There are definite connections between blood type and health. For example, eight out of 10 children with autism have type A blood.

Japanese employers will ask the blood type of their job candidates because they feel strongly that personality is linked. In Japan, many people also consider this information when seeking out potential romantic partners. Marketers there use similar consideration for marketing specific products.

What Does Your Blood Type Reveal About Your Personality?

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Personality of Blood Type O

Famous “Type O” People: Al Capone, Gerald Ford, Mikhail Gorbachev, John Gotti, Crystal Kay, Queen Elizabeth II, John Lennon, Paul Newman, Elvis Presley, Ronald Reagan.

The O in type O could stand for outgoing because that is a typical personality trait. These people tend to be go-getters who set high standards for themselves and achieve them.

The type O personality is usually a leader, has excellent intuition and can manage stress better than other blood types. These personalities demonstrate confidence, but can come off as insensitive to others.

O’s are most romantically compatible with other O’s or AB’s.

Personality of Blood Type A

Famous “Type A” People: George H. W. Bush, Ayumi Hamasaki, O.J. Simpson, Britney Spears, Alan Alda, Adolf Hitler, Lyndon B. Johnson, Richard Nixon, Jet Li, Maki Nomiya, Rick James.

The most research on personality and blood types comes from Japan, where 74% of the population have type A. A’s tend to have a more sensitive constitution than other types. Stress can weaken their immunity. Unfortunately, they tend to handle stress poorly.

Those with blood type A generally demonstrate more anxiety and less trust than other blood types. These personalities tend to follow intellectual pursuits in fields such as science, math and research. Since they lean toward introversion, they work best independently. At the same time, they are also good at cooperating with others.

Blood type A personalities can be passionate, but require trust to be established before they can be intimate with someone. They tend to be perfectionists who demonstrate patience.

A’s are most compatible with other A’s or with the blended personality of AB.

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Personality of Blood Type B

Famous “Type B” People: Akira Kurosawa, Jack Nicholson, Luciano Pavarotti, Tom Selleck, Mia Farrow, Paul McCartney, Leonardo DiCaprio, Vince Young.

If you are a blood type B, your personality tends to be creative, introspective, empathetic, emotional and intelligent. At the same time, you can be self-focused and come across as selfish, but you tend to be the most caring of the blood types.

B’s generally balance the personalities attributed to both type O and type A. B’s are ambitious like O’s are, but they are also thoughtful like the A.

Health-wise, B’s are more likely to develop lupus, multiple sclerosis and chronic fatigue.

B’s are compatible with other B’s. They can also relate well to AB’s.

Personality of Blood Type AB

Famous “Type AB” People: John F. Kennedy, Marilyn Monroe, Mick Jagger, Thomas Edison, Bob Sapp, Miyavi, Jackie Chan, Ken Kitamura.

As you might imagine, people with a mixed type AB also have a mix of personality traits. AB types are trustworthy, but they can be both shy or outgoing depending on the situation.

AB’s can be charming, connected to their spirituality, relaxed, open to change and friendly. The AB blood type personality is very individualistic and prefers to be different from other people.

Romantically speaking, AB’s are compatible with any of the types, including other AB’s.

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