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The Story Behind The ‘Red String of Fate’

Tattoo trends come and go, but this one is a recent popular request for tattoo artists. The meaning of the red string tattoo can be different for each person who wears it. Part of the appeal of the red string tattoo is that it is small. It has a symbolic meaning that is not immediately apparent to anyone who sees it.

The red string of fate, as it is called in Asian culture, can be on any finger. But most commonly it will appear on the thumb of a man and the pinky finger of a woman. Usually, the string is drawn by the tattoo artist to have a simple bow with tails, just like you would tie your shoelaces.

Let’s look at what the red string means.

The legend of the red string of fate

The legend of the red string of fate is what is leading many people to get this tattoo. The tale has a happy meaning that appeals to hopeful romantics. The story comes from a Chinese tale of a matchmaker who knows the person that each of us is fated to be with.

The matchmaker is an old man who carries around a book that has a record of all of the soulmates who will eventually meet each other. The old matchmaker also carries a large bag full of small pieces of red string.

One day a young boy saw the old matchmaker leaning against a fence in the light of the full moon. The matchmaker was standing beside his bag and reading from the book.

The boy asked, “What are you reading?”

“This is the book of marriages,” said the old man, “It names all of the couples who are destined to be together.

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The old man pulled a string from his bag to show the boy.

“When I tie this one string to one of the people named in the book, they will be forever linked to their soulmate by that red string. They will be destined to be together.”

The boy had never heard of such a thing and he told the old man that he did not believe him. The old man took the boy to a nearby village. Standing behind a fence so they would not be seen, the old man pointed to a young girl.

“She is the one who is fated to be your bride.”

“You can’t know that. I’ll never marry her,” he said. In anger, he threw a rock at the young girl and ran away from the old man.

When the young boy was old enough, his family arranged a marriage for him. On the day of the wedding, the bride wore a veil to modestly cover her face, as was tradition for her people.

The young man was married to his bride. Only then was he allowed to lift her veil. He gasped at both her exotic beauty and the sight of a small scar over her eye.

“Forgive my scar, dear husband,” his young bride said self-consciously, raising her hand to cover it, “I was hit by a rock as a young girl. I hope you will not love me less for it.”

The young married man embraced his bride joyfully saying “No, I shall love you more for it because it is proof that we were destined for each other.”

Some versions of the story have a red string tied to the lover’s ankle; other versions have it tied to the pinky of the woman and the thumb of the man.

This red string legend is also found in Japanese lore as well.

Other red string meanings

The red thread is mentioned in the Bible in Genesis 38:28 when the midwife put a red thread on the wrist of the first of the twins to poke out a hand from his mother, Tamar. But his twin brother ends up being born before the one with the red thread on his wrist. The firstborn son was Pharez and his brother with the red thread was named Zerah.

Some Jewish believers wear a red string around their left wrist as a talisman against the evil eye. The evil eye is believed to be a threat or an evil spell being sent to you by another person who wishes you ill.

Followers of the Kabbalah, like Madonna, Harry Styles, and Lindsey Lohan, have also been seen wearing the red thread around their wrists.

The idea of a thread that binds us to those we are destined to meet does not have to be related to a romantic partner. The thread can also be seen as a sign that we are meant to connect with other people who will touch our lives. These may be friends, companions or teachers.

The thread that connects us to our destiny may stretch or tangle but it will never break…

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11 Life Lessons to Learn From David Bowie

Actor, musician, artist, and changeling David Bowie was able to leave us with a vast collection of his creativity by the time he passed away at age 69. His influence on our world will be felt for generations.

11 Life Lessons From David Bowie

David Bowie gave us some wisdom to reflect on through his words. Here are eleven life lessons we can learn from David Bowie.

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1. Humor is important.

I re-invented my image so many times that I’m in denial that I was originally an overweight Korean woman.

I’m looking for backing for an unauthorized auto-biography that I am writing. Hopefully, this will sell in such huge numbers that I will be able to sue myself for an extraordinary amount of money and finance the film version in which I will play everybody.

I’m always amazed that people take what I say seriously. I don’t even take what I am seriously.

2. Never settle for less.

I always had a repulsive need to be something more than human.

I’m not a prophet or a stone aged man, just a mortal with potential of a superman. I’m living on.

3. Find a way around your limitations.

I had to resign myself, many years ago, that I’m not too articulate when it comes to explaining how I feel about things. But my music does it for me, it really does.

The only art I’ll ever study is stuff that I can steal from.

4. Be a visionary.

The absolute transformation of everything that we ever thought about music will take place within 10 years, and nothing is going to be able to stop it. I see absolutely no point in pretending that it’s not going to happen. I’m fully confident that copyright, for instance, will no longer exist in 10 years.

The humanists’ replacement for religion: work really hard, and somehow you’ll either save yourself or you’ll be immortal. Of course, that’s a total joke, and our progress is nothing. There may be progress in technology, but there’s no ethical progress whatsoever.

5. Come to terms with your inner ghosts.

On the other hand, what I like my music to do to me is awaken the ghosts inside of me. Not the demons, you understand, but the ghosts.

There’s a terror in knowing what the world is about.

Strangely, some songs you really don’t want to write. I didn’t like writing ‘Heathen’. There was something so ominous and final about itÉthese words were just streaming out and tears were running down my face. But I couldn’t stop, they just flew out. It’s an odd feeling, like something else is guiding you, although forcing your hand is more like it.

6. Be humble in your greatness.

What I do is I write mainly about very personal and rather lonely feelings, and I explore them in a different way each time. You know, what I do is not terribly intellectual. I’m a pop singer for Christ’s sake. As a person, I’m fairly uncomplicated.

Frankly, I mean, sometimes the interpretations I’ve seen on some of the songs that I’ve written are a lot more interesting than the input that I put in.

7. Then again, when you’re great, let people know it.

To not be modest about it, you’ll find that with only a couple of exceptions, most of the musicians I’ve worked with have done their best work far from me.

I believe that I often bring out the best in somebody’s talents.

You would think that a rock star being married to a super-model would be one of the greatest things in the world. It is.

8. Create a unique perspective.

I think Mick Jagger would be astounded and amazed if he realized that to many people he is not a sex symbol, but a mother image.

When I’m stuck for a closing to a lyric, I will drag out my last resort: overwhelming illogic.

9. Fame is not all it is cracked up to be.

Fame can take interesting men and thrust mediocrity upon them.

I would guess that Madonna is not a very happy woman. From my own experience, having gone through persona changes like that, that kind of clawing need to be the center of attention is not a pleasant place to be.

10. Recognize your roots.

I’ve always regretted that I never could talk openly with my parents, especially with my father. I’ve heard so many things about my family that I can no longer believe anything; every relative I question has a completely different story from the last.

I’m very at ease, and I like it. I never thought I would be such a family-oriented guy; I didn’t think that was part of my makeup. But somebody said that you become the person you should have been as you get older, and I feel that’s happening to me. I’m rather surprised at who I am because I’m like my dad!

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11. Make the most of what little time you have.

The questions come down to about two or three as you get older. How long? And what do I do with the time I’ve got left?

Confront a corpse at least once. The absolute absence of life is the most disturbing and challenging confrontation you will ever have.

Once you lose that sense of wonder at being alive, you’re pretty much on the way out.

That’s the shock: All cliches are true. The years really do speed by. Life really is as short as they tell you it is. And there really is a God – so do I buy that one? If all the other cliches are true… Hell, don’t pose me that one.

25 Ways to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

Having trouble maintaining a positive attitude in your daily life?

If so, we’ve created this handy checklist for you to refer to anytime you feel unhappy or stressed. As these practices become habits, you will start to notice that a positive attitude becomes your default mindset, and the world will seem like a much brighter, happier place!

Here Are 25 Ways to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

1. Think of everything you love about life, not everything you lack in it.

One major contributor to unhappiness is comparing yourself to others or thinking of everything you don’t have. If you fixate on the things you think you’re missing, you will actually miss out on the blessings surrounding you already. Adopt an attitude of gratitude, and start your day off by sitting in silence and counting all of your blessings.

2. Give yourself love!

Self-love is the key to unlocking all the other doors in life, because your perception of yourself determines your relationships with others and how you see the world around you. Take Epsom salt baths, relax, and treat yourself with respect and care. You’ve only got one you, so don’t take yourself for granted honor yourself!

3. Promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.

Give up the habit of complaining and feeding into negativity; instead, focus on what you love about life. Then, you will attract others with a similar positive attitude.

4. Become the master of your life.

Decide to no longer play the victim, but to take responsibility for yourself and your life. This is your book, how will you choose to write it?

5. Eat whole, plant-based foods.

Raw, fresh plant foods have so many benefits, including cleaning out toxins in the body, promoting a more healthy mind, decreasing disease risk, and so much more. Eat foods closest to their natural form, straight from Mother Earth – remember you only have one body, so treat it with love and care.

6. Practice positive affirmations!

Tell yourself things like “I AM worthy” or “I AM loved, loving, and loveable” or “I CAN do this!”

7. Enjoy Mother Earth as often as possible.

Get outside as much as you can, but at the very minimum, 15 minutes a day. Walk around outside barefoot, play, and reconnect with our beautiful Earth!

8. Do moderate to intense exercise at least a few times a week.

Get your blood pumping and the sweat dripping! Exercise is one of the best, most effective treatments for depression out there.

9. Drink at least a gallon of purified water a day.

Clean, fresh water will help remove toxins from your body and keep you hydrated, which allows pretty much everything in your body to run optimally. Don’t skimp on your water, our bodies are made of 50-75% of it after all!

10. Do things that make you feel more like your true self.

To feel positive, you need to engage in activities that get you closer to yourself. So, paint, draw, write, travel, sing, dance – just do things that make you feel more alive and vibrant!

11. Live in the now.

Focus all your attention on the present moment, not dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. You CREATE what happens to you right now, so take things one step at a time.

12. Accomplish your goals.

Don’t wish for things to happen; go out and make them happen. Then, tackle the next goal on your list. Live actively, not passively.

13. Help other people.

Volunteer and lend your heart and hands to others in need. Some say that above all, our greatest purpose is to make a difference in other’s lives.

14. Meditate regularly.

Relax, breathe deeply, pay attention to the silence between your thoughts. That’s where all the answers are.

15. Throw out excuses, and instead just go after what you want!

Don’t wait without moving. Don’t think  without acting. Don’t watch without living.

16. Travel more.

Seeing more of our Earth will reinvigorate your soul. You can immerse yourself in new cultures, connect with other beautiful beings, and enjoy true freedom – even if it’s visiting a new place in your neighborhood!

17. Shower everyone you meet with love.

Love wins out every time, so spread it around as much as possible. Love is life!

18. Honor your creative streak.

We ALL have creative talents, whether in singing, painting, sculpting, writing, acting, etc. Do whatever comes naturally to you, and do it often.

19. Choose positive friends.

No one enjoys being around people who bring them down, so surround yourself with lovers of life who lift you up.

20. Become your own best friend.

Get to know yourself, and become your own source of comfort, love, support, strength, and wisdom. You must love and understand yourself to receive these same sentiments from others.

21. Visit the Power of Positivity website daily. 🙂

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22. Turn off your technology.

Sometimes, the best way to reconnect with your true self is to simply disconnect.

23. See the positive in any situation.

Every obstacle you face contains hidden lessons, so take these from everything that happens to you, and remember that you’re here to grow and learn as a spiritual being. The ride won’t always be easy, but it will be worth it.

24. Believe in yourself.

You deserve to feel great about yourself every day. No matter what has clouded your vision and diminished your appreciation of yourself, you can take positive steps to see yourself clearly again and appreciate the beautiful person that you truly are.

25. Don’t take life so seriously; laugh and have fun more!

Although society has made us all believe we need to follow a regimented life that keeps us busy from dusk ’til dawn, no one said we couldn’t have fun while we’re living it!  Keeping a cheery disposition has been shown in multiple studies to improve your health, both physically and mentally.

What techniques do you use to tap into the Power of Positivity daily? Share in the discussion below!

What Does Your Zodiac Reveal For 2016?

Each zodiac sign corresponds to a constellation in the sky, and if you follow astrology, you know that you can gain a lot of insight by following the stars. No need to read your horoscope each day anymore; we have compiled a detailed overview of 2016 for each zodiac sign, so you can know what to expect.

We hope this year brings you much happiness, love, and peace!

Consider This Your Ultimate Zodiac Guide For 2016

Aries

For the Aries zodiac sign, you have a transformative year ahead of you. This year, you’ll learn how to set goals, prioritize, and increase your willpower and determination so you can achieve your dreams. Don’t allow your zodiac sign’s impatience to get in the way; sometimes, you just need to plant the seed, and give it the nourishment it needs to grow into a masterpiece. You will definitely witness your hard work paying off later in the year, so don’t give up!

Also, you will have the urge to leave behind bad habits this year, and really clean up your act so you can feel and look your healthiest. Simplicity is your word for the year – every aspect of your life will go through a transformation as you work to get rid of everything you don’t need, from toxic foods to clutter around the house to outdated habits.

Taurus

It looks like love is in the cards for your zodiac sign in 2016, Taurus! Don’t let your doubts stop you from making a move, though; act while you have the chance! A solid relationship might just turn into an engagement, as your partnerships this year will really start to blossom. A pregnancy might just be in the stars for you as well, making this a very active year for you in the love and relationship department!

Also, as long as you keep focused on your visions, they will start to manifest into reality for you. Just keep believing in yourself, don’t let people tell you your dreams are too big, and put in the hard work. Show the world what you’re made of, and don’t apologize for your talents! This is a big year for your zodiac sign, Taurus, so enjoy it!

Gemini

Gemini, this might just be the year for you to finally settle down. Your zodiac sign normally has a hard time sticking to something or making a firm decision, but when it comes to love, the heart always points the way. You want a serious relationship, not just something that fades away with the passing of time.

You might even find yourself traveling for love this year, falling for someone from an entirely different culture overseas. This may lead to an exciting foreign job opportunity, so keep an open mind Gemini! Definitely expect to have a huge career change this year, because the Gemini zodiac sign can never stay in one place too long. You might also gain a new best friend with a great sense of adventure, so buckle up and enjoy the ride!

Cancer

Cancer, get ready for things you would’ve never expected. This year, instead of hiding in your shell, you will have a very active social life, and become more extroverted than ever before! You’ll have a busy year ahead, with socializing, planning events, and networking, but it will all pay off in the end. You could stand to get out of the house more, so don’t let your shyness hold you back. Open your heart to these new relationships, and also, get ready for exciting career advancements!

It might not happen overnight, but all the networking you’ve done will definitely help you with a creative endeavor, which will lead to financial abundance and widespread recognition for your work. Cancer, it’s been a long time coming for you, but this is truly YOUR year. You will finally break free from your shell, and become the person you’ve always wanted to be!

Leo

Leo, you’re used to being in the spotlight, but in 2016, you’ll be behind the scenes a bit more. This is a great opportunity to reflect on yourself, your goals, and your relationships, and reevaluate some things. You will also dial it down a bit in the spending department, and start saving some money instead. This is a positive thing, because you’ll be investing in your future. 2016 is also a conservative year for you romantically; no more playing the field, Leo. It looks like you might find your soulmate this year, so be on the lookout for the real deal!

Virgo

When it comes to the Virgo zodiac sign, you normally don’t throw caution to the wind; in fact, you are usually far too cautious and calculating, but this year, all that changes. You will start to take more risks, become more extroverted and confident, and basically become the opposite of the person you’ve been the past few years. It’s quite liberating, wouldn’t you agree? As far as friendships, you will become close with several female friends this year, and learn who your true friends are. In romance, it looks like you won’t be settling down anytime soon, so enjoy yourself, Virgo; it’s about time!

Libra

For the Libra zodiac sign, this year looks like a very introspective, transformative year for you. Your mind tends to wander all over the place, so in 2016, reign it in. Start up a meditation or yoga practice to quiet your mind, and don’t be afraid to dig down deep in your soul for answers. This year is about healing from your past, and living more in the present.

Even though 2016 may sound quite lonely for your zodiac sign, Libra, never fear. Your newfound spirituality and inner freedom will send like-minded people your way, so you will make connections that will further you on your journey. You’re the sign of balance, after all, so this year is the perfect union of solitude and friendship.

Also, it looks like your dreams of meeting your soulmate might finally come true this year! Just remember to let your guard down and not let your doubts keep love away.

Scorpio

Scorpio, last year was tough, no doubt about it, but this year your load will lighten considerably, thank goodness! You’ll regain clarity and balance, and all your hard work from 2015 will finally pay off. It seems your determination and work ethic will bring in a high-level position this year, and you deserve it. However, climbing up the ladder doesn’t mean leaving people behind; collaborating with a colleague or friend could prove very fruitful for you, so keep your mind open.

As far as romance, you don’t have any desire to get serious at the beginning of the year, preferring to keep your options open. However, two eclipses in Pisces on March 9 and September 16 might prompt a more serious commitment, so let your heart lead the way.

Sagittarius

Sagittarius, strap in and prepare yourself, because 2016 will be a very exciting, prosperous year for you in the career department. However, if you want to reach your goals, make sure to have an actionable plan to refer to along your path to success! Also, learn how to delegate tasks to others, so you have more time to focus on the things that will really advance your career.

Of course, working all the time without having any playtime will make your zodiac sign cranky and restless, so schedule some time each week for relaxation and fun. Even if you just have one day a week for recreation, it will help you manage the more serious endeavors in your life much better.

If you’re in a committed relationship, look for it to get even more serious this year; you might even find yourself starting up a joint venture with your partner! This year holds a bounty of opportunities for you, Sag, so take advantage!

Capricorn

Is this real life, Capricorn? 2016 will urge you to take a step back from your workaholic tendencies, and take some real time for yourself. You will probably feel restless and unproductive at first, but just go with it. You deserve some R&R, and thankfully, this year you’ll get plenty of it. You’ll find yourself delving into esoteric topics, and learning about self-healing and quieting the mind. Practices you used to make fun of or dismiss, will finally make sense to you.

This year, you let go of the reigns a little bit, and finally allow yourself some time to relax. Instead of trying to control everything, you go with the flow more, which definitely will give you some peace of mind. Travel is in your future, too, Capricorn. You just need a change of pace, a break from work, and this year provides exactly what you need. Buy a passport and head off to places that you never would’ve expected yourself to end up; here is where you’ll truly transform and release old baggage.

2016 won’t be all play and no work, however. Your newfound freedom might spark some creativity and lead to entrepreneurial ventures; after all, you can’t stay away from work forever, and your inner leader will call you to action once again.

In love, you might meet your match on your travels, so what are you waiting for? Buy a ticket and get to see life from a new perspective!

Aquarius

The Aquarius zodiac sign will have very fruitful relationships in 2016. You will have fiery, passionate, deeply stimulating relationships with several lovers, who satisfy you both physically and intellectually – I mean, what more could you want?! However, you might hit some roadblocks in those relationships this year, as well, as jealousy and trust issues come to the surface. If you both can work through these problems, you might have a lifelong relationship ahead of you!

In other news, you will have a very active year in your community, and learn who your true friends are. If you’re a member of any organizations, it looks like you will earn yourself a leadership position, or at least get more involved with the community.

You’ll also thrive in the creative realm, and your passions will quickly turn into a profitable online business or possibly a scientific discovery! You’ve always been a leader, a visionary, and a forward thinker, so this comes as no surprise. This is a wonderful year for entrepreneurship, advancement, and prosperity for you, Aquarius!

Pisces

When it comes to relationships, your zodiac sign will thrive this year, finding a perfectly complementary partner for a business idea, or maybe even romance. Let’s face it, Pisces, you need someone grounded to offset your imaginative, unpredictable nature, and even if the relationship makes you feel a bit stunted at times, it will help you in the long run. You will learn and grow from this relationship, so let it run its course.

You will also meet people from other cultures, and might even move overseas for love, if you find it there. Keep an open mind this year, Pisces. Anything is possible in love!

2016 also holds a lot of opportunities career-wise; this year calls for a bit of grounding on your part in order to get the ball rolling in your professional life. Call on the help of life coaches or other leaders if you need it; it’s fun to live and create from your imagination, but sometimes, you just have to put your feet back on the ground for a while to get the more practical things taken care of as well.

7 Warning Signs Your Relationship Is About To Be Over

Your anxiety over a possible relationship breakup is driving you crazy, and you have been mulling over the signs your relationship is about to be over. You’re feeling uncertain about your romantic future with your partner. Being on rocky ground doesn’t feel good and you just want to know, is it over or not?

Because your relationship is a partnership between the two of you, you create a new self-concept of yourself with your partner than you had before the relationship. This type of change in your individuality is normal in a healthy relationship. When you notice clear signs your relationship is about to be over, you may feel like you are unsure of yourself.

One study found that people felt a sense of loss of their own identity after the end of a romantic relationship because they had invested so much of themselves in the partnership. Worrying about who you are without your partner is normal, and the anxiety may start once you notice signs your relationship is about to be over.

If you haven’t confronted your partner with the question of whether your relationship is about to be over just yet, you’re probably looking for the warning signs that your relationship is about to be over. Here are some warning signs that you might have already picked up on.

Here are 7 warning signs that your relationship is over:

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1. The possibility of a breakup is on your mind constantly

Your anxiety about a breakup could be nothing, but more than likely you’ve picked up on the signs that your relationship is about to be over. If your gut is telling you that things are ending, you might be right.

The alternative is that you’re picking up on signs of problems in the relationship. Just because you’re having problems doesn’t mean that it’s over. All couples argue, after all. But if you do sense a problem, it’s definitely time to fix it if you hope to save the relationship.

2. You don’t spend as much time together as you used to

Is your partner on social media more than they are socializing with you? According to a study of 205 Facebook users in relationships of 3 years or less, a high level of Facebook usage is associated with breakup/divorce, emotional cheating, and physical cheating. The researchers also found that Facebook was a source of conflict for these couples.

Whether you believe that your partner is seeking other romantic relationships online or not, the amount of time that they spend isolated from you can be a reason for concern, and could be one of the signs your relationship is about to be over.

3. Your conversations are boring

Did you feed the dog? You forgot your keys. We’re having chicken for dinner. If your conversations are just about the day in, day out parts of living, it’s either a sign of your total harmony in your relationship, or that you’re avoiding deeper subjects that you’re afraid to bring up.

Couples argue, they express their emotions, they talk about their future plans, they laugh, and they encourage each other to become even better people. Ask yourself if you’re avoiding some subjects out of fear that you have less in common than you wish that you did.

4. Your emotional health is suffering

If depressed, fearful, anxious, frustrated, angry or hurt is how you feel the majority of the time, it’s a warning sign for the health of your relationship and also your mental well-being.

If you are able to express your feelings to your partner, now is the time to do it with honesty. Let them know that you have been feeling neglected, and ask them how they are feeling about your relationship with them. If they don’t seem concerned about your feelings, this is likely one of the signs your relationship is about to be over.

5. One of you has changed significantly

People change for reasons other than trying to impress a romantic partner.

However, significant changes in the following areas could mean that your partner is having an affair, which should be a surefire sign your relationship is about to be over:

  • Longer/later/different work schedule
  • Having sex/being intimate less often
  • Musical taste changes
  • Different opinions from what they used to believe
  • Spending money on unusual things (flowers, dry cleaners, rental cars)
  • More frequent trips away from the house
  • Clothing style changes
  • Weight or appearance changes

Change is not always in response to seeking another romantic partner but these changes may lead you to investigate whether your partner is courting someone new.

6. You don’t trust your partner as much as you used to

When you ask your partner questions about where they have been or who they have been with, you aren’t sure that they are telling the truth. You ask yourself if you’re being insecure or if your partner really is a liar. Trust your gut, but back it up with evidence if you are able to before you confront your partner. If they act suspiciously or conceal the whole truth from you about their whereabouts or the people they’ve been hanging out with, you should consider that as signs your relationship is about to be over.

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7. You can’t picture your future together

You’re not only scared that you might not have a future together, but you also can’t envision how things could be with your partner one, two or ten years from now unless things changed for the better.

Knowing the signs your relationship is about to be over might not be enough to know for certain if it is about to end. You might need to confront your partner but before you do, read our article about questions to ask yourself before ending a relationship.

20 Ways To Avoid Depression and Anxiety

Millions of people worldwide suffer from various mental illnesses, with the most common mental disorders being anxiety and depression. The most comprehensive mental health study about anxiety and depression to date was published in the journal Psychological Medicine and was performed by researchers from the University of Queensland.

After poring over surveys from 91 different countries involving more than 480,000 people, they found that 1 in 13 people globally suffers from anxiety, and 1 in 21 people will have major depression at some point in their life.

Each person responds differently to coping mechanisms and healing techniques when it comes to mental health and mental disorders. Suppose you want to improve your mental health. In that case, you can do a few simple things that have no harmful side effects like pharmaceutical pills do, and work toward fixing the underlying problem instead of covering it up with a temporary fix.

Here are twenty ways to avoid depression and anxiety:

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1. Change your diet.

In Western countries, in particular, our diets have been inundated with heavily processed, chemical-laden, nutritionally-lacking “food-like substances.” If you want to experience better mental health, go to the source first.

Once you start feeding your body with nutrient-dense, high-quality foods such as fresh fruits and vegetables, nuts, seeds, and starches, you will notice a significant shift in your mental health.

Refer to our article here if you’d like to read more about the relationship between our gut and our brain.

2. Find hobbies that you genuinely enjoy.

Often, we tend to choose activities that will increase our productivity and benefit our lives in the long term. Productivity and goal-setting have been so ingrained in our culture that allowing ourselves the time to have experiences for our enjoyment seems like a ludicrous idea. Frankly, we work too much and play far too little.

Put yourself first for a change, forget about work for a bit, and do something that makes you feel free. In our search for ways to help people with anxiety and depression, maybe we should look at how much time they allow themselves to have fun instead of just prescribing another pill.

3. Another way to improve your mental health is to set goals.

Contrary to our last point, having some goals can add to your mental wellness. Of course, this needs to be offset by plenty of time for self-care, self-love, and self-expression, but at least some of your time should be spent on what you’d like to accomplish in your life. You don’t have to have some glorious goal in mind, but having something to work towards, even if it’s cutting out watching TV before bed, can improve your mental health.

We all want to feel good, and reaching our goals and facing challenges can help improve our moods.

4. Volunteer for a cause you believe in.

Not to discount anxiety and depression at all, but many people spend so much time focusing on themselves and how they feel that they leave very little time for helping others.

A study performed by researchers at the University of Exeter Medical School in England found that volunteers reported decreased depression, higher levels of satisfaction, and an increase in well-being.

5. Adjust your self-talk.

Many times, we beat ourselves up for no reason. Having positive conversations with yourself can uplift your mood and increase your self-esteem, which will help you have a brighter outlook on yourself and life in general. Try to recite an encouraging mantra each morning to get your day started on the right foot, and repeat positive affirmations to yourself throughout the day to keep the good vibes flowing!

6. Don’t fight your emotions.

Regarding mental health and mental disorders, many sufferers continue to fight their feelings instead of simply allowing them. Don’t stuff your emotions down in an attempt to get rid of them; this will only enhance mental illness. Start treating yourself with compassion, and don’t expect perfection – no one feels 100% balanced and mentally healthy all the time, so don’t expect yourself to.

Healthily express your emotions, whether through talking with someone, journaling, drawing, singing, or whatever means feels right to you.

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7. an excellent natural treatment for anxiety and depression is to spend more time outdoors.

Make sure you get enough sunshine. Doctors and mainstream media have told us to fear the sun because it might cause skin cancer. But just as we shouldn’t lay out in the sun all day, so shouldn’t avoid it altogether. In modern times, many people have very little access to the outdoors, leading to a Vitamin D deficiency. Vitamin D helps to regulate our moods and supports other vital bodily functions, so make sure to spend at least 30 minutes a day outdoors to improve your mental health.

8. Work through your fears.

Instead of running from your fears, go in the opposite direction. Take steps each day to overcome your concerns, and once you come face-to-face with them, they won’t seem so scary. To improve our mental health, we need to learn and grow each day actively. Instead of living in fear, live in love and passion. Look at life as an endless learning tool, and it won’t seem so scary anymore. Life provides plenty of opportunities to feel good. We just have to be willing to take them.

9. Make sure to get adequate sleep.

Frequently, a poor sleeping schedule can lead to even worse mental health. Try to get at least 7-8 hours of sleep a night for a natural way to help mental illness.

10. Don’t feel bad for saying no.

Don’t take on more than you can handle; start getting comfortable saying no. No one can do everything that people ask of them, so don’t try. Being a people-pleaser means you regularly put yourself on the back burner, which eventually leads to burnout. Say yes to yourself more, and you will start to see your mental health improve.

11. Avoid Toxic People

Some people make us feel bad about ourselves, even if we can pinpoint the reason. Spending time with people who bully others, put you down, or exhibit other harmful behavior could cause anxiety or depression. Some toxic people will take advantage of you, too.

If you recognize toxic people in your life, make a change right away. Stay away from people who make you feel bad about yourself, take advantage of you, spread rumors, or bad-mouths people.

12. Focus on Healthy Relationships

A support system can make all the difference in your life as it makes you happier. Studies show that social support can protect against depression and promote mental health. After you eliminate toxic people from your life, focus on healthy relationships. Foster the ones that make you feel good about who you are, and you’ll notice an overall improvement in your life.

13. Practice Mindfulness

Practicing mindfulness is one of the best ways to improve your mental health. It improves your mood and reduces stress. You can meditate, take a walk to write about your surroundings, keep a gratitude journal, listen to music, or slow down your breathing.

14. Regularly Exercise

Experts say that regular exercise can help treat and prevent depression. It increases your body’s temperate, calming your central nervous system. Exercise boosts physical and mental health, and it can quickly change your life.

Exercise also releases feel-good chemicals that boost your mood and improve overall mental health. It reduces chemicals associated with depression. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate to intense exercise each week, breaking it into small sessions.

Some of the ways you can get more exercise include joining a sports team or exercise studio. You can also take the stairs instead of the elevator or park at the back of a parking lot. The best way to get more exercise is to make it a habit.

15. Seek Professional Help

Talking therapy is a beneficial way to overcome and avoid mental health issues. It helps you discover the root cause of your mental health concerns, allowing you to address them. Therapy can help you grieve, find new ways of acting and thinking, and look into past traumatic experiences.

16. Minimize Daily Choices

Experts say that when faced with too many choices, aiming to make the best ones causes higher rates of anxiety and depression. Each day comes with options, from what outfit you wear to what you eat. However, no matter how small the decisions are, they pile up.

To minimize your daily choices, learn to be decisive more quickly and reduce the number of decisions you’ll have to make. Plan your outfits and meals, and don’t put off other accessible choices.

17. Avoid Stress as Often as Possible

Research shows that people with chronic stress have a higher risk of mental health concerns. Some people are more susceptible to stress, including those with a genetic predisposition. People who experienced neglect or abuse as a child are more likely to become stressed.

18. Limit Social Media Time

Increased social media use can contribute to anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Social media can be addicting, although it’s a way to stay in contact with friends and family. It’s one of the easiest ways to share big news or plan and invite others to events.

Some of the ways to limit social media use include:

  • Only logging into social media with a purpose
  • Avoiding logging in several times a day
  • Deleting the app from your smartphone
  • Using extensions that only allow you to use social media for a preset time

19. Think About Your Triggers

Identifying your triggers can help you avoid depression and anxiety. When you know your triggers, you can plan for them or work to prevent them. If you can’t avoid the triggers, you can plan for them by:

  • Reminding yourself what’s coming and what it’ll involve
  • Having a friend check in with you during the experience
  • Make an appointment with a therapist before and after

On the other hand, if you can avoid your triggers, it’s best to do so. Eliminate or reduce exposure to prevent depression. Some avoidable triggers include exposure to news or media, alcohol or drug use, or not getting enough sleep.

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20. Reduce the Use of Alcohol, Drugs, and Nicotine

Excessive use of alcohol, drugs, and nicotine is associated with higher risks of anxiety and depression. If it’s hard for you to limit alcohol use during social situations, make a few changes to make it easier.

Consider ordering an appetizer instead of a drink, or choose a location that doesn’t have alcohol. Another option is to ask for juice and not tell anyone it’s a non-alcoholic beverage. The people in your life should accept your decision to refrain, but you don’t have to say it to them right away.

Nicotine can perpetuate anxiety and depression, so it’s best to avoid that. To quit smoking, remind yourself of all the benefits of stopping. Try to find a friend to hold you accountable and quit with you.

If you need help stopping drug use, you can reach out to a professional. You can talk to a therapist for more options or reach out to a National Helpline.

7 Common Anxiety Triggers

Recognizing triggers can help you address them and improve your life. If anxiety seems to consume your daily life, start by figuring out what causes it. Some of the potential causes are common, so look for the following situations.

1. Neglecting Yourself

When you don’t take care of yourself, it can quickly cause mental health issues. You must take care of your personal needs and focus on self-care to live a happy and fulfilling life.

You’re likely perpetuating mental health issues if you don’t shower regularly, continually skip meals, or frequently stay up too late. Make beneficial life changes that promote personal health and happiness.

2. Financial Concerns

Your finances can directly lead to depression and anxiety. Financial concerns happen to everyone, even those who appear to live comfortably. You might be worried about saving money, paying off debt, or paying for an unexpected expense.

Having a financial plan can significantly reduce symptoms. If you can’t plan alone, seek the help of a financial advisor.

3. Regularly Skipping Meals

If you don’t eat regularly, it could cause a blood sugar drop. With low blood sugar, you might become jittery and experience anxiety symptoms.

Eating well-balanced meals is essential as it provides you with energy and nutrients, preventing low blood sugar, nervousness, or agitation. Without regular meals, your mood takes a hit, affecting your mental health.

4. A Messy or Cluttered Home

A messy home can cause depression because it’s a lingering item on your to-do list. You always feel like you must accomplish so many things around the house, causing stress and overwhelm.

Many times, the tasks seem so overwhelming that you avoid them. However, avoiding decluttering and cleaning exacerbates the issue because it keeps pressing. Start tidying up regularly to reduce your anxiety and eliminate one thing from your to-do list.

5. Health Issues and Medications

An upsetting or difficult health diagnosis can trigger or worsen anxiety. It’s a powerful trigger because it produces immediate personal feelings that can be overwhelming.

To avoid this trigger, be proactive with your healthy by attending regular check-ups. Address health concerns early on to prevent worsening conditions. Additionally, talk to a therapist to process your feelings surrounding a diagnosis.

Some prescription and over-the-counter medications can trigger depression, too. The ingredients in these medications can cause you to feel uneasy, setting off events in your body and mind that cause symptoms. Common medicines that trigger anxiety include birth control pills, cough and congestion medications, and weight loss prescriptions.

6. Caffeine

Caffeine can be beneficial in small doses, but anything more can induce anxiety. Sometimes caffeine can even trigger a panic attack. If you notice that caffeine triggers or worsens your symptoms, try cutting back one serving at a time.

Everyone’s tolerance is different, so it’s hard to determine how much you should consume. As you cut back, note how you feel each time, deciding if you need to keep minimizing your intake. You can also try decaffeinated coffee or tea as a replacement.

7. Negative Self-Talk

Your thoughts control how you feel, and negative self-talk can trigger anxiety. If you frequently get upset or frustrated and resort to negative thinking, it’s time to make a change. Learn to refocus and shift your thought process, allowing yourself to eliminate negativity.

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Final Thoughts on Living with Anxiety

You can’t eliminate or prevent depression and anxiety, but you can try to make a change. Your lifestyle choices play a role in your mental health, so you must learn to manage symptoms. Once you make it happen, you can prevent a reoccurrence.

It’s beneficial to your overall mental health and well-being when you learn to avoid depression and anxiety. If you can’t avoid it on your own, consider seeking professional help. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life, and you can make it happen.

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