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15 Love Quotes That Will Make Your Heart Skip A Beat

15 Love Quotes That Will Make Your Heart Skip A Beat

Many people have attempted to describe love throughout history, and although we cannot physically see love, we can feel it permeate our entire being and seal the cracks of our souls once again. No matter your stance on love, we have found some love quotes by famous authors, poets, and philosophers who have written so poignantly about the subject that your heart will beat faster just by reading them.

“Where there is love there is life.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Here are 15 love quotes that will make your heart skip a beat:

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1. “Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained.” – C.S. Lewis

2. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

3. “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful.

Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life…” – Elizabeth Gilbert

4. “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” – C.S. Lewis

5. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – Bible, New International Version

6. “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” – John Lennon

7. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

8. “Love is a promise; love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.” – John Lennon

9. “The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” – Rumi

10. “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa

11. “In the flush of love’s light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.”- Maya Angelou

12. “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” – Oscar Wilde

13. “Without love, our earth is a tomb.” – Robert Browning

14. “In my isolation, I dreamt of power. My daydreams and fantasies were all about how I could win, how I could be number one, how I could have my cake and eat it too. When those dreams were fulfilled, I felt nothing. The love-sized hole within me grew larger and larger as I died by my own hand, by my own mind. During my transformation, I found what I needed to fill the hole. I found peace, joy, and connection. To power, I waved goodbye.

I thought that being a loving, spiritual being meant sacrificing that triumph-hungry drive within. For much too long, I ignored these urges, believing them to be the opposite of love while I cycled in and out of love awareness. The day that my love mindset became a permanent state of mind was the day I realized that love is not the opposite of power. Love is power. Love is the strongest power there is.” – Vironika Tugaleva

15. “Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” – Jim Morrison

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Final Thoughts on These Love Quotes

These beautiful love quotes will make your heart skip a beat. Which did one most inspired you?

What’s Your Mayan Birth Sign?

If you have read up on astrology before, you know that the placement of the stars at the time of our birth can tell us a lot about our lives and personalities. We have discussed traditional astrology before, based on the twelve zodiac signs and constellations. However, you can also learn valuable information about yourself by calculating your Mayan birth sign, based on the Mayan calendar.

The Mayan calender, or Tzolk’in, contains 20 Day Signs and 13 Galactic Numbers, which results in a 260-day calendar year. These ancient peoples had a lot of wisdom about our Earth and how we connect to it and through it, so their interpretation of astrology will allow us to venture deeper into the study of ourselves and this universe.

The Mayan people believe that 20 different gods rule the 20 days, or Nahuales. They also believed that every person had a galactic tone, or number, associated with their birth, ranging from 1 to 13. First, we will discuss the meaning of the numbers, and then get into the 20 Day Signs.

The 13 Galactic Tones

  • One: Unity, solidarity, solitude, beginning, first, complete, whole
  • Two: Duality, duos, yin/yang, longing for connection, dynamic
  • Three: Willpower, expression, action, motion, rhythm
  • Four: Stability, direction, heart, love, romance, action
  • Five: Communication, listening, connection, networks
  • Six: Intuition, flow, mind, energy work, psychic
  • Seven: Purpose, goals, practice, soul, morals, spiritual journey, inner reflection
  • Eight: Love, justice, healing, balance, fairness
  • Nine: Patience, perseverance, finish, cycle, perspectives
  • Ten: Collaboration, responsibility, creation, art
  • Eleven: Answers, improvement, refinement, logic, simplicity
  • Twelve: Knowledge, understanding, interdependence, thinking
  • Thirteen: Completion, renewal, new beginnings, end of a cycle, rebirth

What’s Your Mayan Birth Sign?

Here, we will go over the 20 Day Signs, and discuss what each one means in depth.

20 Nahuales

Crocodile

The first day sign in the Mayan Calendar, this one represents new beginnings. You have a clever, sly, dominant personality. However, you can also come across as aggressive and self-centered. You are a natural born leader, able to initiate new projects and see them through to the end.

Wind

You excel in all forms of communication, and are very open-minded. You are very intelligent and reflective, but can also be insecure and doubt yourself. You probably have lots of interests in life, and can master many different occupations and hobbies.

House

The third day sign in Mayan astrology, you keep traditions intact and work diligently to provide stability for yourself and your family. However, you tend to approach life very rigidly, which doesn’t leave much room for the universe to do its work. You have a lot of patience and inner strength, which will bring you much success in life.

Lizard

You are very courageous, and have a bold personality. You love the spotlight, and your passion and independence makes you an impactful, influential person. You’re very creative as well, and will excel in artistic endeavors.

Serpent

An empath, you are highly psychic and sensitive to other people’s feelings. You are drawn to certain causes in life, and will stand behind them passionately. However, your emotions can sometimes get the best of you, so make sure to do ample inner work to achieve balance in life.

Death

Practical and pragmatic, people are drawn to you for your peaceful, collected demeanor. You’re a problem solver, natural mediator, and give your time and effort to many people and endeavors. Make sure to take time for yourself, however.

Deer

You’re a wandering soul, and have an aversion to anything mainstream. You get hurt easily, so you spend much of your time alone, where you don’t have to deal with other people’s energies. You do well in the arts, as you find you can express yourself best in creative ways.

Rabbit

Rabbits are very playful, childlike, and witty. You’re competitive, and will take up a challenge in a heartbeat. However, your constant need for movement and stimulation can leave you burned out, so make sure to take some time to relax.

Water

You’re a very strong leader, able to move the oceans with just a touch of your hand. You stick by your morals no matter what, and have great emotional intelligence. You have an endless passion for creating a better world, and your vision and commitment to make a change will carry you far.

Dog

Dogs are loyal, faithful, and dependable. You don’t let people down, and will face any obstacle with courage and strength.

Monkey

Monkeys love entertaining people, and excel in the verbal arts such as drama and acting. However, your obsession with winning and gaining awards might cause you to lose sight of the bigger picture. Allow your curiosity for life to flourish and help you discover new interests and hobbies.

Grass

You are flexible and can adapt to any situation. You’re a compassionate, understanding person, but rarely show your own emotions. You aren’t swayed by others’ opinions, choosing to live life how you see fit.

Reed

Reeds are a beacon of hope and light for others here on Earth. You are a natural leader, commanding authority just by walking into a room. You also strive for peace and harmony within, and because of your idealistic views of life, you can sometimes be too rigid in your approach. You’re a problem solver, and stand behind causes you care about passionately.

Jaguar

You’re very mysterious, yet excel in interpersonal skills. You enjoy having close relationships with others, but your ability to connect with almost anyone can allow toxic people into your life. You seek for a bigger purpose in life, always on the prowl for new information and ways of thinking.

Eagle

Eagles have a keen eye for details, but can also see the wider picture in life. You’re very logical and introverted, and crave freedom and adventure. You’re the rock in all your relationships in life.

Vulture

Vultures are warriors, approaching life bravely, but underneath it all, they can be very insecure and self-conscious. You can be cynical toward life and yourself, so make sure to show yourself compassion.

Earth

You have a very practical, grounded personality. You’re drawn to things that make logical sense, and make a wonderful leader and problem solver.

Knife

You’re also very logical, and can become so engrossed in work and excelling in life that you forget about your relationships. You appear hard and steely to others, but you have a big heart underneath it all.

Storm

You’re a very multi-faceted person. You have a calm nature sometimes, able to bring peace to any situation. However, other times, you are very turbulent and spastic, needing action and stimulation for enjoyment. You have a lot of friends, but also enjoy solitude.

Flower

You live with your head in the clouds, forever a dreamer. You’re loving, compassionate, idealistic and optimistic. However, don’t get so lost in ideas of changing the world, that you forget to focus on changing yourself.

To find out your complete Mayan birth sign, go here. 

6 House Plants That Improve Your Health

Prior to living indoors, we all experienced the benefit of clean, fresh outdoor air that had been scrubbed by plants. Now that we live in modern shelters, we use artificial means of filtering our air through heating and cooling systems. But mechanics spread dust that can harm our health.

Plants absorb air-polluting organic and inorganic chemicals and biodegrade them into compounds that the plant can use. Each plant species evolved its’own genetic code to use the particles in the air to meet its needs.

A plant study as far back as 1772 showed the benefit of plants for restoring air that was stagnant and low in oxygen from burning candles and from keeping animals. Plants have also been studied for their ability to purify and revitalize air for use by astronauts in space stations and future moon bases.

In a six month study of a plant filled room compared with a room without plants, the levels of airborne microbes and bacteria were 50% higher in the room without plants. Plants in the home also increase humidity, which reduces irritation from dry sinuses, reduces the severity of asthma and also reduces congestion.

6 House Plants That Improve Your Health

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1. Spider plant (Chlorophytum comosum)

Pollutants such as formaldehyde are found in homes from the resins and solvents in building materials. Prolonged exposure to formaldehyde can cause irritation of eyes, throat and lungs as well as respiratory disorders and allergies. One study found that spider plants are excellent for reducing the amount of formaldehyde in a living space.

Spider plants usually have variegated light green and white striped long leaves that fall in a fountain shape. Hang these plants for the best display as they will also develop small baby plants that hang down from the parent plant. These baby plants can be sprouted in a jar of water and then planted.

Reducing an environmental pollutant that is out-gassed from foam insulation, particleboard, fabrics and various other man-made materials will improve both the quality of the air in your home and your health.

2. Lavender (Lavandula)

The scent of lavender is almost universally described as soothing. Lavender oils have been used for centuries as aromatherapy. Even hospitals are making use of lavender essential oil aromatherapy. In one study, patients who received aromatherapy with lavender reported significantly greater improvement in their mood and perceived levels of anxiety.

Growing lavender indoors can be difficult as the plant requires a very sunny spot. If you have a south-facing window in your house, take advantage and put your lavender plant here. The fresh aroma will lend a sense of calm and reduce any stress that you might feel.

3. Aloe (aloe vera)

In case of a minor cut or burn, break off a piece of the plant and apply the gooey aloe vera liquid inside the plant leaf to the wound. You can also use aloe very gel on the skin to help with psoriasis, frostbite, and sores caused by the Herpes simplex virus.

You can keep this spiky succulent in the kitchen window. Since it is succulent, it requires less frequent water but a good amount of sun.

4. Peace lily (Spathiphyllum)

The beautiful tall, white blooms of this lily will make you forget that it’s working in your house to improve your health. According to NASA, the plant is excellent for removing three of most common volatile organic compounds (VOCs), formaldehyde, benzene and trichloroethylene. Peace lilies can also help reduce toluene and xylene in the air.

These are relatively easy house plants to care for. They don’t need much sun, in fact, just the artificial light in your home and indirect sunlight from windows should be plenty. They also will let you know when to water them by drooping their leaves slightly. These are poisonous so avoid areas where pets or children have access to them.

5. Gerbera daisy (Gerbera jamesonii)

Gerbera daisies are those large, colorful orange or pink daisy blooms found in expensive floral arrangements, but you can have them year-round in your own indoor health garden. Ask your local nursery for a variety of species with different colored blooms to fit your home decor.

Keeping gerbera daisies will also help clean VOCs from your indoor air. These daisies can remove benzene which can be out-gassed from your natural gas stove. It requires plenty of sunlight so find a south-facing window in your home.

house plants6. Chrysanthemum (Chrysanthemum morifolium)

Chrysanthemums, also called mums, are effective at removing benzene, trichloroethylene, formaldehyde and ammonia from the air in your home. These plants also like a good amount of sun and water. That health improvement alone is a great reason to keep them as a house plant. Mums come in a variety of colors and should be readily available at your local garden center.

Mums are annuals, which means that they usually bloom only once per year. Although the plant may continue to live longer than a year, it will not flower again.

If you have pets or children who might accidentally eat plants, please be sure avoid placing poisonous plants where they can easily be reached. You can check your houseplants against this online list of poisonous plants here.

20 Ways To Sleep Better Naturally

Most of us love it; all of us need it; and most of us don’t get enough of it: sleep. Despite the crazy number of studies and several handsome doctors on TV telling us about the importance of having a good night’s slumber, many are still guilty of bad sleep habits.

Consider this stat from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC): more than one-third of adults in the United States sleep fewer than six hours a night. Keep in mind that six hours is the absolute bare minimum recommended by health professionals. Adding to the CDC’s findings, the National Sleep Foundation (NSF) discovered a few other troubling statistics:

  • At least 40 million adults suffer from over 70 different sleep disorders (70?!?)
  • 60% of adults report having sleep problems a few nights a week or more.
  • More than 40% of adults report severe daytime sleepiness interfering with daily activities.
  • Perhaps most troubling, 69% of children experience one or more sleep problems a few nights or more during the week.

These numbers are truly staggering, so much so that the CDC calls the lack of sleep in America an epidemic, something that some organizations have already done. Indeed, the reasons for this epidemic – in America and many other places in the world – is that there is still a lack of understanding and knowledge of why sleep is essential.

Here are just a few benefits of a good night’s sleep: improved concentration, better memory, fewer accidents, less stress, less anxiety, more creativity, longer life, improved overall performance, etc. And this by no means is an exhaustive list.

With that said, how can we sleep better? It’s unnecessary to load up on sleeping pills (probably), as there are numerous natural ways to get better shuteye.

Here are 20 ways to get better sleep naturally:

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1. Develop a routine

Many (most?) of us are guilty of that well-deserved Saturday morning slumber (lowers head in shame). Sleeping in wreaks havoc on our ‘internal clock’, causing more sleep problems. Heading to bed simultaneously every night – including on weekends, holidays, etc. – helps establish and maintain our internal clock. It helps us sleep better by reducing the amount of tossing, turning, and waking up.

2. Exercise (at the right time)

Here’s a shocker, right? “What doesn’t exercise do?” is the more appropriate response. Researchers at Northwestern University’s Department of Neurobiology and Physiology report that once-sedentary individuals who implemented aerobic exercise four times a week improved their sleep quality from ‘poor’ to ‘good.’ It’s vital to ensure that we’re scheduling activity at the right time, as well. Working out late could negatively affect sleep since exercise releases a mix of brain chemicals that promote alertness. Work out at least three hours before bedtime to counteract this problem.

3. Eat and drink differently

Our sleeping habits should eliminate some items from our diets by a specific time. Cut out these treats by mid-afternoon: chocolate, caffeine, coffee, soda, and tea. Also, eat lighter in the evening, as a large meal delays digestion and interferes with sleep. The best idea is to make dinner our lightest meal and eat it a few hours before bedtime. Lastly, make sure to skip the heavy and spicy foods at night.

4. Don’t smoke or drink alcohol

Cigarettes contain nicotine, which is a stimulant. Stimulants cause feelings of alertness and anxiety in the brain – a bad combo when trying to sleep. A study at Johnson Hopkins University School of Medicine states that smokers are four times more likely to report not feeling as well rested after a whole night’s rest than nonsmokers. Also, stay off the booze, as alcohol creates a similar, stimulating response in the brain.

5. Lay off the electronics

According to a study by the National Sleep Foundation, every individual included in the study had used electronic devices (cell phone, tablet, computer, etc.) within an hour of trying to sleep. This habit is counterproductive to slumber since the light emitted from the device stimulates the brain, making it more difficult to drift off. A good rule of thumb is to stop using these devices about an hour before hitting the sack.

6. Keep it cool

It’s been discovered that warm temps are not ideal for a good night’s sleep. Keeping the thermostat somewhere around the 65-degree mark is more conducive to our body’s needs. While some may consider this a bit chilly, sleep experts recommend keeping it at this level while using additional bed covers and wearing heavier sleep attire for extra comfort, if needed. This practice effectively reduces our core body temperature, helping us drift off to sleep much more effortlessly.

7. Sleep alone

For those who are married, this doesn’t apply (although we need our own space). For those who are single, we shouldn’t be sharing the bed. Mayo Clinic performed a study in which they found that over half (53%) of people that slept with a pet experienced disruption in their sleep.

More than 80% of parents that slept with their children had multiple occurrences of waking up. The lesson is quite simple: dogs and kids do not make good slumber buddies. Try to keep those furry friends and adorable kiddies out of the bedroom.

8. Darken the room

It’s pretty standard sense stuff here, but light tells our body it’s time to wake up. Even low-light emitting devices such as a cell phone, computer, and night light can cause fluctuations in melatonin levels in the brain. Normal melatonin levels are essential to good sleep because they regulate sleep and wake cycles.

Simply put, darken the room as much as possible. Consider buying some black-out curtains if it becomes necessary.

9. Don’t force it

Forcing ourselves to try to sleep is worse than not getting any at all. The reason is that when we know, we’ve got to get our sleep but can’t, it creates feelings of anxiety and stress. We are not going to drift off when this is the case. A much better idea is to do something light, such as read a book (a paperback or hardcover), do some mundane chores put off, or maybe knit some gnarly crochet for the couch.

Okay, so knitting is not necessary…but indulge in some hobby until the eyelids become heavy once again. Then head back to bed.

10. Don’t nap during the day

Even a quick nap during the day could disrupt your ability to get a whole night’s sleep. Although a short nap can boost your brain function, studies show sleeping too long, over thirty minutes a day, puts you at risk of cardiovascular disease. So, if you feel you need a nap during the day, choose a shorter one rather than a long, drawn-out nap.

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11. Try essential oils

Certain essential oils can improve your ability to relax and sleep better. Whether you use a diffuser or massage it into your skin, these essential oils can be beneficial to helping you get a good night’s sleep.

  • Chamomile oil: Chamomile is a soothing herb. It’s used in teas, and the oils encourage relaxation. Diffuse some chamomile oil into the air in your bedroom before bed. The floral aroma will give you a sense of calm as you get ready for bed. Chamomile is also suitable for healing wounds, providing digestive support, and reducing anxiety and depression.
  • Lavender oil: Also beneficial for sleep is lavender oil. Lavender promotes peacefulness. You can put a few drops of lavender on your pillow. As you smell the aroma of lavender, it relaxes you, so you ease into sleep. Lavender is also suitable for lowering your heart rate and blood pressure.

12. Let go of your worries

Try to let go of the worries before you hit the bed. Of course, you can’t eliminate all the things bothering you, but you can manage them, so they aren’t weighing you down. Try doing a couple of these things.

  • Write a list: Write down all the significant issues bothering you. When they’re written in black and white, they may not look as bad as you thought.
  • To-do list: Make a list of what you need to do the next day. Once it’s on paper, you can let go of thinking about them.
  • Try prayer: Asking God to help you with a problem allows you to let go of worries. Praying about a specific situation can free your mind from ruminating over an issue.

13. Get outside in the sunlight during the day

You have a natural clock that affects your hormones, body, and brain.  It keeps you awake during the day and helps you sleep at night. Sunlight helps your body clock function well to sleep at night. People with insomnia improve their sleep by being exposed to 2 hours of bright sunlight. If you can’t get outside into the sunlight, buy an artificial sunlight lamp which gives you the same benefits.

14. Take a calcium or magnesium supplement

Lack of sleep is terrible for your rest. It can lead to health risks, such as:

  • High blood pressure
  • Heart attack
  • Diabetes
  • Stroke
  • Heart failure
  • Depression
  • Overweight
  • Lower sex drive
  • Lower immune system

Several supplements can help you relax and fall asleep. Magnesium and calcium improve your ability to sleep.

15. Find ways to relax

Incorporate relaxation into a pre-bedtime routine to help yourself relax—relaxation techniques, such as relaxing music, deep breathing, meditation, and visualization. Figure out which strategies that work best for you.

16. Have a good mattress and pillow

It’s easy to overlook something as simple as having a good mattress and pillow to improve your sleep. The benefits of a good bed are huge. It can improve your

  • Back pain
  • Back stiffness
  • Shoulder pain
  • Improve sleep

Invest in a new mattress at least every five to eight years. If you’re having trouble sleeping, a new mattress or pillow could be a simple fix.

17. Relaxing bath or shower

Another way to fall asleep faster is to take a bath or shower before bedtime. A bath or shower helps ease your body aches and pains, relax your muscles and help you relax. Some people say that simply bathing their feet in warm water helps them relax and sleep better.

18. Be sure you don’t have sleep apnea

If you have consistent sleep problems, you may want to get a check-up to eliminate health problems such as sleep apnea. Sleep apnea disrupts your breathing and can cause you to stop breathing during your sleep. If you snore a lot, you could have one of these sleep apnea conditions:

  • Obstructive apnea: The most common type of sleep apnea. It constricts your throat muscles so that they won’t relax.
  • Central apnea: This disorder happens in your brain, causing it not to send the right signals to your breathing muscles.
  • Complex apnea: This sleep apnea is a combination of obstructive and central sleep apnea.

19. Drinking too much water in the evening

If you drink a lot of water in the evening, it disrupts your rest because you need to urinate. It’s essential to stay hydrated, but try to consume most of your fluids in the morning and afternoon. Avoid drinking fluids one to two hours before you go to bed.

20. Your bedroom conditions

Does your bedroom face a busy street? Do the street lights light up your bedroom? These environmental things can affect your sleep. Think about ways to create a good bedroom environment, such as:

  • Blackout darkening curtains
  • A fan or sound machine for white noise
  • Quiet clocks
  • Clean, organized room

Researchers found that your sleep is disrupted by placing your bed incorrectly. They say this is because your body contains iron, which is attracted to the earth’s magnetic fields. If your bed is located so that your head is to the north-facing wall, your blood is pulled towards your brain while you sleep. They think this can lead to insomnia, nightmares, and even strokes in some people, especially the elderly.

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Final Thoughts on Getting Better Sleep

Getting a whole night’s sleep improves your entire day. When you can’t sleep, it affects your brain and body function. Hopefully, if you struggle with sleep, one of these tips will help you. Whether you choose to take a calcium/magnesium supplement, use relaxation techniques, or change your bed’s location, you can enhance your sleep. If these suggestions don’t work for you, you may want to visit your health provider to ensure you don’t have a sleep disorder such as sleep apnea.

10 Signs Of The Wrong Relationship

A close relationship with the right partner is important to your health and happiness. You want your relationship to be the right match for you, but sometimes the initial attraction isn’t enough to make a lasting partnership.

Tension, boredom, frustration, fear and anger are not emotions that you should be feeling often when you have a healthy romantic partnership.

Evaluating your feelings about the relationship is a good place to start when you’re not sure if it’s the right relationship for you, but here are 10 signs that it’s probably the wrong relationship.

10 Signs Your Relationship Is Wrong For You

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1. You feel contempt.

Not being in love with your mate anymore is one thing, but feeling hatred or contempt for their behavior is a very bad sign for your relationship. Bitterness, resentment and fear are also painful negative emotions that are not part of a healthy partnership.

2. You blame each other.

Your partner blames you for the way things are in the relationship, but you’re blaming them at the same time. It’s likely that you both share some responsibility for the way things are.

You can read more about how accusations are harmful for a relationship here.

3. You are very different people.

Your partner likes to sit and watch TV all day but you’d rather be out socializing with friends. If you have very different interests, one of you is going to feel let down when their needs are not being met. Major personality differences can lead to conflict in a relationship.

When you met, you felt a connection, but now that you’ve learned more about each other, you just don’t have the same things in common anymore. Couples have an easier time if they share similar backgrounds, culture, beliefs, education and economic status.

You can read more about the importance of having similar backgrounds here.

4. You aren’t acting like yourself.

If you’ve changed as a person since you began this relationship, and it’s not for the better, it’s a sign that your relationship is wrong for you. Ideally, your partner would help you to become a better person. If you are declining in health, determination, focus, or emotional well-being, it is probably time to look for another partner who can provide a more fulfilling bond.

5. You’ve lost interest.

Your partner tells you about their day but you didn’t really hear them because you’re just not interested. If you or your partner has stopped listening, it’s a sign of a communication problem. This is easily fixable if you work on active listening with your partner, but maybe you don’t want to make the effort.

6. You have different goals.

When you met, you talked about your future together. You made plans for your living arrangements and how you would share financial responsibility in the relationship. Maybe you talked about having children or your career goals. If things have changed and your partner no longer shares your dream, it’s a sign that this relationship is not going to have a future much longer.

7. You have relationship fantasies involving other people.

Emotional cheating is still cheating. If you’ve found yourself envisioning a better life, even if it’s with a fictitious romantic partner, it’s a sign that you are not fulfilled by your current relationship.

Talking to a potential romantic partner about your relationship problems when you feel like you can’t talk to your partner about them is a sign of broken communication in the relationship. You should be able to tell your partner what’s upsetting you. Working it out with someone that is a possible romantic partner means that you are seeking an understanding connection with someone else.

8. You don’t want to be intimate.

You’ve stopped touching, kissing and cuddling like you used to when your relationship was new. You lie in bed away from each other. Sex isn’t interesting to you anymore and you aren’t likely to initiate anything intimate with your partner.

9. You don’t trust each other.

Trusting your gut when something doesn’t feel right is smart. If you’ve just got a feeling that your partner is hiding something from you, it might be a sign that you either need to confront them about it or move on. Distrust in a partnership leads to accusations.

You can read more about how a lack of trust can hurt a relationship here.

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10. You aren’t making an effort.

In a study of married couples at the seven year mark, couples who reported being stuck in a rut and very rarely did anything exciting together also reported very low satisfaction in their marriages nine years later. Boredom in a relationship now can cause significant unhappiness later.

When it comes to doing anything new and exciting together, you or your partner don’t want to make the effort. And that’s understandable if it’s the wrong match. Why invest time and money in this relationship if it’s wrong for you?

When you’re at a breaking point and have decided that something must change, you can ask your partner to work with you to make things better. You can also seek the help of a professional couples counselor. Or, you can trust your gut and get out of a bad relationship before it causes more emotional harm.

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