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This Is What Negative Thinking Does to Your Brain and Body

Over centuries, our amazing brain has evolved to make decisions and respond quickly to threats for our safety and survival.  When we stress, worry or have negative thinking, we trick our brains into believing that there is an immediate threat. As a result, our fight or flight response kicks in to deal with the event.

Our brains are pre-wired to respond to negative thoughts and feelings more quickly. When we think positively, our brain assumes that everything is under control and no action is needed.

But, we have to ask ourselves, how much of the stress, worry and negative thoughts we think today are actually life threatening? Recent studies show that psychological stress is causing an overuse of this powerful safety system, weakening our immune system and causing disease to set into our body. Yikes, negative thinking is causing more harm to our bodies and brain than we realize.

How Negative Thinking Affects Your Brain

A study in the Journal of Clinical Psychology studied the effects of worrying on performing a task. Subjects were required to sort things into two categories. People who reported that they worry 50% of the time or more showed a significant disruption in their ability to sort objects as the difficulty of the sorting task increased.

In a follow up study, researchers found they were able to show that demonstrated that the disruption was a result of increased levels of negative thoughts. When the brain is faced with complex tasks, negative thinking hurts your ability to process information and think clearly.

If the researchers are correct, thinking negatively about your problems not only doesn’t help solve anything, it actually makes it harder for you to think of a helpful solution. You can read more about how thinking positively affects your brain health here.

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Amygdala, Memory and Negative Thinking

If you have a tendency to over-react to stress, it could be due to changes in your brain brought on by negative thinking. Negative experiences are stored in the brain by the amygdala. The amygdala is also responsible for the brain’s fight or flight response. The prefrontal cortex regulates our response to stressors.

Someone who is faced with a stressful situation like being in a traffic jam normally assesses the level of threat to their safety and concludes that the threat is less than the annoyance factor and talks themselves through relaxing until it is over.

In contrast, someone who has been previously exposed to stress that was life-threatening and is suffering from PTSD might see the traffic jam as a threat to their safety and respond as if they are under attack. They lack the ability to distinguish between the true threat and the perceived stress and over-react.

How The Thalamus Perceives Stress

The thalamus is responsible to sending sensory and motor signals to the rest of the body but it does not understand that negative thoughts aren’t the same as real danger. When you think negative thoughts, the thalamus assumes that it needs to prepare the body to flee. As a result, our bodies experience real stress symptoms of rapid heartbeat, elevated blood pressure, and a state of heightened arousal.

Imagine just sitting quietly and suddenly having the physical symptoms of fear. You can sense your heart rate increase, your breathing increases, you perspire, and your blood pressure goes up. You start looking for the cause of the symptoms, but when there is no rational explanation for the fear response it is the thalamus causing you to have a panic attack.

Negative thoughts affect our brain by triggering this same stress response. Chronic stress affects the body physically and can have negative effects on our health and well-being.

How Stress and Negative Thinking Changes Cortisol

Stress from negative thinking creates changes in the brain that may affect your likelihood of mental disorders such as anxiety, depression, ADHD, schizophrenia and mood disorders.

People who have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) have been shown to have abnormalities in their brains. The amount of grey matter versus white matter. The difference is that grey matter is where the information is processed by neurons whereas white matter is a fibrous network that connects the neurons. Chronic stress produces more white matter connections but fewer neurons.

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The balance of grey matter and white matter in the brain is important for the timing of communication in the brain. It is believed that the disruption in connections affects both your mood and your memories of the associations with that mood.

The problem is that our brains are good at learning from bad experiences but bad at learning from good experiences. According to Dr. Rick Hanson, creator of The Taking in The Good Course, a brain training program to use your mind to improve your happiness, says that people who completed a program of training themselves to replace negative thoughts with positive ones “experienced significantly less anxiety and depression, and significantly greater self-control, savoring, compassion, love, contentment, joy, gratitude, self-esteem, self-compassion, satisfaction with life, and overall happiness.”

Improving our brains by eliminating negative thinking is possible. Replacing negative thinking with positive thinking is like training your brain just like you would a dog. You give a dog a reward for good behavior and your brain is similar in that positive thoughts create pleasure in the brain, which is a reward. Once we feel pleasure, we want more of it, so give your brain positive thoughts and keep it on a steady diet of self-rewarding pleasure.

10 Ways to Replace Negative Thinking with Positivity

Are you tired of pessimism drawing more negative energy into your life? The good news is that you have the power to change your attitude. Here are ten helpful ways to trade those rainy days for a little more sunshine.

1. Become an Observer

You may be surprised when you flip the Golden Rule to the other side of the coin. How would others feel if you treated them like you treat yourself? For some reason, people are often more critical of themselves than others in the same situation.

Instead of being the object acted upon, try to imagine yourself as an observer. What would you tell a friend or loved one if they were in your shoes? This practice can help you get a different perspective that could be more optimistic.

2. Write in Your Journal

Journaling is an excellent way of giving voice to your thoughts and feelings. When you’re in the middle of a difficult decision or circumstances, your emotions are everywhere. Writing in your journal offers you the freedom to express yourself.

When you reflect back on your entries, you have more clarity. You may notice flaws in your reasonings or a pattern of negativity. Once you’ve identified this pattern, it’s often easier for you to change your attitude.

3. Practice Mindful Breathing

A study published by The National Library of Medicine concludes that daily mindful breathing exercises can help relieve anxiety. Per the article, just a few minutes each day or as needed may also increase positive feelings and affect. Mindful breathing allows you to slow down and bring your thoughts into focus.

Practice breathing whenever you feel overwhelmed with negativity and anxiety. Inhale deeply through your nostrils, hold for a couple of seconds, then slowly exhale through your lips. Imagine that you’re inhaling positivity and exhaling the negative thoughts with each healing breath.

4. Meditate Each Day

Meditation is an ancient practice that’s part of many spiritual traditions across the globe. You don’t have to adopt an aesthetic lifestyle or any particular religious sect to reap its benefits. Plus, you can meditate anywhere you can find a quiet spot to be alone for a bit.

When you meditate, you become more aware of your thoughts. You acknowledge the negative ones without judgment and let them pass. Meditation combines mindful breathing and visualization that can boost your positive energy.

5. Re-Evaluate Your Beliefs

If you’re stuck in a negative mindset, your pessimistic thoughts may not be based on reality. For example, you may resist applying for a management position because you don’t feel smart enough. Maybe you’ve sabotaged your life by believing you aren’t attractive, successful, worthy, etc.

Consider breaking through the pessimism by re-evaluating what you believe about yourself and your situation. Ask yourself if these “not enough” statements are true, or an unfair assessment based on fear? The more honest with yourself, the more confidently you can discard false beliefs that only hinder you.

6. Use the Law of Attraction

When you plant corn, you can’t expect to harvest wheat. It’s a practical example of reaping what you sow. According to the law of attraction, whatever affirmations you send into the Universe will return to you in kind.

If you spend your days constantly spewing negativity into the Universe, it’s little wonder that you continue to get negative results. You can receive more blessings by changing your attitude and speaking positive affirmations.

7. Talk to a Friend

Let’s face it, there are some days that you don’t feel like getting out of bed. The sky is falling, and you’ve just been hit with a storm cloud. The voice in your head is like a continual loop of gloom and doom.

Instead of hiding under a mound of blankets, reach out to a trusted friend or loved one. They may not offer any earth-changing solutions, but they can actively listen with compassion. Call, text, or better yet, spend some face-to-face time.

8. Adopt a Healthier Lifestyle

When your body is strong and healthy, it complements the delicate balance of your body, mind, and spirit. You’re more apt to have a positive outlook and minimal negativity. On the other hand, neglecting your physical health can impact your attitude on a mental and spiritual level.

If you don’t already, try to enjoy a balanced diet of whole, nutritious foods. Get off the couch and move your body to be more physically fit. A healthy body and a positive attitude go hand in hand.

9. Practice Yoga

Yoga is an ancient practice that is physical, mental, and spiritual. It incorporates mindful breathing with body poses to boost focus, flexibility, and strength. This practice can also help you minimize negative energy.

According to an article published by Harvard Medical School, practicing yoga may increase your feelings of well-being. You may have more energy and strength to accomplish more. As you see each small success in your life, it encourages you to set higher goals.

10. Surround Yourself with Positive People

Do you remember the old saying that a rotten apple can ruin the whole basket? Likewise, rubbing shoulders too often with negative personalities can affect you. Soon, you may catch yourself repeating the same gripes and grumblings of the pessimist person.

Instead, try to surround yourself with positive, upbeat people. They can still see the good in everything and encourage you too also. Their positive attitude will rub off on you, and you’ll attract more positivity to your life.

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Final Thoughts on Ways to Replace Negative Thinking with Positivity

Although you’ll always have stress and obstacles in your life, they don’t have to define your mindset. As you learn to replace pessimistic thinking with optimism, your life can be more abundant and fulfilling. You will have the occasional storms, but your positive outlook becomes your umbrella.

10 Health Benefits Of Avocados

Here’s a question to get us started: what foods can you think of that are both healthy and delicious? The last word is ‘delicious’ and not ‘tolerable’, folks. If we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll concede that there are not too many foods that check both of these boxes. Those that do will probably fall under one of two categories: fruits or vegetables.

This segues into our discussion of avocados and the health benefits derived from the versatile and delicious fruit. Another question: did you know that the avocado is a fruit? Even more interesting, the avocado is a berry! Well, it does contain fleshy pulp and a seed (albeit, a very large one).

Anyways, we’ve digressed from the original topic – the health benefits of avocados. There are numerous health benefits of this delicious food, not to mention various ways of enjoying the tastiness of the avocado. An avocado smoothie, even. Well, that’s a new one, but they apparently do exist!

Here are ten health benefits of avocados:

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1. Avocados keep you smart

Avocados are bursting with omega-3 fatty acids and vitamin E, both healthy for your brain. Though ‘E’ may be undervalued, it serves a vital role in protecting brain membranes for oxidation, which may help explain why those deficient in vitamin E are more prone to dementia. As a great source of omega-3’s, they improve blood supply to the pre-frontal cortex – the area of the brain responsible for executive functions, such as: managing time, paying attention, focusing, organizing, remembering details, impulse control, and decision making.

2. Avocados protect the heart

Avocado is a high fat food, but it contains healthy fats and the calories necessary to sustain the body. One such important fat is oleic acid, a monounsaturated fat that is most commonly found in olive oil. Oleic acid has been known to reduce inflammation and lower the risk of cancer. For future reference, monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats are those that are considered healthy fats, and make up a good amount of the nutrients found in avocados.

3. Avocados help absorb nutrients

Not only do avocados contain nutrients that benefit mental and physical health, they help to absorb other nutrients that benefit mental and physical health! More specifically, avocados increase the amount of carotenoids absorbed by up to 5 times. Carotenoids such as beta carotene and lycopene are essential to good health and help to decrease the possibility of health issues in various areas of the body, including the stomach and small intestine.

4. Avocados regulate cholesterol levels

Just one cup of sliced avocado contains 32% of the recommended amount of fat intake for the day, but it’s all good fat. The reason for this: avocados contain a healthy dose of monounsaturated fat, which helps to lower bad cholesterol levels. Also, avocados reduce the risk of stroke and heart disease while raising the levels of good cholesterol in the body. Also, avocados help to lower the level of triglycerides in the bloodstream – enhancing the effect of lowering bad cholesterol levels.

5. Avocados protect the eyes

Avocados contain a high number of antioxidants which are known to have protective properties. Among some of the antioxidants that avocados have are Zeaxanthin and Lutein, which are very important for eye health. Some studies have shown that these nutrients are linked to a reduced risk of cataracts and macular degeneration, which are very common in the elderly. In short, eating avocado should have long-term health benefits for eye health. Nutrients found in avocados are also known the protect the eye from harmful sun rays.

6. Avocados help you lose weight

Containing monounsaturated fatty acids, avocados consist of fats that are stored as slow burning energy rather than fat. Also, studies have been performed that demonstrate that including avocado in a meal increases feelings of fullness while decreasing the desire to eat.  If so, the inclusion of avocado in one’s diet could help naturally decrease caloric intake. Avocado is also high in fiber and very low in carbohydrates, which are two very important attributes that assist with weight loss.

7. Avocados have a lot of potassium

Potassium is one of those nutrients that most people are not getting enough of. However, potassium serves a vital health role by reducing blood pressure and lowering the risk of stroke, heart attack and kidney failure. Bananas are what most people think of when they think potassium, but Avocado contains 40% more of the recommended daily potassium intake (14% vs 10%). Potassium also plays an important role in reducing anxiety and stress, enhancing muscle strength, improving metabolism, and regulating the nervous system.

8. Avocados may relieve arthritis symptoms

Studies have shown that an extract from avocado and soybean oils can considerably lessen the symptoms of arthritis. Avocado contains Polyhydroxylated Fatty Alcohols (PFAs), which contain an arsenal of anti-inflammatory benefits. Found mostly in seaweed and other ocean plants, PFAs are very uncommon to find in land plants, which makes the avocado quite special in this regard. Finally, avocado contains vitamins C and E, which also helps to suppress inflation while relieving the symptoms of arthritis.

9. Avocados have pregnancy benefits

Just one cup of avocado provides nearly a quarter of the recommended daily intake of folate, an important vitamin that reduces the risk of birth defects. Also, the properties of avocado help in many other ways during pregnancy by: improving digestion, preventing anemia, balancing cholesterol and sugar levels, and reducing the frequency of leg cramps. Avocado also contains high levels of choline, which is known to aid babies’ brain and nerve development.

 

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10. Avocados are incredibly nutrient dense

The fact that this little fruit contains so many health benefits is incredible, and much of this has to do with the abundance of nutrients. Consider these levels of nutrients in just a 3.5 ounce serving:

  • Vitamin K: 26% of recommended daily allowance (RDA)
  • Vitamin E: 10% of RDA
  • Folate: 20% of RDA
  • Vitamin C: 17% of RDA
  • Potassium: 14% of RDA
  • Vitamin B5: 14% of RDA
  • Vitamin B6: 13% of RDA

Avocado also contains smaller levels of vitamin A, B1 (thiamine), B2 (riboflavin), B3 (niacin), copper, iron, magnesium, manganese, phosphorous and zinc.

So…who’s up for an avocado smoothie?

10 Signs You Found A Partner Worth Keeping

You’ve found a romantic partner who seems like Mr. or Mrs. Right, but how can you be sure? This is an important choice that you’re making by selecting a long-term mate for yourself, and you want to know that it’s the right one.

Here Are Ten Signs Your Partner Is a Keeper

Do you see these traits in your new partner?

1. They are kind and loving.

We generally regard a good person as someone who wants to do good for others. Someone who will help a stray animal or an elderly person who is struggling to open a jar instantly makes us feel appreciation for their kind behavior.

In a study on factors that people universally find attractive, competence and warmth were the two most desirable traits. Of course you would want your partner to be intelligent, but warmth is desirable because we want the person that we love to have our best interests at heart.

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2. You share common interests with a keeper.

You need to have the right things in common. When you think about what’s most important to you, your partner should feel the same ways about those things. These are most likely your values, beliefs, and morals but they may include religion and political party affiliation as well.

In a study in Personality and Individual Differences, researchers identified several factors that are important for couples to have in common. They found that we tend to gravitate toward people who come from a similar region as us, have a similar social status, have similar overall health, have similar education and have similar desire for children. It would seem that likes do attract more than opposites.

Related Article: 10 Things That Bring Couples Closer Together

3. They can make you laugh.

Who doesn’t enjoy a good belly laugh? If the two of you have shared jokes and can have fun even in stressful situations, you are a lucky person to have found this keeper. They’ll keep you smiling in your relationship and you’ll be a happy couple. If you can also make them laugh, so much the better.

Fun is important for couples who stay together. It’s common sense that couples who have more fun and play have happier relationships, but the research also supports this. You can read more about what happy couples do to improve their relationships here.

4. A keeper knows their flaws.

Being self-aware and looking to improve on one’s flaws are great traits to find in a keeper. No one can be perfect all the time so being able to see your own faults and work on fixing them is a wonderful quality.

5. They have integrity.

Being honest to a fault is a sign of a keeper. Most people actually lie many times a day, often in little ways that help other people to feel good about themselves. Your keeper might tell a small white lie about that whether or not that color really does look good on you, but they would never lie about the important things like finances, health, fidelity, or whether or not they ate the last of the ice cream.

6. You are just different enough.

You don’t want to be in a romantic relationship with someone who is exactly like you because what’s different about each of you is what keeps things interesting. You are similar enough in what’s important, but different enough to have separate tastes, skills, hobbies and opinions.

7. They’re supportive of you but have their own aspirations.

You’ve found a keeper if they are the right balance of supporting you in your dreams but yet they won’t sacrifice their own goals in the process. They want to help you start your own business but also complete their MBA rather than dropping everything to be at your beck and call.

8. They communicate very well.

A relationship keeper needs to know how to communicate effectively. If your potential romantic match can articulate their feelings and needs so that you understand them, you’ll be able to provide for those needs and have a better relationship.

In addition to speaking well, your partner should be a great listener. They need to be able to understand your needs and feelings as well. You can read more about how listening helps couples stay together here. If the conversation is a two-way street when you talk, your partner might be a keeper.

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9. A keeper can compromise.

If you both fight over the remote control all the time, this will not end well. Your partner is a keeper if they can give a little to get a little. Maybe they let you have the remote while you watch your favorite show as long as you’ll let them watch theirs that’s on afterward.

10. They make you want to be a better person.

Someone who inspires you to greatness is a definite keeper. You know that you will learn and grow as a person while you are with them. Being with someone who helps you to be a better person is a great relationship to be in. Not only do they love you but they are your mentor as well. They give you guidance to make smart choices without choosing for you. If you can picture yourself thanking them in an acceptance speech, then you’ve found a keeper.

10 Signs You’re Being Lied To

You suspect you’re being lied to.

You know the feeling; your gut instincts (which you should never ignore) tell you something is just not right here. When you suspect someone isn’t telling the truth, your intuition is often right on.

Someone who is a master of deception can conceal the truth from you without you catching on. Most of us have built-in lie detection capabilities that we can tap into to tell when we are being lied to. However, sometimes liars can deceive us, and the signs might not seem so apparent.

10 Signs You’re Being Lied To

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1. Sustained eye contact

Contrary to popular belief, avoiding eye contact does not make someone a liar. Lack of eye contact can mean that they are uncomfortable in social situations.

On the other hand, deliberately holding eye contact while they speak to you with any of these other signs, likely indicate that they are lying. By holding your gaze for a long time, the liar attempts to fool you by proving that they are trustworthy.

2. Rate of blinking

The rate of blinking is an indicator of being lied to. Either fast or very slow blinking can mean that the speaker is not telling the truth.

3. Words that prove honesty

According to Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting, we have a trust bias. We tend to believe people more often than we don’t believe them.

When someone is using language that implores you to believe them, for example saying “To be totally honest with you,” “Seriously,” or “I swear to God,” they are using words to convince you to believe them.

4. Crossed arms over chest

Body language with crossed arms indicated that the person is shielding themselves or concealing something. Since they know that they are lying, they are covering their chest to hide their heart. Unlike their mouth, their heart can”t lie.

5. Not using exception words

Liars use fewer words distinguishing between what they did and did not do. These words include “Except,” “But,” “Nor,” and “Either.” They also use more negative emotion words like “hate,” “worthless,” and “sad” due to the guilt that they feel over lying to you.

6. Speech rate

Speaking particularly faster or slower than usual can mean that the person is trying to get through the deception quickly or calm themselves down as they lie to you.

7. Contextual embedding

Although it sounds complicated, contextual embedding just means the liar gives you too much detail. For example, if asked where they were at the time that a crime took place, a criminal who is trying to hide something might say “I was watching Family Feud, which I always do at 4:00 p.m., when I heard a loud scream.”

8. Vague descriptions

Giving few or unclear details about the scenario where the lie happened can indicate untruth. For example, rather than telling you that it was sunny and warm with a slight breeze on the vacation that they supposedly took, they might only say that it was nice.

Similarly, repeating the same details repeatedly means that the liar is trying to get their story straight by convincing themselves.

9. Fake smile

A study in the journal Legal and Criminal Psychology on what works for detecting deception found that “emotional leakage” in the face was one reliable way to spot being lied to. This means that small facial expressions reveal the true emotion behind the lie. For example, a smile with a downturned corner of the mouth means that the smile is not genuine.

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10. Evidence

In a study on how people typically detect lies, researchers found that people most often rely on information from third parties and physical evidence when detecting lies, and that detecting a lie is often a process that takes days, weeks, months, or longer.

Reading body language is more immediate than waiting until you can gather proof, but becoming an investigator will yield more evidence to back up your suspicions. If you can, ask questions about the other people involved in the lie or visit where the person claimed to have been.

For example, if the person who you accuse of lying said that they just went to the store and back, visit the store and then quiz them about something that you noticed while there. You might ask where they parked and then after they tell you, ask if they noticed that the parking lot was under construction.

So what do you do now that you know you’re being lied to? Confront the person with your suspicions and tell them you plan to seek the truth yourself. Once you know for certain whether or not they have lied, you can choose to avoid that person in the future either or continue to talk to them while not trusting their word.

10 Things Everyone Should Do To Be Happier

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” – The Dalai Lama

Let’s face it: life is a lot easier when we’re happy. What’s so unique about happiness is that it affects nearly every other thought and emotion – motivation, productivity, focus, drive, energy and so on. When we’re happy, we don’t just feel good. We are better people in every other part of our life.

Something else quite unique about happiness: nearly everything that humans think produces long-term happiness doesn’t – money, fame, education, food, and so on. Of course, these things may produce fleeting feelings of happiness, but it comes at a cost – literally and figuratively. There are plenty of rich people who are miserable; educated people that haven’t truly achieved their goals; famous folks who wish for a simpler time.

What simple things in life create happiness and don’t cost us? Some of the things on this list may surprise you…okay, WILL surprise you.

Here are 10 things you should definitely try if you want to be happier:

become happier1. Have real conversations

Human beings are social creatures that require a certain amount of social interaction. Nowadays, conversations (as in, speaking to each other) are quickly being relegated to text messaging, e-mail and chat rooms. However, substantive conversations are essential to increasing our happiness quotient.

Here’s what researchers at the University of Arizona had to say about social interaction:

“…the findings demonstrate that the happy life is social rather than solitary and conversationally deep rather than superficial.”

2. Keep a diary and re-read it

In our day-to-day lives, our emotions fluctuate somewhere between the ‘unhappy’ and ‘elated’ continuum. Rarely are we at one end most of the time, but somewhere along that scale.

This is where keeping a diary can help us tremendously. When we keep a diary, naturally we are going to discuss things that we’re grateful for and things that have brought us joy. We’re also going to write about the negative things that happen to us. Taking your thoughts and writing them down not only provides a sort of release, but also allows us to revisit our happier, more grateful times when we’re not particularly feeling one or the other. This allows us to relive the moment and boosts our happiness as a result.

3. Listen to sad songs

Yes, you read that right. Listening to sad songs ultimately improves happiness by allowing for an emotional release. Here are some interesting findings from a research study of over 700 people.

Sad songs:

– allow us to exercise our imagination.

– can help regulate our emotions.

– can improve our empathy.

– allow us to escape our actual problems.

4. Chat with a stranger

Not every conversation can be deep. All of us are strangers to most of us. This is where we use “small-talk” or chat to engage with others.

It’s been discovered that when we engage with strangers, no matter how brief, we boost our happiness levels. Perhaps more important, we boost the happiness of the other person. How many of us have had a bad day only to have it turned around by some random encounter with a stranger? Funny how that works.

Connecting with another person – no matter how brief – creates some good feelings.

5. Do something cultural

Scientists discovered that there is a correlation between cultural exposure and happiness. Of over 50,000 adults’ studies, those who participated in cultural activities showed higher happiness levels and a reduced rate of depression.

Researchers wrote: “Participation in receptive and creative cultural activities was significantly associated with good health, good satisfaction with life, low anxiety and depression scores in both genders.”

These activities ranged from visiting museums and art exhibits, to attending club meetings and concerts, and even dancing/singing.

6. Spend more for experiences, less on “stuff”

In a study in The Journal of Positive Psychology, researchers came to two interesting conclusions:

(1) There is a higher likelihood for people to purchase items rather than an experience (traveling, museums, exhibits, etc.) because we can tie our money to something tangible. This comes out of a need to get value for our money, which is easier to quantify with something tangible.

(2) Despite this tendency, the subjects reported a better sense of well-being and a better use of money after they spent on an experience.

This definitely gives us something to think about when planning to spend our hard-earned cash!

7. Give something back

While the wealth-happiness connection may be weak, that can’t be said for donation-happiness. While the U.S. and other countries have not become happier as they’ve become more affluent, the more charitable among us have not had the same problem.

Elizabeth Dunn of the University of British Columbia tested this hypothesis on students at her university, and this is what she had to say:

“(The results) confirmed our hypothesis more strongly than we dared to dream…if (giving) becomes a way of living, then it could make a lasting difference.” She compared charitable giving of time and money to exercise – both of which have short- and long-term benefits.

8. Look at something beautifully designed

Maybe this one isn’t too surprising, but here it is: staring at something beautifully designed – a painting, sculpture, etc. – can make us happy.

Here are some interesting results from a study provided by HTC:

– Well-designed objects that are both beautiful and functional trigger positive emotions like calmness and contentment, reducing negative feelings like anger and annoyance by almost a third.

– Beautiful objects reduce negative emotions which increasing a sense of calmness and ease. Turns out that objects that are both beautiful and perform a function (like a cell phone, HTC?) cause someone to feel happier. However, beautiful objects in general cause a boost of happiness.

9. Eat more fruits and vegetables

Okay, so we all know eating fruits and veggies makes us healthier, but happier? Yes, that too.

In a study of over 400 people who kept a food diary, those people who ate more fruits and vegetables showed higher levels of engagement, curiosity, creativity, meaning and purpose. Something quite interesting: individuals who reported eating more fruits and veggies were happier each day that they had a higher intake of these foods. In other words, it wasn’t just a cumulative effect, but a consistent, daily one.

10. Hang out with sarcastic friends

Okay, so this one is kind of left-field. But hanging with your sarcastic pals can provide some needed happiness. Interestingly enough, hanging out with your snarky pals can also provide a creative boost.

Researchers think that sarcastic people have this effect because of their play on words and dark humor, which resonates more strongly when someone is in a less than ideal mood. Nice to know that we’re not only wanted, but needed, eh?

What Is Your Personal Year Number For 2018?

If you’ve never heard of your personal year number before, it basically helps predict what the next year of your life will have in store. It can provide foresight into what the next 365 days of your life will look like, and allow you to see how things will unfold.

In order to calculate your personal year number, you just need to follow this simple formula:

First, add up the month and day of your birth, and reduce it down until you have one digit. For example, my birthday is July 18, so it would be 7 (7+1+8=18; 1+8=9). 

Then, you’ll want to do the same thing with the coming calendar year, so for 2018, we would get 9 (2+0+1+8=11). 

Finally, add the first and second numbers together, until you get a single digit once again. So, in this example, we would get 7 (9+7=16; 1+6=7). 

After you’ve gotten your personal year number, read on to see what the coming year will bring into your life!

Here’s what your personal year number reveals about you:

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1. New Beginnings

You can expect a total renovation of your life next year; you’ve been working hard this year to achieve your goals, and you’ll actually begin to see results in 2016. You will feel a burst of unexpected energy, as you surge forth bravely and confidently toward your goals. You have a big purpose on this Earth, and you know exactly what you want from life. You bring 100% to the table at all times, and have been preparing for a major life shift for some time now.

Sometime in the next couple months, you will just have to close your eyes and take that leap of faith, even if you can’t see exactly what you’re jumping into. However, don’t pass up any opportunities for growth right now, as they may not come along again for a while.

2. Personal Development

If you got the personal year number 2, most of your time next year will be spent behind the scenes, doing the grueling but necessary inner work in order to light the candle that will lead the way for you. Show yourself kindness, and practice patience. Things won’t manifest at the snap of your fingers, but your continual work and efforts to improve yourself will show later on, as more opportunities present themselves to you. Everything begins with you, so you must change yourself if you want to see changes appear in your reality.

Your emotions will feel all over the place this year, and a serious relationship might be in the cards for you. Focus on giving all you can to yourself and others, and don’t try to force anything into your life. Let things unfold as they should, and simply enjoy the experiences.

3. Manifestation of Desires

Year 3 is pretty much the opposite of a year 2. You will see rapid changes in your life, and expansion in almost all areas. You will have exciting new friendships, and possibly even romantic encounters. You have a happy, vibrant energy, and attract that same vibe back to you. You just want to have fun, live in the moment, and not take life too seriously right now. You will suffer some financial setbacks, but to you, meeting new people and immersing yourself in new experiences takes precedence right now.

Your creative energies will ramp up this year, opening new doors as far as careers go. Just enjoy this year, and allow this exciting, cheerful vibe to carry you through to the end, without asking too many questions about why and how.

4. Working Towards Goals

For a personal year number 4, next year will have a lot of hard work in store. Last year, you may have had a little too much fun, so this year, you need to get back on the grind and keep your goals in the forefront of your mind. You may have a few setbacks, and progress will seem slow, but just keep at it. All your hard work will pay off in due time, even if you can’t see that right now.

Your energy will feel a bit low, so make sure you take time for yourself and take care of your mind, body and soul the best you can. Just because you have increased responsibility and a newfound commitment to your goals, does not mean you should slack off where it really counts.

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5. Freedom

If you got the number 5, your next year looks quite exciting and spontaneous. You haven’t felt free in a long time, but next year, all that will change. You’ll meet new people who will help you spread your wings, and you’ll finally learn how to fly. It might seem like it’s been a long time coming, but you’ve learned so much in the past years, and the culmination of all those experiences has taken you right to this beautiful place in your life.

You can shed that old, heavy skin of yours, walk right into the unknown, and breathe a sigh of relief. Adventure, breaking the ties that bind you, and totally feeling comfortable in your skin await you this year.

6. Responsibility

You’ll have increased responsibility close to home; family, friends, and your career matter most right now, and you need to keep these aspects of your life a priority. This year won’t bring much in the way of expansion, but rather, strengthening ties you already have with those you love.

Friends and family really need you right now, so just be there for them, and be thankful for the beautiful people and things you have in your life.

7. Inward Reflection

If you’ve felt disconnected from yourself, then next year marks the perfect time to really go within and figure yourself out. Everything else can wait – business goals, friendships, travel, etc. If something doesn’t feel right inside, you need to tap into it and release any blockages you feel. You might seem a bit detached and reserved this year, but don’t worry what others think. Do what you need to do for you, even if that means going off on your own for a while and leaving behind family and friends.

This year requires a lot of speculation and isolation from you, but you won’t mind. In fact, it will seem blissful and exciting, as you learn new things about yourself.

8. Reaching Goals

The past few years have seemed a bit stagnant, but this year, you will achieve some major goals. You will have wonderful financial health, and have regained your ambition and work ethic. You’ll feel confident, powerful, and use your leadership skills to the best of your ability.

Many doors will open up for you in the business world, so take full advantage of them, but make sure to not let it all go to your head.

9. Shedding Old Skin

You can finally close that chapter you’ve been stuck on for a while, and start writing a new one. All the old, outdated things in your life will melt away and come to a close, so you can welcome in new and exciting ventures. You will feel more inclined to connect with nature and your loved ones, as your life rapidly changes and you need comfort and support to stay grounded.

Trust this process, and know that everything in your life happens for a reason.

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