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7 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Deserve You

Finding a partner who fits your needs in every important way can be a challenge. Once you’ve found someone who seems right for you, you can tend to overlook behavior that you know is unacceptable for your values just because you’re in love.

Rather than staying in a relationship where your partner doesn’t deserve your time, it might be time to break ties with them and move on to someone who does.

Just in case you were wondering if your partner might not measure up, here are seven signs that your partner doesn’t deserve you.

7 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Deserve You

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1. Your partner doesn’t challenge you.

Living in a partnership ideally includes a coming together of mutual goals. If you challenge your partner to be a better person by accomplishing their goals, but your partner doesn’t support your dreams, it might be a sign that they don’t deserve you.

2. Your partner is a liar.

When you’ve lost the bond of trust that you had with your partner, it’s hard to get it back. Whether they said something untrue or they didn’t follow through on what they promised, your faith in them has changed. While it’s not impossible to get it back with time, losing trust could be a sign that your partner doesn’t deserve you.

3. You have to apologize for your partner’s behavior.

If you’ve ever been in a group of people whose mouths dropped open by something your partner said or did, you may have found yourself apologizing for your partner’s behavior. “I’m so sorry, s/he didn’t get enough sleep last night,” you say as you drag your other half away from the group. Apologizing for something that you didn’t do is never a good sign.

4. Your partner has a different outlook on what they want.

You’ve got big dreams, hopes, and aspirations for your future. Your partner isn’t sure where their next paycheck is coming from. When your partner has no desire to improve their situation in life, but you do, it may be a sign that your partner doesn’t deserve you.

5. You make the effort but your partner doesn’t.

If you find yourself planning all of the activities that you do together, your partner might not deserve all of the efforts that you put into the relationship. You remember birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays and already have the perfect party outfit and supplies ready for next Valentine’s day. Your partner asks “Don’t we have a thing this weekend?” as you roll your eyes at them and explain that yes, you are expecting them to attend your 10-year wedding anniversary dinner on Saturday at 5:00 pm, promptly.

6. Your partner rejects your desire for intimacy.

Dr. Andrew Gottlieb, a couples therapist, says “Initiating sex is a very delicate balance. When one person approaches the other, there is tremendous potential for hurt and rejection. If one person suggests sex, and the other turns it down, this often leads to resentment and finally avoidance.” Dr. Gottlieb suggests offering a rain check for sex if you truly aren’t in the mood.

Your partner should treat you like a priority, and that includes respecting your need for intimacy. If your partner treats you like an option rather than a priority, it could be a sign that your partner doesn’t deserve you.

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7. Your partner overlooks when you’re feeling down.

Your partner’s mood is upbeat, but you have a case of the blues that’s hard to shake. Pulling yourself up out of the hole of depression that you’ve fallen into is stressful to a relationship. It’s even more stressful for a couple when one partner disregards the feelings of the other.

A big difference in mood from one partner to another can make the happier one feel annoyed and resentful. The one who is suffering from depression feels like a burden. At a time when you most need them, aren’t around for you.

Getting help might be the right thing to do. “Getting diagnosed and treated makes all the difference,” says Emily Scott-Lowe, Ph.D., an assistant visiting professor of social work at Pepperdine University, who leads workshops across the country about depression and marriage. Dr. Scott-Lowe says “Just 33 percent of people with depression seek and get help. But when you do, your chances for significant improvement are 80 to 90 percent.”

When you find yourself struggling with an emotional strain in your relationship, you may feel like your partner doesn’t deserve you. Your desire to be free of stress is understandable. If you need professional help, you can seek out a licensed counselor through this link.

If there’s an ever-widening gap between your needs and what your partner can offer you, it could be a sign that your partner doesn’t deserve you. But if it’s time to go, let them down gently and move on to the partner who is a little more deserving of all that you have to offer them.

Top 10 Acupressure Points For Pain Relief

Acupressure is an ancient healing remedy originating in China, and today, many people still use acupressure to do everything from healing diseases to instilling peace and relaxation within the body. While acupuncture is a more widely used remedy in China, acupressure is basically the same without using needles. Traditional Chinese medicine states that every person possesses specific acupressure points throughout the body, lying along energy meridians.

They believe that one’s life force, or qi (ch’i), flows through these energy points, and acupressure can help stimulate them if they have fallen into dormancy. According to Chinese theory, twelve major meridians exist within the body, connecting major organs and helping to keep the body balanced. If one of these meridian points falls out of alignment, it can open the doors for disease and pain to enter the body.

Acupressure practitioners use their fingers, palms, or elbows to apply pressure to each point. They gently massage them to reawaken the energy within the meridians. Many people go to an acupressure practitioner to relieve pain. So we will go over the top acupressure points for pain relief below.

Here are the top 10 acupressure points for pain relief:

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1. Joining the Valley (L14)

Used to relieve headaches, this point is located on the fleshy part of your hand between the thumb and index finger. Massaging it gently for a few minutes can also eliminate toothaches, neck and shoulder pain, arthritis pain, constipation, and hangovers. Make sure your hand is balled into a fist when you perform the massage, as you can access the acupressure point best this way.

2. Pericardium (P6)

Performing acupressure on this point on the inside of the wrist, approximately three finger-widths below the base of the palm. This move can significantly help with nausea and vomiting. People can feel nauseous for various reasons, including pregnancy, motion sickness, post-surgery, or even the flu. Press the point briefly with your index and middle fingers, and repeat as needed.

3. The Third Eye (GV24.5)

Many people feel pain and pressure because we use our minds so much to complete tasks throughout the day, which can result in a tight feeling in the middle of our head. Located right between the eyebrows, you will want to use your middle finger to press it for a few seconds to one minute gently. This will help relax your mind, relieve chronic stress and fatigue, improve memory and concentration, and alleviate eye strain.

4. Sea of Tranquility (CV17)

Located at the center of the breastbone, about four finger-widths above the base of the bone, massaging this point can help restore emotional balance and relieve one of anxiety and depression. Many nervous system imbalances can be corrected by performing acupressure on this point, and it can even boost the immune system. You’ll want to ensure your spine is straight and upright to do this exercise. After you’re situated, take your palms together in a prayer position, and press your knuckles of your thumbs into your breastbone. Take slow, controlled breaths while doing this exercise.

5. Leg Three Miles (ST 36)

Located right below the knee cap just outside the shin bone, applying moderate to deep pressure to this point can improve digestive disorders such as constipation, bloating, and nausea. It may also boost the immune system and ward off fatigue.

6. Commanding Middle (B 54)

This point is on the backside of the knee. It is great for relieving back and knee pain, arthritis in the hips, back, and knees, and even sciatica pain. Some researchers have found that massaging this acupressure point can provide relief for up to six months by simply massaging the point for one minute each day.

7. Sacral Points

You’ll find these points directly above the tailbone, at the base of the spine. Massaging them can help relieve menstrual cramps as well as lower back pain. Simply lie down on your back, put one hand on the other to increase the pressure, and massage the points above your tailbone for a few minutes. Repeat as needed.

8. Shen Men

Located on the upper half of the ear above the apex of the triangular fossa, massaging this point can help eliminate addictions and restore balance to the nervous system. To perform acupressure here, apply your index finger to the Shen Men, and put your thumb on the back of the ear. Massage using firm pressure.

9. Heavenly Pillar (B 10)

Located on the back of the neck on the prominent neck muscles approximately 1/2 inch above the spine, acupressure can greatly reduce insomnia and stress. It can also alleviate neck pain or strain, and help with severe headaches. If you have a stiff or sore neck, you will also reap the benefits of acupressure. Use firm, steady strokes on these points to see the best results.

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10. Bigger Rushing (LV 3)

Located on the top of the foot where the bones of the big toe and second toe meet, massaging this point can help increase memory and concentration. Press it gently for a few minutes. Then release it, and repeat as needed.

These Printable Abstract Coloring Pages Relieve Stress And Help You Meditate

Mandala coloring books have become quite popular recently as more and more adults realize how relaxed they feel after coloring in them. That’s because they bring adults back to their carefree childhood days spent coloring in Lisa Frank or Thomas the Train books for hours. But it also encourages mindfulness and stress alleviation.

Mandala coloring books can provide the same benefits in a totally different style for those who don’t enjoy sitting still in traditional meditation. If you walk into almost any bookstore today, you will see a wide variety of mandala coloring books for sale, as adults seem to benefit significantly from the quiet activity. So, what is a mandala, and why does it have such healing and meditative properties?

For starters, the mandala represents the universe in Buddhism and Hinduism. Moreover, the various coloring book designs take the artist to a new world with the turn of every page and the stroke of every crayon or map pencil. No two designs look the same, which helps keep adults interested in coloring and forget about all their adult responsibilities for a while.

Many people today feel overworked, underpaid, and totally stressed out, so a quiet, meditative activity such as coloring helps people escape the monotony and drudgery that so many feel in everyday life. Even if you only have 15 or 30 minutes to spare, coloring will help you to get into a “flow” state of mind, in which you can become aware of your mind instead of getting so attached to the thoughts that enter it.

Many studies have proven the powerful benefits of coloring for adults, as the activity gives us something to focus on aside from our mundane, often trivial, worries. Psychologist Gloria Martínez Ayala says that coloring activates various areas of the two cerebral hemispheres.

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“The action involves both logic, by which we color forms, and creativity, when mixing and matching colors. This incorporates the areas of the cerebral cortex involved in vision and fine motor skills [coordination necessary to make small, precise movements]. The relaxation that it provides lowers the activity of the amygdala, a basic part of our brain involved in controlling emotion that is affected by stress.”

As we grow older, we greatly lose our imaginations and creative spirit, replacing them with worry and stress about life. As a child, we really don’t have much to worry about except getting home before dinner and remembering to put on clean socks in the morning. We flowed through life in a blissful state. That’s because we lived in the moment. We didn’t worry about paying bills, getting the person we liked to notice us, or conquering the world before we died. Instead, we just enjoyed the moment and found amusement in the simplest things.

Mandala coloring books allow us to return to that peaceful, joyous, liberated state of mind. The best part is that all you have to do is grab some crayons and open the page. You can choose from hundreds of different books. You’ll find them either online or in stores. Make sure to set aside a quiet space in your room or somewhere in your home so that you can focus entirely on coloring and not let any distractions keep you from achieving that meditative mindset that coloring provides. Also, you can play soft music in the background, light candles, or whatever else you enjoy. Do whatever you need that makes you feel relaxed, calm, and present in the here and now.

Download the free coloring pages below.  If you can’t find any coloring books in stores, Click here to purchase them.

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Black and white circle flower ornament, ornamental round lace design. Floral mandala. Hand drawn ink pattern made by trace from personal sketch.

A Homeless Single Mom Cooked for a Cancer Patient. What He Gave Back Is the Surprise of A Lifetime!

In 2005, the United Nations attempted a global survey to estimate the number of homeless people worldwide, and found that as many as 100 million people were homeless.

With these numbers rising every year, many people around the world want to take part in combating the homelessness crisis. One such person is Brice, a cancer patient who met a single mom named Francesca at a homeless shelter.

When Francesca found out Brice had cancer, she selflessly offered to cook for him to show her consolation, despite her situation. She even offered to help Brice surprise someone else in need, but he had a big surprise planned just for her.

When Brice met Francesca, a single mom to a four-year-old girl, he instantly wanted to help her out somehow.

“Lots of women in our shelter struggle every month,” said Francesca. “I’ve been sharing what I have with them whenever I can, but sometimes it’s hard and I run out.”

After Brice found out about her love for cooking and struggle to keep food on the table, he invited her to his house in order to surprise her with an unexpected gift.

“I was really touched when you reached out to me and offered to cook,” said Brice to Francesca. “But I was even more touched when you told me that you’re a single mom and you’re helping to share food with other women in the shelter. I just felt so touched when you came today to help surprise someone else in need that we all decided to give you a little surprise.”

The surprise? Two months of organic food delivery to the shelter from a local farm, made possible entirely on a donation basis through the website fundrazr.com. In addition, a company called TangoTab decided to donate 250 meals to Francesca to share with the rest of the shelter.

“We’re all so inspired by you, and we just love you,” said Brice.

After receiving the food, Francesca happily shared it with six other women in the shelter. Although the meals greatly helped Francesca and the other women in a time of need, Francesca’s term at the shelter ends in February.

To give her a permanent home, Brice wants to help build a solar-powered tiny house for Francesca and her daughter as a Christmas present. He also wants to start an international pay-it-forward housing movement so that others just like Francesca may have a place to call home, too.

“This could be a solution to the refugee crisis and climate change.” said Brice.

To help them raise the necessary $25,000 for the tiny house by December 25, make sure to share this video below and visit tinyhomebighearts.com for more information!

“This pay-it-forward housing campaign could be the greatest gift to help heal humanity. It’s the spirit of giving and unconditional love.” – Raamayan Ananda, Unify CEO

5 Things Sensitive People Should Avoid

Sensitive people believe things can be better and work hard to make it so. It is hard for a sensitive person to see suffering without trying to relieve the pain, to see heartache without expressing love and to see a challenge without problem-solving. The empathetic nature of a sensitive person is often invisible to most, and as such, is often ignored or misunderstood.

Sensitive people are often so giving of their time and energy that they forget to worry about their own lives and the habits that may be overwhelming them. It’s an innate quality that can be difficult to navigate with outside influences establishing the expectations of how you should act.

Sensitive People Should Always Avoid These Twelve Habits

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1. Drinking too much caffeine

Caffeine is a stimulant that increases blood pressure, heart rate, and respiration, and activates your “fight or flight” response. These symptoms can often lead sensitive people into an anxiety attack.

Moderate amounts of caffeine can bring some mental benefits – increased alertness, motivation, concentration, memory, and attention. The key word is moderation; no more than 400 mg for a day. Too much caffeine triggers irritability, nervousness, restlessness, upset stomach, fast heartbeat, and muscle tremors.

As with nearly everything, use caffeine wisely and in moderation. This is certainly advisable if you are a sensitive person.

2. Emotional eating

This habit can be tough to break for sensitive people because food can help them absorb emotion, and it often leads to overeating in stressful situations. If they have a bad day at work, they can come home and make a favorite comfort food to take the day’s stresses away. While the food they eat might make them temporarily happy, it doesn’t solve the underlying issues.

If you’re a sensitive person who feels overwhelmed, try to get at the heart of the problem instead of covering it up with sugary or fattening foods that won’t serve your best interests in the long run. Feel the emotion that makes you want to eat and analyze the triggers, then create a favorable substitute that will actually benefit your mind, body, and spirit.

3. Participation in chaotic social situations

Highly sensitive people react to certain stimuli much more intensely due to the programming in their brains – their frequencies pick up noises, emotions, facial expressions, and energy in much more depth than others might. For example, if they go into a grocery store or mall packed with people, they might instantly feel negative energy permeate their body, which will affect their mood and emotions. When they pick up on the collective energy of certain places, they can become easily overwhelmed by intense emotions and vibrations.

Tip: Try practicing grounding techniques, such as root chakra meditations to help feel secure and connected to source energy at all times.

4. Avoiding your gut instincts

Gut instincts are defined as something you know or sense, and sensitive people can closely tune into their intuition. Or course, this is a natural, unlearned, predictable response to stimuli.

But more than that, gut instincts help people survive. Humans are also thinking beings, and when someone feels something is not just right, instead of taking action based on the feeling, they stop and think about it. It’s this pause that can sometimes work against sensitive people.

5. Not spending time in solitude to recharge and reconnect

Highly sensitive people (empaths) might be seen as loners or outcasts living on the fringes of society, but they know that to cleanse themselves of the energies they take on from others, they must recharge often.They truly enjoy spending time in nature, and while they have an infinite love for other beings, they can only best express when they have time for themselves to decompress.

doing the things important to you – seeing friends and family, taking a vacation, doing work that matters, etc. Continuing to participate in areas of life that you deem important is another big aspect of self-care. When these things are neglected, it can cause problems – from mental (depression) to physical (blood pressure, sickness, etc.)

6. Violent movies or books

Sensitive people should avoid violent movies, televisions shows, or movies. Seeing or hearing violent acts will make you feel physically sick. Some sensitive people actually feel as if the violence is happening to them. Stick to more fun, happy movies that won’t emotionally overload you.

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7. Ruminating about negative comments

Criticism is difficult for a highly sensitive person to process. They rehash the conversation and mull over what someone said or didn’t say. Sensitive people want to make other people happy, so when they receive criticism they feel like they’ve failed someone. They may think about this for days or weeks. Sensitive individuals will try to read between the lines of what was said and assume the person doesn’t like them. If you’re a sensitive person, maybe you need to develop tougher skin to accept input without it overwhelming you.

8. Taking too long to decide

Sensitive people think deeply about every decision to the point of not being able to decide. Even things like what to buy at the grocery can become a major challenge. It’s hard for a sensitive person to consider all the possibilities or outcomes regarding their choices. You know how difficult decisions are if you’re one of these people.

9. Deadlines cause extreme stress for sensitive people

Deadlines are extremely stressful for sensitive individuals. They hate time pressure because it overstimulates and makes them feel out of control. They need time to move slowly and get things done at their own pace. Knowing this about yourself should help you choose a career that doesn’t include deadlines or time limitations, including

  • Massage therapist
  • Occupational or physical therapist
  • Dietician
  • Tattoo artist
  • Astronomer
  • Artist

10. Being in loud places

Sensitive people can’t tolerate loudness. They get overwhelmed by sensory noises. It messes with their minds. They hear everything and it can distract them. Noise-canceling headphones are a blessing for these folks. If you react to loud noises at work or school, purchase a pair of headphones that you can put on whenever the volume gets turned up.

11. Not getting enough sleep is typical for sensitive people

Sleep is an important health care component of everyone’s life. But a highly sensitive person needs a good night’s sleep more than most people. Sleep can soothe their senses and help them relax. It helps them adjust their strong emotional needs. If you’re a sensitive person, keep a regular bedtime routine. Wind down before your bedtime so that you’ll be able to fall asleep without your mind racing.

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12. Saying “yes” all the time

It’s not just highly sensitive people that fall into the trap of saying “yes” to every request. But sensitive people are especially prone to this. They are empathetic and feel like they want to help everyone. But sensitive people are more prone to exhaustion and burnout than other folks. If you’re a sensitive person, set boundaries for yourself. Ask a good friend or family member to help you set limits on yourself so that you won’t fall prey to trying to help everyone.

11 Things You Need to Know About Being In A Relationship With A Creative Person

A creative person makes this world a much more interesting place; without them, we wouldn’t have books to get lost in, art to marvel at, movies to take us into another world, or music to inspire and move us. It seems that creative people live in an entirely different galaxy sometimes, always living within their heads and letting their imaginations carry them away. This makes them very intriguing and alluring, but also, it can frustrate others who just don’t understand how the artist’s mind works.

According to a study published in NeuroImage, artists have a totally different brain than their counterparts, with increased neural matter in various parts of their brains. With that said, loving a creative person comes with some challenges, but if you just take the time to learn more about them, you can start to unveil the mystery of how their mind works.

Here are 11 things you need to know about being in a relationship a creative person:

1. They have strange sleeping schedules.

A creative person’s mind never stops ticking; it often keeps them up at night, racing with new ideas that they just have to write down before they forget them. They have an intense desire to understand all of the intricacies of this world. Because of this, they never stop asking questions. They never stop exploring, wondering, dreaming, and thinking. They often do their best work at night, when their mind won’t allow them to sleep. Therefore, they sleep in spurts, jotting down ideas and creating between small periods of rest.

2. They have a hard time finishing projects.

Creative people don’t work under deadlines or time tables; they simply create, and let their imaginations decide how far a project will go before they can deem it complete. They often flit from one project to another, as their mind doesn’t work in a linear fashion. As soon as they have a ground-breaking idea, they want to put their vision into action, no matter how many other things they have going on at the time.

3. They only work when they feel like it.

A creative person doesn’t pay attention to the time, and they certainly can’t work under the strict regime of a 9-5. Their mind works in short bursts of creativity, meaning that they do their best work in a “flow” state of mind. They can’t force themselves to write a book or create a painting; they have to wait until they feel the passion flowing through every bone in their body, and pour all of those emotions into their work. A normal schedule just doesn’t fit with the mind of a creative person.

4. A creative person spends a lot of time alone.

Obviously, a lot of noise and commotion only masks the ideas of a creative person. They need solitude in order to create their best work, and they don’t mind spending time alone. In fact, they prefer it, as they can hear all of their thoughts clearly, and transform them into a masterpiece.

5. They feel emotions on an intense level.

Creative people feel everything deeply, and sometimes feel cursed by this. However, without the ability to feel their emotions cutting through them so acutely, they wouldn’t have any foundation for their art. Their emotions create the elaborate story in their heads, and from there, they can create something beautiful that other people can relate to.

6. A creative person is deeply in touch with their inner child.

Creative people sort of missed the bus on the way to adulthood; they stayed behind, not wanting to face the monotony and drudgery of growing up. They realize that staying in touch with their inner child allows them to keep that innocent curiosity and open-minded view of the world intact, so if they seem like an eight year old trapped inside a thirty year old’s body, now you know why.

7. They put off their work until the last minute.

Creative people work best under pressure; if they have a deadline, they wait until the last possible minute to get their work done. Why? Because this allows their “flow” state to take over, making their creativity peak and their imaginations soar. The pressure of a deadline doesn’t intimidate them; in fact, it exhilarates them.

8. They are highly unorganized.

Have you ever walked into an artist’s room? Exactly. You likely saw papers strewn about, paintbrushes all over the floor, many art books opened to random pages, and notes written feverishly on Post-Its. Artists and organization don’t even belong in the same sentence, because an orderly creative person doesn’t exist. They have a method to their madness, though, and do their best work in the midst of chaos and disorder. Because art in itself is a bit chaotic, unsystematic, and unplanned.

9. A creative person forgets the world around them when immersed in their work.

If you want to talk to a creative person while they do their work, good luck. They have already entered an entirely different universe, where they can only see their ideas, their stories, and their passions. They lose themselves in their art or music, allowing it to carry them away and totally take over their mind and body. A creative person runs on raw emotion, and when they feel something deeply, they can’t help but pour that emotion into their work.

10. They don’t believe in limits.

If you tell a creative person they can’t do something, it won’t phase them. They see everything as a possibility, and know that the only limits that truly exist are inside the mind. And, when it comes to their mind, they see nothing as restricted or inaccessible. They simply laugh when people tell them the impossibilities of following their passions, because they know that many who came before them accomplished great things by not caring what other people think.

11. A creative person constantly questions the quality of their work.

A creative person is a perfectionist, and even though they may have plenty of critics, they still are their number one enemy. They look at their work from every possible angle, always wondering how they can make it better. They always ponder how much farther they could push themselves, and constantly attempt to break new barriers.

Related article: Get to know creative people by how they are unique. Click here to find out what they do differently.

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