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New Study Confirms: Excessive Worrying Linked To High Levels Of Creative Intelligence

In today’s society, there is so much to worry about. There’s an increase in violence, the global economy is in turmoil, we seem to be falling behind in educating our youth, and for many us, we are struggling just to put food on the table and keep our lights on. It’s no wonder we are a worrying society.

Have you ever noticed that some people tend to overthink more than others? They contemplate every decision for fear of making the wrong choice. And when they finally decide, they worry they made the wrong one.

Here’s why worrying is a sign of high creative intelligence

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There is worry surrounding meeting our basic needs, and then there is worrying about the impact of every decision we make. Believe it or not, one is better than the other.

Worrying about the impact of every decision we make may be an indication of a high level of creative intelligence. It’s a sign of empathy, problem-solving and next-level thinking.

A recent study found a relationship between excessive worrying and creativity. Personality Neurobiology expert Dr. Adam Perkins says this about that relationship:

“It occurred to me that if you happen to have a preponderance of negatively hued self-generated thoughts, due to high levels of spontaneous activity in the parts of the medial prefrontal cortex that govern conscious perception of threat and you also have a tendency to switch to panic sooner than average people, due to possessing especially high reactivity in the basolateral nuclei of the amygdala, then that means you can experience intense negative emotions even when there’s no threat present. This could mean that for specific neural reasons, high scorers on neuroticism have a highly active imagination, which acts as a built-in threat generator.”

Basically, he’s saying if we are an excessive worrier; we are also more likely to be imaginative, creative, and an overall high-level thinker.

When looking at these findings, it makes perfect sense. Just think about it. Most entrepreneurs are solving a problem they or people they know are worrying about. Most innovators create products that solve a particular issue. And most artists use their worry and heartache to fuel their work.

Worry is what encourages forward motion and creativity. It’s the overthinking, the pondering, the wondering about something that generates theory and ideas. Think about it, if we were 100% content in our lives, what would there be to solve or fix?

Dr. Perkins also had this to say:

“Cheerful, happy-go-lucky people by definition do not brood about problems and so must be at a disadvantage when problem-solving compared to a more neurotic person. We have a useful sanity check for our theory because it is easy to observe that many geniuses seem to have a brooding, unhappy tendency that hints they are fairly high on the neuroticism spectrum. For example, think of the life stories of Isaac Newton, Charles Darwin, Vincent Van Gogh, Kurt Cobain, etc. Perhaps the link between creativity and neuroticism was summed up most succinctly of all by John Lennon when he said: ‘Genius is pain.’”

There is a lot of discussion around the power of positive thinking, but it seems there is also some power in what may be perceived as a negative thought.

Try thinking of negative thoughts as an alarm clock. It is waking us up to the fact that something is going on that needs our attention. It’s important to embrace our negative thoughts as warmly as we embrace the positive ones. We should question them, understand them, and use the information to make better decisions.

The problem with excessive worry, or any negative thought for that matter, is found when it consumes our every waking moment. We should begin to fear worrying when we allow it to keep us from connecting with the people in our lives that matter, taking action toward achieving our big goals, and being contributing members of our community.

When worry might be healthy

Using worry as a catalyst for change is healthy and encouraged. Using worry as a shield to avoid dealing with challenges can be detrimental to our mental health. Our job is to understand when our concern is fueling our creative intelligence and when it is standing in the way of us taking action toward personal growth. When we can understand the difference and use the information to choose our next step, we can truly begin to create the lives we were meant to live.

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Final Words: The creative genius behind the worry…

There are creative geniuses among us. We should remember that the next time we are in the presence of someone who seems distracted and is brooding over the same problem as yesterday. He’s probably creating a solution to something we worried about at one time or another. And when he solves it, we will wish we had thought of it.

This Is What Happens When You Touch This Point On Your Knee

Acupressure is an ancient technique for healing by using the fingers to press on key points in the body, which stimulates the body to heal itself. Acupressure originated around 5000 years ago in Asia, and has been adopted by many Western clinicians who want to offer their patients non-traditional medical options.

According to traditional Chinese medicine, there are twelve energy meridians in the body. Applying pressure at specific points along these meridians releases blocked energy which travels throughout your body. The energy flow is necessary for balance and harmony within the system.

This is What Happens When You Massage This Point On Your Knee

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According to Dr. Michael Reed Gach, author of Acupressure’s Potent Points, acupressure is beneficial because it releases tension, increases circulation, reduces pain, and develops spirituality and vibrant health.

You should seek the help of a medical professional if you have any pain that becomes severe or illness associated with a high fever.

Specifically, touching the Zusanli point on your knee helps with patients who are experiencing digestive system problems such as:

  • Diarrhea
  • Gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD)
  • Bloating
  • Constipation
  • Abdominal pain
  • Vomiting
  • Hiccups
  • Appendicitis

In addition to helping with digestive issues, an acupressure specialist might use the Zusanli spot on the knee to treat these conditions:

  • Immunity problems or chronic illness
  • Fatigue
  • Diabetes
  • Low metabolism
  • Poor appetite
  • Breast problems
  • Lower leg pain
  • Dizziness
  • Breathing problems such as asthma
  • Menstrual cramps and PMS
  • Insomnia
  • Temporomandibular joint pain (TMJ or jaw)
  • Psychological disorders, for example depression or anxiety

As you can see from the extensive list of ailments, touching this specific point on your knee can benefit several bodily functions. The use of touch on the Zusanli point is also reported to be good for overall health and well-being.

Where to Locate This Point on Your Knee

The specific acupressure energy point on the knee that is beneficial for multiple health problems is called Zusanli, or stomach meridian 36 (ST36). In English, Zusanli is Leg Three Li.

In traditional acupressure, this energy meridian runs the entire length of the body from head to toe. It passes through the diaphragm, stomach and spleen. Manipulating the energy points is done in order to balance the Qi, or vital energy in the body.

You can locate this point on your knee by starting four finger widths down from the bottom of your knee cap. Find your shin bone, then move one finger width to the outside of your shin bone. You can make sure it is the right point by flexing and pointing your foot and feeling the muscle move.

You can watch Dr. Wei Yuan, an acupuncturist at TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) Works, demonstrating how to locate the Zusanli point on your knee in this video.

The Science Behind Touch

Scientific studies support the use of acupressure for digestive concerns as a non-invasive drug-free treatment. Researchers used electrical stimulation of the Zusanli point on the knee and found it effective in treating gastrointestinal motility disorders and GERD.

Another study in the Journal of Traditional Chinese Medicine found that treating this spot with acupuncture reduced gastric spasms in 59 out of 60 patients treated. Although this treatment was with acupuncture, deep acupressure is able to activate the same pressure spot.

How to Touch Your Knee

Acupuncturists use needles to reach the Zusanli point deeper than you can achieve with touch alone, however, you should never attempt to needle yourself. You can locate an acupuncture practitioner through the American Association of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine.

Since we are discussing a self-help technique, we will use deep pressure to reach this specific energy point in the body. Use your thumb since it is the strongest digit on your hand. Press into the Zusanli point on your knee with firm pressure.

If possible, elevate your leg to make it easier to reach and keep your foot pointed, not flexed so that the muscle is not raised up. This will allow you to achieve deeper pressure on the Zusanli point. You may vary the amount of time up to 45 seconds of pressure.

You may find that moving your thumb in small circles as you apply pressure feels more comfortable or achieves better results. Ideally you should apply pressure close to the bone and use the fingernail or thumbnail.

More Touch Points

In addition to acupressure, you can try other reflexology points on the knee for relief of knee pain. The outer side under the knee cap is a place to rub with circular motion to relieve knee stiffness and pain. This point is called Calf’s Nose in reflexology.

Another reflexology point on your knee to work with is called Nourishing Valley. This point is found in the outer upper edge of your knee cap. Touch the place in the hollow between the tendons and rub up and down for a few minutes. This helps with knee tension as well.

By simply giving yourself a massage on these touch points on your knee, can find relief from many ailments. Remember to seek the help of a medical professional when pain is severe or does not show improvement within a few days.

How to Spot a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

In everyday interactions with people, you will likely come across those who perpetually advance their own agenda, and aren’t afraid to hide their true identity to do so. These certain characteristics often make up a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Sometimes they can be exposed, but other times they are sly enough to get away with things by playing on other people’s emotions, lying, and manipulation.

One thing is for sure, a wolf in sheep’s clothing is good at hiding their true intentions.

Maybe you have someone in your life who you have always had an uneasy feeling about, or you just can’t ever get a good read on them, no matter how many times you meet them.

What does a wolf in sheep’s clothing mean? The warning regarding the wolf references a sermon often taught by Christian leaders, from Jesus Christ “beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.” (Gospel of Matthew 7:15, King James Version) the message is to beware of false teachers in the last days. However, the message has since evolved beyond its origins in the church to serve as a warning not to trust someone in a friendly disguise who may not be a good person.

What is the moral of the wolf in sheep’s clothing? Generally, a wolf in sheep’s clothing will display “red flags” that can potentially unveil its true intentions. To find out if they may have secretly been pulling the wool over your eyes, look out for the following signs next time you see them in person.

Here’s how to spot a wolf in sheep’s clothing

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They’re playing on your emotions.

Emotionally, spiritually, physically; emotional manipulation is a primary tool of the wolf. They like to play on heightened emotions to engage you in behaviors that benefit them. They gather people that will serve their need to be in control, whether this is through a romantic relationship, a close friendship or a strategic partnership. The wolf in sheep’s clothing makes being with them fun and exciting at first, and then they shift the focus of the relationship onto them and their needs.

A wolf in sheep’s clothing moves too fast.

A wolf in sheep’s clothing will try to hook you with sweet talk and a false sense of interest. That is how they build trust and form a bond. It enables them to use us emotionally once the real motive of the relationship becomes clear.

Among the simpler ways to find a wolf in sheep’s clothing is to look for simple signs that show somebody only appears worried if something or someone will affect their desired outcome. They struggle with maintaining the “right kind” of associations because desired outcomes are everything to them, and they care about the way other people think in order to have control.

Take note of your friends’ feelings when you recommend something. If they harshly react when they don’t agree with you or when criticized, the wolf may be hiding underneath.

Things about their story just don’t add up.

After you hear their story, you intuitively feel that they have embellished major parts of it or just fabricated the entire thing altogether. For example, maybe you feel that your friend stole money from your wallet when you set down your purse to throw something away. While you can’t really prove it, you remember taking $100 out of the bank, and not being able to find $60 after hanging out with her. When you accuse her of stealing from you, she insists that someone else came up and took the money. But, why didn’t she ever tell you about this incident after it happened? Wolves in sheep’s clothing usually don’t have very good cover-ups for their stories, because they have to come up with a fictional tale on the fly.

They look troubled about something.

A wolf in sheep’s clothing will tend to not smile as much as people who live authentically and tell the truth no matter the consequences. There is a huge strain on their conscience, and consequently makes them feel like they have two tons of bricks weighing down on them.

This enormous pressure must come out somehow, and it usually reveals itself on their face. Watch the person in question’s facial expressions – you will probably notice that they don’t really show much emotion. Stories eventually eat people up on the inside. But their usual temperament is a telling sign of how they really feel.

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They quickly grow impatient.

Impatience can be defined as the following:

  1. Irritable behavior that results from delays
  2. A restless need for change and excitement.

The display of impatient behavior often ties into someone’s goals; specifically, anything that hinders or aggravates the person in active pursuit of these goals. These goals could range from getting ahead of you at the drive-thru to getting that promotion at work.

As with stubbornness, we all have the tendency to be impatient at times. However, there are some individuals that take impatience to the extreme. These individuals detest being held up at any time, anywhere, for almost any reason, and as a manipulator, know how to get will manipulate any situation to suit them in order to come out on top.

Impatience is a trait that develops from early negative experiences, misunderstanding the nature of self and others, and a persistent sense of insecurity. The early negative experiences often happen during childhood. In many cases, the child was often barred from having a normal social experience resulting in a sense of “missing out”.

When dealing with an impatient person, it is important to understand how they “tick.” For example, these individuals prefer to be in control. When they are not in firm control, they become angry, annoyed and frustrated. The best way to deal with the behavior is to be polite but direct. Do not beat around the bush with impatient people; this will get you nowhere.

10 Ways To Build Inner Strength

“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger

There is only one certainty in life, and that is change. Circumstances arise, either good or bad, which require a response. How we respond, especially to adversity, depends upon our character and resolve. On our inner strength. Like many habits, inner strength can be attained.

It doesn’t matter if someone is thought of as weak or timid; they can still grow and achieve the inner strength necessary to overcome any of life’s challenges. But it’s not easy.

Inner strength, resilience, wherewithal, whatever one calls it, must be forged. The only way it can be forged is through conscious effort. Challenges must be thought of as opportunities, because that is exactly what they are. One cannot attain inner strength without challenges. This makes challenges vital to growth. When we give into challenges without a fight, we become weaker. When we resolve to overcome any obstacle, we become stronger. It’s simple to understand, but difficult to achieve.

There are things that we can do to build upon our inner strength. Before we get into the list, there are a couple of things to keep in mind. First, nobody is going to be strong 100% of the time. Second, failure on the path to achieve inner strength is inevitable – it’s the response that’s important. It’s essential to get back up, and resolve to do better. There’s only one roadblock to achieving inner strength, and that is complacency.

Here are 10 ways to build inner strength:

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1. Learn to relax

Building inner strength does not mean rushing around and draining ourselves. To build inner strength, it’s important to have some energy. If there are difficulties – with finances, family, work, etc. – find a way to recharge the batteries. If that means going for a run, meditating, taking a bath, reading, do it. When we prioritize and choose our battles wisely and take the time to recharge, we’re in a much better position to handle whatever comes our way

2. Spend time with positive, productive people

Again, personal energy reserves are important to cultivating inner strength. Spending time with people who care for themselves and others is a terrific way to gain and maintain energy. Negative people are energy sappers; they have a tendency to complain and make other’s lives more difficult. When trying to build inner strength, this is an unnecessary burden. Also, spend time with people who are productive and accomplished – energy flows this way also.

3. Forgive ourselves

When trying to cultivate and carve out a new, stronger identity, it’s possible that we’ll reflect on times that we may have come up short. It cannot be emphasized enough: the past is the past. Again, this is a difficult thing to do. However, when we’re actively trying to improve ourselves, especially our character, it’s very important that we have the ability to forgive ourselves from any and all past mistakes that we’ve made.

4. Build confidence

If we’re going to build upon our inner strength, it’s helpful to be in a confident state of mind. There are a couple of ways to achieve this. First, reflect upon any and all past accomplishments and ask if there were any roadblocks that needed to be overcome at the time. This is important because it reinforces that objectives can be achieved despite of difficulty. Second, remember that nobody is perfect. Even people who we think are successful still have difficulties in life. It’s often inner strength that is the deciding factor.

#5 Try using affirmations

Many people have found affirmations to be an important part of their being. When trying to cultivate a new, stronger self, come up with some affirming phrases to state (even if it’s to just us) throughout the day. Maybe try saying a few affirmations first thing in the morning and a few when going to bed. It’s important to remind ourselves that we’re valuable and each brings something unique to this world. Add in some affirmations that include phrases on inner strength.

#6 Create outer strength

Developing a strong inner self is actually more holistic than it may sound. It’s important to have a strong foundation by taking care of our physical needs. We should be taking the time out to get in some kind of physical exercise – running, biking, yoga, etc. – to build upon and maintain this foundation. Also, make a conscious effort to eat healthy food and get an adequate amount of sleep each night.

#7 Watch or read something motivational

There are people, past and present, who have achieved extraordinary success mostly because they were exceptionally strong of mind. Some suggestions for people to listen to are: Stephen Covey, Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn, Wayne Dyer, Oprah and Tony Robbins. Some of the people on this list overcame some very difficult circumstances on the way to achieving what they have.

#8 Take responsibility

Here’s something very important: we cannot (cannot!) build inner strength by making excuses. If there is a situation that we’re responsible for and we fail, we must own up to it. Is it uncomfortable? Yes. But it’s absolutely necessary to take responsibility for our actions. Mentally strong people do not make excuses for themselves. If we want to cultivate a core of inner strength, we must follow their examples. If a mistake is made, admit it, forgive, and move on.

#9 Work towards short and long-term goals

One terrific way to gain inner strength is by achieving our goals step by step. Notice the three words “step by step.” Sometimes, we have a tendency to want things now. This cannot be so with anything worthwhile, but here’s what we can expect: we can expect to earn inner strength with every step that we take towards the achievement of our goals. Nothing breeds confidence, accomplishment and inner strength like progress. Progress is one of the keys to building stronger versions of us.

#10 Celebrate success

This success doesn’t have to be money or status; in fact, it probably won’t be. But if we consistently apply principles to build a stronger person, we’ll see definite results. In being stronger people, we can expect to earn rewards that others will not. When things begin to come to fruition, make sure to savor moments like these. All of that hard work in developing character has paid off and will continue to do so.

10 Signs You’ve Found A True Gentleman

Gentlemen used to be defined by their aristocratic birth, but these days they are often thought to be a dying breed. From James Bond to Prince Charming, true gentlemen are often the stuff of fantasy.

Think you might have found a true gentleman? Your man might not be born into the life of a gentleman, but if he shows these signs, then he’s on the right track.

10 Signs You’ve Found a True Gentleman

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1. His heart is in the right place.

He might not always succeed, but your gentleman has good intentions. Doing the right thing isn’t his motto, it’s his way of living. He’s kind even to strangers and inspires kindness in return.

2. He puts others at ease.

People find it easy to talk to him and feel better around him. He can make people comfortable even in the most awkward social settings. Meeting the parents for the first time? Don’t worry, within a half hour; they’re already calling him ‘Son.’ You’ve never waltzed before? He makes you feel like you’ve got moves like Cinderella.

He’s charismatic, and people are drawn to him. He likes to make people laugh and is usually smiling himself. A true gentleman doesn’t have to take a class in etiquette because he can teach it himself.

3. He respects your needs.

He could hold the door for you every time, but if you’ve chosen to show your independence by getting it yourself, he’s supportive of that too. Chivalry isn’t dead to him, but he also knows you can slay a dragon all by yourself.

He cares about you and demonstrates that with his actions. You’ve found a true gentleman if he takes the time to learn what pleases you. Sex with him is more about your pleasure than his. He takes pleasure in doing what makes you happy.

4. He has interests outside of work.

Your gentleman has found a hobby or craft that he’s passionate about. It stimulates his mind and gives him an outlet for his creativity. He could be a culinary genius or a wine aficionado, but something is fascinating to him. He loves sharing his passion with others.

5. He takes pride in his appearance.

You’ve found a true gentleman if he never offends you with his odor or appearance. He combs his hair, shaves or styles his facial hair, he doesn’t wear stained clothes, and he takes care of his physique as well.

He has a unique style that sets him apart from the crowd. He’s more likely to pass on trends in favor of classic styles. His Throwback Thursday photos look just as stylish as the picture you took of him yesterday.

6. He knows himself.

A true gentleman is opinionated but not forceful. He just knows what he likes and doesn’t like. He’s decisive and always stands up for his core values when someone challenges him.

He has conviction in his beliefs, and his moral character is unquestionable. According to The Gentleman’s Journal, a true gentleman says what he means and means what he says. He’s confident without being arrogant.

7. He makes you a priority.

You’ve never felt like he just doesn’t have time for you. Your true gentleman makes eye contact when you speak, and he stops what he’s doing to listen. He makes you feel fascinated by the level of interest that he shows.

8. He likes to learn.

A gentleman never acts like a know-it-all. He gets excited about learning a new skill because he’s happy when his brain is active. He likes to engage with people from other cultures. Thus, he enjoys traveling to new places, discussing politics, or debating. He is open to differing opinions.

He might have a formal education. But it’s just as likely that your true gentleman learned from the School of Hard Knocks. He has a wonderful imagination and can be creative too. He’s likely to be an expert at something.

9. He is honest.

You’ve found a true gentleman if he is true to himself and anyone he’s just met. He has nothing to hide because he’s authentic and real. Lying just isn’t in his character. The only thing a true gentleman would conceal is a surprise for you.

10. He is always in control.

A true gentleman isn’t controlling of others. He maintains control of himself. He knows that emotions can run high at times. But he never lets them see him sweat. He could be stressed, but he looks cool under pressure.

He rarely raises his voice or gets physical when angry, and you’ve never heard him curse. He’s in control of his temper, in fact, you wonder if he even has one.

Final Thoughts on Finding a Gentleman

“I can make a lord, but only God can make a gentleman.” – King James I

If your gentleman has these traits, consider yourself lucky to have found him. He’s a rare one, and all these signs indicate a happy you.

3 Reasons The Law of Attraction Isn’t Working For You

The New Age concept called “The Law of Attraction” basically states that you attract the energy you put out into the world. Whatever thoughts you repeatedly give your energy to, experiences of that nature will show up in your life, simply because you have created them subconsciously. The quote “What you think about, comes about” best summarizes the law of attraction. In order to manifest anything in your life, you have to first bring it into your field of consciousness with your thoughts. In turn, they transform into visions, and then action.

So, if you focus on negative thoughts or people, you will have more negative experiences. Conversely, if you shift your attention to the positive aspects of your life and what feels good, you will see more of that appear in the future. The law of attraction concept has been popularized in recent years due to the book and film “The Secret,” and although it shed much-needed light on one of the most hidden universal truths, it also raised many questions about how people can actually get this to work for them.

Have you have been struggling with the Law of Attraction in your own life? Then you might want to review this short guide of common problems people face, and how to fix them:

1. You focus too much on what you DON’T want, rather than what you do want in your life.

Remember, the Law of Attraction will always work, whether you realize it or not. It obeys your every thought, so if you constantly place your energy on the bills you have to pay, the long hours you work, lack of time for relaxation, etc, it has no choice but to bring MORE of that into your life.

How to fix it: The second you notice your thoughts wandering to negative territory, reign them in and show them the light again. You have the power to control your mind. So exercise your rights and remember that you get to create your experiences based on your predominant thoughts. Start a gratitude journal if you have trouble keeping your mind focused on positive thoughts, or take some quiet time to meditate. Remain grateful for what you do have, and the universe will have no choice but to send you even more things to be thankful for.

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2. You put up resistance to changes as you try to implement the Law of Attraction

“What you resist, persists.” Any time you put up walls between you and an experience or person, you will only encounter it more often until you face your fears and confront any challenges head on. Change can seem uncomfortable and scary at times, but you can’t evolve if you don’t allow yourself to transform from a caterpillar into a butterfly. We all have come to Earth to get in touch with our highest selves, and that involves breaking the mold and leaving behind old thought processes and habits in order to reach our full potential.

How to fix it: Instead of focusing so much on how vulnerable you feel from going through changes, just embrace it. Open up your heart and mind to new experiences, and focus on how you can learn and grow from exposing yourself to new people and places rather than the fact that you have put yourself in unfamiliar territory.

Remember this quote to help you out: “Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” – T. S. Eliot 

3. You have your sights set on the outcome of a situation instead of the present moment.

Trying to control outcomes can easily impede the Law of Attraction from working properly in our lives. Ever since birth, we have been taught to micromanage ourselves and others, and not allow any room for the universe to help us along. We have been fooled into thinking that only the future matters, and the present moment has no value. Remember that the Law of Attraction takes time to manifest what you wish to see, and it doesn’t just transform your life overnight. Try to enjoy the lessons you have been shown from each moment you have been given instead of setting your sights entirely on the future.

None of us truly knows what the future holds, anyhow, so it seems fruitless to fret over something that hasn’t even happened yet that we have limited ability to predict.

How to fix it: Redirect your attention to The Now anytime you catch yourself worrying or contemplating the future too much. It’s fine to have goals and dreams for the future. But when you live solely for the future, you have sacrificed the only time we truly have, which is the present one. Consciously create your reality based on what feels right in your heart, and the universe will always show you the way.

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