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5 Reasons to Date Someone Who Is Your Opposite

When it comes to dating, you’ve probably witnessed your close friends and family unanimously agree that finding a partner exactly like you will bring long-term happiness and success in the relationship. And having a few common interests and basic outlook on life is important. However, dating someone too similar to yourself could lead to stagnancy, boredom, and dissatisfaction down the road.

Why?

Well, think about dating a clone of yourself. Having the same likes and dislikes, the same quirks, same hobbies, exact same personality, taste in food. You would eventually feel trapped and complacent. In fact, you’d likely seek someone who complimented you rather than mirrored you.

Biologically speaking, we are hardwired to be attracted to people that are different than us. Take the famous 1995 experiment, for example. A group of women smelled the sweaty T-shirts of men. Then, they stated a stronger attraction to the scent of men who were genetically dissimilar to them. This is cited as one of the most important modern scientific studies. That’s because it lends truth to the saying that opposites do, indeed, attract. In the end, our bodies just want to prevent inbreeding, so we look for a mate with diverse genes in comparison to ours.

So, besides the chance of having offspring much better equipped for living a healthy life, why else should you date your opposite?

Here are 5 reasons to date someone that is vastly different than you:

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1. You complement one another.

Like we talked about before, dating someone too much like yourself would become stifling, boring, and wouldn’t stimulate your personal growth after a while. The most striking difference between opposites is undoubtedly their personalities, and dating someone with a personality unlike yours can accent your strengths and help improve your weaknesses.

Maybe one of you is a shy introvert who just likes to spend time at home and not socialize with people too often. Your partner might have a more extroverted, loud personality, encouraging you to get out more and connect with others. Furthermore, the shy partner might teach the outgoing one to mellow out a bit, listen more, and take time to relax. Over time, both of you would find that you encourage each other to grow in the areas where you would have otherwise remained the same had you dated a clone of yourself.

2. You can teach each other new things about life.

Dating someone with the exact same hobbies and interests won’t facilitate much growth in the relationship, because you will never be able to share new things with your partner. However, dating someone with stark differences in hobbies will make you a more well-rounded, interesting person in the long run since you will learn so much from your partner. Maybe he or she is an avid skier who can show you the ropes of the slopes. On the other hand, maybe you enjoy quieter, calm pastimes like drawing or knitting, and you can teach him or her all about it.

The relationship will thrive more because you will constantly have new things to share, which will give you a fuller experience of life in general.

3. The relationship will seem more exciting and fulfilling.

Your partner will likely come from a different background, therefore having very different experiences in life than you. You may have opposite tastes in food, differences in spiritual beliefs, varying desires of places you want to travel to, and the list goes on.

All of these dissimilarities means that you will constantly be showing each other new places to go, new foods to try, different facts about your heritage and background, and more. This will enable you to keep the spark alive and really enjoy getting to know the person you’re with. It will feel like a never-ending adventure, with both of you taking one another to uncharted territory. You will push the envelope with your partner, and not tire as easily of their company.

4. You will always have more to discover about each other.

When you date someone exactly like you, you don’t allow much room to explore the person. After you share all your hobbies, childhood stories, and deeply-held beliefs and passions, what else will keep the fire alive? Any relationship needs some diversity and excitement in order to keep the ball rolling, and dating your opposite will breathe new life into the relationship.

Because of your many differences, you will always have something new to uncover, keeping you both on your toes constantly. This way, you won’t grow bored with one another’s company and will have a more broadened experience of life.

5. Disagreements can be easier to smooth over.

As opposites, you probably have very different personalities, which means varying ways of handling arguments. Maybe one of you likes to lay it all out on the table in a fiery display of emotions, while the other wants to talk things out in a calm, rational manner.

You can work things out more quickly if you have opposite styles of arguing. That’s because while one of you might blow things out of proportion, the other can maintain their cool and rationalize the situation.

Someone with a short fuse better suits a person who stays calm and collected because one person’s weakness is the other’s strength. Any arguments will turn into a logical discussion since one partner excels at listening, while the other does better with talking through their emotions.

Have you ever gone on a successful date and developed a relationship with someone who was your opposite?  Share in the discussion!

5 Words to Live Your Life By

Language is full of words that can shape our lives based on how we interpret them. We seek words to help us live a better life, words like happy, meaningful and joyful. When you are ready to develop a list of words to live by, it might be best to start with the basics.

These five powerful words to live by aren’t fancy, but they have the ability to make a huge impact.

1 – No

“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” – Josh Billings

Saying no might seem a bit negative but when used correctly it can be a powerful tool in helping us to live our best life.

No, allows us to stop doing things while on autopilot. Adding “no” to our vocabulary will give us the power to think about the request and determine if the request will add value to our life.

It helps us to protect our time and our energy, so we have enough of both to pursue what matters.

2 – Yes

“If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you are not sure you can do it, say yes. Then learn how to do it later.” – Richard Branson

While learning the power of no is important, saying yes still plays a critical role in our personal growth. Saying yes isn’t about saying yes to more things, especially if you don’t want to do them.

‘Yes’ has power when you say yes to the right things. To make yes powerful in our lives, we must find the courage to do things we want to do. We need to do those unknown things that are scary and risky but somehow we still feel pulled to do.

When we answer no because of poor timing, lack of money or the inability to see how it will work out in the end, we are robbing ourselves of the opportunity to live our ideal life.

It is never the right time, there is never enough money, and we will never be assured of the fairy-tale ending. The lesson here is to say yes anyway.

3 – Believe

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt

To do, you have to believe. Believing in yourself, confidence, self-efficacy or whatever we call it, knowing without a doubt that we are competent, and our chances of success are high is a big driver to achieving the desired outcome.

Believing so powerful that professionals studying this niche say that believing in yourself rates above talent in achieving success.

So how do you create a strong belief in yourself? Through experience, that’s how. Doing, learning, and doing some more creates the confidence to keep going because each time you get a little bit better. So believe and then do.

4 – Persevere in all you do in life

“The brick walls are there for a reason, the brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.” – Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

We took a risk and said yes, we believe we can, and now the real test starts – and there will be a test.

We define perseverance as “the continued and steadfast effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition.” Perseverance is not doing something over and over again while expecting a different result.

When we believe we can, we must also believe we have the strength, determination and resolve to keep fighting for the things that matter. We shouldn’t give up or give in, we need to simply find ways to give more of ourselves and put it to work for us.

5 – Love

“Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Love is the common denominator of mankind. Whether it’s romantic love, familial love or friendly love, a long and happy life depends on love. It’s a universal feeling that contributes to our security, self-esteem, and connectedness to others.

Studies have shown infants in orphanages who were not loved, meaning they were ignored and received very little affection or human touch, would die young from no known physical cause.

Orphans who received constant attention and touched with affection grew into adults that we’re able to function in society and maintain healthy relationships.

When we bask in the feeling of love, we become more compassionate, grateful and optimistic. It is love that gives us the belief that we can and the ability to persevere towards a life that matters and is worth living.

What words do you live by that have the ability to change lives?

6 Ways to Access Your Natural Psychic Abilities

Many of us can agree that there is a source of untapped power in our minds. Now whether you explain things you “feel” in advance of them happening as coincidence or something more profound, researchers believe we, as humans, are connected through our psychic abilities

As a society, we are trained to ignore our intuition. It’s this attitude that has led to us letting our psychic abilities waste away instead of working to try and develop our psychic potential. The truth is, everyone can work on developing and honing the natural psychic skills we possess.

Here are 6 ways to tap into your natural psychic ability:

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1 – Meditate

Meditation and the necessity to connect to our inner wisdom are essential. So meditation can be scary, but the realization that there is no right or wrong way to do it should help. Meditation is helpful in connecting to our psychic abilities through a relaxed and focused mind. If we can do that, then we are meditating.

As we focus our mind on the now, we connect to our information center, commonly known as our soul. And it’s through this connection to our higher self that we are introduced to our spiritual energy. As we begin to see this energy, we are opening the doors to psychic encounters.

2 – Spend More Time in Nature

The connection and bond we form with Mother Nature, in all of her glory, will help strengthen our connection to our higher selves. The Earth is all around us, above, below and even inside us. We sometimes overlook that Mother Nature is responsible for who we are, and it’s important to realize she is more than the environment we live in.

It’s this awareness that allows us to develop a relationship with Mother Nature. Treating her with respect and understanding that there is an aspect of our higher self that resides in her core, will allow us to tap into our full potential. We become more attuned to our surroundings, both externally and internally.

3 – Overcome The Fear

We are all spiritual and intuitive beings and as we bring awareness to this fact something in us shifts. Instead of ignoring the little voice in our head, we start paying attention to it and even asking it for guidance. This can be a scary process at first, and our fears can keep us from completing the journey.

Our intuition is a natural thing, and it deserves to be honored not feared. If you want to develop your psychic abilities, you can’t be afraid of what will happen when you do. Put trust in your higher self that it always has your best interests at heart. Just keep focused on the good that developing this ability will do, and it might not be so fearful in the end.

4 – Observe and Listen

”Before you speak, it is necessary for you to listen, for God speaks in the silence of the heart.” – Mother Teresa

Are you observing through sight or maybe through sound? The more we can observe and listen using all of our senses, the more connected to our inner source we will be. Using all of our senses will enlighten us to the truth and empower us to understand things on a higher level. It is the ability to use all of our senses that opens the mind to processing higher levels of vibration.

5 – Believe

We have to believe – truly believe in ourselves and the ability to awaken our psychic abilities that have been dormant for far too long. Psychic abilities are present in people who have earned them and who deserve them.

We must develop our abilities with the purest of intentions. As we begin to realize our psychic potential, be intentional with how it is used. We must commit to being resolute to use our gifts in service of others and for the highest good of all who we touch.

6 – Practice

Just like any skill or ability you are looking to develop, practice is an important ingredient to ensure an evolving spiritual connectedness.

Make sure and take your practice with you, the more you can tune into your higher self the more connection you will feel.

It is through this connection that our psychic abilities will thrive. It probably won’t happen overnight. Thus, you should prepare to practice and then practice some more.

Russel Steward mentioned the following bit of wisdom in an article at Psychic Journal. He said:

“It takes time for the subconscious to be able to communicate with the conscious mind, and the best way to do this is to start simply thinking about it. All these thoughts have a positive effect on developing your gift. Read about the subject. Knowledge will help, as you need some understanding of how things work. Adopt the policy you would take with a new hobby. Become involved in it, buy books and magazines, and look for more information on the Internet.”

Have you tapped into your psychic abilities? Share your story!

10 Signs You’ve Found Your Twin Flame

As you continue to journey on your spiritual path, you will probably hear the term  “twin flame” somewhere along the way. Twin flames possess the same soul, just in two different bodies, and may or may not incarnate at the same time here on Earth. When twin flames reunite, the entire energy of the universe shifts due to the immense power generated by both souls coming back together as one.

Twin flames seem to converge throughout many lifetimes here on Earth and on other planets, so when they meet again, it feels like they’ve known one another forever. If you need some reassurance and guidance to know if you have indeed crossed paths with your twin flame these signs will help bring you clarity.

10 Signs You’ve Found Your Twin Flame

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1. You feel an overwhelmingly powerful connection with them, unlike any you’ve ever felt before.

You feel like you have walked into a lighter vibration in their presence, and don’t feel as affected by the troubles in our Earthly realm right now. Finally, you feel perfectly balanced and aligned with Source energy when you’re with them.

2. You have had intense dreams or visions of them reappearing in your life, and felt their presence long before they manifested physically.

You also experienced other synchronicities, such as seeing 11:11 on the clock, feeling waves of good energy wash over you for no particular reason, hearing a song playing frequently on the radio, or other signs from your angels or messengers.

Things in your life seem to manifest much more quickly than before, and your partner or love interest experiences these phenomena as well.

3. You have past life memories with this person and can recall vivid details from your previous experiences together.

Seeing your partner in person felt like “coming home,” and they trigger strong emotions in you because of the intensity of the connection.

4. Though you and your partner share the same soul, you have significant differences in your personality, demeanor, likes, dislikes, and other traits.

Your twin flame understands you at a deep soul level as no one else can, but on the surface, you seem to be polar opposites. You complement one another’s strengths and weaknesses, perfectly exemplifying the yin/yang energies.

5. You have an extremely telepathic or psychic connection with your partner, and can, therefore, sense when something is amiss, when they’re thinking or talking about you, or when they distance themselves from you.

Because both of you have such a profound connection to one another, you experience the same emotions and illnesses at the same time quite often. Their pain is your pain; their happiness is your happiness.

6. It’s likely that the first time both of you met, you were in relationships already, or just didn’t feel prepared to come together and serve the universe through the love you both had for one another.

Twin flame relationships are the most powerful on Earth, and both people have to feel spiritually, mentally, and emotionally ready to handle such a passionate, meaningful connection.

One of you may have run from the other, shielding yourself from the vulnerability you would inevitably feel in the relationship. Years may have passed before you met up again, but now you both have healed old wounds and have grown on your individual paths. Now, you both feel capable of enduring life’s challenges together, and serving humanity in a similar way.

7. Despite all of the hardships you may go through in life, you both continue to evolve together and make one another better people.

While you may feel unbearable pain at times in the relationship, you come out stronger, wiser, and better able to navigate the Earthly realms.

You realize that both of you were meant to be together in order to raise the vibrational frequency of the Earth, and aid humanity during these turbulent times as we shift into a new paradigm. You know that you couldn’t accomplish the same goals with anyone else, as you and your twin flame share the same visions for your future.

8. Being apart from your twin flame for any lengthy amount of time feels unendurable, and you function best in their presence.

While you can go about your days on your own, you feel a deep sense of longing for your twin flame, and may even suffer physical symptoms during times of separation.

9. You understand more about yourself and this human experience than you ever have before when united with your partner; he or she takes you to new depths of your soul that you didn’t even know existed before meeting them.

Exciting plans continue to unfold for the two of you, and at lightning speed. You finally know what it feels like to ride the rollercoaster of life. And for once, you let your hands wave wildly in the air because you know you’re safe in your partner’s hands.

 

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10. No matter what annoys you about your partner, you can overlook these unappealing habits or personality traits, because you have unconditional love for them.

You couldn’t imagine yourself expanding your consciousness so deeply with anyone else. Plus, you know that you both belong together on this soul journey.

5 Ways To Connect With Angels

Signs of Angels have increased dramatically in recent years, but even if you cannot see them physically, they can still communicate with you through other methods.

Even if you have never had encounters with otherworldly, divine beings before, we all have our own spirit guides or angels, that can help us here on Earth if we simply do our part to connect with them. Beyond the veil of the 3D reality, we can access celestial beings in the higher realms that want to guide us through any adversity we face during these times.

If you want to start connecting with your angels, here are 5 ways you can get through to them:

Are angels or spirit guides around you? Look for these signs.

1. Pay attention to any physical sensations you feel.

Angels like to communicate with us through the physical realm, so you don’t need to do anything with this method other than taking note of your surroundings. For example, if the temperature in the room suddenly changes, or you start noticing goosebumps on your skin or an unexplainable presence near you, these could all be signs of an angelic being making itself known to you.

Angels operate on a different frequency than humans, so they usually like to connect with us in non-verbal ways.

2. Meditate and ask for your angels to make themselves known to you.

Because angels communicate through a higher vibration, meditation provides an excellent way to get in touch with them since it heightens your own frequency. During your meditation, ask for your angels to give you a sign of their presence at some point during the day. They normally don’t respond immediately; since we operate on a lower frequency here on Earth, it can take time for them to receive your message.

However, sitting in silence will block out all the other noise and distractions in our current reality, and will give you the perfect opportunity to hear your angels communicate with you.

3. Make note of any times you see repeating numbers or hear a song frequently played on the radio.

According to Doreen Virtue, seeing the numbers 11:11 frequently means that your angels are trying to send you a divine message and that your thoughts are manifesting almost instantly into physical form. The more you see numbers repeat themselves, especially 1’s, the stronger the connection between you and your angels. Start to slow down and pay attention to what’s around you; more and more people seem to notice repeating numbers today, which means our angels desperately want us to hear their messages. Also, if you hear a song played often on the radio that seems to have relevance in your life at the moment, your angels might be trying to send you a direct message through that medium.

4. Before you go to bed at night, ask for your angels to appear in your dreams.

Angels also love to send messages through dreams, because you technically enter an alternate reality in your dream state, making it easier for them to communicate any necessary information with you. Before going to sleep each night, simply send out a loving message for your angels, telling them that you wish to see them in your dreams.

Even if they don’t appear that exact night, they have heard your message and will make themselves known to you in the coming days. In your dream, they will likely reiterate the thoughts you regularly pay attention to in your waking state or possibly warn you of any upcoming dangers or roadblocks.

5. Pray for their assistance in your life.

Doreen Virtue, a renowned psychic, angel healer, and motivational speaker says that “No angel shall interfere with a human’s life unless asked, with the sole exception of a life-threatening emergency” in her book, Angel Therapy. To receive help, we must ask for it first, because the angels will always respond to our cries for help.

Even if we don’t speak the words aloud, they can tune into our internal pleas for guidance and comfort, and offer that to us instantly as long as we have a true need for the angels in our lives. They want to help you, so don’t hesitate to call on them for support when you need it most.

10 Things Intuitive People Do Differently

Whether you realize it or not, everyone relies subconsciously on being intuitive when making decisions, because we all are born with this mystical sixth sense. It warns us of approaching dangers, helps us make important choices in our lives, and can guide us in uncertain situations. Some experts believe that our gut instincts are more efficient and effective than logical analysis in our decision-making process, according to a study performed by researchers from Boston College, Rice University, and George Mason University.

Even Steve Jobs, one of the most successful businessmen and innovators of all time, said, “intuition is a very powerful thing, more powerful than intellect, in my opinion. That’s had a big impact on my work.”

While we all have this uncanny ability to make important decisions based on our gut feelings, some of us have mastered this skill more than others. If you are deeply connected to your intuition, you probably do these things differently:

10 Things Intuitive People Do Differently

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1. Intuitive people honor their inner voice.

Highly intuitive people never dismiss or ignore their instincts – they listen fervently to the voice in their head trying to steer them in the right direction and have learned over time that their gut usually knows best. While many still classify intuition as pseudoscience, the mystery surrounding it is slowly disappearing.

If you still are skeptical, consider this story: While a lady cleaned her house, she called her mom to check on her. A voice inside told her that she had taken pills and that she should go see her right away. Sure enough, she hopped in a cab and found that her mom had overdosed on a whole box of pills. She called an ambulance and saved her mother’s life, all because she listened to her intuition.

Pay attention to what that inner voice is saying – it could mean the difference between life and death, in some cases.

2. Intuitive people enjoy quiet time alone.

According to Sophy Burnham, bestselling author of the book “The Art of Intuition,” intuitive people are often classified as introverts.

Related: Are you an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?

Because introverts draw energy mostly from themselves and their creativity, they tend to go within more, cultivating a close relationship with their intuitive sense. However, even extroverts can enjoy solitude. Regardless, time alone allows you to tap into that all-knowing, universal energy trying to steer you in the right direction.

Highly intuitive people don’t get bored or feel lonely in their own company; they actually relish it and look forward to getting reconnected to themselves and the universe.

3. Intuitive people let their creative passions come to life.

Musicians, artists, fire-breathers, dancers, writers, and the like all have one thing in common: they allow their creativity to guide them effortlessly through life, and never question if it makes sense or not. It just comes naturally to them, and they don’t know what else to do but to nurture their passions. As a deeply intuitive person, you likely have a knack for creative endeavors, and may even earn a living through your innovations.

Your method of self-expression serves as an outlet for you, and you know that by staying in tune with your intuition, you allow your highest self to come to the surface.

4. Intuitive people have a high-level of self-awareness.

Highly aware of themselves and their inner world, intuitive people practice mindfulness in their own special way, whether through meditation, yoga, or some other peaceful practice.

As you become the silent observer of your own thoughts and actions, you come to understand yourself on a spiritual level, which can increase your intuitive abilities even further. Mindfulness also helps to relieve mental fog, allowing you to focus on the inner voice that may have been previously silenced by all the other noise in your mind.

5. Intuitive people are very observant of their surroundings.

They notice many things that most people simply ignore.  This greatly aids the intuitive person in listening to their inner voice. That’s because when the outer world is observed so thoroughly. Thus, it will likely give the same attention to their inner world as well.

6. Intuitive people pay attention to how they feel.

They don’t attribute every ache and pain to intuition trying to tell them something, but they also know that the intuition wants to make itself heard in whatever way it can. They don’t call intuition a “gut feeling” for no reason; in fact, some scientists call our gut a second brain because of the vast number of neurons lining the intestinal walls.

If you have a bad feeling in your stomach, for example, you may notice your palms begin to sweat, your heart starts to race, and your legs become wobbly and unstable. You may not be able to pinpoint the cause of these feelings. However, your body often warns you ahead of time of impending dangers.

7. Intuitive people relate well with how others feel.

Highly intuitive people have a strong sense of empathy, understand how other people feel and offer support and comfort. If you are an intuitive person, you may notice that strangers often open up to you very quickly about stressful or saddening events in their lives. That event happens because you make them feel at ease without even trying.

They also use intuition to read how other people feel even if they don’t utter a word; this allows a deeper bond with others and helps them gauge how someone else may be feeling.

8. Intuitive people take note of subtle messages from the universe.

Repeating numbers on the clock, a song playing every time you turn on the radio, or simply a sentence in a book that jumps out at you, you take all of these signs to heart and try to decode what they mean. You know that the universe speaks to us in mysterious ways. Therefore, you keep your eyes and ears open for any indirect messages from your spirit guides or angels.

9. Intuitive people don’t overwork themselves.

Intuition can’t do its work if you become so busy that you have no time to acknowledge your inner voice. Highly intuitive people know that peace and quiet are essential for getting in touch with their intuition. Plus, they create enough downtime each day to decompress and reawaken their internal guidance.

10. Intuitive people don’t become attached to negative emotions.

You know that your intuition becomes stifled by clinging to anger, sadness, grief, or frustration. Then, you’ll observe your feelings and let them slide off your shoulders without becoming attached to them. To keep the doors to your innermost voice open, you constantly assess your feelings. Plus, you will do away with any that inhibits you from remaining conscious of your highest self.

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