15 Mantras to End the Day Feeling Good Enough

March 19, 2015 by Power of Positivity

Before we go to sleep at night, many of us reflect on what happened during the day and wish we could have gotten more things done, eaten better, worked out, or asked our boss for a long-overdue raise. Whatever you did (or didn’t do) during your day, make it a habit to reinforce the following positive mantras before bed so you go to sleep feeling satisfied and excited for tomorrow.

15 Mantras to End the Day Feeling Good Enough

1. “I did the best I could today.”

No one can do everything perfectly; otherwise, you wouldn’t be human. Be proud of what you accomplished during your day, and know that you tried your hardest and put forth your best effort. Maybe others didn’t acknowledge your hard work, but at the end of the day, only your opinion of yourself matters anyway.

2. “I am worthy of love and abundance.”

Remind yourself that as a child of the universe, you deserve a fulfilling life overflowing with love and happiness. Even if the happenings of your day didn’t reflect this reality, say this mantra aloud or to yourself before bed each night, and you will slowly start to see more abundance flow into your life.

3. “I am confident in myself and know I can accomplish anything!”

All of us need a little boost in self-esteem every once in a while, and luckily, we can offer up a serving of self-assurance to ourselves any time we want! If you remind yourself of your own unlimited potential and implant this mantra into your consciousness, you will soon see the seeds of your thoughts bloom into action.

4 “I have everything I need to be happy.”

If you got through your day with food, water, shelter, family, and some sunshine, you have more wealth than most people do today. While a lot of us get caught up in trying to “become somebody,” remember that you already ARE somebody, and you likely have many blessings that you may overlook day-to-day. Keep this thought in your mind so you can feel content with life as it is right now.

5. “I love myself.”

Love yourself right now, no matter your job, location, weight, or accomplishments. You ARE worthy.

6. “I am thankful for my family and friends.”

Don’t forget to express gratitude not only for yourself but for everyone else in your life who loves and supports you. Maybe you don’t always get along with your closest friends and loved ones, but at the end of the day, they will stand by you when you need someone the most.

7. “I don’t need to compare myself to others; I’m on my own journey!”

Resist the temptation to compare your own path to other’s personal voyages; you will likely only feel jealous or inferior as a result. Remember that you can’t possibly measure your own worth by someone else’s accomplishments or status, because you belong in your own category. The universe brought you here for a reason, and that reason may look completely different than someone else’s.

8. “I see the beauty in everyone and everything around me.”

Before you close your eyes at night, think about all the positive aspects of the people in your life and your current environment. By doing this, you will remind yourself that you originate from the same place as everyone else, and therefore feel more connected and comforted throughout the day. Remember to also honor your own exquisiteness, because this largely determines how you perceive the reality around you.

9. “Everything in my life serves my highest good at this time.”

Whatever is happening in your life right now serves to expand your consciousness in one way or another. Whether you have just ended a tumultuous relationship or moved to a new, beautiful country, both will further illuminate your own unique path. Everything happens for a reason, so embrace the lessons and remember to relax and let the universe guide you.

10. “I’m a healthy, vibrant being of light.”

The first step to becoming healthier is imagining yourself as already healthy. If you can picture what you would look and feel like as a thriving, fit, strong person, you will enable yourself to attain this reality. Use the Law of Attraction to your advantage and consistently reinforce thoughts about what you do want rather than what you don’t want.

11. “I release everything that no longer serves me.”

As you drift off to sleep, gently expel negative thoughts from your mind that only bring you down; doing this over and over again each night will set the stage for a better sleep and a more positive outlook as you wake up in the morning.

12. “I am the master of my reality.”

We can easily forget that we are the conductors of our own lives – we direct the flow of energy in our lives based on our own thoughts. If you have felt out of control in your life lately, say this mantra to reassure yourself about your own inner power to create the reality you desire.

13. “I am enough.”

Don’t allow self-defeating thoughts to determine your outlook about yourself; instead, reinforce your self-worth with positive thoughts such as this one.

14. “I believe in myself.”

Recognize your own value, and never forget that you can accomplish anything you want in life. It all begins with having faith in your own abilities and putting in effort to do things that get you closer to yourself, not farther away.

15. “I am at peace.”

Even if you had a chaotic day, go within to find the stillness that always exists, even if you don’t always acknowledge it. Nothing outside of yourself can bring true peace, so rely on yourself any time you feel frazzled. Breathe in deeply, and welcome a good night’s sleep knowing all is well.

Do you use self-esteem mantras before bed? Share your own in the discussion below!

11 Things People in Healthy Relationships Do Differently

March 17, 2015 by Power of Positivity

Have you ever had a rocky relationship, but couldn’t figure out why things went sour in the first place?

Most everyone experiences obstacles in their relationships from time to time, but if it becomes a regular occurrence, this should raise some red flags. Constant arguing, distant behavior, forced communication, and drained energy are just some of the trademarks of unhealthy relationships.

If you have had relationships like these in the past, keep these pointers in mind to cultivate healthy, positive relationships in the future.

11 Things People in Healthy Relationships Do Differently

1. They always have each other’s backs.

People in healthy relationships don’t cut each other down or try to outshine one another. Every time either person reaches a long-awaited goal or expresses interest in trying a new career path, the other responds with unwavering support and encouragement. While they may discuss all the possibilities that the new venture might bring, they will still stand by their partner if he or she feels passionate about something. They don’t rain on each other’s parade – instead, they celebrate newfound desires and accomplishments and bring even more light into each other’s lives.

2. They make time for one another despite a hectic schedule.

If you live on planet Earth, you probably have a pretty full plate and try to take full advantage of any free time you have. Despite a packed schedule, people in healthy relationships dedicate some of their free time to going out on dates, having heart-to-heart talks, and just enjoying life together. People in destructive relationships may prioritize work or hang out with friends above their relationship, but if you really care about someone, you will make an effort to spend quality time with them.

Set aside a block of time each day that is not to be interrupted, regardless of what’s going on. You’ll be surprised that you can, in fact, fit this time in, and won’t lose your regular schedule.

3. They recognize the importance of self-love.

We live in a world of constant change, but this will always remain the same: You must love yourself if you want others to love you in return. Think of it like a cup overflowing with water, for example. If you have excess water, you can easily give it to others since you already have enough for yourself. If you have enough love in your heart for yourself, you can give away the extra love to others.

Your relationship with yourself determines your relationship with everyone else, and healthy relationships thrive off of people who have a lot of love within already.

4. They leave past relationships behind them.

They don’t carry the pain from past relationships into their current one – you can’t have a healthy relationship if you haven’t dealt with the hurt you’ve experienced before coming into a new relationship. Of course, you should ideally take lessons from your past relationships and apply them to future ones, but to move on, you need to release the pain and express gratitude for what you learned along the way.

5. Healthy relationships are built on a strong foundation of trust.

People in unhealthy relationships may become jealous or possessive of his or her partner if the trust isn’t established from the get-go. To have an open, loving relationship, both people need to be able to rely on one another for everything from helping each other get over a cold to sharing each other’s deepest secrets. Trust acts like the breath of life in a relationship, and if you don’t have it, you both will quickly run out steam. Healthy relationships require complete faith in one another in order to get through challenges and rejoice in the good times, too.

6. They make each other laugh often.

As the old adage goes, “laughing is the best medicine.” Laughing helps keep us sane in this crazy ride of life and also releases endorphins that make us feel happy and alive. The most successful relationships consist of two people who can make each other laugh even when everything seems to be falling apart around them. In fact, if they can remain lighthearted about drastic situations, that shows they can make it through anything together with smiles still lighting up one another’s lives.

7. They spend some of their time apart.

Obviously, healthy relationships need some time to breathe in order to keep the fire burning bright. If two people spend every waking moment together, they will tire of each other pretty quickly and tend to get under one another’s skin. People usually enjoy hanging out with friends or seeing family without their boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse tagging along every time, and this actually makes for a much healthier relationship. After all, people need time to nurture all relationships in their lives, and even the closest of partners understand that.

8. They lift each other up during hard times.

They never walk away when the going gets rough; people in healthy relationships weather the storm together and brainstorm solutions to any problem that stands in their way. No matter how tough things get, they stick around until it gets resolved and help to lessen the burden for the other person.

9. They teach each other new things about life.

Every relationship serves as an opportunity to teach you more about yourself and the universe, and people in healthy relationships can gain a wealth of knowledge from each other. Maybe one of you knows about sacred geometry, and the other has experience in more creative endeavors such as drawing or painting. People in healthy relationships open themselves up to learning new subjects and complement one another’s unique interests.

10. They make each other better people.

You can always tell when two people feel genuinely happy together because they seem at ease and have a certain glow about them. Something just clicks between the two of them, and they make each other feel like more of themselves, not less. They take each other to the next level, helping one another advance their personal evolution of consciousness.

11. They make life their own playground.

People in the healthiest relationships make time for having fun together, and don’t let the monotony of bills and responsibilities take the reins in the relationship. They plan fun outings together and try new things often, such as rock climbing, taking a painting class, or couple’s yoga. They bring out one another’s inner child and put enjoying life at the forefront of their relationship.

Do you have things to add to this list? Share them in the discussion below:

10 Signs You’re Maturing, Not Just Aging

March 14, 2015 by Power of Positivity

Are you maturing or aging?

“Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional.” – Carroll Bryant

Upon the arrival of “adulthood”, society expects us to abandon our childlike tendencies, get a job, buy our own houses, and fall in line so we can become responsible, upstanding citizens of the world. As we get older, we tend to keep following the same old script, and somehow lose ourselves along the way. A lot of us feel much older than our age and wish we could turn back the hands of time. But, what if we said that you don’t have to become a hardened robot in order to attain maturity?

You don’t have to grow up to grow old – you can gain wisdom and experience without letting the strain of life age you. To know whether you have actually been maturing as you age, without simply growing old, let the following signs help you decide.

1. You have embraced your highest self.

A lot of people feel so old because they let their souls die in favor of fitting in and following the status quo. They give up their dreams and passions because they feel that the scripted reality seems much more achievable. By following the safe route in life, many feel dead before they even see their 21^st birthday. However, a person who can be themselves and do what they love despite what others say marks a sign of maturity and self-actualization, a milestone many don’t reach because they’re too busy being someone other than themselves.

2. You go with the flow in life.

Most of society constantly fight the natural flow of life, thinking that this will get them to the next rung on the ladder more quickly. Yet, many of these people remain stuck in these cyclical patterns their whole lives, never feeling satisfied with their current situation. They might make $50,000 one year and not feel fulfilled because they really wanted to make $500,000, so the vicious pattern continues.

Mature people realize that they must surrender to what is before they can appreciate what’s to be. They have a resilient, optimistic attitude, which helps them handle life’s ups and downs much easier.

3. The material, economic world doesn’t define you.

You don’t care about keeping up with the Joneses, because you realize that this becomes fruitless after a while. Someone else will always have more than you, but you don’t let that bother you. You feel thankful for what you do have and strive to do your best every day. Maybe you won’t become a millionaire and have an impeccable credit score and a sprawling mansion, but you know you can’t take these things with you anyway. You have detached yourself somewhat from the rat race, and know that your true value comes from the size of your heart, not your bank account.

4. You see life as a playground and have fun often.

You view responsibility as staying true to your heart and being able to create your own happiness, not paying a bunch of bills and sitting in an office all day. While most of us must pay bills to survive, we don’t have to sell our souls in the process. Adults are often viewed as immature if they act like children, but aren’t we all just kids in adult bodies anyway? You know that having a whimsical, carefree disposition is vital to maturing gracefully and have never given in to society’s idea of growing up. You still run through sprinklers in the summer and play hide-and-seek sometimes, and you don’t care what others think about it.

5. You have learned to adopt a positive attitude.

Our predominant thoughts about life determine what kind of person we become, and you know that having a positive outlook will sculpt you into a much more balanced, happy person. You have given up the need to complain, compare yourself to others, and engage with people or activities that will only bring you down. Aging people often have a bitter attitude about life, but maturing people have realized the value of optimism. You have so much love and positivity in your heart that you can’t help but spread it around, and others appreciate your upbeat attitude.

6. You don’t try to change what you can’t control.

You know that you only have control over yourself, so you don’t waste energy on attempting to change others. In addition, you know that change is the only constant in life, and embrace whatever life throws at you. You roll with the punches, try to become the best version of yourself, and realize that life’s beauty becomes apparent when you surrender to the unexpected.

7. You have unconditional love for everyone you meet.

Maybe you used to judge people, including yourself, in your earlier years. However, you eventually realized that only love would set you free, so you became more understanding and compassionate toward yourself and everyone else. You don’t criticize yourself or others on this journey of life and know that everyone must take their own paths to self-discovery. You embrace the duality of human nature and have even learned to love people who don’t show it in return.

8. You think before reacting.

You weigh people’s words carefully and don’t let your emotions get out of hand. Plus, you respond to people with reason and try to fully understand their point of view. Even if you feel they are out of line, you don’t stoop down to their level. You discuss issues with them calmly and don’t let your temper overtake the conversation. A true sign of maturity is when you can try to understand people that have hurt you instead of trying to get revenge on them.

9. You have mastered the art of listening.

You have humbled your ego enough to where you can listen intently to another person without feeling the need to interject your own opinion before they get finished speaking. And now, you know that you can learn more by listening than you can by talking, so you quiet your inner dialogue as much as possible and allow yourself to fully absorb other’s unique outlook on life.

10. You know what patience truly means.

In this world of instant gratification, you know the value of patience. You don’t expect things to just fall into your lap or happen instantly; instead, you put in the effort and wait for the rewards to materialize, no matter how long it takes. You don’t demand anything of life. Instead, you know that you owe something to it. You know the satisfaction of living a slower-paced life than most of society and try to set a positive example for a world that seems to move much too quickly. You realize you will get more out of life if you slow down and observe it rather than let everything pass you by.

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15 Ways to Regain Inner Strength

March 14, 2015 by Power of Positivity

[dropcap]T[/dropcap]he strain of a fast-paced life and societal expectations can easily beat you down if you let it, and many of us tend to get lost in the web of modern life. Maybe you woke up one day and felt that you didn’t know yourself anymore, and wished you could feel alive and vibrant like you used to. Your inner strength is still there. It’s up to you to dig deep and grab it.

If you want to reignite the spark within and regain your own inner strength, these life hacks may come in handy for you.

15 Ways to Regain Inner Strength:

1. Seek out enjoyable hobbies and activities.

Simply put, many people feel dead inside because they don’t do what they love every day. However, you can always turn your life around – make a list of things you have always wanted to try, and see if your area offers anything on your bucket list. Even if you have a full-time job, you can still take an hour each day to garden, go biking, knit, draw, or just anything that makes you forget about the pressures in life.

2. Set small, achievable goals for yourself.

Overcoming challenges and doing something you thought you couldn’t do gives a sense of accomplishment and direction. However, you can easily feel defeated if you don’t reach that milestone, so break it up into smaller pieces. Once you start attaining smaller victories that feel comfortable, you can more easily reach those flags at the finish line.

3. Find balance in life.

Working too much can make you feel drained and unmotivated to do much else. No one can maintain high energy levels if they work their lives away and neglect relationships with themselves and others, recreational time, their health, and other important aspects of life. Allot time each day for things other than work, and you will soon start to enjoy life again.

4. Don’t let negative emotions get the best of you.

You can acknowledge your feelings without giving into them and letting them rule your life. Let them wash over you, and then do something constructive with that energy. Put pain, frustration, loneliness, or whatever negative emotion you feel to good use; this way, your feelings become action, and action becomes change.

5. Choose to not let anything outside yourself dictate your emotions.

By taking ownership of your own feelings, you can truly become the master of your reality. If you feel negatively, go within to see what blockages you need to address, and ask the universe to guide you along your path. When you start to emit your own frequency rather than succumbing to the energy of others, you will start to feel invincible.

6. Never stay in an unhappy situation.

Change is the only constant in life, and you will have to learn to let go of things or people that no longer serve you. By staying in a negative situation just because you have grown accustomed to it, you will rob yourself of happiness and balance. Exercise your free will and get out of any relationship, job, or other circumstance that doesn’t feel right to you.

7. Make self-discovery a priority in the quest for inner strength.

If you want to reinvent yourself, you have to get to know every single crevice of your soul, even the dark corners you feel afraid to venture into. Go within and listen to your inner voice; if you don’t silence your mind and let your highest self come to the surface, you will only further suffocate your authenticity.

“Step into the fire of self-discovery. This fire will not burn you, it will only burn what you are not.” – Mooji

8. Avoid labeling yourself.

When you label something, you restrict it so that it can’t become anything outside of the stereotypes associated with the labels. For example, maybe you call yourself shy. This makes you believe you cannot feel confident going up to strangers and literally constricts you into your shell. Get used to identifying with the phrase “I AM” without putting any adjectives after it. Notice how liberated you feel afterward.

9. Start meditating regularly.

Once again, we go back to meditation because it can absolutely transform your life. You will start to become the awareness behind your thoughts and feelings and begin to discover your limitless power in the silence between your thoughts. More than anything else, going within and connecting with the universe will reestablish your strength and help you get in touch with your divine origins.

10. Eat a balanced, whole foods diet.

You quite literally become what you eat, so by eating heavily processed, sugary, refined foods, you will deplete your energy and start to feel lethargic. Give your body what it deserves – raw, fresh, ripe fruits and vegetables and unrefined starches, and you will begin to feel more alive both physically and mentally.

11. Move your body to build both outer and inner strength.

Exercising doesn’t only transform your outer self – it can give your inner self a healthy new glow and increased vitality. When you exercise, you release endorphins and other feel-good chemicals that help to rewire your brain and give you clarity, and you can start with just a short walk around your neighborhood each day. Most importantly, do some form of exercise that feels enjoyable to you.

12. Live compassionately.

While many people don’t live this way, you can choose to rise above the status quo and instill new behaviors in society. Offer a helping hand to other people, and collaborate rather than compete. Live collectively rather than individualistically, and you will start to understand the amazing power of the human spirit.

13. Never sacrifice your integrity.

Don’t do something just because others do it – make decisions from the heart, and start listening to your intuition. We all have this innate ability to get in tune with ourselves and observe how something feels within our body; tap into your own higher insight so you can begin to live intentionally rather than passively.

14. Let go of past pain.

Leave the past behind you, and choose to forgive anyone who may have hurt you. Holding onto grudges acts as a slow poison eating away at your soul and devouring your happiness. Forgiveness will set you free and release all that energy so that you can use it to rebuild your own inner empire.

15. Don’t overcomplicate life.

We often make living much harder than it really is – as long as you have people who love you, enough food and water, your health, a place to sleep at night, and activities you enjoy, you have incredible wealth and happiness at your disposal. Just enjoy the moment and work on one small area of your life at a time if you feel you need to find your inner strength. Remember, this is just a temporary journey, so don’t take it too seriously.

15 Keys to Living a Long and Happy Life

March 12, 2015 by Power of Positivity

[dropcap]T[/dropcap]he U.S. centenarian population has been on the rise the past few decades, growing from 32, 194 people who lived to see their 100^th birthday in the 1980s to 53, 364 centenarians in 2010, according to the Census Bureau. So, how does this relatively small group of people who live a longer life accomplish the incredible feat of living to such a ripe age?

Many of them credit these habits for granting them a long, happy, healthy life:

1. Cultivate a positive attitude.

In a 2012 study published in the journal Aging, researchers from the Albert Einstein College of Medicine found that out of 243 centenarians assessed, all of them had upbeat, optimistic, easygoing personalities. However, this one should come as no surprise – a pessimistic attitude drains you of vital energy and can even decrease your lifespan due to the shortening of telomeres, or the “end caps” of DNA strands. If you don’t already, practice developing a positive outlook on life. This rosy outlook will increase your longevity and possibly become a centenarian yourself!

2. Laugh often.

In the same journal referenced above, researchers from several prestigious universities discovered that the same 243 centenarians did more than just have a good attitude – they considered laughter an important part of life, too. Find reasons to laugh on a daily basis; not taking life so seriously could actually add some years to your lifespan.

3. Follow your unique life purpose.

People in Costa Rica call this a “Plan de Vida,” or reason to live. They feel that a strong sense of purpose and desire to contribute to a greater cause played a huge role in a small group of Costa Ricans living to 100. According to the website Blue Zones, people living in this area of Central America have twice as much likelihood as Americans of living to the age of 90.

4. Adopt a plant-based diet.

JAMA Internal Medicine revealed that vegetarians have a 12 percent lower risk than their meat-eating counterparts of suffering a premature death. Switching to a plant-based diet offers a slew of health benefits as well, which may explain why this group of people enjoys, on average, a much longer, vibrant life.

5. Get enough shut-eye.

Sleeping for at least seven or eight hours a night will leave you feeling refreshed and ready to take on the day. That’s not to mention that sleep allows your body to produce important hormones as well. A Penn State study found that men who slept less than six hours a night had a four-fold increase in their chance of dying over a 14-year period. Prioritize sleep over staying up late surfing the web or partying with friends to join the growing number of centenarians on the planet.

6. Live in a sunny, tropical climate.

Not surprisingly, Hawaii comes in first for the happiest, the least-stressed state in the U.S., as well as the state with the greatest longevity. On average, a 65 year old living in Hawaii will live another 16.2 years, in comparison to another 10.6 years in the state with the lowest life expectancy, Mississippi.

7. Move your body.

A 123-year-old Bolivian man, Carlos Flores Laura, credits his longevity to taking daily walks. Others like Tao Porchon-Lynch, a 95-year-old yoga instructor, say that a regular yoga influenced their long lives. So choose an activity to take part in. Whatever it is, make sure you really enjoy it and can incorporate it into your routine regularly.

8. Help other people.

Yep, altruism can actually lead to a longer life. According to a University of Michigan study, volunteering for the purpose of helping others, not helping oneself, leads to an increased lifespan on average.

9. Take more vacations.

Make sure to allot some vacation time into your busy work schedule; it could actually save your life. The Framington Heart Study followed about 12,000 middle-aged men for nine years; the results of their study? The men who took more time off work actually lived longer than the workaholics. So, booking more vacations might not make your wallet too happy, but a longer life doesn’t sound too shabby, either.

10. Stay close with family.

According to government research, Hispanics actually live 2.5 years longer than Americans on average. Furthermore, researchers suspect that having a close-knit family has something to do with it. We can learn from all cultures, and the Latino community proves that family bonding can play a huge role in having a long, enjoyable life.

11. Stay in touch with your spirituality.

Whether you choose to attend church services or keep up a regular meditation practice, WebMD’s 2008 survey of centenarians showed that 84 percent of them viewed a healthy spiritual life as an important part of aging well. Take it from the centenarians – exploring your spirituality can lead to a better, longer life in the long run.

12. Tell yourself positive affirmations.

Yogi Tao Porchon-Lynch, the lady mentioned earlier in the article, also accredited positive self-talk to her long, healthy life. Even in her 90s, she wakes up every day and tells herself that each day will be the best day of her life. Repeating mantras like these to yourself can help instill a positive mindset and totally transform your outlook on life.

13. Keep your mind active.

Continual intellectual stimulation can add years to your life – in fact, 89 percent of centenarians do things to keep their brains busy, according to a 2008 WebMD survey.

14. Live conscientiously.

By far, researchers have found that being conscientious is one of the best indicators of how long a person will live. The book The Longevity Project talks about this in-depth. It explains that conscientious people have a higher likelihood of adopting healthier lifestyles and have more successful relationships and careers on average.

15. Develop a resilient mindset.

Researchers at the Al Siebert Resiliency Center found psychologically resilient adults coped much better with life’s challenges and aged more gracefully. In other words, don’t ever stay down too long after an upsetting event. Instead, talk about your feelings openly. Then, get back up on your feet quickly to avoid falling into depression or stagnation. Easier said than done. However, it could tack on a few years to your lifespan, after all.

10 Signs You’re Dealing With A Liar

March 12, 2015 by Power of Positivity

In everyday interactions with people, you will likely come across those who are willing to be a liar in order to either get something they want or to cover up the real story. Sometimes they get caught in their lies, but other times they get away with them if they’ve played the game long enough. Maybe you have someone in your life who you have always had an uneasy feeling about, or you just can’t ever get a good read on them.

To find out if they may have secretly been pulling the wool over your eyes, take into consideration the following signs next time you think someone’s telling you a lie. Of course, these are red flags you’re dealing with a liar, but like anything else, there are exceptions.

Here are 10 signs someone might be a liar:

Take these signs as a general guide to unmasking a dishonest person

1. They never make eye contact with you.

Because liars actually feel guilty on the inside, they feel very uncomfortable when others look into their eyes. They feel as if the other person can see right through them, so they avoid long gazes with other people as much as possible. To catch someone in a lie, watch where their eyes go; do they look at the floor or look away from you when you talk to them? If so, there’s a good chance they have something to hide, and they desperately want to keep it a secret.

2. They act nervous around you.

No matter if the lie involves something significant or just a minor detail, a liar will usually act jittery and anxious around the person they want to hide things from. They might talk faster to get the attention off of them, sweat profusely, blush or pace back and forth. With an experienced liar, they might not show any signs of guilt because they have gotten used to living in a lie. However, if you start grilling them with questions, they might eventually crack under the pressure.

3. They look troubled about something.

Liars tend to not smile as much as people who live authentically and tell the truth no matter the consequences. Lying puts a huge strain on one’s conscience, and consequently makes one feel like they have two tons of bricks weighing down on them. This enormous pressure must come out somehow, and it usually reveals itself on the liar’s face. Watch the person in question’s facial expressions – you will probably notice that they don’t really show much emotion. The lies eventually eat people up on the inside, and their usual temperament is a telling sign of how they really feel.

4. Things about their story just don’t add up.

After you hear their story, you intuitively feel that they have embellished major parts of it or just fabricated the entire thing altogether. For example, maybe you feel that your friend stole money from your wallet when you set down your purse to throw something away. While you can’t really prove it, you remember taking $100 out of the bank, and not being able to find $60 after hanging out with her. When you accuse her of stealing from you, she insists that someone else came up and took the money. But, why didn’t she ever tell you about this incident after it happened? Liars usually don’t have very good cover-ups for their stories, because they have to come up with a fictional tale on the fly.

5. They start getting defensive.

If they had nothing to hide, why would they get angry about you interrogating them? People who tell the truth will act calm when put on the spot and will offer logical explanations about their behavior. Meanwhile, liars have to deal with all the turmoil they’ve created and must justify it to avoid caving under all the guilt. A liar will start to show signs of anger; they might ball their fists, cross their arms, have an enraged look in their eyes, or even make you feel inferior to boost their own ego. Going on the defense almost always points to a person with ulterior motives.

6. They change the subject.

Any mention of the lies they’ve told makes them feel uncomfortable, so they like to quickly take the attention off of themselves and bring up a more neutral topic. Usually, they make this quite obvious so that you will start to get frustrated, which makes their whole scheme even more fun to them. Look out for these sudden subject changes, because that’s your chance to really dig deep and ask them tough questions.

7. They keep noticeable physical distance from you.

Liars feel uncomfortable with human contact because they secretly harbor a lot of insecurity and pain, and feel that any sign of care will blow their cover. They will shy away from hugs or handshakes and will keep a sizeable distance between the two of you. This serves as a form of protection for them because they don’t want to get too relaxed and accidentally reveal too much information.

8. They start rambling almost uncontrollably.

Most liars can’t help but twist their stories into some convoluted tale that makes no sense in the end. They tell a couple of white lies but must cover these up with more lies in order to keep the “facts” straight when in reality it just makes it all less believable. Liars typically come up with complex stories in order to convince you that they are, in fact, telling the truth, but this marks a surefire sign of a liar in action.

9. They can’t sit still.

Liars fidget a lot. That is because they want some distraction to take them away from the seriousness of the conversation, so they play with their phones, tap their feet, move around in their chair, twist their hair, etc.

10. They change their story later.

Even if they add or revoke small details, this further proves that their original story had no merit. They probably forgot most of the tale they told since it never really happened, which means they can try and confuse you more with additional fabrications. If they try to change their story, ask them what they initially told you – as they fumble over the details, you can rest assured that you have finally caught them in their own lie.

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