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16 Ways To Be A Better Relationship Partner

March 19, 2015 by Chris Butler

Relationships that lend value to our life are essential for our overall well-being and happiness, and being a great relationship partner is what matters most.

“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.” ~Barbara de Angelis

When a relationship hits a rough patch, we often look at the other person and emphasize all the annoying things as if those traits are at fault. The reality is we should be looking at our behaviors because that is all we can control.

16 New Habits to Make You a Better Relationship Partner

Here are sixteen ways to become a better partner in your relationship:

1. Leave the relationship baggage behind you

We all have baggage. Whether it’s the expectations we bring with us from childhood or experiences from past relationships, baggage prevents us from realizing the true potential of our current relationships.

Everyone has felt lonely, empty, or inadequate at one time or another. No matter what we have, something always seems to be missing. The way out is to get to know the real you. Become comfortable having a relationship with yourself first, and everything else will begin to take care of itself.

2. Argue for the other side

When we get into a disagreement, it is usually because one person has one opinion, and the other has the opposite. When we argue our position, we look for evidence to support our point of view, and we keep looking until we feel we can “win.”

Imagine what would happen if you switched sides? Instead of gathering evidence to support your point of view, start gathering evidence to support the other side of the story.

It’s fair to say that both sides of any argument will have valid points, and if you wanted to, you could argue either side. As you start to make a case for the opposite side, you can usually see some validity to the opposing position. In fact, you will be amazed at how convincing you can be – so compelling that you might find yourself on a road that leads to the end of the argument altogether.

3. React less

Amid emotional situations, it is a natural reaction to overreact. It is easy to see when the other person is overreacting. However, we are not as likely to recognize our overreactions.

Our actions develop based on how we feel. And sometimes, we have big feelings which cause some significant moves. Reacting less doesn’t mean ignoring or minimizing problems, just controlling our reaction to them. The key to responding less is choosing to act based on how we want to feel, not think.

4. Stop complaining, start exclaiming

The average person complains between 15 and 30 times per day. That’s a lot of complaining, and almost everyone is guilty. Of course, eliminating the need to complain is easier said than done. First, you have to recognize and understand what you are complaining about. Once you know why you are complaining, you have two courses of action: You can accept the situation or change it.

Once you’re ready to change what you were complaining about, start exclaiming what you will do about it – and follow through. When you repeat powerful positive mantras that train your brain to create thoughts, words, and ultimately actions, you’ll quickly bring about change in the areas you were once complaining about.

5. Find favor

The Benjamin Franklin Effect assumes that we do nice things for people we like and bad things for those we dislike.

However, the psychology behind the effect says the opposite, which is that we grow to like people when we do nice things for them.

In a nutshell, asking and receiving a favor generates good feelings on both sides.

Want to eliminate negative feelings and establish good rapport? Don’t hesitate to ask them for a favor, and certainly don’t be afraid to provide one yourself.

6. Sweat your small stuff

Standard advice for relationships is to “stop sweating the small stuff.” A little sweating of the small stuff in relationships can be a good thing – when it’s your stuff you’re focusing on, instead of your partners’.

There are plenty of things your partner does that annoy you:

Leaving their laundry on the floor, not turning off their phone during dinner, or forgetting to take out the trash – every day.

Now think about all the little things you do that may annoy your partner. It’s these tiny annoyances that can build and create actual conflict in a relationship.

So instead of taking the “don’t sweat the small stuff” attitude, try sweating some of your small stuff for a while and watch the annoyances from your partner subside.

7. Sleep on it

Let’s face it. We are not getting enough sleep. When we are sleep-deprived, we overreact, make poor decisions, and have a hard time finding balance – all things that can lead to tensions in a relationship.

How many times have you overreacted when you are tired? When we are well-rested, we keep our emotions in check and think better on our feet. Sleep is one of our most underrated tools for living a happier life, so get more of it.

8. Be a good communicator

One of the most significant ways to be a better relationship partner is to grow in communication. You may think you’re a good communicator, but it may be time to learn how to be a better communicator if you do any of these three things.

Judging your partner- Assuming you know your partner’s motives, criticizing, or name-calling. These are all big no-nos to good communication.
Not paying attention-When your partner is talking to you, if you play with your phone or walk out of the room to get a cold drink, you’re showing your partner that you don’t care about what they’re telling you.
Unwanted advice-Don’t be the answer person. Hold your thoughts until your partner has finished talking.

9. Be a good listener

Listening means you listen with your eyes, ears, and body. Being a good listener says to your partner:

I am interested in what you’re saying to me
I’m not judging you
I understand how you feel
I want to know more

Four ways to improve your listening

Being a good listener will make you a good relationship partner. Little things mean a lot when you’re listening. Try to do these things, including:

Eliminate physical barriers like furniture-Stand or sit across or beside one another.
Avoid arm crossing-This shows disagreement or judgment.
Stay at eye level-If you’re in a conversation, don’t stand if your partner is sitting. Stay at eye level to show that you’re listening.
Don’t interrupt-Even if your partner says something untrue, don’t jump in to correct them. Wait until they’re finished, then speak.

10. Forgive without strings

It’s difficult to forgive your partner if they’ve hurt you. Forgiving is being willing to let go of what your partner did and seeking to bring peace. If you’re struggling to forgive, remember how many times other people have forgiven you. If you’ve been forgiven, you can forgive. An ancient text describes why forgiveness is so important.

Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends. (Proverbs 17:9 NLT)

Even if your partner seems to have moved on from the conversation, be sure to vocalize your forgiveness and let them know you love them. Be sure you offer your apologies for any contribution you made to the situation.

11. Be careful what you text

So many conversations today are via text, email, or social media. You must think carefully about how you phrase what you want to say. Ask yourself these questions

Is what I’m about to write kind? Rude?
Does this make my partner look bad?
Will this encourage or discourage my partner?
Is this true?
Why am I writing this? For attention? To get back at my partner?

The golden rule applies here, Do to others as you would have them do to you. (Luke 6:31 NIV) If you wouldn’t like it if your partner said what you’re saying on social media, then don’t say it about them.

12. Show gratitude

Be sure to express gratitude to your partner. Sharing gratitude improves feelings of positivity in your relationship. It makes your partner feel appreciated, which helps them feel more willing to talk about your relationship. Be sure to let your partner know these things:

How important they are to you
What you’re most grateful for in your relationship
Specific things they do that you’re thankful for

13. Be humble

Humility means you have a modest view of yourself. You’re not arrogant or prideful. You keep your ego in check and think of your partner first rather than yourself. It doesn’t mean you don’t have an opinion or self-worth, but you see others’ needs as significant to you. Humility will help you be a better relationship partner.

14. Show patience

Your partner isn’t perfect. They probably do things once in a while that drive you crazy. Perhaps they’re late all the time, or they aren’t good at putting their stuff put away. Showing them patience means you mention your frustration without getting angry or judging them. You can be patient because you know other people have been patient with you.

15. Show respect

Respecting your partner is a significant way to be a better relationship partner. Respect is not ignoring your partner’s feelings, wishes, or rights in your relationship.

16. Accept your relationship partner’s friends and family

Your partner’s family and friends are an extension of who they are. To be a good relationship partner, it’s vital that you accept these people. Attempt to get to know your partner’s siblings and parents. Don’t stay home when your partner goes out with friends. Be involved with them. This communicates volumes to your partner.

Final Thoughts on Improving Your Relationship and Becoming a Better Relationship Partner

If there’s a relationship that is important to you, then use a few items on this list to help make it better. How do you make your relationships better? Add to the discussion below or post a comment on Facebook.

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5 Ways to Instantly Feel More Confident

March 19, 2015 by Power of Positivity

Even people with the highest self-esteem can have moments of doubt and criticize themselves, but they usually don’t let these thoughts determine their overall view of themselves. However, highly sensitive and introverted people may have a more difficult time cultivating a confident feeling since they tend to hold other’s opinions in high regard and internalize their struggles.

No matter which group you fall into, you can use these tricks of the trade to quickly boost your confidence, even when you feel your lowest.

Here are 5 ways to look (and feel) more confident:

1. Put a smile on your face. 🙂

Even if you feel highly insecure at the moment, just notice how your mood changes by simply smiling at other people. Or, if you are alone, smile at yourself in the mirror. Smiling not only improves your mood instantly, but it also works magic in relieving stress, improving the immune system, makes you look younger and more attractive, and releases serotonin. Who knew smiling had so many benefits?

You can easily trick your brain with this powerful technique, because by smiling, you will start to feel better and even encourage others around you to smile, too. If you smile at life more, it will start providing you with even more reasons to be happy, so don’t forget to wear a smile today!

2. Hold your head up high wherever you go.

I’m sure you’ve heard to “keep your chin up” whenever you feel down about life, but this old saying actually holds water in increasing confidence levels. If you walk around with your head down and avoid making eye contact with people, you will naturally feel self-conscious and disconnected from everyone around you. To instantly increase your self-esteem, pick your head up and make eye contact with people.

Keeping your head down gives off the vibe that you want to hide yourself from others and feel uncomfortable talking to them; simply looking around at the world around you and engaging with it will help you feel more confident.

3. Visualize a more confident you in the future.

One easy way to boost self-confidence is to picture how you would look and feel by acting more assertive in situations where you normally feel out of place and uncomfortable. If you have a speech coming up in school and know that you normally stutter and turn red in front of a crowd, simply change your mode of thinking. You can alter the future by changing your thoughts now, so imagine yourself talking confidently and expressing yourself easily during your speech. The more you develop these types of thoughts in your head, the more you will see them come to life.

4. Go for a jog or bike ride.

Exercise doesn’t just benefit people physically; it also enhances the mind and spirit due to endorphins and other feel-good chemicals released every time you move your body. If you don’t like biking or jogging, do any other sort of activity that you can really get into and commit to doing on a regular basis. Once you start noticing the physical changes taking place, it will make you feel more confident in yourself because of the accomplishments you’ve made in transforming your mind, body, and soul.

Not to mention, learning new techniques and mastering the correct form in your exercise of choice will help you develop gratitude for your body’s incredible ability to adapt to new movements.

5. Get out of your head and into your heart.

If you fixate on yourself too long, you will start to create problems that probably weren’t even there in the first place. Instead of preoccupying yourself with all of your supposed shortcomings, develop compassion for yourself and realize that others probably struggle with some of the same insecurities as well. Remember that we came into this world full of nothing but love, so work on cultivating that feeling once again within yourself and learn to become your own best friend. Appreciate all of your unique personality traits, quirks, and habits, and cut yourself some slack.

Also, try to keep a fairly busy schedule so that you don’t have too much time to sit around and think; too much thinking can easily backfire if you have nothing else to occupy your time. Consider joining local classes or groups that reflect your interests, or just try something new to see how you like it. Being able to express yourself and connect with others who have similar interests will make you feel like part of a group and help you increase your confidence levels.

15 Mantras to End the Day Feeling Good Enough

March 19, 2015 by Power of Positivity

Before we go to sleep at night, many of us reflect on what happened during the day and wish we could have gotten more things done, eaten better, worked out, or asked our boss for a long-overdue raise. Whatever you did (or didn’t do) during your day, make it a habit to reinforce the following positive mantras before bed so you go to sleep feeling satisfied and excited for tomorrow.

15 Mantras to End the Day Feeling Good Enough

1. “I did the best I could today.”

No one can do everything perfectly; otherwise, you wouldn’t be human. Be proud of what you accomplished during your day, and know that you tried your hardest and put forth your best effort. Maybe others didn’t acknowledge your hard work, but at the end of the day, only your opinion of yourself matters anyway.

2. “I am worthy of love and abundance.”

Remind yourself that as a child of the universe, you deserve a fulfilling life overflowing with love and happiness. Even if the happenings of your day didn’t reflect this reality, say this mantra aloud or to yourself before bed each night, and you will slowly start to see more abundance flow into your life.

3. “I am confident in myself and know I can accomplish anything!”

All of us need a little boost in self-esteem every once in a while, and luckily, we can offer up a serving of self-assurance to ourselves any time we want! If you remind yourself of your own unlimited potential and implant this mantra into your consciousness, you will soon see the seeds of your thoughts bloom into action.

4 “I have everything I need to be happy.”

If you got through your day with food, water, shelter, family, and some sunshine, you have more wealth than most people do today. While a lot of us get caught up in trying to “become somebody,” remember that you already ARE somebody, and you likely have many blessings that you may overlook day-to-day. Keep this thought in your mind so you can feel content with life as it is right now.

5. “I love myself.”

Love yourself right now, no matter your job, location, weight, or accomplishments. You ARE worthy.

6. “I am thankful for my family and friends.”

Don’t forget to express gratitude not only for yourself but for everyone else in your life who loves and supports you. Maybe you don’t always get along with your closest friends and loved ones, but at the end of the day, they will stand by you when you need someone the most.

7. “I don’t need to compare myself to others; I’m on my own journey!”

Resist the temptation to compare your own path to other’s personal voyages; you will likely only feel jealous or inferior as a result. Remember that you can’t possibly measure your own worth by someone else’s accomplishments or status, because you belong in your own category. The universe brought you here for a reason, and that reason may look completely different than someone else’s.

8. “I see the beauty in everyone and everything around me.”

Before you close your eyes at night, think about all the positive aspects of the people in your life and your current environment. By doing this, you will remind yourself that you originate from the same place as everyone else, and therefore feel more connected and comforted throughout the day. Remember to also honor your own exquisiteness, because this largely determines how you perceive the reality around you.

9. “Everything in my life serves my highest good at this time.”

Whatever is happening in your life right now serves to expand your consciousness in one way or another. Whether you have just ended a tumultuous relationship or moved to a new, beautiful country, both will further illuminate your own unique path. Everything happens for a reason, so embrace the lessons and remember to relax and let the universe guide you.

10. “I’m a healthy, vibrant being of light.”

The first step to becoming healthier is imagining yourself as already healthy. If you can picture what you would look and feel like as a thriving, fit, strong person, you will enable yourself to attain this reality. Use the Law of Attraction to your advantage and consistently reinforce thoughts about what you do want rather than what you don’t want.

11. “I release everything that no longer serves me.”

As you drift off to sleep, gently expel negative thoughts from your mind that only bring you down; doing this over and over again each night will set the stage for a better sleep and a more positive outlook as you wake up in the morning.

12. “I am the master of my reality.”

We can easily forget that we are the conductors of our own lives – we direct the flow of energy in our lives based on our own thoughts. If you have felt out of control in your life lately, say this mantra to reassure yourself about your own inner power to create the reality you desire.

13. “I am enough.”

Don’t allow self-defeating thoughts to determine your outlook about yourself; instead, reinforce your self-worth with positive thoughts such as this one.

14. “I believe in myself.”

Recognize your own value, and never forget that you can accomplish anything you want in life. It all begins with having faith in your own abilities and putting in effort to do things that get you closer to yourself, not farther away.

15. “I am at peace.”

Even if you had a chaotic day, go within to find the stillness that always exists, even if you don’t always acknowledge it. Nothing outside of yourself can bring true peace, so rely on yourself any time you feel frazzled. Breathe in deeply, and welcome a good night’s sleep knowing all is well.

Do you use self-esteem mantras before bed? Share your own in the discussion below!

11 Things People in Healthy Relationships Do Differently

March 17, 2015 by Power of Positivity

Have you ever had a rocky relationship, but couldn’t figure out why things went sour in the first place?

Most everyone experiences obstacles in their relationships from time to time, but if it becomes a regular occurrence, this should raise some red flags. Constant arguing, distant behavior, forced communication, and drained energy are just some of the trademarks of unhealthy relationships.

If you have had relationships like these in the past, keep these pointers in mind to cultivate healthy, positive relationships in the future.

11 Things People in Healthy Relationships Do Differently

1. They always have each other’s backs.

People in healthy relationships don’t cut each other down or try to outshine one another. Every time either person reaches a long-awaited goal or expresses interest in trying a new career path, the other responds with unwavering support and encouragement. While they may discuss all the possibilities that the new venture might bring, they will still stand by their partner if he or she feels passionate about something. They don’t rain on each other’s parade – instead, they celebrate newfound desires and accomplishments and bring even more light into each other’s lives.

2. They make time for one another despite a hectic schedule.

If you live on planet Earth, you probably have a pretty full plate and try to take full advantage of any free time you have. Despite a packed schedule, people in healthy relationships dedicate some of their free time to going out on dates, having heart-to-heart talks, and just enjoying life together. People in destructive relationships may prioritize work or hang out with friends above their relationship, but if you really care about someone, you will make an effort to spend quality time with them.

Set aside a block of time each day that is not to be interrupted, regardless of what’s going on. You’ll be surprised that you can, in fact, fit this time in, and won’t lose your regular schedule.

3. They recognize the importance of self-love.

We live in a world of constant change, but this will always remain the same: You must love yourself if you want others to love you in return. Think of it like a cup overflowing with water, for example. If you have excess water, you can easily give it to others since you already have enough for yourself. If you have enough love in your heart for yourself, you can give away the extra love to others.

Your relationship with yourself determines your relationship with everyone else, and healthy relationships thrive off of people who have a lot of love within already.

4. They leave past relationships behind them.

They don’t carry the pain from past relationships into their current one – you can’t have a healthy relationship if you haven’t dealt with the hurt you’ve experienced before coming into a new relationship. Of course, you should ideally take lessons from your past relationships and apply them to future ones, but to move on, you need to release the pain and express gratitude for what you learned along the way.

5. Healthy relationships are built on a strong foundation of trust.

People in unhealthy relationships may become jealous or possessive of his or her partner if the trust isn’t established from the get-go. To have an open, loving relationship, both people need to be able to rely on one another for everything from helping each other get over a cold to sharing each other’s deepest secrets. Trust acts like the breath of life in a relationship, and if you don’t have it, you both will quickly run out steam. Healthy relationships require complete faith in one another in order to get through challenges and rejoice in the good times, too.

6. They make each other laugh often.

As the old adage goes, “laughing is the best medicine.” Laughing helps keep us sane in this crazy ride of life and also releases endorphins that make us feel happy and alive. The most successful relationships consist of two people who can make each other laugh even when everything seems to be falling apart around them. In fact, if they can remain lighthearted about drastic situations, that shows they can make it through anything together with smiles still lighting up one another’s lives.

7. They spend some of their time apart.

Obviously, healthy relationships need some time to breathe in order to keep the fire burning bright. If two people spend every waking moment together, they will tire of each other pretty quickly and tend to get under one another’s skin. People usually enjoy hanging out with friends or seeing family without their boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse tagging along every time, and this actually makes for a much healthier relationship. After all, people need time to nurture all relationships in their lives, and even the closest of partners understand that.

8. They lift each other up during hard times.

They never walk away when the going gets rough; people in healthy relationships weather the storm together and brainstorm solutions to any problem that stands in their way. No matter how tough things get, they stick around until it gets resolved and help to lessen the burden for the other person.

9. They teach each other new things about life.

Every relationship serves as an opportunity to teach you more about yourself and the universe, and people in healthy relationships can gain a wealth of knowledge from each other. Maybe one of you knows about sacred geometry, and the other has experience in more creative endeavors such as drawing or painting. People in healthy relationships open themselves up to learning new subjects and complement one another’s unique interests.

10. They make each other better people.

You can always tell when two people feel genuinely happy together because they seem at ease and have a certain glow about them. Something just clicks between the two of them, and they make each other feel like more of themselves, not less. They take each other to the next level, helping one another advance their personal evolution of consciousness.

11. They make life their own playground.

People in the healthiest relationships make time for having fun together, and don’t let the monotony of bills and responsibilities take the reins in the relationship. They plan fun outings together and try new things often, such as rock climbing, taking a painting class, or couple’s yoga. They bring out one another’s inner child and put enjoying life at the forefront of their relationship.

Do you have things to add to this list? Share them in the discussion below:

10 Signs You’re Maturing, Not Just Aging

March 14, 2015 by Power of Positivity

Are you maturing or aging?

“Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional.” – Carroll Bryant

Upon the arrival of “adulthood”, society expects us to abandon our childlike tendencies, get a job, buy our own houses, and fall in line so we can become responsible, upstanding citizens of the world. As we get older, we tend to keep following the same old script, and somehow lose ourselves along the way. A lot of us feel much older than our age and wish we could turn back the hands of time. But, what if we said that you don’t have to become a hardened robot in order to attain maturity?

You don’t have to grow up to grow old – you can gain wisdom and experience without letting the strain of life age you. To know whether you have actually been maturing as you age, without simply growing old, let the following signs help you decide.

1. You have embraced your highest self.

A lot of people feel so old because they let their souls die in favor of fitting in and following the status quo. They give up their dreams and passions because they feel that the scripted reality seems much more achievable. By following the safe route in life, many feel dead before they even see their 21^st birthday. However, a person who can be themselves and do what they love despite what others say marks a sign of maturity and self-actualization, a milestone many don’t reach because they’re too busy being someone other than themselves.

2. You go with the flow in life.

Most of society constantly fight the natural flow of life, thinking that this will get them to the next rung on the ladder more quickly. Yet, many of these people remain stuck in these cyclical patterns their whole lives, never feeling satisfied with their current situation. They might make $50,000 one year and not feel fulfilled because they really wanted to make $500,000, so the vicious pattern continues.

Mature people realize that they must surrender to what is before they can appreciate what’s to be. They have a resilient, optimistic attitude, which helps them handle life’s ups and downs much easier.

3. The material, economic world doesn’t define you.

You don’t care about keeping up with the Joneses, because you realize that this becomes fruitless after a while. Someone else will always have more than you, but you don’t let that bother you. You feel thankful for what you do have and strive to do your best every day. Maybe you won’t become a millionaire and have an impeccable credit score and a sprawling mansion, but you know you can’t take these things with you anyway. You have detached yourself somewhat from the rat race, and know that your true value comes from the size of your heart, not your bank account.

4. You see life as a playground and have fun often.

You view responsibility as staying true to your heart and being able to create your own happiness, not paying a bunch of bills and sitting in an office all day. While most of us must pay bills to survive, we don’t have to sell our souls in the process. Adults are often viewed as immature if they act like children, but aren’t we all just kids in adult bodies anyway? You know that having a whimsical, carefree disposition is vital to maturing gracefully and have never given in to society’s idea of growing up. You still run through sprinklers in the summer and play hide-and-seek sometimes, and you don’t care what others think about it.

5. You have learned to adopt a positive attitude.

Our predominant thoughts about life determine what kind of person we become, and you know that having a positive outlook will sculpt you into a much more balanced, happy person. You have given up the need to complain, compare yourself to others, and engage with people or activities that will only bring you down. Aging people often have a bitter attitude about life, but maturing people have realized the value of optimism. You have so much love and positivity in your heart that you can’t help but spread it around, and others appreciate your upbeat attitude.

6. You don’t try to change what you can’t control.

You know that you only have control over yourself, so you don’t waste energy on attempting to change others. In addition, you know that change is the only constant in life, and embrace whatever life throws at you. You roll with the punches, try to become the best version of yourself, and realize that life’s beauty becomes apparent when you surrender to the unexpected.

7. You have unconditional love for everyone you meet.

Maybe you used to judge people, including yourself, in your earlier years. However, you eventually realized that only love would set you free, so you became more understanding and compassionate toward yourself and everyone else. You don’t criticize yourself or others on this journey of life and know that everyone must take their own paths to self-discovery. You embrace the duality of human nature and have even learned to love people who don’t show it in return.

8. You think before reacting.

You weigh people’s words carefully and don’t let your emotions get out of hand. Plus, you respond to people with reason and try to fully understand their point of view. Even if you feel they are out of line, you don’t stoop down to their level. You discuss issues with them calmly and don’t let your temper overtake the conversation. A true sign of maturity is when you can try to understand people that have hurt you instead of trying to get revenge on them.

9. You have mastered the art of listening.

You have humbled your ego enough to where you can listen intently to another person without feeling the need to interject your own opinion before they get finished speaking. And now, you know that you can learn more by listening than you can by talking, so you quiet your inner dialogue as much as possible and allow yourself to fully absorb other’s unique outlook on life.

10. You know what patience truly means.

In this world of instant gratification, you know the value of patience. You don’t expect things to just fall into your lap or happen instantly; instead, you put in the effort and wait for the rewards to materialize, no matter how long it takes. You don’t demand anything of life. Instead, you know that you owe something to it. You know the satisfaction of living a slower-paced life than most of society and try to set a positive example for a world that seems to move much too quickly. You realize you will get more out of life if you slow down and observe it rather than let everything pass you by.

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15 Ways to Regain Inner Strength

March 14, 2015 by Power of Positivity

[dropcap]T[/dropcap]he strain of a fast-paced life and societal expectations can easily beat you down if you let it, and many of us tend to get lost in the web of modern life. Maybe you woke up one day and felt that you didn’t know yourself anymore, and wished you could feel alive and vibrant like you used to. Your inner strength is still there. It’s up to you to dig deep and grab it.

If you want to reignite the spark within and regain your own inner strength, these life hacks may come in handy for you.

15 Ways to Regain Inner Strength:

1. Seek out enjoyable hobbies and activities.

Simply put, many people feel dead inside because they don’t do what they love every day. However, you can always turn your life around – make a list of things you have always wanted to try, and see if your area offers anything on your bucket list. Even if you have a full-time job, you can still take an hour each day to garden, go biking, knit, draw, or just anything that makes you forget about the pressures in life.

2. Set small, achievable goals for yourself.

Overcoming challenges and doing something you thought you couldn’t do gives a sense of accomplishment and direction. However, you can easily feel defeated if you don’t reach that milestone, so break it up into smaller pieces. Once you start attaining smaller victories that feel comfortable, you can more easily reach those flags at the finish line.

3. Find balance in life.

Working too much can make you feel drained and unmotivated to do much else. No one can maintain high energy levels if they work their lives away and neglect relationships with themselves and others, recreational time, their health, and other important aspects of life. Allot time each day for things other than work, and you will soon start to enjoy life again.

4. Don’t let negative emotions get the best of you.

You can acknowledge your feelings without giving into them and letting them rule your life. Let them wash over you, and then do something constructive with that energy. Put pain, frustration, loneliness, or whatever negative emotion you feel to good use; this way, your feelings become action, and action becomes change.

5. Choose to not let anything outside yourself dictate your emotions.

By taking ownership of your own feelings, you can truly become the master of your reality. If you feel negatively, go within to see what blockages you need to address, and ask the universe to guide you along your path. When you start to emit your own frequency rather than succumbing to the energy of others, you will start to feel invincible.

6. Never stay in an unhappy situation.

Change is the only constant in life, and you will have to learn to let go of things or people that no longer serve you. By staying in a negative situation just because you have grown accustomed to it, you will rob yourself of happiness and balance. Exercise your free will and get out of any relationship, job, or other circumstance that doesn’t feel right to you.

7. Make self-discovery a priority in the quest for inner strength.

If you want to reinvent yourself, you have to get to know every single crevice of your soul, even the dark corners you feel afraid to venture into. Go within and listen to your inner voice; if you don’t silence your mind and let your highest self come to the surface, you will only further suffocate your authenticity.

“Step into the fire of self-discovery. This fire will not burn you, it will only burn what you are not.” – Mooji

8. Avoid labeling yourself.

When you label something, you restrict it so that it can’t become anything outside of the stereotypes associated with the labels. For example, maybe you call yourself shy. This makes you believe you cannot feel confident going up to strangers and literally constricts you into your shell. Get used to identifying with the phrase “I AM” without putting any adjectives after it. Notice how liberated you feel afterward.

9. Start meditating regularly.

Once again, we go back to meditation because it can absolutely transform your life. You will start to become the awareness behind your thoughts and feelings and begin to discover your limitless power in the silence between your thoughts. More than anything else, going within and connecting with the universe will reestablish your strength and help you get in touch with your divine origins.

10. Eat a balanced, whole foods diet.

You quite literally become what you eat, so by eating heavily processed, sugary, refined foods, you will deplete your energy and start to feel lethargic. Give your body what it deserves – raw, fresh, ripe fruits and vegetables and unrefined starches, and you will begin to feel more alive both physically and mentally.

11. Move your body to build both outer and inner strength.

Exercising doesn’t only transform your outer self – it can give your inner self a healthy new glow and increased vitality. When you exercise, you release endorphins and other feel-good chemicals that help to rewire your brain and give you clarity, and you can start with just a short walk around your neighborhood each day. Most importantly, do some form of exercise that feels enjoyable to you.

12. Live compassionately.

While many people don’t live this way, you can choose to rise above the status quo and instill new behaviors in society. Offer a helping hand to other people, and collaborate rather than compete. Live collectively rather than individualistically, and you will start to understand the amazing power of the human spirit.

13. Never sacrifice your integrity.

Don’t do something just because others do it – make decisions from the heart, and start listening to your intuition. We all have this innate ability to get in tune with ourselves and observe how something feels within our body; tap into your own higher insight so you can begin to live intentionally rather than passively.

14. Let go of past pain.

Leave the past behind you, and choose to forgive anyone who may have hurt you. Holding onto grudges acts as a slow poison eating away at your soul and devouring your happiness. Forgiveness will set you free and release all that energy so that you can use it to rebuild your own inner empire.

15. Don’t overcomplicate life.

We often make living much harder than it really is – as long as you have people who love you, enough food and water, your health, a place to sleep at night, and activities you enjoy, you have incredible wealth and happiness at your disposal. Just enjoy the moment and work on one small area of your life at a time if you feel you need to find your inner strength. Remember, this is just a temporary journey, so don’t take it too seriously.

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