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10 Parental Behaviors That Trigger Childhood Anxiety

January 29, 2024 by Power of Positivity

Here are some ways parents’ actions may cause anxious children.

Raising children is an experience unlike any other. It’s filled with both rewards and challenges. One particular challenge is that parents might inadvertently cause childhood anxiety. It’s an event that happens more often than most parents realize. It’s also accidental, with parents not knowing how much their child picks up on parental behaviors.

These anxiety-inducing behaviors may usually come from parents – those who spend the most time with the child. However, unintentional negatvie behaviors of others can also contribute. Some of these could include other adults who spend much time with children. Grandparents. A parent’s friends or partner. Educators.

The intent of this article is not to judge. Nor is it to cast blame on parents or other adults who take care of children. Still, it’s important to understand the scope of childhood anxiety in the United States. We should also learn how certain parental behaviors can inadvertently trigger anxiety in children.

Childhood Anxiety: Not as Uncommon as You Might Think

Anxiety in children is more prevalent than many might assume. Recent data and studies provide a clearer picture of this growing concern. Check out these statistics:

Growing Rates of Childhood Anxiety and Depression

Anxiety and depression among children have seen a notable increase in recent years. A study published in JAMA Pediatrics, cited by the Center For Children and Families at Georgetown University, revealed that even before the pandemic, anxiety and depression were on the rise among children aged 3-17. By 2020, approximately 5.6 million kids, or 9.2% of this age group, had been diagnosed with anxiety problems, and about 2.4 million (4.0%) with depression. These figures represent an increase of 27% for anxiety and 24% for depression from 2016 to 2019.

Anxiety Statistics in the United States

In the United States, more than 7% of children between the ages of 3 and 17 have been diagnosed with anxiety, as reported by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). This number translates to roughly 4.4 million children and adolescents living with some form of anxiety. Notably, nearly 37% of a significant proportion also exhibit behavioral problems.

Anxiety and Depression Comorbidity

The interrelation between anxiety and depression in children is also significant. Data from Wake Forest University highlights that among children aged 3 to 17, 73.8% with depression also have anxiety, and 37.9% of those with anxiety also have behavior problems. Unfortunately, only 59.3% of children with anxiety in that age range have received treatment.

These statistics underscore the importance of recognizing childhood anxiety. It’s not an isolated or rare issue. Rather, it is a significant concern affecting millions of children and their families. The rising trends call for increased awareness, understanding, and support for children struggling with anxiety and related mental health challenges.

10 Parental Behaviors That May Lead to Childhood Anxiety

Here are ten behaviors that parents may engage in, unaware that it may lead to anxiety in their child. We’ll also share tips to reimagine each behavior, turning each from negative to positive.

While reading each of the following points regarding parental behavior, remember that the “fixes” are not instant. They take time and patience – and sometimes a professional counselor’s involvement.

1 – Setting Too High Expectations

Setting high expectations is a common parental approach, but it’s essential to recognize its impact on children. When expectations are excessively high or unrealistic, children can feel overwhelmed, leading to anxiety and stress. For instance, expecting a child to excel in every subject, be a top athlete, or attain a prestigious career can create unbearable pressure to succeed.

This pressure can manifest as fear of failure or low self-esteem. In more severe instances, it can be the cause of childhood anxiety disorders.

How to Fix It:

Balancing high expectations with support and understanding is key. Encouraging children to do their best, praising effort rather than just success, and recognizing each child’s unique strengths and interests can foster a healthier, more supportive environment.

2 – Hiding the Truth From Your Child

Parents often hide difficult truths from their children to protect them. But children are highly perceptive and can pick up on unspoken tensions. When children sense that something is wrong but aren’t given clear information, it can lead to confusion, fear, and anxiety.

For example, not discussing family financial issues or health problems with children in an age-appropriate manner can make them feel more anxious. Instead of hearing the facts from a parent or adult, they fill the gaps with their child-like imagination.

How to Fix It:

Open communication about life’s curveballs in a way suitable for the child’s age and maturity level can give them a sense of security and trust. Explain the facts. Make sure they understand that information can help them learn how to overcome challenges.

3 – Overprotection May Cause Childhood Anxiety

Overprotecting children can inadvertently hinder their development of coping skills and resilience. Of course, it’s only natural for parents to want to shield their children from harm. However, excessive protection can prevent them from experiencing and learning to overcome normal challenges. In some cases, parents might project their fears onto the child.

This overprotection can manifest in many forms. It might look like constantly intervening in children’s conflicts. It may also mean doing tasks for them that they can do themselves. It could also involve blocking them from engaging in age-appropriate risks. These practices can lead to childhood anxiety, as they may feel less capable of facing life’s challenges independently.

How to Fix It:

Step back and take a deep breath. Let kids be kids. Chat with your children about what they’ve felt shielded from. You don’t need to let your guard down all at once. Take baby steps. It’s okay to start small.

4 – Low Frustration Tolerance in Parents May Lead to Childhood Anxiety

Parents with low frustration tolerance can contribute to anxiety in their children. When parents react negatively to normal childhood behavior, such as making mistakes or acting out, it creates tension.

Children may become overly self-conscious and afraid to make mistakes. But deep down, they feel anxiety over disappointing their parents. Besides anxiety, this can lead to a range of issues, including perfectionism or low self-esteem.

How to Fix It:

Parents and other adults should master one or two coping mechanisms. Take a walk to blow off steam. Count to ten and pause before snapping back when something irritates you. Vent the negativity in a journal writing session. Managing frustrations and responding to children’s behavior with patience and understanding is imperative.

5 – Excessive Need to Control Everything

An overly controlling parenting style can restrict a child’s ability to make independent decisions and learn from their experiences. When parents micromanage their children’s lives, from their activities to their friendships, it can undermine the child’s confidence. Thus, it can often lead to increased anxiety.

How to Fix It:

Children need space to explore, make mistakes, and learn, which helps them develop a sense of autonomy and self-confidence. Encouraging independence while providing guidance and support helps nurture a child’s ability to handle life’s challenges.

6 – Inability to Love the ‘Authentic’ Child

Conditional love can lead to long-term emotional issues, including anxiety. But what is that? It’s when children feel they must meet specific criteria to be loved.

If children believe they are only loved for their achievements, behavior, or other things, it can create insecurity and unworthiness. Unconditional love, on the other hand, fosters a sense of acceptance and emotional security.

How to Fix It:

Appreciate the children for their actions or behavior, not just for who they are. When you feel proud, don’t be afraid to tell them. You are not spoiling them; you are instilling self-esteem. Just be sure you offer them authentic praise.

7 – Emotional Dysregulation

Parents who frequently exhibit emotional dysregulation, such as overreactions or emotional outbursts, can create a sense of instability. Children sense that. Worse, they can’t tell that the outburst is not about them.

They start to worry about triggering a negative response – which often causes anxiety.

How to Fix It:

Parents should seek ways to provide a calmer environment. They can achieve this by managing their stress, seeking help, and practicing calm and consistent responses.

8 – Distortion of Facts and Biases

When parents consistently interpret and react to situations based on their own biases or distorted perceptions, it can cause confusion and anxiety in kids. Children rely on their parents to help them make sense of the world.

But if the information they receive is skewed or inconsistent, it can lead to a flawed understanding of the world and themselves, causing insecurity and anxiety.

How to Fix It:

Parents must strive for objectivity and honesty in their interactions with their children. They should also become aware of their biases and get to the root of why they have those beliefs – that’s the start of undoing them altogether.

9 – Lack of Empathy Can Cause Childhood Anxiety

Empathy is crucial in nurturing a child’s emotional development. Parents who struggle with empathy might not fully recognize or respond appropriately to their child’s emotional needs. This lack of empathetic response can lead to feelings of isolation and anxiety in children. As a result, they may feel misunderstood and unsupported.

How to Fix It:

Many parents have empathy but don’t know how to model it for their children. Developing empathy requires more than listening. It means hearing their children. It also means validating their feelings with compassion and concern. It takes time and practice, but it’s possible to show greater empathy with time.

10 – Flawed Model of Love and Relationships

Exposing children to unhealthy relationship dynamics, especially where they are expected to fulfill the emotional needs of their parents, can lead to anxiety and difficulties in forming healthy relationships. This dynamic can set a precedent.

How to Fix It:

Parents must demonstrate and teach healthy relationship dynamics. They should seek relationships based on mutual respect, communication, and understanding. Parents should encourage their children to develop their identities and pursue personal interests. Those will help independence and self-confidence outside of the parent-child relationship.

Final Thoughts on the Ten Parental Behaviors Accidentally Leading to Childhood Anxiety

Recognizing and addressing parental behavior can be a significant step in fostering a more supportive and anxiety-free environment for children. Indentifying these parental behaviors takes much honesty and self-reflection. It’s also worth reiterating that the “fixes” mentioned are not easy and often require a counselor. Still, the childhood anxiety statistics are alarming. It’s time we, as a society, look inside ourselves and ask what more we can do to help our kids.

10 Reasons People Become Resentful (and How to Fix It)

January 28, 2024 by Chris Butler

Here’s why so many people are bitter.

Resentful feelings are like a kettle of boiling water. At first, the signs are subtle: a few beads of water gently breaking the surface. These early ripples are easy to overlook, but as the heat beneath them builds, the boiling becomes impossible to ignore. Just as steam eventually demands release, so does unchecked resentment. The bitter feelings can quietly seep into our lives, transforming our interactions for the worse.

10 Causes of Resentful Feelings

Understanding the roots of resentment and how to address them effectively can lead to a life of inner peace. If you know deep down that you need to release resentment but don’t know how… then keep reading. Each section provides a wealth of actionable tips to help you heal and let go of resentful emotions.

1 – Unfulfilled Expectations Cause Resentful Feelings

Often, we harbor resentment when our expectations aren’t met. Whether it’s a partner not living up to what we thought a relationship would be or a job not providing the satisfaction we hoped for, these unmet expectations can breed bitter relationships.

How to Fix It:

To tackle unfulfilled expectations, it’s important first to acknowledge that life is often unpredictable and that our vision of how things ‘should’ be might not always align with reality. Start by reflecting on your expectations: Are they realistic? Are they based on your true desires or influenced by societal norms or the expectations of others?

Once you’ve reassessed your expectations, work on openly communicating them to others involved, whether it’s your partner, family, or colleagues. Remember, effective communication is key. It’s not just about stating what you want but also listening to their perspectives and finding common ground. For example, in a relationship, discuss what you both envision for your future together and how you can work towards these goals as a team.

Finally, practice flexibility. Life’s beauty often lies in its unpredictability. Embracing change and adapting your expectations can lead to new and fulfilling experiences you might not have initially considered.

2 – Feeling Unheard or Misunderstood

When we feel that our voice isn’t heard or our feelings aren’t understood, resentful feelings can grow. This bitter feeling is common in relationships where one feels overshadowed or disregarded.

How to Fix:

To overcome being unheard or misunderstood, cultivate active listening skills in your conversations. Active listening involves fully concentrating on the speaker, understanding their message, responding thoughtfully, and remembering the discussion. That helps you understand others better and models how you wish to be listened to.

When expressing your feelings, use ‘I’ statements to articulate your thoughts and emotions clearly and calmly. For instance, say, “I feel upset when my ideas are not considered in meetings,” instead of “You never listen to my ideas.” This approach is less accusatory and more likely to foster understanding.

Seek opportunities for open dialogue in calm, neutral settings where both parties can speak and listen without distractions. Regularly scheduled check-ins, like weekly family meetings or one-on-ones with your boss, can provide a structured opportunity for open communication.

3 – Unresolved Past Hurts Lead to Resentful Feelings

Old wounds can fester into resentment if they’re not properly dealt with. Past traumas or hurts, if left unresolved, can taint our present relationships and experiences.

How to Fix:

Addressing unresolved past hurts begins with acknowledging the pain and accepting that it has impacted your life. That is often the hardest step, as it requires confronting often painful memories or experiences.

Seeking professional help through therapy can be an invaluable step. A therapist can provide a safe space to explore these hurts, offer guidance, and help develop coping strategies. They can help you examine past traumas and how they shape your current behaviors and feelings.

If appropriate, and only if it feels safe, consider conversing with the person involved in the past hurt. It doesn’t mean you must reconcile or forgive them; it’s about expressing your feelings and seeking closure. If direct communication isn’t possible or healthy, finding closure can also be achieved through personal reflection, journaling, or symbolic acts like writing a letter you don’t send.

Lastly, practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the hurt caused; it means allowing yourself to move forward without resentment. Healing from the inside is a journey, not a destination. It is healthy to take it one step at a time.

4 – Comparison and Jealousy Cause Some to Feel Bitter

Comparing ourselves to others causes feelings of inadequacy and resentment. Jealousy, a close cousin of comparison, can also cause bitter reactions toward others who seem to have what we desire.

How to Fix:

Addressing comparison and jealousy starts with acknowledging that everyone’s life journey is unique. Begin by focusing on your path and accomplishments. Set personal goals and celebrate your milestones, no matter how small they may seem. Remember, success is not a one-size-fits-all concept.

Try a few activities that boost your self-esteem. That could be learning a new skill, hobbies, or volunteer work. These activities can shift your focus from what others have to what you can achieve and contribute.

Practicing gratitude is also a powerful tool. Take time each day to acknowledge and appreciate the good in your life. It can be as simple as writing down three things you are grateful for every morning. Gratitude shifts focus from what we lack to what we have, fostering a sense of contentment.

Finally, limit exposure to comparison triggers, such as certain social media platforms, if they make you feel inadequate. Instead, surround yourself with supportive people who celebrate your successes and encourage you in times of failure.

5 – Lack of Personal Boundaries

When others constantly cross our boundaries, it can lead to a buildup of resentful emotions. This scenario is often seen in relationships where one feels taken advantage of or disrespected.

How to Fix:

To establish and maintain personal boundaries, you must first identify your limits. What are you comfortable with? What drains your energy or makes you feel disrespected? It’s important to be clear about your needs and limits in various aspects of life, be it time, energy, emotions, or physical space.

Once you’ve identified your boundaries, communicate them clearly to others. It doesn’t have to be confrontational; it can be as simple as saying, “I need some time to myself this evening,” or “I’m not comfortable discussing that topic.” Remember, setting boundaries is not selfish; it’s a form of self-respect and self-care.

It’s equally important to enforce your boundaries. If someone crosses a line, remind them of your limits. Consistency is key. People may test your boundaries, but staying firm will communicate that you are serious about your needs.

Finally, don’t forget to respect others’ boundaries too. This mutual respect creates healthier, more balanced relationships.

6 – Injustice or Unfairness Causes Resentful Feelings

When we perceive an imbalance in treatment, whether in the workplace, family, or social circles, it can foster resentment.

How to Fix:

Dealing with feelings of injustice or unfairness requires a proactive approach. First, try to assess the situation objectively. Are there factors you might be overlooking? Understanding all sides of a situation can clarify and reveal that what seemed unfair was a misunderstanding or a different perspective.

If you still believe there is an imbalance, address the issue directly but constructively. In a workplace scenario, this might mean setting up a meeting with your supervisor to discuss your concerns. Present your points calmly and factually, avoiding accusatory language.

Seek solutions or compromises. Sometimes, perceived unfairness can be resolved by finding a middle ground that acknowledges everyone’s needs and concerns.

Last, seek support from trusted friends, family, or mentors. They can offer different perspectives and give good advice. They are also your best emotional support system. It’s important to advocate for yourself, but it’s equally vital to do so in a way that is respectful and open to dialogue.

7 – Unacknowledged Efforts Cause Bitter Feelings

Feeling unappreciated for the hard work and effort you put into something can make you feel bitter.

How to Fix:

To overcome the resentful feelings of being unappreciated:

Start by cultivating a sense of self-validation.
Acknowledge your efforts and achievements, regardless of external recognition.
Set personal benchmarks and celebrate when you achieve them.

That can be as simple as treating yourself to something special or reflecting on your accomplishments.

Journaling your achievements is a practical way to track your progress and remind yourself of your hard work. Write down even the small victories; you’ll have a tangible record of your efforts over time.

Consider a proactive approach if you’re seeking acknowledgment in a professional environment. Schedule time with your manager to discuss your contributions. This isn’t about bragging. Rather, it means an open dialogue regarding your role and the recognition you deserve.

Finally, surround yourself with supportive people who acknowledge and appreciate you. Positive reinforcement from friends, family, or colleagues can boost your morale and help balance the lack of recognition elsewhere.

8 – Overburdened by Responsibilities

Feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities, especially if they seem unfairly distributed, can lead to resentment.

How to Fix:

Learning the art of delegation is crucial if you’re feeling overwhelmed by responsibilities. Identify tasks that can be shared or assigned to others. It might mean discussing workload distribution with your team or manager in a work setting. In a personal context, it could involve dividing household chores among family members.

Asking for help is a sign of strength. It’s not a weakness. It shows that you know your limits and proactively manage your responsibilities. When you delegate, be clear about what you need and express appreciation for the assistance.

Learning to say “no” is also a valuable skill. You don’t have to take on every request or task that comes your way. Prioritize what’s important and what aligns with your capabilities and time.

Finally, create a balanced schedule that includes time for work, rest, and play. Time management tools may help you keep track of your responsibilities and ensure you’re not overcommitting.

9 – Lack of Self-Care

Neglecting personal care and well-being can indirectly cause to to feel resentful. Bitter feelings will especially surface if we constantly prioritize others over ourselves.

How to Fix:

Making self-care a priority is essential for your overall well-being. Start by setting aside regular time for activities that nourish you. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally. This activity could include exercise, meditation, reading, or a hobby.

It’s important to recognize that self-care is not at all selfish. Taking care of yourself enables you to be more present and effective in your relationships and responsibilities. Communicate your self-care needs to those around you; they will likely understand and support you.

Evaluate your routine and see where you can make changes to incorporate self-care. That might mean adjusting your schedule, setting boundaries, or even learning to delegate tasks to make time for yourself.

Lastly, be mindful of your physical health. Regular check-ups, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep are foundational aspects of self-care that can significantly impact your overall mood and energy levels.

10 – Holding onto Grudges

Holding onto past grievances can turn into deep-seated resentment over time. They will only continue to decrease your mental health.

How to Fix:

Letting go of grudges is a crucial step in releasing resentment. Start by acknowledging the hurt and anger you feel. Suppressing these emotions can prolong the process of letting go.

Forgiveness is key. Forgiving doesn’t mean you are condoning what happened; you are choosing to release its hold on you. Forgiveness is more about your peace of mind than the other person’s actions.

If you find forgiving difficult, consider speaking to a counselor or therapist. They can provide tools and strategies to work through your bitter feelings.

Writing can be therapeutic in this process. Write a letter to the person you’re holding a grudge against, expressing all your feelings. You don’t need to send it; writing can be a powerful way to release those pent-up emotions.

Last tip. Focus on the present and the future rather than dwelling on the past. Engaging in activities you enjoy, setting new goals, and building new, positive relationships can help shift your focus and energy away from past grievances.

Final Thoughts on the Causes of Resentful Emotion- and How to Manage it

Resentment can be a complex emotion, but it’s not insurmountable. By understanding its roots and actively working towards solutions, we can release its hold on us. Remember, overcoming resentful emotions begins with self-awareness. But releasing those bitter feelings also demands the willingness to make positive changes in your life and relationships.

10 Benefits of Being an Only Child

January 28, 2024 by Power of Positivity

Here’s why only kids are often viewed as highly successful.

Growing up as an only child often conjures images of loneliness or spoilt behavior, but the reality is far more nuanced and positive. Being an only child can be a profoundly enriching experience, shaping individuals in unique and advantageous ways. This article aims to shed light on the often-overlooked benefits of this singular upbringing, revealing how it can positively influence a kid’s personality, relationships, and overall well-being.

Imagine a world where all the attention, resources, and educational opportunities are directed at you. That is the everyday reality for only children, which offers many benefits. From receiving undivided parental attention to developing strong self-esteem and independence, the life of an only child is ripe with opportunities for personal growth and development.

In the following sections, we will dig further into ten specific advantages that being an only child can bring. These benefits contribute to a well-rounded and fulfilling childhood. They may also lay the foundation for a successful and content adult life. Whether you are an only child, a parent considering family size, or simply curious about different family dynamics, this exploration offers perspectives on how being the sole focus of a family can shape one’s life. Often, it results in remarkable advantages.

10 Benefits Enjoyed by an Only Child

1 – An Only Child Has Enhanced Parental Attention and Resources

The unique position of being an only child often translates into receiving undivided attention and resources from parents. In a household without siblings, parental energy, time, and financial resources focus solely on one child. This concentrated attention can lead to a deeper understanding and stronger bond between parent and child.

Parents have more time to attend to the child’s individual needs. That extra time can mean parents focus more on academics, hobbies, or emotional support. This parental focus can create a nurturing environment where the child feels valued and heard. Thus, it lays a foundation for strong self-worth and confidence.

Additionally, with more resources at their disposal, parents of an only child can often afford better educational opportunities, extracurricular activities, and personal development experiences, further enriching the child’s upbringing.

2 – Opportunities for Maturity and Independence

Only children often find themselves uniquely positioned to be the sole focus of their parents’ attention and expectations. This situation frequently leads to them being given responsibilities typically reserved for older children in larger families. Managing household chores, participating in family decision-making, or even handling certain aspects of their life, like scheduling activities, fosters a sense of responsibility and independence from a young age.

This early development of maturity is not just about doing tasks. Rather, it’s about thinking critically and making informed decisions. They also must trust their judgment, as they don’t have siblings to collaborate with. These experiences are invaluable as they transition into adulthood, where self-reliance and navigating complex situations become essential life skills.

3 – An Only Child May Have Stronger Self-Esteem and Confidence

The focused attention and encouragement an only child receives from their parents can significantly impact their self-esteem and confidence. In a family with no siblings to compete with for attention or achievements, only children often feel a stronger sense of individual accomplishment and recognition. This focus can lead to a robust sense of self, where they feel confident in their abilities and comfortable in their skin.

Parents of an only child typically have more time and energy to affirm their kid’s efforts and achievements, whether in academics, sports, or creative pursuits. This consistent support and validation from parents help only children develop a positive self-image and the confidence to express themselves and their ideas. This self-assuredness is beneficial in childhood and a critical component of success and happiness in adult life.

4 – An Only Child Often Gains Academic Attention

Research suggests that only children often excel academically. But that doesn’t mean they are necessarily of higher intelligence than children from multi-child homes.

Parents’ undivided financial and emotional support means they can access better educational resources and receive more support in their academic endeavors. This extra attention often leads to higher performance in school and greater educational achievements.

5 – Creative Play and Imagination

The realm of creative play and imagination often becomes a significant part of an only child’s life. Without siblings, these children typically turn to their inner world for entertainment and companionship. This solitary playtime is not just a way to pass the time; it’s a fertile ground for nurturing creativity and innovative thinking.

An only child, left to their own devices, learns to invent games, tell stories, and explore ideas independently. This kind of imaginative play is crucial for cognitive development. It enhances problem-solving skills, fosters artistic expression, and encourages independent thought.

Moreover, engaging in creative activities like drawing, writing, or building models can lead to the development of unique talents and interests. This creative prowess, developed in the quiet moments of play, can become a valuable asset. It greatly benefits them in adulthood in academic and professional arenas, where innovative and original thinking is highly prized.

6 – Stronger Relationships with Adults

Only children often find themselves in environments where adults are their primary companions. This unique aspect of their upbringing can lead to the development of advanced communication skills and a comfort level with adults that their kids from large families experience.

Regular interactions with parents, family friends, and other adults help these kids learn how to engage in mature conversations. They also learn to understand complex ideas and navigate various social settings. This exposure to adult communication styles and topics can also accelerate their linguistic and emotional development.

As a result, only children may find it easier to relate to teachers, authority figures, and, later on, professional colleagues. This ease in connecting with adults can be a significant advantage in personal development and career advancement, where effective communication and networking are key to success.

7 – An Only Child Experiences Less Family Conflict

In families with multiple children, sibling rivalry and conflicts are common occurrences. However, as an only child, one is less likely to experience familial tensions. The absence of sibling competition for parental attention, resources, or space means the family environment is often more peaceful and harmonious. This tranquility allows the child to grow up in a stable and calm atmosphere, where emotional energy can be focused on positive interactions and personal growth.

The lack of sibling conflict also means parents can devote more time to constructive activities. These can include nurturing the child’s talents or addressing their emotional needs without the distraction of mediating sibling disputes. This peaceful home life can contribute significantly to a child’s overall sense of security and well-being, providing a solid foundation for healthy emotional and psychological development.

8 – Financial Benefits

The financial aspect of raising an only child presents a different landscape compared to larger families. With just one child to focus on, parents may find themselves under less financial strain. This little bit of extra breathing room can lead to a more comfortable allocation of resources, directly benefiting the child.

For instance, parents can afford higher-quality education, whether private schooling or specialized tutoring. Additionally, extracurricular activities, which can be costly, become more accessible. That could include anything from music lessons to sports teams. These kids often have opportunities to explore and develop their talents and interests. Furthermore, families with an only child often have more flexibility in their budget for travel and cultural experiences. Thus, they enrich the child’s upbringing and broadening their worldview. This financial breathing room can also extend into long-term benefits, such as supporting higher education without the burden of significant debt.

9 – Developing Strong Friendships

In households with one kid, the quest for companionship often leads them outside the family unit, paving the way for deep and meaningful friendships. Without siblings, these children learn early to connect with peers and build relationships. These friendships are not just playmates; they become significant emotional anchors for the child. Only children gain exposure to diverse perspectives and experiences through these relationships, enhancing their social skills and emotional intelligence. These friends can provide a sense of belonging and a safe emotional expression and support space. That’s crucial for healthy psychological development. Moreover, the skills gained in forming and maintaining these friendships, such as empathy, communication, and compromise, are lifelong skills that will serve them into adulthood.

10 – An Only Child Learns Self-Entertainment

One of the unique skills that these kids often develop is the ability to entertain themselves. Finding joy and engagement in one’s company is a significant advantage in a world where constant stimulation is the norm. This skill fosters a sense of independence and self-sufficiency. Only children, comfortable with solitude, often explore and develop hobbies and interests that can become lifelong passions. Whether it’s reading, writing, art, or any other solitary activity, these pursuits provide enjoyment and contribute to the child’s personal growth and creativity. This ability to self-entertain also encourages introspection and self-reflection, leading to a deeper understanding of themselves. In the long run, this skill is invaluable, as it equips the child to handle alone time productively and without reliance on constant external stimulation.

Final Thoughts on the Advantages Received by an Only Child

Being an only child has unique advantages that can positively impact one’s life. From enhanced parental attention to financial benefits and the development of strong personal skills, the experience of growing up without siblings is enriching and empowering. Of course, every family dynamic has its own merits. Still, the journey of an only child offers a distinctive path to personal growth and success.

6 Signs Your Partner Is Penny Dating You

January 27, 2024 by Deborah Tayloe

Here’s what you need to know about the manipulative penny dating tactic.

Penny dating is a modern relationship trend gaining attention for all the wrong reasons. It’s a subtle form of manipulation where one partner gradually reduces their effort and investment in the relationship. This trend, named for the minimal ‘penny’ effort it involves, can harm the partner’s emotional well-being and self-esteem.

Recognizing the signs of penny dating is crucial for maintaining a healthy, respectful relationship.

The Five Stages of Penny Dating

Penny dating is a manipulative trend in relationships that unfolds in distinct stages. Each phase represents a shift in the level of effort and investment by one partner, often leaving the other feeling confused and undervalued. Let’s explore these stages to understand how penny dating progresses.

Initial wooing stage

This stage is all about maximum effort. Your partner pulls out all the stops to win your affection. It’s a time of love bombing – grand romantic gestures, constant communication, and an overwhelming show of interest. Think of it as a dazzling fireworks display – bright, intense, and captivating. This stage sets a high bar for the relationship, making you feel incredibly special and valued.

Reduced investment in the relationship

There’s a subtle shift once your partner feels secure in your interest. The intensity of the initial stage gives way to a slightly reduced level of effort. This change can be hard to notice initially, as it’s often gradual.

The long, engaging conversations may become shorter. Those once-elaborate dates may also grow less frequent. It’s like a slow fade in a song, where the volume decreases so gradually you hardly notice it until it’s significantly quieter.

Bumping up the investment again

If your partner senses your interest waning due to their reduced efforts, they might temporarily ramp things up again. However, this increase in investment doesn’t quite reach the pinnacle of the initial wooing stage.

It’s a manipulation – a calculated move to re-engage your interest without returning to the full effort. Imagine a dance where the tempo picks up momentarily, rekindling your energy. Still, it doesn’t return to the full, vibrant rhythm of the beginning.

Gradual reduction stage

A fluctuating pattern of investment characterizes this stage. Your partner’s efforts in the relationship rise and fall, but the overall trend is a decrease in effort and engagement.

It’s a confusing time as you experience a mix of hopeful highs and disappointing lows. It’s akin to walking through a hilly landscape, where each hill is slightly lower than the last. It gradually leads you downhill.

Penny dating maintenance phase

Eventually, the relationship reaches a point where your partner’s investment is minimal – just enough to keep the relationship going but far from the level of the initial stage. This phase brings sporadic attention and effort. It’s similar to giving just a few drops of water to a plant that needs much more to thrive.

It’s a maintenance mode, where the bare minimum is done to prevent the relationship from ending, but not enough to make it fulfilling or enriching.

Understanding these stages of penny dating is crucial for recognizing relationship manipulation patterns. If you find yourself in a relationship that mirrors these stages, it may be time to reassess your needs. Consider whether your partner truly values and respects you.

Remember that you deserve to be more than an afterthought. You deserve a healthy relationship. You also deserve to feel consistently valued and respected.

6 Signs Your Partner is Penny Dating You

Now that you understand the cycle – here’s what to look for in your relationship:

1 – You have an initial onslaught of affection

At the start of a relationship, it’s normal to feel showered with affection and attention. However, in penny dating, this initial phase is often exaggerated. Your partner might lovebomb you.

They overwhelm you with gifts, compliments, and grand gestures. This stage sets high expectations for the relationship but is not sustainable.

2 – A noticeable pullback of affection

You might notice how your partner, who was once very attentive, starts pulling back. They become less available. Also, they may text you less often. You observe a decrease in the previous thoughtful gestures decrease.

This change is often gradual, making it hard to pinpoint when things started to change.

3 – A penny dating partner is inconsistent

One of the hallmarks of penny dating is inconsistency. Your partner’s efforts will ebb and flow in an unpredictable pattern. They might ignore you for days and then reappear with a small gesture or token of affection. This inconsistency keeps you guessing and can be emotionally exhausting.

4 – The relationship feels like it’s slipping away

The amount of effort and energy your partner puts into your relationship continues to decrease. They might do enough to keep the relationship going, but nothing more. This minimal investment can leave you feeling undervalued and unimportant.

5 – You feel small and overlooked

In any healthy relationship, both partners’ needs are considered and respected. In penny dating, your needs and desires often take a backseat. Your partner may become more self-centered, making decisions that benefit them without considering how it affects you.

6 – Your self-esteem is in decline

Penny dating can take a toll on your self-esteem. The constant uncertainty and minimal effort from your partner can make you question your worth and desirability. It’s important to remember that this behavior reflects more on your partner’s inability to maintain a healthy relationship than on your value.

Seven Self-Care Tips for Victims of Penny Dating

If you find yourself a victim of penny dating, it’s essential to prioritize your emotional and mental well-being. This manipulative dating trend can leave you feeling undervalued and questioning your self-worth. Here are seven helpful self-care tips to help you reclaim your sense of self through this challenging time.

1 – Reconnect with your inner self

The fluctuating nature of penny dating can cause you to lose touch with your needs and feelings. Take time to reconnect with yourself. Engage in activities that you love and make you feel good about yourself. Try reading, painting, hiking, or practicing yoga. Whatever you choose, focus on things that bring you joy and peace.

2 – Strengthen your support system

During times of emotional turmoil, a strong support system is invaluable. Reach out to friends and family who understand and support you. Sharing your experiences with trusted loved ones can provide comfort and perspective. It’s like having a giant safety net that catches you when you fall, reminding you that you’re not alone in this journey.

3 – Reflect on your thoughts in a journal

Putting your innermost thoughts and feelings to paper can be a therapeutic way to work through your experiences. Journaling provides a private space to reflect on the relationship and understand your emotions better. It’s like conversing with yourself, where you can be honest and unfiltered. This practice can lead to valuable insights and a clearer understanding of what you truly want and deserve in a relationship.

4 – Set boundaries in future relationships

Learning to set and stick to healthy boundaries is crucial in the aftermath of penny dating. Reflect on what you are and aren’t willing to accept in a relationship. Setting boundaries shows future relationship partners that you respect yourself and your needs.

5 – Seek professional help, if needed

Sometimes, the impact of penny dating can be deep. In fact, it may harm your self-esteem and view of relationships. In these cases, seeking the help of a mental health professional may benefit you. Therapists can provide guidance, coping strategies, and support as you work through your feelings. It’s like getting a map and a compass when you’re lost; it helps you find your way back to emotional health.

6 – Practice self-compassion

Be kind to yourself. Understand that being a penny dating victim does not reflect your worth. Practice self-compassion. Speak to yourself with kindness and caring, just like you would show support to a dear friend. Remember, healing takes time, and being gentle with yourself during this process is okay.

7 – Write and speak positive affirmations

Positive affirmations can help rebuild the self-esteem that penny dating may have eroded. Start your day by affirming your worth, strengths, and values. These affirmations act like sunlight on a cloudy day, gradually brightening your self-image and empowering you to rise above negative experiences.

Final Thoughts on Identifying the Signs of Penny Dating

With its gradual reduction of effort and investment, Penny dating can be a subtle but still an incredibly damaging experience. Recognizing the signs is the first brave step toward addressing this issue and protecting your emotional well-being.

Finally, it is important to remember that healthy relationships are built on consistent effort, mutual respect, and open communication. If you find yourself in a situation where you’re experiencing the stages of penny dating, it’s crucial to take a step back and evaluate the health of the relationship.

Doctors Explain What Nausea After Eating Reveals About Your Health

January 26, 2024 by Power of Positivity

Learn why you might have an upset stomach or nausea after you eat.

Medical professionals provide insights into the possible causes and underlying health conditions of nausea after eating. An upset stomach can happen for many reasons, and understanding them can help you determine how to fix it.

Nausea after eating can be uncomfortable and frustrating. It might make you want to avoid eating outside your home and be leary about attending social events. It could indicate allergies or other underlying health concerns if it happens frequently.

Understanding the causes of your stomachache and nausea after eating can help you make a change. You can address health problems or avoid allergy triggers if you know the problem. This information will help you understand the situation and feel better after eating.

Understanding Nausea After Eating

Nausea after eating, or postprandial nausea, can impact your daily life by making you feel queasy or like you need to vomit. It typically occurs shortly after meals and can be triggered for various reasons. This situation can cause discomfort, embarrassment, or health conditions.

Sometimes digestive discomfort happens if you eat too fast or don’t chew your food enough. Other causes can include underlying health conditions and lifestyle factors. Determining your nausea triggers can help you avoid things that make you feel lousy.

Other symptoms that often accompany nausea after eating involve the following:

bloating or gas
heartburn
issues with bowel movements
weakness or fatigue
discomfort or pain
lack of appetite

Nutritional Causes and Dietary Triggers

Sometimes you’ll experience nausea because of nutritional reasons and dietary triggers. It might be as simple as overeating, causing a stomachache from uncomfortable pressure on your stomach.

Other times, this happens because of food intolerance or allergy. It also signifies other complications resulting from your diet.

Eating spoiled or contaminated food can cause food poisoning and lead to diarrhea, vomiting, nausea, fever, or stomach cramps. It happens when you consume something containing viruses or bacteria.

Additionally, an unbalanced diet can make you have a stomach ache, especially if you consume excessive amounts of fatty or greasy foods. These foods slow your digestive system, often leading to discomfort and nausea.

Another nutritional cause of nausea after eating is too low fiber intake. Without enough fiber, you might experience constipation, allowing toxins to accumulate and get into your bloodstream. It can make you feel sick as it causes inflammation and other issues.

Gastrointestinal Conditions

Experiencing nausea after eating could indicate gastrointestinal problems because it can happen when a digestive organ isn’t working correctly.

Some of the gastrointestinal conditions that can cause nausea include:

Postprandial antral hypomotility: your stomach muscles don’t contract like they should after eating
Gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD): involves malfunctioning between the ring of muscle between your stomach and esophagus and is also known as acid reflux
Visceral hypersensitivity: hypersensitive nerves in your gut
Gastritis: inflammation of the stomach lining
Gastroenteritis: stomach flu from a bacterial or viral infection
Chronic mesenteric ischemia: narrowing arteries in the intestines
Peptic ulcer: damaged stomach lining or duodenum, usually as the result of an infection
Functional dyspepsia (FD): a condition that involves upper abdominal pain and discomfort

Gallbladder and Liver Disorders

Nausea after eating could be a sign of gallbladder and liver disorders, including disease and infection. You could have gallstones obstructing bile flow or inflammation of the gallbladder (cholecystitis). Another issue that might cause nausea is liver dysfunction or impaired bile production.

Symptoms of cholecystitis typically occur after eating a high-fat meal or overeating. You might notice pain in your back, belly, or under your left shoulder.

Liver disease can occur when bile doesn’t flow properly to the small intestine. It causes it to build up in your blood and interferes with digestion. The bile backup also causes toxins to accumulate and make you sick or uncomfortable.

Chronic gallbladder disease is another issue that can result in nausea after eating. It might also result in frequent diarrhea and other digestive problems after meals.

If you experience pain in the middle of the abdomen or upper right side, there’s a good chance it’s a gallbladder issue. The pain might be cramping, sharp, or dull and can spread to your back.

Pancreatic Issues

Pancreatic issues can cause discomfort and nausea after eating. Acute pancreatitis is one problem that can occur, and it happens when your pancreas suddenly becomes inflamed. It can happen if you:

have gallstones
consume alcohol
take certain medications
have an infection or injury
have a genetic predisposition

Chronic pancreatitis can cause nausea, and you might also notice pain, vomiting, fever, or unexplained weight loss. This condition is long-term inflammation of the pancreas and occurs when digestive enzymes activate in the pancreas for an extended time.

Another pancreatic issue that can cause nausea is insulinoma, a rare tumor. This tumor occurs in the pancreas and produces an overabundance of insulin. It causes low blood sugar and can make you feel nauseous, weak, or confused.

Pancreatic enzyme deficiency is another condition that can cause nausea. It occurs when you don’t have enough digestive enzymes to break down food properly.

Food Allergies and Sensitivities

Food allergies and sensitivities can manifest as nausea after eating. If you experience nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, or stomach cramps every time you eat a specific food, it’s likely an allergy or intolerance. The reaction typically occurs within seconds or minutes but could come later.

During an allergic reaction, your immune system overreacts to something you consume. It identifies it as a danger and triggers a protective response that causes the symptoms of an allergic reaction. Food allergies can be life-threatening and can cause you to experience swelling in your face or lips and trouble breathing or swallowing.

Common food allergens will show up in an allergy test, and the ones most commonly responsible for triggering immune response include:

milk
eggs
nuts and peanuts
shellfish
wheat

Food intolerances have similar symptoms to an allergy, including nausea and discomfort, but aren’t life-threatening. You might also experience digestive problems and headaches after eating specific ingredients. Common intolerances include:

lactose
gluten
egg

Celiac disease is an autoimmune disorder that occurs when someone has a severe gluten intolerance. If you have it, your body will react to gluten which can cause you to experience pain, diarrhea, nausea, and bloating.

Gluten is in barley, rye, and wheat, and you’ll want to avoid them if you have celiac disease. Otherwise, it can cause severe pain, discomfort, and other issues.

You may also want to look into histamine intolerance affecting digestion. Your body naturally produces histamine, and it’s in some foods.

If your body struggles to break histamine down, it can cause nausea after eating, headaches, and other digestive problems. Some of the foods you should avoid if you have a histamine intolerance include:

alcohol and fermented drinks
fermented foods
spinach
avocados
eggplant
dried fruits
processed meats
smoked meats
aged cheese
shellfish

Psychological and Emotional Factors

Postprandial nausea can occur for psychological and emotional factors. It could indicate anxiety, depression, excitement, or excess stress. In other cases, it could signify eating disorders.

Anxiety occurs as a stress response, and it can cause nausea after eating, along with many other symptoms. You might experience a stomachache, but sometimes it can worsen, and you’ll vomit. It happens because stress hormones cause gastrointestinal contractions, causing the system to speed up or slow down.

Stress can cause nausea because it causes a hormonal increase as your body naturally prepares for fight or flight. Survival mode kicks in whenever the body sees a perceived threat. It can affect all body areas, including the digestive system. When it happens, you’ll likely experience stomach discomfort and nausea.

While excitement is a good feeling, it can give you a stomachache after eating. Too much anticipation can lead to nausea or vomiting.

If an eating disorder becomes a compulsion, it’s likely to make you feel nauseous after eating. It often happens with bulimia nervosa. Nausea also occurs with this disorder because of lacking nutrients in your body.

Seeking Medical Evaluation if You Often Experience Nausea After Eating

If you experience nausea after eating, you should seek medical evaluation. A medical consultation can help you determine the underlying issues and plan your next steps.

A healthcare professional can offer a proper diagnosis as you’ll undergo relevant diagnostic tests or receive a specialist referral. Your referral might be to a gastroenterologist, allergist, or other specialist. The results can help determine your next steps and help you live healthier and happier.

Knowing the underlying cause allows you to avoid triggers and make lifestyle adjustments. It eliminates the guessing game that comes with figuring it out without professional help.

Final Thoughts on Medical Insights on Nausea After Eating

Feeling sick after eating can occur for many reasons, including food intolerance and other underlying health conditions. The symptoms and underlying causes of postprandial nausea can impact your life and make you uncomfortable.

The correlation between nausea after eating and health implications makes it essential to get a medical evaluation for proper diagnosis and treatment. Visiting a medical professional before making changes ensures you receive a correct diagnosis to help with treatment.

Once you know the issue, address persistent or concerning symptoms to improve your health and well-being. It can make a difference and help you live a better life without worrying about getting a stomach ache or experiencing discomfort.

15 Ways to Break Your Bad Mood (in Under 10 Minutes)

January 25, 2024 by Kristen Butler

Here’s how to shake away the funk when things don’t go your way.

Have you ever found yourself in a bad mood that just won’t go away? We all have those days where everything seems to go wrong, and our mood takes a hit. But what if I told you there are simple, quick ways to turn that sad frown upside down? You don’t need to stay in the funk of your own moodiness.

This article will look at fifteen easy strategies to break a bad mood in under ten minutes. These tips are not only effective but also backed by science and psychology.

Understanding Your Mood

Before we dive into the solutions, let’s take a moment to understand more about the nature of a bad mood. A bad mood, characterized by feelings of being upset, irritable, or simply unhappy, is a universal human experience. It’s an emotional state triggered by stress, fatigue, external events, or seemingly without reason. However, it’s important to remember that experiencing a bad mood is a typical and natural part of life.

It’s also worth noting that some people experience more lows than others. Dr. Carlos Zarate, chief of the National Institute of Health (NIH) mood disorders group, writes:

“Some people are more moody than other people. Normal mood actually varies from person to person.” – Dr. Carlos Zarate, NIH.

Well, that seems a pretty straightforward explanation of moodiness in some people.

Regardless of the cause of feeling blue, the key to bouncing back does not lie in what happens to us. Rather, what matters is how we manage and respond to these feelings. Allowing a bad mood to persist can impact our day-to-day life, relationships, and overall well-being. It can cloud our judgment, affect our interactions with others, and dampen our productivity and creativity. This is why recognizing that you’re in a bad mood is a critical first step. It’s about developing an awareness of your emotional state, which empowers you to take proactive steps toward altering it.

Understanding that a bad mood is often transient can also be comforting. It’s not a permanent reflection of your life or circumstances but a temporary emotional response. Acknowledging this allows you to work through the mood without judging yourself harshly. With the right strategies, you can navigate these feelings effectively, leading to a quicker and healthier resolution of your temporary emotional downturn.

15 Ways to Beat a Bad Mood in 10 Minutes or Less

It’s also important that we note that the rest of this article is about typical moodiness, not diagnosed mood disorders. If you are under a doctor’s care for a mental health diagnosis, follow all care instructions. Still, these can’t hurt to try…

Quick Physical Activities to Break a Bad Mood

Physical activity is a powerful mood booster. It engages your body and mind, shifting focus and releasing endorphins, natural mood lifters. In this section, we’ll look at two quick and easy physical activities that can help dispel a bad mood in no time.

1 – Get Walking

Physical activity is one of the quickest ways to lift your mood. Just a few minutes of walking can release endorphins, the body’s natural mood lifters. The weather outside’s poor? Try doing some quick stretches, walking around the block, or even a few jumping jacks.

2 – Breathe Deeply

Deep breathing is a powerful tool. It helps calm your mind and relax your body. Try the 4-7-8 breathing method. Here’s how it goes. Breathe deeply for four seconds, hold for seven seconds, and then let it go…exhale for eight seconds. Repeat this a few times, and you’ll likely feel a difference.

3 – Have a Dance Off

Dancing is not just fun, but it’s also a great way to improve your mood. Put on a love song and let yourself move to the music. Dancing can be a liberating experience, helping to release tension and express emotions non-verbally.

Engage Your Senses To Release Moodiness

Our senses are directly connected to our emotions. By positively engaging our senses, we can immediately impact our mood. Here, we’ll explore two sensory experiences that can quickly transform your mood from sour to sweet.

4 – Listen to Uplifting Music

Music has a profound effect on our emotions. Put on your favorite good mood song, and let the happy beat and lyrics lift your spirits. It’s a simple yet effective way to change your mood quickly.

5 – Savor a Healthy Snack

Some studies suggest that a low mood may come from low blood sugar. Other studies dispute this claim. Still, this tip is worth at least trying! Grab a healthy snack. Think about grabbing a piece of fruit or a handful of nuts. Eating something nutritious can give you a quick energy boost and improve your mood.

6 – Touch Something That Comforts You

The sense of touch can be incredibly soothing. Hold onto something that feels good in your hands, like a soft blanket, a stress ball, or even petting an animal. The physical sensation can be grounding and comforting, providing a calming effect on your mood.

Mental Strategies to Get into a Better Mood

The power of the mind in influencing our mood cannot be overstated. Adopting certain mental strategies allows you to shift your mindset and break free from a bad mood. We’ll discuss two simple yet effective mental techniques that you can use to lift your spirits.

7 – Positive Affirmations

Reciting positive affirmations in a mirror can be a potent tool in shifting your mindset. Choose a few uplifting statements that speak to you and repeat them. This practice can help rewire negative thought patterns and instill a sense of positivity and self-compassion.

8 – Practice Gratitude

Take a moment to think about something you’re grateful for. It could be as simple as a sunny day or a good cup of coffee – commit it to your brain by noting it in your journal. Focusing on the positive things in your life can shift your perspective. Thus, it can lift the fog of moodiness and bring sunshine back to your day

9 – Visualize Happiness

Close your eyes and visualize a place or moment that makes you happy. This mental escape can provide a brief respite from your current mood and help shift your mindset to a more positive one.

Social Interaction Can Break a Bad Mood

Human connection plays a key role in one’s overall well-being and mood. Engaging in social interaction, even briefly, can significantly improve your mood. This section will cover two ways to connect with others to help lighten your mood.

10 – Engage in Small Acts of Kindness

Performing a small act of kindness can brighten someone else’s day and interrupt your moodiness. It could be something as simple as paying a compliment, holding the door for someone, or sending a thoughtful message. These actions create positive interactions and will give you a sense of connection.

11 – Reach Out to a Friend

Sometimes, talking to someone makes a big difference. Text or call a friend and share what’s on your mind. A few minutes of social interaction can be incredibly uplifting.

12 – Smile and Laugh

It might sound simple, but smiling and laughing can trick your brain into feeling happier. Watch a funny video or think of a hilarious memory. Laughter is the best medicine.

Environmental Changes Can Get You in a Good Mood

Your surroundings can have an enormous impact on your mood. Small changes to your surroundings can create a ripple effect, influencing your emotional state. Here, we’ll talk about two environmental adjustments you can make to help break a bad mood.

13 – Change Your Surroundings

Step outside for a few minutes if you’re indoors when the moodiness strikes. A change of environment can refresh your mind and improve your mood. If you can’t go outside, rearrange your workspace or tidy up – a clearer space often means a clear mind.

14 – Use Aromatherapy

Scents can have a mighty effect on our mood. Light a scented candle or use some uplifting essential oils. Scents like lavender, citrus, or peppermint can be especially uplifting for a bad mood.

15 – Try Different Lighting

The lighting in your environment can significantly affect your mood. Let in natural light by opening curtains or spending time near a window. Alternatively, if it’s evening, try using soft, warm lights. This change can create a more soothing and mood-enhancing environment.

Final Thoughts on Shaking Free of a Bad Mood

Remember that all of us have a bad mood at least once in a while. But you have the power to release that moodiness. These quick, easy strategies can make a real difference in your day. Try one or more of these techniques next time you find yourself in a funk. You might be surprised at how quickly your mood can change. Remember, happiness is within your reach, even on tough days.

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