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Inspiration: My five simple wishes for you . . .

May 14, 2020 by Kristen Butler

My five simple wishes for you . . .

1. I wish you happiness.

You’ve been through a lot this year. Even though life may not have gone as planned, I hope you are being gentle with yourself. May positive thoughts come in waves stronger than negative ones. Remember, happiness is already within you.

May you find moments where you give yourself permission to be happy, no matter what is happening. Right now, you deserve to show up for you. Choose to see the silver lining.

May happiness be with you.

2. I wish you peace of mind.

For many right now, the world feels crazy and uncertain. When we look around we see and hear of sadness, chaos, and misfortune.

It’s more challenging than ever to train our mind to relax and stop worrying. It’s more important than ever to find peace. Breath in peace, and exhale worry and stress.

May peace be with you.

3. I wish you unwavering faith.

With all the negative news out there, we can easily become cynical and worry. These are the times we need to cling to faith and trust in the process. Things will get better if we stay positive in thought and feel the blessings of our belief.

Allow the light to shine into the darkness and illuminate it so brightly we cannot miss the solution when it arrives. You can only choose one, faith or fear. Faith will take you anywhere.

May faith be with you.

4. I wish you abundance.

It’s okay to be more and want more. It’s your divine right. Allow yourself to be open and receptive to new opportunities. Become a magnet for prosperity.

Feel grateful for the good you already have in your life, and worthy of more. You deserve to live comfortable and receive all the good things that you desire. Abundance can flow into your life in new and exciting ways.

May abundance be with you.

5. I wish you Love.

No matter where your heart may be now, remember, you are worthy of all the love that you are seeking. Love is the greatest healer. You are love expressed in physical form.

Honor who you are by loving yourself unconditionally. Let love guide all of your relationships. Love is our greatest power. I hope it wells up within you, overflowing into the lives of others.

May love always be with you.

May these wishes give you all that you need… please pass this on.

20 Things That Reveal You Might Be Clairvoyant

May 14, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Have you always felt like a square peg in a world of round ones? How many times have you had a gut feeling about something, and it turned out to be true? The phone rings, and you often know who it is before you look at the caller ID. Do you chalk it up as a series of coincidences, or is there more to it? Maybe you have a special gift from the psychic realm. Have you ever considered that you could be clairvoyant?

Understanding Psychic Gifts

Clairvoyance is a French word that means to see clearly. People who claim to be clairvoyant have misty glimpses into the future, also called premonitions. They claim to see people, places, and events in the past and the ability to foretell the future.

Occult experts label psychic gifts in a bundle called Extra Sensory Perception, or ESP. According to them, some people have a heightened awareness that can affect one or more of their five senses. For this reason, ESP is often called the sixth sense.

In addition to clairvoyance, you may have clairaudience, which means you hear clearly into another realm. If you are psychically empathetic, you may tune into smells and tastes from the past, called clairscent and clairgustance. A heightened sense of touch is known as clairtangency.

A person can have one or all these clairsenses, but the most common is clairvoyance. Perhaps you have the gift of mediumship and can channel your energy into the spirit realm for answers about the future. If you do have a special gift, you are among millions of people who have claimed to have one in the past and present.

For the spiritually intuitive, feelings about others and situations go beyond what they seem. As you explain things, you may often use the words feel and see rather than think. It’s not that you aren’t intellectual. Instead, it means that your brain and spirit are in sync.

Am I Clairvoyant? (20 Questions That Reveal Your Gift)

If you want to probe further into your psychic abilities, there are simple ways to confirm them. Instead of hiding your special gift, perhaps it’s time to embrace it. Here are twenty things that reveal you could be clairvoyant.

1. Have You Always Felt Different?

Clairvoyant people usually say that they never fit into their family or community as a youth. Maybe it’s because they could see and hear things other people couldn’t. If you’ve always felt like an outsider and someone born out of your time, you might have the gift of clairvoyance.

2. Do You Have an Affinity for Animals and Nature?

Are you most comfortable when you are surrounded by your loving pets or in the great outdoors? Can you look into an animal’s eyes and feel a psychic bond? In many ancient and modern cultures, animals are deemed to have a unique connection to the spirit world.

3. Do You Have Vivid Dreams That Often Come True?

Perhaps family and friends have always called you a dreamer. If you have clairvoyance, you often have vivid dreams and can recall them with ease. Some of your dreams may be so lucid, and you may feel like you are awake.

While some dreams can be the result of creative imagination or overeating at night, others may be too realistic to disregard. Furthermore, many of your dreams often become a reality. It’s a hallmark of clairvoyance.

4. Do You Often Experience Déjà vu?

You visit a town that you’ve never been in, and the whole layout seems strangely familiar. Have you ever been introduced to a new person and felt you have always known her? The French call it déjà vu, a feeling that you’ve been somewhere or known someone in the past.

5. Have You Seen Spirits of The Departed?

If you are clairvoyant, you may have had your share of supernatural visitors. Some of these spirits may be dearly departed loved ones or people that you’ve never met. Often, these spirits convey messages to you from beyond the grave.

6. Do You Often Hear Disembodied Voices?

Clairvoyance is usually accompanied by clairaudience, and you may hear voices that other people can’t. If these voices are menacing and encouraging you to harm yourself or others, you may be battling mental illness and need medical attention. However, clairvoyants can see and hear people who have passed and usually have positive interactions.

7. Do You Have a Paranormal Pedigree?

Psychic gifts are usually passed from one generation to the next. As you talked to your parents, grandparents, and other loved ones over the years, did they ever share stories about their psychic abilities? You can claim your rightful heritage of clairvoyance.

8. Are There Energy Surges When You Walk into a Room?

Clairvoyance and other psychic gifts are energy forces, just like electricity. If you are psychically charged, it may affect appliances and lightbulbs when you enter a room. It’s a sure sign that you’re in tune with your clairvoyance and other psychic abilities.

9. Have You Always been a Daydreamer?

You’ve admitted that you are a lucid dreamer at night, but do you also have vivid daydreams? Some people call them visions or premonitions. Do you often see events playing like a movie even before they happen? You may be experiencing a second sight.

10. Have You Always Had an Affinity for the Paranormal?

You’ve heard of the law of attraction, that like calls to like. Maybe the reason you’ve always been drawn to the paranormal phenomenon and psychic abilities is that you are gifted. Your clairvoyant nature resonates with the supernatural world around you.

11. Did You Have Imaginary Friends as a Child?

Children often create imaginary friends as their creativity blossoms. Sometimes, their make-believe playmates are products of loneliness. However, the kids whom only you could see as a child may not have been imagination, but the spirits of departed children.

12. Do You Have a Unique Eye for Beauty?

If you have clairvoyance, your natural eyes are usually as keen as your spiritual ones. Supernaturally gifted people often excel in the arts and have an exceptional appreciation for all things beautiful. You may feel most comfortable when you are surrounded by the splendor that mirrors those in your mind.

13. Are You Drawn to Certain People?

As a spiritual empath, you have probably been attracted to certain people through the years without understanding why. In your psychic eyes, maybe you identify with a person because of her psychic abilities, or you have a warning about her. Either way, your clairvoyance is a life-long magnet for these things.

14. Do You Often See Strange Flashes of Light?

Before you claim this as a spiritual sign, be sure that a medical condition isn’t the reason. However, those with clairvoyance often see brief flashes of light or strange orbs floating around the corner of their eyes. If you experience this, you may have a heightened sense of a presence in the room.

15. Do You Often Feel Like Someone is Watching You?

As unnerving as it sounds, clairvoyants often sense that others from another dimension are watching them. You may sense this too, as well as chills going up and down your spine and getting goosebumps. Perhaps the spirit world is trying to communicate with you.

16. Are You a Psychic Sensory Gage?

Those who are spiritually sensitive are often blasted by sensory impulses as soon as they enter a spiritually charged room. You may feel temperature changes or feel an unexplained heaviness in your soul. Light flashes or orbs usually accompany these impulses.

17. Do You Have a Keen Sense of Direction?

Maybe one of the reasons that women often have a better sense of direction than men is because they are more apt to be clairvoyantly gifted. Your sixth sense often guides you with confidence in places you’ve never been to. You may instinctively know directions without technical guidance.

18. Are You Often A Good Judge of Character?

While we all can be fooled sometimes by a clever chameleon, you may often size people up accurately. Have you ever met someone who seems genuine and pleasant, but your inner voice sends up red flags? Your clairvoyance could be warning you to stay away.

19. Do You Think You Have a Spiritual Gift?

If you are clairvoyantly gifted, some of the things you have shared with people over the years rang true to them. Do you ever have an overwhelming urge to share a warning about a friend with him, and not know why? Perhaps you’ve been told more than once that your foresight was right on target.

20. Do You Believe You’ve Lived Before?

Many people with psychic abilities attribute them to past lives. If you have lived before, maybe your mind remembers details and stores them in your collective memory banks. Your visions could be in part from the scenes and experiences from another incarnation.

Final Thoughts on Embracing Your Clairvoyant Gifts

Just by wondering if you have clairvoyance suggests you already know the answer. Of course, you do, because it’s your destined gift. If you can answer yes to some or all these questions, you may consider ways to enhance your gifts to help others on their paths.

5 Red Flags That Reveal a Malignant Narcissist

May 14, 2020 by Power of Positivity

A malignant narcissist is a term applied to the most severe form of narcissistic personality disorder. This person feels an absolute need for full power. Couple that compulsive need to control others with a demand to be the center of attention. The combination makes this person intolerable to those around him or her.

The Meaning Behind the Term “Narcissism”

For those who are curious about where the term narcissism comes from, it is derived from Greek mythology. Furthermore, it is an interpolation of the name Narkissos, a young Greek man who was quite enamored with himself.

According to the mythical tale, Narkissos was the object of affection for Echo, a nymph who repeatedly professed her love. He rejected her adorations. Narkissos was so taken with himself that he would often spend hours and even days admiring his handsome reflection in various lakes. He believed that nobody, including Echo, was worthy of him.

While this is a fascinating story in Greek mythology, narcissism is, in fact, a real personality disorder. More than that, it is one that can quickly spiral out of control if an individual doesn’t seek treatment from a licensed mental health professional.

What Is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

Now that we have a little more background relative to where the term narcissism came from let’s take a moment to learn more about what it means to have a narcissistic personality disorder. First and foremost, narcissism is classified as a cluster B personality disorder.

Individuals with this disorder often seek admiration from others but will seldom offer it in return. Further, they tend to prioritize self-importance above the needs and wants of others, including their friends and family.

Another hallmark of those with this particular disorder is a lack of empathy. Something else to note when it comes to narcissistic personality disorders is that they are surprisingly common in America, according to a study published by the National Institutes of Health, a part of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

The same study published by the National Institutes of Health also revealed that narcissistic personality disorders account for 20.2 percent of all mental health disorders in America.

The Primary Signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

That said, it is abundantly clear that there is a significant difference between having high self-esteem and equally high self-confidence and having a narcissistic personality disorder. Along with a preoccupation with one’s self and a constant need for admiration and validation, individuals with a narcissistic personality disorder will also exhibit behaviors that are in line with the diagnostic criteria 301.81 per the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). These behaviors often include the following:

Jealousy
Arrogance
A tendency to exaggerate one’s talents, achievements, or both
Remaining in a perpetual state of fantasy in terms of achieving or maintaining success and power
A tendency to be interpersonally exploitative

Indeed, narcissism, as a mental health disorder, can quickly push away friends and family while turning an individual’s life on its head. Fortunately, it is possible to prevent these things from happening if one can recognize the signs of the disorder and also seek treatment from a licensed therapist.

The Different Types of Narcissistic Personality Disorders

Studies show that there are three subtypes when it comes to narcissistic personality disorders. And they include overt, covert, and exhibitionist. To better understand how each of these subtypes can impact an individual’s life, it helps to take a look at each of them individually:

The Overt or Malignant Narcissist

Also known as a “malignant narcissist,” this type of narcissistic personality disorder is one that often coexists with other psychological comorbidities, such as avoidant, dependent, and obsessive-compulsive disorders.

It is important to note that overt narcissistic personality disorders are also quite common among those who engage in substance abuse. While there are many others, constant feelings of anger and hostility are two of the more notable signs that an individual might be struggling with an overt narcissistic personality disorder.

You may also hear this described as “grandiose” narcissism.

Covert Narcissism

Individuals with an overt narcissistic personality disorder are also struggling with comorbidities that make matters worse, some of which include anxiety and depression. Further, many also have low self-esteem. And to combat these feelings of depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, they are often very critical of others. In essence, they build themselves up while subtly berating and tearing others down.

Exhibitionist

An exhibitionist narcissistic personality disorder is generally not accompanied by psychological comorbidities.

However, there is one exception. In times of crisis, such as a failed relationship or losing a job, for example, individuals with an exhibitionist narcissistic personality disorder may display signs of entitlement issues. It is also not uncommon for them to become self-centered and less empathetic toward others as they go through these crises.

What Is the Worst Type of Narcissism?

Any variation of a narcissistic personality disorder can have a profound impact on one’s life. The NPD diagnosis also impacts to mention the lives of those around them. Some are worse than others. And this is especially the case when it comes to malignant narcissists in that they are very anti-social and extremely paranoid.

What’s more, they derive a perverse pleasure in acting out aggressively and engaging in acts of sadism, especially when it comes to sexual gratification, according to a study published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, one of the oldest monthly peer-reviewed medical journals. That said, most psychologists and psychiatrists will agree that malignant narcissists are not only a danger to themselves but also to other people in their life.

How to Tell If You’re Dealing With a Malignant Narcissist

Having established that malignant narcissism is the worst out of the three narcissistic personality disorders, let’s take a moment to recap the five signs that could reveal someone you know might have such a disorder:

1. Extreme Anti-Social Behavior

Although anti-social behavior is often associated with shyness, malignant narcissists are known to take things a step further. Their behavior is a peculiar mix of anti-social and narcissistic traits.

They will often isolate themselves because they believe that others are not worthy of their time, friendship, or attention. And in those rare instances when they do allow others into their life, they will try to manipulate or exploit them for their own gratification, according to Dr. Daniel Fox, a licensed psychologist, international speaker, and author located in Texas.

2. Sadism

Arguably one of the most identifiable signs of a malignant narcissist is sadism. Most people will feel and display some degree of empathy when someone they know is depressed or going through a difficult time in their life. On the other hand, a malignant narcissist is the opposite in that they feel more powerful when others struggle. And this is especially true if they played a role in the person’s misery.

Undoubtedly, most people will perceive this type of behavior as mean-spirited. It is akin to kicking someone while they are down. However, it is part and parcel when it comes to malignant narcissism, according to a study published in the Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law, a quarterly academic journal providing information on topics related to psychiatry in America.

3. Malicious Plotting Against Friends and Family

Malicious plotting against an enemy is not unusual. Let’s be honest. A large percentage of people will look for ways to get back at someone who has wronged them.

However, those who engage in malignant narcissism will adopt the same mindset when it comes to friends and family. This behavior occurs even if the loved one didn’t do anything to justify such actions. Some of the more common forms of malicious plotting include lying and manipulation, which are both carried out with a high degree of sophistication.

4. Aggressive Behavior

Although aggressive behavior, for some people, commonly associates with anger. However, it is also another telling sign that you might be dealing with a malignant narcissist. Along with verbal altercations, individuals with this disorder will also engage in acts of physical violence without provocation. This behavior further explains why most psychiatrists consider this variation of narcissistic personality disorder the worst.

According to Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the famed Harvard University in Cambridge, MA, the aggressive behavior of individuals with a malignant-based narcissistic personality disorder is often a blend of the following:

Sadism
Psychopathy
Machiavellianism

5. Psychopathy

In some cases, a malignant narcissist might behave in such a way that blends seemingly innocuous narcissism with dangerous psychopathy. And this unique combination removes the guilt that they would otherwise feel when they harm or manipulate others.

This same combination of psychopathy and narcissism can also give way to verbal and physical altercations. And when things get to this point, most individuals with this disorder tend to be very cold and calculating when it comes to their verbal or physical attacks.

Final Thoughts on Malignant Narcissists

In summary, there is a world of difference between having a healthy, positive self-image and having a narcissistic personality disorder. Of course, any variation of the mental disorder is troubling. However, it is reasonably safe to say that the malignant narcissist is the most dangerous type. After all, it is as close as someone can get to being a psychopath without officially being diagnosed as one.

15 Quotes to Help You Love Your Body

May 14, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Learning how to love your body can be one of the hardest things in life to achieve. If you tend to your harshest critic, you probably struggle with self-love.

It seems that the harder you are on yourself, the further you get from being able to love your body. It’s essential to learn to love the way you look, however. The negative self-criticism doesn’t do any good, and you have to love yourself before you can expect anyone else to.

One way to learn to love your image is by reading quotes to help you love your body. These quotes come from those who have had the same struggles as you and learned to overcome it. These quotes can help you embrace your differences and what makes you unique.

15 Quotes to Help You Love Your Body

1. “True beauty comes from the soul. To change yourself and to conform to anyone else’s standards of beauty is to change your essence. Own who you are, and you become a truly powerful woman.” – Ali Tate

If you aren’t true to yourself, you’ll never be happy with yourself. You have to be who you are and be proud of it. Only then will you recognize and appreciate yourself and your body.

2. “I’m proud of my body, and you should be proud of yours too. No matter who you are or what you do. I could give a million reasons why you don’t need to cater to anyone or anything to succeed. Be you, and be relentlessly you. That’s the stuff of champions.” – Lady Gaga

The opinion or desires of others should not affect you in any way. If your body doesn’t meet someone else’s standards, ignore it. The only person who needs to love the way you look is you, and you should be proud to embrace it.

3. “I keep telling myself that I’m a human being, an imperfect human who’s not made to look like a doll, and that who I am as a person is more important than whether at that moment, I have a nice figure.” – Emma Watson

Your body isn’t supposed to be flawless. It’s supposed to be unique and special, and that’s what it is. What’s most important is the kind of person you are, and loving yourself will only contribute to your positive qualities.

4. “You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise Hay

Since self-criticism didn’t work, maybe it’s time to consider a different tactic. As Louise Hay suggested, accepting yourself might be what changes things.

5. “Girls of all kinds can be beautiful – from the thin, plus-sized, short, very tall, ebony to porcelain-skinned; the quirky, clumsy, shy, outgoing and all in between. It’s not easy, though, because many people still put beauty into a confining, narrow box. Think outside of the box. Pledge that you will look in the mirror and find the unique beauty in you.” – Tyra Banks

Each person looks different, and there are infinite categories when it comes to body features. You can’t expect to look like someone else. Instead, you have to embrace what you do have. When you learn to love yourself, you’ll have the confidence that makes others see your beauty.

6. “If we make self-love or body acceptance conditional, the truth is, we will never be happy with ourselves. The reality is that our bodies are constantly changing, and they will never remain the same. If we base our self-worth on something as ever-changing as our bodies, we will forever be on the emotional roller coaster of body obsession and shame.” – Chrissy King

You have to love yourself no matter what, even when your body isn’t exactly how you want it to be. Learn to embrace the body you’re in, and appreciate the way your body can change and adapt.

7. “Your body is awesome. Curvy, big boobs, small ones, thin, athletic, voluptuous, J-Lo booty, or no booty at all – what you got is workin’ for you. Don’t let anyone tell you differently.” – Lindsay Tigar

When you love yourself, other people will love you too. Since you’re the only person who looks like you, show everyone else how amazing it is.

8. “I definitely have body issues, but everybody does. When you come to the realization that everybody does that—even the people that I consider flawless—then you can start to live with the way you are.” – Taylor Swift

Everyone has something about their body that they would change. You may hate the things about yourself that other people love or don’t notice about you. Instead of nitpicking and comparing yourself to everyone else, learn to love what makes you different.

9. “For young women, I would say, don’t worry so much about your weight. Girls spend way too much time thinking about that, and there are better things. For young men, and women, too, what makes you different or weird, that’s your strength. Everyone tries to look a cookie-cutter kind of way, and actually, the people who look different are the ones who get picked up. I used to hate my nose. Now, I don’t.” – Meryl Streep

Instead of obsessing over what you don’t like about your body, think of it as a strength. It’s what makes you different and what will set you apart from everyone else.

If you try to hide those differences, you’re only hiding what makes you unique. Doing that won’t get you where you want to be, and it’ll end up being the biggest obstacle of all.

10. “There’s only one of you, so why would you want to look like everyone else?” – Adele

No one can be you, and you shouldn’t want to be anyone else. Enjoy the fact that you’re different, and you’ll feel better about yourself.

11. “You can’t hate yourself happy. You can’t criticize yourself thin, you can’t shame yourself worthy. Real change begins with self-love and self-care.” – Jessica Ortner

No matter what negative thoughts you’re having about yourself, they won’t change the way you look or feel. Take care of yourself, and you’ll feel better.

12. “I refuse to let something as insignificant as a size or number on a scale determine how I feel about myself. I am grateful for my body, my health, and the life that I have, and no arbitrary number should have any impact on that.” – Iskra Lawrence

Stop beating yourself up about your weight. Embrace your body and love yourself. A number on the scale shouldn’t determine your self-love.

13. “There’s no need to glamorize one body type and slam another. We need to stop this absurd hatred towards bodies for being different sizes. It doesn’t help anyone, and it’s getting old. Just focus on being the best possible version of yourself and quit worrying about your thighs, there’s nothing wrong with them.” – Jennie Runk

There is no perfect body type, and it’s more glamorous that everyone is so different. Avoid shaming a particular body type, even if it’s your own.

Embrace the differences and love yourself as you are. The opinions of others don’t matter. The only thing that does matter is how you feel about yourself, and it’s crucial to find self-love.

14. “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

No one except yourself can determine your beauty. Take the advice of Thich Nhat Hanh Accept yourself since you’re the one who matters.

15. “Fat is a trigger word. But if you use it often enough, it simply describes another one of your qualities. I think what helps me is taking the hurt out of the word. In the beginning, I called myself curvy, and all bodies have curves. So, I would always call myself curvy and get upset when people called me fat. Owning it gives me strength: yeah, I’m fat—but I’m also all the good things that I am.” – Tess Holliday

The word fat can be immediately painful if you allow it to have that effect on you. Stop thinking of it as a negative thing and just accept it. Remind yourself of your excellent qualities instead of fixating on something negative.

Final Thoughts on Quotes to Help You Love Your Body

Self-love can be difficult, and a large part of that issue stems from not being able to love your body. You can overcome this, however. Overcoming it is vital because you need to be able to enjoy who you are and the way you look.

Your opinion of yourself is the most important, and the way you feel about yourself reflects onto others. If you are confident in your body, other people will recognize what makes it so unique, too. These quotes to help you love the way you look should help you get on the right path.

12 Behaviors of People With High Emotional Intelligence

May 14, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Many people view IQ as the most important indicator of intelligence. But, is it?

Studies are finding that emotional intelligence is even more critical. Emotional intelligence means perceiving, controlling, and assessing your emotions and others’. This type of knowledge means knowing how to respond to someone without letting your emotions get the best of you. And it also means remembering you can’t control other people’s feelings.

“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence; it is not the triumph of heart over head—it is the unique intersection of both.” –David Caruso

People with high emotional intelligence contribute a lot of essential skills to society and may not even know it. Sensitive, emotional people are often considered weak or unproductive in society, but they possess different characteristics than their less sensitive counterparts. They have a way of seeing into the heart of people and smoothing out disagreements that may occur between more logical types. So, to sum it up, emotional intelligence gets downplayed a lot in society, but without empathy, our world would not function.

Psychologist and one of the pioneers of emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman, wrote a book about how information doesn’t have much value if you lack empathy. In Dr. Goleman’s book, Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, he talks about five main components that make up emotional intelligence.

We will go over what he outlined in his book below and other behaviors of people with high emotional intelligence.

Here are 12 behaviors of people with high emotional intelligence:

1 – People with high emotional intelligence have high self-awareness.

According to Dr. Goleman, the first sign someone possesses high emotional intelligence is their level of self-awareness. Those with high emotional intelligence can keep close tabs on their emotions and control their reactions to other people. They never allow their feelings to get the best of them.

They don’t stuff their feelings away but don’t let their emotions steer the wheel. People with emotional intelligence pay attention to their feelings, so they don’t overreact or make bad decisions based on emotions. They also know themselves very well and set boundaries with people to maintain a sense of peace and autonomy at all times. People who are emotionally smart use this thoughtful gift to keep in touch with their inner selves and always gain insight into their feelings.

2 – They have a remarkable ability to control their emotions.

The emotionally intelligent ride the waves of their emotions and don’t attach themselves to them. They allow the feelings to come and go without labeling them good or bad. As humans, we all have fluctuating emotions, so if we feel sad today, then tomorrow, we might feel happy again. Knowing this, emotionally intelligent people keep a calm, even demeanor despite how they feel inside.

Emotional regulation is a crucial trait of the emotionally smart because you will always fall victim to the chaos around you without the ability to control emotions. However, if you can view your feelings as merely passing thought waves, you can ride the stormy seas and keep your ship afloat rather than letting the currents drag you under.

3 – They are motivated.

People with high EQ don’t allow themselves to play the victim. Indeed, they take full responsibility for their situation and life. They don’t let passing feelings get in the way of their goals, so they can focus on one task for long periods without fatigue. Many people feel tired just because their minds won’t shut off, but the emotionally intelligent know how to remain mindful, so they have higher productivity.

This doesn’t mean that possessing emotional intelligence keeps you from having bad days, but you’ll bounce back much quicker than those who don’t have a handle on their emotions.

4 – People with high emotional intelligence have a lot of empathy.

Emotionally intelligent people are some of the most empathetic people you’ll meet. Empathy means recognizing how someone feels and being able to relate to them. Those with a high EQ deeply care for how other people feel and always strive to make others feel better. They often get approached by others who feel comfortable sharing their problems and concerns because they give off such a caring, sensitive vibe.

Being empathetic means, you can usually tell how someone feels without them even having to say a word. However, if the person chooses to divulge details about their life, they will listen with open hearts and ears. They typically have excellent observational skills, and their intuition allows them to anticipate other people’s needs.

5 – They have excellent conversational skills

Despite the stereotype of emotional, empathic people being introverted and antisocial, emotionally intelligent people have excellent conversational skills. They can get to the heart of the matter quickly and easily because they don’t shy away from in-depth topics. They help lift and motivate others, making them appealing to hang around. Emotionally intelligent people have excellent leadership skills because they can observe problems and develop compassionate solutions.

6 – They adapt quickly to their environment.

Those with high emotional intelligence have a chameleon-like ability to blend in with anyone, anywhere. Whether they’ve just gotten a new job or have moved to a new city, people with emotional awareness can keep a positive mindset anywhere they go. Since they know that everything in life reflects their inner emotional state, they always try their best to maintain a positive one.

7 – They don’t try to be perfect.

People who are keenly aware of their emotions know that trying to attain perfection will lead to burnout and unhappiness. They realize that failing at something means more than never trying at all. That’s because they can learn many lessons in the process. However, shying away from new opportunities leaves no room for growth. Since they care more about improving themselves, they don’t let a fear of failure stand in their way.

8 – They understand how a healthy lifestyle benefits their emotions.

Emotionally intelligent people typically follow a healthy lifestyle. That’, because they know they can’t have a balanced mindset without caring for themselves. They go to bed early, meditate, manage stress, work out, eat healthily, and treat others kindly.

Their vibration radiates out to others because they care for their health on the inside and outside. These practices allow their emotions to remain in check, as well.

9 – They express gratitude.

High EQ’s have a glass-half-full kind of attitude about life. They don’t see the point in dwelling on what goes wrong because that only lowers their vibration. They know that to attract good things in life, you must focus on all the positives. These types feel thankful for what they’ve been given and try to give their share to others as well.

10 – They can remain focused on one task for long periods.

Even if they have a lot going on in their heads, they can cut through the chatter and focus on the task right in front of them. Since they can manage and control their emotions, they don’t allow boredom or fatigue to keep them from their goals. If they feel stressed, they get up and work out, stretch or do something else to release it. Then, they get back to work. They know when to take breaks but stay the course and always finish whatever they start.

11 – Those with high emotional intelligence are highly creative.

They may not have a typical creative job. But they always use their innate abilities in whatever field they work in. They typically think outside the box and can view a problem from a bigger perspective.

This creative juice allows them to come up with a solid solution to an issue because they use their natural curiosity for life and creativity to tackle problems. This also relates to being a good leader because these skills can be helpful in business.

12 – They don’t get offended easily.

Since they have a good idea of themselves and set boundaries with people, those with high emotional intelligence don’t get offended easily. They know that whatever others think and feel about them only reflects their inner emotional state. Thus, nothing outside themselves can hurt them. Therefore, they listen to others with an open mind. However, they never allow their inner state to become upset by turbulence or strife from others.

Learn how meditating can help you gain control over your emotional responses.

Final thoughts about people with high emotional intelligence

Overall, having high emotional intelligence means being aware of your emotions and others’. Tap into your inner emotions. You will access a whole new world of knowledge that will open up many doors. Of course, you can acquire these skills even if you don’t have them. Mindfulness and showing compassion for others can help increase emotional intelligence.

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15 Natural Treatments That Put an End to Sleepless Nights

May 14, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Sleep is both a necessary function and a mystical experience shared by humans and the animal kingdom alike. When you have sleepless nights, your whole body pays the consequence.

A natural phenomenon in the brain controls our waking and sleeping modes called the circadian rhythm. This vital function is influenced by light, as observed by the first humans. Our early ancestors rose with the sun and slept when darkness fell. With the discovery of fire and much later electricity, we found that we could manipulate our brains to work longer hours and sleep less.

While it’s normal to have an occasional sleepless night, chronic insomnia affects your body and your mental health. Have you been plagued with restless nights, waiting for the Sand Man to come? Perhaps you are weary with lying in bed, watching the clock, and counting sheep.

Medical experts recommend that we need at least 7-8 full hours of sleep each night. The older you get, usually the less sleep you need. However, your body requires enough rest to recharge your system and to replenish millions of depleted cells.

When you are sleep deprived, it’s difficult to function. People who work third shift and swing shifts often battle insomnia because of their erratic sleep schedule. A plethora of medical and psychological disorders can also rob you of good z’s.

15 Natural Remedies to End Your Sleepless Nights

You may be reading this article in the wee hours of the night, hoping to fall into a restful slumber. Here are fifteen natural remedies for you to try that can induce sleepiness. If your bouts of insomnia become chronic, consider talking to your professional healthcare provider.

1. Meditation

In our fast-paced society, it’s no wonder our brains stay over-drive. How often have you tried to fall asleep, only to be annoyed by the constant chatter in your mind? You replay events and fret over things that haven’t even happened.

When your brain can’t be silent, it is nearly impossible to sleep or stay asleep for any time. Is it possible to bring the tranquility you desperately need? While you may not be able to quiet your mind’s conversations, you can change the voice.

For thousands of years, ancient cultures have practiced meditation for physical, mental, and spiritual health. You can use these same techniques to improve your sleepless nights. Learning to be present in the moment, acknowledging your thoughts, and releasing them, can induce rest.

2. Visualization

As you lie comfortably in your bed, purposely relax your body from head to toe. Let your thoughts float away like clouds and be aware of your breathing. Visualize yourself in your happy place, such as the beach or in a magical garden.

3. Comfortable Massage

Sometimes, your muscles won’t cooperate and relax on command. There’s nothing like a gentle massage to do the trick. Once your tight, sore muscles are smooth and relaxed, drifting off into dreamland is easier.

The next time you feel a restless night is imminent, ask your mate to massage you. Gentle touching and rubbing make the brain produce more endorphins that help you to relax. You can also massage your tired muscles if you are alone.

Give your temples and the back of your head a light rub to ease tension. Some people find comfort by gently massaging their closed eyes. If you have been on your feet all day, give your feet and legs some attention so they can relax and won’t ache during the night.

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4. Turn Out the Lights

Just as our ancestors used the sun as an alarm clock, our brains are still hardwired into wakefulness from light sources. Glance around your bedroom, and you may see some blinking culprits. You may be so used to them that you don’t notice them anymore.

Nothing steals your slumber like the electronics that you keep in your bedroom. Sleep research warn that the radiant blue lights from television and computer screens stimulate the brain. To sleep better, keep the electronics turned off or, better yet, out of your room.

5. Dim the Clock & Phone

Consider turning it away from your face during the night if you have a light-up alarm clock. Even a small blinking power light can affect your brain. While you are finding ways to darken your room, be sure to flip your smartphone over so its glare isn’t keeping you awake.

6. Set the Scene for Relaxation

Consider looking at your bedroom as if it was the first time. Is it a luxurious sanctuary, or does it look like a cluttered office cubicle with a bed? Clear out the clutter and decorate your room with soft colors, light, and textures that beckon you to enjoy a restful sleep.

7. Limit Caffeine Intake

Most people fail to realize that caffeine is more than a naturally occurring ingredient. It is a drug that stimulates your mind and body and discourages sleepless nights. When you aren’t resting well at night, pay attention to your caffeinated drinks during the day.

Coffee, colas, energy drinks, and some teas are loaded with it. While a hot cup of coffee may get you through the morning, the extra caffeine in the evening may be your downfall. Limit caffeine intake, especially at bedtime, and see how you rest.

8. Drink Less Booze and Snooze

You may drink more alcohol in the evenings because it helps you fall asleep quickly. However, alcohol inhibits certain brain chemicals responsible for continual sleep, and your rest will be sporadic. Lack of sleep is a common symptom of alcoholism, so go easy on the liquor.

9. Get Moving

Exercising to induce sleep sounds counter-intuitive, but countless studies suggest otherwise. Perhaps the reason that you are tossing and turning all night is that your muscles have pent-up energy. A little evening exercise is just what you may need.

A couple of hours before bedtime, take the dog for a walk or go for a short hike through the woods. Avoid strenuous workouts that may pep you up rather than relax you. Lack of exercise can contribute to your restlessness

10. Try Yoga or Tai Chi

Gentle stretching exercises like yoga and Tai Chi work wonders on your muscles and provide pleasant tiredness. You don’t have to be an experienced yogi to enjoy the benefits. You can find easy video tutorials online that are made especially for inducing sleep.

11. Take Melatonin or Other Herbal Treatments

Decreased light and your circadian rhythm signal your brain that it’s time for sleep. As it powers down to sleep mode, your mind produces a chemical called melatonin that prepares your body to rest. Your sleep will be affected if your body doesn’t produce enough melatonin.

Talk to your doctor about taking over-the-counter melatonin supplements. The doctor can suggest the dosage that would be right for you. These supplements are relatively inexpensive and are available in most pharmacies and grocery stores.

12. Follow Your Nose to Sweet Slumber

Did you know that your sense of smell can affect your moods and energy levels? Aromatherapy has been used for years as an effective way to brighten people’s spirits and help with anxiety and depression. It has also been a successful tool for those who don’t sleep well at night.

Lavender is the quintessential herb used as a calming agent. Its familiar scent calms your mind and relaxes your muscles. Use the whole herb or its essential oil and rub some on your sheets and pillows for a sensational night’s sleep.

13. Magnesium

Without this vital mineral, we couldn’t survive. Magnesium does everything from strengthening your heart and bones to keeping your energy and blood sugar stabilized. Many people are deficient and don’t realize it.

Did you also know that magnesium supplements can support proper rest? It works with the chemicals in your brain to induce the deep, healing sleep that you need. Before you take any supplements, talk to your professional healthcare provider first.

14. Drink Some Soothing Tea

Did you ever wonder why Grandma always insisted on a warm cup of tea before she retired to bed? She and ancestors before her discovered that certain herbs made delicious teas that calmed the nerves. The scent, taste, and warmth of an herbal tea can take you to your happy place.

Chamomile tea is one of the most popular drinks recommended for sleepless nights. You might also try passionflower, valerian, or lemon balm. To make sure that these natural herbs don’t clash with any medications you take, consult your doctor or pharmacist.

15. Get Lost in the Music

If music can calm the savage beast, then it can do a number on sleeplessness, too. It doesn’t include loud, headbanging music that urges you to dance. Instead, choose quiet, soothing instrumentals that relax your mind and speak to your spirit.

Countless studies indicate that music therapy can promote a restful night’s sleep. Be sure your volume is low and use an earbud if it disturbs your partner. Play a CD or regular hours of tranquil music you can download free from the Internet.

Final Thoughts on Ending Sleepless Nights

Sleep lulls us away from the world’s harsh realities into the land of dreams. If sleepless nights keep you from traveling there, these suggestions may be your passport. Remember that chronic sleepless nights can be a symptom of a severe medical or psychological condition and should be reported to your doctor.

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