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Communities Unite to Support Healthcare Workers

April 23, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Our healthcare workers are tired, stressed, and overtaxed at the moment. We rely on them to take care of us in our times of need. Several Facebook movements are now showing some love to those hardworking professionals. Let’s take a look at some people who make a difference.

Blue Hearts

Two healthcare workers from hospitals in Louisville, Kentucky, started a movement to show support for nurses and doctors all over the world. They make tiny blue vinyl hearts for health care workers to put on their badge to show that everyone’s in this together. Workers in the health care industry have demanding jobs. And with the virus outbreak, many of them feel overwhelmed by the surge of patients.

To help workers feel less alone during the pandemic, respiratory therapist Brittany Ballard and registered nurse Hannah Fisher started the blue hearts movement. They initially gave the hearts out to health care workers in Louisville, but as word began to spread, they had trouble keeping up with the demand.

Fisher and Ballard sent 400 hearts down south to Georgia and a couple hundred to southern Kentucky. They got requests from several other states, as well as countries such as Canada and Thailand. They even had someone ask about making a car decal for them to show their support.

The two healthcare workers said that in light of what’s happening right now, it’s no wonder nurses and doctors need extra support. They hope that these tiny blue hearts bring a sense of togetherness during this difficult time.

“It’s awesome to see all these private messages we’re getting saying thank you. It’s turned something negative into a positive,” said Ballard. If you’d like to help make hearts or want to send them a request, you can email them at healthcareheroes11@outlook.com.

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Face Masks for Medical Professionals Fundraiser

Others have helped the movement by requesting donations for face masks for hospitals and other healthcare facilities. In the Facebook group Face Masks for Medical Professionals, they’ve started a fundraiser to purchase 10,000 face coverings for hospitals. People donated almost $3,000 in just two days. The group founder, Lorie Beth, said that any extra money would go toward buying gallon ziplock bags to make mask packets for some medical professionals that requested them.

Located in the tiny town of Windsor, NC, Lorie Beth owns a boutique, currently closed to walk-in traffic due to stay at home orders. In addition to the fundraiser, she decorated the windows of her shop with the names of healthcare workers to honor them.

Lorie Beth’s contributions will outfit their local rural hospital and at least three other small medical centers with the masks they so desperately need.

Hearts for Healthcare Workers

Another movement thanking healthcare workers popped up in Boston a little over a week ago. Called ‘Hearts for Healthcare Workers,‘ the movement started when New Hampshire resident Tanya Russell created a Facebook page to thank those on the front lines of the pandemic. She was inspired to start the campaign because her husband works as an ER doctor. She wanted a way to thank the millions of other healthcare professionals as well.

The Facebook page encourages everyone to show support in their unique way. Some people have begun printing out thank you notes with hearts on them and posting them around area hospitals to brighten up healthcare worker’s long days.

Feed the Frontline with Boloco

In Boston, the co-founder of a burrito chain Boloco, John Pepper, wanted to get involved with the movement too. He started a GoFundMe page called “Feed the Frontline with Boloco” so that customers could make donations to buy burritos for hospital workers and EMS responders.

Coffee Gift Cards

In nearby city Wilmington, Ashley Pressico wanted to take part in the movement as well. To show support, she’s been buying $5 gift cards from Dunkin’ Donuts to give to people dealing with the pandemic. She said it doesn’t take a lot of money to give back; every little bit matters as long as you can help someone.

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Final Thoughts: Small Acts of Kindness Show Big Love

Have you heard of anyone in your community helping out healthcare workers during the COVID-19 lockdown? Please share it with us on our Facebook community.

15 Quotes to Remember When You Feel Disappointed

April 23, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Feeling disappointed is an unfortunate problem that happens to everyone. Since there is no way to avoid it, the only thing to do is learn to live with it. By not coping with the problem, this feeling can lead to frustration and even anger.

Since you most likely feel like you’re can’t control the situation, a feeling of helplessness may come next. When you begin to feel disappointed, you should try to cope with it and accept it quickly. This acceptance can prevent all of those feelings that may follow if you cave to the disappointment.

One way to cope with disappointment is to read quotes. There are many quotes for when you feel disappointed. No matter the situation, you should find some comfort in them.

Quotes can help you learn to accept whatever it is that happened. If you can’t take it, they can help you feel like you’re not alone. Feeling disappointed happens to everyone, and these quotes can help you get through it.

15 Quotes For When You Feel Disappointed

1. “You will end up really disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you.” – Unknown

Never expect anyone to be like you are. You have your own heart. Remember that before the disappointment sets in.

Just because you would do something for someone or have already done it, doesn’t mean you can expect the same in return. If you remember this, you can avoid some disappointment in your life. That also means if the same person keeps causing disappointment, you should reassess having that person in your life.

2. “It was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though you didn’t have something in the first place. I guess that’s what disappointment is- a sense of loss for something you never had.” – Deb Caletti, in the Nature of Jade

Disappointment is just grieving something you never had to begin with. If you think of it that way, it may help you get over it quicker. You lived without it so far. You can go a little longer.

So you can’t let what was never yours prevent you from living happily. Your goals are still there, and a slight detour shouldn’t stand in the way.

3. “One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointment.” – Henry Ward Beecher

As Beecher stated, sometimes not getting what you want right away is the best thing to happen. That just means that the next time you’ll have an even better chance at success. With the new determination, you’ll likely be stronger and even better equipped to deal with whatever life tosses your way.

4. “The best way to deal with disappointment is to acknowledge and work through the feelings it induces.” Noaman Kaysingwala, in How to Handle Disappointment in Life

Admit to yourself that you are feeling this way. The only way to get through it is to sort the feelings out and move on. If you pretend that the feelings aren’t there, you’re only setting back your coping timeframe.

5. “We deal with disappointing and depressing experiences each day of our lives. Rest assured that these difficult times are your opportunity to grow and to learn more advanced strategies in order to scale your next mountain more quickly.” – Michelle C. Ustaszeski, in Scaling Life’s Mountains

These feelings are inevitable. The only thing you can do is learn from them so that the next time you’re more prepared. This way, you won’t be disappointed the next time.

6. “Nothing in life has happened to you. It’s happened for you. Every disappointment. Every wrong. Even every closed door has helped make you into who you are.” – Joel Osteen

If one thing didn’t work out, something else will. Just keep trying and moving forward no matter what happens. Each disappointing feeling is only leading you to something better for you.
Instead of thinking that each setback is going against you, think of it as setting you up for something better. Everyone has a different story, and yours is still developing. Move forward and figure out how the story is supposed to go.

7. “The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.” – Robert Kiyosaki

Not getting what you wanted doesn’t mean you failed. To handle disappointment in a graceful way shows how successful you are and will be. If your dream is as big as you’ve always thought, disappointment won’t stop it from becoming the reality one day.

8. “I’m sad, hurt, angry, mad, disappointed. But you know what? I will put on a happy face and move on. It will hurt but I will survive.” – Unknown

The only thing you should do in the face of disappointment is put a smile on your face and move on. You can have all those feelings, but the sooner you put that smile on, the sooner things will seem normal.
Remember, however, that you are allowed to feel all of those feelings. You just shouldn’t let them stand in the way of what happens next. Push through and use all of those emotions to be stronger next time.
You’ll feel better eventually, and you will survive whatever it was that disappointed you. Just remember that your journey is your story, and you can get through the disappointment.

9. “Life is all about setbacks. A life lived without disappointment is a life lived in a cocoon. People have recovered from far worse setbacks.” – Tony Clark

To reach your goals and get what you want out of life, you are going to face disappointment along the way. If you expect no disappointment, you’ll never be truly living your life. You’ll be okay, no matter if things work out the first time or not.

10. “Sometimes when you get disappointment it makes you stronger.” – David Rudisha

When you bounce back from disappointment, you’ll be stronger the next time. That means you’ll try harder and be more prepared. Get past the feeling and reassess what you’ll do next.
Remember that no one can become strong if they don’t push themselves. This is the same for disappointment and other negative feelings. You’ll be more resilient against them each time you overcome them.

11. “Life will throw many obstacles onto our life path that will make us sad or disappointed at times. Dealing positively with these obstacles is what makes the difference between them turning into worse states or being overcome.” – Jonny Oates, in Wisdom for My Son and Daughter

You have to overcome things that disappoint you in order to move forward in life. If you don’t move forward and get past it, you’ll just continue to be disappointed.

Each time you push through, it becomes easier the next time. There will come a time when feeling this way becomes less frequent.

12. “You may encounter many disappointments. Be strong. Tell yourself, “I am good enough, I will try again.” – Lailah Gifty Akita, in Pearls of Wisdom

You will face disappointments in life, but you are strong enough to get through it. The most important thing is to try again and remind yourself of your worth. No matter how many times the disappointments happen, know that you deserve all the good things you desire in life. As long as you know that, you’ll be just fine.

13. “As you work towards your goals, disappointments may slow you down, but they don’t have to keep you down.” – Catherine Pulsifer

Things happen, and plans may change a little. Don’t let a disappointment keep you from reaching your goals. Try a different way next time, or reassess the situation that is causing the feelings.

14. “Disappointment is just the action of your brain readjusting itself to reality after discovering things are not the way you thought they were.” – Brad Warner

It’s a feeling that can be shocking, but once you get used to it, it’ll feel a little better. You just have to adjust to the new situation and plan accordingly. When you thought something would go differently, it may take a while for your brain to reevaluate.

15. “Part of the challenge that comes with striving for success is how the entire journey comes with its own fair share of failures and disappointments.” Rupert Johnson, in Build for Success

You wouldn’t have much of a success story to tell if there were no disappointments to overcome along the way. The true measure of success is overcoming the hardships and reaching the goal anyway.

Final Thoughts On Quotes to Remember When You Feel Disappointed

While disappointment happens to everyone, it can be overcome. Instead of letting the disappointing feelings overwhelm you, remember that you can get through it. While the plan may have to change, you can move forward regardless.

True success doesn’t mean it happened the first time. Instead, it means that you moved past the disappointment and conquered anyway. These quotes to remember when you feel disappointed should help get through some of the hard times. Remember that you aren’t alone and that you can get through it.

20 Comebacks When Dealing with a Selfish Person

April 22, 2020 by Power of Positivity

We all know a selfish person who makes everything about themself. Regardless of your intentions and actions, there is little you can do to make such people happy. No matter how hard we try to please them, something will always bother selfish people.

For instance, if you bring up a conversation about your accomplishments or problems, they bring it back to themselves. Eventually, you end up listening to their issues and opinions. That’s one of the reasons why selfish people are downright annoying.

That’s one of the reasons why nobody wants to be around self-centered people.

Dealing with a selfish person is tricky. But, the first thing to do is to define and identify a selfish person.

Here are the two primary characteristics of a selfish person:

Selfish people are always concerned exclusively or excessively with their image, health, and goals.
They have no respect for the feelings or needs of the people around them

When dealing with such people, it is foolish to expect any gratitude from selfish individuals for your help or right actions.

As much as you love or like your selfish friends or relatives, there is little hope that they will show any regard for your feelings or change their habits. While some of them can show-off moments of generosity, most of them lack the willingness or skill to be considerate. Understanding this trait will make you understand why a person fails to pay attention to your needs.

It’s not that they are not responsive. Such people can choose how they want to respond to a specific need. For instance, when you need their help, they can choose to ignore your request or pretend to be busy.

So please take a look at our collection of 20 of the most effective snappy and most effective comebacks that work when you are confronting a selfish person.

20 Comebacks for Dealing with a Selfish Person

1 – Thank you for listening to me and making it all about you!

Don’t you just wish you could say that to someone who keeps talking about themselves? Selfish people have a habit of ignoring the other person’s needs, and that’s one of the reasons why they never pay attention to your problems. Instead, they keep mentioning their own experiences. This one is best for all such occasions.

2 – Aren’t you exhausted from talking about yourself?

Just when you need someone to share your sorrows (or even joy), a selfish person keeps on ranting about how miserable they are, only to gain your sympathy. That’s not something you would want to listen to after a stressful or long day.

3 – I just returned from the center of the universe, and I wonder why you weren’t there?

Do not shy away from reminding selfish people that the entire universe does not revolve around them alone. Self-centered people have a habit of being caught up in their problems. There is no harm in giving a reality check to them every once in a while.

4 – The world does not revolve around you!

That’s another way of sending the same message across. The only problem is that a selfish person will pretend not to listen to it or simply ignore it.

5 – Please tell me less about yourself

What a polite way to stop someone from going on and on about their likes and dislikes. That comeback works great on a first date when a self-centered person forgets to ask about your preferences and life goals.

6 – No, my status is not for you

Confront your stalkers or ex-partners. It’s common for a selfish ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend to drop in a few lines in response to every status of yours. Whether it’s on Facebook or any other network, it’s essential to silence them and make them realize you have other important things going on in your life.

7 – Just get over it

What a sweet way to tell someone to shut up? You won’t feel bad, and the other person shouldn’t. After all, that’s what they need to do to make your (and everyone else’s) life more manageable.

8 – Do I only exist when you need something?

Ever had that friend who is nowhere to when you need them. But just when they need you, they will pop out of nowhere. Even if you have relocated or moved to another workplace, they will find you whenever their need arises.

9 – You are just like us!

A selfish person often things he/she is above everyone else. Probably, the last thing they want to listen to is that they are just everyone else! You are not disrespecting them or abandoning them. Instead, you remind them that they are not out of this world.

10 – I can fix my appearance, but how will you adjust your personality?

Anyone who points out to how you look, dress, or appears deserves this comeback. A selfish person who wants to throw you off guard usually starts criticizing your appearance because they don’t have any other reasons to show their disapproval. You can’t change their habits but can put them in their place.

11 – Did I ask for your advice/opinion?

Most people have solutions for all your problems and like offering tips when you need them the least. But whenever you offer them a piece of advice, they reject or refute it immediately.

Such people are insecure because they try to hide behind a false sense of supremacy. So, the next time they offer you their ‘valuable’ advice, don’t be afraid to ask this question.

12 – You’re wasting your time

Selfish people don’t mind wasting your time. But when it comes to their precious time, they would never imagine wasting it. That’s one of the reasons why this comeback works best for people who can’t stop making negative comments about your job, personal choices, and opinions.

13 – Don’t you have anything nice to say?

Selfish people love focusing on your shortcomings. Why not shift the focus on them to change the subject? Trust us; this comeback works every time.

14 – I won’t even comment on that

Sometimes the best comeback is not saying anything at all. Selfish and toxic people need to feed their fragile ego. When you are indifferent to their comments and viewpoints, it shows that they have no power or control over your thoughts and emotions.

15 – Thanks, but no thanks

Not everyone deserves your gratitude. One of the worst habits of selfish people is that they expect you to be thankful to them, even when they haven’t done anything for you. It’s not a bad idea to remind them that you don’t need their advice, approval, or opinions.

16 – What on earth made you think that?

The best trick to answer a rude person is to pose another question. You can always counter negative emotions and comments by questioning the other person. With this comeback, you may be able to silence a nosy friend or colleague.

17 – Are you aware that there are two people in this room?

One of the habits of selfish people is that they think they are the only ones present in the room. That’s probably the reason they don’t even pretend to listen to you when you are talking.

What a way to make them realize that you know what they’re trying to do?

18 – Are you always this funny?

Sometimes, narcissistic and selfish people use sarcasm or humor to mask insults, but just enough for you to identify their offensive remarks. This comeback stuns them because they expect you to smile or laugh sheepishly.

Whenever someone says something that sounds more like an insult than a joke, end the conversation with this comeback.

19 – Oh, I’m sorry I didn’t hear you. What were you saying?

No, you’re not rude. You are giving a selfish person another chance to reword his/her question or statement. This comeback shows that their comments do not affect you, and you are not open to their negativity.

20 – That makes one of us

Do not offer any explanations to prove your point. Simply disagree and move on! Your time is precious, and you certainly don’t want to waste it on people who have no respect for your thoughts and beliefs.

Final Thoughts on How to Deal with a Selfish Person

Dealing with a selfish person becomes easy when you know what to say to them and how. Letting go of their negativity will not make them assess their habits and make any changes. However, using comebacks such as these will help you to stay positive.

Moreover, selfish people don’t care about what you think or say. They live in a fantasy world and form their opinions that you can’t change. However, do not let them get in the way of your happiness. No matter how much you love someone, define boundaries so nobody can hurt you ever.

7 Ways to Find Happiness (Without Changing Your Life)

April 22, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Walk into any bookstore, and you’ll probably have no trouble finding a plethora of books about the ways to find happiness. However, with so many viewpoints and ideas about what can make us happy, how do we know what is right? In reality, people derive happiness from different things, but we can all probably agree on some basics to becoming happier.

The most crucial part of finding the keys to happiness lies in remembering that we already possess the tools to unlock the door. Within our consciousness, we can tap into a place where we always feel happy, regardless of what’s happening outside of us.

We’ve been tricked from an early age into thinking that the latest TV, a bigger house, or a more beautiful car will finally make us feel happy. Or, maybe we need another relationship, a fresh start in a new city, or a nice massage to discover happiness. While these may bring us short-term joy, the only real happiness will come when you decide that you control your emotions. If you always give the power to things outside yourself to make you happy, you’ll find that happiness will escape your grasp every time the initial excitement fades.

Below, we’ll go over some basic ways to find happiness without making drastic changes to your life.

Here are seven ways to find real happiness (without changing your life):

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.” – Aristotle

1 – Be kind to yourself and others.

If you want to find real happiness, it starts with how you treat yourself. You can’t expect to feel happy if you eat poorly, don’t exercise, don’t get sunlight, make little time for self-care, and don’t prioritize sleep. Being kind to yourself means you’ll find it easier to show kindness to others, too. As they say, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Engage in positive self-talk and treat yourself as you would your best friend. If you wouldn’t say mean things to your friend, don’t tell them to yourself, either. Simply look at yourself in the mirror and realize that you deserve only the best, and self-deprecating language will not serve you in the long run.

Also, happiness, when spread, makes the world a much brighter place. Small acts of kindness such as leaving sweet notes for strangers, donating money to charities, and holding the door for someone can turn a person’s day around. Studies have shown that people who perform random acts of kindness feel happier in their daily lives, so give it a try! Making others feel good will inevitably boost your mood as well.

2 – Express gratitude for what you do have.

The happiest people focus on everything that they do have, not what they lack. If you only put your attention on the things you still need, you will never have enough. You attract what you think about, so if you always focus on everything going wrong, you’ll only invite more of that into your life. However, if you instead shift your attention to everything positive in your life, more of that will come your way.

Here are just a few things most of us could put on our gratitude list:

Good health
Running water
Food on the table every day
Our homes
The loved ones in our lives
Our livelihoods which allow us to buy what we need
Waking up this morning

Want to find happiness instantly? Just look around at everything you have and know that some people feel happy with much less than you do. Wake up every morning feeling that you have it all, and you will boost your energy levels without having to change anything.

3 – Pay attention to your thoughts.

Most of us run on autopilot, never paying attention to the thoughts inside our heads. However, if we did, we’d probably find that most of those thoughts don’t serve us very well. Our monkey minds have a hard time focusing on the present moment, wanting instead to shift to the past or future. However, if our minds can never rest in the now, we will go our whole lives not knowing the peace of diving into the still waters of real awareness.

How can we find happiness by paying attention to our thoughts? If you meditate, you will start to notice the peace between each idea, and realize that your feelings don’t have to control you. Happiness comes from surrendering to this peace and letting go of the need to analyze and ruminate all the time. Our minds have a lot of power, but most of us don’t tap into their true potential.

Studies have proven the many benefits of meditation, from boosting your mood to improving focus to even rewiring your brain! Meditation can bring a sense of peace in even the busiest, most demanding lifestyles. So, if you want to find happiness without changing your circumstances, you need only to go within and improve yourself. By doing this, your outer world will inevitably shift as your frequency increases.

4 – To find real happiness, surround yourself with positive people.

Being in the company of only Debby Downers will surely bring your mood down as well. We tend to take on the energies of those around us, so if you surround yourself with positive people, your mood will begin to change too. Studies have shown that happiness is contagious, so if you have a healthy social circle full of uplifting people, they can easily bring you out of even the worst funk!

While this tip might require some changes, you don’t have to do anything drastic. Simply look at the people you surround yourself with, and if anyone affects you negatively, try to limit your time with them. Put more effort into the friendships and relationships that genuinely add value to your life.

5 – Plan out healthy meals for the week.

With so many sources for healthy recipes nowadays, you can whip up different dishes each week that will keep your taste buds and your body happy. It doesn’t have to cost a fortune, either. Food makes us happy because it provides us with sustenance as well as comfort. However, it can also have the opposite effect if you don’t fuel your body with the right foods.

Try to plan out your meals in advance each week so that you know exactly what you need at the store and how much you’ll spend. You will find that you feel better eating fresher foods that you prepare yourself, and you’ll save time by meal prepping.

Studies have shown that a balanced diet can lessen feelings of depression as well, so make sure to feed your body what it needs to thrive!

6 – Carve out time each day for yourself.

Even if you only have 15 minutes a day, try to plan out some time where you have the freedom to do things you enjoy. Whether that means painting, drawing, writing, singing, or just sitting alone with your thoughts, we all need a little time to unwind. Have a routine each night after you put the kids to the bed where you can express yourself and let out any pent up energy throughout the day. You can journal or meditate to release any stress or negativity, and after a while, you’ll start to notice how this helps your mindset.

7 – Realize that you have everything you need to find happiness.

This world makes us feel as though we always need something else to make us happy. Truthfully, we have everything we need within us already. If you let outside circumstances control your moods, you will make yourself subject to the ebbs and flows of life. However, true happiness lies in our ability to ride the waves and accept the ever-changing nature of life. Instead of being a boat tossed around by a storm, learn to dive beneath the turbulence where the waters remain calm.

By shifting your mindset and realizing that you have the power to control your thoughts, nothing in life can touch you. Happiness doesn’t mean accumulating money, likes on Facebook, or stamps on our passports. All of these things can fade, but our consciousness lives on forever. Spend your time building up your inner strength and peace, and you will not feel as powerless in the face of our changing world.

Final thoughts on how to find happiness without changing your life

In reality, happiness doesn’t have to come at the cost of our sanity, money, or time. You can find happiness right in your mind if you want to. By taking care of your health, being kind to yourself and others, expressing gratitude, watching your thoughts, and being around positive people, you can find happiness. You can also find it by realizing you already have it, knowing that it can never really leave you.

We will leave you with this powerful quote:

“A disciplined mind leads to happiness, and an undisciplined mind leads to suffering.” – Dalai Lama

Therapists Explain Why People Reveal Their True Colors in a Breakup

April 22, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Breaking off a relationship involves the same process as grieving many times. One of the worst things about this time of grief is that people show their true colors. These shades might not be very bright. We’ve got the breakdown of why people show their true colors in a breakup.

The Science of The Impact Of Personality In Breakups

A study in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin explained how people handle romantic rejection. People reported how the view of themselves changed when their partner broke up the relationship. This research showed how people see themselves after a breakup, which has a direct impact on how they can get on with life.

The true personalities of each partner come through in breakups because these traits are part of the people. Personality traits have a big role in breakups because many people cannot move on for a very long time. They feel haunted and feel as if they did something “wrong.” Being rejected boosts their personality flaws because it brings them to the surface. Many people find their true self must be wrong.

Testing a Relationship Brings Out The Worst In People

When people test their relationships, it’s the time many of them show their true colors. Breaking up is one of the hardest things for many people. It means something went wrong. Many people feel at this time that they’re not enough. When they’re put in the fire, those true colors shine in the light.

They’ve never had to show these colors before because they weren’t at this level of testing. Many people have a fight or flight mentality when it comes to tough times. A side of them comes out that might scare you, or might even surprise you. Even good people will let the worst in them come out when facing a tough time like a breakup.

Negative Behavior

As a relationship ends, some people exhibit negative behavior. They’ve been used to bottling their emotions, but their negative feelings are bubbling over, showing how they feel. Showing these negative behaviors to the partner reveals those emotions coming to the surface. The partner may have never seen this side before. The petty fights finally have a breaking point.

Perhaps the biggest issue here is that those negative feelings when breaking up are how you felt for a long time. These feelings were just hidden until you felt the need to show them. Bringing up these things you dislike about one another won’t change anything anyway. It’ll just make the other person resentful that you never loved their true self.

Dealing With A Narcissist

One of the biggest disappointments to many people when breaking up is finding out you’re dealing with a narcissist. You see the true colors of a person that reveal they’re into everything for themselves.

Your personalities just don’t align because they have no empathy, and they blame everything on you. If you never saw this behavior before, it is because a narcissist is great at luring you in for their good. They tell you what you want to hear.

Everything usually seems great until you hit a pothole. Once you hit trouble, these people show their other face. They only see things in black or white, so it’s either good or bad with them. They think if you aren’t on their side, you’re just wrong.

Thus, they feel if you’re the one leaving the relationship, you’re making the wrong decision because they’re the best thing since sliced bread. The truth is that there might not be anything wrong with you, but it’s all rooted in their personality.

The Mask Comes Off and True Colors Reveal Themselves

Sometimes people show the negative aspects of their personality because they got what they wanted out of the relationship. They don’t need you anymore, so they don’t have to hide their identity. The mask they wore during your relationship doesn’t serve a purpose anymore. They’re able to reveal their face. This face might not be anything like the mask. They don’t care because they’re done with you.

It’s a sad but true part of many relationships. During a relationship, that mask is there to fulfill their happiness. Once it’s over, why would they need it? It’s time to create a new mask for the next relationship.

The Pressure of a Breakup

When you’re going through a breakup, you often feel frayed. It’s as if the pressure of your changing relationship status might make you explode. If someone’s personality is negative, that explosion won’t be pretty. When things are happy and quiet, that pressure is chill. When things start to explode, the volcanic ash can be fiery. Pressure makes it almost impossible to wear a mask. Pressure doesn’t make a person the way they are.

This feeling of pressure just reveals this person’s personality. They collapse under the weight of all of the issues. One cannot hide who they are in pressure. It builds inside them until they have to let it all out in some way.

Pretending Cannot Last Forever

Even if a relationship lasted years and years under a mask, this pretending could not last forever. Sometimes a partner can “trick” the other for years. They show their best self. They say what the other wants to hear. And they might even do what the other person wants. Everything is perfect until the world starts to break.

This person has practiced being the person behind their mask for a long time. This pretending just cannot last forever. The work behind it gets exhausting. They start to crack as the world shakes. In truth, the partner probably saw these little cracks start popping up along the way. These cracks start to look like the world after an earthquake when you breakup. This is because pretending now has now fallen to the wayside. It has nothing to stand on, so it’s thrown to the side.

Controlling The Relationship Breakup

During a breakup, many people try to control and manipulate the other person. Controlling and manipulative behavior comes to the surface because many people feel like they’re falling without a parachute. They’re fearful, so they pull out any stops.

This type of manipulation can be emotionally abusive to the other person. All relationship tools of compromise are suddenly thrown out the window because they feel threatened. This behavior type is hard to change. People have this rooted in their personalities. It can even get worse if you’re going through a breakup where you have to divide things and make big decisions.

It’s Not Your Job To Fix Your Ex-partner

When your former partner shows their personality, don’t try to fix them. When they walk away showing off the worst parts about themselves, it isn’t your job to help them find their way back. They show themselves because they are scared.

They’re in a corner, they’re upset, and they want out. Your ex wants happiness, so they’ll do anything to get it. This desire could mean hurting you with unkind words or behaviors. Know that it isn’t your job to fix these things. You can’t fix who they are. It was never your fault that they wore a mask.

Don’t Become Uncomfortable In Your Skin

Sometimes you don’t see the personality of your partner until it’s too late because they simply aren’t being who they are. Some people are just afraid of being your true self, which is a bad thing in a relationship.

When you’re uncomfortable in your skin with another person, the relationship is built on a lie. Once you hit waves, those true colors splash out of the relationship boat. If someone doesn’t love those colors, they aren’t worth it. It’s not worth it to be someone else for years in a relationship. It’s exhausting for most people to try to please the other person by putting on a facade.

Final Thoughts about Someone Revealing Their True Colors During a Breakup

Sometimes after breaking up, you try to see through the negative behavior to who the person was during the relationship. You try to justify their actions. The truth of the matter is that you have to believe this person when they take off their mask. When they reveal their true selves, believe them. Don’t go back to the good times. These times weren’t real.

When this person was kind to you, yet they were only doing it for their good, it was never truthful. Many people want to believe in the good. Once someone shows you who they are on the inside, don’t go back. It will only hurt you in the end.

Overall, people reveal their true colors during a breakup because everything is stripped away. You might feel as if you lost all of the bright, happy times. But it is up to you to paint a new picture of the future that looks happy and bright.

But always remember–breaking up is a type of loss.

People have their ways of dealing with loss and grief. It’s impossible to change them, so it’s best to move on without them. If you don’t know the true colors of a person from the beginning, it’s only going to end in a storm.

15 Bad Habits That Reveal a Workaholic

April 22, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Being a workaholic is an addiction that steals your life and joy. It is an escape from solving real problems and is rooted in more profound issues. Work addiction prevents you from the identification of the real problem and getting rid of it.

People can see workaholism as an advantage and opportunity for career growth. However, that’s not true. Work addiction prevents a person from achieving success, not only in personal life but also in work. Besides, it can have a deadly and negative impact on their health and other spheres of their life.

Like any other addiction, such as drug or alcohol addictions, you must change the behaviors. Treatment begins from admitting to the problem and development of a detailed strategy on getting rid of the habit.

Before we discuss 15 bad habits of a workaholic, we will give you the first piece of advice: don’t hesitate for a minute; start to learn everything you can about the dangers of being a workaholic and its treatment. We say that because their addiction absorbs workaholics’ minds, and it is a rare occasion when they can even realize that they are in trouble.

Here are 15 habits of workaholics which they need to change as soon as possible:

1. Maintaining an Erratic Sleep Schedule

A workaholic is likely to neglect their sleep. They work more than their work requires, or they find additional occupations for themselves. However, the lack of sleep decreases the performance of an addict and only creates an illusion of productivity.

If you noticed that you have a constant lack of sleep, you should immediately establish a healthy sleep pattern. You strive for 7 to 9 hours of sleep nightly.

You need to forbid yourself from using device screens 1 hour before going to bed. Try to sleep in complete darkness. Don’t allow anything to interrupt your sleep.

2. Improper Nutrition

If you eat fast food on the go, while you are late to somewhere and your head is busy with thoughts about your work, it can end poorly.

In addition to this, a workaholic, probably, doesn’t eat food regularly and in proper time, rather, they eat a lot for one intake. That will reflect on their well-being, through conditions of the liver, stomach, skin, ability to think, and on their weight.

To prevent all those nightmarish consequences, a workaholic must set a meal schedule. It should be no less than 5-6 sessions for food intake, and it should be spread throughout the day evenly.

3. Overworking

Whether the addict works physically, or primarily with their brain, their zeal exhausts them. While a person is young and strong, they are unable to notice their fatigue and therefore do not consider it. Nevertheless, as the years pass, their bodies will give them back the lack of care in the form of pain in bones and muscles, as well as poor performance.

You can avoid this by setting strict restrictions on work duration. According to your new rules, you will work only a certain amount of hours a day.

4. Neglected Appearance

A person that is enslaved by their work routine often doesn’t consider the way they look to the extent that they should. They wear old clothes, and their hairstyles betray their self indifference. Workaholics may want to change only in the case that it becomes an obstacle for completing their working tasks.

This habit can harm a person’s socializing. They should put improving their appearance as one of the steps in the list of things to change to stop being a workaholic.

5. Lack of Socializing

Without enough social interaction, you can fall into depression, and your life will seem meaningless. If you’re in this situation, immediately try to acquire friends or acquaintances.

To have productive and enjoyable relations with people, you need to look for soul-mate people: the ones that share the same interests in life. Your world vision has to be approximately similar.

6. Neglecting Health

Workaholics see themselves as insignificant people. They often think that it’s not a big deal if they die before getting old. They may also think that as soon as they will achieve such heights, that at least they will be able to care about their body.

The truth is that their ability to work effectively will decrease with that attitude. Start to do something to fix it: visit a therapist for a consultation. Or, at least conduct research to find advice on how to maintain your health.

7. They Don’t Reflect on Their Feelings

One of our crucial needs is to reflect on our feelings and understand them. Our psyche speaks with us and can tell us if there is something wrong in our life. It may be that you need to change something or to forgive someone, or, vice versa, to stop relations with someone for your own good.

When you are not sparing any time to sort out your feelings, you may make incorrigible errors in important decisions. Include in your schedule time during which you will spend at least 20 minutes reflecting on your inner self.

8. Neglecting Exercise or Physical Fitness

It is likely that work addicts are not doing enough to stay fit. This is especially true for those who work in the office. However, even if you are working hard as a loader in a grocery store, it doesn’t mean that all groups of your muscles are all right. Also, we shouldn’t forget about cardio exercise and other workouts in which you will develop those muscles that are not exercised while you are lifting boxes.

9. Alcohol, Drugs and Nicotine Addiction

When overloading themselves, people don’t understand that they are not robots by nature. People can’t live without relaxation and relief forever. In that manner, they begin to relax and enjoy in an unnatural way.

To stop using substances it is preferable to seek help with a specialist.

10. Neglecting Intellectual Development

When a person is devoting all their time to one function, they have no time to explore the world, to discover new ideas, or to become more versatile. Soon it will become more noticeable. They think that nothing interests them and that nothing attracts them, except for their work.

They will be deeply frustrated when their profession will not provide them enough novelty. To prevent this, start to read books 30 minutes a day minimum.

11. They Forget To Have Fun

One of our bodily needs is to spend time at ease, forgetting about our problems and laughing. You will be surprised when you see what relief and mood improvement it will give you when you will practice spending time in the atmosphere of fun and jokes, from time to time.

Thus, this strict behavior is not better than other bad habits. Your career is supposed to bring some higher satisfaction to you and others, without sacrificing your comfort. However, if you are a workaholic, you are just mocking yourself.

12. They Forget to Dream

Whey is it important to dream about the future, to imagine different variations of it, and to build plans? It may happen that you don’t really like what you currently do. By imagining yourself growing in the future, you may develop absolutely different plans of action for the following years.

13. Multitasking

While a person tries to complete as many tasks as possible, the quality may suffer. It is not good for your memory either. Don’t fall into a fuss, take only the number of projects that you can complete with quality.

To suppress this bad habit, write your priorities in a journal: what are you are going to do today in the first place, and what will you do after completing the most important tasks.

14. They Do Everything by Themselves

There are numerous benefits in a skill to work in a team. If it is in your family, it gives development to your children and prepares them for mature life. It also strengthens relationships in the family.

When you do everything by yourself, you don’t give your relatives a chance to help you. Additionally, you teach your children to be egotistical.

15. They Accept All Propositions

Something in the head of work addicts makes them see themselves as obligated always to say “yes.” It can even be harmful to their career in various ways. If you say “yes” to one thing, you are going to say “no” to another. That means that you can miss more profitable projects. When you always say “yes”, people will not evaluate you fairly.

Final Thoughts on Avoiding the Bad Habits of a Workaholic

To get rid of an addiction is a difficult task. An addict should want to be successful in recovery. However, don’t hesitate; stop wasting your energy in vain. There are so many things that you can achieve if you will free yourself from that abnormality.

Your loved ones have to support you in these attempts. You should find a good therapist to instruct you in more detail.

If it is not you, but your loved one, who needs help, you have to be patient. They can become irritated when you are trying to bring them back to real life. Your close one escaped the real world for a reason. However, if you manage to help them, they will be grateful to you in the future.

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