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How to Go Where No Mind Has Gone Before

Here are three important questions for you to consider. How can you expand on what you are now capable of doing and break free of your limitations? How can you fulfill all of your hopes and dreams? Finally, how can you go where no mind has gone before?

The mind is powerful and it has enormous untapped potential. Below, we’ll talk about how you can tap into this wellspring of knowledge and information within your mind, and use it to understand yourself a little better.

3 Ways You Can Go Where No Mind Has Gone Before

1 – Use Your Mind and Your Imagination

“Of course, in order to play, you’ve got to have an imagination. Do you know what the imagination is? . . . The imagination is a place all by itself, a separate country. You’ve heard of the British nation and the French nation. Now this is the Imagination.” – Kris Kringle, Miracle on 34th Street.

Right now, you can be anyone, anywhere in the world, just by remembering to use the creative power of your imagination.

We literally have the power to create whole worlds within our minds. As adults, we often set aside this incredible power to create our own world. Creativity is within us if we can allow ourselves to think beyond what we know to be true about ourselves.

According to The Oxford Handbook of the Development of Imagination, it is children’s lack of experience that allows them to create an original interpretation of their world. The authors also say that although the capability of creating original interpretations of our world, or creativity, is in every one of us, the capacity is not always engaged.

Take a moment to allow your mind to go where it has not gone in a while by imagining your ideal present moment. What sights, sounds, smells, and physical sensations would you be experiencing right now in that ideal present moment? Now, imagine all of your limiting thoughts and beliefs about yourself disappearing. Imagining away with your imagination can take your mind further than you have allowed yourself to go before.

2 – Astral Travel

Don Miguel Ruiz, co-author of The Fifth Agreement: A Practical Guide to Self-Mastery, has said that it is possible to leave the physical body and travel outside of ourselves. In an interview about the experience, Don Miguel Ruiz says the following:

“I knew that I was not my physical body. I experienced myself as a force that moves the physical body. A force that is hard to talk about, but we can see its results and manifestation in everything. It is this force that opens the flowers and it is the same force that moves the stars and moves the atoms. That is what I am and what you are.”

The mere possibility of the fact that we can learn how to leave our physical bodies, means that what we think of as our ‘self,’ exists separately from our bodies. The location of our conscious mind has not yet been discovered. The essence of what makes you, you, including your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values, experiences, dreams and all the non-visible parts of your past, present and future are not limited by your physical form.

Scientists conducted an unusual experiment where participants watched a video of themselves being interviewed from the interviewer’s perspective while being touched throughout the video. The combination of the ‘observer’ perspective combined with the sensation of physical touch made the subjects feel as if they were having an out of body experience. The researchers call this an out of body illusion, not a ‘real’ experience.

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Cleanse your mind with these gemstones and crystals.

3 – Your Mind Is Self-Healing

No one would choose to suffer from an illness or a painful prognosis. It is possible, however, that we have failed to choose to not suffer. For an example of this, consider that the body language, facial expression, and words that we convey for our suffering.

These things are all a choice that we can display when we may need empathy from another person. In other words, when we experience pain, we can also choose to continue to smile, to warmly greet others and not show the pain to the outside world. If we make a choice to suffer then, why not choose to not suffer?

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A Letter To The One Who Loves Me

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.”  Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook 

To The One Who Loves Me:

We met not so long ago, but it feels as though I have known you forever. You know every crevice and crack in my soul, and you don’t judge me for the secrets I hide. You celebrate me. And you encourage me to celebrate myself. You help lift me up on my darkest days and rejoice with me on the brightest. We haven’t had it easy in this life, but we march on bravely despite what we’ve been up against, and I wouldn’t want to walk through the storms with anyone else by my side.

You and I have our differences, but I think who we are, at our very core, is the same person. That’s why we get along so well, because our hearts beat to the same rhythm, and dance the same dance. We appear strong on the surface but have turbulent seas within us that rock us from one extreme to another. We have a passion, a fire in our souls that no one could ever put out, and I hope you know how special that is.

I’m complicated, but so are you, and the fact that you want to understand me on such a deep level makes me feel safe, comforted, and like I belong somewhere. Like I can finally let my hair down and stop putting on a show for the world. You make me feel as though I am enough, but yet make me want to become better all the same.

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You don’t ever put me down or make me feel as though I can’t accomplish something; no matter what I want in life, you stand by me and cheer me on. No one gets me like you do, and that’s why I chose you. Somehow I knew we would have a connection before I even talked to you; I guess you’d call that my intuition speaking to me. For a while I didn’t believe in such things anymore, but I can’t just turn my back to the obvious. I also knew the road ahead would be very difficult, and test you and I both in ways we couldn’t imagine. Yet, we’re still standing, stronger than ever before.

My heart has been broken and bruised in the past; it’s seen tragedy, betrayal, heartache, and grief. It’s felt the pain of loss, the emptiness of being alone, the hollowness that makes up one’s soul once they see the truth in this life, and the frustration of being “different” than others. My heart is still a mess, but you’ve helped clean it up a little bit. You’ve showed it what true love means – what unconditional love feels like.

I never knew someone could love me as much as you, and I will never take that for granted.

You’ve helped reassure me that it’s perfectly okay to be me, even though I beat myself up a lot of the time for it. I somehow never felt enough for anyone, even myself. I never felt funny enough, smart enough, outgoing enough, pretty enough, capable enough. Well, I think you get the idea. But then you came along. You showed me all the wonderful parts of myself that I mostly overlooked until we met. And I see all the great things in you, too, even though you yourself don’t always see them.

I think we met to show ourselves that we have a place on this Earth, and we deserve to be here. We met to help ourselves heal from living in a cruel world and to walk together in victory as we put our demons to rest.

lovesSensitive souls like us need to stick together

We have amazing gifts to offer the world and I think being together can help us uncover how to reveal those gifts to others.

Obviously, you know by now that I’m much better at writing how I feel than saying it to you.  I always jumble my words and lose their meaning in the process of trying to speak them. But, I just felt like writing you a love letter to explain my deepest thoughts about you, and hopefully put a big smile on your face. I just love it when you smile. 🙂

Sources: my heart.

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Who Should You Date, According to Your Horoscope?

Have you ever wondered who would make your ideal partner? A horoscope can often reveal the characteristics and personality traits of zodiac signs. Knowing a person’s qualities and features can give you an idea of compatibility to help you determine if you are compatible with someone. Many people believe that some signs are more compatible than others.

While some people are skeptical when it comes to a horoscope, others believe that it’s very accurate. However, according to recent data suggests that the principles of astrology are proven to be scientific.

You can have fun reading about a person’s horoscope and which signs best suit you. Additionally, you can utilize the information as a tool to help you find the perfect mate.

Aries

The Aries is most compatible with: Leo, Sagittarius, Gemini, and Aquarius. Sometimes Libra is a good match, but this sign is opposite Aries.

Aries is a Cardinal Fire sign, and the Ram represents them. Fire signs are more outspoken and like to take the lead. They are also independent, enthusiastic, and adventurous. When you date an Aries, you will quickly find out that they wish to be in control. This determination makes it very challenging for other cardinal signs like Libra, Capricorn, and Cancer to date them.

The best matches are air signs and fire signs. The air signs Gemini and Aquarius stimulate and feed the fire. Other fire signs such as Sagittarius and Leo keep the relationship exciting.

Sometimes Aries and Libra are a good match. There will be a lot of magnetism because opposites attract. However, there will have to be plenty of compromising with both individuals.

Taurus

Taurus is most compatible with: Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer, and Pisces.

The Taurus is a Fixed Earth sign, and the Bull serves as their symbol. This sign is practical and very stubborn. If you date a Taurus, you will soon discover that they do not want to budge on their beliefs or ideas. However, they are very loyal and dependable.

The best mate for a Taurus is another earth sign. Others who share the earth element are Virgo and Capricorn. Water signs are also a good match for Taurus. Although water and earth together can be challenging, the love connection is often indisputable.

Pairing two Taurus individuals may be a bit tricky. Both individuals may be too stubborn and create more friction than it is worth. However, their relationship could be a blessing if they can maintain a little bit of excellence and compromise.

Gemini

Gemini is most compatible with: Libra, Aquarius, Leo, and Aries.

The Gemini is a Mutable Air sign. The Twins symbolize this star sign. When compared to other mutable signs, the Gemini horoscope compatibility love matches are not as laid back or straightforward. In truth, Gemini’s often date more than one person at a time because they get bored quickly. If you’re dating a Gemini, keep in mind that they continuously need intellectual stimulation; otherwise, they wander. Gemini’s also like to do everything together.

A Gemini is intelligent, witty, and thoughtful. They pair well with another air or fire sign. An air sign such as Libra or Aquarius will give them the intellectual stimuli that they crave. A fire sign such as Leo or Aries will stimulate their ideas.

Sometimes Gemini and Sagittarius make a good pair. On a date, both are very flexible and able to adapt to change. As well, both signs are interested in collecting knowledge. However, these two signs are the opposite. Both parties need their freedom. To balance their independence can be rather tricky.

Cancer

The Cancer horoscope sign is most compatible with: Pisces, Scorpio, Taurus, and Virgo.

Cancer is a Cardinal Water sign, and the Crab represents them. Cancers are very emotional and sensitive. And like a crab, they quickly put up walls and hide behind a shell. This sign needs someone who is a homebody and will be emotionally supportive. Cancers are also very nurturing and loyal when they are in a loving relationship.

The ideal mate for a Cancer is another water sign. Pisces and Scorpio understand the emotional depths of a Cancer. Two water signs together create a lot of passion. Cancer is also compatible with an earth sign such as Taurus and Virgo. Earth signs offer a lot of emotional support and grounding. Both earth signs will be reliable and reassuring, especially a Taurus.

Leo

Leo is most compatible with: Aries, Sagittarius, Gemini, and Libra.

The Leo is a Fixed Fire sign. The Lion represents this star sign. When they walk into a room, they always have center stage. Even when Leo tries to hide, everyone still notices them.

This sign is one that stands out from all the rest of the zodiac. Astrologers suggest that a person’s birth can have long-term effects on personality. In this case, Leo’s pizazz fits the bill. They are definitely a fun date.

Leos are loyal, charismatic, and incredibly romantic. This romantic lover pairs well with another fire sign or an air sign. An Aries or Sagittarius is an excellent match for a Leo. The pairing of fire signs creates a lot of passion and immense dedication to each other. Leo and an air sign like Libra or Gemini can be very rewarding. However, Leo and Gemini can have trouble communicating, which may lead to arguments.

On the other hand, Leo and Libra together make a fantastic pair. Libras enjoy receiving love and attention from their dates. Likewise, the Libra is always attentive and caring and will stoke the Leos ego when needed.

Virgo

Virgo is most compatible with: Taurus, Capricorn, Cancer, and Scorpio.

The Virgo is a Mutable Earth sign. The Virgin represents this sign. When you read a Virgo’s horoscope, you will find that they are somewhat analytical, hard-working, and have exceptionally high standards. When they marry, they will marry for life. They are also quite selective when it comes to dating and strive for perfection. Frankly, they are happy by themselves. Also, Virgo is very introverted.

On the whole, Virgos match well with an Earth or Water sign. Earthy Taurus and Capricorn are more planned and scheduled and not very spontaneous – these are traits a Virgo looks for. Water signs also make a good partner for Virgo. The emotional water of Cancer and Scorpio brings intensity and passion to the relationship.

Libra

The Libra is most compatible with: Gemini, Aquarius, Leo, and Sagittarius.

Libra is a Cardinal Air sign, and the Scales symbolize them. They are a very friendly sign that needs stimulation intellectually. Indeed, a Libra pairs best with someone they can talk with for hours.

The ideal date for a Libra is romantic and stimulating. They also demand harmony in a relationship. Libra needs balance. Besides, this sign likes to be “in the driving seat.”

The best mate for a Libra is a Fire sign. A Leo or Sagittarius will keep them stimulated and romantically inviting. Another air sign is also a good match. Gemini and Aquarius are great at having stimulating conversations.

Sometimes an Aries is a good match for Libra. Since opposites attract, there can be a lot of passion. However, the desire can quickly fizzle out, leaving only frustration and pessimism between the two.

Scorpio

The person born of the Scorpio sign is most compatible with: Cancer, Pisces, Virgo, and Capricorn.

Scorpio is a Fixed Water sign. The Scorpion symbolizes the sign. The love of a Scorpio individual is very passionate and intense. Their partner must have the same capacity as their emotional intensity. Otherwise, they do not feel satisfied.

Scorpions can be very intense with their philosophy or religion. They are often the Fortune-tellers or mystics and sometimes even a priest. According to Astrologer, there are many skeptics in the world when it comes to the zodiac. However, Scorpios are generally not one of them.

The best match for a Scorpio is another water sign, either Cancer or Pisces. A water sign is a counter-balance for the Scorpion’s intense emotions and intuitive disposition. Water signs also like to relax in a quiet romantic setting, which will establish tight bonds between individuals. Also, an earth sign is compatible with a Scorpio. Both Virgo and Capricorn will allow Scorpio to take the lead and will understand and be patient with their dominance.

Sagittarius

The Sagittarius is most compatible with: Aries, Leo, Libra, and Aquarius.

Sagittarius is a Mutable Fire sign. The Centaur represents this sign. Those born under this star are fun-loving, adventurous, and very independent. They are the bachelors and bachelorettes of the zodiac. In truth, they are not known for their fidelity. However, once they fall in love, they are wholly committed. Yet again, they will quickly leave if you try to stifle their independence and freedom.

A date with a Sagittarius is very adventurous, intellectually stimulating, and fun. People quickly fall in love with their exceptional ability to romance and charm. Sagittarians pair well with fire signs – Aries and Leo. The Aries individual loves the challenge of a Sagittarius. Leo also likes adventure and freedom.

The Archer or Centaur pairs well with the air signs because of the intellectual stimulation. An Aquarian and Sagittarius together are too casual and will typically drift apart. However, the best match for a Sagittarians is a Libra. They both love their freedom, like interacting with other people, and need to discover new things. Besides, their humor aligns perfectly.

Capricorn

The Capricorn soul is most compatible with: Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, and Pisces.

Capricorn is the cardinal Earth sign. The Goat represents them. Those individuals born of this sign are hard workers, responsible, and very organized. When it comes to dating, Capricorns are cautious and very particular. Their horoscope clearly shows that they don’t like lazy people and want to be with someone responsible.

The best match for a Capricorn is an earth sign. Both Taurus and Virgo are compatible with the Goat. The practical Capricorn needs the other earth signs because they are also organized and grounded.

Water signs are also a good match for the goat. The emotions of a water sign can soften the pressure Capricorns put on themselves. A Scorpio and Pisces have a connection with a Capricorn to make a healthy and loving relationship.

Aquarius

This sign is most compatible with: Gemini, Libra, Aries, and Sagittarius.

Aquarius is a Fixed Air sign, and the Water Bearer symbolizes them. Aquarians are free spirits, intellectual, and creative. Aquarians also love their independence and freedom. The Water Bearer desires someone who is very independent. However, they also want to know that the other person is always there for them. In turn, Aquarians love to be attached, yet they don’t want others to be wholly reliant upon them.

When it comes to compatibility, Aquarians pair best with other air signs, Gemini and Libra spark the Water Bearer’s intellect and keep things interesting. As well, fire signs keep the Aquarian entertained and energized. Both Aries and Sagittarius have a great imagination and are very stimulating.

Pisces

This sign is most compatible with: Cancer, Scorpio, Taurus, and Capricorn.

Pisces is a Mutable Water sign. The Fish represents them. Those born under this star are emotional, sensitive, and very complex. The Fish spends a lot of time in “the clouds” daydreaming and fantasizing. Pisces often think about their “dream” love or soul mate.

The Pisces horoscope for love is always supportive, compassionate, and sensitive. They are also very intuitive and will always be there for you.

The ideal Pisces match is a water sign–either Cancer or Scorpio. Cancer will be protective, caring, and active in the relationship. A Scorpio will take the lead. They will also generate a dreamy, romantic, and fulfilling relationship with their Pisces mate.

Earth signs are also suitable for a Pisces. A relationship with a Taurus or Capricorn will start slow but will be long-lasting. They are also very supportive of one another.

horoscopeFinal Thoughts on Finding Your Horoscope Love Match

Some people swear that following the stars sends them down the correct life path. Recent data, as indicated earlier, now seem to support the validity of following your horoscope. If you’re looking for your best love match, look to the stars as your guide.

A Thank You Note To My Future Self

Dear Future Self,

Call me old-fashioned, but because in this day and age we have not yet perfected an apparatus in which self-talk throughout the years is possible, I am left with no choice but to write you this quick note.

Self, if there is anything you should do right now, stop and be grateful!

You only have to take a look around you. All this is because of everything I have done in the past and am doing now FOR YOU! Millions would walk thousands of miles to be in your shoes, hungry for the things you enjoy and take for granted.

I want you to know that you mean everything to me, and I am so happy and grateful that I am staying the course, busting a gut, following this path, whatever you want to call it. Also, I continue to grow as a person and change for the better.

I love you with all my heart, self, even if you are just a grey-haired, wrinkly version of me!

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Lest we forget, I am not the only one who has helped you become the person you are today. Thank the others who have shared the joys and problems with you. Where would you be without Dad? Yes, you remember him. He backed you to the hilt when no-one else would. He was not perfect, but he always made sure you were OK in every way.

Mum brought you into this world and has been there from year one.

She did everything for you in the most selfless ways. She sacrificed herself for you in ways you and I will never know. These two people made me who I am now, so I am building on the foundation that they set to make you. I hope they can be proud of us, and I am sure that you feel the same way.

And what about our spouse? Look at our colossal spouse right now. I made some terrible mistakes with this incredibly important person, and still, we did not get divorced. Yes, our spouse is not a saint either, and I, too, had to forgive things that were not acceptable. What happened between our spouse and us no longer matters, neither in my time nor yours.

Some will think we sailed through this life of ours. Naturally, you and I know different, and that is what counts.

Self, the roller coaster has taken us in many different directions, making us dizzy with various emotions attached.

It did not come easy at all; those forehead wrinkles are a testament to that. However, because you are reading this now, you know that we made it happen. And by that, I mean this life of ours. I want you to be proud of my accomplishments and hope that you have learned from my mistakes. Just be smart about things, and be firm in your decisions. Remember to have conviction with your words and actions and apologize for any errors you cause. Most importantly, know in our hearts, that I will always believe in you.

self love and gratitudeAlso, I want you to enjoy these days, months, and years that you have in front of you, just as I planned. As Ralph Waldo Emerson put it quite poignantly,

“Most of the shadows in this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.”

Be thankful for nature, for history, for your team winning for a change, for the sunshine on your face, for another day at the office, for the people in the past who did not make it this far for whatever reason, for the freedoms you enjoy, for great food and drink, for those crazy but sincere friends, for family, for all the experiences and lessons you encountered.

Be grateful for life and all the blessings it brings to you!

With love always to my future self,

Someone You Used To Be

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10 Ways To Deal With An Angry Partner

One of the most destructive human emotions is anger. No matter what you do, you cannot reason with an angry person because they are controlled by emotions instead of logic during that moment. As the person on the receiving end, you might be tempted to respond with anger, but that will only make things worse.

So what do you do? First, be very calm and try to control your emotions, especially if you love that person.

Then, follow these anger management strategies:

1. Be Patient and Don’t Say Anything that Might Fuel your Partner’s Anger

It’s always best to allow your partner to be angry and let it all out. Don’t try to confront them because that will only make them defensive. Instead, listen to everything that they have to say and remain composed as you do so. Your partner’s anger is more likely to subside if they see that you are calm.

2. Make Your Point Known in A Respectful Manner

There are always two sides to every story, and once your partner has finished venting, try to make your partner understand your point in an assertive and respective manner – don’t shout at them or raise your voice. This way, they can also take responsibility for their actions.

3. Make the Communication Constructive

Even as you try to assertively make your point, make sure that the communication is constructive. By constructive, I mean two-sided. In anger management, you should acknowledge your partner’s point of view even if you don’t agree with them. This way, they will know that you were listening, and they’ll be more willing to hear your point of view.

4. Compassion

Anger may be your partner’s way of expressing his or her fears and pain. Although they may not admit it, anger creates a mask that makes them feel powerful and less scared. Out of all the anger management tips, compassion is the best way to handle this situation. Showing love to your partner lets them know that you’ll always be there despite their inner worries.

5. Practice Restraint

If you know that your partner is someone that easily gets angry, you should avoid discussing certain sensitive topics with them. No matter how passionate you are about that subject, sometimes it’s just best to put your partner’s needs before yours and avoid the topic altogether.

6. Know Yourself

Apart from avoiding certain topics, anger management demands that you know yourself. Does your behavior influence your partner’s anger in any way? Find out if there are behaviors that your partner doesn’t like and try to rectify them.

7. Talk When You Are Both Calm

Perhaps you also get angry easily, and you end up fighting with your partner for hours. If that is the case, step aside and allow yourself to calm down. Ask yourself if the anger is worth it. After you calm down, wait for your partner to do the same before you approach them to talk things out.

8. Don’t Try to Control Your Partner

Anger management is about influence, not control. If your partner disagrees with you about a certain point and they get angry, don’t try to change them. Instead, try to explain to them the advantages of your point of view. Be sweet and welcoming as you do this; that way it becomes easy to convince them to support your opinion.

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9. Mind Your Location

Anger management is also influenced by the location. If you find yourselves arguing in an open place such as the parking lot or an arena, be the responsible one and move your partner to a closed location such as a restaurant or a grocery store. Your partner will calm down since people are less likely to misbehave in such places because they don’t want to be embarrassed.

10. Timeout

If the argument goes on and on, and you don’t seem to find a common ground, it may be time to call a timeout and resume the conversation another time. There’s no point entertaining a conversation that goes nowhere. You are better off doing something more productive with that time.

Conclusion

In case you’ve been wondering how to deal with your angry partner, you can use the above anger management tips to handle the situation better and make your relationship last longer.

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Life Goes On (think positive)

Depending upon how old you are, how fast-paced your life is, or even the number of events that have occurred, you may feel as if you have lived several lifetimes and several different lives.  You look back at yourself through various stages and barely recognize the old you.

We tend to break up our timelines based on major changes or shifts in our lives.  When we look back, we see the triggers that created tremendous change in our lives and in our selves.  Those triggers may have been events that happened around us or to us, either as a result of a decision we made or a random coincidence that occurred.

The events at the time may have felt like the bowels of hell were a better alternative or like an entirely new world had embraced you and sprinkled you with fairy dust.  Time takes on a life of its own in the aftermath of such events.  It may fly by like a hawk chasing a mouse or perhaps move slowly, sludging through the thickest mud.   No matter what it felt like, time was still moving forward.  Life goes on, and so do you.

Life Goes On: Think Positive During Challenging Days

life goes on

When we first think of the phrase, “Life goes on,” we might remember those words given upon the passing of a loved one.  This is somehow meant to encourage us to keep living despite the pain of losing someone.  It acts as a reminder that time doesn’t stand still for anyone and it will continue to pass despite you sometimes wishing time itself could just stop.   You want life to stop to give you time to process what has just happened, how you feel, how it affects you, and how everything will be different from here on.

I once attended a seminar regarding the subconscious.  As part of the seminar, one of us was chosen from the audience and asked to sit in a chair on the stage.  We were to think of an event that happened within the last 6 months.  Then, we were asked to close our eyes and imagine wherein our mind’s eye that event occurred.  Next, we were to hold out our hand and put it either in front of us, to the left or right, above or below.  The location depended upon our personal view of where time was stored in our minds.

Then we were to position the hand approximately the distance away from us that we felt the event occurred, as if a dot on a timeline.   After that, we were to imagine an event from several years ago.  Once again, we were to reach our hand out to that invisible timeline. Logic would dictate that the event from 6 months ago would be closer to us than our far past right?  That was not always the case.  If many events had occurred in the last 6 months, it may still be positioned far away from us.  Conversely, if we still dwell on our past of several years ago, we may position it closer to ourselves.

Memories and Emotions

I found it very interesting and telling how our subconscious retains memories in relation to the emotional impact and relativity to our current lives.  In other words, we essentially slow time down when we are deeply affected by something in our lives.  Life around us has gone on, but we slowed our own timeline and stopped moving with it.

Of course, the reverse is also true.  We can speed up our timeline by embracing events and changes in our lives, making even relatively recent events appear to have happened long ago.

Why is this important?   It goes to show the importance of staying in life as much as possible.  Time will drag if we stay in the past and we do not necessarily benefit from that.  When we alter our perception of time, we also alter our perception of reality.  If life stopped for you 10 years ago after the death of a loved one, then everything around you is still based on your knowledge, feelings, and beliefs from 10 years ago.  Information, people, events, and the world have moved 10 years ahead of you.

People are meant to move forward with time – to grow, change, and experience life.

Embracing changes in life

Unfortunately, the brain is averse to change.  Every time you feel uncomfortable about something new, that is your brain thinking it needs to protect you from something it does not know, which also means that once you do that “unknown” action repeatedly, your brain learns it is safe and will stop giving you that uncomfortable feeling.   This is why you can even become comfortable with negative circumstances that might currently make you feel miserable.

How can we learn to embrace change so our life can go on in a happy, healthy way?

1. Recognize when your brain is telling you something that isn’t the truth.

For example, you’ve told yourself that you want to start working out.  On the day you are about to start, suddenly your brain is flooding you with a bunch of excuses.  “You don’t have enough time, too many things to get done, you’re too tired, etc.”

Realistically, you can do a simple 30-minute workout and it won’t impact your day that much.  As a matter of fact, it has been proven that people are more productive and have more energy on days they exercise than on days they don’t.

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2. Focus on the positive in your life.

Oftentimes, we train ourselves to focus on the negatives regarding a change rather than the positives.  If you have decided to eat healthier, you can choose to focus on how much you miss the cheeseburgers and fries, or you can tell yourself how much more alert you feel after eating chicken with rice and vegetables.  You can tell yourself how much better your body feels having beneficial nutrition in it rather than processed ingredients.

This can also be reinforced by giving yourself something positive afterward.  Every time you eat a healthy meal, you can reward yourself with $5.00 toward the new wardrobe you are going to need.

3. Self-Talk or Affirmations.

Talk nicely to yourself.  Tell yourself something positive, such as, “I am going to finish this report today and it will be the best report my boss sees this month.”  It’s important that you don’t word it as, “I am not going to procrastinate doing this report.”  What the brain will focus on is “I am” and “procrastinate,” whereas in the first example, it will remember “I am” and “finish.”

4. Discipline your mind.

Meditation, prayer, and visualization have proven to strengthen the mind.  Forcing your mind to quiet down or focus on an image or desire creates a form of self-discipline which automatically teaches your brain to look for those triggers to achieve the level of happiness you felt when you thought of them.

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5. Do something a little different every day.

We mostly operate on routine.  We get up, stumble to the bathroom, brush our teeth, make coffee, and sit down first thing in the morning.  Change it up.  Maybe get up and jump in the shower first; or start the coffee pot and then go to the bathroom. Or, take a cold shower instead of a warm one.   Drive a different route to work or say hi to someone in the elevator that you don’t know instead of looking at your phone.  These are small changes that allowour brains to become accustomed to that uncomfortable feeling while breaking up our mindless routine.

6. Accept the change that occurred beyond your control.

A lot of people believe they need to control everything; when something happens beyond their control, they grow distraught.  They believe there must have been something they could’ve done to prevent it.  That is not always true.

You cannot and should not control everything. You can’t control your friends, children, or partner, for instance.  Yes, you can make them feel bad or guilt them into doing what you feel is best for them.  Yet, they may still go behind your back to do it anyway.

We try to teach our children to study and do their homework.  They may choose to not do it and fail a class.  There was nothing more you could do. It was their decision.  People are responsible for their own decisions.

Another example is if you were in a car accident.  You were driving the correct speed, looking at the road without any distractions but suddenly a car darted in front of your car and you hit it.  You were doing everything you could do to be a safe driver, yet it happened anyhow.

Things happen in life and there is only so much control we have.  The sooner you realistically accept that fact, the faster you can move on and accept changes that occur in your life.

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Life goes on.  Regardless of how you choose to live your life, you will be affected by people and events in your life, whether they are good or bad. The more we train our brains to not fear change, the better we go on with our own lives and experience them to the fullest.

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