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Psychologists Share Tips on How to Bounce Back from Failure

December 11, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Failure is a constant in life. In the midst of it, however, those who fall short often forget this reality and dismiss the idea that they can bounce back.

Culture values success. Those who conquer challenges large and small gain the respect and admiration of peers and loved ones. This recognition, in turn, boosts self-esteem and spurs people on to more significant tasks. Yet just as momentum drives achievement, defeat also has an impetus of its own.

Athletes tell of “the agony of defeat.” Losing hurts, especially after long hours of preparation, training, and emotional investment. Whatever the goal–athletic or otherwise–people who fail understandably wonder whether all the expended effort was worth it. Turning things around is harder when such doubt creeps in.

Still, both documented and anecdotal evidence demonstrates that people bounce back from failure all the time. Psychologists who make a practice of measuring, predicting, and adjusting human behavior know this. Furthermore, they know the strategies and tactics that reverse the emotional direction from decline to uplift.

How Failure Feeds Itself

When an athlete, employee, student, or artist does not hit their projected mark, personality, and temperament largely determine whether a further failure will follow. The Harvard Business Review cites three broad psychological categories that most people fit when dealing with frustration:

extrapunitive
impunitive
intropunitive

Extrapunitive — Blaming Others

The financial collapse of Lehman Brothers in 2008 and the rupture of the British Petroleum oil pipeline in 2010are recent episodes that revealed extrapunitive behavior on the part of company CEOs. Both assailed other parties for their respective disasters, yet both possessed histories of bad decision-making. Most instances of this behavior are not so infamous. Meanwhile, a group of Japanese scientists reported in 2014 that this conduct could at least in part be biologically based.

Intropunitive — Self-Condemnation

The opposite sort of thinking, though just as destructive, is defaulting to blaming self. No matter what the variables or mitigating factors, intropunitive types judge themselves severely and even imagine failures where none occur. This blame is marked by anger and antipathy. Just as an extrapunitive person is blind to his or her role in a poor outcome, the intropunitive character misses external reasons for the same breakdown. Without a broader perspective, it is difficult to bounce back.

Impunitive — Living in Denial

The impunitive character refuses to recognize failure, or else refuses to acknowledge a role in it. Like the ostrich with its head in the sand (a myth, by the way), the impunitive individual neither blames himself or others but keeps a safe distance from the problem.

Psychologists hypothesize that doing so reduces the dissonance caused by conflict. In so doing, the impunitive personality allows the battle to continue…along with the spiral of defeat. Unwillingness to talk about a violent assault or another form of victimization can sometimes reflect an impunitive mindset.

Such responses can serve as natural coping mechanisms. Nevertheless, they inhibit the resolution of conflicts.

Psychologists’ Tips to Break Cycles of Defeat

1 – Cultivate Relationships

Common among these three patterns of response is some degree of self-centeredness, i.e., protecting self or attacking self. Either way, they distort the path out of perpetual decline. More relationships and deeper ones help people to see the world beyond their narrow self-interest.

Insofar as these reactions come about under stress, a strong network of friends helps to see difficult situations in proper perspective. Researchers of these matters learned that broader and deeper friendships lessen the destructive triggers of stress, allowing people to bounce back from defeat better.

2 – Cultivate Awareness

Whatever the neurological or social causes behind chronic lack of success, an excellent first step is to pay attention. Psychotherapist Nancy Colier notes that extrapunitive behavior can begin as a natural reaction to injustice. Yet it can subsequently morph into an abnormal obsession with finger-pointing.

She tells the story in Psychology Today of a client who, while driving his daughter to a sporting event, was falling behind in getting her there on time. His emotional reflex was to place the responsibility for their delay on her — time-wasting, lack of hustle, etc. Digging deeper, Colier discovered that the father feared that in making his daughter late, he had failed and disappointed her. He would not — could not — confess such a possibility.

Not until his self-image was clarified and strengthened could the father look honestly at his role in the lateness episode. The emotional work he had to do, including paying attention to his impulse to blame. While it takes time, discovering the emotions behind extrapunitive outbursts make it easier to bounce back from setbacks.

3 – Face the Fear

Many psychologically-based dysfunctions, especially those that perpetuate failure, have their roots in fear. The resolute denial of any responsibility so frequent among impunitive personalities is one such example, where fear of exposed mistakes all but guarantees more in the future.

Still, fear of the unknown can cause more angst than fear of loss, according to research published in the Journal of Biological Psychiatry. The 2016 findings conclude that risk aversion is often stronger than avoidance of pain or injury. The resulting desire to control the outcome leads to one of the three behavior patterns noted above. Each of them prevents success.

Fear of the unknown regularly asserts itself when negativity is dominant. To bounce back from negative dominance is to shout down the destructive internal voices that demand perfection and scorn human fallibility. Taking the initiative in spite of fearing, it causes the negativity to recede as confidence grows. This is especially true for intropunitive types. To be sure, doing this calls for firm intention and resolve. The results are well worth it.

The signers of the American Declaration of Independence knew they were setting themselves up for targeting by British authorities. Keeping the reward for their boldness at the front of their thoughts allowed them to follow through despite their fears. The rest, as they say.

4 – Examine Cynical Assumptions

Those who do not recover from setbacks are many times plagued by faulty thinking. True, at school, the workplace, the playing field, and other venues, there will always be a person or group eager to capitalize on the mistakes of another. Yet to assume this of everyone is a massive mistake in and of itself. In fact, the ability to trust others is central to earning lasting confidence from the same. Writing in Forbes magazine, psychiatrist Prudy Gourguechon lists ways that trust makes workers into leaders.

Among its virtues, trust:

Enables one to delegate
Helps to create mutual loyalty
Enhances the communication of a strategic vision
Helps when receiving criticism and acting on it
Equips a leader in equipping others

In this way, moving from cynicism to trust empowers people to bounce back from errors that come from the isolation and suspicion sometimes characteristic of the very sensitive. Dr. Gourguechon reminds her readers that there should be a limit to the degree to which one extends trust. If betrayed, the leader must always retain the capacity for trust nonetheless: “She must be able to recover from disappointments in the realm of trust without a shift in basic attitude.”

5 – The Bright Side Is the Best Side

Like trust, optimism can go too far, yet it is essential to turning a problematic scenario around. Without the ability to see positive outcomes while circumstances are in disarray, success can elude anyone. Dr. Alex Lickerman studies the mindsets of optimism versus pessimism. Citing sports performance subjects, he makes the case that confidence is not genetic, but a learned trait: “training male basketball players to attribute positive results—for example, making a free throw—to their ability and negative results to their lack of effort was found to improve their subsequent performance significantly.”

To bounce back from chronic pessimism begins with quieting the mind and focusing on a goal. Harvard psychologists Daniel T. Gilbert and Matthew A. Killingsworth wrote in 2010 a journal article in Science entitled “A Wandering Mind Is an Unhappy Mind.” The title says it all, suggesting that time for meditation and quiet can induce a more positive outlook.

Want more inspiration? Here are quotes about how to bounce back from failure.

Final Thoughts on How to Bounce Back from Failure

Persistent cycles of failure are not inevitable. Breaking them mandates changes in the way people think — about themselves, others around them, and new strategies that may be uncomfortable to adopt. Whatever the way individuals deal with setbacks, only sober analysis, and the courage to change will prompt recovery.

Learning to cast a positive vision, trust to those who give no reason not to, and to spend time reflecting on and correcting personal thought disorders recreates the future for the better. To lose now and then is a certainty. Winning is up to us.

10 Ways to Never Let Negative People Influence You

December 11, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately known that you’d interrupted something terrible, like a fight or a generally bad mood? That’s how powerful negative thoughts and feelings can be. So if you’re around negative people, it can be detrimental to your mental and physical wellbeing.

Luckily, there are ways to block out the negativity and focus on staying positive, happy, and healthy. Better yet, it’s easier than it seems! All you need is a good heart, determination to stay happy, and the desire to rise above the mess and chaos of someone else’s negativity.

Here Are 10 Ways To Never Let Negative People Influence You

1. Don’t Focus On What Others Think Of You

People will think about anything they like, and you can’t control their thoughts. Sure, you can be a good person and perform actions that others will like, but there will still be those who dislike you, sometimes for no reason you can discern.

Negative people tend to lean towards disliking others, or finding fault in them, for wrong reasons. As such, if negative people surround you, they will likely be judgemental of you. You have to ignore them.

Emotional detachment sounds like a bummer, but it’s the best way to avoid being dragged down by negative people. Besides, your self-esteem should never be tied to other people, what they think of you, and how they feel about you. That is an unhealthy way to live, and you need to be secure enough in your self to ignore those who aren’t being constructive.

2. Know That This Is Not Your Fault

It’s easy to feel at fault when a negative person is around you and making you feel bad, or when they are fishing for sympathy. But it’s never your fault when a negative person does these things. Their perspectives, opinions, and ideologies are entirely their responsibility, and it’s not your burden to bear to change their minds.

When a negative person consistently acts in this way around you, it’s their problem, not yours. In fact, you might as well entirely ignore them or offer a sympathetic smile before carrying on with your day. Don’t let yourself get dragged into self-criticism; opt for positive thinking and spiritual separation from the issues a negative person brings up.

But why do negative people do this? It is often due to an inability for them to comprehend their self-esteem issues, leading to a lack of understanding that prompts them to project their problems on everyone else. Again, don’t take it personally. It’s on them.

3. Don’t Just React

It’s easy to get angry when negative people are around you. They have a lot of nasty, questionable, and eyeroll-worthy things to say, often for attention or as a coping mechanism. But when you react to them impulsively, you only feed into the negativity.

We know just how difficult it can be to control those automatic emotions. But are negative people worth that effort from you? (They aren’t!) So take a deep breath. Count to ten. Tune out the negative person’s speech as you do so if necessary.

Then, identify the emotion causing your anger. Putting a name to a feeling often makes it more understandable, allowing you to conquer it. You can then react instead in a more proactive way by:

Smiling and nodding
Excusing yourself to return to work
Putting a positive spin on what they say
Making a gentle joke about it
Flat-out ignoring them

4. Look For Solutions, Not Problems

The most common trait that all negative people share is their constant insistence on pessimism, even in the best circumstances. You can only imagine, then, what happens in adverse situations! Negative people have no desire to see silver linings – they’re too focused on the dark clouds.

To be free from negative influence, you just have to do the opposite. Don’t look at all the problems and build them up until they’re overwhelming in your head. Break them down into small, easy-to-process chunks. Then, once you’ve made sense of them, shift your focus entirely. Stop thinking about the problems. Think about the possible solutions.

This is important not just for unexpected incidents, but when dealing with negative people in general. Don’t focus on how stressful they are to be around – find a way to take polite leave of the situation so you can be right out of there.

5. Manage Your Time and Attention

Someone who is negative can take up a lot of your time and effort. Not only do they bog down in-person situations, but your stress over dealing with them can live on in your thoughts long after you’ve left their vicinity.

Managing your attention and time so as not to give too much of it to negativity is crucial. The more time you spend being negative, the less positive thinking you can maintain. If a negative person is taking up too much of your time in person, you can:

Give them lackluster responses to disinterest them
Mention that you’re busy and offer a rain check
Excuse yourself and leave
Politely decline invitations to hang out together
If you find yourself thinking or stressing out too much over a negative person, try to:
Distract yourself with other things
Name several things you are grateful for
Refrain from complaining about them to others

6. Change Topics To Light Ones

Is a particular topic turning into quite the downer? Switch it up and make it lighter! Sometimes all a conversation needs to be pushed in the right direction is a little bit of positive energy. You can do this by:

Turning the situation into a lighthearted one through tone and posturing
Bringing up the positive sides of the issue at hand
Telling a joke
Using a smooth segue, like “That reminds me!” or “Speaking of which…”
Joking with the person in a friendly way (works best if you know the person well!)

Of course, this doesn’t work on all negative people. Many of them find contentment in using negativity as a response to any inkling of something positive. But some people get cynical about specific topics and revert to “normalcy” once you change the subject, and others may be distracted by your robust and happy energy.

7. Pick Your Thoughts and Attitude

Negativity and positivity are all about how you think and what you feel. As such, if you learn to get in touch with these aspects of yourself, you may be able to stand above a negative crowd. Here are three ways that you can try doing so.

· Choose Your Attitude

You get to decide how your attitude is for the day. If you let yourself feel gloomy and glum all day because of a few negative people, you’re choosing a bad approach that will ultimately cause a sharp decrease in positive thinking.

· Use Affirmations or Mantras

Positive affirmations and mantras are lovely. Essentially, you pick a specific phrase and repeat it to yourself over and over again until you begin to believe it and feel it for real.

· Be Aware Of Thoughts

When a negative person starts to get to you, pay extra attention to the way your thoughts begin to shift. What tends to trigger your most negative responses? How can you avoid them? How can you make these thoughts better and refocus them?

8. Understand That You Can’t Change People

People can change, but other people can’t change them. You can try to educate or help those around you gently, but at the end of the day, they are the ones who decide whether they change or not. And, chances are, until they recover from whatever is causing them to be so negative, that change is not going to happen.

Just be the best version of yourself and let go of any feelings of obligation towards negative people. You don’t owe them any assistance, and most of the time, they don’t seem to want it! Focus on yourself and the people in your life who are more positive.

Yes, it sounds harsh. But negative people are people. They’re human and full of complexity and flaws. Accepting these sides of them and setting boundaries as needed, so they don’t drain you is all you have to do. Be kind, and the rest will follow.

9. Don’t Tie Yourself To Perfection

Perfectionism is a pointless ideology. But when you’re around negative people, that can feel like it’s all they want. They’re so critical of themselves and everyone around them that it may rub off on you, and you may begin to strive for that impossible standard.

High levels of perfectionism have a link to depression, anxiety, and other non-positive circumstances, according to science — this likely because this is a very unattainable target. Human beings are inherently flawed, and that’s valid; perfection does not determine anyone’s value.

There is no way to achieve perfection, so instead, be the best version of yourself that you can be! Always strive to improve yourself and be better. Don’t let negative people trick you into believing that anything less than perfect is unacceptable. The more you grow, the more you’ll realize that you’re beautiful, just as you are.

10. Look For Positive People

Lots of negative people in your life? It’s time for you to question why that’s the case! Instead, go out of your way to find people who are positive, supportive, understanding, and encouraging.

Does this mean you may have to cut off some friends or whittle your friend list down significantly? Maybe. But studies show that having a smaller number of terrific friends is much better for positive health and wellbeing than having many mediocre friends. So don’t be ashamed of just having two or three people you can trust. Size never matters in a support system.

Final Thoughts on Freeing Yourself of the Influence of Negative People

Negative people can be challenging to filter out. They tend to be very loud and open about their feelings, even to the extent of accidentally harming other people. But with these tips and tricks, you’ll be able to reduce their influence on you significantly, allowing you to live a better, happier life.

8 Red Flags That Reveal a Toxic Liver

December 11, 2019 by Power of Positivity

The liver is a vital organ. Located in the upper right-hand part of the abdomen, it is the largest organ in the body. It’s comprised of two dark reddish-brown lobes.

Think of this organ as a chemical factory. Nutrients absorbed from the digestive tract then metabolize thanks to this football-sized organ. Later, they release into the general circulation. The liver also metabolizes toxins, either ingested or produced by the body. Finally, it manufactures many essential molecules that release into the blood, like clotting factors.

What Causes a Toxic Liver?

Most people never think about their liver. It just quietly goes about its business, never hurting or drawing any attention to itself. The liver has impressive regenerative capacities. In fact, it can re-grow an entirely new organ from just a small fragment of itself.

However, some chronic conditions can, over time, damage the organ to the point it begins to fail. Although the classic symptom of a toxic liver is jaundice (turning yellow), this hepatic dysfunction only happens when the condition is relatively advanced.

Common causes of hepatic damage

Hepatitis or other infection
Autoimmune conditions
Iron buildup from hemochromatosis
Cancers
Chronic heavy drinking
Chronic exposure to toxins such as those found in some dietary supplements
Nonalcoholic fatty liver disease (NAFLD)

Most people have heard of all of these conditions except the last one, NAFLD. However, NAFLD is becoming increasingly common in western societies and is currently the number one cause of chronic hepatic dysfunction in the US. It is characterized by a buildup of fat in the hepatocytes. Its roots are not entirely clear, but it links to obesity, high blood sugar, and high levels of triglycerides in the blood.

NAFLD can progress to nonalcoholic steatohepatitis (NASH), which in turn can progress to cirrhosis and complete organ failure. Advanced symptoms of NASH include abdominal swelling, enlarged, visible blood vessels, jaundice, and red palms.

Another often overlooked cause of hepatic dysfunction is dietary supplements. Many people make the huge mistake of thinking “natural=safe,” which is very untrue. For example, the death cap mushroom is as natural as you can get, but if you consume it, it will irreversibly destroy your organs. Some popular dietary supplements known to cause hepatic damage include:

Kava
Pennyroyal oil
Comfrey
Mistletoe
Valerian
Chaparral
Skullcap
Ma-huang

Commonly overlooked symptoms of a toxic liver

1. Itchy skin

If your skin is always itchy and you can’t figure out why, then consider the possibility of a toxic liver. One of the functions of the liver is to get rid of bile salts via the gall bladder. However, if this is not proceeding smoothly, bile salts can accumulate in the skin and make it feel itchy. Of course, many other health conditions can cause itchy skin. Therefore, your doctor needs to investigate the cause thoroughly.

2. Bad breath

Most cases of bad breath arise from problems in the mouth, sinuses, or ears. Sometimes you suffer from this embarrassing condition due to your diet (aka, onion or garlic breath). “Normal” bad breath is referred to as halitosis. Fetor hepaticus is the technical term for a particularly nasty, putrid smell to the breath that originates in your lungs.

Due to the hepatic dysfunction, toxins can build up in your body and expel through your lungs through every exhalation. Many sufferers describe the odor as a combination of rotten eggs and garlic or as a sweetish putrid smell, similar to rotting grass. If you have chronically bad breath, unrelated to your diet, and resistant to oral hygiene efforts, you should schedule an exam right away.

3. Worsening of dark under-eye circles

When most people think of dark under-eye circles, they think of a lack of sleep as the cause. Fatigue can indeed worsen under-eye circles, but they can also be a result of hepatic dysfunction. The dark color under the eye is usually caused by blood vessels under the thin skin in that area becoming dilated and, therefore, more visible. This is why applying a cold spoon to the dark circles after a late night is a time-honored way to remedy the problem quickly; the cold causes the blood vessels to contract.

Problems with toxic liver lead to fluid retention in the body as well as a build-up of toxins and deficiencies of essential molecules and proteins. All of these processes together can lead to dilation of the blood vessels under the eye, making dark under-eye circles much more apparent. These same processes can also make spider veins much more visible on the legs, and advanced disease leads to swelling of the ankles.

4. Excessive sweating

There are many causes of excessive sweating. Surprisingly, a toxic liver is one of them. Most people attribute their increased sweating to hot flashes, wearing too many sweaters, or just environmental conditions and completely overlook this common clue that something is awry internally. These sweaty episodes often mimic menopausal hot flashes in every way, coming on suddenly and causing the sufferer to feel extremely hot, flushed, and well, sweaty. The cause is not entirely clear, but it may be an effort by the body to flush toxins out through the sweat.

5. Fatigue

Fatigue is the most common first symptom of hepatic dysfunction. Still, fatigue is caused by so many other conditions that it is rarely identified as a symptom of a hepatic problem until other symptoms arise. The many functions of the hepatic system cause the entire body to stop working correctly when it starts to malfunction, so it is not surprising that sufferers experience fatigue.

6. Easy bruising

One of the many vital functions of the liver is to produce clotting factors. When hepatic dysfunction occurs, these clotting factors tend not to be delivered in sufficient quantities, which leads to delayed clotting of the blood. Even a minor bump can lead to the formation of a visible bruise. Many people with hepatic dysfunction find they frequently have visible bruises and no recollection of any injury that could have caused the bruising. Some also suffer from spontaneous nose bleeds that take a long time to get under control, again due to the reduced level of clotting factors in the blood.

7. Dark urine

The most common cause of dark urine is dehydration, and the proper response to observing your urine is dark is to reach for some water. However, if your urine remains dark even when you are sure you are properly hydrated, this may be due to a waste product called bilirubin building up in your body and ending up in your urine.

Normally, this product is taken care of by the hepatic system and moves through the digestive tract after passing through the gall bladder. This is the same chemical that turns your skin and eyes yellow or orange when it builds to extremely high levels in the body during advanced hepatic failure.

8. Constipation

Constipation is a common problem in people who consume a typical low-fiber western diet or follow a sedentary lifestyle. You can often relieve this state by simply increasing your intake of fruits and vegetables and getting regular exercise. However, constipation unresponsive to lifestyle changes could indicate a serious health problem, such as a toxic liver or colon cancer.

So, it’s embarrassing to discuss your stools. But rest assured, you should consult a doctor if you develop persistent constipation that doesn’t respond to simple lifestyle changes.

These ten fiber-filled foods can help you avoid constipation.

Diagnosis

A standard workup for a possible hepatic issue generally includes a basic physical examination and blood work. The blood levels of two enzymes, in particular, aspartate aminotransferase (AST) and alanine aminotransferase (ALT), are excellent markers of hepatic damage. Elevated AST indicates damage to several different organs, including the heart, but elevated ALT is specific to hepatic injury. These blood tests cannot determine the extent of hepatic dysfunction or determine its cause.

Thus, if doctors find elevated AST and ALT, they usually investigate the issue further. For example, imaging tests of the abdomen with ultrasound, CT, or MRI may be conducted. A final diagnosis of the cause of hepatic dysfunction may require a biopsy, where a long needle is inserted into the organ to collect a sample of tissue.

Final Thoughts: Treatment for a Toxic Liver

Treatment depends entirely on the cause of the condition and its severity. For example, doctors will usually treat cases of hepatitis caused by viral infections with antiviral agents. But they’ll treat other conditions, such as NAFLD, by lifestyle changes, such as losing weight, controlling blood sugar, and making dietary changes. Unfortunately, the only treatment for advanced cirrhosis is a transplant. And that is why you should visit your physician to detect a toxic liver as early as possible. Then, you can receive treatment for the problem before it progresses to cirrhosis.

11 Proven Health Benefits of Onions

December 11, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Did your mother and grandmother ever eat your vegetables? Some people aren’t interested in healthy eating just because it is good for them. To them, junk food tastes better. Fortunately, it’s easy to work tasty onions into the diet for their many health benefits.

Onions’ health benefits are undeniable. The vegetable is among many whose health benefits don’t change between cooking it and eating it raw. Besides tasting good, veggie has a long history of doing wonders for the body.

A Short History of Onions

Healers recommending food as medicine dates back thousands of years to ancient Egyptians, Chinese, Indians, and Asians.

It’s funny to visualize our ancestral moms telling their kids to eat their veggies.

The vegetable was known throughout the ancient world, so it’s difficult to pinpoint one particular place as its origin. Archaeology has even found onions in Pompeii and evidence that ancient Romans added it to spice up their cooking. Europeans brought it with them to America only to see the vegetable already being enjoyed by the natives.

Onions Are Wondrous Things

In the ancient world, Roman and Greek athletes ate tons of vegetables, drank juice, and rubbed the plant all over their bodies, believing it made them stronger and faster. Pliny the Elder wrote that the Romans considered the vegetable beneficial for repairing vision, aiding sleep, stopping toothache, dysentery, and healing sores.

Some people used this root vegetable in spiritual healing. For example, when the plague made its way around the world, people would hang onions as a charm to chase away evil spirits.

Ancient Indians considered the vegetable beneficial to the heart, stomach, and joints. The plant was used in the Middle Ages for curing sores and hemorrhoids.

How You Benefit From Onions Today

Healthy eating has always depended on the health benefits of fresh fruits and vegetables. Despite the watery eyes and the sometimes strong smell and taste, this hearty vegetable does a lot of good for the body.

There are numerous types of onions, like leeks, scallions, chives, shallots, and more, but red, white, and yellow bulbs contain the highest concentration of the nutrients that prevent or help heal diseases.

The vegetable contains phytonutrients or nutrients from plants and flavonoids or what gives flowers and plants their colors and aroma. For example, veggie is full of antioxidants, just like berries.

They contain Vitamins A, B-6, K, and C. Minerals and other nutrients you’re eating are niacin, choline, calcium, iron, manganese, magnesium, copper, phosphorus, zinc, potassium, and selenium. There’s also sulfur, which is an amino acid. The sulfur in cells in the vegetable makes you tear up when you cut into it.

Fun Fact: The longer it’s in the ground, the sweeter it becomes. On the flip side, the longer it’s in the field, the fewer nutrients. Vidalia or other brands of sweet onion might taste better, but you don’t get as much good from them. What are the 11 health benefits you should not ignore?

11 Proven Benefits of Eating Onions

1. Bone Health

Due to their genetic makeup, women suffer bone loss worse than men. When women eat this vegetable, they have dense bones, not susceptible to fractures. Without boring you with long scientific terms, the GPCS in the plant stops the breakdown of the bones and osteoporosis, and bone loss.

2. Heart Health

Two threats to the heart are blood clots and LDL or bad cholesterol. Onions are classified as fiber, which is beneficial in preventing blood clots. The antioxidants in the vegetable slow down bad cholesterol, which limits oxidation and boosts blood circulation and blood pressure.

3. Diabetes

Because there are fewer carbs in veggies, they don’t stay in the bloodstream, raising blood sugar levels. They lower plasma blood glucose and inhibit insulin resistance. The vegetable contains chromium, which has been shown to control blood sugar and prevent diabetes.

4. Fertility

The vegetable may have an impact on fertility by improving sperm health. Studies on rats have shown that sperm count increased as well as testosterone. The rats ate lots of the vegetables in twenty days, so eat up, guys!

5. Colds And Flu

Mothers and grandmothers from antiquity have cut the vegetable in half and rubbed it on chests to combat congestion and help the breathing. It turns out this is a great way to fight colds and flu.

Medical professionals think vegetable fights inflammation and mucus buildup in the lungs and sinuses. The antibacterial properties in the plant are useful for getting rid of infections.

Fun Fact: You won’t find this in any prestigious medical journal, but putting a slice of onion next to a painful tooth or on the bottom of the foot held on by a sock is useful for drawing out the poisons in the body. Got a pain in the ear, jaw, or another body part? Hold a slice of onion against it for a couple of hours, and the pain will disappear. It might only be an old wive’s tale, but it works.

6. Asthma

Onions are packed with anti-inflammatory compounds. One of them, quercetin, is suitable for allergies and asthma. This compound reduces the inflammation in the little branch-like areas in the chest, so asthmatics and allergy sufferers can breathe.

7. Cancer

Antioxidants stop the cells from being damaged by free radicals or random cell-destroying agents. Cancer takes a normal healthy cell and mutates it into something cancerous. This humble little vegetable’s antioxidants stop the cells from mutating and stops tumors from growing. The plant helps or prevents several different types of cancer, including stomach and ovarian cancers.

8. Gut Health

The immune system and the gut work closely together for the body’s optimal health. The vegetable is known for its fiber and prebiotics, which help the healthy bacteria in the stomach to grow and work properly. These healthy bacteria prevent the bad ones from causing gut trouble before spreading into the bloodstream.

When all this works together, the gut is healthy, the immune system is operating at peak performance, and inflammation is a thing of the past.

9. Sleep

Having trouble sleeping? Eat an onion. Research shows that the prebiotics in this vegetable aid in gut health. The gut then sends the brain a signal saying that stress is being dealt with, and the body can go to sleep. The research worked on rats in a study who went to sleep after ingesting the vegetable.

10. Skin And Hair

Hair

One of the nutrients found in the body and needed by the body is the amino acid sulfur. The hair follicles require it for growth and sturdy hair. A study was done with both men and women using vegetable juice on their hair.

After four weeks, 74 percent of the participants experienced some hair growth. After six weeks of using the juice, 87 percent experienced hair regrowth. Of the participants, the males experienced more hair regrowth.

The antioxidants in the vegetable are thought to combat the free radicals causing hair damage due to aging. The anti-microbial properties in the vegetable fight the infections that sometimes cause scalp damage. Together, these promote healthy hair follicles, resulting in healthier, stronger hair.

Skin

Vitamins and minerals have positive effects on the epidermis. Vitamin C, for instance, nourishes the skin. Vitamins A, C, and E protect the skin from the harmful effects of UV rays from the sun. The antioxidants in the vegetable remove toxins from the body, giving skin a healthy glow.

Breakouts won’t happen due to the veggie’s anti-bacterial, anti-inflammatory, and antiseptic properties. The quercetin and sulfur in these veggies help prevent the signs of aging.

Weight Control

Belly fat is one of the most dangerous types of weight due to its proximity to and ill effects on the heart. To combat this, the metabolism must be spurred to action. Vegetable nutrients are an essential part of healthy eating for this exact reason. They provide fiber and the vitamins and minerals necessary to inject energy into the metabolism.

The vegetable contains only 64 calories per serving, is 89 percent water, and along with the fiber, fills you up without adding substantially to your weight. Cooked or raw, the vegetable is not only good for you, but it helps in weight control as well.

Final Thoughts On The Healthy Benefits of Eating Of Onions

From ancient times up to today, healthy eating has included a variety of foods for different health benefits. Vegetables give us the fiber we need for proper digestion, the vitamins and minerals for appropriate body and cell function. If they taste good and add interesting texture to our foods, that’s a great bonus. The vegetable under consideration supplies all of that.

Eating the vegetable before it’s completely mature doesn’t supply much if any, of the beneficial nutrients we need. The plant’s red, white, and yellow varieties provide these nutrients, so stick with them. Remember that the sweeter varieties of veggies don’t have the nutrients you need.

So get out there and buy some onions!

Therapists Explain 7 Ways To Truly Forgive Someone And Move On

December 10, 2019 by Power of Positivity

When someone hurts you, it can feel like the world is ending. The betrayal shakes you to the core, and you don’t know how to respond. Weeks, months, or even years later, you still find yourself thinking about that person and how they hurt you. You want to forgive and let go of the past, but how?

Forgiving someone is easier said than done. There are a lot of aspects at play you may not have thought about. But you can learn to release your anger and step forward into a future without that burden.

Therapists Explain 7 Ways To Truly Forgive Someone And Move On

1. Want To Forgive

Forgiveness cannot be forced. If you don’t want to forgive those who have wronged you, you’re not going to be able to do it. You can fake it, but it won’t be genuine, and you won’t feel it in your heart or have the relief and closure that comes with it.

Of course, forgiveness is not mandatory by any means. If you don’t want to forgive someone who hurt you, and instead just want to move on and recover, that’s fine, too. But if you’re going to forgive someone, you have to really want to in order to begin.

Fundamentally, forgiveness is a choice. And it’s a tough choice to make, as you have to wrestle with yourself, your past, and your residual emotions. If you’re having trouble making that decision, you can encourage yourself by doing the following:

Think of forgiveness as a gift to be given, not to others, but to yourself
Consider whether you want to be held back or defined by the past
Understand the fear and apprehension behind your reluctance to forgive
Know that processing the anger attached to these situations will help you
Try breathing meditation to calm your thoughts

Understand that you don’t have to forget about what someone has done – only find it in your hard to forgive

2. Let Yourself Feel And Process The Pain

A lot of times, what holds us back from achieving a state of forgiveness is our own fear. Forgiveness requires understanding and coming to terms with everything you have gone through, and this can be a harrowing experience. You may be frightened of revisiting the original emotions of hurt, betrayal, fury, or humiliation that came with the situation.

These are all valid feelings, but they are holding back your ability to forgive. In fact, studies have proven that bottling up emotions and refusing to confront them is far from a positive decision. It can lead to increased exhaustion and even aggression, which are both factors that affect your ability to forgive.

If you ever want to be able to move on, you need to be able to shed the strong emotions glued to you and your past. And the only way to do so is by processing the feelings and coming to an understanding about them. Only when you have done that can you find the ability to leave them behind in the dust.

There are more reasons to express your emotions, too. Medically speaking, bottled-up feelings have a number of awful side-effects, including:

Worsened emotional struggle
Blood pressure issues
Depression and/or anxiety
Memory problems
Self-esteem decline
Increased risk of cancer
A shorter and less positive lifespan

To help you release your emotions, you can find ways to express them. You can do this by:

Writing in a journal or diary
Making art, such as songs, poems, stories, paintings, and more
Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist
Moving around by dancing, running, jumping, or exercising in some way

3. Understand That Others May Be Trying Their Best

Some people genuinely are vindictive and manipulative, but a vast majority of people are not out to hurt those around them on purpose. Yes, people make mistakes, choose the wrong options, and do bad things, and those things are not excusable by any means – but it can help to see the intentions behind them.

Many people are simply trying their best to live their everyday lives. They are suffering their own pain, fighting their own journeys, and dealing with their own confusing desires and motivations. Understanding the reasons for someone’s actions can help you make sense of them, allowing you to move on. Were they:

Trying to protect you?
Trying to protect themselves?
Caught in a misunderstanding?
Dealing with personal issues and baggage?

Once again, we’d like to reiterate that this does not mean that adverse treatment is excusable, or that you should feel bad for the people who have hurt you. Even misguided good intentions cannot be accepted as useful for you. Instead, this is just a way to encourage more positive thinking, which can help you to see the humanity in others.

Often, we think of people who hurt us in an elevated way, giving their every action and word power over us because of our anger at them. Humanizing them can help bring the people who you want to forgive away from the supreme status they hold in your mind, so you can see them at your level – a person with flaws, just like you.

4. Speak It Into Existence

Sometimes, the best way to bring some change into your life is by speaking it into existence. You’d be surprised how much power verbalizing something can give you. By expressing your intentions out loud, you can literally make them a reality.

Sure, it’s a little more complicated than that. But at the heart of it, “fake it till you make it” is a big part of many difficult transitions in life. As awkward as it can be at first, the fact is that the more you tell yourself something, the more likely you are to believe it. (That’s why negative self-talk is so bad for you while positive affirmations work wonders!)

So say out loud that you’re forgiving someone, or say out loud that you’re moving on. You can also write these sentences out. Essentially, you’re using these statements as affirmations, and all you have to do is repeat them until you believe them. Some ideas of things you can say or write are:

“I forgive you (insert person’s name).”
“I am letting go of you (insert person’s name).”
“You can no longer hurt me (insert person’s name).”

When you speak, open up your heart and genuinely envision those words and their potential outcomes. Imagine yourself free from this burden, and imagine yourself unshackling the weight from yourself. It takes practice, but you can do it!

5. Take Responsibility For Your Feelings

Other people can trigger negative emotions from you, yes. And, at the moment, someone who upsets you is responsible for their actions. But anytime after that, the responsibility falls on you to manage your emotions, overcome them, fester in them, or do whatever it is you want with them.

Let’s face it. Even after someone apologizes, emotions can still fester within one’s soul. Often, the remaining pain is due to a loss of control. You did not have the ability to stop yourself from feeling this way, and you certainly can’t control the actions of others, so you were, at that moment, powerless. It’s a frightening and hateful feeling, and it can make anyone upset for longer than need be.

Take a deep breath and become aware of yourself. Why did this elicit such a strong reaction out of you? Is it worth continuing to wallow in those emotions? Is there anything you can do to regain some control over the situation, likely by taking some of the responsibility? Maybe you can learn about your reactions, or about how to handle conflict, or anything similar.

Do note that this isn’t blaming yourself. This is putting control in a situation where you didn’t have it back into your hands. It’s an empowering process, and it may help you forgive and let go.

6. Build Stronger Boundaries

Many times, when someone hurts you, it teaches you something about the relationship – whether platonic or otherwise – that you didn’t know before. This can inform all your future interactions with that person, and it allows you to reassess your boundaries with them. These boundaries may be:

Avoiding crossing certain lines
Drawing new lines
Changing the way you contact each other
Removing certain aspects of your relationship with them
Temporarily halting contact while you both process and recover from the emotions
Cutting off contact entirely, permanently

In addition, you will learn and grow from this and better understand how to set boundaries with all future relationships. This is not saying you should become closed off. Instead, it’s about learning how to establish definite boundaries that allow you to trust and be close to those you care about without causing an unhealthy relationship imbalance.

In the case of familial relationships, setting boundaries can be extra hard. But stand your ground. This is about you and your health and wellbeing. Compromise can happen, but at the end of the day, what you’re comfortable with is not up for debate.

7. Understand That It’s A Process

Forgiving someone sounds so easy, but it isn’t. You need to keep your positive thinking going through what could very easily be a long and arduous process. That’s why you always have to remember that what you’re doing isn’t meant to be instantaneous. It’s a process of healing and recovering, with ups and downs, steps forward and back, and moments of weakness and strength.

It’s okay that it takes you a while to forgive someone who wronged you. It’s okay that sometimes you catch yourself slipping back into bad old habits of self-blame and aggression. Own up to these slip-ups, apologize to anyone caught in the crossfire, and get back to work. Start again. Climb back up.

It takes time, but these sad and upsetting experiences are instrumental for the growth of many, many people. If you let them, they can help improve your overall life, your relationships with others, and how you regard yourself. It’s a difficult journey, but it’s all worth it.

Need more inspiration? Check out these forgiveness quotes.

Final Thoughts on Learning to Forgive

Forgiving someone can feel like a constant uphill battle, especially if that person very severely hurt you. But all is not lost. Remember to stay strong and fight on. You can and will recover with positive thinking!

Oncologists Explain What Happens During a Mammogram

December 10, 2019 by Power of Positivity

Have you ever wondered (or worried) about what it’s like to get a mammogram? You know it’s a potent weapon against breast cancer, but you still feel apprehensive.

According to cancer.net, the official website of the American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO) and also the world’s foremost organization of cancer physicians, more than 63,000 women will be diagnosed with ductal carcinoma in situ, a non-invasive form of breast cancer.

Additionally, almost 270,000 will be diagnosed with an invasive form of the disease. If left untreated, the condition is likely to spread through the blood and lymph systems. Then, it could move on to other parts of the body.

To say that breast cancer can significantly impact a woman’s health is a gross understatement. Aside from skin cancer, breast cancer is the most commonly diagnosed form of cancer in women. Indeed, that fact is accurate both in America and around the world.

So let’s put this into a better perspective. The World Cancer Research Fund revealed in a study that, worldwide, the total number of new breast cancer cases in women increased by 25.4 percent in 2018.

So what is the best way for women to go about reducing their risk of developing this life-altering disease? It’s by getting regular mammograms.

WHAT IS A MAMMOGRAM?

For those who are not familiar with mammograms, they are non-invasive medical exams used to determine whether or not a woman’s breast tissue contains cancer cells. These screenings generally take about 20 minutes and involve little to no downtime. Therefore, you can get checked and then go about your day after completing your testing.

WHAT SHOULD YOU EXPECT DURING A MAMMOGRAM?

So it’s admittedly not uncommon to feel some level of anxiety when it comes to medical testing. However, mammograms are quite safe. Radiology labs perform this test routinely in the United States and across the globs.

According to a study published by Forbes, a global media company and an online resource for information related to business, investing, technology, entrepreneurship, leadership, and lifestyle, doctors order over 37 million mammograms every year in America. And while global statistics are not available, it is probably safe to assume that just as many of these exams are conducted in other parts of the world as well. With that, let’s take a closer look at what these life-saving exams entail.

GETTING A MAMMOGRAM: STEP ONE

Although this part is evident, for the sake of thoroughness, it is still worth mentioning. The first step in getting a mammogram will entail removing your blouse or shirt as well as your bra. However, you will be given a medical gown to at least partially cover yourself before the exam officially gets underway.

GETTING A MAMMOGRAM: STEP TWO

The x-ray technician will ask you to stand in front of an x-ray machine. Once instructed, you will place one breast at a time on to a plastic plate. Your technician will place a second plate on top of it. While in-between these two plates, the tissue will become extremely flat. But that flattening of the tissue is what will make it possible for the x-ray machine to detect changes in the breast tissue.

If your physician suspects breast cancer, they will likely recommend a biopsy. As far as pain is concerned, many women who have undergone a mammogram report that their breasts felt tender immediately following the exam. However, they explained that the discomfort dissipates quickly.

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT BREAST BIOPSIES

For those who are not familiar with breast biopsies, they are specialized tests that require removing fluid and tissue from the breast. They send the collected materials to a lab where a technician reviews them under a microscope to look for any cancer cells.

While they may sound terrifying, doctors typically perform this test using a combination of local anesthesia and some form of sedation. That combo makes the entire process relatively painless.

Also worth noting, a study published by Planned Parenthood, a nonprofit organization that provides reproductive health care in America, less than 1 in 10 women who have a biopsy are ever actually diagnosed with breast cancer. In addition to cutting away and draining fluid from the breast, a core-needle biopsy can also be used to determine whether or not a woman has breast cancer. This process involves removing tissue from the breast via a hollow needle.

HOW TO MINIMIZE DISCOMFORT DURING YOUR MAMMOGRAM

While everyone has a different threshold when it comes to tolerances, most will agree that having one’s breast flattened can cause some real discomfort. Fortunately, there are several ways to reduce and possibly avoid the pain commonly associated with mammograms. First and foremost, it is in your best interest to go to a quality clinic.

To that point, breastcancer.org encourages women who are considering this type of breast screening to visit a clinic that is accredited by the American College of Radiology. And it shouldn’t be too hard to find one, especially given the fact that the organization has accredited more than 38,000 facilities since 1987. After deciding on a clinic, you should practice the following before your exam to help minimize pain:

1 – Over-the-counter medication

Taking acetaminophen or ibuprofen an hour before a mammogram-based breast exam to help reduce breast discomfort.

2 – Padding

Many clinics are aware that a mammogram-based breast exam is not the most comfortable experience for a woman. Therefore, many of them will use padded plates used on their x-ray machines. This way, when a woman places her breast in-between these plates, she is less likely to experience significant pain or discomfort.

3 – Not smoking

If you’re a smoker, you have yet another reason to kick the habit. According to a 2016 study published by the National Institute of Health, smoking can make breast tissue more sensitive. Of course, such sensitivity is the last thing you want to experience before a breast screening.

4 – Limiting caffeine

Similar to smoking, consuming too much caffeine can also increase breast sensitivity. Thus, it’s a good idea to avoid tea, soda, coffee, or caffeinated drinks before your breast screening.

5 – Sharing your medical history

If you had painful mammograms in the past or have fibrocystic breasts, share this information with your medical practitioner. When provided with this information, most practitioners will take additional steps to ensure you are as comfortable as possible during your screening.

6 – Breathing

Although you may be feeling slightly anxious during your screening, it is best to avoid heavy breathing. Several studies show that taking slow, deep breaths and calmly exhaling can help ease tension-related breast pain. Beyond that, doing so helps produce better and more accurate test results.

7 – Breastfeeding

Although a mammogram does not diminish a woman’s ability to breastfeed her baby, lactation has been shown to make breast very sensitive. As such, most physicians will encourage women to postpone getting a mammogram for three months after they have stopped breastfeeding. Of course, this does not apply to a woman who notices a lump in her breast or has other reasons to believe that they may have developed breast-related cancer.

These 17 celebrities beat breast cancer.

WHO SHOULD CONSIDER GETTING A MAMMOGRAM?

Ideally, any woman who is concerned with staying on top of her health and living a long, healthy life should make it a point to schedule regular mammograms. However, they are especially beneficial to women that have an average risk of developing breast cancer, which, according to the American College of Physicians, includes women who have:

A history of breast-related cancer
Lesions on their breasts
Previously undergone chest radiation therapy
a genetic predisposition to breast-related cancer

Also, the American Cancer Society recommends the following when it comes to how often women should schedule these exams:

Once per year for women between the ages of 45 to 54
Every two years for women 55 and over

Some sources may argue that regular breast screens are unnecessary once a woman reaches the age of 75. However, the information published by the American Cancer Society states differently. In short, as long as a woman expects to live for at least ten more years, she should continue getting regular screenings for breast-related cancer.

FINAL THOUGHTS ON OVERCOMING FEAR OF A MAMMOGRAM

Although they rank pretty high when it comes to unpleasant experiences, mammograms can save a woman’s life. Aside from the slight pain and discomfort associated with these breast screenings, there are very few downsides involved in getting them.

Most major health insurance providers cover the cost of this test on a prescribed schedule, according to age. Check with your insurance provider before your test.

Additionally, these screenings take only a few minutes to complete. Furthermore, should the test yield a positive result, an oncologist can quickly start cancer-fighting treatments before the disease spreads.

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