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10 Signs of a True Friendship That Lasts Forever

We live in an era where we can make friends quite easily online. It just takes a little searching to find groups where we might fit in, and we can choose from thousands of people to chat with. However, online friends can never take the place of real life friendship.

Studies show that even if people have thousands of Facebook friends, they usually only have one or two close friends in real life. We need face-to-face interaction with people in order to survive, and unfortunately, rates of loneliness are increasing across the globe.

In fact, according to study published in the American Sociological Review, most people in the U.S. have only one close friend. 25% have no friends at all. This is dangerous to our health; loneliness has been associated with the same risks as smoking 15 cigarettes per day.

 If you have even one good friend in your life, however, you should consider yourself lucky. Not everyone has someone they can count on, unfortunately. On the other side of things, if you ever notice someone who seems lonely, don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation. After all, a friendship begins as two people who are strangers, anyway.

With that said, we will go over some signs that your friendship will last forever.

“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.” – Thomas Aquinas

Here are 10 signs of a friendship that will last forever:

1 – They accept you, flaws and all.

 Both of you can let your guards down and be your complete selves, and it feels so good! True friendship means taking off the mask you constantly wear for society and showing what’s underneath. A real friend never judges you for your opinions, perceptions, thoughts, or weird jokes no one else laughs at.

You don’t have to put on a front or try to be something you’re not. A friendship that will last forever offers a breath of fresh air, because you can leave the world behind and just enjoy each other’s company.

There’s truly nothing better than a friend who just gets and accepts you.

 

2 – They don’t leave when times get hard. friendship

 This one probably one of the most distinguishing factors between a fake and real friend. In the darkest times, true friendship lights the way. A fair-weather friend leaves you in the dust when the slightest problem arises, but a tried and true friend stands by you. Real friends offer to help you in any way they can because they don’t want you to suffer.

True friends encourage and support you no matter what. If you have a friend like this, hold on to them and cherish them.

3 – A true friendship that lasts forever puts jealousy aside.

 Fake friends get jealous when you’ve achieved something or found a relationship that makes you happy. However, a true friendship celebrates your wins with you. It doesn’t need to compete or stomp on someone’s happiness to survive. If you have a friend like this in your life, you have truly struck gold.

Many people have friends who would rather see them unhappy and struggling than succeeding. Notice who stays with you when you get a promotion or marry the love of your life. Those are the people worth keeping.

4 – You can share your deepest, darkest secrets with them.

A true friendship gets deep down to the core of who you are. It doesn’t just swim on the surface and discuss fashion, gossip, and other superficial ideas. You can feel comfortable sharing your childhood trauma, best memories, dreams, fears, doubts, pain, and insecurities. You don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed about certain aspects of yourself.

True friendship that lasts forever is freedom, because you can finally share what makes you, you. You don’t have to fear judgement or ridicule from a true friend because they love you for you.

5 – A true friendship puts in mutual effort.

With other friends, you might feel like you have to chase them or constantly reach out to keep them in your life. However, with a true friend, they put in the effort also. You don’t always have to be the one calling or texting in order to keep their friendship.

They might not talk to you every day, but when they do reach out, they ask about your life. They care about you and want to catch up as much as possible because you’re worth the effort to them.

Plenty of people make excuses as to why they can’t hang out. However, it’s about priorities. If someone’s important to you, you will take the time to see them.

6 – They make you forget about the real world for a while.

 After seeing them, you feel more excited and inspired about life. Authentic friendships offer a perfect exchange of energy between two people. There are plenty of energy vampires out there who feed off a happy person’s aura. However, a true friendship is an even amount of give and take.

Plus, you can laugh and put your worries aside for a while. Of course, there will be days when you both need to vent about things, but for the most part, you have a great time in their company.

7 – They tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear.

 They don’t just sugarcoat things to avoid hurting your feelings. They lay everything on the table and let you decide what to do with that information. People like this might seem blunt and rude, but they do have your best interest at heart. They would rather cut to the chase than beat around the bush, because you won’t grow from niceties. People make changes because someone points out a behavior or habit that is hindering rather than helping them.

A true friendship isn’t built on withholding the truth for the other person’s sake. It’s built on honesty and truly caring about the other person’s well-being.

8 – They forgive you when you make a mistake.

Maybe you said something hurtful when you were upset after a long day at work. Instead of blowing it out of proportion, however, they accept your apology and don’t hold a grudge about it. Friends have fights sometimes; that’s just a part of life. A true friendship has a solid foundation, though, and doesn’t fall apart after one argument or disagreement.

9 – A true friend says what they need to say to your face, not behind your back.

 Real friends never spread gossip about you behind your back. If they have something to say to you, they confront you directly, even if it’s uncomfortable. Many people hate confrontation and would rather run to someone else than the person they need to address. This is cowardly and childish.

A true friendship has respect and courtesy to talk things out between one another. A real friend would never dream of hurting you by spreading rumors and tarnishing your reputation. They would rather smooth things over with you than let everything escalate out of control.

10 – They don’t get jealous if you choose to hang out with other friends.

 Sometimes friends can get controlling and want you all to themselves. This is a sign of deep insecurity and abandonment issues, so watch out if this sounds like your friend. However, a real friendship recognizes that even the best of friends need a break from each other from time to time.

Your friend honors your need to connect with others and doesn’t feel jealous if he or she can’t attend every gathering with you.

Bonus: A real friendship gives you the space to talk and listens attentively.

  • They don’t just talk about themselves.

 A real friend allows you to vent or talk as much as you need to. They don’t try to cut you off or interject; they simply listen and respond when you’re through talking.

  • They respect you by giving you their full attention.

A real friend doesn’t play on their phone or avoid eye contact when you’re talking. They put their phone away, look at you when you speak, and turn their body toward you. They let you know that what you have to say is important and they’re totally focused on the conversation.

  • They’re always there when you need them.

 Whenever you need them, you can call and not feel like you’re intruding or bothering them in the least bit. They know they can do the same with you, too. A true friendship that lasts forever allows an even exchange of talking and listening. True friends also allow you to be completely vulnerable and open without judgment or criticism.

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Final thoughts about a true friendship that lasts forever

A real friendship is rare, but you’ll know when you find it. Cherish and love the friends in your life who check up on you, lift you up when you’re down, and celebrate your wins with you. Friendship is one of the greatest gifts in the world, and everyone deserves to have it. Remember, if you ever see someone who seems like they could use a friend, offer this gift. It might seem like something small, but it could mean the world to them.

 

12 Things to Never Tell Your Parents

Just what is the role of parental piety? Do we ‘owe’ it to our parents to tell them everything?

Most certainly, there are things that children ‘should’ and ‘shouldn’t tell their parents. Problems with physical or mental health, being the victim of bullying, and difficulties in the classroom all fall into the former.

But are we obliged to tell them everything that we think “should” know? What about the things we don’t want to tell them that we think “should” know? Are there things we should never tell them?

There is plenty of subjectivity at play here. In short, no good answer applies to every person or situation. But perhaps we’re approaching this sensitive topic from the wrong angle.

“Should I tell my parents?” and “Why didn’t my child tell me?” are questions that are often asked in hindsight. For instance, when one’s child has done something unexpected, even harmful. In such circumstances, parental attentiveness can make all the difference. We’ll delve a bit further into this faculty later on.

In short, making a habit of asking such questions is akin to treating illness while ignoring means of prevention. Underlying attitudes, beliefs, and deficits contribute to the complex situation.

In this article, we will discuss things never to tell your parents. We’ll follow up this section by offering a rudimentary discourse on parenting in the age of distraction.

12 Things to Never Tell Your Parents

1 – “I hate you.”

Yeah, this one hurts. While your Mother or Father no doubt realizes this is just an utterance out of frustration, it’s nonetheless hurtful. And anyway, it’s not your Mom or Dad that you (or your child) hate; it’s what they did that’s hated.

Instead of uttering these ghastly words, consider containing your emotions long enough to have a constructive dialogue. If this is not possible, simply walk away.

2 – “Shut up.”

Telling someone to “shut up,” unless a jab arises from good humor, is never a good idea. These two words are also a catalyst; giving rise to and perpetuating feelings of anger. In the wrong situation, things can escalate quickly and get out of hand.

These words can also be hurtful. Few words are as isolating and lonely as “shut up.” So desist.

3 – “Leave me alone.”

Listen, we all want to be left alone at times. In many circumstances with certain people, there’s nothing wrong with a sharp “Leave me alone.”

But we’re talking about your parents. The protocol is a bit different.

Explain your need for personal space with candor but with respect. If they’ve done something to insult or hurt you, say so. If they continue on, remove yourself from the situation and let the reason for such be known.

4 – “Guess what the ‘S.O’ did again…”

Though ridiculous and sophomoric, some “grown” adults think gossiping about their spouse is okay. Barring the commission of some serious offense, talk that disparages your partner or spouse should be off-limits.

Direct this conversation towards where it rightly belongs. The attention of your significant other.

5 – “It’s all your fault.”

Consider this rather pitiful family conversation between two elders. An aunt blamed her mother – the former in her 50s, the latter in her 80s – of making her fat. Some variation of “It’s all your fault…” was used at one point.

Now, we’re not here to debate the relationship between childhood eating habits and adult obesity. But blaming a parent for something that’s within one’s control is a stretch.

6 – “I just found out (this)…you’re a bad parent.”

All parents make mistakes. It’s a tough job. It’s not uncommon for the child to learn something and use it as a talking point against their parents.

The truth is that we know much more about child health and psychology than we did in the past. Moreover, parenting is a responsibility that has evolved over time.

Using acquired knowledge to bash the rearing skills of one’s parents is immature and hurtful.

7 – “You were a bad example.”

Maybe they were a bad example growing up. But you’re grown up now. What’s the use of bringing up parenting mistakes?

Accusatory statements do nothing but hinder a good relationship. If something took place in your childhood that you need to address, say so. Have a discussion and allow them to explain their side of things.

8 – “You love him/her more than me.”

Highly unlikely. And there’s a big difference between being closer to a particular child and loving that child more. This has everything to do with resonance – not love or affection.

Some parents do show preferential treatment, however. Witnessing this as a child – and even as an adult – can be very painful. The only way that you’ll feel some semblance of inner peace is by opening up a dialogue. Drama solves nothing.

9 – “I wish you weren’t my parents.”

This is a favorite of young kids and teenagers. If you’re an adult, then your Mother or Father must have done something wretched. Even then, what’s the point of this?

Again, drama solves nothing. Let’s calm down and gather yourselves so as not to say something we’ll regret.

10 – “I’m sick of this family/I’m sick of you.”

If there’s a common theme throughout this article, it’s this: theatricality doesn’t belong in a mature parent-child relationship. Statements like these are both pointless and potentially damaging.

Such words do not solve relationship problems. Maybe you are sick of your family. But, for better or worse, this is still your family – and it’s the only one you’ve got.

Find another avenue of approach.

11 – “I need money.”

Though we may not see them, thousands of parents nod their heads in agreement.

Most youngsters should try and understand a couple for things. (A) Their parents work hard to provide for you, and (B) they don’t yet fully understand the concept of money.

One thing must be a prerequisite. Any request for money must follow an honest, rational explanation.

12 – “I don’t have time.”

We’re not talking with a work buddy or some random stranger here. While we very well may not have the time for something, some respect is in order.

Take a minute to explain yourself.

Parenting and the Age of Distraction

“Nowhere is the impact of popular culture and technology on children’s relationships more noticeable than in families. Both influences have contributed to a growing divide between the traditional roles that children and their parents play.”  ~ Jim Taylor, Ph.D. 

As mentioned, many things we say to our parents are reactionary. Poor communication – and the lack thereof – is often the impetus. For these reasons, we must look at technology as a common culprit of communication and relationship difficulties.

The reason?

Healthy communication between parent and child remains vital throughout early childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. To this end, there is little doubt that the proliferation of technologies – especially mobile technology – has adversely affected these communications.

Let’s take a gander at some of the surprising statistics.

  • 96 percent of Americans own a cell phone.
  • 81 percent own a smartphone.
  • 75 percent own a desktop or laptop.
  • 50 percent own a tablet.

Perhaps most troubling are the trends of teenagers. Here are some more stats:

  • 95 percent of teens have a smartphone access to one.
  • 45 percent say that they’re online on a “near-constant” basis.

Of course, we can not leave out social media.

  • 52 percent of teens use Instagram; 51%, Facebook; 41%, Snapchat.

Socioeconomics and Technology Use

The Pew Research Center cites the following statistics regarding teenage Facebook use by annual household income:

  • Less than $30,000: 70 percent
  • $30,000 – $74,999: 56 percent
  • $75,000 or more: 36 percent

Why is this important? Multiple studies find a direct association between conditions of poverty and low childhood socioeconomic status and mental health. In other words, excessive technology use is a hallmark of poor mental functioning.

We needn’t be experts on the human condition to read between the lines. But just in case:

  • Millions of kids are sorely lacking life-enhancing resources.
  • There are millions of kids lacking positive guidance and direction.
  • Finally, millions of kids are at risk of developing life-altering mental health disorders.

These shocking numbers demonstrate a failure of (a) societal values, (b) guardianship, or (c) both a and b.

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Final Thoughts: Reflective Parenting

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” ~ James Baldwin

Let’s try to summarize the gist of this article into three points:

  1. There is a growing disconnect between parents and children.
  2. A lack of communication is the impetus of this disconnect.
  3. The proliferation of technology and its overuse by parents and children is a contributing factor to both 1 and 2.

We need to take a good, honest look at the situation in which find ourselves. Doing so requires that we engage in some reflection. There’s actually a scientific term for this: reflective parenting.

According to a 2012 paper presented at a fostering parenting conference, reflective parenting involves understanding the mental states of parent and child. These mental states include the parent’s and child’s thoughts, feelings, beliefs, needs, and desires about the relationship.

That’s a good start.

15 Yoga Exercises for Baby Boomers Born Between 1946 – 1964

There are about 74 million Baby Boomers currently redefining what it means to live in the golden years. This massive generation may be living the most active retirement of any generation yet! While they’re exceptional in so many ways, no one can escape the stiffness, aches and pains that come along with aging. That’s why there’s yoga.

Yoga is a fantastic way to keep joints healthy, relieve back pain, maintain flexibility and even improve balance . Joining a studio or an exercise class is also a great way to find a social community. Try working in about 30-60 minutes on the mat 1-3 times per week. You can start noticing benefits almost instantly!

 

Recommended Yoga Props

It’s important to be mindful of your form and respect your body’s limits. In addition to a mat, there are certain props and tools that can help you get into the poses safely. This method is Supportive Yoga, and it’s great for beginners of all ages, including baby boomers.

Here are some recommendations to help you have a successful exercise session:

Blocks

A block is a small foam block that can be used to modify certain poses when you have limited flexibility. Having two blocks is recommended. That way you’re able to maintain symmetry by having one block on each side for certain poses.

Straps

Straps are thick fabric straps that are used to help you get leverage for certain poses. We suggest getting a strap that connects back on itself with an adjustable closure that forms a circle. These types of straps can be easier to use, especially if you have any issues with grip or arthritis in your hands.

 

Bolster

A bolster is a small pillow that can be used to elevate your hips, align your back, or cushion your head and neck. Bolsters are a wonderful tool, especially for those who have back or hip issues.

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15 Yoga Poses for Baby Boomers

 

Here are 15 poses or “asanas” that are perfect for Baby Boomers.

 

  1. Legs-Up-the-Wall Pose (Viparita Karani)

Legs-Up-the-Wall Pose is an easy, effective pose for giving you energy and improving circulation. It can also help improve your flexibility over time. Here’s how to do it:

  • Start in a seated position with your butt about 6-10 inches a wall sitting sideways (so the wall is on your right or left).
  • Lay down on your side.
  • Exhale and extend your legs straight and up against the wall in one smooth motion.
  • Let your arms rest at your sides with palms facing up.
  • Keep only enough tension in your legs to keep them vertical (“up the wall”).
  • Stay in the position for several breaths, working up to 5-6 minutes.

You can adjust your position until you’re comfortable, but try to have your sit bones as close to the wall as you can comfortably get. You may want to use a bolster under your hips. Your back should be flat on the mat with a straight alignment from your neck down.

When it’s time to come out of the position, gently remove the bolster if you use one. Then allow your legs to slowly come down to one side. Stay in the side position for a few breaths so you don’t get lightheaded. Then gently sit up.

 

  1. Reclining Big-Toe Pose (Supta Padangusthasana)

Reclining Big-Toe Pose stretches a good section of your posterior chain. It’s great if you have tight legs and lower back. To do Reclining Big-Toe Pose:

  • Lay on your back on the mat with legs straight.
  • Keep your left leg flat on the mat while you raise your straight right leg up to perpendicular.
  • Use your hands to gently hold your leg at the thigh, calf, or ankle to increase the stretch. If you need to use a strap you can loop the strap on your foot and hold the other end.
  • Hold for 3-5 breaths.

Once you’re finished, release the leg and repeat on the other side. This is one of those poses where a prop – the strap – can really help you. Make sure to keep your back flat on the floor and don’t curl your neck up.

 

  1. Tree Pose (Vrksasana)

Tree Pose is a wonderful hip opener and helps you work on your balance.

 

  • Start in a standing position with feet hip-width apart and arms at sides.
  • Shift your weight to your right foot.
  • Bend your left knee as you turn out at the hip to keep the knee out to the side.
  • Place your left foot on your right calf or thigh, as high as you’re able. Just do not put the foot on your right knee.
  • Bring your hands to prayer position in front of your chest.
  • Gaze forward and slightly up, keeping your spine long and tall as you balance on your right leg.
  • Hold for 3-4 breaths.
  • Exhale and release the left foot to the floor.

 

Repeat this on both sides. If you can’t bring your foot all the way up to thigh height, don’t worry. Just do what you can.

Also, if you lose your balance, don’t worry! It’s all part of the process. Just breathe and reset.

 

  1. Cobra Pose (Bhujangasana)

Use Cobra Pose to open the chest, abdominals, neck, low back, and even hips! This is a great restorative pose because you can go as shallow or deep into the pose as your strength and flexibility allow. Here’s how to do it:

 

  • Lay on your stomach on the mat.
  • Bend your arms at the elbows so that your palms are on the mat under each shoulder.
  • Exhale and gently push up through your arms to raise your upper body off the mat while pressing your hips and legs down.
  • Breathe into the pose for 3-5 breaths, feeling the breath opening and stretching your body as you hold the pose.
  • Exhale and slowly lower your body back down to the mat.

This pose feels so good you may want to do it 2-3 times. Each time you’ll be able to go a little deeper into the stretch as your body opens up. You can also gently look up to add a stretch to your neck, but be careful not to strain.

 

 

  1. Downward Dog (Adho Mukha Svanasana)

Downward Dog is a classic pose that works on nearly every part of the body. Note that are a baby boomers with pain or arthritis in your wrists, then you may want to skip this pose.

  • Start laying on your stomach on your mat with your palms on the mat under your shoulders and your feet flexed with toes on the mat.
  • Press up through your hands and hinge at your hips, keeping your legs and back straight.
  • Keep your ears between your arms and make sure your neck isn’t straining.
  • To release, exhale and either bend the knees to come into a 4-legged pose, step forward into a forward bend, or hinge the hips straight and lower back down onto the mat.

Once you’re in Downward Dog pose you can bend your knees one by one to stretch out your calves and work your heels toward the ground.

 

  1. Warrior I (Virabhadrasana I)

The Warrior pose series is great for balance and opening up tight hips. Warrior I is the first pose in the series. You can come into Warrior I from a lunge position.

 

  • Step the right foot forward and bend the knee 90-degrees.
  • Turn the left heel in and keep the left leg straight with the left foot on the ground.
  • Elongate the spine and square the hips forward.
  • Raise the arms straight up overhead with palms facing each other.
  • Hold for 3-5 breaths, then exhale and either straighten the right leg to come into Triangle pose or step back to Mountain Pose.
  • Repeat on the other side.

If you want to keep the series going, transition into Warrior II…

 

  1. Warrior II (Virabhadrasana II)

Warrior II is the next progression in the Warrior pose series. Starting from Warrior I with right foot forward:

 

  • Keep the right knee bent and left leg straight.
  • Lower the right arm toward the front and the left arm toward the back, keeping the arms straight.
  • Turn your head to gaze just beyond the front fingers.
  • Hold for 2-3 breaths, then release back to Warrior II

 

Repeat on the other side. If you lose your balance, that’s ok! Just work yourself back into the pose. You can go back to Warrior I or into Triangle Pose.

 

 

  1. Triangle Pose (Trikonasana)

You can get into Triangle Pose from a standing position (Mountain Pose) or from the Warrior poses. Here’s how:

 

  • Place your right foot about 3-4 feet in front of your left with your right foot facing forward and your left heel turned in and left foot sideways.
  • Keep both legs straight.
  • Facing the side of the room, raise your straight arms to shoulder height.
  • Press your hips backward and shift your shoulders forward, then hinge at the hips to bend sideways.
  • Bring your right hand to the inside of your right ankle (or as low as you comfortably can) while your left hand reaches for the sky.
  • Turn your head to look at your left fingers to get a nice stretch in your neck.
  • Hold for 3-5 breaths, then release to standing and repeat on the other side.

 

As with any pose, only go as far as your body will allow. As you repeat the pose over time you’ll see changes in your flexibility and strength that let you get further into the pose.

 

  1. Cat-Cow Pose

Cat-Cow is a nice way to stretch your spine. This can be done in a pose sequence or even in bed when you wake up. Rise and shine, Baby Boomers! To do Cat-Cow Pose:

 

  • Start on your hands and knees with hands directly below shoulders and a flat back.
  • Inhale, arch your back, and gently look up. This is the “cow” part of the pose.
  • As you exhale, gently round your back as you breathe into it and let your neck relax down. This is the “cat” part of the pose.
  • Continue the sequence in alignment with your breath as long as you’d like.

 

This is a lovely breathing exercise and a nice, gentle way to stretch the spine.

 

  1. Happy Baby Pose (Ananda Balasana)

Happy Baby Pose is named because it mimics a natural position that babies love – and Baby Boomers will too!

  • Lay on your back on the mat with your spine straight.
  • Bend your knees up to your chest.
  • Use your fingers to grab onto the big toe on each foot.
  • Keeping a hold on your toes, allow the legs to separate and your knees to come down toward the armpits.
  • To release, let go of the toes and gently return your legs to the floor.

You can hold still in the position or gently rock side-to-side and straighten and bend the knees. This is a great pose to get into certain tight spots in the hips and also gently massage the low back.

 

 

  1. Child Pose (Balasana)

If your knees allow, Child Pose is a wonderful restorative pose to relax and stretch the back and shoulders.

  • Come to a 4-legged position with knees and hands on the mat.
  • Flip your toes so the tops of your feet are in contact with the mat.
  • Hinge your hips back to sit on your heels and bring your forehead to the mat.
  • Walk your hands as far forward as you comfortably can.
  • Let your body soften into the pose and breathe naturally.

 

You can hold this pose for as long as you need to. If you have tight or troublesome knees, try using a block under your sit bones to elevate the hips.

 

  1. Reclined Spinal Twist (Supta Matsyendrasana)

Reclining twists are a great way to stretch the back gently. They couldn’t be easier! Just remember to respect your body’s boundaries and only go as far as you comfortably can.

 

  • Start laying on your back on the mat.
  • Bring the right knee to the chest and hold it with your hands. Keep the left leg straight.
  • Use your left hand to guide your right knee across the body.
  • As you twist, release your right arm to the floor and gently look over your right shoulder.
  • To release, turn your neck into a neutral position and bring the knee back to your chest then straighten it to the floor.
  • Repeat on the other side.

Breathe into the twist and feel your breath create space in your ribs and spine.

 

  1. Reclined Bound Angle Pose (Supta Baddha Konasana)

This is another amazing restorative hip opener. Use a bolster along your spine for an added boost.

 

  • Lay on your back on the mat
  • Bend your legs and bring your feet together.
  • Allow your knees to gently fall to each side and bring the bottoms of your feet to touch.
  • Breathe! This can be a powerful stretch, so don’t hold your breath.
  • Allow your arms to fall to the sides and hold for 5-7 breaths.
  • To release, use your hands to gently support your knees coming back together, then straighten the legs.

 

  1. Easy Pose (Sukhasana)

Easy Pose is a fundamental for everything from starting a practice to meditation. It’s great for spinal strength and improving posture. Just be cautious if you are a baby boomer with knee or hip issues.

 

  • Sit up straight on the mat with legs extended in front of you.
  • Bend the right leg at the hip and knee to bring the shin parallel to your abdomen.
  • Bend the left leg to meet the right and stack it on top, either placing the ankle on the right knee or crossing at the shins.
  • Straighten the spine and sit tall.

From this basic pose, you can do place your hands on your knees, in your lap, or in prayer position depending on what you’re doing in Easy Pose.

 

  1. Corpse Pose (Savasana)

Just about every class ends with this ultra-relaxing pose. Corpse Pose is intentionally done at the end of the pose sequence to allow the body to get back to equilibrium and give you a moment to clear your mind into full relaxation.

 

  • Lay on your back on the mat.
  • Make sure your spine and neck are in alignment.
  • Place your legs into a comfortable position, then let the legs go loose and your feet fall to either side.
  • Place your arms at either side with palms up.
  • Close your eyes and breathe.

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Enjoy Your Newfound Practice of Yoga, Baby Boomers!

We hope you enjoy these 15 yoga poses for Baby Boomers. Remember to always respect your body and use props if needed to help maintain proper form. And let us know which one of these poses is your favorite!

15 Science Backed Tips to Lower your Blood Pressure Naturally

One in seven people in the world suffers from high blood pressure. That is 1.1 billion people that suffer from a potentially fatal problem.

High blood pressure is linked to increased chances of heart disease, heart attack, and early death. Therefore, it is important to get a grip on that sucker.

When considering how to solve your blood pressure problems, consider these 15 simple ways to lower your blood pressure without the use of medication.

Tips to Lower your Blood Pressure Naturally

1. Weightloss Will Lower Your Blood Pressure

Obesity is a common cause of hypertension in both males and females. The Framingham Heart Study, an ongoing study begun in 1948 on the residents of Framingham, Massachusetts, has found that an estimated 26% of men and 28% of women suffer from high blood pressure primarily due to excess weight.

Excess weight means increased amounts of fat tissue, which places additional pressure on your artery walls. Therefore, in order for the heart to properly pump blood throughout your entire body, it must work harder. This causes increased tension on your artery walls, which leads to high blood pressure.

This is great news! You are the master of your destiny. Get yourself on a weight loss program and kick that pesky high blood pressure to the curb.

2. Consistent Exercise Will Lower Your Blood Pressure

As the modern era has dawned upon us with all our dreaded machines and office jobs (thanks to industrial revolution), the general physical activity level of people has decreased significantly. That lack of physical activity has contributed to higher rates of obesity, which directly affects blood pressure.

Again, this is something you control. By starting a simple exercise regimen of 30 minutes per day, you can lower your blood pressure.

3. Processed Foods Hurt More Than Help

Processed foods are easy to spot. They are generally foods you find in either a package or a restaurant. They contain crazy amounts of sodium and fatty acids. Excessive amounts of these nutrients are linked to hypertension, which is pressure on the artery walls.

The best thing to do here is to avoid processed foods as much as possible. So no to that Big Mac and yes to a good old fashioned PB&J.

4. Do NOT Overconsume Sodium

Elevated blood pressure from overconsumption of sodium begins at the kidneys. The kidneys filter unwanted fluid from your blood cells. It does this with a balanced combination of sodium and potassium.

When the balance of the two nutrients is broken, the kidneys fail to filter out the unwanted fluid. The excess of unwanted fluid causes an elevation in your blood pressure.

Because the balance between sodium and potassium is essential, it is important to pay attention to the amount of sodium you consume daily. It is recommended that the average person consumes no more than 2,300 milligrams of sodium per day.

5. Reduce Caffeine Consumption

Caffeine consumption is linked to increased hypertension. Whether you have optimal blood pressure or are hypertensive, caffeine causes a spike in blood pressure that is potentially unhealthy.

A recent study concerning coffee, a commonly consumed caffeinated beverage, found that the link between coffee and hypertension may be unfounded. However, it is best to limit excessive coffee drinking habits.

However, as a general rule, a reduction in your caffeine consumption will lead to better blood pressure results.

6. Limited Alcohol Consumption

There is a clear link between increased blood pressure and alcohol consumption, though the exact reason why is elusive. Many hypothesize the main reasons to be the imbalance to the central nervous system and general inflammation that alcohol causes.

So, getting flat out drunk on a regular basis does not seem to be a good idea. Consume those bruskies sparingly and you will begin to see improvement.

7. Potassium and Magnesium Are Your Friends

Potassium helps your blood pressure in two ways. First, it expels excessive amounts of sodium from your body. Second, it eases tension on the walls of your blood vessels.

Magnesium is the master regulator of all your body systems. It regulates blood sugar levels, muscle function, and nerve connectivity.

Increase your intake of potassium and magnesium.

8. Swap Out Milk Chocolate for Dark Chocolate

If you are a chocolate lover with hypertension, then there is a reason to rejoice. It appears that dark chocolate has a positive effect on blood pressure.

A recent Harvard study found that 50 to 70 percent of 1,106 participants experienced positive effects to their blood pressure when consuming dark chocolate. The results were particularly staggering for those with hypertension, as their blood pressure rates became normal.

So, swap out your milk chocolate, which is high in processed sugars and sodium, for the healthier choice of dark chocolate.

9. Stop Smoking

This may be the least surprising way to reduce hypertension. It may be time to part with that pack of Marlboros you have grown to love so much.

When it comes to cigarettes, the nicotine is the major culprit. Nicotine causes your artery walls to become hard and narrow. As if that were not enough, nicotine also makes your blood thicken and more likely to clot in your arteries.

Go ahead and save yourself both time and a potential heart attack. Start getting rid of your smoking habit.

10. Limit Your Stress

When it comes to blood pressure, not all factors are purely biological. The emotional function of our minds also causes changes in our health as it leads to the production of different hormones.

Stress produces something called vasoconstricting hormones. That is a fancy term for saying stress produces hormones that put a strain on our heart and its arteries.

If you experience regular bouts of stress in your life from a job or relationship, it may not be a bad idea to seek help in managing that stress. A reduction in the level of your stress will improve your blood pressure, as the vasoconstricting hormones are not produced regularly.

11. Regularly Check Your Blood Pressure

High blood pressure is not a one and done condition. It isn’t like a cold, where you have it one moment and then it is gone.

High blood pressure is a chronic symptom in that it is a continuous problem. Therefore, it is important to check your blood pressure regularly to detect how often you are above normal. If you find that you are above normal ranges more often than not, it is time to consult with a doctor to improve your blood pressure.

12. Meditation

This suggestion may have been laughed at ten years ago. However, recent studies have discovered the benefits of meditation on blood pressure.

There are several methods of meditation. One such method is to achieve mindfulness. The reason behind this is because it helps its adherents reduce stress at the moment and learn automatic stress coping mechanisms for future situations.

Channel your inner Buddha and practice meditation for fifteen minutes per day to improve your blood pressure.

13. Try Natural Supplements

These natural supplements may be beneficial for improving blood pressure. Be sure to consult with your physician before trying any of these, as each person responds differently to supplements:

– Folic Acid

– Vitamin D

– Fiber

– Acetyl-L-carnitine

– Coenzyme Q10

– Garlic

– Melatonin

– Fish Oil Omega-3s

– Anthocyanins

14. Get Adequate Amounts of Sleep Each Night

In recent years, there has been a strong correlation detected between sleep and hypertension. Your sleeping patterns have a significant effect on your blood pressure during the day, as well as during the time you sleep.

Sleep is directly related to your ability to cope with stress. If you are sleep deprived, situations that are otherwise normal become stressful.

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Be sure to establish a good bedtime routine to obtain adequate amounts of sleep, particularly REM sleep. Experts recommend eliminating the presence of blue light (light emitted from computers, televisions, or phones) to increase sleep quality.

15. Develop a Support System

Just like any major undertaking in your life, it is important to gather a good support group around you to be successful.

Let your close family and friends know about your blood pressure issues. Let them know what they can do to help, whether it is to stop smoking, improve your diet, or just be a positive influence to you.

Final Thoughts

Blood pressure is directly affected by your lifestyle. Improvements in your lifestyle will lead to improvements in your health.

Take action. If you are overweight, lose weight. If you don’t exercise regularly, then exercise regularly. If you have a poor diet, then improve your diet.

Make the necessary improvements, whatever they might be, and you will see a positive change in your blood pressure.

Doctors Explain How A Colonoscopy Can Help Prevent Colon Cancer

Colon cancer is a devastating disease.

It is one of the most common types of cancer diagnosed in the US, with around 100,000 new cases diagnosed every year. It is also one of the most common causes of death from cancer in the US. However, due to colonoscopy and improvements in treatment, the incidence and mortality rate of colon cancer has been steadily decreasing over the past few decades. Currently, cases identified in the early stages have a 90% survival rate. Unfortunately, cases identified in the late stages have only a 14% chance of surviving.

Treatment primarily involves surgery to remove the tumor followed by chemotherapy and/or radiation. If the cancer is large, a surgeon might remove a significant portion of the colon or rectum. Therefore, some patients require a permanent colostomy bag after treatment. There are also a number of targeted therapy drugs available that are active against colorectal cancer and may be used to help treat advanced forms of the disease.

This cancer arises from the epithelial cells that line the interior of the colon or rectum. You’ll also hear the condition called colorectal cancer. Medically, the term “colon” refers to the large intestine. It connects the small intestine to the rectum, which then empties through the anus. Its primary role is to extract the remaining nutrients and water from the digested food and to form and store stool until it passes.

Additionally, it serves as the primary home of your all-important gut bacteria, which ferment fiber, generate vitamins and other nutrients, and can affect the health of your entire body and even your emotions.

The role of colonoscopy

colonoscopyColonoscopy is a minimally invasive method that allows doctors to actually look at the interior of the rectum and colon. The physician inserts a narrow tube with a camera on the end through the anus and advances it up the colon. Then, he or she views the appearance of the lining of the colon and rectum on a monitor.

Since polyps and cancers look different than normal cells, the doctor can identify them. The scope has a channel that allows the introduction and use of tiny surgical instruments. So, if the doctor can see a polyp, they remove it and collect the tissue. Furthermore, if the doctor finds a growth that appears to be overt cancer, they send the specimen off to a pathologist. That’s a specialty doctor who can determine if it is cancer or just a benign growth.

Screening recommendations

The United States Preventive Services Task Force recommends all adults begin a program of screening for colorectal cancer at age 50. The evidence strongly suggests that people who participate in colon cancer screening programs have a lower incidence of colorectal cancer diagnoses and are far more likely to survive if they are diagnosed with colorectal cancer.

The actual recommendation is rather complicated. That is because there are numerous methods of screening for colorectal cancer, such as fecal occult blood screening, barium enemas, and sigmoidoscopy. Unfortunately, the evidence is not clear as to which method, if any, is superior.

However, one of the recommendations is getting a colonoscopy at age 50 and then every ten years thereafter. Or, have one more frequently if they find a polyp or you have risk factors for cancer. An advantage of using colonoscopy as the primary screening method is if you do have cancer, it can be immediately diagnosed during the screening procedure. And an even more important advantage is if you have a polyp, it can be removed during the screening process and thus prevent cancer from developing in the first place.

How can colonoscopy prevent cancer?

Carcinogenic substances found in food expose the cells lining the interior of the color to carcinogenic substances regularly. Therefore, it is relatively common for them to develop mutations in their DNA. And, since these cells are also constantly dividing in order to form new cells to replace the ones regularly shed into the colon, these mutated cells can easily form small clumps of abnormal cells called polyps. Most polyps never progress to overt cancers, but a certain percentage do.

Unlike some cancers, colon cancer develops very slowly through a well-established and well-studied process of gradual accumulation of mutations and increasingly abnormal cell characteristics. Pretty much every single adenocarcinoma (the most common type of cancer arising from the colon and rectum) slowly develops from a polyp. A polyp is not cancerous; it is an abnormal growth of cells. Most are benign and never progress to cancer, but some do. Colonoscopy can detect polyps during their early stages and simply remove them all. Thus no cancer will ever form from those polyps.

Some people have a genetic predisposition to forming. In addition,  these people have a higher risk of developing colorectal cancer. The most usual presentation of this situation is developing two or three new polyps every few years from middle-age onwards. An extreme form of this condition is the inherited FAP syndrome where affected individuals begin growing polyps, often hundreds of them, during their teenage years. These people hold an elevated risk of developing colorectal cancer at a fairly young age. And, in many cases, they opt for surgery to remove their colon or enter into very strict and frequent cancer screening programs.

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What is a colonoscopy procedure like?

The actual procedure itself is reported to be “trivially easy” and “uneventful” by most patients. Currently, patients are usually sedated with propofol, which causes them to rapidly fall asleep, remain asleep throughout the procedure, and rapidly wake up, with few to no side effects. The entire procedure takes less than an hour. In fact, some patient procedures take less than 30 minutes if the physician finds no polyps or abnormal tissues.

However, prior to undergoing a colonoscopy, the bowel must be prepped. Namely, completely empty. That allows the doctor to insert the scope and view the color walls clearly. Of course, patients dread this part of the procedure.

The patient follows a special “low residue” diet for a few days. Then they must consume a laxative, to induce the emptying of the colon and rectum. Sometimes the use of an enema is also required. The details of the most common bowel prep procedure are:

  • Eat a low fiber diet for three or four days before the procedure
  • Consume only liquids the day before the procedure
  • Consume the laxative the evening before the procedure
  • Stay in the bathroom until the bowel movements stop
  • Consume only liquids the day of the procedure

Are there any risks or side effects?

This procedure is routine and is considered to be very safe. There is a very low risk of suffering a bowel perforation, which will require surgical repair if it happens. It’s not uncommon to see a little blood in the stool immediately after the procedure, especially if a polyp has been removed.

What about a virtual CT procedure?

So, it is true that doctors may order a CT machine to look for polyps and possible cancers inside the colon and rectum. However, this procedure has disadvantages. Its primary disadvantage is that physicians cannot sample or remove the polyps. In fact, all they can do is to identify them.

In addition, patients still need to undergo the unpleasant “bowel prep”  to provide good views of the lining of the colon. If anything is found during a CT screening procedure, the patient will need to undergo a regular colonoscopy anyway. Thus, simply skipping the CT scan makes the most sense, especially since CT scans also expose the patient to x-rays.

Are there other ways to prevent colorectal cancer?

Diet plays a huge role in altering the risk of colorectal cancer, and unlike genetic predispositions, it can easily be changed to reduce the risk of colorectal cancer. Diets rich in green leafy vegetables, dark-colored vegetables, fruits, and fiber, in general, tend to be protective against cancer of the bowels. Regular consumption of charred, smoked, and preserved meats can increase the risk of cancer of the bowels.

Other modifiable factors that increase the risk of colorectal cancer include the following:

  • A lack of exercise
  • Being overweight
  • Drinking alcohol excessively
  • Smoking or use of tobacco.

Taking low-dose aspirin regularly can also lower the risk of colorectal cancer, perhaps by reducing inflammation in the tissues.

Women who take hormone replacement therapy after menopause also have a lower risk of colorectal cancer. However, they should discuss the pros and cons of hormone replacement therapy with the doctor before beginning treatment.

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Final thoughts on preventing colon cancer

Colon and rectal cancer are very common in the US, and if patients are diagnosed only when these cancers become symptomatic, namely in an advanced, late-stage, they have very low survival rates, only around 14%. However, if physicians detect these cancers at an early stage through screening, the survival rate increases to 90%.

Currently, the doctors recommend all individuals enter a screening program for colorectal cancer beginning at age 50. The options for screening are diverse and complicated. Therefore, the best option for each individual varies to genetic and lifestyle factors as well as patient preference. And so, you should openly discuss this issue with your doctor before embarking on a screening program.

Thus, the bottom line is that a colonoscopy may detect colorectal cancer in its earlier stages. This test allows physicians to detect and remove polyps before they develop into cancer. And that can save lives.

15 Effective Natural Remedies for Eczema

Atopic dermatitis, more commonly called eczema, is a chronic condition that causes the skin to become itchy and red. It is most commonly starts in childhood but can begin at any age. In addition, asthma or hay fever may co-exist.

More than 30 million people suffer from eczema in the United States. Although the cause of dermatitis is unknown, researchers know that genetic and environmental triggers usually prompt its development.

Atopic dermatitis typically affects the hands, face, scalp, backs of the knees, and the inside of the elbows. However, it can affect any part of the body.

It is generally itchy. But, for some, the itch is mild. While for others, the itch is severe. In fact, it often causes the skin to become extremely inflamed. For some of these patients, the itch is so severe that they scratch until the skin bleeds.

Symptoms of Eczema

  • Severe itching
  • Oozing or crusting
  • Patchy areas of swelling
  • Red, inflamed skin
  • Patches of rough, scaly or leathery skin
  • Dark, patchy colored skin
  • Dry, sensitive skin

Complications include:

  • Skin infections
  • Sleep problems
  • Chronic itchy, scaly skin
  • Irritant hand dermatitis
  • Asthma and hay fever
  • Allergic contact dermatitis

Flare-up Prevention for Eczema Patients

Preventative measures help eliminate flareups and mitigate the negative drying effects of bathing. Recommendations include:

Regularly moisturizing the skin twice a day

  • Regularly moisturizing the skin twice a day – Lotions, ointments, and creams help the skin retain moisture by sealing it in.

Identifying and avoiding triggers

  • Identifying and avoiding triggers – Triggers include dust, pollen, stress, soaps, obesity, sweat, and detergents.

Drying the skin carefully

  • Dry the skin carefully. Use a soft towel to pat-dry the skin and ensure to moisturize the skin while it is damp.

Unfortunately, there is no current cure for atopic dermatitis. However, natural remedies and efficient self-care can help relieve symptoms and prevent flareups.

 

Natural Remedies for Eczema

Note: Symptoms of dermatitis may mimic those of other conditions. It is important to get an eczema diagnosis confirmed by a health care provider before starting any form of treatment.

Depending on the severity of the condition, a physician may prescribe medications to help alleviate symptoms. There are also many natural remedies available that can help provide symptom relief.

Here are 15 effective natural remedies for treating eczema.

  1. Aloe Vera Gel

Aloe Vera gel is a rich source of medicinal properties for human health. Research on the benefits of Aloe Vera are primarily focused on the biological properties of the Aloe species, most notably being its antibacterial and antimicrobial capabilities.

Along with the antibacterial and antimicrobial properties of Aloe Vera gel, researchers have reported that the plant also boosts the immune system and promotes wound healing. These properties help prevent infections and soothe inflamed skin.

 

  1. Colloidal Oatmeal

Avena sativa, or colloidal oatmeal, is a natural supplement with many skin-healing capabilities. In fact, its anti-inflammatory and antioxidant functions improve:

  • Skin roughness
  • Scaly skin
  • Dry skin
  • Itchiness

Colloidal oatmeal is made from boiled ground oats. Then, the process extracts the oats’ healing nutrients. It is generally safe for people of all ages. However, individuals allergic to oats should avoid products containing colloidal oatmeal.

 

  1. Coconut Oil

Coconut oil is known for its many health benefits, as it helps reduce inflammation. Specifically, coconut oil contains lauric acid, which is used to create monolaurin. Monolaurin is an antimicrobial agent capable of fighting pathogens, including fungi, viruses, bacteria, and yeast.

In particular, coconut oil:

  • Hydrates the skin
  • Minimizes the presence of pathogens
  • Diminishes pain and inflammation
  • Decreases oxidative stress

 

  1. Tea Tree Oil

Tea tree oil is extracted from the Melaleuca alternifolia tree. This essential oil is often used to alleviate symptoms related to skin problems, including dermatitis.

Tea tree oil contains several compounds that have been shown to eliminate certain types of viruses, bacteria, and fungi. These compounds make tea tree oil an effective natural remedy for preventing infections, promoting wound-healing, and treating skin disorders.

  1. Sunflower Oil

Sunflower oil is an extract taken from sunflower seeds. It protects the outer layer of skin by retaining moisture and eliminating bacteria. The hydrating properties of sunflower oil may help reduce inflammation and itching.

 

  1. Evening Primrose Oil

Evening primrose oil – an extract from the evening primrose plant – contains gamma-linolenic acid and omega-6 fatty acids. When applied topically, evening primrose oil – calms irritated skin. When ingested orally, it may help prevent systemic inflammation.

 

  1. Calendula Oil

Calendula oil is an extract from the marigold flowers of the Calendula officinalis plant. Because it has antibacterial, antifungal, and anti-inflammatory capabilities, it can help to:

  • Heal wounds
  • Soothe inflamed skin
  • Reduce rashes.

 

  1. Witch Hazel

Humankind has used witch hazel topically as a remedy for skin irritation and inflammation for centuries. It is often used to calm inflamed skin, minimize itching, and dry any leaking.

Witch hazel contains antioxidants that can minimize inflammation. That is because of pro-anthocyanins, a component of witch hazel that helps the skin by improving water retention, minimizing redness, and controlling the irritative process.

Research also indicates that witch hazel may help control the growth of bacteria. This is especially important, as dermatitis may cause bacterial overgrowth on the skin.

 

  1. Apple Cider Vinegar

Apple cider vinegar is one of the most popular natural health remedies.

Items with a pH below 7.0 are acidic, and those above 7.0 are alkaline. The natural pH of healthy skin is under 5.0. However, the pH levels of the skin for individuals suffering from atopic dermatitis are generally higher.

High acidity levels promote the breakdown of the skin’s protective microbiota. And, apple cider vinegar is a mild acid. Therefore, it may help return the skin to its natural pH level.

 

  1. Honey

Honey’s nutritional components are traditionally known for their medical capabilities. Honey has not only natural anti-inflammatory properties but also antibacterial properties. Honey also boosts the immune system and helps treat wounds and burns.

In a 2003 study, a honey ointment mixture containing honey, beeswax, and olive oil showed a substantial reduction in dermatitis-related itchiness in 80 percent of users.

 

  1. Probiotics

Probiotics help balance “good” and “bad” bacteria in the digestive system. These good bacteria are thought to strengthen the immune system by increasing the number of “good” bacteria in the gut.

A stronger immune system helps combat the inflammation that causes dermatitis.

 

  1. Diet

Eczema is triggered by several factors, including allergens, stress, and food.

Some foods can induce or reduce inflammation, so simple dietary changes can help prevent flares.

Foods that combat inflammation include:

  • Fruits and vegetables
  • Beans and lentils
  • Turmeric and cinnamon
  • Fish
  • Leafy greens

Foods that may induce inflammation include wheat, eggs, dairy, and soy. Thus, avoiding these foods may help identify the causes of flares.

 

  1. Acupuncture and Acupressure

Acupuncture is a form of Traditional Chinese medicine. In this practice, fine needles are inserted into specific points of the body to change energy flow.

Acupressure is a different form of Traditional Chinese medicine. In it, therapists use their hands to apply pressure on parts of the body.

Both practices may help relieve itchiness.

 

  1. Cool Baths

Regular baths are important for treating atopic dermatitis.

Dry skin occurs when the skin can’t properly retain water. However, washing too much or using harsh soaps often dries out the skin, which further aggravates the condition.

The “Soak and Seal” is a method for treating dermatitis. Doctors recommend taking a cool bath – using a gentle cleanser – for five to 10 minutes. Furthermore, avoid using hot water, as it dries out the skin.

Then pat-dry and use caution to keep the skin damp. Finally, generously apply a moisturizer within three minutes to prevent the air from drying the skin out. This method helps the skin seal in moisture.

Therefore, the National Eczema Association recommends that adults with eczema should:

  • Take shorter baths or showers
  • Use warm, rather than hot, water
  • Bathe or shower once a day
  • Use gentle cleansers
  • Moisturize after washing up

 

  1. Humidifiers

So…Dry air causes dry skin.

Dry air is especially problematic in cold-weather months, during which the heat from heaters removes moisture away from the skin.

Thus, using a humidifier helps the skin retain moisture, keeping skin hydrated and preventing inflammation and irritation.

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Final Thoughts on Coping with Eczema

Although there is no cure for eczema, you can rely on natural remedies to help ease symptoms.

Natural remedies include gels, oils, baths, and dietary changes that help reduce inflammation, combat infection, and moisturize the skin.

Remember, you should get a diagnosis from your family doctor or a dermatologist before beginning treatment. Furthermore, a health care practitioner may prescribe medications to help treat inflammation in severe eczema.

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