Virgo is one of the strongest members of the zodiac family. If you are lucky enough to be one, you likely know this about yourself. Those with a strong Virgo are also aware of the strong personality traits that shape these wonderful people, both good and bad. Just what is it about Virgos that makes them so unique?

Let’s take a look at both sides of these complex personalities. It will help us to appreciate and understand them a bit more. And it will offer insight on how to relate to them for maximum relationship benefits. Let’s peel back the layers and discover what makes those Virgos tick.

Best & Worst Personality Traits of a Virgo

Virgos are very driven people. They are mature and goal-oriented, making them rock stars in the office and at home. When a Virgo is loyal to a loved one, they often do what they can to help others around them become more organized and successful. They want the best for everyone around them. Additionally, they’ll work tirelessly to help others achieve their goals. Born on the cusp of fall, you are most decidedly Virgo if your birthday falls between August 23rd and September 23rd. Mercury is your ruling planet, and you have the element of earth to use to your advantage.

You have some unique personality traits that comprise your personality. Moreover, the key to being your personal best is to embrace both the positive and negative aspects of your sign, rise above all, and choose personal responsibility when expressing your true essence. So let’s dive in and examine the personality traits of a Virgo. Perhaps you will see what you’re all about in hopes of reaching a deeper appreciation and understanding of all that is you.

Let’s get the bad news out of the way

We’ll lay out all of the negative aspects of Virgos first, so we can be aware of what we have to overcome when promoting our positive selves. Here are some less than desired traits that we possess:

1. We remember EVERYTHING

While this may work to your advantage in some situations, it can cause some serious relationship problems and severe anxiety. Indeed, you remember every little setback and the emotional rift that you have experienced in life. This chronic worry and fear about things that you can no longer control have the potential to negatively impact your health. So take care to process through negative experiences and relationships in your life. Learn to let them go once and for all.

2. We can, at times, be too critical

Don’t worry, we turn that judgment in toward ourselves, too. So when we aren’t judging you harshly for your actions, motives, and personality, we are mentally beating ourselves up for what we have done, haven’t done, and can’t do. Remembering to extend a little grace and compassion to ourselves and others keeps things flowing more smoothly in our lives.

3. We are stubborn

Once we get an idea in our head of the way we want things to go, no one can stop us. Even if the path is to sure self-destruction, no one can tell us otherwise until we have experienced the consequences of our own bullheaded thinking. We will defy you to the very end until we realize that a mistake has been made. And even then, we might not apologize for steamrolling over you and your advice to our own demise. This is not necessarily a trait we are proud of, but it’s there.

4. We are a tad uptight

All of our worrying and judgment are taking a toll on us—it is extremely hard for us to relax and let things go. We need to surround ourselves with friends that are patient and understanding of this trait so that we can work through our constant stress.

5. We are notorious people-pleasers

This alone is cause for anxiety; we want to make everyone around us happy, all the time! This, of course, causes us to put our feelings and needs on the back burner, and over time it can lead to resentment and anger that we haven’t taken care of ourselves.

6. We get frustrated with ourselves quite frequently

All of this judgment and self-deprecating behavior leads to bouts of anger and frustration, mostly directed toward ourselves. Perfection is something we know is not possible, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t irrationally striving for it in the back of our minds. As soon as we lose the notion that we have to be perfect all the time, we can embrace a little bit more happiness in life.

7. We overthink everything

We won’t tell you this, but we are thinking ALL THE TIME. Additionally, we’re always second-guessing our actions, our thoughts, our words, our work, our relationships, our path in life. It’s exhausting! The only time we aren’t going over our life history in our minds is when we are sleeping, and even then we dream about it.

8. We aren’t good at asking for help

We will struggle, toil, and suffer to no end while others sit by, not understanding why we don’t just ask for a little help. When it is offered, we tend to minimize what we are going through and insist that we can do it ourselves, even if we know we can’t. Doesn’t exactly make sense, does it? We really need to work on that.

9. We get annoyed quite easily

We just can’t help it. Plus, we get so wound up all the time that even the littlest things set us off. We might express it, we might internalize it, but it’s there. Maybe some deep breathing and meditation techniques might help.

10. We are picky….very picky

We know how we like it…..the temperature of the car we ride in, the interior decor of our home, and how we like our food. Don’t be surprised if we speak up and tell you what is wrong with our current conditions, and what must be done to fix them. You guessed it, we are the ones who send food back in restaurants several times before it’s “just right”. Please don’t spit in our food.

Now that we have the “negative” stuff out of the way, let’s talk about some of the positive personality traits of a Virgo so that all of our Virgo friends don’t rush to the nearest therapist for some much-needed repair. Virgos do have some fine and wonderful aspects, and we would like to celebrate them as we become more knowledgable about their place in our lives.

Positive personality traits of a Virgo

1. We use all of this thinking for critical thinking purposes

If you want a problem solver, hire a Virgo. We think through all aspects of a problem and its potential consequences before attempting to reach a solution. Where others would come up short in seeing all aspects of a situation, we see everything in totality, and from there, we are able to craft solutions that work—at home, at school, and at work.

2. We are reliable

We are always ready, willing and available to help, sometimes to our own detriment. We’ll be the first person you call for help and the last one to leave a situation when it is nearing resolution. Look to us for loyalty in friendship, business, and in love.

3. We are responsible

We love being in charge, we love following instructions down to the last letter, and the last thing we want to do is let anyone down. Putting us in charge of projects, plans, and goals will not leave you disappointed; we deliver every single time.

4. We are patient

You wouldn’t think that easily annoyed and patient would be present in the same personality, but we are extremely long-suffering and compassionate when it comes to helping others with their issues. We strive to find the good in people, and will often give the benefit of doubt long after others have moved on and given up. Now if we could just be that patient with ourselves!

5. We are very sweet

You’ll not find someone more willing to dote, give love and affection, and praise all the good that they see in others. Coming from a place of true kindness and humility, our ultimate goal is to help everyone, all the time.

6. We are faithful

If you are lucky enough to have a romantic relationship with us, you will find that we are devoted and faithful to the very end. We only have eyes for you, and we will find ways to reignite the passion that once existed as we continue to travel the path of life together.

7. We remember EVERYTHING

Sometimes, this personality trait does work in our favor; along with remembering the unsavory moments in our lives, we are able to recall information at will that would have been lost forever with others. We are also able to conjure up memories and moments that have the potential to make us smile.

8. We are creative artists

We are among the most creative members of the zodiac; a Virgo expresses himself through art, music, dance, whatever creative medium strikes his fancy, and he excels at all of them. If you ever have questions about the emotions that we are feeling, just look at our artistic expression for clues.

9. We work hard

Good things come to those who work hard…..and persist. We know the value of good hard work, and we will work tirelessly to achieve our goals until they are met…every single one of them. Others can count on us to get things done; this makes us a valuable asset at work, home, and in relationships.

10. We are modest

Although we are hard-working, critical-thinking overachievers, we are remarkably humble and honest. We receive praise graciously, and we are able to keep our egos in check even when accolades get a little out of control.

With all of these qualities that abound and make up our wonderful Virgos, you might be wondering which zodiac members might be a good match for us in a relationship. If you are contemplating starting something up with us, our most compatible matches are Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, and Capricorn. Virgos should steer clear of intimate relationships involving Gemini and Saggitarius, as this can cause conflict that would be devastating to our faith in long term relationships.

Regardless of how you felt about Virgos before viewing this information, we hope it gives valuable insight into the treasure that we hold within us; knowledge and understanding are key pieces in learning to appreciate any contact that you have with us in current or future relationships.